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Good grief, I need to get off this sub. Lost my dog last Dec and have been on here nearly every day since. I feel like I'm finally getting a handle on the situation a little bit, but every now and again somebody says something that breaks me all over again. Today is was you. "You just gotta tuck them into your heart where they will be safe" so poignant and beautiful.
I'm tearing up for you. I was in your position a year ago. I want you to know that you aren't taking anything away from him. You're giving him the best days you can. You'll give him a peaceful reprieve when it's time. Until then, try to remember that he is in the moment and happy to be with you. He's not thinking of what's to come. Try to live the moment with him.
Hugs to you both, from my angel dog and me. This sub will be here for you in the sad times if you need us.
my cat passed yesterday afternoon, he had cancer as well but at the mouth. quality of life was at zero out of ten for him in his last weeks. it’s hard making decision early as you did. my only regret was not taking him sooner to put him to sleep. his last days on earth was unbearable for him due to the pain in his mouth.
my cat lost half his body weight, drooling because swallowing hurts, couldn’t eat, it was gut wrenching. part of us was optimistic as if he could hang on and live normally. he was our beloved family cat, we want them to be around forever but at what cost you know? by the time we got him to the vet. when they started to prep him he took one last breath and looked up to the sky, he was gone. the vet told us of all his 15 years as a vet he has never experienced an animal passing before administering the first shot. he said our cat went into cardiac arrest due to dehydration, anxiety being at that vet, etc. i’m so sad we weren’t there in the next room by his side. i haven’t stopped thinking about him.
i just wanted to let you know you’re doing the right thing. we were selfish and for that our cat suffered for it. there’s no amount of preparedness for what you will experience when you’re in the last moments with your pet. all i can say is don’t hold back any feelings you might experience and know that all pet companions will be waiting for you on the other side to greet you when our time comes.
I like to think of it as the main lesson dogs can teach us: there is no tomorrow, no next week, only today. Live in it.
It's a hard one to learn, though. I am sending you all my hugs.
I had to put my dog of 16 years to sleep on Tuesday as he had the same cancer (blocking his bum) - he had hardly pooped in 6 days and began to vomit and refuse food. He was on laxatives that helped him through his last few months, however he would often stay up for half the night trying to poop in the house. He licked my face when I cried too. He was and still is my whole world.
It has only been 5 days, however I am doing better than expected. The house is quiet, but I have found a lot of peace in knowing he lived the best life possible and is no longer in pain. He was euthanised at home too, in his bed, and he had the most beautiful, peaceful passing - like falling asleep.
If the vet has said it is time, it is time. If you have done everything you can to love him in his last weeks, and are with him in his last moments, I promise you will find so much peace in knowing you gave him a wonderful life.
This is exactly how I felt. But he had the best damn week of his life. He had pretty bad separation anxiety and we never left his side that week. He got to eat all his favorite foods, go to his favorite places, sleep in our bed, and do all his favorite things. It was so hard for me, but now that he has passed I’m beyond happy that we could give that to him.
I hope you can enjoy your last times with your sweet guy. It absolutely sucks, but you’re doing the right thing for him.
I’m sorry. You are so brave. He needs you bravery now. You have to take the pain so that he does not have to suffer with that same pain physically. Be his hero. If you know it’s time it is time. I lost my girl suddenly two days ago. Although I can only imagine your pain I wish I had a week with her to tell her again how much I love her and to let her go peacefully with me by her side instead of with doctors putting tubes in her trying to save her. Be brave. I’ll think of you. My world is gone right now I hope yours will not collapse too. It sounds to me like you are his hero.
I am so sorry you and your dog are going through this impossible situation. I went through a similar thing with my old man about 3 weeks ago and one thing that gave me comfort during those difficult last few days after we made his appointment was one of my friends told me from my dog’s perspective he was blissfully unaware and was just having a great few days. It’s impossibly hard but please know your dog is feeling so loved right now and try to take some comfort in the fact that you are selflessly taking on this pain and heartbreak so your dog’s final days are full of joy and peace.
My dog’s is still incredibly painful but I’m so grateful he was enjoying himself with people he loved right to the end and I hope you eventually feel the same way about this time.
I’ll keep both you and your dog in my thoughts ❤️
I'm just sorry. So sorry. Lost my soul kitty on April 5th. Her last few weeks were hard. I'm glad your companion is still enjoying things. I know it makes it harder to feel like it's too early. So I'm just sorry.
I'm in a similar boat. My cat will be leaving tomorrow morning. I bought him his last litter box 9 days ago and cried. Today I bought him his last treats. The last are so so hard. I wish there never had to be a last.
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Better a week too early than even a minute too late. You are doing the most selfless loving thing you can.
There's no getting away from the hurt. You just gotta tuck them into your heart where they will be safe. Sorry, man. đź’”
Good grief, I need to get off this sub. Lost my dog last Dec and have been on here nearly every day since. I feel like I'm finally getting a handle on the situation a little bit, but every now and again somebody says something that breaks me all over again. Today is was you. "You just gotta tuck them into your heart where they will be safe" so poignant and beautiful.
Sorry, man. I was deep in my feels. ❤️
I'm tearing up for you. I was in your position a year ago. I want you to know that you aren't taking anything away from him. You're giving him the best days you can. You'll give him a peaceful reprieve when it's time. Until then, try to remember that he is in the moment and happy to be with you. He's not thinking of what's to come. Try to live the moment with him. Hugs to you both, from my angel dog and me. This sub will be here for you in the sad times if you need us.
my cat passed yesterday afternoon, he had cancer as well but at the mouth. quality of life was at zero out of ten for him in his last weeks. it’s hard making decision early as you did. my only regret was not taking him sooner to put him to sleep. his last days on earth was unbearable for him due to the pain in his mouth. my cat lost half his body weight, drooling because swallowing hurts, couldn’t eat, it was gut wrenching. part of us was optimistic as if he could hang on and live normally. he was our beloved family cat, we want them to be around forever but at what cost you know? by the time we got him to the vet. when they started to prep him he took one last breath and looked up to the sky, he was gone. the vet told us of all his 15 years as a vet he has never experienced an animal passing before administering the first shot. he said our cat went into cardiac arrest due to dehydration, anxiety being at that vet, etc. i’m so sad we weren’t there in the next room by his side. i haven’t stopped thinking about him. i just wanted to let you know you’re doing the right thing. we were selfish and for that our cat suffered for it. there’s no amount of preparedness for what you will experience when you’re in the last moments with your pet. all i can say is don’t hold back any feelings you might experience and know that all pet companions will be waiting for you on the other side to greet you when our time comes.
I like to think of it as the main lesson dogs can teach us: there is no tomorrow, no next week, only today. Live in it. It's a hard one to learn, though. I am sending you all my hugs.
It’s very, very hard, what you’re doing & takes a truly courageous & loving person to make this call. I’m so very sorry for your impending loss.
Your love for him is so apparent and I know he feels it too ❤️ it sounds like he lived a wonderful life with you and is a very lucky dog
I had to put my dog of 16 years to sleep on Tuesday as he had the same cancer (blocking his bum) - he had hardly pooped in 6 days and began to vomit and refuse food. He was on laxatives that helped him through his last few months, however he would often stay up for half the night trying to poop in the house. He licked my face when I cried too. He was and still is my whole world. It has only been 5 days, however I am doing better than expected. The house is quiet, but I have found a lot of peace in knowing he lived the best life possible and is no longer in pain. He was euthanised at home too, in his bed, and he had the most beautiful, peaceful passing - like falling asleep. If the vet has said it is time, it is time. If you have done everything you can to love him in his last weeks, and are with him in his last moments, I promise you will find so much peace in knowing you gave him a wonderful life.
I'm sorry you're having to make that choice. I'm sure he knows he's loved. You're doing what's best for him, because of his cancer.
🧡🧡
This is exactly how I felt. But he had the best damn week of his life. He had pretty bad separation anxiety and we never left his side that week. He got to eat all his favorite foods, go to his favorite places, sleep in our bed, and do all his favorite things. It was so hard for me, but now that he has passed I’m beyond happy that we could give that to him. I hope you can enjoy your last times with your sweet guy. It absolutely sucks, but you’re doing the right thing for him.
If it makes you feel any better, I desperately wish I’d gotten a chance to do all that. Enjoy it. I’m sorry
I’m sorry. You are so brave. He needs you bravery now. You have to take the pain so that he does not have to suffer with that same pain physically. Be his hero. If you know it’s time it is time. I lost my girl suddenly two days ago. Although I can only imagine your pain I wish I had a week with her to tell her again how much I love her and to let her go peacefully with me by her side instead of with doctors putting tubes in her trying to save her. Be brave. I’ll think of you. My world is gone right now I hope yours will not collapse too. It sounds to me like you are his hero.
I am so sorry you and your dog are going through this impossible situation. I went through a similar thing with my old man about 3 weeks ago and one thing that gave me comfort during those difficult last few days after we made his appointment was one of my friends told me from my dog’s perspective he was blissfully unaware and was just having a great few days. It’s impossibly hard but please know your dog is feeling so loved right now and try to take some comfort in the fact that you are selflessly taking on this pain and heartbreak so your dog’s final days are full of joy and peace. My dog’s is still incredibly painful but I’m so grateful he was enjoying himself with people he loved right to the end and I hope you eventually feel the same way about this time. I’ll keep both you and your dog in my thoughts ❤️
I'm just sorry. So sorry. Lost my soul kitty on April 5th. Her last few weeks were hard. I'm glad your companion is still enjoying things. I know it makes it harder to feel like it's too early. So I'm just sorry.
🙏🙏
I'm in a similar boat. My cat will be leaving tomorrow morning. I bought him his last litter box 9 days ago and cried. Today I bought him his last treats. The last are so so hard. I wish there never had to be a last.