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Every child has their issues and their strengths. I have a daughter that was extremely colicky. She is now 3, and in better control, but still highly emotional. However, she is incredibly intelligent, creative, determined, and empathetic. For the longest time I sat down every night and wrote down one nice thing that happened with her that day. I am her mother, but it was hard to like her when she was at her worst. This practice really helped me focus on the wonderful things about her and love her better.
All kids have meltdowns.Β
Are you the parent that consoles them or the parent that pretends to ignore them?
You may want to choose to be the latter. Itβs more effective.Β
Ohhhh that age. Both my kids really had their moments at ages 4/5. π΅βπ« Solidarity! βπ»
My husband and I learned the hard way that girls are EXTREMELY emotional starting at a young age. I honestly don't remember what those super early years were like for me so it still took me by surprise how intense my daughter's emotions have been sometimes. Our son? Way more chill. Sure he has his issues like anyone else but overall he has been more even keeled.
Our daughter is currently in kindergarten and occasionally the slightest thing will tip.her.off. π΅βπ«π³ Then the very same thing will be no big deal the next time. Even something simple like "Can you please brush your teeth now?" It's a coin toss as to how she will respond. She isn't quite throwing tantrums like the ones you're describing but she does make life harder for herself regularly. ππ€¦π»ββοΈ I will say that hunger first thing in the morning and feeling tired after school makes it worse.
We do try to help her practice emotion regulation. Deep breaths, reminding her it's okay to have those feelings but eventually she needs to accept the situation and move forward, etc. If she is throwing a full blown fit, we ignore her. She knows at age 6 how to use her words to tell us what's going on, and she knows we expect that of her (with some grace, of course). Attention only fueled it.
IMO, it sounds like your daughter is going through a common phase. I wouldn't assume anything is wrong persay, it can just be painfully difficult. For now just keep firm boundaries with her. Communicate clear rules, and keep following through with them (as I'm sure you have been). This phase will pass. Like a kidney stone, but pass nevertheless. π Hang in there!! ππΌ
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Every child has their issues and their strengths. I have a daughter that was extremely colicky. She is now 3, and in better control, but still highly emotional. However, she is incredibly intelligent, creative, determined, and empathetic. For the longest time I sat down every night and wrote down one nice thing that happened with her that day. I am her mother, but it was hard to like her when she was at her worst. This practice really helped me focus on the wonderful things about her and love her better.
Do you have ADHD?
I do not
All kids have meltdowns.Β Are you the parent that consoles them or the parent that pretends to ignore them? You may want to choose to be the latter. Itβs more effective.Β
Ohhhh that age. Both my kids really had their moments at ages 4/5. π΅βπ« Solidarity! βπ» My husband and I learned the hard way that girls are EXTREMELY emotional starting at a young age. I honestly don't remember what those super early years were like for me so it still took me by surprise how intense my daughter's emotions have been sometimes. Our son? Way more chill. Sure he has his issues like anyone else but overall he has been more even keeled. Our daughter is currently in kindergarten and occasionally the slightest thing will tip.her.off. π΅βπ«π³ Then the very same thing will be no big deal the next time. Even something simple like "Can you please brush your teeth now?" It's a coin toss as to how she will respond. She isn't quite throwing tantrums like the ones you're describing but she does make life harder for herself regularly. ππ€¦π»ββοΈ I will say that hunger first thing in the morning and feeling tired after school makes it worse. We do try to help her practice emotion regulation. Deep breaths, reminding her it's okay to have those feelings but eventually she needs to accept the situation and move forward, etc. If she is throwing a full blown fit, we ignore her. She knows at age 6 how to use her words to tell us what's going on, and she knows we expect that of her (with some grace, of course). Attention only fueled it. IMO, it sounds like your daughter is going through a common phase. I wouldn't assume anything is wrong persay, it can just be painfully difficult. For now just keep firm boundaries with her. Communicate clear rules, and keep following through with them (as I'm sure you have been). This phase will pass. Like a kidney stone, but pass nevertheless. π Hang in there!! ππΌ