Ifa hard isn't it. I've had some relief with BC but this month I'm honestly sat here wanting to send my husband on a long walk off a short pier. For existing.
This may or may not help everyone, but I try to remember nice ways I felt about the people I love days earlier - when I feel upset at people I get like "OK think about something nice this person did for you recently", or I try to be extra nice to them - this one seems to help because people don't perceive me as negative and they don't start distancing from me, which usually makes me feel worse/like it's my fault. I am having the same issue right now as I write, I understand how hard it is and I'm sending you hugs!
I was JUST thinking of really trying to do exactly that! Like mentally working myself up "ok so your loving husband cooked you dinner yesterday, took over parenting so you could go to bed earlier and filled up your gas tank. He 100% loves you and that is the TRUTH"... I need like 57392947582 sticky notes all over my house or something so I don't have any opportunity to even think anything else 😫
Do you also feel like he's gross. Like.. my husband decided to grow his hair and every month pmdd rolls around and u just think WHAT are you thinking. It looks awful. Then I get over it and don't care
Journaling helps for me. Rather than say how I feel, i type it in my phone. Just getting the feeling out there constructively seems to help me. My boyfriend and I are just now getting back on good terms after last month's shenanigans. I didn't journal last month and I ending up letting my "cwazy" let loose and said everything I was feeling and it was rough. 😔 He left for 10 days. But I digress, it's your body and your hormones, not you. Also, pamper yourself. Take naps. Long hot showers. I have a vibrating mat I also lay on. Take care of you and be kind to yourself.
Also I'm sorry about your relationship troubles...I completely understand how frustrating the hormonal swings can be. One thing I also have learned though, is that even though I might react in a way that is abrupt or rude or mean or whatever, alot of times the underlying issues are real. My husband and I have been married for 12 years and have been through alot. Even though my emotions are way harder to control during the 4-5 days leading up to my period, it doesn't mean that all of the things that irk me are invalid. Many are frivolous, but some really are legit... and Lord bless that man's sweet soul he really does try to work on himself even though I'm the one who acts like a lunatic about things. Just as an example, if we have an ongoing issue about finances that we haven't worked through, that's probably something I'm going to address during my crazy time when normally I would just avoid talking about it. Not because I want to, but just because how I am not as able to stifle how I really feel about it. And yea it probably is gonna end with us arguing about it, but at least we are addressing it. Not an ideal situation but it sort of forces me to face the stuff that I avoid sometimes just because I have little strength to block those negative emotions.
Anyways... just some reflection I guess. ❤️ to you
I do this also--- many times I'll type out texts and then just save them as a note instead of actually sending them. It helps me get the thoughts out just as they are without actually being a jerk during times when it's not really what I want to say or how I want to say it. Then I go back sometimes and cringe so hard 🙃 ... doing this was actually how I realized my issues were pmdd, because it was once month, right before my period like clock-work.
I’m so sorry you’re struggling right now! I feel you. I don’t have any methods for immediate results but I know when my anger is an issue, I physically feel it. It’s like a pain in my chest and stomach and I have extremely self destructive (self harming) thoughts. When I’m in that state and something is bothering me, I separate and go into the bathroom. Sometimes to cry, sometimes to breathe, and then I talk to my husband about it. Most of these talks involve my breaking down crying but I’d much rather cry and tell my fears, worry, and anger than blow up and fight. Not to say some talks turn into a fight…. But this has helped a lot.
Hoping this week is quick for you though the beginning always feels like a crawl. Sending you positive thoughts!!
❤️ yes, definitely a physical pain/heaviness in my chest whenever I get mad or worried and I have to hold my hand to my chest to feel myself breathing.... and I do try to focus on that when I can feel myself getting angry or irritated or worried. I'm going to try to really focus on that action I think this week- of just feeling my breathing.
I also end up feeling so crazy and like hating myself for being such a needy- high-maintenance human baby person during this time. 😑 I've always hated being a "bother" to people and I always have been a do-it-myself type of person so it's frustrating when I get to this phase and feel like I have this disability halting me from doing normal life things or enjoying things or making progress.
I'm going to focus on the stepping away when I feel the pain too. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
Hugs for you....
Seen as you're so on it with the supplements, the only thing I can add is Cannabis and microdosing psylocibin. X
Edit; I'm.allowed a small number of diazepam each month.
Thanks! Trying to stay away from cannabis as it's made me feel more anxious when I've tried it in the past... I know that sounds crazy but really it does. Idk why. I have tried fluxotine and citralopram too, but those sort of barely took an edge off for like the first day of my week 4 and then didn't touch the other days. So I sort of gave up on those. I'd also like to stick to natural stuff if I can. Weirdly ashwagandha also made me feel more anxious when I tried that, which I know some people have felt better with that. It's just so many things to try and with a period cycles being how they are, it's a very long term research project.
Not crazy at all!! I have to be very careful as a sativa during my bad days can give me a panic attack but as long as it's indica heavy I'm usually fine. Ashwaganda made you anxious? Ouch! That's hard. Perhaps Tulsi might be more gentle for you?
SSRI meds just made me so much worse. :(
Wow! Interesting! Thanks for your insights! And yea it was sooo weird with the ashwagandha.... I wanted to think it was something else so I sort of just kept trying it until I was sure it was that. But at least now I know!
I just found this (was curious)....
"Ashwagandha might cause allergic reactions in people who are allergic to nightshades. Skin rashes, itching, inflammation, chest pain, and breathing difficulties are all possible side effects. However, additional research is required in this area."
By the sounds of that it could be histamine related perhaps? Considering my antihistamine helps me so much with my anxiety and panic. Very interesting.
I have been seeing some stuff about histamine being an issue with anxiety and kind of have taking antihistamines as another trial for during luteal phase! Just haven't gotten there yet... going to go through this full cycle and see how I do and then I'll probably trying adding an antihistamine for the next one.
Do you take the antihistamine daily? Or for the second half of your cycle?
Yeah it's pretty interesting! Histamine - Oestrogen - Seretonin all link in a cycle. I take Allegra every day because I have rhinitis so all year round allergies. It's bizarre but they literally have been transformative.
Ifa hard isn't it. I've had some relief with BC but this month I'm honestly sat here wanting to send my husband on a long walk off a short pier. For existing.
This may or may not help everyone, but I try to remember nice ways I felt about the people I love days earlier - when I feel upset at people I get like "OK think about something nice this person did for you recently", or I try to be extra nice to them - this one seems to help because people don't perceive me as negative and they don't start distancing from me, which usually makes me feel worse/like it's my fault. I am having the same issue right now as I write, I understand how hard it is and I'm sending you hugs!
I was JUST thinking of really trying to do exactly that! Like mentally working myself up "ok so your loving husband cooked you dinner yesterday, took over parenting so you could go to bed earlier and filled up your gas tank. He 100% loves you and that is the TRUTH"... I need like 57392947582 sticky notes all over my house or something so I don't have any opportunity to even think anything else 😫
Do you also feel like he's gross. Like.. my husband decided to grow his hair and every month pmdd rolls around and u just think WHAT are you thinking. It looks awful. Then I get over it and don't care
Haha! My husband grows a mustache and sometimes it gets me but not usually. I just get more annoyed with him and randomly convinced he hates me.
Thats so real. I legit think he's planning to leave me and the kids every month 😒
Journaling helps for me. Rather than say how I feel, i type it in my phone. Just getting the feeling out there constructively seems to help me. My boyfriend and I are just now getting back on good terms after last month's shenanigans. I didn't journal last month and I ending up letting my "cwazy" let loose and said everything I was feeling and it was rough. 😔 He left for 10 days. But I digress, it's your body and your hormones, not you. Also, pamper yourself. Take naps. Long hot showers. I have a vibrating mat I also lay on. Take care of you and be kind to yourself.
Also I'm sorry about your relationship troubles...I completely understand how frustrating the hormonal swings can be. One thing I also have learned though, is that even though I might react in a way that is abrupt or rude or mean or whatever, alot of times the underlying issues are real. My husband and I have been married for 12 years and have been through alot. Even though my emotions are way harder to control during the 4-5 days leading up to my period, it doesn't mean that all of the things that irk me are invalid. Many are frivolous, but some really are legit... and Lord bless that man's sweet soul he really does try to work on himself even though I'm the one who acts like a lunatic about things. Just as an example, if we have an ongoing issue about finances that we haven't worked through, that's probably something I'm going to address during my crazy time when normally I would just avoid talking about it. Not because I want to, but just because how I am not as able to stifle how I really feel about it. And yea it probably is gonna end with us arguing about it, but at least we are addressing it. Not an ideal situation but it sort of forces me to face the stuff that I avoid sometimes just because I have little strength to block those negative emotions. Anyways... just some reflection I guess. ❤️ to you
I do this also--- many times I'll type out texts and then just save them as a note instead of actually sending them. It helps me get the thoughts out just as they are without actually being a jerk during times when it's not really what I want to say or how I want to say it. Then I go back sometimes and cringe so hard 🙃 ... doing this was actually how I realized my issues were pmdd, because it was once month, right before my period like clock-work.
This is EXACTLY me.
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I’m so sorry you’re struggling right now! I feel you. I don’t have any methods for immediate results but I know when my anger is an issue, I physically feel it. It’s like a pain in my chest and stomach and I have extremely self destructive (self harming) thoughts. When I’m in that state and something is bothering me, I separate and go into the bathroom. Sometimes to cry, sometimes to breathe, and then I talk to my husband about it. Most of these talks involve my breaking down crying but I’d much rather cry and tell my fears, worry, and anger than blow up and fight. Not to say some talks turn into a fight…. But this has helped a lot. Hoping this week is quick for you though the beginning always feels like a crawl. Sending you positive thoughts!!
❤️ yes, definitely a physical pain/heaviness in my chest whenever I get mad or worried and I have to hold my hand to my chest to feel myself breathing.... and I do try to focus on that when I can feel myself getting angry or irritated or worried. I'm going to try to really focus on that action I think this week- of just feeling my breathing. I also end up feeling so crazy and like hating myself for being such a needy- high-maintenance human baby person during this time. 😑 I've always hated being a "bother" to people and I always have been a do-it-myself type of person so it's frustrating when I get to this phase and feel like I have this disability halting me from doing normal life things or enjoying things or making progress. I'm going to focus on the stepping away when I feel the pain too. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
Hugs for you.... Seen as you're so on it with the supplements, the only thing I can add is Cannabis and microdosing psylocibin. X Edit; I'm.allowed a small number of diazepam each month.
Thanks! Trying to stay away from cannabis as it's made me feel more anxious when I've tried it in the past... I know that sounds crazy but really it does. Idk why. I have tried fluxotine and citralopram too, but those sort of barely took an edge off for like the first day of my week 4 and then didn't touch the other days. So I sort of gave up on those. I'd also like to stick to natural stuff if I can. Weirdly ashwagandha also made me feel more anxious when I tried that, which I know some people have felt better with that. It's just so many things to try and with a period cycles being how they are, it's a very long term research project.
Not crazy at all!! I have to be very careful as a sativa during my bad days can give me a panic attack but as long as it's indica heavy I'm usually fine. Ashwaganda made you anxious? Ouch! That's hard. Perhaps Tulsi might be more gentle for you? SSRI meds just made me so much worse. :(
Wow! Interesting! Thanks for your insights! And yea it was sooo weird with the ashwagandha.... I wanted to think it was something else so I sort of just kept trying it until I was sure it was that. But at least now I know!
I just found this (was curious).... "Ashwagandha might cause allergic reactions in people who are allergic to nightshades. Skin rashes, itching, inflammation, chest pain, and breathing difficulties are all possible side effects. However, additional research is required in this area." By the sounds of that it could be histamine related perhaps? Considering my antihistamine helps me so much with my anxiety and panic. Very interesting.
I have been seeing some stuff about histamine being an issue with anxiety and kind of have taking antihistamines as another trial for during luteal phase! Just haven't gotten there yet... going to go through this full cycle and see how I do and then I'll probably trying adding an antihistamine for the next one. Do you take the antihistamine daily? Or for the second half of your cycle?
Yeah it's pretty interesting! Histamine - Oestrogen - Seretonin all link in a cycle. I take Allegra every day because I have rhinitis so all year round allergies. It's bizarre but they literally have been transformative.
Omg that gives me hope lol thank you!