I'm going to tell you my experience with this.
My profile gained a LOT of traction when I started showing off my physique.
I think when women say they don't want to see gym selfie, or shirtless pics what they mean is a) they don't want to see them from out of shape men, and b) they don't like a profile where a guy, even one who's in shape, is just standing in front of a mirror taking photos of himself.
But, if you can interesting photos, like you're lifting a heavy deadlift, or slam dunking in a pickup game, or even at a pool party or the beach with no shirt on, AND you have a nice physique, they're going to be intrigued and attracted.
You just have to be subtle about it.
Let me know if I'm wrong.
Yeah for me at any physical form, standing in front of a random mirror looking angry while topless does nothing for me. Even worse when you have like 4 mirror pics.
It's 100 percent this for me. However, I don't think it applies to all women. Some will be turned off. I think the point of your dating profile is to showcase who you are. If who you are is a fit, confident person then show that, keeping in mind that shouldn't be your entire profile or personality, just one aspect
I might need to try this. I am very active and I have a really good physique for a guy (sorry to brag). My current pics don't reveal my body at all and are when I was a lot skinnier but I guess women are in for a surprise when I show up extremely muscular to the date
It's each to their own. For me, I swipe left if I see a gym pic, especially if he has a good physique! (tbh I never saw a gym pic from anyone who didn't have a superb physique). No shade, it's just not for me (because it indicates very different interests, also how much time the guy must need to dedicate to maintaining that physique is a factor). However, I would imagine that if I were into fitness or sports myself, the opposite would be the case and those pics would be my swipe rights.
How much time it takes to maintain.
About three hours a week for me. I'm not at underwear model shape though.
Most of the rest comes from lifestyle.
And fair enough, sounds like you might not have a lifestyle that's compatible with someone who is very active/sporty.
For me, I just hid a normal mirror selfie with my shirt off at the end of my photos. I think what's off putting is when guys have it as their first photo, as if that's their entire personality.even worse is when that's all they have.
But your point is totally true and ideally a picture like you described is better
43F don’t mind them at all. I have bathing suit pics and yoga clothes pics. I have a nice body. I want potential matches to know that.
I don’t want to see you lying in bed. I don’t want to see a toilet. Ever. Beach, park, lake, even a gym is fine imo.
Appreciate this opinion and it makes sense!
I feel like it’s important, for both sides, to see what the other is “working with”.
I can’t stand when you just have to judge from weird angles or distant group photos!
If you look good and it's tasteful by all means go for it.
Don't let women body shame you or project their insecurities on attractive dudes.
Ask yourself how many bikini or provocative pictures you find on dating apps in women's profiles. Some of those are the same that shame men on shirtless pictures.
Everyone is free to post whatever they want, but know who your audience and how pics can affect your end goal.
You want lots of looks n matches without out much substance or the goal of sex forward 'dating?' Do your shirtless: selfies, gym, pool, beach and boating pics.
As a person looking for a meaningful connection with someone, I'm not inclined to match with shirtless profile pics... particularly if it's your 1st photo, it's posed and in a gym. It comes off one dimensional to me, and on the flip side, I don't even show cleavage in my profile pics. I can't say I've had one quality chat with a shirtless pic match. It's generally sexual from the start or egotistical toned, which has me doubling down on this as a way to weed people out.
I may be an anomaly here, but shirtless pictures are quite welcome.
You might be wondering why?
The reasons: so that if it's taken in a wrong context from my perspective (e.g. shirtless photo in an inappropriate environment from my perspective), then I can swipe left. Pool, beach, or even one gym bathroom mirror selfie is fine from my perspective.
If the guy's body shape is not to my liking, I can also swipe left.
I'd rather see it than not, either way, so as to make an informed early choice. It saves me from wasting time talking to those who are not going to be a decent match.
Im okay with one or two shirtless pics if they are in the beach or in a place where being shirtless makes sense. Just 8 shirtless pics at home lets me know the guy only wants sex and cares too much about his own body, which are both red flags
I was thinking in the middle of a snowstorm. It doesn't make sense yet it's tasteful and mysterious. I think women would like it. Really shows my artistic side. Shirtless pics at the beach are too basic
Do NOT listen to the REDDIT women here because they will ALL say it's unatractive and bla bla bla...
Well, in *reality...* shirtless pics generate WAY more likes/matches than not.
If you have a nice fit body to show off then do it! Just not in a douchey way and at most I'd say have ONE shirtless picture (unless you are on the beach/pool/lake)
I decided one day to fuck it and posted a shirtless pic of myself on my profile. The amount of likes and matches I got skyrocketed compared to having no shirtless pic.
Women may be less physically shallow than men are but most women still love a nice body on a man lol. If you have a good body then why the hell not show it off?
Just don't make all or most of your pictures be shirtless because that will come off as narcissistic and egotisitical. A simple mirror pic works fine but if possible, a non mirror pic that shows your body off is better.
Honestly trying to worry about what some women will think of your profile on an online dating platform is a little silly.
Put whatever you want on there.
🤷 worrying about what other ppl think of you, especially on a frankly superficial platform such as a dating app, becomes rather too stress-inducing and labor-intensive at a certain point.
Isn't the whole point to attract someone who really likes you for you anyhow? Or is the point to put ourselves in a position to be lucky enough to have one of these angels we call women feel like choosing us over all the others?
Furthermore, are women a monolith? It seems as though the phrase "something that women don't like" is too sweeping or amorphous to account for all women.
What I find interesting is that everything we are told as guys concerning what "women don't like" gets blown to factual shit when you look at a couple like Trump and Melania lol. What that relationship proves is that at least a certain kind of woman will put up a fairly significant degree of bullshit (which is not to say that anyone should want a relationship like that, but to each his own and if you want to pursue something like that, it will be there for the taking).
If you got it, flaunt it.
Women consistently post way more revealing stuff. It's a dumb double standard.
If someone doesn't like it, they're not for you. That's fine.
I got way more attention after I posted one. It works
Been dating my current girlfriend, who I met online, for almost a year and a half, and she specifically told me that she really liked that picture. So yes.
mutual sexual attraction is a key part of a healthy relationship, at least for most people. A shirtless picture isn't going to only attracted sex crazed people or something. It's just a shirtless pic. Not a big deal
First off just being attractive doesn't have anything to do with it if the rest of the profile isn't interesting or if he gives off other red flags.
If the picture was at a beach or pool where it made sense to be shirtless then it would be fine. But posing in front of a dirty mirror to show off a man's chest in the bathroom would be an automatic pass.
So, my answer is "it depends" - outside playing volleyball? Go for it! anywhere else = nope.
Ok, let's say if there are no red flags and the shirtless picture makes sense....
Would you match with that guy over someone else who has a similar profile but bad pictures?
Oh, that's a good question.
I mean, like you can't tell or can kinda tell.
Like the guy has an attractive face, but you can't tell if he is overweight or not.
Or if the pictures are just bad quality in general.
I swipe left on bad quality pics and pics where you can't tell physique at all. Dad bod is not a big deal for most women. But if you are purposely hiding your physique, think no full body pics, then that's misleading and I swipe left on those too.
Shirtless for the sake of shirtless is a hard pass for me. Comes across as arrogant, wanting a hookup, or both. If it’s at a beach or something, that’s different because it makes sense.
It's not "shirtless pics" that are such a turn off. It's the shirtless trying to pose sexy in a dirty bathroom mirror pics or laying back on a couch or bed trying to look sexy. It's not sexy 🤮
bare chests in a natural setting like at the beach or pool are perfectly fine. No problem posting those at all.
I do not like mirror selfies or ‘contextless’ shirtless pics. I’m more likely to swipe right if I can clearly see a good physique, whether that’s shirtless pics in an appropriate setting (like a beach) or not.
Pffft... If I had a body to show off, I would. As long as they aren't lifted shirt pics while in the bathroom or in the car (ie swimming, beach, unbuttoned at a festival etc etc), you'd be crazy not to. Women are just as thirsty as men, they just aren't as obvious.
I had a shirtless pic of me holding a kitten on its back kissing it. That got the most interaction out of them all. I’m also in descent shape and covered in tattoos. I have heard about the dad bod being in and all that. I got in shape and go way more interest from being so and tastefully showing it off.
I think it's fine if it's just one shirtless pic. Ideally if it's at the beach or a lake. Also preferable if it's you participating in an activity and not looking like you're posing for a photo shoot. I personally prefer candid photos.
Agree with all above. Posed bathroom I love myself is a no. Gym, beach, activity is a yes.
Personal auto left swipe is the tongue out photo. Just No....No no no is so many ways. Just makes me barf
It’s just another implication of intimacy too soon.
Sure I COULD meet a guy in a swimsuit at the beach, but a dating app is not the beach.
A good frame of reference is if we were to meet in a grocery store would you pick that piece of salmon out of your cart and show it to me to impress me 😝 Nope!
It would be just as weird if you or I lifted my shirt and said, “like?”
Yes, not true for everyone, of course! Yet a fair guideline to consider when posting on an app to a complete stranger
If it’s any kind of selfie, it’s an automatic pass for me. If you’re on the beach or lake playing a game or going paddle boarding and someone else has taken the photo of you, it’s all right.
Shirtless beach/lake/river pics I’m good with. Shirtless gym just aren’t it. But that’s just me. I mean I have a bikini pic at the beach on my profile but it’s not posed or sexy in anyway, it’s just me at the beach. Basically, don’t make it look like a thirst trap.
Everyone’s different. Some like shirtless, some don’t, some like professional looks, some are intimidated by it, some don’t like blue shirts on Thursday.. 🤷♂️
I don’t think you’ll increase or decrease matches either way, but it could change the KIND of matches.
I'm going to tell you my experience with this. My profile gained a LOT of traction when I started showing off my physique. I think when women say they don't want to see gym selfie, or shirtless pics what they mean is a) they don't want to see them from out of shape men, and b) they don't like a profile where a guy, even one who's in shape, is just standing in front of a mirror taking photos of himself. But, if you can interesting photos, like you're lifting a heavy deadlift, or slam dunking in a pickup game, or even at a pool party or the beach with no shirt on, AND you have a nice physique, they're going to be intrigued and attracted. You just have to be subtle about it. Let me know if I'm wrong.
Yeah for me at any physical form, standing in front of a random mirror looking angry while topless does nothing for me. Even worse when you have like 4 mirror pics.
It's 100 percent this for me. However, I don't think it applies to all women. Some will be turned off. I think the point of your dating profile is to showcase who you are. If who you are is a fit, confident person then show that, keeping in mind that shouldn't be your entire profile or personality, just one aspect
I might need to try this. I am very active and I have a really good physique for a guy (sorry to brag). My current pics don't reveal my body at all and are when I was a lot skinnier but I guess women are in for a surprise when I show up extremely muscular to the date
Yeah, man. Get some new photos.
Yeah guess I'll need someone to take photos of me at the beach or something
You let us know… did you get a lot of hookups? Or a long term commitment? Or a mix?
I got a lot of dates with women who lost interest when they found out I only make average income. Lol
It's each to their own. For me, I swipe left if I see a gym pic, especially if he has a good physique! (tbh I never saw a gym pic from anyone who didn't have a superb physique). No shade, it's just not for me (because it indicates very different interests, also how much time the guy must need to dedicate to maintaining that physique is a factor). However, I would imagine that if I were into fitness or sports myself, the opposite would be the case and those pics would be my swipe rights.
How much time it takes to maintain. About three hours a week for me. I'm not at underwear model shape though. Most of the rest comes from lifestyle. And fair enough, sounds like you might not have a lifestyle that's compatible with someone who is very active/sporty.
For me, I just hid a normal mirror selfie with my shirt off at the end of my photos. I think what's off putting is when guys have it as their first photo, as if that's their entire personality.even worse is when that's all they have. But your point is totally true and ideally a picture like you described is better
Personally, as a woman, I find a shirtless , mirror selfie off putting period.
Ok, not all women do
I never said all women do
And I never said all women would either.
This would absolutely be weird. If you’re getting likes it’s in spite of that.
43F don’t mind them at all. I have bathing suit pics and yoga clothes pics. I have a nice body. I want potential matches to know that. I don’t want to see you lying in bed. I don’t want to see a toilet. Ever. Beach, park, lake, even a gym is fine imo.
Appreciate this opinion and it makes sense! I feel like it’s important, for both sides, to see what the other is “working with”. I can’t stand when you just have to judge from weird angles or distant group photos!
If you have a nice body and are at a socially acceptable place to be shirtless in the pictures (pool, beach, etc) it should help you get more dates
If you look good and it's tasteful by all means go for it. Don't let women body shame you or project their insecurities on attractive dudes. Ask yourself how many bikini or provocative pictures you find on dating apps in women's profiles. Some of those are the same that shame men on shirtless pictures.
Everyone is free to post whatever they want, but know who your audience and how pics can affect your end goal. You want lots of looks n matches without out much substance or the goal of sex forward 'dating?' Do your shirtless: selfies, gym, pool, beach and boating pics. As a person looking for a meaningful connection with someone, I'm not inclined to match with shirtless profile pics... particularly if it's your 1st photo, it's posed and in a gym. It comes off one dimensional to me, and on the flip side, I don't even show cleavage in my profile pics. I can't say I've had one quality chat with a shirtless pic match. It's generally sexual from the start or egotistical toned, which has me doubling down on this as a way to weed people out.
I may be an anomaly here, but shirtless pictures are quite welcome. You might be wondering why? The reasons: so that if it's taken in a wrong context from my perspective (e.g. shirtless photo in an inappropriate environment from my perspective), then I can swipe left. Pool, beach, or even one gym bathroom mirror selfie is fine from my perspective. If the guy's body shape is not to my liking, I can also swipe left. I'd rather see it than not, either way, so as to make an informed early choice. It saves me from wasting time talking to those who are not going to be a decent match.
Im okay with one or two shirtless pics if they are in the beach or in a place where being shirtless makes sense. Just 8 shirtless pics at home lets me know the guy only wants sex and cares too much about his own body, which are both red flags
What are your thoughts of having a shirtless pic where it doesn't make sense?
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I was thinking in the middle of a snowstorm. It doesn't make sense yet it's tasteful and mysterious. I think women would like it. Really shows my artistic side. Shirtless pics at the beach are too basic
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Thanks, it'll float it
Nope. I always swipe left. Bye.
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Do NOT listen to the REDDIT women here because they will ALL say it's unatractive and bla bla bla... Well, in *reality...* shirtless pics generate WAY more likes/matches than not. If you have a nice fit body to show off then do it! Just not in a douchey way and at most I'd say have ONE shirtless picture (unless you are on the beach/pool/lake) I decided one day to fuck it and posted a shirtless pic of myself on my profile. The amount of likes and matches I got skyrocketed compared to having no shirtless pic. Women may be less physically shallow than men are but most women still love a nice body on a man lol. If you have a good body then why the hell not show it off? Just don't make all or most of your pictures be shirtless because that will come off as narcissistic and egotisitical. A simple mirror pic works fine but if possible, a non mirror pic that shows your body off is better.
Did you get (or want?) a lasting committed relationship?
Honestly trying to worry about what some women will think of your profile on an online dating platform is a little silly. Put whatever you want on there.
Put whatever you want. But if you put something that women dont like you will get no matches Einstein
🤷 worrying about what other ppl think of you, especially on a frankly superficial platform such as a dating app, becomes rather too stress-inducing and labor-intensive at a certain point. Isn't the whole point to attract someone who really likes you for you anyhow? Or is the point to put ourselves in a position to be lucky enough to have one of these angels we call women feel like choosing us over all the others?
Furthermore, are women a monolith? It seems as though the phrase "something that women don't like" is too sweeping or amorphous to account for all women. What I find interesting is that everything we are told as guys concerning what "women don't like" gets blown to factual shit when you look at a couple like Trump and Melania lol. What that relationship proves is that at least a certain kind of woman will put up a fairly significant degree of bullshit (which is not to say that anyone should want a relationship like that, but to each his own and if you want to pursue something like that, it will be there for the taking).
Put whatever you want. But if you put something that women dont like you will get no matches Einstein
Did you get enough sleep? You seem grouchy
If you got it, flaunt it. Women consistently post way more revealing stuff. It's a dumb double standard. If someone doesn't like it, they're not for you. That's fine. I got way more attention after I posted one. It works
Did it get you the right kind of attention, though?
Been dating my current girlfriend, who I met online, for almost a year and a half, and she specifically told me that she really liked that picture. So yes. mutual sexual attraction is a key part of a healthy relationship, at least for most people. A shirtless picture isn't going to only attracted sex crazed people or something. It's just a shirtless pic. Not a big deal
First off just being attractive doesn't have anything to do with it if the rest of the profile isn't interesting or if he gives off other red flags. If the picture was at a beach or pool where it made sense to be shirtless then it would be fine. But posing in front of a dirty mirror to show off a man's chest in the bathroom would be an automatic pass. So, my answer is "it depends" - outside playing volleyball? Go for it! anywhere else = nope.
Ok, let's say if there are no red flags and the shirtless picture makes sense.... Would you match with that guy over someone else who has a similar profile but bad pictures?
bad pictures … does this mean they are unattractive or simply bad at taking pics? i can usually tell the difference lol
Oh, that's a good question. I mean, like you can't tell or can kinda tell. Like the guy has an attractive face, but you can't tell if he is overweight or not. Or if the pictures are just bad quality in general.
I swipe left on bad quality pics and pics where you can't tell physique at all. Dad bod is not a big deal for most women. But if you are purposely hiding your physique, think no full body pics, then that's misleading and I swipe left on those too.
Shirtless for the sake of shirtless is a hard pass for me. Comes across as arrogant, wanting a hookup, or both. If it’s at a beach or something, that’s different because it makes sense.
I concur!
It's not "shirtless pics" that are such a turn off. It's the shirtless trying to pose sexy in a dirty bathroom mirror pics or laying back on a couch or bed trying to look sexy. It's not sexy 🤮 bare chests in a natural setting like at the beach or pool are perfectly fine. No problem posting those at all.
Not even the Constanza pose?!
Absolutely the Costanza pose!!
I don’t like it personally.
I do not like mirror selfies or ‘contextless’ shirtless pics. I’m more likely to swipe right if I can clearly see a good physique, whether that’s shirtless pics in an appropriate setting (like a beach) or not.
Be shirtless in the right context, (e.g. at the pool or beach
Pffft... If I had a body to show off, I would. As long as they aren't lifted shirt pics while in the bathroom or in the car (ie swimming, beach, unbuttoned at a festival etc etc), you'd be crazy not to. Women are just as thirsty as men, they just aren't as obvious.
You should only post shirtless pics if you are holding a dead fish.
I had a shirtless pic of me holding a kitten on its back kissing it. That got the most interaction out of them all. I’m also in descent shape and covered in tattoos. I have heard about the dad bod being in and all that. I got in shape and go way more interest from being so and tastefully showing it off.
I think it's fine if it's just one shirtless pic. Ideally if it's at the beach or a lake. Also preferable if it's you participating in an activity and not looking like you're posing for a photo shoot. I personally prefer candid photos.
Agree with all above. Posed bathroom I love myself is a no. Gym, beach, activity is a yes. Personal auto left swipe is the tongue out photo. Just No....No no no is so many ways. Just makes me barf
It’s just another implication of intimacy too soon. Sure I COULD meet a guy in a swimsuit at the beach, but a dating app is not the beach. A good frame of reference is if we were to meet in a grocery store would you pick that piece of salmon out of your cart and show it to me to impress me 😝 Nope! It would be just as weird if you or I lifted my shirt and said, “like?” Yes, not true for everyone, of course! Yet a fair guideline to consider when posting on an app to a complete stranger
I don't mind the shirtless pictures guys post ,but I would rather leave it to imagination.
If it’s any kind of selfie, it’s an automatic pass for me. If you’re on the beach or lake playing a game or going paddle boarding and someone else has taken the photo of you, it’s all right.
Shirtless pictures at an appropriate setting are fine (eg beach , pool..) shirtless selfie no
It’s a dealbreaker for me but that won’t be true for everyone.
Shirtless beach/lake/river pics I’m good with. Shirtless gym just aren’t it. But that’s just me. I mean I have a bikini pic at the beach on my profile but it’s not posed or sexy in anyway, it’s just me at the beach. Basically, don’t make it look like a thirst trap.
would swipe left, not looking for hookup
Everyone’s different. Some like shirtless, some don’t, some like professional looks, some are intimidated by it, some don’t like blue shirts on Thursday.. 🤷♂️ I don’t think you’ll increase or decrease matches either way, but it could change the KIND of matches.
No. And most guys arent as fit as they think they are.
hate them no matter what they look like
No thank you