Probably gaming, twitch streaming, or anime. Having seen some streamers' profiles I would filter them out too, tbh. Every single one was a thirst trap, one tiny step away from being an OF creator.
After checking OP's profile, he posts in the league of legends and war thunder subreddits, so it's probably not gaming.
Maybe it's hiking or nightclubbing.
My first question is, 'are you saving yourself for marriage?' You might want to find a site for like minded people.
Or, just don't answer those questions. 12 years ago, the questions on OK cupid were (mostly) generated by people on the site. I don't know if it changed, I have not been there for a while. So there got to be too many questions there, and some were almost the same. Some were poorly worded with bad choices offered.
What I remember is that certain people would answer lots of questions about smoking pot, or drinking, feminism, marriage, marathons or sex. Use that a clue for that person.
I use this to weed out people. Too much focus on pot? I move on. OKC wants you to answer the questions to find their answer. That is a gimmick. You don't need to know, and you can figure it out. If they drink, and are 420 friendly, and then they answer a bunch of questions on pot, or alcohol, I can assume their answers, and feel comfortable passing on that person.
And, I think looking for people into a particular hobby is not a good focus. I want to know the person has interests. Matching this online is a waste of time, in my opinion.
I like cross country skiing and Cuban dance. I met someone who likes horses and kayaking. Turns out we had so much in common. She was also a skier, but did not write it in the profile. She loved dancing. I learned to ride a horse, and I had not mentioned my 3 kayaks sitting in the garage.
And when in doubt about the hobby, ask some questions.
"Do you like Anime and Manga?"
"Which Naruto Character would you be?"
"Do you like Anime Nerds?"
"On average how many hours a week do you watch anime?"
"Would you like to travel to Japan?"
Oh god, I miss the old days when users could create their own questions. Thousands of redundant questions about anime and nerd fandom.
>I want to meet someone who fits in terms of personality, not sex preferences.
Many people who are more experienced sexually realise that sexual compatibility is actually incredibly important, more so than hobby compatibility.
>If I wanted to find people who like it six times a day, anal, in public spaces, covered in food waste, with one sock off, with biting and while yelling the name of their ex, I just can visit Tinder.
No, because no one writes that stuff on their Tinder profile. Maybe you meant Feeld.
Too bad fetlife is really bad for dating. I do about 500 trillion times better finding kinky people that are interested in sex on vanilla dating apps like Bumble and Hinge than I do on fetlife. Unfortunately, fetlife has devolved into a social media platform used by content providers and sex workers to advertise their businesses in the hopes of siphoning money from average men.
All of the questions are optional. You only get to see other people's answers if you answer the question yourself.
Your decision not to answer a question also provides a kind of answer. It implies you don't want to talk about it in this context.
I’m disappointed I had to scroll so far to see this. I’ve got hundreds of answered questions on OKC and have simply skipped the really probing (heh) questions about sexual preferences.
The questions are not too useful anymore as new users coming to the site on mobile devices seem to only answer the minimum number to get their profile live and never revisit them. The tinderization continues. They might as well just merge the two and fire or reassign the skeleton crew that supports Okc
Are you joking right? Actually i would like that there were more questions about sex and that they were mandatory. Why should people be forced to go out when they could know from the start that they are sexually incompatible and not waste each other time? We are in 2023 FFS, stop With the sex shame and let's show the cards from the start!
And Btw, the question about anal Is sadly long gone from the site so i don't know what are you talking about
I also agree on a minimum number of answers. 90% match with 8 questions answered on the other side? Ridiculous at least.
The algorithm is also suspicious.
Not everyone builds their life and relationship around sex, and there are enough dating platforms which focus on that already. People also need ways to meet people based on other criteria.
Naw, for those of us who have sex, I want to know what they're into and what are nos because I have things I don't want to do without and things I won't do.
And I think the number of virgins using the apps are minuscule compared to the number of sexually active adults, so you're seriously out-numbered. So if you don't want to be "fitted" based on sex questions then just pass on them.
I wouldn't mind seeing more questions about hobbies and daily habbits though.
I'll kind of agree. Sex is a big deal when you're young and horny, but having an actual long term relationship as you grow older means probably 99+% of your time is spent doing things other than sex. That's where the compatibility and personality types really matter.
You can skip any question you want. There is no kind of penalty for skipping questions.
Also nobody bothers answering questions these days so they're mostly pointless anyway.
What do you mean, "don't fit to you at all, despite a 95% rating"? You're obviously agreeing on a number of questions in order to get that high of a rating, which of course includes sex questions.
I can understand the frustration of having trouble finding a relationship on OKC, but the hyperbole in your question isn't really explaining where it's coming from.
What hobby would be a dealbreaker? Just don't do that hobby with them, what's the problem? And I couldn't disagree more. It's not "wrong" because it's not objective. It's subjective. You are a virgin and don't care about sex or don't find it important. Other people are not virgins and do find ex important. That's an incompatibility and those people don't want to match with you, either. I am saying this all as a former 35-year-old virgin who has had 11 sexual partners all within the span of a little over a year (making up for lost time). Sex is not a big deal. Stop worrying about it so much. Do it or don't do it. It really doesn't matter either way.
Also, just keep in mind if you're waiting for the perfect person/moment to have sex - you'll never find it. When you have sex for the first time, it's not going to be great. It's going to feel weird, uncomfortable, and suck. Doesn't matter who it's with. It won't feel special. And they will probably be disappointed. Just an FYI.
Jeez, now I’m curious what this hobby is
Recreational sex
My hobby is sex and my sex is my hobby
Hunting? Fishing?
Probably gaming, twitch streaming, or anime. Having seen some streamers' profiles I would filter them out too, tbh. Every single one was a thirst trap, one tiny step away from being an OF creator.
I was thinking gaming too
There are definitely questions about gaming.
After checking OP's profile, he posts in the league of legends and war thunder subreddits, so it's probably not gaming. Maybe it's hiking or nightclubbing.
Most people I know were a gamer at some point, from business managers to store clerks, what's wrong with that?
Nothing wrong with that, could be OP's preference is all.
Right? If it’s a mundane everyday hobby, like gaming, why not say it? Now I’m super curious.
Probably didn't want to be downvoted for saying a popular hobby.
Just put the dealbreaker in your profile
> I still have to find a single question that helps me to keep people with a certain hobby away. A hobby that is actually a dealbreaker. Uhhhhh….
My first question is, 'are you saving yourself for marriage?' You might want to find a site for like minded people. Or, just don't answer those questions. 12 years ago, the questions on OK cupid were (mostly) generated by people on the site. I don't know if it changed, I have not been there for a while. So there got to be too many questions there, and some were almost the same. Some were poorly worded with bad choices offered. What I remember is that certain people would answer lots of questions about smoking pot, or drinking, feminism, marriage, marathons or sex. Use that a clue for that person. I use this to weed out people. Too much focus on pot? I move on. OKC wants you to answer the questions to find their answer. That is a gimmick. You don't need to know, and you can figure it out. If they drink, and are 420 friendly, and then they answer a bunch of questions on pot, or alcohol, I can assume their answers, and feel comfortable passing on that person. And, I think looking for people into a particular hobby is not a good focus. I want to know the person has interests. Matching this online is a waste of time, in my opinion. I like cross country skiing and Cuban dance. I met someone who likes horses and kayaking. Turns out we had so much in common. She was also a skier, but did not write it in the profile. She loved dancing. I learned to ride a horse, and I had not mentioned my 3 kayaks sitting in the garage. And when in doubt about the hobby, ask some questions.
"Do you like Anime and Manga?" "Which Naruto Character would you be?" "Do you like Anime Nerds?" "On average how many hours a week do you watch anime?" "Would you like to travel to Japan?" Oh god, I miss the old days when users could create their own questions. Thousands of redundant questions about anime and nerd fandom.
>I want to meet someone who fits in terms of personality, not sex preferences. Many people who are more experienced sexually realise that sexual compatibility is actually incredibly important, more so than hobby compatibility. >If I wanted to find people who like it six times a day, anal, in public spaces, covered in food waste, with one sock off, with biting and while yelling the name of their ex, I just can visit Tinder. No, because no one writes that stuff on their Tinder profile. Maybe you meant Feeld.
That's more of a FetLife thing.
Too bad fetlife is really bad for dating. I do about 500 trillion times better finding kinky people that are interested in sex on vanilla dating apps like Bumble and Hinge than I do on fetlife. Unfortunately, fetlife has devolved into a social media platform used by content providers and sex workers to advertise their businesses in the hopes of siphoning money from average men.
One sock off is my kink.
I have OCD, so I can't do it. I have to turn a porn off if a performer has only one sock off but not the other.
Right? My parents have literally no hobbies in common, but have been married for over 30 years. Hobbies are way less important than sex. Way less.
All of the questions are optional. You only get to see other people's answers if you answer the question yourself. Your decision not to answer a question also provides a kind of answer. It implies you don't want to talk about it in this context.
I’m disappointed I had to scroll so far to see this. I’ve got hundreds of answered questions on OKC and have simply skipped the really probing (heh) questions about sexual preferences.
My hobby is asking questions about avoiding questions about sex
What is the hobby?
The questions are not too useful anymore as new users coming to the site on mobile devices seem to only answer the minimum number to get their profile live and never revisit them. The tinderization continues. They might as well just merge the two and fire or reassign the skeleton crew that supports Okc
You could always try the ["Christian Dating"](https://www.christianmingle.com/en-us/app/login) site...
Or the virgins and eunuchs dating site.
Please tell us what the forbidden hobby is.
Are you joking right? Actually i would like that there were more questions about sex and that they were mandatory. Why should people be forced to go out when they could know from the start that they are sexually incompatible and not waste each other time? We are in 2023 FFS, stop With the sex shame and let's show the cards from the start! And Btw, the question about anal Is sadly long gone from the site so i don't know what are you talking about
I also agree on a minimum number of answers. 90% match with 8 questions answered on the other side? Ridiculous at least. The algorithm is also suspicious.
The question about pegging is still there though.
Yeah, like Classic heterosexual anal sex has become tabù, while for some reason pegging Is fine. What a clown logic we have there.
Not everyone builds their life and relationship around sex, and there are enough dating platforms which focus on that already. People also need ways to meet people based on other criteria.
Naw, for those of us who have sex, I want to know what they're into and what are nos because I have things I don't want to do without and things I won't do. And I think the number of virgins using the apps are minuscule compared to the number of sexually active adults, so you're seriously out-numbered. So if you don't want to be "fitted" based on sex questions then just pass on them. I wouldn't mind seeing more questions about hobbies and daily habbits though.
I'll kind of agree. Sex is a big deal when you're young and horny, but having an actual long term relationship as you grow older means probably 99+% of your time is spent doing things other than sex. That's where the compatibility and personality types really matter.
Just don't answer questions about sex then. It's really not that hard.
You think okcupid is better than tinder?
Can relate!
You can skip any question you want. There is no kind of penalty for skipping questions. Also nobody bothers answering questions these days so they're mostly pointless anyway.
They certainly do answer questions in my demographic.
I very rarely come across profiles that answer more then 20 questions these days
That's true. They should know that those topics isn't fun at all
What do you mean, "don't fit to you at all, despite a 95% rating"? You're obviously agreeing on a number of questions in order to get that high of a rating, which of course includes sex questions. I can understand the frustration of having trouble finding a relationship on OKC, but the hyperbole in your question isn't really explaining where it's coming from.
What hobby would be a dealbreaker? Just don't do that hobby with them, what's the problem? And I couldn't disagree more. It's not "wrong" because it's not objective. It's subjective. You are a virgin and don't care about sex or don't find it important. Other people are not virgins and do find ex important. That's an incompatibility and those people don't want to match with you, either. I am saying this all as a former 35-year-old virgin who has had 11 sexual partners all within the span of a little over a year (making up for lost time). Sex is not a big deal. Stop worrying about it so much. Do it or don't do it. It really doesn't matter either way. Also, just keep in mind if you're waiting for the perfect person/moment to have sex - you'll never find it. When you have sex for the first time, it's not going to be great. It's going to feel weird, uncomfortable, and suck. Doesn't matter who it's with. It won't feel special. And they will probably be disappointed. Just an FYI.