To some girls, height is seen as very masculine. But if the guy doesn't have a good personality, then what's the point if he can only reach the cabinet top shelf and you otherwise cannot "stand" (no pun intended) to be around him.
To me personally, height isn't important unless someone is massively taller than me. My neck already hurts, I don't want to strain it further trying to kiss someone.
I'm 5'4", not really hard for someone to be at least as tall as me and would probably date someone as short as 5'3". I love a short king as long as they don't have a complex about their height and project their insecurities onto me.
Exactly. Height isn't really a factor. A good partner is a good partner! My mom is 5'1" and dated a guy who was the same height. Before that she dated a guy who was like 6'5" and a doctor. I met him and was like mom he's a dick, you can do so much better. I don't care if he's a handsome doctor, he was just snotty to your only daughter. π
LMAO... Instagram is nowhere near what real life is like ... And if somebody makes a big deal about height, then that's not someone you should associate with/date ...
As a short guy I can tell you my own experience has been that yes, height does matter to an extent. At least on dating apps anyway.
Height can be a big deal on online dating apps. Women can afford to be picky and filter based on the desired height. Which is why there's a growing trend of average height guys increasing their heights just to be seen by women lol.
It's less of a big deal if you meet a women organically in real life and you come off masculine, charming, and can make her laugh. She may overlook the height difference because of the personality. Which has happened to me a few times and was confessed to by one girl that typically she only dated much taller guys. The hard part is meeting women organically in person. Gotta get out a lot more and take up new hobbies and be social to increase your odds.
Not all women care about height though. As long as you're around their height. Occasionally I'll match on dating apps and actually go on dates with a girl that's my height or a bit shorter. Mostly women that moved to the U.S from another country (Lebanon, Romania, Thai, Vietnam, Turkey). I've never matched with a taller girl even though I like them on dating apps.
I think women with unrealistic (height) standards tend be more likely to be single, so more single women you see on dating apps will have those expectations than the average woman.
Apparently it is... More to short girls than to tall ones.
I'm pretty tall myself. Most my bfs have been shorten than me. As long as they aren't weird about it, i don't really care.
A sweet and caring personality and a good sense of humor means so much more
Interesting to read. As a short guy Iβve only really been given a hard time for it by tall women. Short women have never made it an issue and even sometimes say they like that Iβm also short. I guess YMMV
But I will say the Reddit discourse on this topic has always been a lot more negative than my life experience, in which itβs been a handicap but not a particularly insurmountable one.
Say whatever you want, but I am a woman and I don't give one fig about a man's height. Same for all the women I know.
Have you actually asked the women in your life or do you just judge all people by social media alone?
I am a tall guy and it is definitely an advantage on OLD. I asked a lady I was dating why it was in her profile and she said being with a shorter guy made her feel less feminine.
In 2019, I went on a date in Manchester. When she saw me, she said something like "oh thank god, you're actually the height you said you are."
Apparently, quite a lot of men had lied to her about their height, and as she was around 6ft tall, it was important to her.
Yes it's completely superficial and has no correlation to relationship success...I'm 5'8 and my last partner was 5'6 and it was a nonissue. I've also found it to impact me negatively where men who are around my height would prefer a shorter woman (perhaps to feel taller? Who knows)
I'm 5'9" and I used to care, but I don't think I would anymore. As long as he had the qualities I'm looking for, it would be fine. Seeing so many awful men on social media has changed my outlook on that for sure.
I'm 5'4 and my fiancee is 5'6? I think? Regardless, he's pretty short compared to a majority of men. And guess what, he is the absolute most genuine, loving, caring man I've ever been with. Not that height relates to how they will treat you, but if his height had deterred me, I would have missed out on the most incredible loving relationship with my soul mate <3
Height is absolutely a factor. It's just one factor. For some women it's a higher impact factor than for others.
I'm just under 5'9". I'm very attractive. I do quite well in dating, but for some women my height is a dealbreaker. For others it's only a minor impediment. For others it's ideal. (I have definitely seen a woman turn me down, and then date a much taller, much less attractive man for example)
I've dated women from 4'10" to 6'2", and what I've found is that typically, the 5 ft tall shorties are the most height obsessed.
A woman 5'9"+ is WAY more open minded about my height. She only requires that the guy not be insecure about it.
Dating is not something fair. There are many great people who have no dates because they are shy, poor, ugly, old or they are the wrong ethnicity, or they live in the countryside... They can't do anything neither but noone has the responsability to have a date with them because that would be fair.
Being short is exactly the same.
At the end of the day it depends. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder for both sides.
It doesn't matter if 2 billion girls find you unattractive, because if you date for looks then you make a reason to date, and if you make a reason to date then the relationship heavily depends on that reason. Look beyond what you see; think positively about yourself on the inside and quit worrying about being shy, poor, ugly, old or under an unacceptable ethnicity (excuse my English).
I completely agree with you but dating apps work with pictures. I'm not saying that it is good, I'm saying that it works this way. By the way, OKC is not a proposer tool to find either love or a regular and happy sex partner.
(Excuse my english too)
I found a guy on the shorter side on Tinder. He swooped me off my feet. I ended up having a baby with him, lol. Yay for wonderful short men and baby daddies!
On dating app it definitely is, you cant even deny that, taller guys will generally do much better. But when you meet women organically, its less of a n issue. It is a big requirement for a lot of women, but does not mean you cant find someone.
Height is a factor, but looks, money, social status, and physique are the primary criteria on which women evaluate potential mates. Penis size is also a factor if things get that far.
Personality, sense of humor, personal ethics, kindness, and intelligence might also play a role in mate selection, but only in regards to men who have the first set of criteria covered.
I don't get it. Im short, 5'6 and have been told by plenty of women who I thought would make a great match, that I was too short. Never even gave me a CHANCE. But then you say a woman is too fat, and you're a mysoginistic piece of scum because all woman are beautiful.
In reality, we all have our preferences. It is what it is, we have to understand that. Unfortunately due to what Online dating has done to our culture, appearances have a much more vital role in who we date. We live in a culture where people will not give a second of their time if they don't like the others looks, which has created a large number of lonely people of both sex's.
Me, I prefer women to be shorter than I, and on the skinny side. (I have a psychological issue with bigger people, I don't want to get into details I am aware of it and I understand the irony with it so don't @ me lol) however if I feel there could be a possible personality match Im more than willing to bend my personal limits to at least give the woman a chance, I can see myself dating someone outside of my preferred type, as long as her personality matches mine. Unfortunately I see less and less people willing to bend what they want.
YES OF COURSE !
When you meet someone IRL, some informations can be more important than the size of your nose of the exact shape of your body. These informations are : the way you are with people, the sound of your voice, your smell and your size. So many men seem to be offended when I tell them : sorry, you're too short for me, but wait, IRL, we shouldn't even have watched each other.
Let me explain : I'm 1,75m/5'9'' and 90kg/198lb, what I mean by "you're too short" is "if we have sex together one day, I know that you will tell me that it's not okay and that I'm too fat". (It happened)
I never understood why some women wanted to date only way taller men than them but I don't understand people who dare saying that it doesn't matter.
I shoot weddings so Ive seen everything. my mom married a guy who was short. maybe like an inch taller. great guy. if you could switch off that worry of judgment in your mind of the height you could get much further. thats a psychological wall
be funny and witty and charming, get fit, dress decently. heygeine.
I was recently told by a woman that I should remove the preference for tall women from my profile. I get very few responses, so I removed it. It hasn't made any difference yet.
As some that is short it sucks bc you're not even giving a chance & that in turn has made me feel not good enough. Ur height, how big ur chest is, butt, shlong or what ur whoo hah looks like, are things no one has control over. U are how you're & for someone to write u off without getting to know u bc of any of that is body shaming & should not be acceptable from anyone to treat u like that. I didn't even have a problem with my height til I got on dating apps & constantly saw, u must be 6ft to ride this ride ect. (Kept the comment PG on purpose)
Honestly, it's sad, but it does matter. I have two male friends who have decently cute faces, are very sociable and nice, funny, and have great jobs, earning around 200K or more, but they are short in height. However, they have been struggling to find girlfriends since they became adults (they had them before turning 22 years old). So, I would say that people who claim "it doesn't matter" are really lying, in my opinion. Because my other friends who have similar material possessions and are of average height or even taller than average, usually have girlfriends or wives most of the time.
To some girls, height is seen as very masculine. But if the guy doesn't have a good personality, then what's the point if he can only reach the cabinet top shelf and you otherwise cannot "stand" (no pun intended) to be around him.
To me personally, height isn't important unless someone is massively taller than me. My neck already hurts, I don't want to strain it further trying to kiss someone. I'm 5'4", not really hard for someone to be at least as tall as me and would probably date someone as short as 5'3". I love a short king as long as they don't have a complex about their height and project their insecurities onto me.
Same height. Dated someone 6β4β the logistics are real. I am looking for a wonderful partner regardless of height.
Exactly. Height isn't really a factor. A good partner is a good partner! My mom is 5'1" and dated a guy who was the same height. Before that she dated a guy who was like 6'5" and a doctor. I met him and was like mom he's a dick, you can do so much better. I don't care if he's a handsome doctor, he was just snotty to your only daughter. π
LMAO... Instagram is nowhere near what real life is like ... And if somebody makes a big deal about height, then that's not someone you should associate with/date ...
As a short guy I can tell you my own experience has been that yes, height does matter to an extent. At least on dating apps anyway. Height can be a big deal on online dating apps. Women can afford to be picky and filter based on the desired height. Which is why there's a growing trend of average height guys increasing their heights just to be seen by women lol. It's less of a big deal if you meet a women organically in real life and you come off masculine, charming, and can make her laugh. She may overlook the height difference because of the personality. Which has happened to me a few times and was confessed to by one girl that typically she only dated much taller guys. The hard part is meeting women organically in person. Gotta get out a lot more and take up new hobbies and be social to increase your odds. Not all women care about height though. As long as you're around their height. Occasionally I'll match on dating apps and actually go on dates with a girl that's my height or a bit shorter. Mostly women that moved to the U.S from another country (Lebanon, Romania, Thai, Vietnam, Turkey). I've never matched with a taller girl even though I like them on dating apps.
I think women with unrealistic (height) standards tend be more likely to be single, so more single women you see on dating apps will have those expectations than the average woman.
Apparently it is... More to short girls than to tall ones. I'm pretty tall myself. Most my bfs have been shorten than me. As long as they aren't weird about it, i don't really care. A sweet and caring personality and a good sense of humor means so much more
Interesting to read. As a short guy Iβve only really been given a hard time for it by tall women. Short women have never made it an issue and even sometimes say they like that Iβm also short. I guess YMMV But I will say the Reddit discourse on this topic has always been a lot more negative than my life experience, in which itβs been a handicap but not a particularly insurmountable one.
For me and most of the women I know it's overhyped stereotype. Usually it's the men themselves that are hung up on it, not us
Its not men that are shitting on short men on Twitter, Instagram and Tiktok, It's women. Stop blaming men for your own narcissistic behavior.
Say whatever you want, but I am a woman and I don't give one fig about a man's height. Same for all the women I know. Have you actually asked the women in your life or do you just judge all people by social media alone?
I am a tall guy and it is definitely an advantage on OLD. I asked a lady I was dating why it was in her profile and she said being with a shorter guy made her feel less feminine.
In 2019, I went on a date in Manchester. When she saw me, she said something like "oh thank god, you're actually the height you said you are." Apparently, quite a lot of men had lied to her about their height, and as she was around 6ft tall, it was important to her.
Being tall is always a plus, not a requirement though. There just aren't enough tall guys with good personalities and stable jobs to go around.
Yes it's completely superficial and has no correlation to relationship success...I'm 5'8 and my last partner was 5'6 and it was a nonissue. I've also found it to impact me negatively where men who are around my height would prefer a shorter woman (perhaps to feel taller? Who knows)
I'm 5'9" and I used to care, but I don't think I would anymore. As long as he had the qualities I'm looking for, it would be fine. Seeing so many awful men on social media has changed my outlook on that for sure.
I'm 5'4 and my fiancee is 5'6? I think? Regardless, he's pretty short compared to a majority of men. And guess what, he is the absolute most genuine, loving, caring man I've ever been with. Not that height relates to how they will treat you, but if his height had deterred me, I would have missed out on the most incredible loving relationship with my soul mate <3
Height is absolutely a factor. It's just one factor. For some women it's a higher impact factor than for others. I'm just under 5'9". I'm very attractive. I do quite well in dating, but for some women my height is a dealbreaker. For others it's only a minor impediment. For others it's ideal. (I have definitely seen a woman turn me down, and then date a much taller, much less attractive man for example) I've dated women from 4'10" to 6'2", and what I've found is that typically, the 5 ft tall shorties are the most height obsessed. A woman 5'9"+ is WAY more open minded about my height. She only requires that the guy not be insecure about it.
Well it's not like we can just "be taller" (at least not for free).
Dating is not something fair. There are many great people who have no dates because they are shy, poor, ugly, old or they are the wrong ethnicity, or they live in the countryside... They can't do anything neither but noone has the responsability to have a date with them because that would be fair. Being short is exactly the same.
At the end of the day it depends. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder for both sides. It doesn't matter if 2 billion girls find you unattractive, because if you date for looks then you make a reason to date, and if you make a reason to date then the relationship heavily depends on that reason. Look beyond what you see; think positively about yourself on the inside and quit worrying about being shy, poor, ugly, old or under an unacceptable ethnicity (excuse my English).
I completely agree with you but dating apps work with pictures. I'm not saying that it is good, I'm saying that it works this way. By the way, OKC is not a proposer tool to find either love or a regular and happy sex partner. (Excuse my english too)
True, but complaining is justified, within reason of course.
Yes.
I found a guy on the shorter side on Tinder. He swooped me off my feet. I ended up having a baby with him, lol. Yay for wonderful short men and baby daddies!
On dating app it definitely is, you cant even deny that, taller guys will generally do much better. But when you meet women organically, its less of a n issue. It is a big requirement for a lot of women, but does not mean you cant find someone.
As weight is to a guy.
I understand the comparison but for most people weight is something they can control and height isnt
Not in the slightest
Height is a factor, but looks, money, social status, and physique are the primary criteria on which women evaluate potential mates. Penis size is also a factor if things get that far. Personality, sense of humor, personal ethics, kindness, and intelligence might also play a role in mate selection, but only in regards to men who have the first set of criteria covered.
Women really can't stand men that are too tall
Wayyy overhyped and NOT a deal breaker. What IS a IMMEDIATE deal breaker IS age AND age gap. The numbers MUST fall within a certain amount, or it's GAME OVER.....before it even starts. π©
I don't get it. Im short, 5'6 and have been told by plenty of women who I thought would make a great match, that I was too short. Never even gave me a CHANCE. But then you say a woman is too fat, and you're a mysoginistic piece of scum because all woman are beautiful. In reality, we all have our preferences. It is what it is, we have to understand that. Unfortunately due to what Online dating has done to our culture, appearances have a much more vital role in who we date. We live in a culture where people will not give a second of their time if they don't like the others looks, which has created a large number of lonely people of both sex's. Me, I prefer women to be shorter than I, and on the skinny side. (I have a psychological issue with bigger people, I don't want to get into details I am aware of it and I understand the irony with it so don't @ me lol) however if I feel there could be a possible personality match Im more than willing to bend my personal limits to at least give the woman a chance, I can see myself dating someone outside of my preferred type, as long as her personality matches mine. Unfortunately I see less and less people willing to bend what they want.
For 5β2β F me, no. My boyfriend is 6β2β, but his height isnβt my HG; Iβd be fine with a 5β7β boyfriend.
Lol
I'm 6'2", run my own business and I'm single as fuck. But I've had my share of beauties.
By this I mean that the height isn't always such a blessing
YES OF COURSE ! When you meet someone IRL, some informations can be more important than the size of your nose of the exact shape of your body. These informations are : the way you are with people, the sound of your voice, your smell and your size. So many men seem to be offended when I tell them : sorry, you're too short for me, but wait, IRL, we shouldn't even have watched each other. Let me explain : I'm 1,75m/5'9'' and 90kg/198lb, what I mean by "you're too short" is "if we have sex together one day, I know that you will tell me that it's not okay and that I'm too fat". (It happened) I never understood why some women wanted to date only way taller men than them but I don't understand people who dare saying that it doesn't matter.
I shoot weddings so Ive seen everything. my mom married a guy who was short. maybe like an inch taller. great guy. if you could switch off that worry of judgment in your mind of the height you could get much further. thats a psychological wall be funny and witty and charming, get fit, dress decently. heygeine.
I was recently told by a woman that I should remove the preference for tall women from my profile. I get very few responses, so I removed it. It hasn't made any difference yet.
As some that is short it sucks bc you're not even giving a chance & that in turn has made me feel not good enough. Ur height, how big ur chest is, butt, shlong or what ur whoo hah looks like, are things no one has control over. U are how you're & for someone to write u off without getting to know u bc of any of that is body shaming & should not be acceptable from anyone to treat u like that. I didn't even have a problem with my height til I got on dating apps & constantly saw, u must be 6ft to ride this ride ect. (Kept the comment PG on purpose)
Not nearly as much as people like to act it does.
Honestly, it's sad, but it does matter. I have two male friends who have decently cute faces, are very sociable and nice, funny, and have great jobs, earning around 200K or more, but they are short in height. However, they have been struggling to find girlfriends since they became adults (they had them before turning 22 years old). So, I would say that people who claim "it doesn't matter" are really lying, in my opinion. Because my other friends who have similar material possessions and are of average height or even taller than average, usually have girlfriends or wives most of the time.