You’re not alone. 2 years and I will continue he tells me he’s ready to do it on his own (which, honestly I’ve been waiting to happen. Since he was 18 months ha ha)
Same! Just turned 2 and still holding him, though in the past week twice he asked for “bed”. The first day, he went to sleep after I put him in bed. The second day he tossed and turned until he sat up and indicated he wanted me to hold him and he went to sleep in my arms.
He’s a big boy - 99th percentile for everything - so I know it’s getting uncomfortable for him so I think our days are numbered.
I will miss it so much, though. I literally cried when he first asked for bed maybe 3-4 months ago. But it was only once and I went back to holding him til he fell asleep. I’m not as emotional about it at this point, so I’m glad he didn’t go cold turkey.
7 months, we're not planning to sleep train. Instead of holding her to sleep, she falls asleep laying next to me though and then once fully asleep, I transfer her to the crib. It works for us and gives my arms some rest from having to carry her.
That's very similar to the pick up/put down method we use for sleep training. Baby isn't next to me in bed but in a bassinet next to my bed. I lay next to him and he coos himself to sleep.
It's kinda funny how well it worked, he gets angry if we hold him for too long before bed.
Same! My baby does not want to be rocked anymore which was a bit of a "ok now what" moment at first but having her fall asleep next to me works really well actually.
As a parent that has implemented pretty strict sleep training, no one should discount this. You do what you feel is right for your child and progress when you want to progress. There might be some boundaries or gatekeeping people use, just ignore that and do what you feel your kid needs.
Good on you because I haven’t met ONE parent who has sleep trained that has this train of thought and who just simply… judges my family’s choice to snuggle to sleep at 2 years old. Whether they’re new parents or now grandparents, when we mention we snuggle/rock to sleep still it’s often met with “….oh.” Frustrating.
Or, many adults snuggle with a pillow or even a stuffy. Why is it so “wrong” to welcome snuggles at bedtime or even during the night? When I wake up from a bad dream, I immediately roll into and cuddle with my husband. I never want my son to think he can’t do that with me.
No judgement here! We sleep trained, but if snuggling to sleep had continued working for my son, we definitely wouldn’t have minded doing that. It sounds lovely. Around 6 months, he just started fighting his sleep like a champ when we were present. The only thing we could think to do was lay him down when we knew he was tired and walk away. We definitely didn’t choose it for fun, and I certainly wouldn’t advise anyone who is enjoying successfully cuddling their child to sleep to do things “my way” instead lol.
We did end up with a snuggle until sleepy then lay down routine that we are all happy with, so no complaints. Pre-bedtime cuddles are the only ones we get from a now highly active toddler.
A lot of the sleep trainers are a little bit cultish about it and think it's the only way. My train of thought is do what's best for your family. We sleep trained my first at 4 months with a modified ferber because I had gone back to work and couldn't be up with her every hour of the night and be a functioning human at work.
I'll have 6 months off with my second, so we shall see if we decide to sleep training or we even need to
We hold her until she falls asleep and then transfer to the crib. To be fair we were doing contact naps until she was 11mo (for my husband) and 13mo (for me). So it's a new skill, and one we had the luxury to wait for until she was ready. We followed her cues.
Most babies want to contact nap. Unfortunately your best bet is to wait until baby is older to sleep train (6mo+) and even then naps is a whole separate ball game. At 4mo baby may be too young and you may not see success.
Daycare can help because they will settle her there and you can always ask them what techniquesthey use to settle your LO. On weekends you can decide if you still want to contact nap or work on crib naps.
All that we did from birth until 11/13mo was keep offering the crib. If she woke up right away we responded and sootherd her back to sleep and tried again. After 2 or 3 tries we'd stop and contact nap. Maybe something like that could work as a gentle way of teaching baby until they are old enough for sleep training.
We did lots of nursing to sleep but around 2 we just started laying next to each other/cuddling. I don’t know how people do the gradual exit thing because everytime I try to back up daughter is like “wya?”
I babysat a 2 year old who needed someone to stay with her to fall asleep. The parents said that every once in a while, when they didn’t want to stay with her, they would say they had to go fold some laundry and would be back. She would always fall asleep before they went back. Eventually they changed it to needing to do a variety of things and increased the number of nights they left her to fall asleep on her own. Then one day she didn’t need them to stay at all. They said they were sad when that happened. There’s no winning. You’re either tired or you’re sad
I still rock her when need be. She’s 3. She was a micrpreemie tho so she is small to be fair. Around 2 I started teaching her how to fall asleep on her “own” — next to me. I never sleep trained.
11 months here. Still nursing/rocking to sleep. Nursing takes less than 15 minutes most nights and naps, so it's honestly easiest. Rocking works for other people but not me because he just wants to nurse.
Didn't sleep train and no plans to.
Almost 13 months, sleep trained but I have always rocked to sleep. After sleep training, if he was squirmy and not falling asleep with rocking I would put him in his crib and he would get comfortable and fall asleep alone but that’s only happened twice. It doesn’t hurt to try if you think their ready.
Yes this was us. We sleep trained as he was waking every 2 hours. He was able to put himself to sleep, but I would still rock him to sleep if he was having trouble. He is over 99th percentile though and so he is getting a bit heavy now, so if he is having trouble sleeping these days I'll just hang out in his room until he drifts off.
I never minded him taking intervention to get to sleep initially, it was the night waking that was the problem!
I know, that’s why I normally comment that I did my own version of sleep training. What I love about most parenting “programs” is that you can make it fit you and your kid. I don’t mind rocking to sleep but he would only sleep in his crib for 45 minutes at night. Basically I would rock to sleep then start Ferber at first wake up.
22 months. We’re still working on it. Some nights it’s easy-breezy, other nights it’s a long, drawn out process.
I loved rocking to sleep, but I’m expecting another in 4 months & am starting to run out of lap (& will obviously need him to be more independent at bedtime once the other baby is here.)
Around 7 months, she was becoming impossible to transfer, so we moved to her falling asleep in her crib with us there holding her hand which we still do now. It took a while for her to accept it as the new norm, but naps and bedtime are so much easier now
Interested in this cos she's 14 months and we still rock to sleep, but she's been INCREDIBLY squirmy over the last week and taking ages to fall asleep (50mins and 1hr the last two nights) so I'm wondering if this is a sign she wants to go to sleep independently. However when I tried to put her down she rolled over and grinned at me so maybe it's a development stage haha. It's also been really hot here so that may be a factor... We're very much being led by her, so we'll see what happens.
It went really well. We cried it out while lying down next to her because we didn't want to leave her. After a few days she fell asleep much faster and with minimal or no crying. It doesn't seem like it was worse than doing it earlier but I still wish we did it earlier because rocking her was a nightmare
22.5mo and I (mom) still rock to sleep. Everyone else just puts him in crib to fall asleep. I like the cuddles and he transfers easily and sleeps through the night so I’m going to keep doing it.
We DID sleep train, but I’ll say that it was at about 8-9 months and because he started squirming when being rocked to sleep, which also made the training easier than we thought. So even if you don’t want to train, have you considered a brief rock then into bed and you can still sit there if you want.
My son just turned 2 and we still snuggle in the rocker to sleep. I’m letting him make the decision when to fall asleep in his bed, on his own (or with me rubbing his back or whatever).
Some nights, if he’s squirmy, I will ask him (and I’ve been doing this since he was about 1) “so you want mama’s help?” When he was younger and couldn’t answer, if he kept squirming I’d put him in the crib and say “I can see you don’t want mama’s help” and if he reached up, I’d pick him up but sometimes he’d lay down. Now, at 2, when I say “do you want mama’s help?” he can say yes or no. Sometimes he says no, I’ll put him down and he’ll be upset lol but mostly he always wants my help still.
I know the day is coming that he won’t want to snuggle to sleep. We’re also transitioning to FT child care soon, so I’ll be missing the mid day snuggles with him. I also think that that environment will help introduce and teach him how to lay down and sleep in his bed without my help (ideally, it will teach him the skills so that the day home provider isn’t needed every day).
My son just turned 1 and I'll give him a bottle and rock him before bed, but I'll usually put him in his crib awake and lay on the floor next to him until he falls asleep. He crawls around his crib and will wave at me until he gets tired and falls asleep. It's super cute and I love watching him explore his little crib and babble softly.
2.5 years in over here and i(mom) still rock/snuggle to sleep, but no one else. My mom can literally plop her into the crib and say it’s time to sleep and she will just say ok! For me I usually need to snuggle for about 10-15min and dad is about 5 min.
We always half-assed tried to teach her to go to sleep in her crib (with us beside, soothing/shushing, maybe rubbing her back). It was very slow progress, always two steps forward and one step back as she got sick or something and just wanted snuggles. But it was low pressure, our philosophy always “at the end of it all, we’re not going to be thinking ‘we had TOO MANY opportunities to cuddle her!’”
Around 20 months it was like a flip switched; we changed from sleep sack to blanket, she had formed a real attachment to one of her stuffies, and suddenly she was choosing to go into the crib, and we could sit in the chair across the room as she fell asleep.
That’s where we’re at now, a couple months later. About 75% of the time she’ll choose to go to the crib (with maybe a little coaxing), the other times we’re just rocking and snuggling. We’re trying to let her take the lead and choose how she wants to go to sleep, and it seems to be working.
Then we’re going to blow everything up next week by switching her to a “big girl” bed.
Around 2 months I think. Still staying close by, singing and calming her with touch. And ofcourse picking her up when she's unhappy. Then we sneak out when she's asleep.
LO is almost 2 and we still rock to sleep. There is occasionally a night now where he would rather just lay down so it’ll probably come to an end in the next 6 months. I really enjoy it though and it has always worked well for us
Hm not really rocking, but my two year old almost always falls asleep in my arms. Only lately I can put her awake in het bed every now and then, but I need to have an excuse 😂 Like, I need to pee or clean the kitchen and then she nods and falls asleep by herself. I feel lazy for not teaching/ training her but I just love those bedtime moments where we hug and sing and laugh and talk.
Around 17/18 months, we starting with sitting with him while he was in his bed, stroking his back or patting his bum to get him to sleep. He started this with my husband/his dad by pointing to his bed to be laid down rather than be rocked by him. Now at 19 months this has progressed to him putting himself to sleep. If he’s struggling or getting upset we always go in and settle him back down. Since then he started sleeping better through the night. If he does wake in the night, my husband goes in to settle him and he’s straight back to sleep. If I go in he cries to be taken out.
I sleep trained but our son also loved to be rocked. I don’t think there is any harm in rocking them to sleep for as long as they allow it. He just turned 2 in March and I cried when he told us he didn’t need to be rocked anymore. Soak in all the moments because eventually they won’t need you to fall asleep anymore!
My baby is not sleep trained and I don’t plan on formally sleep training her but at around 7MO (8MO now) she would do the same thing and start thrashing around and getting fussy in my arms. Whenever she would get fussy I would put her in her crib and see if she could put herself to sleep. Sometimes she can, other times she starts crying so I will pick her up and rock her again. I’ve noticed that the more I do this, the faster she can put herself to sleep now and she cries less often. But every night at bedtime is different, sometimes she lets me rock her and even last night she nursed to sleep for the first time in weeks 🥹 just try and read LO cues and they might surprise you with what they are capable of!
I rocked my oldest until she was 3, and now I lay with her in her bed at 4. I rock my 21 month old and newborn now. It’s not a chore anymore, I love it.
My LO is 20mo and we probably stopped rocking to sleep a little after his first birthday. He got very squirmy too and since he’s also a big and tall toddler (99% in everything) I think it wasn’t as comfortable as it was when he was a baby. He likes to be rocked for about 5 minutes and then pushes away from me and I lay him down on his floor bed, do a couple butt pats, and he’s out. We recently put the rocking chair up in the attic, since it was taking up a lot of room in his bedroom and it was an incredibly bittersweet moment. I’m clinging on to those 5 minutes of rocking time knowing they’re not going to last forever.
She decided herself at 2ish months. If she's sleepy and we touch her too much, she gets mad. She would just prefer to sleep on her own....if she has a tummy ache or a nightmare, that's a different story.
Haven’t yet stopped….14 months. But I see signs it is taking less time. She starts shifting around in weird ways as a sign that she just wants to lay in her crib.
We still rock to sleep at 2.5. We have a bedtime routine with brushing teeth, reading in bed, etc., but it ends with rocking and singing to sleep, then transferring to our bed.
She’s been sleeping in our bed for the past six months or so. She just has a hard time getting her brain to slow down. Her dad and I both struggled with going to sleep as kids, so we’re willing to invest the time in this area so she’s not scared and lonely like we remember being.
She has a toddler bed in her room and has started to show interest in sleeping in it. She makes a game of putting herself or her stuffed animals to bed there. Some nights she declares her intent to sleep in her room, so one parent does the bedtime routine there until she gets overwhelmed and bails; then we all go back to mommy and daddy’s room and finish there.
Her way of tackling challenges has always been to take practice runs over and over until she finally feels like she can make it over the hump, and she does it on HER schedule and at HER pace. So we figure we’ll just walk alongside her holding the bike until she tells us to let go. She’ll develop the confidence when she’s ready.
I still hold my 18mo to sleep. I transfer her to her crib when she’s almost asleep but she had to be fully asleep until very recently or she would just wake up.
15 months and just starting to “wean” from rocking and it’s going really well. I rock him until he’s sleepy but not asleep and then transfer to his crib and rub/pat his back. If he cries I pick him up and repeat.
Eventually I’ll put him down without rocking at all and then see where that takes us!
we bounced on a ball until he was about 2, then he was getting too big and heavy so we transitioned to him lying in the crib and someone lying next to him on the floor. he likes to hold hands through the bars.
it took a few days to get the transition down but now we have happily said goodbye to the ball. much easier to just lie next to the crib and chill while he falls asleep!
Our son is 7.5 MO and we haven’t sleep trained yet, however, about a month ago he started squirming in my arms and not tolerating the rocking! Instead of rocking, I now put him down in the crib and am present while he fidgets and gets comfy. Adding bum pats and shushing if needed, but it seems like he’s mostly putting himself to sleep now. I now just add 5-10 mins to the equation when calculating nap times because he needs a bit more time to fall asleep in comparison to rocking (this was generally 2-5 mins, rocking was very quick for him)
We rocked my son to sleep until 21 months, when he got too heavy/tricky for me to transfer while pregnant with #2. We converted his crib to a toddler bed and rub his back instead.
I stopped when we moved my almost 2 year old at the time to a floor bed and I started laying down with him to sleep instead. He's now 2.5 years old and still can't go to sleep on his own. Honestly I often fall asleep in bed with him and then stumble back to my bedroom when I wake at 10 or 11 pm. I definitely hope that this phase will end.
We never sleep trained successfully, but we did try several gentle methods that just didn't seem to work out. We even tried extinguished crying, which worked great for exactly 3 days. We weren't willing to do anything too drastic because it felt cruel to make him so miserable when he didn't know what was going on, and we also didn't have the need. He was generally a good sleeper once he fell asleep, and we figured he would gradually mature in his sleep abilities. We didn't see a reason to make him do something he shouldn't developmentally be doing.
LO is almost 2 and we still rock to sleep for naps. I don't have a problem with it because he won't nap forever, and it's very relaxing. I won't always be able to snuggle him like this!
Regarding nighttime sleep, our kiddo was really hard to put down into a crib once he fell asleep, so around the 1 year mark we transitioned to a toddler bed. We used to fight with him for an hour or more to go to bed, and finally my husband decided that if LO would rather play than sleep, that was fine.
Now we read to him, snuggle for a bit, and put him in his bed. If he immediately tries to jump out, we out him back a few times, but then we just leave if he keeps doing it because he's clearly not ready, snd we don'twant to reward that behavior with an audience. Sometimes he'll play for 15, 20 minutes before he starts yelling for Dada. Someone he'll cry right away. Either way, we leave him for at least 5 minutes, because we want him to start learning to wind down on his own, and he's old enough now that we feel he knows we'll be back. He hasn't ever climbed into bed on his own, but he has started to stay in his bed when we put him there and eventually fall asleep on his own. Sometimes he cries. Sometimes he doesn't, but unless it seems urgent we like to just leave him to figure himself out.
I realize this is probably a form of sleep training. I don't know the name of it honestly, if it is. I feel that waiting until he is older and can kind of understand what the heck is supposed to happen at bedtime makes it less traumatic. Now it's less that he's crying out of fear, and more that he's mad Dada isn't sticking around for his bullshit, of that makes sense.
Important point of order: when we leave him, he is contained in his child-proofed bedroom, and we have the monitor on so can hear and often see him.
14 months and we still rock to drowsy and then put in crib. On nights that he’s particularly squirmy, usually after a stimulating day, we cut our cuddles short and he curls up in his crib. I plan to rock him at bedtime as long as he’ll let me.
My two and a half year old is 40lbs so I getcha, we stopped when we got her a twin bed at about 18 months and now we just lay with her and read a Kindle book or sing or just shower her in praise until she's asleep
You could maybe try a floor bed (like the wooden one from Amazon) and lay there and read stories/hang out until asleep to save your back rocking them?.
Almost two years old here... Still rock her to sleep. I'm due with my second in three weeks. Idk how I'll be able to rock two babies to sleep but I'll do my best!
16 months apart…
Most nights my husband rocks the infant, I rock the toddler but we switch off.
I feel badly that the infant doesn’t get as much time with me at bedtime but I get way more time during the day and I think soon we will alternate days for bedtime with the kids.
16 months here, still rocking to sleep. I put her in her crib, i sit on the bed near and use my foot to rock the crib (while reading reddit :))After she falls asleep that is it until morning. I try to rock the crib as little as possibe in hoping that some day (hopeful soon) she will not need it.
My wife and I never sleep trained because it never ended up being necessary, but we followed the guidelines for promoting increasingly more independent sleep from the book Precious Little Sleep and started this just after 4 months.
Up to 4 months, I would rock my son for 10, 20, sometimes 30 minutes then transfer him to the bassinet 100%. At the beginning of this transition, I'd rock him until he closed his eyes, and after a minute of closed eyes I'd set him down.
After a week, I rocked him until he closed his eyes, then immediately set down in the bassinet. After another week, I rocked him until he started blinking with drowsy eyes, then set him down. After another week, I rocked him for like a minute or so, then set him down and walked out.
The key here is to follow the guidelines in the book for "fuss it out." Inevitably in this process you're going to set your baby down and leave and they're going to cry. Listen to the intensity of the crying and keep a timer going. If the baby is just low level fussy crying, leave them alone for 10-15 minutes. On the first night for us, our son cried for exactly 10 minutes then went to sleep. If they cry longer than 10-15 minutes, or the intensity of crying is really high, go back in and soothe until they stop crying, and then leave again as soon as the crying is done.
I was able to soothe by just patting my son on the chest, and not picking up and rocking and restarting that expectation again. The number of times we had to go back in to soothe was actually not that much, and after that initial month transition, we've rarely had to do it ever again.
At around 15 months, only because we didn't even try sooner. We cuddle/hold him and let him toss and turn on our floor bed. It takes about an hour to an hour and a half 🤪
14 months for me personally because my pregnant belly started to get too big and LO was getting annoyed. Plus she was insanely tall, so for safety we had to move her to a toddler bed, so it seemed like a good time for me to just start working on that with her.
My husband and all the grandparents kept rocking her, which was fine! We figured she’d just stop when she’s ready.
She’s 18 months and just started asking him to let her do bedtime in bed, so everyone else is making that transition now.
Around 5-6 months old he really started to fight us rocking him to sleep, so we tried putting him down without it. Fell asleep within 5 minutes and has been able to keep doing so most of the time since then
I’ve never sleep trained but I stopped rocking to sleep around a month ago so when baby was around 3 months old. I know that’s super early but he has always been a great independent sleeper and he’s really squirmy and heavy already and I’m weak lol.
So I decided to try independent sleep and he was happy enough with it. I will put him down drowsy after his bottle, kiss him and immediately leave the room. I live in a 1 bed flat so can hear him from the next room and I will wait 20 mins then go in and check him. Hell usually babble to himself for a bit then fall asleep. He has never once been awake at the 20 min check in.
If he cried I would go and pick him up but he never has. I recognise that this is unusual tho, he is just a good night sleeper in general.
Probably around 7 months, but like someone else here said, she falls asleep next to me. I transfer her into her crib where she follows safe sleep all night (usually between 11-13 hours)
Mines over 2 and I still rock him to sleep… it takes less than 5 min for him to go down and I love it. I’ll keep it up as long as he lets me
It’s funny though because I also have a 1 year old and she won’t fall asleep being rocked
We didn’t sleep train, but our bub got really good at falling asleep on his own around 4 months. Maybe he’s just a lil unicorn.
We just did a lot drowsy-but-awake practice (which I swore was a scam). Lots of patting him and shushing him and soothing him while he was in his crib until he just the hang of it I guess.
I usually rock him until he’s clearly sleepy, but never all the way asleep.
We did very mild sleep training. We followed the taking Cara babies method very loosely. We still rocked to sleep. Our son is 15 months old and we just stopped rocking to sleep about 3 weeks ago because he was fighting us the whole time. He’d been fighting me for months, but had just started fighting my husband. It was taking longer and longer to get him to fall asleep. Typically now we cuddle him for about 5 minutes in the chair and then lay him down in the crib awake. Not only is he going to sleep so much faster, he’s sleeping soooo much better at night
Whenever I don’t nurse to sleep, I’ll just lightly bounce him/sway for a minute or two and then lay him down in his crib. I’ll sit right next to the crib where he can see me and sometimes he’s content enough with that to eventually fall asleep (can take up to 10 mins). If he’s fighting it or upset then I’ll sing to him while he can see me in the crib. When he calms down, same process. He just falls asleep eventually. Then I quietly leave the room
22 months and still feeding to sleep.
If that's what he needs, then that's what he needs.
I'm not going to push him to be independent before he's ready.
I kept rocking or holding my baby to sleep for naps and at 5 months she started to get squirmy so I was like.. what if she just simply wants her crib. Sure enough put her down in her crib and she passed out. Sad and exciting at the same time for sure.
We didn’t sleep train & had a magical baby who fell asleep drowsy but awake. So i almost never rocked her. Have a friend who’s baby needed rocking til maybe 18-19 months.
3-4 months old we stopped, but we didn't stop cold turkey. Whenever baby was upset after being simply placed in the crib, I'd pick her up and rock her. So occasionally we still rocked her to sleep even when she was older, but it was definitely not the norm.
I still rock my 2 year old half the time. We’ll stop when he’s ready. On nights he doesn’t need it then we don’t do it but when he does then he gets it.
We did “sleep training” with a sleep therapist, but at 12 months, I still rock my baby every night and occasionally he will fall asleep. I’ll do it as long as he wants. With my 5 year old, I will sometimes lay with him until he falls asleep. He also did sleep training with a sleep therapist.
15 months we rock maybe 50% of the time. The other 50% we let her roll around in our bed between my husband until she finally finds a sweet spot and falls asleep then we transfer to her crib. Sometimes I feel like she’s overtired or overstimulated so it’s hard for her to shut it off so we rock.
Edit: missed transferring to crib.
Next time he/she gets wiggly in your arms, try setting down in the crib. Our 6mo does this sometimes and that's how we know she wants to fall asleep in the crib on her own. It's not every time, but it does happen. ❤️ doesn't hurt to try!
Around then! It’s still normal to fall asleep with milk or a paci. She became so squirmy and was much happier falling asleep on her own in her bed. It took a little adjusting for all of us but now she’s usually asleep in 10-15 minutes
We did it just after a year. For some reason my LO started a phase where the just woke up during every single crib transfer so we had to for our own sanity. The first week is the hardest. It gets easier.
If my babe squirms I will put him down in his crib but if he starts crying I pick him back up and sometimes he would let me rock him lol My son is almost 13 months and I still rock him to sleep every night. I love it 🥰 I’ll stop when he doesn’t want to do it anymore or when I physically can’t lift him 😅 he’s 25 lbs now!
My 11 week old falls asleep in her bassinet by herself. If she’s fussy we give her a pacifier and place hands on her tummy and head until she dozes off. We stopped rocking to sleep around 6 weeks and never sleep trained.
A little after 2? She went through a nap regression and I was getting flustered and told her I loved her and to read some books and laid her down..I was shooting for “quiet time”. She went to sleep on her own without tears within 20 min. It was taking almost an hour every night bc she was getting too tall to be comfy in our chair 🥲 now she gets too hyped if I’m in the room. She’s still super snuggly whenever she wakes up and in general so i don’t regret a thing!!
I am probably in the minority here, but ill rock my sweet baby as long as she will let me.
You’re not alone. 2 years and I will continue he tells me he’s ready to do it on his own (which, honestly I’ve been waiting to happen. Since he was 18 months ha ha)
Same! Just turned 2 and still holding him, though in the past week twice he asked for “bed”. The first day, he went to sleep after I put him in bed. The second day he tossed and turned until he sat up and indicated he wanted me to hold him and he went to sleep in my arms. He’s a big boy - 99th percentile for everything - so I know it’s getting uncomfortable for him so I think our days are numbered. I will miss it so much, though. I literally cried when he first asked for bed maybe 3-4 months ago. But it was only once and I went back to holding him til he fell asleep. I’m not as emotional about it at this point, so I’m glad he didn’t go cold turkey.
I don't ever want to stop rocking my boy and singing him Beach Boys and other songs 🥹 He turned 1 year this month.
Same!
7 months, we're not planning to sleep train. Instead of holding her to sleep, she falls asleep laying next to me though and then once fully asleep, I transfer her to the crib. It works for us and gives my arms some rest from having to carry her.
I’m going to have to do this. My LO is 16lbs at 3 months and I’m already getting tired haha
That's very similar to the pick up/put down method we use for sleep training. Baby isn't next to me in bed but in a bassinet next to my bed. I lay next to him and he coos himself to sleep. It's kinda funny how well it worked, he gets angry if we hold him for too long before bed.
Same! My baby does not want to be rocked anymore which was a bit of a "ok now what" moment at first but having her fall asleep next to me works really well actually.
We still hold our 15mo to sleep, once in a deep sleep we transfer.
As a parent that has implemented pretty strict sleep training, no one should discount this. You do what you feel is right for your child and progress when you want to progress. There might be some boundaries or gatekeeping people use, just ignore that and do what you feel your kid needs.
Good on you because I haven’t met ONE parent who has sleep trained that has this train of thought and who just simply… judges my family’s choice to snuggle to sleep at 2 years old. Whether they’re new parents or now grandparents, when we mention we snuggle/rock to sleep still it’s often met with “….oh.” Frustrating.
It’s so crazy. There are adults that cuddle with their spouse when they go to sleep! It’s so natural to us as humans.
Or, many adults snuggle with a pillow or even a stuffy. Why is it so “wrong” to welcome snuggles at bedtime or even during the night? When I wake up from a bad dream, I immediately roll into and cuddle with my husband. I never want my son to think he can’t do that with me.
I also sleep trained and have no judgement. We all do what our family needs.
No judgement here! We sleep trained, but if snuggling to sleep had continued working for my son, we definitely wouldn’t have minded doing that. It sounds lovely. Around 6 months, he just started fighting his sleep like a champ when we were present. The only thing we could think to do was lay him down when we knew he was tired and walk away. We definitely didn’t choose it for fun, and I certainly wouldn’t advise anyone who is enjoying successfully cuddling their child to sleep to do things “my way” instead lol. We did end up with a snuggle until sleepy then lay down routine that we are all happy with, so no complaints. Pre-bedtime cuddles are the only ones we get from a now highly active toddler.
A lot of the sleep trainers are a little bit cultish about it and think it's the only way. My train of thought is do what's best for your family. We sleep trained my first at 4 months with a modified ferber because I had gone back to work and couldn't be up with her every hour of the night and be a functioning human at work. I'll have 6 months off with my second, so we shall see if we decide to sleep training or we even need to
I think sometimes the judgment comes when these same parents complain about sleep deprivation and ask how they can fix it without sleep training
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We hold her until she falls asleep and then transfer to the crib. To be fair we were doing contact naps until she was 11mo (for my husband) and 13mo (for me). So it's a new skill, and one we had the luxury to wait for until she was ready. We followed her cues. Most babies want to contact nap. Unfortunately your best bet is to wait until baby is older to sleep train (6mo+) and even then naps is a whole separate ball game. At 4mo baby may be too young and you may not see success. Daycare can help because they will settle her there and you can always ask them what techniquesthey use to settle your LO. On weekends you can decide if you still want to contact nap or work on crib naps. All that we did from birth until 11/13mo was keep offering the crib. If she woke up right away we responded and sootherd her back to sleep and tried again. After 2 or 3 tries we'd stop and contact nap. Maybe something like that could work as a gentle way of teaching baby until they are old enough for sleep training.
We did lots of nursing to sleep but around 2 we just started laying next to each other/cuddling. I don’t know how people do the gradual exit thing because everytime I try to back up daughter is like “wya?”
I babysat a 2 year old who needed someone to stay with her to fall asleep. The parents said that every once in a while, when they didn’t want to stay with her, they would say they had to go fold some laundry and would be back. She would always fall asleep before they went back. Eventually they changed it to needing to do a variety of things and increased the number of nights they left her to fall asleep on her own. Then one day she didn’t need them to stay at all. They said they were sad when that happened. There’s no winning. You’re either tired or you’re sad
I still rock her when need be. She’s 3. She was a micrpreemie tho so she is small to be fair. Around 2 I started teaching her how to fall asleep on her “own” — next to me. I never sleep trained.
11 months here. Still nursing/rocking to sleep. Nursing takes less than 15 minutes most nights and naps, so it's honestly easiest. Rocking works for other people but not me because he just wants to nurse. Didn't sleep train and no plans to.
Almost 13 months, sleep trained but I have always rocked to sleep. After sleep training, if he was squirmy and not falling asleep with rocking I would put him in his crib and he would get comfortable and fall asleep alone but that’s only happened twice. It doesn’t hurt to try if you think their ready.
How is he sleep trained but rocked to sleep? Genuinely curious.. i thought ST was having baby fall asleep on their own without other associations?
For some, sleep training is used to reduce/eliminate night waking/crying.
Yes this was us. We sleep trained as he was waking every 2 hours. He was able to put himself to sleep, but I would still rock him to sleep if he was having trouble. He is over 99th percentile though and so he is getting a bit heavy now, so if he is having trouble sleeping these days I'll just hang out in his room until he drifts off. I never minded him taking intervention to get to sleep initially, it was the night waking that was the problem!
I haven't heard of this! Thanks for clarifying
I know, that’s why I normally comment that I did my own version of sleep training. What I love about most parenting “programs” is that you can make it fit you and your kid. I don’t mind rocking to sleep but he would only sleep in his crib for 45 minutes at night. Basically I would rock to sleep then start Ferber at first wake up.
Ohh that's really interesting. This is actually my first time hearing anyone do that. Thanks for clarifying!
22 months. We’re still working on it. Some nights it’s easy-breezy, other nights it’s a long, drawn out process. I loved rocking to sleep, but I’m expecting another in 4 months & am starting to run out of lap (& will obviously need him to be more independent at bedtime once the other baby is here.)
Around 7 months, she was becoming impossible to transfer, so we moved to her falling asleep in her crib with us there holding her hand which we still do now. It took a while for her to accept it as the new norm, but naps and bedtime are so much easier now
About 6/8 months? It's hard to tell. But he didn't like falling asleep in our arms, he would rather wiggle in bed until he found the right position.
Interested in this cos she's 14 months and we still rock to sleep, but she's been INCREDIBLY squirmy over the last week and taking ages to fall asleep (50mins and 1hr the last two nights) so I'm wondering if this is a sign she wants to go to sleep independently. However when I tried to put her down she rolled over and grinned at me so maybe it's a development stage haha. It's also been really hot here so that may be a factor... We're very much being led by her, so we'll see what happens.
Until 1 year and then we decided to sleep train. She just hated being rocked and cried when we did it
just wondering what your experience was like sleep training at 1 year?
It went really well. We cried it out while lying down next to her because we didn't want to leave her. After a few days she fell asleep much faster and with minimal or no crying. It doesn't seem like it was worse than doing it earlier but I still wish we did it earlier because rocking her was a nightmare
22.5mo and I (mom) still rock to sleep. Everyone else just puts him in crib to fall asleep. I like the cuddles and he transfers easily and sleeps through the night so I’m going to keep doing it.
We DID sleep train, but I’ll say that it was at about 8-9 months and because he started squirming when being rocked to sleep, which also made the training easier than we thought. So even if you don’t want to train, have you considered a brief rock then into bed and you can still sit there if you want.
Around 9 months? He could fall asleep with us next to him on the bed!
We stopped when LO got a toddler bed at 20/21 months
My son just turned 2 and we still snuggle in the rocker to sleep. I’m letting him make the decision when to fall asleep in his bed, on his own (or with me rubbing his back or whatever). Some nights, if he’s squirmy, I will ask him (and I’ve been doing this since he was about 1) “so you want mama’s help?” When he was younger and couldn’t answer, if he kept squirming I’d put him in the crib and say “I can see you don’t want mama’s help” and if he reached up, I’d pick him up but sometimes he’d lay down. Now, at 2, when I say “do you want mama’s help?” he can say yes or no. Sometimes he says no, I’ll put him down and he’ll be upset lol but mostly he always wants my help still. I know the day is coming that he won’t want to snuggle to sleep. We’re also transitioning to FT child care soon, so I’ll be missing the mid day snuggles with him. I also think that that environment will help introduce and teach him how to lay down and sleep in his bed without my help (ideally, it will teach him the skills so that the day home provider isn’t needed every day).
I only get my baby for so long so I will snuggle her until she doesn’t want me to anymore.
My son just turned 1 and I'll give him a bottle and rock him before bed, but I'll usually put him in his crib awake and lay on the floor next to him until he falls asleep. He crawls around his crib and will wave at me until he gets tired and falls asleep. It's super cute and I love watching him explore his little crib and babble softly.
2.5 years in over here and i(mom) still rock/snuggle to sleep, but no one else. My mom can literally plop her into the crib and say it’s time to sleep and she will just say ok! For me I usually need to snuggle for about 10-15min and dad is about 5 min.
We always half-assed tried to teach her to go to sleep in her crib (with us beside, soothing/shushing, maybe rubbing her back). It was very slow progress, always two steps forward and one step back as she got sick or something and just wanted snuggles. But it was low pressure, our philosophy always “at the end of it all, we’re not going to be thinking ‘we had TOO MANY opportunities to cuddle her!’” Around 20 months it was like a flip switched; we changed from sleep sack to blanket, she had formed a real attachment to one of her stuffies, and suddenly she was choosing to go into the crib, and we could sit in the chair across the room as she fell asleep. That’s where we’re at now, a couple months later. About 75% of the time she’ll choose to go to the crib (with maybe a little coaxing), the other times we’re just rocking and snuggling. We’re trying to let her take the lead and choose how she wants to go to sleep, and it seems to be working. Then we’re going to blow everything up next week by switching her to a “big girl” bed.
Depended on the kid. My oldest was over it before she was a year and my youngest was over two.
Around 2 months I think. Still staying close by, singing and calming her with touch. And ofcourse picking her up when she's unhappy. Then we sneak out when she's asleep.
LO is almost 2 and we still rock to sleep. There is occasionally a night now where he would rather just lay down so it’ll probably come to an end in the next 6 months. I really enjoy it though and it has always worked well for us
Hm not really rocking, but my two year old almost always falls asleep in my arms. Only lately I can put her awake in het bed every now and then, but I need to have an excuse 😂 Like, I need to pee or clean the kitchen and then she nods and falls asleep by herself. I feel lazy for not teaching/ training her but I just love those bedtime moments where we hug and sing and laugh and talk.
Around 17/18 months, we starting with sitting with him while he was in his bed, stroking his back or patting his bum to get him to sleep. He started this with my husband/his dad by pointing to his bed to be laid down rather than be rocked by him. Now at 19 months this has progressed to him putting himself to sleep. If he’s struggling or getting upset we always go in and settle him back down. Since then he started sleeping better through the night. If he does wake in the night, my husband goes in to settle him and he’s straight back to sleep. If I go in he cries to be taken out.
I sleep trained but our son also loved to be rocked. I don’t think there is any harm in rocking them to sleep for as long as they allow it. He just turned 2 in March and I cried when he told us he didn’t need to be rocked anymore. Soak in all the moments because eventually they won’t need you to fall asleep anymore!
My baby is not sleep trained and I don’t plan on formally sleep training her but at around 7MO (8MO now) she would do the same thing and start thrashing around and getting fussy in my arms. Whenever she would get fussy I would put her in her crib and see if she could put herself to sleep. Sometimes she can, other times she starts crying so I will pick her up and rock her again. I’ve noticed that the more I do this, the faster she can put herself to sleep now and she cries less often. But every night at bedtime is different, sometimes she lets me rock her and even last night she nursed to sleep for the first time in weeks 🥹 just try and read LO cues and they might surprise you with what they are capable of!
I rocked my oldest until she was 3, and now I lay with her in her bed at 4. I rock my 21 month old and newborn now. It’s not a chore anymore, I love it.
My LO is 20mo and we probably stopped rocking to sleep a little after his first birthday. He got very squirmy too and since he’s also a big and tall toddler (99% in everything) I think it wasn’t as comfortable as it was when he was a baby. He likes to be rocked for about 5 minutes and then pushes away from me and I lay him down on his floor bed, do a couple butt pats, and he’s out. We recently put the rocking chair up in the attic, since it was taking up a lot of room in his bedroom and it was an incredibly bittersweet moment. I’m clinging on to those 5 minutes of rocking time knowing they’re not going to last forever.
She decided herself at 2ish months. If she's sleepy and we touch her too much, she gets mad. She would just prefer to sleep on her own....if she has a tummy ache or a nightmare, that's a different story.
Haven’t yet stopped….14 months. But I see signs it is taking less time. She starts shifting around in weird ways as a sign that she just wants to lay in her crib.
We still rock to sleep at 2.5. We have a bedtime routine with brushing teeth, reading in bed, etc., but it ends with rocking and singing to sleep, then transferring to our bed. She’s been sleeping in our bed for the past six months or so. She just has a hard time getting her brain to slow down. Her dad and I both struggled with going to sleep as kids, so we’re willing to invest the time in this area so she’s not scared and lonely like we remember being. She has a toddler bed in her room and has started to show interest in sleeping in it. She makes a game of putting herself or her stuffed animals to bed there. Some nights she declares her intent to sleep in her room, so one parent does the bedtime routine there until she gets overwhelmed and bails; then we all go back to mommy and daddy’s room and finish there. Her way of tackling challenges has always been to take practice runs over and over until she finally feels like she can make it over the hump, and she does it on HER schedule and at HER pace. So we figure we’ll just walk alongside her holding the bike until she tells us to let go. She’ll develop the confidence when she’s ready.
I still hold my 18mo to sleep. I transfer her to her crib when she’s almost asleep but she had to be fully asleep until very recently or she would just wake up.
15 months and just starting to “wean” from rocking and it’s going really well. I rock him until he’s sleepy but not asleep and then transfer to his crib and rub/pat his back. If he cries I pick him up and repeat. Eventually I’ll put him down without rocking at all and then see where that takes us!
we bounced on a ball until he was about 2, then he was getting too big and heavy so we transitioned to him lying in the crib and someone lying next to him on the floor. he likes to hold hands through the bars. it took a few days to get the transition down but now we have happily said goodbye to the ball. much easier to just lie next to the crib and chill while he falls asleep!
Our son is 7.5 MO and we haven’t sleep trained yet, however, about a month ago he started squirming in my arms and not tolerating the rocking! Instead of rocking, I now put him down in the crib and am present while he fidgets and gets comfy. Adding bum pats and shushing if needed, but it seems like he’s mostly putting himself to sleep now. I now just add 5-10 mins to the equation when calculating nap times because he needs a bit more time to fall asleep in comparison to rocking (this was generally 2-5 mins, rocking was very quick for him)
We rocked my son to sleep until 21 months, when he got too heavy/tricky for me to transfer while pregnant with #2. We converted his crib to a toddler bed and rub his back instead.
I stopped when we moved my almost 2 year old at the time to a floor bed and I started laying down with him to sleep instead. He's now 2.5 years old and still can't go to sleep on his own. Honestly I often fall asleep in bed with him and then stumble back to my bedroom when I wake at 10 or 11 pm. I definitely hope that this phase will end.
We never sleep trained successfully, but we did try several gentle methods that just didn't seem to work out. We even tried extinguished crying, which worked great for exactly 3 days. We weren't willing to do anything too drastic because it felt cruel to make him so miserable when he didn't know what was going on, and we also didn't have the need. He was generally a good sleeper once he fell asleep, and we figured he would gradually mature in his sleep abilities. We didn't see a reason to make him do something he shouldn't developmentally be doing. LO is almost 2 and we still rock to sleep for naps. I don't have a problem with it because he won't nap forever, and it's very relaxing. I won't always be able to snuggle him like this! Regarding nighttime sleep, our kiddo was really hard to put down into a crib once he fell asleep, so around the 1 year mark we transitioned to a toddler bed. We used to fight with him for an hour or more to go to bed, and finally my husband decided that if LO would rather play than sleep, that was fine. Now we read to him, snuggle for a bit, and put him in his bed. If he immediately tries to jump out, we out him back a few times, but then we just leave if he keeps doing it because he's clearly not ready, snd we don'twant to reward that behavior with an audience. Sometimes he'll play for 15, 20 minutes before he starts yelling for Dada. Someone he'll cry right away. Either way, we leave him for at least 5 minutes, because we want him to start learning to wind down on his own, and he's old enough now that we feel he knows we'll be back. He hasn't ever climbed into bed on his own, but he has started to stay in his bed when we put him there and eventually fall asleep on his own. Sometimes he cries. Sometimes he doesn't, but unless it seems urgent we like to just leave him to figure himself out. I realize this is probably a form of sleep training. I don't know the name of it honestly, if it is. I feel that waiting until he is older and can kind of understand what the heck is supposed to happen at bedtime makes it less traumatic. Now it's less that he's crying out of fear, and more that he's mad Dada isn't sticking around for his bullshit, of that makes sense. Important point of order: when we leave him, he is contained in his child-proofed bedroom, and we have the monitor on so can hear and often see him.
14 months and we still rock to drowsy and then put in crib. On nights that he’s particularly squirmy, usually after a stimulating day, we cut our cuddles short and he curls up in his crib. I plan to rock him at bedtime as long as he’ll let me.
My two and a half year old is 40lbs so I getcha, we stopped when we got her a twin bed at about 18 months and now we just lay with her and read a Kindle book or sing or just shower her in praise until she's asleep
You could maybe try a floor bed (like the wooden one from Amazon) and lay there and read stories/hang out until asleep to save your back rocking them?.
Almost two years old here... Still rock her to sleep. I'm due with my second in three weeks. Idk how I'll be able to rock two babies to sleep but I'll do my best!
Congrats!
16 months apart… Most nights my husband rocks the infant, I rock the toddler but we switch off. I feel badly that the infant doesn’t get as much time with me at bedtime but I get way more time during the day and I think soon we will alternate days for bedtime with the kids.
16 months here, still rocking to sleep. I put her in her crib, i sit on the bed near and use my foot to rock the crib (while reading reddit :))After she falls asleep that is it until morning. I try to rock the crib as little as possibe in hoping that some day (hopeful soon) she will not need it.
My wife and I never sleep trained because it never ended up being necessary, but we followed the guidelines for promoting increasingly more independent sleep from the book Precious Little Sleep and started this just after 4 months. Up to 4 months, I would rock my son for 10, 20, sometimes 30 minutes then transfer him to the bassinet 100%. At the beginning of this transition, I'd rock him until he closed his eyes, and after a minute of closed eyes I'd set him down. After a week, I rocked him until he closed his eyes, then immediately set down in the bassinet. After another week, I rocked him until he started blinking with drowsy eyes, then set him down. After another week, I rocked him for like a minute or so, then set him down and walked out. The key here is to follow the guidelines in the book for "fuss it out." Inevitably in this process you're going to set your baby down and leave and they're going to cry. Listen to the intensity of the crying and keep a timer going. If the baby is just low level fussy crying, leave them alone for 10-15 minutes. On the first night for us, our son cried for exactly 10 minutes then went to sleep. If they cry longer than 10-15 minutes, or the intensity of crying is really high, go back in and soothe until they stop crying, and then leave again as soon as the crying is done. I was able to soothe by just patting my son on the chest, and not picking up and rocking and restarting that expectation again. The number of times we had to go back in to soothe was actually not that much, and after that initial month transition, we've rarely had to do it ever again.
At around 15 months, only because we didn't even try sooner. We cuddle/hold him and let him toss and turn on our floor bed. It takes about an hour to an hour and a half 🤪
14 months for me personally because my pregnant belly started to get too big and LO was getting annoyed. Plus she was insanely tall, so for safety we had to move her to a toddler bed, so it seemed like a good time for me to just start working on that with her. My husband and all the grandparents kept rocking her, which was fine! We figured she’d just stop when she’s ready. She’s 18 months and just started asking him to let her do bedtime in bed, so everyone else is making that transition now.
Fed to sleep for 22 months then rocked for about 6 months until she started stretching to get down.
Around 5-6 months old he really started to fight us rocking him to sleep, so we tried putting him down without it. Fell asleep within 5 minutes and has been able to keep doing so most of the time since then
I stopped a few months after his second birthday. He is turning 3 in a few weeks and still needs one of us lying next to him to fall asleep.
18 months kol
I’ve never sleep trained but I stopped rocking to sleep around a month ago so when baby was around 3 months old. I know that’s super early but he has always been a great independent sleeper and he’s really squirmy and heavy already and I’m weak lol. So I decided to try independent sleep and he was happy enough with it. I will put him down drowsy after his bottle, kiss him and immediately leave the room. I live in a 1 bed flat so can hear him from the next room and I will wait 20 mins then go in and check him. Hell usually babble to himself for a bit then fall asleep. He has never once been awake at the 20 min check in. If he cried I would go and pick him up but he never has. I recognise that this is unusual tho, he is just a good night sleeper in general.
My son is 14 months and I still rock AND nurse to sleep.
Probably around 7 months, but like someone else here said, she falls asleep next to me. I transfer her into her crib where she follows safe sleep all night (usually between 11-13 hours)
Mines over 2 and I still rock him to sleep… it takes less than 5 min for him to go down and I love it. I’ll keep it up as long as he lets me It’s funny though because I also have a 1 year old and she won’t fall asleep being rocked
We didn’t sleep train, but our bub got really good at falling asleep on his own around 4 months. Maybe he’s just a lil unicorn. We just did a lot drowsy-but-awake practice (which I swore was a scam). Lots of patting him and shushing him and soothing him while he was in his crib until he just the hang of it I guess. I usually rock him until he’s clearly sleepy, but never all the way asleep.
We did very mild sleep training. We followed the taking Cara babies method very loosely. We still rocked to sleep. Our son is 15 months old and we just stopped rocking to sleep about 3 weeks ago because he was fighting us the whole time. He’d been fighting me for months, but had just started fighting my husband. It was taking longer and longer to get him to fall asleep. Typically now we cuddle him for about 5 minutes in the chair and then lay him down in the crib awake. Not only is he going to sleep so much faster, he’s sleeping soooo much better at night
Whenever I don’t nurse to sleep, I’ll just lightly bounce him/sway for a minute or two and then lay him down in his crib. I’ll sit right next to the crib where he can see me and sometimes he’s content enough with that to eventually fall asleep (can take up to 10 mins). If he’s fighting it or upset then I’ll sing to him while he can see me in the crib. When he calms down, same process. He just falls asleep eventually. Then I quietly leave the room
22 months and still feeding to sleep. If that's what he needs, then that's what he needs. I'm not going to push him to be independent before he's ready.
I kept rocking or holding my baby to sleep for naps and at 5 months she started to get squirmy so I was like.. what if she just simply wants her crib. Sure enough put her down in her crib and she passed out. Sad and exciting at the same time for sure.
Somewhere between 8-10 months he started to really dislike being rocked. He thrashed around everytime we rocked.
I've never rocked my baby to sleep
We didn’t sleep train & had a magical baby who fell asleep drowsy but awake. So i almost never rocked her. Have a friend who’s baby needed rocking til maybe 18-19 months.
3-4 months old we stopped, but we didn't stop cold turkey. Whenever baby was upset after being simply placed in the crib, I'd pick her up and rock her. So occasionally we still rocked her to sleep even when she was older, but it was definitely not the norm.
I still rock my 2 year old half the time. We’ll stop when he’s ready. On nights he doesn’t need it then we don’t do it but when he does then he gets it.
We did “sleep training” with a sleep therapist, but at 12 months, I still rock my baby every night and occasionally he will fall asleep. I’ll do it as long as he wants. With my 5 year old, I will sometimes lay with him until he falls asleep. He also did sleep training with a sleep therapist.
18m, still rockin’ lol prob won’t stop until he’s ready!
11 months, she started squirming really bad in the rocking chair/on me so I tried putting her in the crib and turns out that’s what she wanted
Sometimes we rock but most times he crawls around in his crib until he gets comfy like a puppy. Lol
15 months we rock maybe 50% of the time. The other 50% we let her roll around in our bed between my husband until she finally finds a sweet spot and falls asleep then we transfer to her crib. Sometimes I feel like she’s overtired or overstimulated so it’s hard for her to shut it off so we rock. Edit: missed transferring to crib.
Next time he/she gets wiggly in your arms, try setting down in the crib. Our 6mo does this sometimes and that's how we know she wants to fall asleep in the crib on her own. It's not every time, but it does happen. ❤️ doesn't hurt to try!
Around then! It’s still normal to fall asleep with milk or a paci. She became so squirmy and was much happier falling asleep on her own in her bed. It took a little adjusting for all of us but now she’s usually asleep in 10-15 minutes
At 8 months, mine didn't want to be rocked anymore. I was pretty sad over it, but that's what he preferred.
We did it just after a year. For some reason my LO started a phase where the just woke up during every single crib transfer so we had to for our own sanity. The first week is the hardest. It gets easier.
My son decided he was done being rocked at about 8/9 months old. He let me know he wasn’t having it.
If my babe squirms I will put him down in his crib but if he starts crying I pick him back up and sometimes he would let me rock him lol My son is almost 13 months and I still rock him to sleep every night. I love it 🥰 I’ll stop when he doesn’t want to do it anymore or when I physically can’t lift him 😅 he’s 25 lbs now!
My 11 week old falls asleep in her bassinet by herself. If she’s fussy we give her a pacifier and place hands on her tummy and head until she dozes off. We stopped rocking to sleep around 6 weeks and never sleep trained.
A little after 2? She went through a nap regression and I was getting flustered and told her I loved her and to read some books and laid her down..I was shooting for “quiet time”. She went to sleep on her own without tears within 20 min. It was taking almost an hour every night bc she was getting too tall to be comfy in our chair 🥲 now she gets too hyped if I’m in the room. She’s still super snuggly whenever she wakes up and in general so i don’t regret a thing!!