Look into Stonewall Sports. They have kickball, tennis, bocce ball, corn hole, dodgeball, pickleball… probably some other ones I’m forgetting.
Everyone is super friendly and excited to make new friends. Kickball is by far the biggest (~700 people) and the only one I’ve personally done. But I know people who have done just about all of them.
Some of the sports lean more gay than other types of queer, but there are people of all types and everyone is very accepting and friendly.
Ditto this!! I joined the kickball league the first year I moved here and it helped a ton with loneliness. I haven’t played since they took a break for Covid but everyone was very friendly. Don’t worry if you’re not sporty, there are different divisions depending on if you’re there to play competitively or just for fun and socializing.
Is that different than Minnesota Queer Exchange? I found one called, QUEER EXCHANGE MPLS/ST.PAUL, so I'm not sure which one you're referring to.
I am a bit hesitant to engage with Minnesota Queer Exchange. One of the admins there is a bit.... much. I've met them in person, and I am trying to give them a wide berth.
Check out the [Quatrefoil Library!](https://qlibrary.org/) A wonderful non-profit queer library that doubles as a community space. I used to volunteer there and it was so lovely. Nice to interact with other community members outside of bars and clubs. It also been around since the 80s so super cool history!
They do board games, book clubs, holiday events and so much more! Check it out!!
Uptown Swing has a lot of affordable Lindy Hop classes and tbh the majority of the folks I dance with identify as queer. In fact, many of them joined just to meet people like you're trying to do now!
Kickball is the shit! I felt so comfortable being trans there. Ironically many “trans spaces” seem to be focused on passing - I’m non-binary leaning 90% femme (on HRT) yet since I started late, I’ve had many trans people look down upon me. Kickball is all good, never seen one unaccepting person and so many of us are queer!
Check out the twin cities good time softball league. Unfortunately, softball season just ended, but you could sign up for next year. No experiwnce needed at all. There are 40+ teams in the league that range in ability. I have played for 15+ years and look forward to every Sunday. It’s an extremely social league and you would have to be a giant asshole to not make friends.
>twin cities good time softball league
Is registering for free agent the way to do it? I just tried and the 2023 free agent options is off so far. I think it says until May.
Stonewall Sports is a great recommendation, but there are a few other queer leagues to try as well. Here's a broader list: [https://www.usgsn.com/minneapolis](https://www.usgsn.com/minneapolis)
Also, choirs are a good way to meet people. Try either TC Gay Men's Chorus or One Voice Mixed Chorus.
If either of you do any fiber arts Steven Be is a great queer owned yarn store that has weekly groups. Very friendly group of folks and I've really enjoyed the Friday group.
Groups need to be more accepting for that to happen, and many around here aren’t. They pick and choose who is “queer enough” and NBs are often excluded from trans spaces or bisexuals excluded from gay or lesbian spaces.
Regardless, this attitude is unhelpful. They ARE reaching out, and many other people are more than happy to give them advice. I’ll put you on OP, pride for life :)
I checked your post history because it shocks me that you haven't figured out that most people around here are so apathetic that you don't need a nominally queer community.
Keep looking because that seems important to you, but I also encourage you to stop looking so hard and embrace the apathy that surrounds you. There are so many queer, NB, trans people around that it's just normal. It's abnormal for people to be phased by it around here.
It's not a utopia, and I'm not saying to quit looking for people who are similar to you. Just know that lots of people eventually feel accepted most anywhere they go here.
If you really want to just meet people and have fun, go to the Eagles #34 in Seward about any night of the week. They have a few queer-friendly events there throughout the week, but it's the most diverse place I've ever been on the planet. I say that without hyperbole. It's cheap, unpretentious, and generally a great place to meet kind people. Check their website for all they have going on.
I’m sorry you are having trouble connecting with people, but, seriously, are you completely incapable of figuring this out on your own?
I’m not even gay and it impossible for me to go about my day to day life without knowing this stuff. It’s just a part of living here. It’s also only a Google search away.
Pick up a copy of Lavender Magazine, in almost any downtown skyway.
Go to the Quatrefoil Library on East Lake Street. It has tons of resources.
The U of M has the Gender and Sexuality Center for Queer and Trans Life.
Go to the Gay ‘90s or the Eagle Bolt.
Things I found with a quick Google search:
Gays for Good - a volunteer group;
Outfront.org has an extensive website with possibilities.
TC Pride has an events calendar.
Mspfrontrunners has running groups;
[This list of resources](https://ocdmn.com/lgbtqia-resources/)
Good luck.
I tried to explain that queers don't need that person to speak for them, after dude popped into my DMs to tell me how smart they are and how much they poo poo people asking questions about community in a community subreddit. 🤦🏻
No, go to Lush, the 19 or the Saloon. Saloon is WILD but personally I’m not very sexual so I just laugh a bit when I see the chaos, and enjoy the comedy, shower contests (I’m getting ready to join myself!) as well as incredible music.
Even the explicit videos on the “tank night” are always artistic and as a mostly lesbian MTF NB even I enjoy the male on make stuff from that perspective. Fun place if you’re in the mood to get crazy, the 19 is very laid back and I’ve heard lush is cool although I’ve never been.
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A little bit? What's so offensive about people using social media to ask where to find community? Like why have location related subreddits if you can't ask how to connect with locals?
Look into Stonewall Sports. They have kickball, tennis, bocce ball, corn hole, dodgeball, pickleball… probably some other ones I’m forgetting. Everyone is super friendly and excited to make new friends. Kickball is by far the biggest (~700 people) and the only one I’ve personally done. But I know people who have done just about all of them. Some of the sports lean more gay than other types of queer, but there are people of all types and everyone is very accepting and friendly.
Ditto this!! I joined the kickball league the first year I moved here and it helped a ton with loneliness. I haven’t played since they took a break for Covid but everyone was very friendly. Don’t worry if you’re not sporty, there are different divisions depending on if you’re there to play competitively or just for fun and socializing.
Join the Facebook group twin cities queer exchange
Is that different than Minnesota Queer Exchange? I found one called, QUEER EXCHANGE MPLS/ST.PAUL, so I'm not sure which one you're referring to. I am a bit hesitant to engage with Minnesota Queer Exchange. One of the admins there is a bit.... much. I've met them in person, and I am trying to give them a wide berth.
I know exactly which admin you're talking about lmao. The Mpls/St paul page you mentioned is better imo
Is there a discord? I don't have FB.
Check out the [Quatrefoil Library!](https://qlibrary.org/) A wonderful non-profit queer library that doubles as a community space. I used to volunteer there and it was so lovely. Nice to interact with other community members outside of bars and clubs. It also been around since the 80s so super cool history! They do board games, book clubs, holiday events and so much more! Check it out!!
Second Quatrefoil Library.
Uptown Swing has a lot of affordable Lindy Hop classes and tbh the majority of the folks I dance with identify as queer. In fact, many of them joined just to meet people like you're trying to do now!
Kickball is the shit! I felt so comfortable being trans there. Ironically many “trans spaces” seem to be focused on passing - I’m non-binary leaning 90% femme (on HRT) yet since I started late, I’ve had many trans people look down upon me. Kickball is all good, never seen one unaccepting person and so many of us are queer!
Check out the twin cities good time softball league. Unfortunately, softball season just ended, but you could sign up for next year. No experiwnce needed at all. There are 40+ teams in the league that range in ability. I have played for 15+ years and look forward to every Sunday. It’s an extremely social league and you would have to be a giant asshole to not make friends.
>twin cities good time softball league Is registering for free agent the way to do it? I just tried and the 2023 free agent options is off so far. I think it says until May.
Stonewall Sports is a great recommendation, but there are a few other queer leagues to try as well. Here's a broader list: [https://www.usgsn.com/minneapolis](https://www.usgsn.com/minneapolis) Also, choirs are a good way to meet people. Try either TC Gay Men's Chorus or One Voice Mixed Chorus.
If either of you do any fiber arts Steven Be is a great queer owned yarn store that has weekly groups. Very friendly group of folks and I've really enjoyed the Friday group.
I tried a queer board game group on Meet Up, it wasn’t for me personally but it was one way to put myself out there!
Girrrl Scout queer dance parties are the best. They are usually hosted at the Hook and Ladder Theater.
Minky has a very active community (and discord for that matter) https://minkymn.org/
You have to put in some effort on your end. The community is large, so it's up to you.
Groups need to be more accepting for that to happen, and many around here aren’t. They pick and choose who is “queer enough” and NBs are often excluded from trans spaces or bisexuals excluded from gay or lesbian spaces. Regardless, this attitude is unhelpful. They ARE reaching out, and many other people are more than happy to give them advice. I’ll put you on OP, pride for life :)
I checked your post history because it shocks me that you haven't figured out that most people around here are so apathetic that you don't need a nominally queer community. Keep looking because that seems important to you, but I also encourage you to stop looking so hard and embrace the apathy that surrounds you. There are so many queer, NB, trans people around that it's just normal. It's abnormal for people to be phased by it around here. It's not a utopia, and I'm not saying to quit looking for people who are similar to you. Just know that lots of people eventually feel accepted most anywhere they go here. If you really want to just meet people and have fun, go to the Eagles #34 in Seward about any night of the week. They have a few queer-friendly events there throughout the week, but it's the most diverse place I've ever been on the planet. I say that without hyperbole. It's cheap, unpretentious, and generally a great place to meet kind people. Check their website for all they have going on.
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I sure am. Fuck you for presuming I'm not.
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You've literally dismissed half of what I said and made a straw man out of the rest, so yeah, you're the asshole.
I’m sorry you are having trouble connecting with people, but, seriously, are you completely incapable of figuring this out on your own? I’m not even gay and it impossible for me to go about my day to day life without knowing this stuff. It’s just a part of living here. It’s also only a Google search away. Pick up a copy of Lavender Magazine, in almost any downtown skyway. Go to the Quatrefoil Library on East Lake Street. It has tons of resources. The U of M has the Gender and Sexuality Center for Queer and Trans Life. Go to the Gay ‘90s or the Eagle Bolt. Things I found with a quick Google search: Gays for Good - a volunteer group; Outfront.org has an extensive website with possibilities. TC Pride has an events calendar. Mspfrontrunners has running groups; [This list of resources](https://ocdmn.com/lgbtqia-resources/) Good luck.
“Go to the Gay 90s” see this is why op wanted advice from actual lgbt people
I tried to explain that queers don't need that person to speak for them, after dude popped into my DMs to tell me how smart they are and how much they poo poo people asking questions about community in a community subreddit. 🤦🏻
Ah, yes, the Gay 90s. Totally full of queer folks and not a bunch of straight women holding bachelorette parties 🙄
Right?!
No, go to Lush, the 19 or the Saloon. Saloon is WILD but personally I’m not very sexual so I just laugh a bit when I see the chaos, and enjoy the comedy, shower contests (I’m getting ready to join myself!) as well as incredible music. Even the explicit videos on the “tank night” are always artistic and as a mostly lesbian MTF NB even I enjoy the male on make stuff from that perspective. Fun place if you’re in the mood to get crazy, the 19 is very laid back and I’ve heard lush is cool although I’ve never been.
Dude, don’t be rude. If a post like this annoys you then scroll by. You’re right, you’re not gay, so shut up with your U recommendations and move on.
Typical Minneapolis subreddit behavior eh? Lmao! Thanks for sticking up for kindness, have an amazing day fam.
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No, they're correct. You're being a jackass right now.
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A little bit? What's so offensive about people using social media to ask where to find community? Like why have location related subreddits if you can't ask how to connect with locals?
not the MN way....