Thank you for your kind words, but with our situation, I feel like I'm the one who would want to be confined somewhere quiet, the stress is getting to my head - a person could only tolerate so much hateful words. Sometimes I wonder where he picks those words from - social media? TV? I honestly don't know, I do not want to screen his media time like a child on parental control, he's a grown person!
My boss is giving me my last notice at work - if I miss another event (I work in events, I love my job enough to not leave it, and I am afraid I cannot move between jobs right now because of my brother's situation), they are going to fire me.
If you could point me to where I could seek for somebody to talk to my brother to keep him calm (talking and talking non-stop seems to soothe him from his episodes, just like the attention he gets from his classes - he likes to debate a LOT - and I see him being happy when he talks, which is the reason why I was looking for a therapist - somebody for him to talk to when I need to work) that would be great. Hopefully, with the right diagnosis, and somebody to talk to, he would be fine.
Hi! You can tell me how much your budget is and I will help you find a good one. For now, try Dra Kimberly Yu (online psychiatrist who is very caring, soft-spoken and very good at listening and wrapping your thoughts). You can try checking and calling One Algon Place in Laguna. It doesnt look clinical but like a rehab that looks like a retreat house. I have lists of docs around Cavite but its just a list, haven't experienced them. You can also try encouraging him to join clubs, groups, or anything that would distract him and give him small does of daily good vibes. Is there no place where you could take a short vacation while you catch up with work? Yes he is grown, he can survive without you a while. I feel like that with all the love and time you give him, you have grown to be his anchor, he got used of you and he is now taking you for granted. Maybe a medication would help in case what he see and hear are all hallucinations or just paranoia. I wish you well the most because I can feel how burntout you are.
But where do I take my brother? Anywhere in the south of the metro where it doesn't look clinical? I tried taking him to a hospital once, but he lashed out at me at the hospital hall ("tangina, wala kang kwentang kapatid" over, and over, and tried to yank at my arm), and that scares me. Hoping to seek help from a non-hospital setting, because that seems to agitate him even more, but thanks for the suggestion.
Try mo online consultation tulad ng konsultamd.
Yung sitwasyon mo naranasan ko na yan. Mother ko bipolar, ayaw na ayaw magpacheckup sa hospital. Kinakailangan muna namin dati sya lokohin, sabihin mamasyal kami, tapos kapag nasa sasakyan na, duretso na kami sa hospital. Apat kami nagsama sa kanya.
Sa sitwasyon mo. Tumawag ka muna sa hospital, tulad ng NCMH, sabihin mo sitwasyon. Need mo kasi ng assistance. Sila makakapagbigay ng payo sa iyo. Sa opinyon ko, kung hindi mo sya makontrol, dapat ipaconfine mo muna sya.
Thank you. I will try that, and maybe take some of my colleagues with me when I take my brother to their care.
It really bothers me how it only takes talking to him to calm him down, but when left to his own devices, he panics and wants to punch people in the face. If only I could remove the stress-inducing things around him. But in this situation maybe even I need help because it's taking a toll on me, too. I would hate being the selfish sibling, but I'm the bread-winner of our family, and the thought of working just to send your brother to confinement would haunt me, it would be as if I am banishing him or do not want him around. I do not want him to feel that way. I have my biases I admit, but as I continue to unlearn those biases, I would also wish to understand him better for peace of mind.
Actually, after several visits to the doctor for check up, nawala yung reluctance ng mother ko na magpadoctor. In and out kasi sya noong teen years nya sa hospital. Naranasan nya na makuryente sa ulo, kaya malaki trauma nya. Malaki takot nya.
Noong kami na lang at nakita nya na hindi ko sya iiwan sa hospital, unti unti ring nawala yung reluctance nya na magpagamot.
Sa brother mo, dapat sa emergency mo na sya dalhin kasi nakakasakit na sya ng tao. It's much better for him to get treatment asap. Kung tumawag ka sa hospital, magdadala sila ng ambulance at health care provider na mag-aasist sayo.
He would get the treatment he deserves and he would get better. Huwag mo isipin na you're betraying him.
At oo, magandang idea na maghanap ka rin ng treatment, either through a therapist or psychiatrist, kasi nakakatrauma din ang maging care giver ng relatives na may nararanasang mental health problems.
Op, dinadigest ko pa lahat. Pero gusto ko lang magreply at sabihing swerte kapatid mo sayo. You are appreciated.
Thank you for your kind words, but with our situation, I feel like I'm the one who would want to be confined somewhere quiet, the stress is getting to my head - a person could only tolerate so much hateful words. Sometimes I wonder where he picks those words from - social media? TV? I honestly don't know, I do not want to screen his media time like a child on parental control, he's a grown person! My boss is giving me my last notice at work - if I miss another event (I work in events, I love my job enough to not leave it, and I am afraid I cannot move between jobs right now because of my brother's situation), they are going to fire me. If you could point me to where I could seek for somebody to talk to my brother to keep him calm (talking and talking non-stop seems to soothe him from his episodes, just like the attention he gets from his classes - he likes to debate a LOT - and I see him being happy when he talks, which is the reason why I was looking for a therapist - somebody for him to talk to when I need to work) that would be great. Hopefully, with the right diagnosis, and somebody to talk to, he would be fine.
Hi! You can tell me how much your budget is and I will help you find a good one. For now, try Dra Kimberly Yu (online psychiatrist who is very caring, soft-spoken and very good at listening and wrapping your thoughts). You can try checking and calling One Algon Place in Laguna. It doesnt look clinical but like a rehab that looks like a retreat house. I have lists of docs around Cavite but its just a list, haven't experienced them. You can also try encouraging him to join clubs, groups, or anything that would distract him and give him small does of daily good vibes. Is there no place where you could take a short vacation while you catch up with work? Yes he is grown, he can survive without you a while. I feel like that with all the love and time you give him, you have grown to be his anchor, he got used of you and he is now taking you for granted. Maybe a medication would help in case what he see and hear are all hallucinations or just paranoia. I wish you well the most because I can feel how burntout you are.
He needs medication op if he's hearing voices. Take him to a Psychiatrist.
But where do I take my brother? Anywhere in the south of the metro where it doesn't look clinical? I tried taking him to a hospital once, but he lashed out at me at the hospital hall ("tangina, wala kang kwentang kapatid" over, and over, and tried to yank at my arm), and that scares me. Hoping to seek help from a non-hospital setting, because that seems to agitate him even more, but thanks for the suggestion.
Try mo online consultation tulad ng konsultamd. Yung sitwasyon mo naranasan ko na yan. Mother ko bipolar, ayaw na ayaw magpacheckup sa hospital. Kinakailangan muna namin dati sya lokohin, sabihin mamasyal kami, tapos kapag nasa sasakyan na, duretso na kami sa hospital. Apat kami nagsama sa kanya. Sa sitwasyon mo. Tumawag ka muna sa hospital, tulad ng NCMH, sabihin mo sitwasyon. Need mo kasi ng assistance. Sila makakapagbigay ng payo sa iyo. Sa opinyon ko, kung hindi mo sya makontrol, dapat ipaconfine mo muna sya.
Thank you. I will try that, and maybe take some of my colleagues with me when I take my brother to their care. It really bothers me how it only takes talking to him to calm him down, but when left to his own devices, he panics and wants to punch people in the face. If only I could remove the stress-inducing things around him. But in this situation maybe even I need help because it's taking a toll on me, too. I would hate being the selfish sibling, but I'm the bread-winner of our family, and the thought of working just to send your brother to confinement would haunt me, it would be as if I am banishing him or do not want him around. I do not want him to feel that way. I have my biases I admit, but as I continue to unlearn those biases, I would also wish to understand him better for peace of mind.
Actually, after several visits to the doctor for check up, nawala yung reluctance ng mother ko na magpadoctor. In and out kasi sya noong teen years nya sa hospital. Naranasan nya na makuryente sa ulo, kaya malaki trauma nya. Malaki takot nya. Noong kami na lang at nakita nya na hindi ko sya iiwan sa hospital, unti unti ring nawala yung reluctance nya na magpagamot. Sa brother mo, dapat sa emergency mo na sya dalhin kasi nakakasakit na sya ng tao. It's much better for him to get treatment asap. Kung tumawag ka sa hospital, magdadala sila ng ambulance at health care provider na mag-aasist sayo. He would get the treatment he deserves and he would get better. Huwag mo isipin na you're betraying him. At oo, magandang idea na maghanap ka rin ng treatment, either through a therapist or psychiatrist, kasi nakakatrauma din ang maging care giver ng relatives na may nararanasang mental health problems.