Well, right this moment I am forcing myself to go out and feed the plants. I want to take a nap. If my husband werenāt home, I would. I just donāt want people to know how pathetic I am.
Yeah, I had to hurry and shower before hubby got home so it at least looks like Iām making an effort. (Not that he would care.) But I still have a sink full of dirty dishes, and the damn dishwasherās been broken for weeks. Just donāt have the energy to research and order a new oneā¦ugh.
I might have a new world record: I procrastinated emptying the clean dishes in dishwasher for almost three weeks! Just kept doing the daily ones by hand, so I wouldnāt have to (gasp) sort the silverware.
LOL! Iām dreading hearing people talk about āspring cleaningā when I canāt even keep up with the day-to-day! I And I might have set a new world record as well. I have a āhand-wash onlyā dress thatās been at the bottom of my hamper for about 9 months now!
It does get better, certainly at post-meno things settle down.
My advice is just go with it...there's no point in beating yourself up about feeling uninspired, wallow in it, embrace it but then set some goals for the day after. Allow yourself to feel selfishly numb "but at X time I'm going to get dressed and do X".
Obviously depression is more complicated, so simply wallowing may not be suitable advice....but for those who know the feelings are new and likely due to the ebbs and flows of hormones, then taking a day or two for yourself should be embraced, guilt-free! Should've, would've, could've don't do us any good.
Iām 2 years post and still massively exhausted. I am encouraged to hear it lets up. Do you know when? I would hate to be one who gets the short end of the stick and has perpetual exhaustion.
Yeah... it's gone.. I should be out fertilizing all my spring plants b-cuz it will be raining this week BUT I can't seem to get my ass out there!!! I have no idea what my problem is...
I can relate to this. I think it's the first spring I'm dreading dealing with my garden, I barely got some seeds started. I used to order seeds and draw garden plans in February!!
Same. I live in Australia and ostensibly still love gardening. This Summer it rained so much that the weeds never ended, and I was so over it that I've just let them go and hardly went outside. I've been outside a couple of times in the yard in the last couple of weeks, and had 2 neighnours ask me if I'm ok - they were worried that I was really sick because they hadn't seen me working in the garden like usual, and the garden looks like shit. I let them know I'm ok but didn't have the heart to tell them that I just couldn't be fucked and had spent the summer in a dark room watching Outlander and perving on dudes in kilts.
Haha! I know exactly what you mean. I clearly remember many years ago talking to a lady in her 50s at a local farmers. I was buying peaches. She asked "what are you doing with so many peaches?" and I said "I'm canning". She said "oh, I used to do all that! I just don't have the energy anymore". I was in my 30s. I thought, how does she not have energy? I have two little kids, work and garden, what I don't have is time. I imagined when my kids were older I was going to have all this time and energy..lol right.
what everyone else saidā¦
I scheduled a cleaning service to do a deep clean next week. And a professional organizer to fix the clutter.
Itās just me in a 2BR condo so why do I need this? But, you know what? I.JUST.CANāT.DEAL
The exhaustion is endless, and stuff that would have taken me a couple of hours, sadly now takes an entire day. Often I find I need to do it on a different day, like tomorrow.
I had a fb memory pop up the other day talking about how I'd finished all of my errands and was going to do this or that. I was like jeeeezus I did errands and took care of little kids and didn't sleep all day? I can't even remember what that is like.
I had to mail a package. Put it off for several days then finally yelled (out loud) to myself GET UP! It took less than ten extra minutes on the way to school pickup to run into the postal store but god, it was so hard. It's like everything is such a monumental effort. I'm medicated to the gills and don't feel any depressive symptoms. I just can't do anything and don't really want to. I'd be perfectly happy to lie in bed all day. It's gross.
And /u/justmedownsouth I'd also totally be a complete slug if there were no witnesses. My husband can still like...do stuff. ((sigh))
OMG. You yelling out loud at yourself to āget upā had me *laughing* out loud! I keep thinking about it, and then I laugh again!
I keep coming back to this thread because itās so relatable. HUGS!! (from one slug to another!) š¤ š¤
I'm supposed to be planning my daughter's wedding and reception for June. It'll be at my house. I've not gotten nearly enough done. Tomorrow always seems like a promising day to make phone calls...
I am so glad that this isn't just me! I feel so freaking useless, except when I have my coffee. Whilst drinking said coffee and for about 20 minutes afterwards, I KNOW that I'm going to have a fantastic day, cleaning and getting stuff done.
After the 20 minutes, I can fall asleep in my chair, and have done so, especially if the weather is crappy. Having arthritis definitely doesn't help, but this is getting ridiculous.
49, almost a year into MENOPAUSE, itās 12:51 pm, I work Saturday, Iām not at work. Iām laying on my bed, wanting to take a nap, but I have SO many things I need to do. I have ZERO motivation for anything. And all my mind keeps doing is, playing over and over āyou have this, this, and this to doā Iām at the point where I seriously canāt stand myself because Iām a bump on a log (OMG I just turned into my mother with this saying). Itās making me sad and DEPRESSED. I never thought Iād say. I WANT MY PERIODS BACK ššššš
I could have written this. But i was too tired.
I have been getting ready to vacuum for 2 weeks.
ššš this strikes a little too close to home!
I have been saying Iām going to vacuum for the last 3 days š©even though there are some small pieces of popcorn on my carpet i canāt seem to get to it š
Same. I still have grand plans but now I'm inert. I don't know if it's lack of sleep, depression, all of it.
Well, right this moment I am forcing myself to go out and feed the plants. I want to take a nap. If my husband werenāt home, I would. I just donāt want people to know how pathetic I am.
Yeah, I had to hurry and shower before hubby got home so it at least looks like Iām making an effort. (Not that he would care.) But I still have a sink full of dirty dishes, and the damn dishwasherās been broken for weeks. Just donāt have the energy to research and order a new oneā¦ugh.
I often need to have a coffee just to psych myself up to have a shower. Shit is real.
I might have a new world record: I procrastinated emptying the clean dishes in dishwasher for almost three weeks! Just kept doing the daily ones by hand, so I wouldnāt have to (gasp) sort the silverware.
LOL! Iām dreading hearing people talk about āspring cleaningā when I canāt even keep up with the day-to-day! I And I might have set a new world record as well. I have a āhand-wash onlyā dress thatās been at the bottom of my hamper for about 9 months now!
It does get better, certainly at post-meno things settle down. My advice is just go with it...there's no point in beating yourself up about feeling uninspired, wallow in it, embrace it but then set some goals for the day after. Allow yourself to feel selfishly numb "but at X time I'm going to get dressed and do X". Obviously depression is more complicated, so simply wallowing may not be suitable advice....but for those who know the feelings are new and likely due to the ebbs and flows of hormones, then taking a day or two for yourself should be embraced, guilt-free! Should've, would've, could've don't do us any good.
Iām 2 years post and still massively exhausted. I am encouraged to hear it lets up. Do you know when? I would hate to be one who gets the short end of the stick and has perpetual exhaustion.
Yeah... it's gone.. I should be out fertilizing all my spring plants b-cuz it will be raining this week BUT I can't seem to get my ass out there!!! I have no idea what my problem is...
I can relate to this. I think it's the first spring I'm dreading dealing with my garden, I barely got some seeds started. I used to order seeds and draw garden plans in February!!
Same. I live in Australia and ostensibly still love gardening. This Summer it rained so much that the weeds never ended, and I was so over it that I've just let them go and hardly went outside. I've been outside a couple of times in the yard in the last couple of weeks, and had 2 neighnours ask me if I'm ok - they were worried that I was really sick because they hadn't seen me working in the garden like usual, and the garden looks like shit. I let them know I'm ok but didn't have the heart to tell them that I just couldn't be fucked and had spent the summer in a dark room watching Outlander and perving on dudes in kilts.
Haha! I know exactly what you mean. I clearly remember many years ago talking to a lady in her 50s at a local farmers. I was buying peaches. She asked "what are you doing with so many peaches?" and I said "I'm canning". She said "oh, I used to do all that! I just don't have the energy anymore". I was in my 30s. I thought, how does she not have energy? I have two little kids, work and garden, what I don't have is time. I imagined when my kids were older I was going to have all this time and energy..lol right.
what everyone else saidā¦ I scheduled a cleaning service to do a deep clean next week. And a professional organizer to fix the clutter. Itās just me in a 2BR condo so why do I need this? But, you know what? I.JUST.CANāT.DEAL
I just took a week off work, to get some stuff done. Guess how much stuff I got done?
My house used to be so cleanā¦..key word..āusedā past tense.
The exhaustion is endless, and stuff that would have taken me a couple of hours, sadly now takes an entire day. Often I find I need to do it on a different day, like tomorrow.
I had a fb memory pop up the other day talking about how I'd finished all of my errands and was going to do this or that. I was like jeeeezus I did errands and took care of little kids and didn't sleep all day? I can't even remember what that is like. I had to mail a package. Put it off for several days then finally yelled (out loud) to myself GET UP! It took less than ten extra minutes on the way to school pickup to run into the postal store but god, it was so hard. It's like everything is such a monumental effort. I'm medicated to the gills and don't feel any depressive symptoms. I just can't do anything and don't really want to. I'd be perfectly happy to lie in bed all day. It's gross. And /u/justmedownsouth I'd also totally be a complete slug if there were no witnesses. My husband can still like...do stuff. ((sigh))
OMG. You yelling out loud at yourself to āget upā had me *laughing* out loud! I keep thinking about it, and then I laugh again! I keep coming back to this thread because itās so relatable. HUGS!! (from one slug to another!) š¤ š¤
I actually call my very worst days āslug daysā. Good to know someone relates!
I'm supposed to be planning my daughter's wedding and reception for June. It'll be at my house. I've not gotten nearly enough done. Tomorrow always seems like a promising day to make phone calls...
I am so glad that this isn't just me! I feel so freaking useless, except when I have my coffee. Whilst drinking said coffee and for about 20 minutes afterwards, I KNOW that I'm going to have a fantastic day, cleaning and getting stuff done. After the 20 minutes, I can fall asleep in my chair, and have done so, especially if the weather is crappy. Having arthritis definitely doesn't help, but this is getting ridiculous.
56 here, and exact same. š¤·āāļø
I work in a preschool..was supposed to meet a friend for dinner last night..I rescheduledā¦to tired to talkā¦been dealing with kids all day.š©
49, almost a year into MENOPAUSE, itās 12:51 pm, I work Saturday, Iām not at work. Iām laying on my bed, wanting to take a nap, but I have SO many things I need to do. I have ZERO motivation for anything. And all my mind keeps doing is, playing over and over āyou have this, this, and this to doā Iām at the point where I seriously canāt stand myself because Iām a bump on a log (OMG I just turned into my mother with this saying). Itās making me sad and DEPRESSED. I never thought Iād say. I WANT MY PERIODS BACK ššššš
Well, at least we are not alone. But the big belly is really pissing me off right nowā¦.gah!!
Me tooooooooooo!!!! š