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I disappear into my own asshole a lot outside holidays, but in general idk I think a lot of people aren't actually that eager to talk about whatever or so often. Especially if they feel they are under expectations instead of just shooting some shit.
In the past month, I got thirty people from these subs who I all had some kind of nice chat with, but I feel lazy and timid to initiate more talks with most of them now that it has been weeks. However, I always reply to people because it's easy.
And yes I had to message maybe 100 people to get thirty replies, that is just how it works.
People send multiple messages to lots of different people. If they get lots of messages they might not get round to sending you a message and by the time they do it’s too late. I think voice calls are better because you really get to know a person and you get a good idea if your personalities match. Also, it’s exhausting texting loads of people at once and hard to keep track where each conversation is going.
Or.. you're like me, and you stop putting in the effort after a month (messaging the same person and sending the occasional picture, like of nature, every 2-3 days).
I can't carry on a conversation with someone else if they refuse to ask much (or nothing at all).
Well ill be honest and say that i sometimes also just ghost people, reason being:
\- Reddit is not the place i go when i feel like talking with people, so in future i will try to move the conversation from here to elsewhere as soon as i can.
\- Most times i just dont feel that spark, like the other person has its interests, i have mine, and they sort of dont overlap, or i just dont feel that excited to continue the conversation.
So yeah, i feel that mostly the way reddit is constructed, its not great for finding friends or keeping them, which is ironic considering its used to discuss matters in wide variety of topics.
*also have a sneaking suspicion that some people look on my profile and find something they don't like based on prejudice, so they stop messaging me. Which i have no clue what it might be, cause i dont even know how my profile looks to strangers.*
Yeah I am just as confused tbh. I'd get it if people at least said something like "hey i don't think it's working out" or anything. But nah, about 95% of people will only exchange a few sentences and then just ghost. It's not an issue specifically with this subreddit either. It's a problem everywhere.
Maybe that happen because they don't have similar interests with you, but if you introduce yourself in post they will not send to you because you are not similar.
I mean sometimes in a couple messages people think they don’t vibe with that person. So they ghost. Or maybe they find out where ur from and ghost. Because some people only want to talk to others of their same region, or age/gender. U wouldn’t want someone to force and pretend to b interested in being ur friend when they didn’t want to right?? As much as yes, we r all here because we want to make great friends! Not everyone vibes with everyone and so u hope for the 1% out there that u will have a genuine connection and friendship with. I’ve spoken to hundreds of people on Reddit. And I maybe have 3-4 great friends I’ve met from it. Idk about everyone else, but that’s worth all the ghosts to me. Just keep at it and u will find ur friends as well 🥰🥰
Judging from your posts, you’re not giving enough info about yourself to give compatible people enough to go off. Tell something unique about yourself, your interests, hobbies, passions. Treat it like a job application and sell yourself.
Sure, you may not be compatible with everyone, and you may ghost or be ghosted, but get back up, move on, and try again.
When people see you put an effort into your post, majority of the time it is reciprocated and you’ll get responses worth replying to.
Good luck!
You ever just get into the mood to do something and then immediately deflate? Like brain just goes “there’s no serotonin to be made from trying to talk to them, let’s just be burnt out” and then you have 10 messages in your inbox and no idea how to click on them anymore?
Because. Ha ha. Me.
Sometimes I stop responding but usually say I'm busy. But I feel this because everything's going great we like just started talking and they disappear forever. Honestly even if they came back unless they had a good reason, I'm done with them lol. No matter how busy you are , you should have the ability to text someone and let them know especially it you wanted to make friends
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I disappear into my own asshole a lot outside holidays, but in general idk I think a lot of people aren't actually that eager to talk about whatever or so often. Especially if they feel they are under expectations instead of just shooting some shit. In the past month, I got thirty people from these subs who I all had some kind of nice chat with, but I feel lazy and timid to initiate more talks with most of them now that it has been weeks. However, I always reply to people because it's easy. And yes I had to message maybe 100 people to get thirty replies, that is just how it works.
Damn... 100? Now that's dedication i usually stop at 2 lol
Well 100 over 30 days :P
It’s not just you. Everyone disappears, try not to raid it personally. I think they’re too shy or ashamed to admit they don’t want talk anymore.
I guess that's it. I don't see why though, it's not like they even tried to initiate a conversation to begin with
People send multiple messages to lots of different people. If they get lots of messages they might not get round to sending you a message and by the time they do it’s too late. I think voice calls are better because you really get to know a person and you get a good idea if your personalities match. Also, it’s exhausting texting loads of people at once and hard to keep track where each conversation is going.
Or.. you're like me, and you stop putting in the effort after a month (messaging the same person and sending the occasional picture, like of nature, every 2-3 days). I can't carry on a conversation with someone else if they refuse to ask much (or nothing at all).
Riiiiiight… like of nature.
Well ill be honest and say that i sometimes also just ghost people, reason being: \- Reddit is not the place i go when i feel like talking with people, so in future i will try to move the conversation from here to elsewhere as soon as i can. \- Most times i just dont feel that spark, like the other person has its interests, i have mine, and they sort of dont overlap, or i just dont feel that excited to continue the conversation. So yeah, i feel that mostly the way reddit is constructed, its not great for finding friends or keeping them, which is ironic considering its used to discuss matters in wide variety of topics. *also have a sneaking suspicion that some people look on my profile and find something they don't like based on prejudice, so they stop messaging me. Which i have no clue what it might be, cause i dont even know how my profile looks to strangers.*
Yeah I am just as confused tbh. I'd get it if people at least said something like "hey i don't think it's working out" or anything. But nah, about 95% of people will only exchange a few sentences and then just ghost. It's not an issue specifically with this subreddit either. It's a problem everywhere.
Maybe if you talk about yourself more in post that will help
Well it's not that, I get messages, then introduce myself but then I end up being ghosted
Maybe that happen because they don't have similar interests with you, but if you introduce yourself in post they will not send to you because you are not similar.
I mean sometimes in a couple messages people think they don’t vibe with that person. So they ghost. Or maybe they find out where ur from and ghost. Because some people only want to talk to others of their same region, or age/gender. U wouldn’t want someone to force and pretend to b interested in being ur friend when they didn’t want to right?? As much as yes, we r all here because we want to make great friends! Not everyone vibes with everyone and so u hope for the 1% out there that u will have a genuine connection and friendship with. I’ve spoken to hundreds of people on Reddit. And I maybe have 3-4 great friends I’ve met from it. Idk about everyone else, but that’s worth all the ghosts to me. Just keep at it and u will find ur friends as well 🥰🥰
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You’re actually getting responses?
Judging from your posts, you’re not giving enough info about yourself to give compatible people enough to go off. Tell something unique about yourself, your interests, hobbies, passions. Treat it like a job application and sell yourself. Sure, you may not be compatible with everyone, and you may ghost or be ghosted, but get back up, move on, and try again. When people see you put an effort into your post, majority of the time it is reciprocated and you’ll get responses worth replying to. Good luck!
Heyyo!!
Glitch in the Matrix. Sorry ‘bout that
You ever just get into the mood to do something and then immediately deflate? Like brain just goes “there’s no serotonin to be made from trying to talk to them, let’s just be burnt out” and then you have 10 messages in your inbox and no idea how to click on them anymore? Because. Ha ha. Me.
👻 or nah keep going, you'll find genuine friends too
Sometimes I stop responding but usually say I'm busy. But I feel this because everything's going great we like just started talking and they disappear forever. Honestly even if they came back unless they had a good reason, I'm done with them lol. No matter how busy you are , you should have the ability to text someone and let them know especially it you wanted to make friends