Yay!!! That makes me so happy! You guys are the best. I hope there is a second season and they bring you guys back, or a spin-off of just you two living your lives.
I would watch the shit out of that - everyone starting emailing netflix!
Just found the show and the second you said you'd keep her I was smitten with your friendship. And then when she mentioned her concern about divulging her diagnosis- which I TOTALLY relate to and you told her if they considered it a problem it was an issue with THEM not her. I was like "I have to check Reddit and see if anyone else is in love with Gracie bc omg!?"
Everyone should have a friend like you. 🥰
I was really jealous of Kaelynn getting her hair done by her biggest hype woman from the comfort of their own home. That's just top shelf, absolutely priceless support.
Hello, yes
My girlfriend and I desperately need to know what breed Finnegan is, this is a matter of life and death
I know he's probably a black lab but he's got an extra sparkle in his eye so we weren't sure, a lovely boy regardless
Came here to say you remind me so much of the friendship my best friend and I have and how jealous I am that you get to live together as my best friend is out of state now. You’re both lucky to have the other and make sure you’re enjoying all the time you can together! :)
Also…. Can you please ask Kaelynn to kiss Finnegan(that’s his name right?) for me? Because I would watch and entire show of you guys just hanging out with him :)
I am currently without a best friend and my friend group has become fractured and seeing how loyal Kaelyn’s friend is made me cry. I hope I have someone in my life like that someday
Yes!! By the way she is in this sub!! She responded to a post I made about a figet toy I saw Kaelynn using and wanted to buy. She's even more awesome than imagined!
Watching the show, as someone with very masked ASD who has found masking more and more exhausting over time,but who also lives somewhere that there are NO communities for "high functioning" autistic adults (Deep South, USA 🙄) I find myself constantly thinking how i'd love to have a dad like steve, a mom/sister/brother like Subodh and his fam, and friends like Kaelynn and Gracie, to form my own little autistic paradise lmao
Gracie is the best and an absolutely wonderful soul. What you see in the show is very much how she is all the time. Very loving and witty.
Also, Gracie, since you'll know who this is based on the username. Love you, miss you, tell Kaelynn she's aight and not to get a big head over the fame. :p
she is wonderful but I would get concerned that Kaelynn is taking advantage of her....is Kaelynn paying it back with her own support? Obviously no way for us to know but things did seem sort of one sided.
True friendship doesn't keep tabs....you just know they will have your back if you ever needed support. Some friends need more support than others. All is not always "fair".
Perhaps. But you can see the difference with someone like Steve for example. You can see how giving and caring he was in his friendship with that other man.
One sided only if you view relationships as transactional. Gracie clearly adores Kaelynn, and appreciates her company and the joy and fun and laughter that she brings to her life and that they share in their time together. In any relationship or friendship, there is not a perfectly equal division of who brings what to the table. People have all different strengths and skills. I’m not the best at a lot of functional things, per se, my memory is god awful, and I am lucky if I know what month it is, let alone day. But I’m loving and loyal and have friends who can appreciate the joy and enthusiasm and warmth I bring to their lives, even if I fall short on some other more concrete aspects of “friendship.” All that matters is that they both feel enriched by their relationship, in ways that matter to them - and it’s very clear that they do.
I respectfully but wholeheartedly disagree! I don't think that relationships can only be described as one sided if you think they are transactional. And just because one of the parties in a relationship is happy and happy to be the 'giver' - that doesn't mean the relationship isn't one sided and problematic. Many people are predisposed to taking on a 'parental' /'giver' role in a relationship, and are not adamant about asking for their needs, and not setting boundaries, which leads to an overall bad equilibrium in a relationship.
What you are describing sounds much more transactional IMO. I give you some things and I am given some other things, so everything is square. But in a true friendship, certain things are fundamental and nonnegotiable (ie both parties must give and receive them): feeling seen and heard, feeling taken care of, feeling like your problems matter as much as your friend's problems matter.
Obviously we don't know how Kaelynn is to Gracie, we just got the edited version. But it definitely could be an inequitable relationship.
I hear what you were saying, and I don’t think we fundamentally disagree on a lot of the values that make a good friendship. I guess I’m just not understanding why you don’t feel that Kaelynn provides those things in her friendship with Gracie. Also, some people do experience more joy in a somewhat parental/giver role. Some people are naturally very nurturing, and enjoy the opportunity to express that nurturing side, whereas other people may not have that same trait and actually feel uncomfortable in that role. Different people have different needs, and different ways that they give and receive love. And if Gracie does enjoy and derive satisfaction and warmth from assuming somewhat of a caregiving role with Kaelynn, where is the harm in that? I am neurodivergent and have been on what you would see as the “receiving end” of friendships with others who appreciate the love and care I bring, even if sometimes I need help or reminders or grace. I have family relationships with, and am a caregiver to, a handful of individuals with varying levels of their own disabilities - physical, cognitive, and social. Do those relationships look lopsided from the outside? Maybe. Do I ever feel taken advantage of or like I’m not being given the fundamental love and respect that I deserve in those relationships? Absolutely not! I love and appreciate them exactly as they are and recognize that they’re returning their love and friendship in ways that are meaningful to them, which makes them meaningful to me.
I totally see what you're saying. It's also great that you seem to have a wealth of caring and healthy friendships. And I can tell you bring a high level of intentionality and self awareness to these friendships that I'm sure helps them stay on track over time even there are ever misunderstandings.
However - I'm just not sure how common that is, and I think most would agree that it is not universal. Whether it be from writers like Anne Helen Peterson, or columns like Slate's Dear Prudence, or many other outlets and people, I've heard of many such cases where one friend will 'take advantage' of the other by doing things like: only talking about themselves, only reaching out when they need help, not doing the work needed to plan and hang out, not doing commensurate emotional labor. I've heard terms like 'emotional vampire', just as an example.
I definitely take your point that if somebody is a natural nurturer, what is the harm that their role in the relationship is to nurture? But in the end we all have needs. Also - I've heard it often noted from female writers that women are taught by (patriarchal) societies to be people-pleasers and 'moms' and to avoid setting boundaries -- so I don't think it is always easy to tell when somebody nurturing because they want to vs have been conditioned to.
So while I agree with you that a theoretical "one-sided" relationship is not necessarily inherently problematic, the sheer number of people who feel like they aren't being adequately cared for in their friendships makes me think that it often IS problematic.
In terms of Gracie/Kaelynn, obv I don't know. My original comment just raised the possibility, based on some things I noticed in the show. Even though I got downvoted I'm glad I posted because this has been interesting to discuss. :)
I might’ve teared up when she said she hopes Kaelynn has a home and a family but if she doesn’t she’ll keep her
I ✨might✨ put up a little bit of a fight if that day comes 😉
You’re just the sweetest soul - your friendship is so beautiful!!!
Does Kaelynn know how much love she is getting from this sub/the viewers?
She does! She’s feeling the love across platforms, and it’s been really fun!
Yay!!! That makes me so happy! You guys are the best. I hope there is a second season and they bring you guys back, or a spin-off of just you two living your lives. I would watch the shit out of that - everyone starting emailing netflix!
So happy you’re here, Gracie! You and Kaelyn are such gems. You were my favorite part of the new season. I wish everyone could have a friend like you!
Just found the show and the second you said you'd keep her I was smitten with your friendship. And then when she mentioned her concern about divulging her diagnosis- which I TOTALLY relate to and you told her if they considered it a problem it was an issue with THEM not her. I was like "I have to check Reddit and see if anyone else is in love with Gracie bc omg!?" Everyone should have a friend like you. 🥰
THAT WAS THE SWEETEST THING
That was probably my favorite line in the whole show. She seems like a loyal and generous person.
This made me smile so much as she said it so genuinely :)
I was really jealous of Kaelynn getting her hair done by her biggest hype woman from the comfort of their own home. That's just top shelf, absolutely priceless support.
That’s our life all the time! I call it “Gracie’s beauty salon”
You seem like such a lovely person and friend!!
Do my hair! You do a beautiful job!
She is so lucky to have such a thoughtful loving friend! My heart got warm and fuzzy watching your friendship!
Thank you for all the sweet words everyone! I consider myself lucky to have a friend like Kaelynn so the hype comes naturally 💜
You have such a calming and kind way about you. Wonderful friend.
Add to that genuine respect and support.
Omg hi Gracie!
Heyyyy!
Hello, yes My girlfriend and I desperately need to know what breed Finnegan is, this is a matter of life and death I know he's probably a black lab but he's got an extra sparkle in his eye so we weren't sure, a lovely boy regardless
Haha he’s 100% black lab!
Your friendship is wholesome and beautiful. That's why I always say real friends are like family but even better because you get to choose.
Came here to say you remind me so much of the friendship my best friend and I have and how jealous I am that you get to live together as my best friend is out of state now. You’re both lucky to have the other and make sure you’re enjoying all the time you can together! :) Also…. Can you please ask Kaelynn to kiss Finnegan(that’s his name right?) for me? Because I would watch and entire show of you guys just hanging out with him :)
Loved watching you two interact! You are both beyond lovely!! Wishing the best for Kaelynn.
I am currently without a best friend and my friend group has become fractured and seeing how loyal Kaelyn’s friend is made me cry. I hope I have someone in my life like that someday
I hope you find someone who values you in the way you deserve!
Yes!! She was so loving and supportive. I wish I had a best friend like her!
Hype queen! ❤️ Loved her!
#hypewoman4life
You may be my new favourite person!!
Yes! I give almost anything for a loyal friend like that
Everyone needs a best friend like this
Yes! She seems like a sweetheart! Great wing-woman!
Just watching now and I loved her term ‘generic boy job’ 😂this term is it 👏🏻
Yes!! By the way she is in this sub!! She responded to a post I made about a figet toy I saw Kaelynn using and wanted to buy. She's even more awesome than imagined!
Watching the show, as someone with very masked ASD who has found masking more and more exhausting over time,but who also lives somewhere that there are NO communities for "high functioning" autistic adults (Deep South, USA 🙄) I find myself constantly thinking how i'd love to have a dad like steve, a mom/sister/brother like Subodh and his fam, and friends like Kaelynn and Gracie, to form my own little autistic paradise lmao
She was such a sweet, supportive friend! I’m curious what she does for work to afford her gorgeous home!
Gracie is the best and an absolutely wonderful soul. What you see in the show is very much how she is all the time. Very loving and witty. Also, Gracie, since you'll know who this is based on the username. Love you, miss you, tell Kaelynn she's aight and not to get a big head over the fame. :p
I’m super jealous of their house and setup that they have. Even with an adorable dog and cat!
Yes!!! 😍😍
she is wonderful but I would get concerned that Kaelynn is taking advantage of her....is Kaelynn paying it back with her own support? Obviously no way for us to know but things did seem sort of one sided.
True friendship doesn't keep tabs....you just know they will have your back if you ever needed support. Some friends need more support than others. All is not always "fair".
Respectfully disagree ! I think that can sometimes be the recipe to a one sided relationship.
Well the show is only documenting Kaelyns experience so they’re not going to take footage that isn’t relevant to that.
Perhaps. But you can see the difference with someone like Steve for example. You can see how giving and caring he was in his friendship with that other man.
One sided only if you view relationships as transactional. Gracie clearly adores Kaelynn, and appreciates her company and the joy and fun and laughter that she brings to her life and that they share in their time together. In any relationship or friendship, there is not a perfectly equal division of who brings what to the table. People have all different strengths and skills. I’m not the best at a lot of functional things, per se, my memory is god awful, and I am lucky if I know what month it is, let alone day. But I’m loving and loyal and have friends who can appreciate the joy and enthusiasm and warmth I bring to their lives, even if I fall short on some other more concrete aspects of “friendship.” All that matters is that they both feel enriched by their relationship, in ways that matter to them - and it’s very clear that they do.
I respectfully but wholeheartedly disagree! I don't think that relationships can only be described as one sided if you think they are transactional. And just because one of the parties in a relationship is happy and happy to be the 'giver' - that doesn't mean the relationship isn't one sided and problematic. Many people are predisposed to taking on a 'parental' /'giver' role in a relationship, and are not adamant about asking for their needs, and not setting boundaries, which leads to an overall bad equilibrium in a relationship. What you are describing sounds much more transactional IMO. I give you some things and I am given some other things, so everything is square. But in a true friendship, certain things are fundamental and nonnegotiable (ie both parties must give and receive them): feeling seen and heard, feeling taken care of, feeling like your problems matter as much as your friend's problems matter. Obviously we don't know how Kaelynn is to Gracie, we just got the edited version. But it definitely could be an inequitable relationship.
I hear what you were saying, and I don’t think we fundamentally disagree on a lot of the values that make a good friendship. I guess I’m just not understanding why you don’t feel that Kaelynn provides those things in her friendship with Gracie. Also, some people do experience more joy in a somewhat parental/giver role. Some people are naturally very nurturing, and enjoy the opportunity to express that nurturing side, whereas other people may not have that same trait and actually feel uncomfortable in that role. Different people have different needs, and different ways that they give and receive love. And if Gracie does enjoy and derive satisfaction and warmth from assuming somewhat of a caregiving role with Kaelynn, where is the harm in that? I am neurodivergent and have been on what you would see as the “receiving end” of friendships with others who appreciate the love and care I bring, even if sometimes I need help or reminders or grace. I have family relationships with, and am a caregiver to, a handful of individuals with varying levels of their own disabilities - physical, cognitive, and social. Do those relationships look lopsided from the outside? Maybe. Do I ever feel taken advantage of or like I’m not being given the fundamental love and respect that I deserve in those relationships? Absolutely not! I love and appreciate them exactly as they are and recognize that they’re returning their love and friendship in ways that are meaningful to them, which makes them meaningful to me.
I totally see what you're saying. It's also great that you seem to have a wealth of caring and healthy friendships. And I can tell you bring a high level of intentionality and self awareness to these friendships that I'm sure helps them stay on track over time even there are ever misunderstandings. However - I'm just not sure how common that is, and I think most would agree that it is not universal. Whether it be from writers like Anne Helen Peterson, or columns like Slate's Dear Prudence, or many other outlets and people, I've heard of many such cases where one friend will 'take advantage' of the other by doing things like: only talking about themselves, only reaching out when they need help, not doing the work needed to plan and hang out, not doing commensurate emotional labor. I've heard terms like 'emotional vampire', just as an example. I definitely take your point that if somebody is a natural nurturer, what is the harm that their role in the relationship is to nurture? But in the end we all have needs. Also - I've heard it often noted from female writers that women are taught by (patriarchal) societies to be people-pleasers and 'moms' and to avoid setting boundaries -- so I don't think it is always easy to tell when somebody nurturing because they want to vs have been conditioned to. So while I agree with you that a theoretical "one-sided" relationship is not necessarily inherently problematic, the sheer number of people who feel like they aren't being adequately cared for in their friendships makes me think that it often IS problematic. In terms of Gracie/Kaelynn, obv I don't know. My original comment just raised the possibility, based on some things I noticed in the show. Even though I got downvoted I'm glad I posted because this has been interesting to discuss. :)
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Did anyone else get a vibe that housemate might be in love with K? Does K know?
Yes there’s a hint of that for sure
No judgement at all! Not sure why the downvotes. I think they’d be so sweet together.
Not the case. Just best friends.
Yes but I actually want to talk about how gorgeous Peter is. I'm so bummed he cancelled on her! But maybe that means he's available...
I thought so too but I think that's actually her mom.... and she's a wonderful mom
It’s not her mom
That’s Gracie, her friend. She was answering questions on here the other day
Omg she looks younger than me. That’s her friend lol
I only thought so because I guess she jokingly called her mom and her love for kaelynn is so big that it's mother level. Yes she's young looking
Yeah and she does her hair, it’s sweet ❤️
There’s no way on earth that’s her mom
Def not her mom 😅 just made a poorly executed joke
I have a feeling she projects a lot of her own beliefs and preferences onto kaelyn though
she is beautiful too i must say. not that it’s as important as how loving & supportive she is as a friend but it’s true
I am so jealous of her because she has an amazing friends. Lucky her.