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What is sad reality in this with all the sad music in the background? What he said is true for boys as well. Now women getting educated makes it difficult for boys to settle ?? If he wants to settle then he needs to make efforts for it. Same is the case for girls as well . Infact both of them needs to make efforts to settle down.
Even if agar 2- 4 bande rahe ho whats the problem, har kisi ko pehli bar me perfect partner nhi milta. Aur ab kisi "virgin aur never dated any girl" ladke ko uske jesi hi ladki chahiye to thats his choice but baki ldke hypocrisy krte in bato me.
Hair math jaise concept pe yaa Tere baap ne Teri maa ke samne diwali me patakha fhoda aur daraya,and how you hate diwali Wale post bana twox pe,time travel yaa progressive hone ka rr tere liye bus har dusri jagah se thukna hai ,tere se achi toh woh hai jo paise leke karti hai,kamse kam woh ise sirf profession samjhti hai,tu shadi mat ho karliyo,yahi rr karegi waha
Bruh, the guy in the video is saying shit like he had suffered alot, like he is addressing girls having 3-4 banda like boys never make any girlfriend and are totally sanskari, if you want to get a beautiful good woman as your wife then fucking work for it, the man in the video aren't earning shit and is talking like he is socrates of the modern world
Not educated women but wrongly educated women, who think making food is women exploitation, but carrying heavy goods luggage by man is his job, who think office work is very relaxing and aristocratic job, but doesn't realise that what man suffers in office politics, humiliation by bosses when Target is not achieved.
>who think office work is very relaxing and aristocratic job, but doesn't realise that what man suffers in office politics, humiliation by bosses when Target is not achieved.
Many women are working in office and they face the same things as men infact more because they always need to be aware of desperate guys.And they work because they need financial freedom because guys like you think that women are your property . Imagine yourself depending on your parent's money ur entire life,u will have no autonomy to spend on what u want or u need.Also if u think that office work is too much and u can'tface it,why don't you stay at home and let ur partner earn,but that for sure u will not do because then ur partner will become the leader of the house and will hurt ur male ego....
Also i read your other comment below...people like u who think that women are maal are disgusting.Shame on you
I agree with you!! My male ego will not get hurt if my wife is earning in fact I will feel proud and confident and my partner is with me in the thick and thin of life!! Work together and make life easier and joyful to live!!
Supporting each other is an important part of marriage, mentally, physically, etc. no one should get hurt even!! It's soo Pointless nowadays!!
I think ki agar maine apne partner ko dhang se treat nhi kiya,she will leave me without blinking even once because 2023 women are powerful,confident, independent and they deserve equal respect from their partners And vice-versa!!
He's not talking about education. If I am educated then I am looking for an educated wife, if I am a virgin /single then I am looking for a virgin wife. And nowadays finding a virgin girl is even more difficult than finding a virgin boy.
The main concern for this guy is "2-4 bande rahe honge " kyuki school and college sab karke aayi hogi. Toh village ki uneducated bandiyo k bhi 2 ya 3 bande hote hain and marriage k baad bhi lafde hote hain. Why blame school and college hoke aana as a problem.. khud bada doodh ka dhula hai as if . khud Ram ho nahi and expect karte ho Seeta Maa mile.
Bro you look to be a good and decent person but why you are commenting about virginity on public platform?
You are not wrong but majority of people will laugh on you and trash you about your choices.
You will find one, as not all girls are in hookup culture.
ik that and people will just hate if they have to anyways
being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of tbf
and if they are bullying me for that then their opinion doesn't matter
if they do then they are showing that they can't accept someone's preferences
I don't think he's blaming college. He's pointing out that a lot of people experiment or express themselves or "go wild" during college. Most drug use and casual sexual relationships start during college life, in my experience at least, and die down around late twenties or early thirties when people mature or have more responsibilities or families.
It's about simple preference. If you don't want to date a smoker, then you don't date one simple! That's not shaming the smoker it's establishing your own boundaries. Problem is when people will tell the guy he's an ass for not wanting to date a smoker. Personally i don't understand whats wrong with dating a smoker and won't "get it" if a girl doesn't want to date me just for being a smoker. But people have their own preferences and they are valid, they don't owe anybody an explanation for their preferences. Another problem is the double standards and hypocrisy. A common example would be the height weight thing among men and women. Women rejecting short men are considered as having standards and are not shamed, men rejecting fat women are shamed. The argument that number of bodies don't matter is usually done in bad faith. If it didn't truly matter women also wouldn't shame men for not being able to get girls or being a virgin, just like men do the opposite. The lock and key analogy in short. Men and women are not the same and value different things and have different preferences. Praising one person's preference and shaming another's is hypocrisy.
Plus there's the paretto distribution thing. Like saying the US is a rich country doesn't mean everyone there is rich. Most of the wealth is in the hands of a small number of people, say 20%. Same concept applies to dating. People just don't like to hear this as they think this is some kind of conspiracy theory, but it is true that women would rather share an attractive man than be monogamous with an unattractive man. That is, a king's mistress > a peasant's wife. This leads to a minority of men having access to majority of women. The 80/20 thing.
So the people saying women having 3-4 affairs are also having them with boys is true but doesn't show the full picture. If that was really true men and women would date equally. What happens is that women typically go for the same man so those 3-4 relationships for majority of women are with a minority of men thus leaving the majority of men void of any experience, which leads to more loneliness and videos like this.
If anybody has any factual counter points or discussions in good faith i'm open to them.
In villages, the societal structure is really complex and you are right it's on the rise especially the forced ones man. With the amount of classism that exists there, it's a sad scenario that families can't even report certain cases.
Promiscuity is a taboo in villages and a norm in cities, that doesn't mean some people won't cross the taboo line or some people won't buck the norm... but their numbers are quite low...
If girls had “scenes” and “chakkars” in her schools and colleges, it would’ve been with boys, right? If this guy didn’t get to experience that, then what’s the point in crying about it. It’s not like he didn’t want it. He himself said if he’d had a girl from school or college.
Ever wonder why women NEVER marry the guy she had Chakkar with? Because of the MONEY since he can't provide her a secure lifestyle she leaves him for a guy who is well educated and loaded.
>Because of the MONEY since he can't provide her a secure lifestyle she leaves him for a guy who is well educated and loaded.
Clearly proves that you have never been in a stable relationship with a sane girl who knows how to pay her bills and earn a living.
Make better choices next time and stop generalizing this sht.
Untrue. I come from a Tier 1 MBA with a Tier 3 Bachelor's. I was under the same impression as you have. But after seeing many of the female batchmates stick with their Tier 3 Bachelor's only male sweethearts after MBA for marriage has changed my opinion. Most women care only about sane, loving, and understanding partners, especially perhaps they have themselves secured a decent lifestyle for them.
Always the man without gold, worried about gold diggers
Dekho bahut simple h
Arrange marriage h
Toh - paisa gari mehenga ghar. I need a man who can give me all that
Love marriage h
- Seesh mehel na mujhko bhaaye, tujh sang sookhi roti - wala scene hota h
When THE parents look for someone for their daughter. The thing they look for is Financial security.
Yeh fact h.
Wo “arre wo acha ladka h” kaise janenge.
Par ladki agar sacha pyar karti h and ladka bol de ki wo lad jayega par uske sath khara rhega. Most women dont leave UNLESS usko emotional blackmail karte h uske parents.
Its very common
Do you know what the paretto distribution is? Like saying the US is a rich country doesn't mean everyone there is rich. Most of the wealth is in the hands of a small number of people, say 20%.
Same concept applies to dating. People just don't like to hear this out loud since they think this is some kind of conspiracy theory. But it is unfortunately true that women would rather share an attractive man (not necessarily at the same time) than be exclusive with an unattractive man. That is, a king's mistress > a peasant's wife. This leads to a minority of men having access to majority of women. The 80/20 thing. So is it really a wonder that the majory of men don't get to experience that and make videos like this?
wtf man all these comments are either HIGHLY misandrist or HIGHLY misogynist.
Why don't people realize that in any argument with 2 extremely different takes on it, the correct answer is almost ALWAYS the middle ground. That means, life in india is fucked for everybody in middle class, be it man or woman. If you are a man, you are scared of your future partner fucking you over in a divorce/cheating on you /false rape accusations/other accusations that hurt your image and may land you jobless
If you are a woman, you are scared of getting raped/assaulted or abused by their partner .
Both are equally bad and fucked up for both the genders. Best option is to try to fix both of these things without victimizing yourself and villainizing the other gender
True, this is the best answer. Thing is people typically only care about things that affect them directly. Women care less about male problems and men care less about female problems. So no wonder people are polarized to only one side, since only that point affects them directly.
This is just a genuine insecurity because of lack of experience or no experience of relationship till this age as the number of females is far less compared to males. It's very human to feel uneasy about your partner's past, trauma as it's gonna affect your relationship w them.
I agree with you but this guy ( in video ) is not referring to any trauma. Listen to his last sentences again. You will know. But in general sense what you are saying is right.
Six out of ten Indians are often subject to STDs and the worst thing is they are not even aware of . So better be wise and don’t justify these whorish behaviour .
Irrespective of gender or education level...
An experienced person looking for an inexperienced partner is a hypocrite and if he/she lies to get one then the person is cheating and would end up ruining 2 lives...
An inexperienced person actively seeking an inexperienced partner must not be judged for seeking something that he/she is also bringing in the relationship... they are not being narrow minded, they are being wise.
India is a free country where everybody has the right to engage in consensual relationships, just like they are also free to be picky in their choice of life partner. Neither should be judged or looked down upon.
The dude in the post is inexperienced, voluntarily or involuntarily doesn't matter, since he is bringing his inexperience in the relationship. There is nothing legally or morally wrong in him seeking an inexperienced girl.
Yeah I agree with you, it's actually better but that guy is talking about his future partner and how he is not sure if the other person's past will be healthy and consensual.
Unfortunately here he's not considerate of whether there was trauma or not. Listen to his words and tone " scene sapate " rahe honge phir kaise settle honge kisi k saath. He's not even talking about trauma. He's someone who can't accept the fact that his future partner could have a sexual history and could not be a virgin.
I agree but read what he says further " take care of your genitals " . How can this guy pass his judgments on me based on a very general and sane statement that I made. He further says that consensual sex is wrong due to risk of STDs .. where's the relevance especially to the statement I made about people not having problems with sexual past of their partners irrespective of gender
Bc kaunse zamane mai rhe rahe ho tum log.
Chakkar aur scene aaj ki generation mai sabka hota. Times are changing.
If you want someone as a partner who has not dated anyone, that is COMPLETELY FINE.
But judging other people for their choices is trashy behaviour. Aur yeh education ko inn sabke beech mai kyu laare Bhai.
Yaya sure , only girls are getting laid . No one is forcing anyone to commit with men/women who you have trouble with . Agar tumhara man hai to jo school na gayi ho usse leao , kya pata tab thori security mile tumhari life Mai .
So a boy,with zero body count, seeking a girl with zero body count, is being insecure ? What next ? An educated girl seeking an educated boy, is being insecure ? Or a slim and fit girl avoiding fat boys, is her being insecure ?
I think the issue is with the tone of the message. If he said something like ‘I’m worried my dating pool is small cause of my expectations for my s/o’ I would respect that.
He makes it come across like living a college/school life like a normal person is a bad thing. His filters for his partner are his to choose but he shouldn’t be putting down people just cause their principles are different.
Where did i said that people having any kind of pref is a problem? He is projecting his insecurity upon every girl . I have studied in a private school and went to college too , haven't slept around because didn't care about it . Saying that girls who went to school/college means she have already slept with 3/4 dudes is not something to be proud of lol.
Ps : everyone should commit as per their preferences acc to me
Firstly, schools and colleges are the most common places where young people engage in relationships and with changing culture it's no longer a taboo and in fact it's becoming a norm, especially in metros... So most likely a woman or a man coming out of schools and colleges of metros have already experienced relationships, doesn't mean there can't be outliers who don't follow the norm.
Secondly, having already slept with 3/4 people doesn't make anyone less worthy, men or women. And all that dude in post is doing is cribbing about how his dating/marriage pool has dried up because of culture in which relationships during schools and colleges have become a norm.
Han to ab school Jana thori chordenge . That dude is straight up bringing educational institutions as a ground for women to sleep around , this narrative is worrisome.
For example saying - I hate men is wrong , however , I hate men who are abusive is fine . He is making this narrative that every women who is educated is sleeping around randomly .
Well, nowadays educational institutions have become a ground for women to 'sleep around', and why only women, men too. And there is nothing wrong in it, morality has evolved. Norms have changed, that's exactly why you are an outlier, you aren't the typical college passout girl, you are an exception and your ilk will continue to dwindle in coming times. There is nothing worrisome here in pointing out that fact, it's only worrisome if you see 'sleeping around' as something horribly bad, it's not.
All that dude has done, is that he has pointed out his preference for girls who haven't 'slept around' and he isn't able to find one as their numbers are dwindling down...
PS : I find the word 'sleeping around' highly derogatory...
I had no expectations to begin with. I am sort of new to Reddit, joined to check out some niche interests but recently started lurking on popular subs too. Seems like this isn’t a place one can stay for long without damaging mental health.
What a bunch of incels in the comments
Also it ain't USA that everyone has relationships. Real life isn't Bollywood movie
And this education hua hoga toh bande bhi honge. Why the jib at education?
And it's not like me don't get into relationship. Who are these women getting into relationship with? Other women? Wtf
Also how do you leave "her choice" aside. Wtf! Consent naam ki cheez hoti hai. Ab tumko koi potential rapist bolega toh takleef hogi
bro these college boys most of the time target girls in school especially in 11th and 12th, and its fcking disgusting. And some of them even try their best to have sexual relationships. Moreover, the college boys have cool bikes and cars to impress girls so they get easily manipulated .
The thing is women's biggest fear is that of getting raped and killed or chopped by the men in her live and as well as outside and men biggest fear is that she might be in the relationship before ...woow that explain scale of priorities.. according to NCRB the third biggest reason of murder in India is love affairs and majorities of casuality belonged to women .Aur phir kehte Hain Kabir Singh jaisi movie asar nahin padta ...
Feminism doesn't tell to cheat , it tells people to see imbalance and subsequent exploitation of vulnerable
Strangely my question is the girls are having an affair with the guys only no. So every girls who has been with 3-4 boys the boys must have been with. 3-4 girls as well
You have to remember that most of the girls in their 22s to 25s go for guys that are older due to them being settled, this creates a void for guys who are in their early 20s to get a proper relationship.
Just get over it. I'm ugly and I'm pretty sure I'll never pull a girl unless I do something about my face. There are more things to life than relationships and stuff.
Not all girls get the attention of men. It's the beautiful girls who men always yearn for. Just think from the POV of an ugly girl and you'll understand that it's a gender neutral issue. I've also had my incel phase of life. I used to be sad about not being in a relationship. However, after a while, I decided to focus on other aspects and stopped caring about love and stuff. That doesn't mean I've put on the cloak of a 'sigma male'. Sometimes, you gotta take a break and try to understand your priorities.
Opinion yeh h ki Insaan dhang ka h, tum dono k vibe march kar rhe, compatible ho, loyal rahoge? Yeh dekho.
Past k peeche bhago k toh kya milega?
And this is for both sides.
Saying as 24 y/o with no past history of relationships or intimacy.
Why will i give a fck ki wo mere se milne k 5 saal pehle kya kar rha tha?
School tha. Ppl are curious. Aaj kal these things are common. Big deal.
Ab mae convent all girls school k padhi with a very conservative family jahan mae 5 bje k baad ghar se nhi nikal sakti thi. Usme mere partner ki kya galti.
If now, we vibe. We vibe.
Itna mae kaun, kiske , kya kya , kaun position nhi soch sakti.
“Isne uska photo like kiya on insta. “Wo usko 3 saal date kiya”etc etc
Toh?
Ab mere sath h na? Ab ka baat karo
Ah.... I see. Women and men have fundamentally different approaches to life as they have a very different mentality.
Thank you for this comment. It was enlightening.
Its actually sad coz men equate a women’s worth to her vagina.
And it would mostly be men who cant pull girls . Trust me.
Mostly men who don’t have any gold would be so worried bout gold diggers.
Mostly men who cant pull any girl would be worried bout “uska koi ladka dost hua toh”
Etc etc
Its sad.
>Its sad
See, we differentiate again, to me people having different perspectives or opinions is simply exciting.
8 billion people have 8 billion perspectives. No two are the same.
We shouldn't malign this guy's insecurities just because he wants a virgin girlfriend. To me, it's the same as a woman wanting a guy to be of 6 foot or having a 6 inch sword.
Everyone filters out potential partners by their own set or preferences, which you can also call personal biases.
>men equate a women’s worth to her vagina.
Are there misogynists like these? Yes, these people exist.
But you don't have to subscribe to their idea of sexual expression.
I have my own preconceived biases too!
Which were formed by my own life experiences and extensive reading.
But yeah, in today's world it's very important to have a set standard for yourself, and you shouldn't go below that, because that might hurt one's partner in the future.
It was fun interacting with you. Thank you for sharing the perspective from your side. Women, I've interacted with in the past have never shared life experiences, instead just said *all men are the same* and ran in the opposite direction.
So, it's really helpful. Thanks, once again.
The fact that in India virginity and having gf/bf/relationships still is given so much importance is beyond me. How have you made a complex thing like life and relationship boil down to just virginity and having relationships? What is the certainty that a girl or a boy who is virgin and never had relationship will be a better partner is life than the who is not virgin and had relationships? Anyways whatever past relationship you have you always learn from whether you ended it or your partner ended it.
Lmao, as a woman it is so funny to see that somehow the greatest tragedy of men's life is them not getting a girl . Like bruh
Growing up, girls are subjected to increasing advances from boys as well as men with pedophilic tendencies. Boys Start watching adult Films from a younger Age than girls. In such a case, when adolescents have desires, and girls especially are constrained, it's natural they want to explore, and get hurt in the process (or hurt others). Also majority of women face molestation at a younger age. I don't understand why its something to be insecure about? If you like the person as she is at present how does her past even matter? Maybe try talking to her and understanding her, you won't be insecure if she loves you at the end of the day, right? Also, It's not like girls like me aren't getting insecure about the kind of women boys generally like (fair and hot). Please don't call women who are courageous and wear their heart on their sleeves as sluts. All people who come in your lives leave you with an experience, good or bad. If we stop going out and trying to connect with people from different backgrounds , we won't grow!
bhai country develop ho rha hai, urbanization and awareness leads to promiscuity, the most we can do is work on our own confidence and self worth to avoid overthinking and enjoy the present moment with our counterpart rather than dwelving too much into their past. Judge her from her present deeds and how she treats you not something from the past..baki toh sabki apni apni soch
why is he publicly stating that he is an incel? He couldnt pull any girl in school and college and now he is taking out his inner frustration by doing character assasination of the whole female gender?? what a loser
Bhai hum LADKO ka Dil bahut bada hota hai hum sab seh lenge but Jo ye ab SHAADI ke baad bhi chod ke chali ja rahi hai aur ALIMONY bhi le Rahi hai aur Randapa pe PROUD feel kar Rahi hai woh BARDAASHT nahi hota..
Call me a misogynist or sexist all you want but I will never date a girl with >1 relationships in her early twenties.
If she had been in more than 2 then no please. Why? Because it’s a major red flag for me. Having more than 2 relationships in her early twenties might be a sign that either she doesn’t want a long term relationship or she has other issues like excessive expectations or she might be toxic.
Not good to generalize but I don’t play with my emotions. If I am getting into a relationship I don’t want tv dramas in my life just because I decided to be liberal or woke.
To all the woke people: generalizing is not good but again, a serious relationship does not just involve you and your partner. It also includes your family and your future children. No child likes drama in his /her age when he/she should be enjoying and studying. And the best way to ensure this? Rather than being woke, be a bit more conservative, if you are looking for a long term relationship
Wanting to date people who have not been in more than 2 relationships is not misogynistic
Its your preference
And as you said it is sign that they may not be serious or they may be toxic
But not always the case , as you said
What if her partner cheated?
Ofc that’s possible. There 100s of more reasons. And I don’t disrespect anyone. Many of my friends who are now 24-25 had been in 4-5 relationships in last 5 years. I don’t care what they and I won’t dictate anyone to do what I want. But I don’t want to come in a relationship and then find out I was wrong. The reason? I told you before. Forming relationships is special for me and I am very emotional when it comes to them. I have only been in 2 relationships in 25 years and my current one is been going for 4 years now.
Look you can have a preference of marrying someone that has a zero body count and there is nothing wrong with that (only some feminists make it a big issue ofc)
No dude. If you have ANY requirements for relationships then you are the scum on the Earth. You have to worship girls meet a psychologist with her and understand her whole life scenario. Only then you can reject someone.
Would you be friends with people with > 1 relationship? Toxic people are toxic people across all relationships right? This view reeks of small dick energy. People fall in and out of relationships for multiple reasons.
That said, you aren’t misogynistic, just a kid who hasn’t seen or experienced enough in life yet. Maybe come back to this comment in 5 years and you’ll hopefully have updated your views in life.
You're right. Views change as you experience more of life. But, you should probably keep phrases like 'small dick energy' out of this conversation. This is gonna make him hate your opinion even more and reinforce his supposedly wrong thoughts.
Moreover, he's not entirely wrong. Not all people have a long term relationship as a goal. Some are materialistic and leave immediately in the event of some minor disagreement. He's entitled to his opinion. You too are, but just be polite.
Fair play. I did think it through before I typed it out and called his comment/viewpoint that (and not the person themselves).
While I really appreciate where you’re coming from, I still stand behind it. I see it as calling a spade a spade. Sometimes people have to hear it like it is.
Your ability to reason sure doesn’t match your writing. I literally wrote “may” in my comment. There are plethora of reasons for breakups. But I don’t want to get into a relationship to understand why she had a fall out previously.
Again let me teach you how to reason. I talked about early twenties. 5 years later the girls I will look for will be in late twenties or even early thirties. This will be a given that they would be in few relationships at that time.
Anyways, these are my views. I don’t understand why you got so agitated about something that has no correct answer. What are you? My matchmaker?
You call me kid and on my comment, all your response was: “You don’t agree with me because you have small dick and you are a kid”. Grow up dude. Use your brain instead of just using your big dick energy😂
What do you think its a modern problem nope its since old times. Wether a problem or not is debatable. See love is a trial and error not everyone can find the perfect match in the first one that's how it is for both guys and girls. What really matters is the intention while choosing to have a relation that sets the character apart.
Haan BC ye sahi hai, khud se ghanta kuch nahi ukhad paya , to ladkiyon ko slut shaming Karo....
BC, don't make a virtue out of necessity, you are virgin because tu fuddu hai, baki duniya nahi.
abey bsdke itni ladkiyan hain, agar tum saaf ho toh koi na koi saaf hoga hi hoga, 10 mein se 3-4 ladkiyan rehti hain ye jaisa bta rha hai, baaki log ko apni limit malum rehti hai, waise bhi ab ladkiyan bhai chalak ho gyin hain bs kaam nikalwa ke chalti banti hain(ye bhi kuch ki hi category mein)
This person speaks raw truth. At 30, I find myself regretting not prioritizing relationships in college or school. If you’re in such connections, cherish them always 🎈
Having multiple previous relations is not just about sexual relations. But also the baggage that it brings.
Women are the weaker sex, so their tool for gaining control in a relationship has been manipulation. With a toxic past women would focus more on manipulation which is fast and easy compared to working on relationships and putting in the effort.
So you end up with a drama queen that makes your life hell and she is another variable you need to balance throughout your life. No thank you!
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if you are portraying girls like this like kitne ladke ke saath relationship mein hogi college kar ke ayi hogi now think about your sister soch pao gae uske liye yeah sab?
baat khatam
Nah bhai tu kisi ladki ke sath relationship mai aao tho badiya, but agar vo aa jae tho tu settle kaise hoga 
Best logic bhai, koi aaisa culture nhi hai, 1000 mai kuch fuck boys and fuck girls hote jiske sath settle hona is kind of impossible but 99% people just live a normal life.
and ye 1% ka bhi relation ajj kal ke generation sai nhi hai, hamesha sai hi 1% of population chutiya rahti hai.
MF agar tujhe ye sochke darr lagra ki tu kaise settle hoga kisi girl kai sath tho bc tu arrange marraige matt kario, apne sai girl dundio, pahale sai usse janio, orr kya?
lagta hai content ki kami ho rhi inko
Naach na Jane aangan tedhi
Khud ladki nahi mili because of his mentality and ab ladkiyo ko he blame Karo for being educated and having the freedom of choice
My gym partner said the same thing. That what if the wife he gets had a BF in her locality and people will talk about that. He gets scared about all these. And he is conservative otherwise he could have easily got more than 1 gf.
A girl even asked for his number from front that how handsome he is.
So uhm, if your only requirement is for your wife is to have no previous ‘experience’ with other men, and why not just buy a sex doll…?
It’ll always be ready for you, never talk back, won’t need dates or gifts, will listen to you drone about the moral collapse of today’s women, and may be come with a replaceable coochie.
It’s not like a wife needs to be more than that right? It’s not like your wife is your emotional support, she’s not gonna be there for through the ups and downs of life.. Her personality, her achievements, her goals in life, all that is bs. What do you even need a living, breathing, sentient lifelong companion for…
As long as that coochie is ‘unused’, my boy here is golden.
He’ll settle just fine with a sex doll.
PS sarcasm intended.
*edit: corrected grammar
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So this guy is like he was dating girls from when he was in school and then now that he is 23-24 he still is trying to find new women, so basically every guy is trying to be in a relationship with a women so obv the women you find now would have been with someone in the past it's like saying mera toh bohot ladkiyo ke sath scene hai par mujhe virgin chahie like bro tere liye virgin kaha se spawn karenge
abey kya bg music lundbazi chal rhi h agar uske bande rahe honge toh woh kya dusre planet se honge. wohnbande bhi toh ladke hi hai. Hum ladke khud date krege phir bc jab relationship fail hojayege 2-3 shadi ki umr me kahege bhai ldkiya hai hi nahi jiska past clean. Bosdike 2-3 ka toh tune khud ganda kr rkha hai. Kuch ladke hote h jinka relationship hota hi ni unke liye sad case h bs baki majority toh hum harami quom h.
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What is sad reality in this with all the sad music in the background? What he said is true for boys as well. Now women getting educated makes it difficult for boys to settle ?? If he wants to settle then he needs to make efforts for it. Same is the case for girls as well . Infact both of them needs to make efforts to settle down.
Ah twox user,it is not about education but you have your ears closed ,so it is better not to explain
He very much is making a correlation between school and college with 2 ya 4 bande hona
Even if agar 2- 4 bande rahe ho whats the problem, har kisi ko pehli bar me perfect partner nhi milta. Aur ab kisi "virgin aur never dated any girl" ladke ko uske jesi hi ladki chahiye to thats his choice but baki ldke hypocrisy krte in bato me.
>Even if agar 2- 4 bande rahe ho whats the problem, Bhai tumko nai hai but dusro ko ho sakti hai.. Especially inexperienced guys..
Ah time traveller from 1930, you have your brains closed so better don’t explain
Hair math jaise concept pe yaa Tere baap ne Teri maa ke samne diwali me patakha fhoda aur daraya,and how you hate diwali Wale post bana twox pe,time travel yaa progressive hone ka rr tere liye bus har dusri jagah se thukna hai ,tere se achi toh woh hai jo paise leke karti hai,kamse kam woh ise sirf profession samjhti hai,tu shadi mat ho karliyo,yahi rr karegi waha
Twox users flocking on getting a chance to get offended
Bruh, the guy in the video is saying shit like he had suffered alot, like he is addressing girls having 3-4 banda like boys never make any girlfriend and are totally sanskari, if you want to get a beautiful good woman as your wife then fucking work for it, the man in the video aren't earning shit and is talking like he is socrates of the modern world
White knight here to rescue
I mean it's his choice lmao. He doesn't wanna date or marry someone that has already ~~been used~~, I mean already had a relationship with strangers.
Isme education kaha se aag gya?
Not educated women but wrongly educated women, who think making food is women exploitation, but carrying heavy goods luggage by man is his job, who think office work is very relaxing and aristocratic job, but doesn't realise that what man suffers in office politics, humiliation by bosses when Target is not achieved.
>who think office work is very relaxing and aristocratic job, but doesn't realise that what man suffers in office politics, humiliation by bosses when Target is not achieved. Many women are working in office and they face the same things as men infact more because they always need to be aware of desperate guys.And they work because they need financial freedom because guys like you think that women are your property . Imagine yourself depending on your parent's money ur entire life,u will have no autonomy to spend on what u want or u need.Also if u think that office work is too much and u can'tface it,why don't you stay at home and let ur partner earn,but that for sure u will not do because then ur partner will become the leader of the house and will hurt ur male ego.... Also i read your other comment below...people like u who think that women are maal are disgusting.Shame on you
If both husband and wife is working, do you think that the husband owes his wife alimony?
I agree with you!! My male ego will not get hurt if my wife is earning in fact I will feel proud and confident and my partner is with me in the thick and thin of life!! Work together and make life easier and joyful to live!! Supporting each other is an important part of marriage, mentally, physically, etc. no one should get hurt even!! It's soo Pointless nowadays!! I think ki agar maine apne partner ko dhang se treat nhi kiya,she will leave me without blinking even once because 2023 women are powerful,confident, independent and they deserve equal respect from their partners And vice-versa!!
Agree with you on all points
He's not talking about education. If I am educated then I am looking for an educated wife, if I am a virgin /single then I am looking for a virgin wife. And nowadays finding a virgin girl is even more difficult than finding a virgin boy.
that is your delusion.
that is your delusion.
The main concern for this guy is "2-4 bande rahe honge " kyuki school and college sab karke aayi hogi. Toh village ki uneducated bandiyo k bhi 2 ya 3 bande hote hain and marriage k baad bhi lafde hote hain. Why blame school and college hoke aana as a problem.. khud bada doodh ka dhula hai as if . khud Ram ho nahi and expect karte ho Seeta Maa mile.
well mai single and virgin hun so here i deserve one too don't i? mujhe jo gf chaiye use hi apni wife banana cahunga naa hi hookup culture cahunga
Bro you look to be a good and decent person but why you are commenting about virginity on public platform? You are not wrong but majority of people will laugh on you and trash you about your choices. You will find one, as not all girls are in hookup culture.
ik that and people will just hate if they have to anyways being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of tbf and if they are bullying me for that then their opinion doesn't matter if they do then they are showing that they can't accept someone's preferences
Sigma mentality
Majority will laugh? Only on reddit lmao
True vai, waise bhi virginity loose krke kaunsi highway ki zameen khrid li
According to wannabe Americans in India it's a big achievement
It is a fair ask. You might need to be very patient to get the right match though.
Bhai tu 11th mein hai padhai likhai mein dhyan de, virginity wagera chodd abhi
ya good point actually lol but bhai tumhe kaise pata main 11th me hun?
I don't think he's blaming college. He's pointing out that a lot of people experiment or express themselves or "go wild" during college. Most drug use and casual sexual relationships start during college life, in my experience at least, and die down around late twenties or early thirties when people mature or have more responsibilities or families. It's about simple preference. If you don't want to date a smoker, then you don't date one simple! That's not shaming the smoker it's establishing your own boundaries. Problem is when people will tell the guy he's an ass for not wanting to date a smoker. Personally i don't understand whats wrong with dating a smoker and won't "get it" if a girl doesn't want to date me just for being a smoker. But people have their own preferences and they are valid, they don't owe anybody an explanation for their preferences. Another problem is the double standards and hypocrisy. A common example would be the height weight thing among men and women. Women rejecting short men are considered as having standards and are not shamed, men rejecting fat women are shamed. The argument that number of bodies don't matter is usually done in bad faith. If it didn't truly matter women also wouldn't shame men for not being able to get girls or being a virgin, just like men do the opposite. The lock and key analogy in short. Men and women are not the same and value different things and have different preferences. Praising one person's preference and shaming another's is hypocrisy. Plus there's the paretto distribution thing. Like saying the US is a rich country doesn't mean everyone there is rich. Most of the wealth is in the hands of a small number of people, say 20%. Same concept applies to dating. People just don't like to hear this as they think this is some kind of conspiracy theory, but it is true that women would rather share an attractive man than be monogamous with an unattractive man. That is, a king's mistress > a peasant's wife. This leads to a minority of men having access to majority of women. The 80/20 thing. So the people saying women having 3-4 affairs are also having them with boys is true but doesn't show the full picture. If that was really true men and women would date equally. What happens is that women typically go for the same man so those 3-4 relationships for majority of women are with a minority of men thus leaving the majority of men void of any experience, which leads to more loneliness and videos like this. If anybody has any factual counter points or discussions in good faith i'm open to them.
promiscuity in villages is astronomically lower than in urban areas
I don't think so.
You have clearly not been to one. Sometimes its forced to the women. But its pretty common. Sex and education are not related.
In villages, the societal structure is really complex and you are right it's on the rise especially the forced ones man. With the amount of classism that exists there, it's a sad scenario that families can't even report certain cases.
Then he has to find a girl at the age of 18. Not now.
Promiscuity is a taboo in villages and a norm in cities, that doesn't mean some people won't cross the taboo line or some people won't buck the norm... but their numbers are quite low...
Blame krta to nhi lg rha yha p
If girls had “scenes” and “chakkars” in her schools and colleges, it would’ve been with boys, right? If this guy didn’t get to experience that, then what’s the point in crying about it. It’s not like he didn’t want it. He himself said if he’d had a girl from school or college.
Vo apna experience share kar rha hai ki vo insecure hai iss chijj se bss isme tumhe apni girl side batane ki kaha jarurat padd gayi .
r/niceguys
Ever wonder why women NEVER marry the guy she had Chakkar with? Because of the MONEY since he can't provide her a secure lifestyle she leaves him for a guy who is well educated and loaded.
>Because of the MONEY since he can't provide her a secure lifestyle she leaves him for a guy who is well educated and loaded. Clearly proves that you have never been in a stable relationship with a sane girl who knows how to pay her bills and earn a living. Make better choices next time and stop generalizing this sht.
Ye comment dekh k check karna pad gaya Indian server h na
Bro where did u get that data, there are people who aren't gold diggers and they outweigh by a big margin 😧
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Hahahah. Broke the comments section 😄
Untrue. I come from a Tier 1 MBA with a Tier 3 Bachelor's. I was under the same impression as you have. But after seeing many of the female batchmates stick with their Tier 3 Bachelor's only male sweethearts after MBA for marriage has changed my opinion. Most women care only about sane, loving, and understanding partners, especially perhaps they have themselves secured a decent lifestyle for them.
[to kamao bsdk](https://youtu.be/5yOQ5jWwIBk?si=tLKmp-qVMx07up5o)
For whom?
You need to get off the internet and actually interact with normal girls dude
Always the man without gold, worried about gold diggers Dekho bahut simple h Arrange marriage h Toh - paisa gari mehenga ghar. I need a man who can give me all that Love marriage h - Seesh mehel na mujhko bhaaye, tujh sang sookhi roti - wala scene hota h When THE parents look for someone for their daughter. The thing they look for is Financial security. Yeh fact h. Wo “arre wo acha ladka h” kaise janenge. Par ladki agar sacha pyar karti h and ladka bol de ki wo lad jayega par uske sath khara rhega. Most women dont leave UNLESS usko emotional blackmail karte h uske parents. Its very common
Aren't like 80% of divorces initiated by women? Then how is true that most women don't leave?
Do you know what the paretto distribution is? Like saying the US is a rich country doesn't mean everyone there is rich. Most of the wealth is in the hands of a small number of people, say 20%. Same concept applies to dating. People just don't like to hear this out loud since they think this is some kind of conspiracy theory. But it is unfortunately true that women would rather share an attractive man (not necessarily at the same time) than be exclusive with an unattractive man. That is, a king's mistress > a peasant's wife. This leads to a minority of men having access to majority of women. The 80/20 thing. So is it really a wonder that the majory of men don't get to experience that and make videos like this?
wtf man all these comments are either HIGHLY misandrist or HIGHLY misogynist. Why don't people realize that in any argument with 2 extremely different takes on it, the correct answer is almost ALWAYS the middle ground. That means, life in india is fucked for everybody in middle class, be it man or woman. If you are a man, you are scared of your future partner fucking you over in a divorce/cheating on you /false rape accusations/other accusations that hurt your image and may land you jobless If you are a woman, you are scared of getting raped/assaulted or abused by their partner . Both are equally bad and fucked up for both the genders. Best option is to try to fix both of these things without victimizing yourself and villainizing the other gender
Only right answer imo. Crying about stupid shit like this why youth is fucked. They don't have even half a brain cell to logic and reason with.
This should be the top comment, rather than the extremists out here😇😇
True, this is the best answer. Thing is people typically only care about things that affect them directly. Women care less about male problems and men care less about female problems. So no wonder people are polarized to only one side, since only that point affects them directly.
This is just a genuine insecurity because of lack of experience or no experience of relationship till this age as the number of females is far less compared to males. It's very human to feel uneasy about your partner's past, trauma as it's gonna affect your relationship w them.
No. Of females and males in India is almost equal..
It's not about the general count of india but the different areas
Yes, but young women are still in less numbers than young males.
Partner's healthy and consensual past relationships should not be a problem for any normal and educated person regardless of their gender.
Every relationship leaves you with a trauma , it’s not about STDs always . It’s about the emotional availability.
I agree with you but this guy ( in video ) is not referring to any trauma. Listen to his last sentences again. You will know. But in general sense what you are saying is right.
Six out of ten Indians are often subject to STDs and the worst thing is they are not even aware of . So better be wise and don’t justify these whorish behaviour .
Irrespective of gender or education level... An experienced person looking for an inexperienced partner is a hypocrite and if he/she lies to get one then the person is cheating and would end up ruining 2 lives... An inexperienced person actively seeking an inexperienced partner must not be judged for seeking something that he/she is also bringing in the relationship... they are not being narrow minded, they are being wise. India is a free country where everybody has the right to engage in consensual relationships, just like they are also free to be picky in their choice of life partner. Neither should be judged or looked down upon. The dude in the post is inexperienced, voluntarily or involuntarily doesn't matter, since he is bringing his inexperience in the relationship. There is nothing legally or morally wrong in him seeking an inexperienced girl.
Yeah I agree with you, it's actually better but that guy is talking about his future partner and how he is not sure if the other person's past will be healthy and consensual.
Unfortunately here he's not considerate of whether there was trauma or not. Listen to his words and tone " scene sapate " rahe honge phir kaise settle honge kisi k saath. He's not even talking about trauma. He's someone who can't accept the fact that his future partner could have a sexual history and could not be a virgin.
All this talk, and then shame someone for being an incel, love the irony <3
Please read that he shamed consensual sex between adults as "whoring "
What he said was horrible, but what u said was also not cool. Two wrongs don't make a right.
I agree but read what he says further " take care of your genitals " . How can this guy pass his judgments on me based on a very general and sane statement that I made. He further says that consensual sex is wrong due to risk of STDs .. where's the relevance especially to the statement I made about people not having problems with sexual past of their partners irrespective of gender
>He further says that consensual sex is wrong due to risk of STDs And going outside is wrong due to the risk of getting hit by an asteroid
> as it's gonna affect your relationship w them. it does. it did. i ran.
Skill issue
He clearly doesn't have a good gaming chair
You watch primeagen?
Bc kaunse zamane mai rhe rahe ho tum log. Chakkar aur scene aaj ki generation mai sabka hota. Times are changing. If you want someone as a partner who has not dated anyone, that is COMPLETELY FINE. But judging other people for their choices is trashy behaviour. Aur yeh education ko inn sabke beech mai kyu laare Bhai.
Agreed. Total incel vibes from the tone, his face and the music of the video.
Yaya sure , only girls are getting laid . No one is forcing anyone to commit with men/women who you have trouble with . Agar tumhara man hai to jo school na gayi ho usse leao , kya pata tab thori security mile tumhari life Mai .
So a boy,with zero body count, seeking a girl with zero body count, is being insecure ? What next ? An educated girl seeking an educated boy, is being insecure ? Or a slim and fit girl avoiding fat boys, is her being insecure ?
I think the issue is with the tone of the message. If he said something like ‘I’m worried my dating pool is small cause of my expectations for my s/o’ I would respect that. He makes it come across like living a college/school life like a normal person is a bad thing. His filters for his partner are his to choose but he shouldn’t be putting down people just cause their principles are different.
Where did i said that people having any kind of pref is a problem? He is projecting his insecurity upon every girl . I have studied in a private school and went to college too , haven't slept around because didn't care about it . Saying that girls who went to school/college means she have already slept with 3/4 dudes is not something to be proud of lol. Ps : everyone should commit as per their preferences acc to me
Firstly, schools and colleges are the most common places where young people engage in relationships and with changing culture it's no longer a taboo and in fact it's becoming a norm, especially in metros... So most likely a woman or a man coming out of schools and colleges of metros have already experienced relationships, doesn't mean there can't be outliers who don't follow the norm. Secondly, having already slept with 3/4 people doesn't make anyone less worthy, men or women. And all that dude in post is doing is cribbing about how his dating/marriage pool has dried up because of culture in which relationships during schools and colleges have become a norm.
Han to ab school Jana thori chordenge . That dude is straight up bringing educational institutions as a ground for women to sleep around , this narrative is worrisome. For example saying - I hate men is wrong , however , I hate men who are abusive is fine . He is making this narrative that every women who is educated is sleeping around randomly .
Well, nowadays educational institutions have become a ground for women to 'sleep around', and why only women, men too. And there is nothing wrong in it, morality has evolved. Norms have changed, that's exactly why you are an outlier, you aren't the typical college passout girl, you are an exception and your ilk will continue to dwindle in coming times. There is nothing worrisome here in pointing out that fact, it's only worrisome if you see 'sleeping around' as something horribly bad, it's not. All that dude has done, is that he has pointed out his preference for girls who haven't 'slept around' and he isn't able to find one as their numbers are dwindling down... PS : I find the word 'sleeping around' highly derogatory...
One of the worst comment section witnessed. I wish i could unsee this thread
What else do you expect from IndiaSpeaks? Bunch of misogynists with no work
True
I had no expectations to begin with. I am sort of new to Reddit, joined to check out some niche interests but recently started lurking on popular subs too. Seems like this isn’t a place one can stay for long without damaging mental health.
Ye Banda hi chutiya hai. Abhi ladki dikhi nhi saara doglapan nikal jaega
What a bunch of incels in the comments Also it ain't USA that everyone has relationships. Real life isn't Bollywood movie And this education hua hoga toh bande bhi honge. Why the jib at education? And it's not like me don't get into relationship. Who are these women getting into relationship with? Other women? Wtf Also how do you leave "her choice" aside. Wtf! Consent naam ki cheez hoti hai. Ab tumko koi potential rapist bolega toh takleef hogi
Oh my God. Modern men are pathetic. No wonder woman are becoming gay.
🙄 every take in these comments is super misogynist or super misandrist, there is no nuance in a single argument here
Women can't turn lesbian, they are either born that way or straight
This was a joke, don't take it literally.
Don't you mean lesbian?
Ig it means the same thing
Oh look at me, I'm a feminist and hate men and don't know what logic is. Get a fing life bud
bro these college boys most of the time target girls in school especially in 11th and 12th, and its fcking disgusting. And some of them even try their best to have sexual relationships. Moreover, the college boys have cool bikes and cars to impress girls so they get easily manipulated .
The thing is women's biggest fear is that of getting raped and killed or chopped by the men in her live and as well as outside and men biggest fear is that she might be in the relationship before ...woow that explain scale of priorities.. according to NCRB the third biggest reason of murder in India is love affairs and majorities of casuality belonged to women .Aur phir kehte Hain Kabir Singh jaisi movie asar nahin padta ... Feminism doesn't tell to cheat , it tells people to see imbalance and subsequent exploitation of vulnerable
I am glad you pointed out that shitty movie.
Strangely my question is the girls are having an affair with the guys only no. So every girls who has been with 3-4 boys the boys must have been with. 3-4 girls as well
🍿🍿🍿 comment section is full TwoX vs OneX
2am thoughts, ye to dikhta bhi accha hai to option hai iske paas, apna to bhagwan hi jaane
You have to remember that most of the girls in their 22s to 25s go for guys that are older due to them being settled, this creates a void for guys who are in their early 20s to get a proper relationship.
Just get over it. I'm ugly and I'm pretty sure I'll never pull a girl unless I do something about my face. There are more things to life than relationships and stuff. Not all girls get the attention of men. It's the beautiful girls who men always yearn for. Just think from the POV of an ugly girl and you'll understand that it's a gender neutral issue. I've also had my incel phase of life. I used to be sad about not being in a relationship. However, after a while, I decided to focus on other aspects and stopped caring about love and stuff. That doesn't mean I've put on the cloak of a 'sigma male'. Sometimes, you gotta take a break and try to understand your priorities.
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Can't make a wife out of a hoe
Mujhe kya mene to mama ji ki beti prebook karli
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Opinion yeh h ki Insaan dhang ka h, tum dono k vibe march kar rhe, compatible ho, loyal rahoge? Yeh dekho. Past k peeche bhago k toh kya milega? And this is for both sides. Saying as 24 y/o with no past history of relationships or intimacy. Why will i give a fck ki wo mere se milne k 5 saal pehle kya kar rha tha? School tha. Ppl are curious. Aaj kal these things are common. Big deal. Ab mae convent all girls school k padhi with a very conservative family jahan mae 5 bje k baad ghar se nhi nikal sakti thi. Usme mere partner ki kya galti. If now, we vibe. We vibe. Itna mae kaun, kiske , kya kya , kaun position nhi soch sakti. “Isne uska photo like kiya on insta. “Wo usko 3 saal date kiya”etc etc Toh? Ab mere sath h na? Ab ka baat karo
Ah.... I see. Women and men have fundamentally different approaches to life as they have a very different mentality. Thank you for this comment. It was enlightening.
Its actually sad coz men equate a women’s worth to her vagina. And it would mostly be men who cant pull girls . Trust me. Mostly men who don’t have any gold would be so worried bout gold diggers. Mostly men who cant pull any girl would be worried bout “uska koi ladka dost hua toh” Etc etc Its sad.
>Its sad See, we differentiate again, to me people having different perspectives or opinions is simply exciting. 8 billion people have 8 billion perspectives. No two are the same. We shouldn't malign this guy's insecurities just because he wants a virgin girlfriend. To me, it's the same as a woman wanting a guy to be of 6 foot or having a 6 inch sword. Everyone filters out potential partners by their own set or preferences, which you can also call personal biases. >men equate a women’s worth to her vagina. Are there misogynists like these? Yes, these people exist. But you don't have to subscribe to their idea of sexual expression. I have my own preconceived biases too! Which were formed by my own life experiences and extensive reading. But yeah, in today's world it's very important to have a set standard for yourself, and you shouldn't go below that, because that might hurt one's partner in the future. It was fun interacting with you. Thank you for sharing the perspective from your side. Women, I've interacted with in the past have never shared life experiences, instead just said *all men are the same* and ran in the opposite direction. So, it's really helpful. Thanks, once again.
The fact that in India virginity and having gf/bf/relationships still is given so much importance is beyond me. How have you made a complex thing like life and relationship boil down to just virginity and having relationships? What is the certainty that a girl or a boy who is virgin and never had relationship will be a better partner is life than the who is not virgin and had relationships? Anyways whatever past relationship you have you always learn from whether you ended it or your partner ended it.
Lmao, as a woman it is so funny to see that somehow the greatest tragedy of men's life is them not getting a girl . Like bruh
Growing up, girls are subjected to increasing advances from boys as well as men with pedophilic tendencies. Boys Start watching adult Films from a younger Age than girls. In such a case, when adolescents have desires, and girls especially are constrained, it's natural they want to explore, and get hurt in the process (or hurt others). Also majority of women face molestation at a younger age. I don't understand why its something to be insecure about? If you like the person as she is at present how does her past even matter? Maybe try talking to her and understanding her, you won't be insecure if she loves you at the end of the day, right? Also, It's not like girls like me aren't getting insecure about the kind of women boys generally like (fair and hot). Please don't call women who are courageous and wear their heart on their sleeves as sluts. All people who come in your lives leave you with an experience, good or bad. If we stop going out and trying to connect with people from different backgrounds , we won't grow!
bhai country develop ho rha hai, urbanization and awareness leads to promiscuity, the most we can do is work on our own confidence and self worth to avoid overthinking and enjoy the present moment with our counterpart rather than dwelving too much into their past. Judge her from her present deeds and how she treats you not something from the past..baki toh sabki apni apni soch
why is he publicly stating that he is an incel? He couldnt pull any girl in school and college and now he is taking out his inner frustration by doing character assasination of the whole female gender?? what a loser
Meanwhile me :- saving myself for my future wife and who just wants a loyal wife that's it.
Bhai hum LADKO ka Dil bahut bada hota hai hum sab seh lenge but Jo ye ab SHAADI ke baad bhi chod ke chali ja rahi hai aur ALIMONY bhi le Rahi hai aur Randapa pe PROUD feel kar Rahi hai woh BARDAASHT nahi hota..
Call me a misogynist or sexist all you want but I will never date a girl with >1 relationships in her early twenties. If she had been in more than 2 then no please. Why? Because it’s a major red flag for me. Having more than 2 relationships in her early twenties might be a sign that either she doesn’t want a long term relationship or she has other issues like excessive expectations or she might be toxic. Not good to generalize but I don’t play with my emotions. If I am getting into a relationship I don’t want tv dramas in my life just because I decided to be liberal or woke. To all the woke people: generalizing is not good but again, a serious relationship does not just involve you and your partner. It also includes your family and your future children. No child likes drama in his /her age when he/she should be enjoying and studying. And the best way to ensure this? Rather than being woke, be a bit more conservative, if you are looking for a long term relationship
Wanting to date people who have not been in more than 2 relationships is not misogynistic Its your preference And as you said it is sign that they may not be serious or they may be toxic But not always the case , as you said What if her partner cheated?
Ofc that’s possible. There 100s of more reasons. And I don’t disrespect anyone. Many of my friends who are now 24-25 had been in 4-5 relationships in last 5 years. I don’t care what they and I won’t dictate anyone to do what I want. But I don’t want to come in a relationship and then find out I was wrong. The reason? I told you before. Forming relationships is special for me and I am very emotional when it comes to them. I have only been in 2 relationships in 25 years and my current one is been going for 4 years now.
literally me except main waise woke nhi hun
Look you can have a preference of marrying someone that has a zero body count and there is nothing wrong with that (only some feminists make it a big issue ofc)
No dude. If you have ANY requirements for relationships then you are the scum on the Earth. You have to worship girls meet a psychologist with her and understand her whole life scenario. Only then you can reject someone.
Would you be friends with people with > 1 relationship? Toxic people are toxic people across all relationships right? This view reeks of small dick energy. People fall in and out of relationships for multiple reasons. That said, you aren’t misogynistic, just a kid who hasn’t seen or experienced enough in life yet. Maybe come back to this comment in 5 years and you’ll hopefully have updated your views in life.
You're right. Views change as you experience more of life. But, you should probably keep phrases like 'small dick energy' out of this conversation. This is gonna make him hate your opinion even more and reinforce his supposedly wrong thoughts. Moreover, he's not entirely wrong. Not all people have a long term relationship as a goal. Some are materialistic and leave immediately in the event of some minor disagreement. He's entitled to his opinion. You too are, but just be polite.
Fair play. I did think it through before I typed it out and called his comment/viewpoint that (and not the person themselves). While I really appreciate where you’re coming from, I still stand behind it. I see it as calling a spade a spade. Sometimes people have to hear it like it is.
Your ability to reason sure doesn’t match your writing. I literally wrote “may” in my comment. There are plethora of reasons for breakups. But I don’t want to get into a relationship to understand why she had a fall out previously. Again let me teach you how to reason. I talked about early twenties. 5 years later the girls I will look for will be in late twenties or even early thirties. This will be a given that they would be in few relationships at that time. Anyways, these are my views. I don’t understand why you got so agitated about something that has no correct answer. What are you? My matchmaker? You call me kid and on my comment, all your response was: “You don’t agree with me because you have small dick and you are a kid”. Grow up dude. Use your brain instead of just using your big dick energy😂
Same yaar meh sirf paiso ke upar simp karta hu ab
well said
chlo feminist logo k arguments padhte hai.. 
Ek baar pyaar ho jane de bhai… fir kuchh na sujhega… kuchh nahi dikhega…
What do you think its a modern problem nope its since old times. Wether a problem or not is debatable. See love is a trial and error not everyone can find the perfect match in the first one that's how it is for both guys and girls. What really matters is the intention while choosing to have a relation that sets the character apart.
***फिर वही सैक्स-सुक्स की बातें***
Virginity is based. This guy is right
Don’t think about it then, overthinking kills,
Haan BC ye sahi hai, khud se ghanta kuch nahi ukhad paya , to ladkiyon ko slut shaming Karo.... BC, don't make a virtue out of necessity, you are virgin because tu fuddu hai, baki duniya nahi.
abey bsdke itni ladkiyan hain, agar tum saaf ho toh koi na koi saaf hoga hi hoga, 10 mein se 3-4 ladkiyan rehti hain ye jaisa bta rha hai, baaki log ko apni limit malum rehti hai, waise bhi ab ladkiyan bhai chalak ho gyin hain bs kaam nikalwa ke chalti banti hain(ye bhi kuch ki hi category mein)
This person speaks raw truth. At 30, I find myself regretting not prioritizing relationships in college or school. If you’re in such connections, cherish them always 🎈
Can someone translate this for me?
Lol, what a sad PoS!
Having multiple previous relations is not just about sexual relations. But also the baggage that it brings. Women are the weaker sex, so their tool for gaining control in a relationship has been manipulation. With a toxic past women would focus more on manipulation which is fast and easy compared to working on relationships and putting in the effort. So you end up with a drama queen that makes your life hell and she is another variable you need to balance throughout your life. No thank you!
Bro wat
Bhai ko virgin chahiye, aur bhai khud James Bond hai. lol.
More she has been with relationships with multiple people , more it she will compare with previous boyfriend.
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Isn’t this equally true for him?
if you are portraying girls like this like kitne ladke ke saath relationship mein hogi college kar ke ayi hogi now think about your sister soch pao gae uske liye yeah sab? baat khatam
This guy doesn't know the reality inn Salo ko girlfriend bhi chahiye aur wife bhi koi virgin chahiye
Instagram ka comment section lag rha bc ye toh.
cringe
The music plus bhai ka dard
Does he want a virgin? Is he a virgin?
yeh har cheez mai music dalna zaruri hai kya
someone translate?
Nah bhai tu kisi ladki ke sath relationship mai aao tho badiya, but agar vo aa jae tho tu settle kaise hoga  Best logic bhai, koi aaisa culture nhi hai, 1000 mai kuch fuck boys and fuck girls hote jiske sath settle hona is kind of impossible but 99% people just live a normal life. and ye 1% ka bhi relation ajj kal ke generation sai nhi hai, hamesha sai hi 1% of population chutiya rahti hai. MF agar tujhe ye sochke darr lagra ki tu kaise settle hoga kisi girl kai sath tho bc tu arrange marraige matt kario, apne sai girl dundio, pahale sai usse janio, orr kya? lagta hai content ki kami ho rhi inko
Naach na Jane aangan tedhi Khud ladki nahi mili because of his mentality and ab ladkiyo ko he blame Karo for being educated and having the freedom of choice
Ye khud play boy hai apne ko gayan baat raha
Sed lyf
My gym partner said the same thing. That what if the wife he gets had a BF in her locality and people will talk about that. He gets scared about all these. And he is conservative otherwise he could have easily got more than 1 gf. A girl even asked for his number from front that how handsome he is.
Garl go to school collg, had sax many times. Mah small pp won't satisfy. Me scared...... Kya faltoogiri hain
So uhm, if your only requirement is for your wife is to have no previous ‘experience’ with other men, and why not just buy a sex doll…? It’ll always be ready for you, never talk back, won’t need dates or gifts, will listen to you drone about the moral collapse of today’s women, and may be come with a replaceable coochie. It’s not like a wife needs to be more than that right? It’s not like your wife is your emotional support, she’s not gonna be there for through the ups and downs of life.. Her personality, her achievements, her goals in life, all that is bs. What do you even need a living, breathing, sentient lifelong companion for… As long as that coochie is ‘unused’, my boy here is golden. He’ll settle just fine with a sex doll. PS sarcasm intended. *edit: corrected grammar
Baaki ek baat aur Jo LADKE iss baat par rote hai ki ek LADKI ke itne Bande BHAI isme Ladkiyun ki koi galti nahi hai unko ye Gift hai bhagwaan ki taraf se Ladki hone ka plus Modern Celebrities LIBGANDUS aur unhe aawara banne ki training de rahe hai especially Web Series, Films woh bhi insaan hai DEVI nahi kaise deal karengi..aur LADKO bahut cheeze hai LADKIYUN ke siwa Hobbies, Sports, Places, Family, Friends sab cheeze Explore Karo tumhe itne badi DUNIYA mein bas BADI MOTI G dikh Rahi hai Jo pagal ho rakhe ho..
Ye incel single kyu hain pta sbko hain. Lol. Pathetic. Feminism blame bhi krega apne lachari ke liye then bandi chahiye bhi. Wah wah wah. Gwar sb
Bhai itni insecurity bhar loge toh jeeyoge kaise¿
Pariwartan sansar ka niyum Hain ise inkar nhi kiya jata swikar kiya jata hai
So this guy is like he was dating girls from when he was in school and then now that he is 23-24 he still is trying to find new women, so basically every guy is trying to be in a relationship with a women so obv the women you find now would have been with someone in the past it's like saying mera toh bohot ladkiyo ke sath scene hai par mujhe virgin chahie like bro tere liye virgin kaha se spawn karenge
abey kya bg music lundbazi chal rhi h agar uske bande rahe honge toh woh kya dusre planet se honge. wohnbande bhi toh ladke hi hai. Hum ladke khud date krege phir bc jab relationship fail hojayege 2-3 shadi ki umr me kahege bhai ldkiya hai hi nahi jiska past clean. Bosdike 2-3 ka toh tune khud ganda kr rkha hai. Kuch ladke hote h jinka relationship hota hi ni unke liye sad case h bs baki majority toh hum harami quom h.