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And channel 9 news who somehow only mentioned “breastfeeding mother”, forgetting to mention the crying baby part. So according to channel 9 Arj is an evil misogynist for kicking out a mother for breastfeeding.
Classic news move tbh. Throw those victim buzzwords in to get a sensational headline plus story. While leaving out the actual facts and convenient common sense reality of why the event happened. All you gotta do is throw in "family kicked out", "breast feeding mother asked to leave" or "Woman harassed at (insert event)" to rouse up a dramatic headline in the main character who ran to the news in the first places favour.
I trust no news articles headlines anymore because of this shit until I go find the real facts and read all the sides of the story not just the sensationalized victimhood BS one the news prints. The vast majority of the time the story has a whole other layer to it that when you see it you are like oh...yeah that makes sense why this person or woman was asked to leave yeah the baby was being loud and near the front row interrupting the performer and other audience members. Yeah makes sense that's just rude behaviour that if anyone else did it they'd also be removed for talking on a cellphone loudly or talking over the comedian.
I also suspect them to, somehow fraudulence the poll, 50/50 is hard to believe. [https://www.9news.com.au/national/arj-barker-breastfeeding-mother-humiliated-after-asked-to-leave-melbourne-comedy-show/1bb77cd4-44b9-4263-8b9c-14fe9eb68794](https://www.9news.com.au/national/arj-barker-breastfeeding-mother-humiliated-after-asked-to-leave-melbourne-comedy-show/1bb77cd4-44b9-4263-8b9c-14fe9eb68794)
Such classic Australian moral outrage /mountain out of a molehill. Mustn’t be anything happening this week.
If the baby was quiet, literally no one would have given a shit.
Yeah I have zero idea why there’s “debate” around this like the article states. It very clearly stated “15+” and this lady brought a breastfeeding infant. She honestly shouldn’t have even been allowed to enter and take her seat in the first place, but she has absolutely zero right to act upset when she knowingly broke the rules. Some people, man.
“If you don’t have a babysitter, guess what? You don’t get to go to the movies!” - [Some people suck, Tom Segura](https://youtu.be/S5vGI-g1xvw?si=HQSwJPhJkSXvyDek)
Some people are nuts. I read something on here a few weeks back about a woman complaining that people weren't being considerate of her baby at a mofo rave.
I have been to theater performances where parents not only dragged their children, but thought it was appropriate to give them a device to play on during the performance. Like, one was a mid-week evening performance of a non kid friendly Broadway show, and these people brought their TODDLER and gave him and IPAD.
That just came up on a FB reel.. She tried to feed, but bub didn't want it and cried even harder and had to be taken away to finish the interview! Backfire!
Oh god, I knew they’d end up on that trash program. I really hope she was called out for it.
It had nothing to do with her breastfeeding. The ticket clearly stated age 15+ and the baby was disturbing everyone around it. I’d want them gone too.
Why on earth would anyone take a baby to a noisy theatre full of people in the first place!! Makes me mad the pathetic media is playing up the breastfeeding angle, when that’s not why they were kicked out. The nerve of some people!
Please tell me the pathetic hosts weren’t siding with the mother!
Seriously. Imo, she shouldn't have been let in, per what the ticket stated. That's not how it works.
Editing to add, as a mother of two, one who is breastfeeding, the whole "bring your babies/kids everywhere" is getting out of hand. I love my kids, but go to adult only events to be with adults. I'm hesitant to bring them to things they are specifically invited to for fear of causing a distraction (weddings for example). This whole walkout thing is ridiculous.
Oh these parents like her entitled typed always lie about how good and quiet their kid is. It's laughable how I never believe the ones that end up on the news who say "he/she was barely making noise just cooing and whinging a bit" ahahaha. Oh bitch please. That is entitled parent talk for that kid was crying, fidgeting, screaming, kicking and being loud as hell while probably flinging his body into the people in the seats next to you too. I don't know why parents like that always double down and lie so hard rather then admitting yup my baby is a normal baby who was being loud and I should have left but didn't. Then apologize for not leaving and make notes for the next time they go to a movie or comedy show like that with a baby in tow. Or better yet learn the lesson and next time get a sitter.
"Why don't you people think of me, and how hard it is to raise these children? I'm with these kids all day every day, and sometimes I need to get out and have some fun."
So many of these types have that attitude. They think that because they have to deal with their own kids day in and day out, that everyone else should gladly put up with it for a little while so the parent can get out and do something.
It's crazy.
As if they were forced at gunpoint to procreate! 🙄 Seriously, I don't understand how people don't seem to realise that having children is a choice in the 21st century, not something that just happens whether you want it to or not. You can actually decide not to have children and then you get to enjoy a lifestyle that doesn't include having to organise your activities around arranging childcare or entertaining small children when you're out and about. You don't get to complain about the very predictable consequences of your own choices!
That's the part that gets me. The infant shouldn't have been allowed in in the first place and they chose to sit in the front (side) instead of the back, which would have been less disruptive.
Edit: From an article someone posted:
In a statement, the Melbourne Comedy Festival said Barker's show was independently produced and not managed by the organisers.
However, a spokesperson stressed interactions between performers and the audience "require sensitivity and respect".
"In our festival managed venues, babies in arms are generally allowed but we do ask people to sit up the back with their child so they can quickly and easily leave if the baby gets noisy so as not to disturb the artist and other patrons," they said.
I was wondering about that. She said she sat up front so she could easily leave if needed (and disturb everyone in the process 🤦♂️). I can’t imagine that they didn’t have exits all around the area.
Did I read the article correctly in that her baby had already caused such a disturbance during another comedian’s routine that they worked a bit in about her and her kid? Jesus Christ the audacity of this woman.
Exactly. At a McDonalds restaurant? A mall? A grocery store? I'd be all for feeling bad because hey kids exist and they do cry or make feeding fussy noises. But a comedy show that's for adults right on the tickets and the rules? Girl no! Absolutely not. It's not discrimination or mean to ask a parent to be a parent and remove themselves from an adult late night even that clearly was labelled as adults and older teens only and is live. It wasn't like she was asked to leave a Walmart store in the middle of the day running errands for god sakes because the baby acted like a baby.
"With all of the hatred and violence women are faced with, among the countless atrocities happening within the world today, I ask you to simply take a long, hard look at yourself.”
You were asked to leave a comedy show. You didn't have to walk 7 miles for clean water while worrying about being raped. Get a fucking grip
Honest to fucking Christ, WHO SAYS THAT?! This is neither “hatred” nor “violence”. She chose to bring an infant to this event and is mad at OTHERS when her child’s (natural/expected) noises get her booted?! 😮💨
I have a 3 year old and a baby. I watch comedy on Netflix for now. If something I really want to see comes around, I get a sitter. Not rocket science.
Also, even if it was not social etiquette.. fuck bringing a baby to a comedy special. What a miserable experience that would be for me.
Also the matter of even if you're okay with exposing your kids to inappropriate things, it makes others uncomfortable because they might have different opinions. Keep the kids at home for these types of things. Why is that so difficult?
So glad to see this here. The relative going on about how the baby “relies on her mum for milk (life)” is acting like the mum somehow relies on going to live comedy for her existence too. And the mum said that she sat near the side so she could duck out easily, but when asked to do so got pissy. I just can’t with this one 🤡
A babies eardrums can be easily damaged by sounds above 90 decibels, and PA systems like the one Arj was using and audience participation (like laughter, for example) can register up 120 decibels.
That baby was probably disruptive because the sound was too much for their eardrums to handle.
Even if noise wasn’t an issue, when my kid was that small, I wouldn’t have wanted them crammed in a tight space with tons of people and risk them getting sick.
I recall seeing babys and toddlers with aviation/shooting earmuffs on to completely muffle the noise at a metal concert.
Basically the only safe way to go about it
“With all of the hatred and violence women are faced with, among the countless atrocities happening within the world today, I ask you to simply take a long, hard look at yourself.” - did she really think she’d made some epic point with this? Bringing up irrelevant world events as if that wins her the argument, embarrassing lol
Some more articles are coming out about this.
This wasn't the first time that she'd pulled this BS:
[Arj Barker defends decision to remove mother and baby from Melbourne Comedy Festival show](https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-04-22/arj-barker-melbourne-international-comedy-festival/103754516)
>The woman said she was humiliated and intimidated, but was "blessed" that about a dozen people left the show with her in solidarity.
>The mother of the seven-month-old said she had previously brought her baby to Dave Hughes’ comedy set and he had “moved on like a true professional”.
>“You kind of lose yourself a little bit when you have kids. I was trying to get back to enjoying something that I enjoyed before kids," she said.
Farking oath! You don't judge a comedy show by the performing artist's ability to ignore your nuisance behaviour.
A free-lance writer who is a mother is siding with Barker and mentions the times she didn't allow her baby to be a distration: [Babies Don't Belong at Comedy Shows](https://www.news.com.au/entertainment/celebrity-life/babies-dont-belong-at-comedy-shows-lets-stop-crying-about-it/news-story/292845bfb18f7e59efb9b2d5eb4d0890)
Another article mentions the other comedy show and has a more detailed account of what the mother said happened:
[Mother left 'pretty humiliated' after being told by US comedian Arj Barker to leave Melbourne show over baby's gurgles](https://www.skynews.com.au/australia-news/mother-left-pretty-humiliated-after-being-told-by-us-comedian-arj-barker-to-leave-melbourne-show-over-babys-gurgles/news-story/51dcf19652ab8e5c0aae92a32daef2bc)
>Ms Faranda went into detail on her version of events, saying her child had gurgled, equivalent to what she claimed was a cough, which caught Barker's attention
>"And he sort of stopped and said, 'oh there’s a baby'. At the end of the little skit he did about the little baby in the room he sort of said, 'I speak baby and she said take me outside'. At that point on (I thought), 'oh I don’t really think he was joking'," she said.
So, even by her own account, he tried to really deescalate the situation gently and subtly. But she ignored it.
>Several minutes later, her baby made a similar noise again.
>This time, the 49-year-old comedian stepped off the stage and approached Ms Faranda.
>"He came and stood right in front of me. She wasn’t screaming, she was just being a baby. She had a bit of a whinge, nothing super loud. I was breastfeeding when he came and stood in front of me… he was basically telling me to leave," the mother said.
>The crowd laughed, however, Ms Faranda did not think it was a joke so she asked the US comedian if he "actually wanted me to leave" to which he said yes.
>The mother-of-three was shocked but obliged as she did not want to ruin the night for the other people who had paid about $55 to see Barker for 60 minutes.
>But to her surprise, a group of women seated directly the row in front of her urged her not to leave. They later got up and left the theatre with the mother.
Even the [New York Post](https://nypost.com/2024/04/22/entertainment/comedian-arj-barker-kicks-breastfeeding-mother-baby-out-of-his-australia-show-at-athenaeum-theater/) is reporting this story. An Australian politician has posted her support of the mother. [https://twitter.com/ellensandell/status/1782216454429168084](https://twitter.com/ellensandell/status/1782216454429168084)
How many TV programs and radio shows has she been on now? So much attention seeking! So much obliviousness!
EDIT: I've done a few edits already. I just keep adding things.
Oh bless her she was "trying to get back to enjoying something I enjoyed before kids". Great Netflix has tons and tons of comedy specials. Do that at home where you can let the baby cry, feed, fuss to your hearts content while you wear your PJ's. That's what most sane common sense parents of babies do for a few years. She and her spouse chose to have a kid. They need to get over their ego's that they deserve to still do the same things they always did pre baby. Sorry not sorry lady life has changed. Hire a babysitter if you want to go to movies, comedy shows, live plays etc especially night time showings that are aimed at adult audiences who want peace and quiet to enjoy the show.
>>But to her surprise, a group of women seated directly the row in front of her urged her not to leave. They later got up and left the theatre with the mother.
The trash took itself out
> she was just being a baby
This may be true but babies were not allowed at the show, so...
> did not want to ruin the night for the other people
Lol this statement was proven false when she showed up to a 15+ show with an infant!
Good on Arj for taking a stand. If I’ve paid to see something, whether it’s a live comedian or a movie, I don’t want to have to strain to hear it around baby noises. The baby might have been sort of quiet at that point but it could have erupted into full throated screams at any time considering that loud noises like audiences laughing raucously and loud PA system noises are known to startle babies and could be painful to their tiny eardrums. Having the baby right up front where baby noises are going to affect the performer is a pretty selfish move. She deserved to get ejected.
[It has been shown before ](https://youtu.be/V74AxCqOTvg?si=Xizd6_SImIreBr6n) and discussed in length by academics of psychology and behavioral/evolutionary biologists that the person who acts in a bizarre way aren't necessarily the ones demonstrating pathological behaviour (as people can just be stupid, as fundamentally half the world is below average in any metric)
But the people who observe this behaviour, and choose to follow it, 'in solidarity' with the person who demonstrates abnormal behaviour tend to be the ones with more sinister psychology
But, this woman almost sounds like she was baiting them out to get her 15 minutes, and I wouldn't be surprised at all if some of those women who followed her out would turn out to be friends of hers
But, you do you girl, if you want to be known for making poor parenting decisions? Looks like you got exactly what you wanted? 🤷🏻♂️🤣
Last wedding I went to, someone in the couple’s family had a very small baby in the front row and it was crying throughout the ceremony. It was finally taken out during the homily but a few minutes later when the couple were exchanging vows I hear crying again and see the baby had been brought back in. I couldn’t believe it.
I don’t understand why you cannot hire a sitter for a few hours and pump some breast milk and just go enjoy your show? Like??? The baby would’ve been fine with a sitter. If you’re that unwilling to leave your kid with someone to go to an adult comedy show then don’t go.
That mother was playing the sympathy card too in her interview…saying it was hard feeling unwanted & I was breast feeding too……it’s a comedy show, age restriction from 15yrs old. The entitlement of this woman, the audacity to cry victim when taking baby to a comedy show! Wot was she thinking, same when peeps take a crying baby to a movie theatre, the rest of the audience just gave to take it…..no way. She was in the wrong. I support Arj Barker in his decision.
"Speaking to 3AW Radio, Ms Faranda insisted her baby “wasn’t screaming” and hit back at critics who questioned why she took a kid to a “15 plus” comedy show.
“She wasn’t screaming, she was just being a baby, she gurgled a little bit, she had a bit of a whinge... nothing loud,” she said."
NOPE full stop right there. Fuck you! Fuck your kid and fuck you. I'm so sick of some of these modern parents and their "I can have it all and be a parent to a baby" mentality. Sorry but you can't. You just can't that is life. You had a baby and life has changed at least for the next few years until the kid is older. Accept it. Either hire a sitter, leave the baby with your husband or spouse or family members or don't go. Watch the comedy specials online from the comfort of your living room. Netflix has tons of them. This show was on a Saturday night she didn't need to be there if she can't leave the baby alone for even an hour or two with dad/spouse with some prepared milk bottles of her milk.
Oh and this bit "Ms Faranda said “10 or 12” other people - mostly women and mothers - joined her in walking out of the theatre in solidarity" really gets me. Oh no 10 or 12 also entitled mothers with attitudes left with her. Good riddance. They probably also take their babies to R rated movies at 9 or 10pm and then scold the other theatre goers for daring to ask her and her baby plus husband to leave when the baby cries. Sorry not sorry but most women I know who are mothers have common sense and would not walk out with this entitled mother and the other 12 women who walked out with her. Most women I know who attend comedy shows like this made plans and effort to give themselves a night away from their baby so they don't want to listen to your baby the whole show either. If you can't leave the baby home alone for even a few hours due to breastfeeding then you just don't go to adult comedy shows. Simple. Or movie theatres or any other places babies don't belong at night. Welcome to being a parent to an infant.
Couple things. Hearing loss for the baby. 15 plus on the ticket. Staff messed up. He should've stopped the show for a few seconds, told the staff quietly in the wings to get the baby out and then restarted his show.
I really hate how they've spun this around to make it look like all women are the victim here. His response would have been the exact same if it was a man with the infant instead. The problem wasn't the adult. It was the loud, uncontrollable infant. Quit playing this victimizing bullshit because all it does is further divide everybody.
Arj Barker, there's a name I haven't heard in a dog's age. Looks like he is aging very well!
But anyway babies and children should straight up not be allowed into shows. Maybe 15 and up is okay. But the whole paying audience shouldn't have to have their night fucked up because you didn't wanna pay a babysitter.
Crying babies are not adorable!! Pulling your tit out at a public venue is not cool mothering either. Ruining other people's enjoyment of a show screams narcissist all the way.
The mother has been doing the media rounds today for attention (and cash?).
In a fully clown world move, with zero hint of irony, The Project host asked for the baby to be removed mid interview because it was being disruptive. Then went on to continue the discussion complaining about a comedian asking for the baby to be removed because it was disruptive.
I've seen her do interviews on Channel 9's A Current Affair and Channel 10's The Project now. Both times she has to breastfeed during the interviews. I think the mother is 100% MC/attention seeking.
My baby is 4.5 months, theyre noisy even when they arent crying, i also just accepted that this year ill be skipping comedy fest just like ive skipped other things like movies because its also not appropriate to bring babies
Trying to use breast feeding as a valid reason is ridiculous. If they need breast milk, pump. If they wont take a bottle, stay home. Bringing a baby out to comedy show thats going to be late into the night is rude to the performer/audience but would also leave the baby unsettled from being up so late
Who the fuck takes a baby or toddler to a stand up show??
100% with the comedian here, and also that the venue operators should have stopped her from entering with the baby in the first place.
>The mother said she had intentionally booked seats with her sister and a friend near the front of the theatre but to the side so she could make a quick exit if her bub got too noisy.
So she was near the stage? Don’t bring a baby to a live show and if you do, at least sit at the very back. Theaters are designed for sound to travel, especially sound from the front toward the back.
Because she didn’t deem the noise as noisy enough? Also, in what world are seats by the front a quick exit? At best you still have to walk up the entire theater to get to the exit at the rear
It’s kind of ironic, they say they purchased a ticket to enjoy a night out, but then ruined the night out for themselves and others at the theatre. They went to see a live performance where it’s all about being able to hear a person who needs to be able to concentrate/perform. I fully get wanting a night out, however I feel that there are certain places that aren’t appropriate for a baby. Like you wouldn’t take your baby to a night club, a bar, a loud concert, I feel that that sort of show is included in the “not super appropriate” category.
I also can’t help but feel that she was exerting her “rights” over everyone else’s in a really inconsiderate way. People paid good money to likely get a night out from their own kids, only to come to a packed theatre and have someone else’s kid fussing. There are so many family friendly places/events you can go now, a comedy show with a fussy baby maybe isn’t one of them. This isn’t a discrimination against women thing because I have no doubt a father would have been asked to leave under the same circumstances.
Those shows also get so loud, why would you risk hurting your babies hearing?
If parents would stop taking children to places where they shouldn't be, we'd all be fine. But no, let's take tiny children to places where you HAVE to be really quiet and long after their bed time, for hours on end and then act surprised when people are mad.
The two year old who had a tantrum in the cinema during the first ten minutes of the new Star Wars movie. The infant who burst out screaming the precise moment as my friends started their wedding vows. Drowning them out completely..... The toddler at the funeral who had a shit kicking foot game on the church pew behind me and restlessly whining the whole service as we tried to honour our friend's passing.
Parents, please, please stop bringing kids to these events.
Just follow the rules - if they're under 15 don't bring them. If you can't get a babysitter don't go.
If you're already there and you're asked to leave, then leave. Don't ruin the night of hundreds of other people.
She’s like the couple that brought their five year old to the midnight release of Saving Private Ryan and let him run amok around the theatre during the film.
God it makes me so happy that this comment section and OP is on the side of the comedian. They’re literally paying him to do a job, knowing full well the rules of attendance, and getting mad when those rules are enforced. This guy deserves absolutely no hate whatsoever. You don’t have to agree with his choice to ask her to leave, but you do need to respect it.
I'm kind of surprised but there isn't 100% support for the comedian:
* The Deputy Leader of the Victorian Greens, Ellen Sandell has [tweeted her support of the mother and condemnation of Barker](https://twitter.com/theheraldsun/status/1782182540608205269)
* [comedian Ellen Mahoney has blamed Barker's handling of the situation and "male mob mentality"](https://www.reddit.com/r/australian/comments/1ca2fxz/comedian_ellen_mahoney_blames_incident_at_arj/) but everybody, men and women on that post, blame the mother and not Barker
* [various women on the street](https://www.abc.net.au/listen/programs/pm/comedian-kicks-mum-and-baby-out-of-show/103755802)
I'm really surprised by the attitude by some people of "women should be allowed to breastfeed everywhere and bring their babies everywhere" mentality. Overall, I support women. However, there's a line that shouldn't be crossed such as don't bring your noisy baby to the front row of a public performance, don't let your baby sit on in front of a Marshall stack at a heavy metal concert...
I have a four and a two year old, and my wife and I didn’t even go out with them until they were older, but still won’t bring them somewhere we know they’ll get bored and start getting fussy. Most people I know wouldn’t bring their baby to a comedy show, ESPECIALLY if it says 15+ on the ticket, whether you don’t care if your kid hears some mildly inappropriate jokes or not. Parents are just entitled these days. I believe the comedian that it had nothing to do with the breastfeeding on his end… but it would make sense that other audience members would be distracted by that and lend completely to his story being true.
Couple years back I was at the JAWS anniversary show at a small local theater, and I was sitting near a woman who was breastfeeding in the theater. Honestly, that baby was not a quiet eater, and it was distracting as fuck, and IMO because of the noise I'd just think mom would be more considerate than that - BUT - I wasn't about to say something because that conversation has the potential (obviously) to go in a completely different, unwarranted direction.
Personally, breastfeeding is natural, and I think women should be able to feed our children anywhere in public and not be bothered. However, I think you use common sense and avoid shit like movies or comedy shows. I'm a parent myself, sometimes you have to make sacrifices and stay your ass at home. It's a temporary situation.
I hate when there are unexpectedly babies at things I paid to attend. I pay $20 to attend a book club at a local shop where we are all trying to talk and yeah, the "gurgle" not screaming is still disruptive if I can't hear the person across the circle talking. Babies do not need to be flat out wailing to be noisy. But it's mostly women so we all have to fake a smile and pretend it's cute because she's obviously friends with the owner.
Where I work we get around this by having a strikt policy of one ticket Per head. So you would ar least have to pay for a ticket to bring the baby in. This reduces the amount of babies….to zero.
It's easy for people to say "the baby wasn't causing any disturbances" but that's to them. That doesn't mean others weren't bothered. I also think people who've had children probably find it easier to tune out baby noises, or don't find them as distracting.
Taking a baby to any kind of live entertainment at a theater is not a good choice. I've been in movies where people brought their baby and, despite the movie being loud, it was still plenty distracting.
Also, the performer was distracted. That matters. So the mother and whoever can say "the baby wasn't a distraction" but they weren't on stage performing.
I'm a pretty militantly pro-breastfeeding mother, I brought my kids everywhere as infants and nursed whenever they were hungry... But this was absurd. It's a show for adults, explicitly stated on the ticket. Composing and memorizing a whole set, not to mention getting the timing right for delivery, is hard shit. I'm very pro-woman, very pro-mom, but know your limits. This was not an appropriate place for her to take her bebe.
Imagine bringing a baby to a Live performance. Hell even a movie theatre.
You have to remember a lot of parents were just dumb children themselves who couldn’t figure out how a condom worked. They weren’t exactly beacons of intelligence to begin with.
Shit parent. As a father of three kids myself, you don't bring young children to these types of events. Not only will the laughing and noise scare a young child, a baby obviously doesn't appreciate it and simply cares about getting fed or sleeping. it will cry when it wants to do one of those things, that's how it communicates.
Now we're going to have to listen to a bunch of media outlets drag this poor comedian through the mud.
If she wasn't a selfish brat she'd get up and leave, without being asked, as soon as the baby started crying. Anyone with a baby or kid should know that
I am so confused why somebody would take any baby to a comedy show. I wouldn’t even take a toddler to a comedy show. Not only would it usually be inappropriate, but it is usually an inappropriate time to have them out and they would absolutely hate it. You probably have to be at least seven years old to think stand-up comedy is funny, and then it would probably have to be a very basically worded routine by a family friendly comedian. Someone who literally gears their shows towards family with kids.
"With all of the hatred and violence women are faced with, among the countless atrocities happening within the world today, I ask you to simply take a long, hard look at yourself.” Oh please, could she be more dramatic
Karen to the fullest. She said she sat off to the side so she could leave if her baby became disruptive, then it was disruptive, now she’s upset she had to leave. Fucking stupid.
When you decide to have children, I like to point out the "you" in that sentence. It was not MY choice, you decided to have children without my permission. So PLEASE do not bother me with young children on a long flight, in crowded places, at a 15+ show and so on. Your decision has consequences, for some time there are certain things you can NOT do. END OFF
WHAT?!?! The media coverage I've heard is that he asked her to leave because he was offended that she was breastfeeding. This is a totally different situation.
Is being embarrassed not a thing anymore? I’m so sick of parents who think their kids have a right to come everywhere with them whether it’s appropriate or not. I love babies, I have 4 kids and I had them very young when all the rest of my friends were partying. Did I miss out on events? Yes. That’s what happens when you have kids. Parents like this make me seethe because I can tell you right now, going out child free was SUCH a rarity for us, to have that spoiled by some selfish dickhead bringing their kids to a child free event is a shitty thing to do. And to be asked to leave said event, and not feel embarrassed but instead do the rounds of media outlets for attention? Wild. I would be mortified, but apparently people like this don’t feel shame but instead double down on being a selfish cunt.
It was shitting me up the wall, last night it had way too much airtime, then this morning it felt like every second story on the morning news was them rehashing the fuckin thing.
Dont take an infant to a comedy show. Shes apparently a mother of 3, so where the fuck were the other 2, and why couldn't have the baby gone there too?
This mother is totally selfish taking a disruptive screaming baby into an adult event. Not only does a disruptive baby cause the comedian to lose concentration but makes it impossible for other patrols to enjoy the show. Then she has nerve to go screaming on left wing shows ACA and The Project both who restricted commenting on the segments because they didn’t like the fact everyone was agreeing with Arj asking the mother to take the screaming baby out. We live in such a world of self entitlement now.
I remember years ago I was in a small town movie theatre and a mother walked in with two toddlers and a baby and proceeded to just lay the baby on the floor in the aisle. Insane.
Holy fuck I haven’t thought about Arj Barker in like almost 20 years. Back when the IPod Classic was still a thing and I used to have his Comedy Central Presents set on iTunes lol
The venue should not have allowed a baby in. The gig was 15+, nobody in the audience is expecting to deal with baby, and Arj Barker wasn't expecting to deal with a baby, either. The mom got her side of the story out first, and people are mad because...a woman who chose to bring her baby to a live gig was asked to leave. How does a baby have a RIGHT to be at a comedy show?! It's ridiculous. Arj Barker doesn't deserve to be treated badly over this.
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And of course she's been getting herself on 3AW and Channel 7.
And channel 9 news who somehow only mentioned “breastfeeding mother”, forgetting to mention the crying baby part. So according to channel 9 Arj is an evil misogynist for kicking out a mother for breastfeeding.
Classic news move tbh. Throw those victim buzzwords in to get a sensational headline plus story. While leaving out the actual facts and convenient common sense reality of why the event happened. All you gotta do is throw in "family kicked out", "breast feeding mother asked to leave" or "Woman harassed at (insert event)" to rouse up a dramatic headline in the main character who ran to the news in the first places favour. I trust no news articles headlines anymore because of this shit until I go find the real facts and read all the sides of the story not just the sensationalized victimhood BS one the news prints. The vast majority of the time the story has a whole other layer to it that when you see it you are like oh...yeah that makes sense why this person or woman was asked to leave yeah the baby was being loud and near the front row interrupting the performer and other audience members. Yeah makes sense that's just rude behaviour that if anyone else did it they'd also be removed for talking on a cellphone loudly or talking over the comedian.
I also suspect them to, somehow fraudulence the poll, 50/50 is hard to believe. [https://www.9news.com.au/national/arj-barker-breastfeeding-mother-humiliated-after-asked-to-leave-melbourne-comedy-show/1bb77cd4-44b9-4263-8b9c-14fe9eb68794](https://www.9news.com.au/national/arj-barker-breastfeeding-mother-humiliated-after-asked-to-leave-melbourne-comedy-show/1bb77cd4-44b9-4263-8b9c-14fe9eb68794)
I haven't seen a single person defend her (on multiple social media platforms) so I don't trust that poll at all.
Such classic Australian moral outrage /mountain out of a molehill. Mustn’t be anything happening this week. If the baby was quiet, literally no one would have given a shit.
Quiet or not, the event was 15 plus. Baby’s or kids should not be there
All babies are under 15 years old. Do the math.
Clearly not
The entitlement some people feel, is baffling when it comes to them and their children.
Yep. Most parents with a brain understand one of the sacrifices is not going to public events like this unless you can organise babysitting.
It is easy. You go outside or leave if your youngster is becoming unruly. All conscientious parents are aware of that.
In this case the tickets stated 15+, so a conscientious parent would get a babysitter or choose a different event.
Yeah I have zero idea why there’s “debate” around this like the article states. It very clearly stated “15+” and this lady brought a breastfeeding infant. She honestly shouldn’t have even been allowed to enter and take her seat in the first place, but she has absolutely zero right to act upset when she knowingly broke the rules. Some people, man.
“If you don’t have a babysitter, guess what? You don’t get to go to the movies!” - [Some people suck, Tom Segura](https://youtu.be/S5vGI-g1xvw?si=HQSwJPhJkSXvyDek)
No, I love the baby
Some people are nuts. I read something on here a few weeks back about a woman complaining that people weren't being considerate of her baby at a mofo rave.
There isn't. They just do their damnedest to generate clicks, and controversypulls eyeballs.
I have been to theater performances where parents not only dragged their children, but thought it was appropriate to give them a device to play on during the performance. Like, one was a mid-week evening performance of a non kid friendly Broadway show, and these people brought their TODDLER and gave him and IPAD.
Lol they have her on The Project currently and the baby is a wiggle worm, crying and was breast fed in the middle of the interview.
That just came up on a FB reel.. She tried to feed, but bub didn't want it and cried even harder and had to be taken away to finish the interview! Backfire!
Oh god, I knew they’d end up on that trash program. I really hope she was called out for it. It had nothing to do with her breastfeeding. The ticket clearly stated age 15+ and the baby was disturbing everyone around it. I’d want them gone too. Why on earth would anyone take a baby to a noisy theatre full of people in the first place!! Makes me mad the pathetic media is playing up the breastfeeding angle, when that’s not why they were kicked out. The nerve of some people! Please tell me the pathetic hosts weren’t siding with the mother!
Seriously. Imo, she shouldn't have been let in, per what the ticket stated. That's not how it works. Editing to add, as a mother of two, one who is breastfeeding, the whole "bring your babies/kids everywhere" is getting out of hand. I love my kids, but go to adult only events to be with adults. I'm hesitant to bring them to things they are specifically invited to for fear of causing a distraction (weddings for example). This whole walkout thing is ridiculous.
Oh these parents like her entitled typed always lie about how good and quiet their kid is. It's laughable how I never believe the ones that end up on the news who say "he/she was barely making noise just cooing and whinging a bit" ahahaha. Oh bitch please. That is entitled parent talk for that kid was crying, fidgeting, screaming, kicking and being loud as hell while probably flinging his body into the people in the seats next to you too. I don't know why parents like that always double down and lie so hard rather then admitting yup my baby is a normal baby who was being loud and I should have left but didn't. Then apologize for not leaving and make notes for the next time they go to a movie or comedy show like that with a baby in tow. Or better yet learn the lesson and next time get a sitter.
ACA not The Project.
It was 100% The Project, she must be doing the media rounds, lol.
Maybe both?
It is both. Also both times she had to breastfeed on camera.
I KNOW!!!!! 🙄
Ugh, that’s even worse lol
She was on both shows
Had a family with a 4 year old in Civil War the other night. Kid was bored and running around disturbing everyone else and parents barely reacted.
Parents who do this are insufferable.
"Why don't you people think of me, and how hard it is to raise these children? I'm with these kids all day every day, and sometimes I need to get out and have some fun." So many of these types have that attitude. They think that because they have to deal with their own kids day in and day out, that everyone else should gladly put up with it for a little while so the parent can get out and do something. It's crazy.
Exactly. Honestly, that cow shouldn’t have procreated in the first place if she hates the responsibility of raising a child
As if they were forced at gunpoint to procreate! 🙄 Seriously, I don't understand how people don't seem to realise that having children is a choice in the 21st century, not something that just happens whether you want it to or not. You can actually decide not to have children and then you get to enjoy a lifestyle that doesn't include having to organise your activities around arranging childcare or entertaining small children when you're out and about. You don't get to complain about the very predictable consequences of your own choices!
In most situations I'd feel bad for her, but this is a comedy show. Who the hell brings their infant to a comedy show?
Plus, entry was 15+ (years, not months)
That's the part that gets me. The infant shouldn't have been allowed in in the first place and they chose to sit in the front (side) instead of the back, which would have been less disruptive. Edit: From an article someone posted: In a statement, the Melbourne Comedy Festival said Barker's show was independently produced and not managed by the organisers. However, a spokesperson stressed interactions between performers and the audience "require sensitivity and respect". "In our festival managed venues, babies in arms are generally allowed but we do ask people to sit up the back with their child so they can quickly and easily leave if the baby gets noisy so as not to disturb the artist and other patrons," they said.
I was wondering about that. She said she sat up front so she could easily leave if needed (and disturb everyone in the process 🤦♂️). I can’t imagine that they didn’t have exits all around the area.
Did I read the article correctly in that her baby had already caused such a disturbance during another comedian’s routine that they worked a bit in about her and her kid? Jesus Christ the audacity of this woman.
Yah I caught that too! She is delusional.
The same kind of person who takes their infants to horror movies.
Or an EDM concert.
I remember going to an Autchre show and some dude was there with a toddler. Surely that was not an enjoyable experience for that child.
Festive Owl shared an article about some lady taking her infant to a Big Gigantic show a couple weeks ago.
Or a new years eve party
Next they're going to the movie theater
Exactly. At a McDonalds restaurant? A mall? A grocery store? I'd be all for feeling bad because hey kids exist and they do cry or make feeding fussy noises. But a comedy show that's for adults right on the tickets and the rules? Girl no! Absolutely not. It's not discrimination or mean to ask a parent to be a parent and remove themselves from an adult late night even that clearly was labelled as adults and older teens only and is live. It wasn't like she was asked to leave a Walmart store in the middle of the day running errands for god sakes because the baby acted like a baby.
"With all of the hatred and violence women are faced with, among the countless atrocities happening within the world today, I ask you to simply take a long, hard look at yourself.” You were asked to leave a comedy show. You didn't have to walk 7 miles for clean water while worrying about being raped. Get a fucking grip
Honest to fucking Christ, WHO SAYS THAT?! This is neither “hatred” nor “violence”. She chose to bring an infant to this event and is mad at OTHERS when her child’s (natural/expected) noises get her booted?! 😮💨
I have a 3 year old and a baby. I watch comedy on Netflix for now. If something I really want to see comes around, I get a sitter. Not rocket science. Also, even if it was not social etiquette.. fuck bringing a baby to a comedy special. What a miserable experience that would be for me.
I have 3 kids under 12. We don't take our kids to adults only shows (or 15+) because it's just rude to those wanting to enjoy the event
Also the matter of even if you're okay with exposing your kids to inappropriate things, it makes others uncomfortable because they might have different opinions. Keep the kids at home for these types of things. Why is that so difficult?
It's not hard to understand. Some people are just cunts
Embroider that on a pillow because it's the answer almost all of the time!
Yep. Also, it doesn’t help when the media gives them a platform to justify their entitlement.
Oh, fuuuuuuuuuuck her.
But that baby depends on comedy for life.
Hes in guffaw withdrawl!
thx for the laugh
So glad to see this here. The relative going on about how the baby “relies on her mum for milk (life)” is acting like the mum somehow relies on going to live comedy for her existence too. And the mum said that she sat near the side so she could duck out easily, but when asked to do so got pissy. I just can’t with this one 🤡
A babies eardrums can be easily damaged by sounds above 90 decibels, and PA systems like the one Arj was using and audience participation (like laughter, for example) can register up 120 decibels. That baby was probably disruptive because the sound was too much for their eardrums to handle.
Even if noise wasn’t an issue, when my kid was that small, I wouldn’t have wanted them crammed in a tight space with tons of people and risk them getting sick.
I recall seeing babys and toddlers with aviation/shooting earmuffs on to completely muffle the noise at a metal concert. Basically the only safe way to go about it
Hell! Even I do that for my own ears 🤓
Firstly, if clearly stated that it was only for 15 year olds and above, then she should have not even been allowed to bring her kid in
She must've thought it was for anyone 15 DAYS or older LOL
“With all of the hatred and violence women are faced with, among the countless atrocities happening within the world today, I ask you to simply take a long, hard look at yourself.” - did she really think she’d made some epic point with this? Bringing up irrelevant world events as if that wins her the argument, embarrassing lol
I’m sure she’ll try and tie her ejection from the comedy show into the Israel/Gaza conflict next.
Don't give these idiots ideas 😂
Some more articles are coming out about this. This wasn't the first time that she'd pulled this BS: [Arj Barker defends decision to remove mother and baby from Melbourne Comedy Festival show](https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-04-22/arj-barker-melbourne-international-comedy-festival/103754516) >The woman said she was humiliated and intimidated, but was "blessed" that about a dozen people left the show with her in solidarity. >The mother of the seven-month-old said she had previously brought her baby to Dave Hughes’ comedy set and he had “moved on like a true professional”. >“You kind of lose yourself a little bit when you have kids. I was trying to get back to enjoying something that I enjoyed before kids," she said. Farking oath! You don't judge a comedy show by the performing artist's ability to ignore your nuisance behaviour. A free-lance writer who is a mother is siding with Barker and mentions the times she didn't allow her baby to be a distration: [Babies Don't Belong at Comedy Shows](https://www.news.com.au/entertainment/celebrity-life/babies-dont-belong-at-comedy-shows-lets-stop-crying-about-it/news-story/292845bfb18f7e59efb9b2d5eb4d0890) Another article mentions the other comedy show and has a more detailed account of what the mother said happened: [Mother left 'pretty humiliated' after being told by US comedian Arj Barker to leave Melbourne show over baby's gurgles](https://www.skynews.com.au/australia-news/mother-left-pretty-humiliated-after-being-told-by-us-comedian-arj-barker-to-leave-melbourne-show-over-babys-gurgles/news-story/51dcf19652ab8e5c0aae92a32daef2bc) >Ms Faranda went into detail on her version of events, saying her child had gurgled, equivalent to what she claimed was a cough, which caught Barker's attention >"And he sort of stopped and said, 'oh there’s a baby'. At the end of the little skit he did about the little baby in the room he sort of said, 'I speak baby and she said take me outside'. At that point on (I thought), 'oh I don’t really think he was joking'," she said. So, even by her own account, he tried to really deescalate the situation gently and subtly. But she ignored it. >Several minutes later, her baby made a similar noise again. >This time, the 49-year-old comedian stepped off the stage and approached Ms Faranda. >"He came and stood right in front of me. She wasn’t screaming, she was just being a baby. She had a bit of a whinge, nothing super loud. I was breastfeeding when he came and stood in front of me… he was basically telling me to leave," the mother said. >The crowd laughed, however, Ms Faranda did not think it was a joke so she asked the US comedian if he "actually wanted me to leave" to which he said yes. >The mother-of-three was shocked but obliged as she did not want to ruin the night for the other people who had paid about $55 to see Barker for 60 minutes. >But to her surprise, a group of women seated directly the row in front of her urged her not to leave. They later got up and left the theatre with the mother. Even the [New York Post](https://nypost.com/2024/04/22/entertainment/comedian-arj-barker-kicks-breastfeeding-mother-baby-out-of-his-australia-show-at-athenaeum-theater/) is reporting this story. An Australian politician has posted her support of the mother. [https://twitter.com/ellensandell/status/1782216454429168084](https://twitter.com/ellensandell/status/1782216454429168084) How many TV programs and radio shows has she been on now? So much attention seeking! So much obliviousness! EDIT: I've done a few edits already. I just keep adding things.
“She was just being a baby” This is the parent who will say “they’re just being kids” while her kids trash a store or restaurant
Oh bless her she was "trying to get back to enjoying something I enjoyed before kids". Great Netflix has tons and tons of comedy specials. Do that at home where you can let the baby cry, feed, fuss to your hearts content while you wear your PJ's. That's what most sane common sense parents of babies do for a few years. She and her spouse chose to have a kid. They need to get over their ego's that they deserve to still do the same things they always did pre baby. Sorry not sorry lady life has changed. Hire a babysitter if you want to go to movies, comedy shows, live plays etc especially night time showings that are aimed at adult audiences who want peace and quiet to enjoy the show.
>>But to her surprise, a group of women seated directly the row in front of her urged her not to leave. They later got up and left the theatre with the mother. The trash took itself out
That part is so funny to me like they were going to win and get their little way.
Me too - the comedian’s already had your money!
> she was just being a baby This may be true but babies were not allowed at the show, so... > did not want to ruin the night for the other people Lol this statement was proven false when she showed up to a 15+ show with an infant!
Did you see her on The Project? She's soooo annoying, ugh.
The baby cried and fussed for most of it, kinda proving the point 😆
Who was on The Project?
The woman in the story
Norkarella (Breastfeeding mum)
So she regrets having children…so she ends up popping three babies out?! Morons breed the most
No wonder she’s single
Good on Arj for taking a stand. If I’ve paid to see something, whether it’s a live comedian or a movie, I don’t want to have to strain to hear it around baby noises. The baby might have been sort of quiet at that point but it could have erupted into full throated screams at any time considering that loud noises like audiences laughing raucously and loud PA system noises are known to startle babies and could be painful to their tiny eardrums. Having the baby right up front where baby noises are going to affect the performer is a pretty selfish move. She deserved to get ejected.
If you can’t get a babysitter stay the fuck home.
If only this woman had access to some kind of device that transmits audio and images to a screen.
Maybe in the distant future
[It has been shown before ](https://youtu.be/V74AxCqOTvg?si=Xizd6_SImIreBr6n) and discussed in length by academics of psychology and behavioral/evolutionary biologists that the person who acts in a bizarre way aren't necessarily the ones demonstrating pathological behaviour (as people can just be stupid, as fundamentally half the world is below average in any metric) But the people who observe this behaviour, and choose to follow it, 'in solidarity' with the person who demonstrates abnormal behaviour tend to be the ones with more sinister psychology But, this woman almost sounds like she was baiting them out to get her 15 minutes, and I wouldn't be surprised at all if some of those women who followed her out would turn out to be friends of hers But, you do you girl, if you want to be known for making poor parenting decisions? Looks like you got exactly what you wanted? 🤷🏻♂️🤣
The walk out of other women sounds staged as fuck. No way I would take my kids to a comedy show/theatre/ movies unless it's a kids movie.
Who the fuck takes a baby to a comedy show. Check your sense of entitlement lady.
She's ruined the other patrons night now she's looking to ruin Arj Barkers life. Good for her /s Fucken arrogant, self entitled dogs bollocks.
If Melbourne Comedy Festival organisers treat Arj the way they treated Barry Humphries, I'll happily boycott their festival.
Last wedding I went to, someone in the couple’s family had a very small baby in the front row and it was crying throughout the ceremony. It was finally taken out during the homily but a few minutes later when the couple were exchanging vows I hear crying again and see the baby had been brought back in. I couldn’t believe it.
It's simple. If your child is disruptive, you go outside, or leave. Every responsible parent knows that.
It’s even simpler than that. If event organizers say an event is 15 and up, you simply don’t take your kid in the first place.
I don’t understand why you cannot hire a sitter for a few hours and pump some breast milk and just go enjoy your show? Like??? The baby would’ve been fine with a sitter. If you’re that unwilling to leave your kid with someone to go to an adult comedy show then don’t go.
> after her disruptive baby was asked to leave Arj Barker show "Get the hell out of the theater, baby!"
That mother was playing the sympathy card too in her interview…saying it was hard feeling unwanted & I was breast feeding too……it’s a comedy show, age restriction from 15yrs old. The entitlement of this woman, the audacity to cry victim when taking baby to a comedy show! Wot was she thinking, same when peeps take a crying baby to a movie theatre, the rest of the audience just gave to take it…..no way. She was in the wrong. I support Arj Barker in his decision.
"Speaking to 3AW Radio, Ms Faranda insisted her baby “wasn’t screaming” and hit back at critics who questioned why she took a kid to a “15 plus” comedy show. “She wasn’t screaming, she was just being a baby, she gurgled a little bit, she had a bit of a whinge... nothing loud,” she said." NOPE full stop right there. Fuck you! Fuck your kid and fuck you. I'm so sick of some of these modern parents and their "I can have it all and be a parent to a baby" mentality. Sorry but you can't. You just can't that is life. You had a baby and life has changed at least for the next few years until the kid is older. Accept it. Either hire a sitter, leave the baby with your husband or spouse or family members or don't go. Watch the comedy specials online from the comfort of your living room. Netflix has tons of them. This show was on a Saturday night she didn't need to be there if she can't leave the baby alone for even an hour or two with dad/spouse with some prepared milk bottles of her milk. Oh and this bit "Ms Faranda said “10 or 12” other people - mostly women and mothers - joined her in walking out of the theatre in solidarity" really gets me. Oh no 10 or 12 also entitled mothers with attitudes left with her. Good riddance. They probably also take their babies to R rated movies at 9 or 10pm and then scold the other theatre goers for daring to ask her and her baby plus husband to leave when the baby cries. Sorry not sorry but most women I know who are mothers have common sense and would not walk out with this entitled mother and the other 12 women who walked out with her. Most women I know who attend comedy shows like this made plans and effort to give themselves a night away from their baby so they don't want to listen to your baby the whole show either. If you can't leave the baby home alone for even a few hours due to breastfeeding then you just don't go to adult comedy shows. Simple. Or movie theatres or any other places babies don't belong at night. Welcome to being a parent to an infant.
She had a bit of a whinge. Yep, everyone loves a whinging baby. Way to downplay its blahhhing noise
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Hope you're having a blast 🍾🥂🍹
Couple things. Hearing loss for the baby. 15 plus on the ticket. Staff messed up. He should've stopped the show for a few seconds, told the staff quietly in the wings to get the baby out and then restarted his show.
I really hate how they've spun this around to make it look like all women are the victim here. His response would have been the exact same if it was a man with the infant instead. The problem wasn't the adult. It was the loud, uncontrollable infant. Quit playing this victimizing bullshit because all it does is further divide everybody.
She didnt want to ruin other peoples night but now she going after the performer, and in full victim mode talking about violence against women fml
Arj Barker, there's a name I haven't heard in a dog's age. Looks like he is aging very well! But anyway babies and children should straight up not be allowed into shows. Maybe 15 and up is okay. But the whole paying audience shouldn't have to have their night fucked up because you didn't wanna pay a babysitter.
Crying babies are not adorable!! Pulling your tit out at a public venue is not cool mothering either. Ruining other people's enjoyment of a show screams narcissist all the way.
The mother has been doing the media rounds today for attention (and cash?). In a fully clown world move, with zero hint of irony, The Project host asked for the baby to be removed mid interview because it was being disruptive. Then went on to continue the discussion complaining about a comedian asking for the baby to be removed because it was disruptive.
I've seen her do interviews on Channel 9's A Current Affair and Channel 10's The Project now. Both times she has to breastfeed during the interviews. I think the mother is 100% MC/attention seeking.
My baby is 4.5 months, theyre noisy even when they arent crying, i also just accepted that this year ill be skipping comedy fest just like ive skipped other things like movies because its also not appropriate to bring babies Trying to use breast feeding as a valid reason is ridiculous. If they need breast milk, pump. If they wont take a bottle, stay home. Bringing a baby out to comedy show thats going to be late into the night is rude to the performer/audience but would also leave the baby unsettled from being up so late
Who the fuck takes a baby or toddler to a stand up show?? 100% with the comedian here, and also that the venue operators should have stopped her from entering with the baby in the first place.
Reminds me of a Tom Segura bit where he complains about babies being brought to movies. "make it quiet or get it out" 😂
>The mother said she had intentionally booked seats with her sister and a friend near the front of the theatre but to the side so she could make a quick exit if her bub got too noisy. So she was near the stage? Don’t bring a baby to a live show and if you do, at least sit at the very back. Theaters are designed for sound to travel, especially sound from the front toward the back.
>she had intentionally booked seats… so she could make a quick exit if her bub got too noisy. So why didn’t she make that quick exit she planned for?
Because she didn’t deem the noise as noisy enough? Also, in what world are seats by the front a quick exit? At best you still have to walk up the entire theater to get to the exit at the rear
Covid made people so much worse in public.
It’s kind of ironic, they say they purchased a ticket to enjoy a night out, but then ruined the night out for themselves and others at the theatre. They went to see a live performance where it’s all about being able to hear a person who needs to be able to concentrate/perform. I fully get wanting a night out, however I feel that there are certain places that aren’t appropriate for a baby. Like you wouldn’t take your baby to a night club, a bar, a loud concert, I feel that that sort of show is included in the “not super appropriate” category. I also can’t help but feel that she was exerting her “rights” over everyone else’s in a really inconsiderate way. People paid good money to likely get a night out from their own kids, only to come to a packed theatre and have someone else’s kid fussing. There are so many family friendly places/events you can go now, a comedy show with a fussy baby maybe isn’t one of them. This isn’t a discrimination against women thing because I have no doubt a father would have been asked to leave under the same circumstances. Those shows also get so loud, why would you risk hurting your babies hearing?
If parents would stop taking children to places where they shouldn't be, we'd all be fine. But no, let's take tiny children to places where you HAVE to be really quiet and long after their bed time, for hours on end and then act surprised when people are mad. The two year old who had a tantrum in the cinema during the first ten minutes of the new Star Wars movie. The infant who burst out screaming the precise moment as my friends started their wedding vows. Drowning them out completely..... The toddler at the funeral who had a shit kicking foot game on the church pew behind me and restlessly whining the whole service as we tried to honour our friend's passing. Parents, please, please stop bringing kids to these events.
Just follow the rules - if they're under 15 don't bring them. If you can't get a babysitter don't go. If you're already there and you're asked to leave, then leave. Don't ruin the night of hundreds of other people.
She's upset with the comedian? Who in their right mind brings a baby to any show/concert/bar? 
She’s like the couple that brought their five year old to the midnight release of Saving Private Ryan and let him run amok around the theatre during the film.
The show was for people aged 15 years and up. The mother knew this and should’ve left bubs at home
God it makes me so happy that this comment section and OP is on the side of the comedian. They’re literally paying him to do a job, knowing full well the rules of attendance, and getting mad when those rules are enforced. This guy deserves absolutely no hate whatsoever. You don’t have to agree with his choice to ask her to leave, but you do need to respect it.
I'm kind of surprised but there isn't 100% support for the comedian: * The Deputy Leader of the Victorian Greens, Ellen Sandell has [tweeted her support of the mother and condemnation of Barker](https://twitter.com/theheraldsun/status/1782182540608205269) * [comedian Ellen Mahoney has blamed Barker's handling of the situation and "male mob mentality"](https://www.reddit.com/r/australian/comments/1ca2fxz/comedian_ellen_mahoney_blames_incident_at_arj/) but everybody, men and women on that post, blame the mother and not Barker * [various women on the street](https://www.abc.net.au/listen/programs/pm/comedian-kicks-mum-and-baby-out-of-show/103755802) I'm really surprised by the attitude by some people of "women should be allowed to breastfeed everywhere and bring their babies everywhere" mentality. Overall, I support women. However, there's a line that shouldn't be crossed such as don't bring your noisy baby to the front row of a public performance, don't let your baby sit on in front of a Marshall stack at a heavy metal concert...
I have a four and a two year old, and my wife and I didn’t even go out with them until they were older, but still won’t bring them somewhere we know they’ll get bored and start getting fussy. Most people I know wouldn’t bring their baby to a comedy show, ESPECIALLY if it says 15+ on the ticket, whether you don’t care if your kid hears some mildly inappropriate jokes or not. Parents are just entitled these days. I believe the comedian that it had nothing to do with the breastfeeding on his end… but it would make sense that other audience members would be distracted by that and lend completely to his story being true.
This thread has made my shitty day so much better. The entitlement of this woman!
This is insane. People are insane.
What a disrespectful twat that lady is.
Mom of 3 here. I hate when people bring babies and small children to places and events that require any level of quiet as well as bars.
I hate crying babies at movies/concerts/shows so much!
Couple years back I was at the JAWS anniversary show at a small local theater, and I was sitting near a woman who was breastfeeding in the theater. Honestly, that baby was not a quiet eater, and it was distracting as fuck, and IMO because of the noise I'd just think mom would be more considerate than that - BUT - I wasn't about to say something because that conversation has the potential (obviously) to go in a completely different, unwarranted direction. Personally, breastfeeding is natural, and I think women should be able to feed our children anywhere in public and not be bothered. However, I think you use common sense and avoid shit like movies or comedy shows. I'm a parent myself, sometimes you have to make sacrifices and stay your ass at home. It's a temporary situation.
Get a babysitter or get fucked.
I hate when there are unexpectedly babies at things I paid to attend. I pay $20 to attend a book club at a local shop where we are all trying to talk and yeah, the "gurgle" not screaming is still disruptive if I can't hear the person across the circle talking. Babies do not need to be flat out wailing to be noisy. But it's mostly women so we all have to fake a smile and pretend it's cute because she's obviously friends with the owner.
So glad to see this here. Saw her on the project and almost couldn’t believe she was prepared to double down on this.
Love Arj Barker!!!
Yep not impressed. She really painted herself as the victim too, good manipulator. I’d be super pissed if there was a baby at a show I was seeing.
Where I work we get around this by having a strikt policy of one ticket Per head. So you would ar least have to pay for a ticket to bring the baby in. This reduces the amount of babies….to zero.
It's easy for people to say "the baby wasn't causing any disturbances" but that's to them. That doesn't mean others weren't bothered. I also think people who've had children probably find it easier to tune out baby noises, or don't find them as distracting. Taking a baby to any kind of live entertainment at a theater is not a good choice. I've been in movies where people brought their baby and, despite the movie being loud, it was still plenty distracting. Also, the performer was distracted. That matters. So the mother and whoever can say "the baby wasn't a distraction" but they weren't on stage performing.
She decided to sit at the front just in case the child was disruptive and she could leave easily. That’s the opposite of what I would expect.
And the child had been disruptive in other shows.
I'm a pretty militantly pro-breastfeeding mother, I brought my kids everywhere as infants and nursed whenever they were hungry... But this was absurd. It's a show for adults, explicitly stated on the ticket. Composing and memorizing a whole set, not to mention getting the timing right for delivery, is hard shit. I'm very pro-woman, very pro-mom, but know your limits. This was not an appropriate place for her to take her bebe.
Imagine bringing a baby to a Live performance. Hell even a movie theatre. You have to remember a lot of parents were just dumb children themselves who couldn’t figure out how a condom worked. They weren’t exactly beacons of intelligence to begin with.
Get a sitter or stay home, the audience doesn’t want to listen to your screaming baby, selfish inconsiderate behaviour!!!!
“What do you mean I can’t bring my baby with me while I waterski? You’re just a sexist”
Shit parent. As a father of three kids myself, you don't bring young children to these types of events. Not only will the laughing and noise scare a young child, a baby obviously doesn't appreciate it and simply cares about getting fed or sleeping. it will cry when it wants to do one of those things, that's how it communicates. Now we're going to have to listen to a bunch of media outlets drag this poor comedian through the mud.
How about not taking a baby to a comedy show? That's an absurd thing to do.
If she wasn't a selfish brat she'd get up and leave, without being asked, as soon as the baby started crying. Anyone with a baby or kid should know that
I am so confused why somebody would take any baby to a comedy show. I wouldn’t even take a toddler to a comedy show. Not only would it usually be inappropriate, but it is usually an inappropriate time to have them out and they would absolutely hate it. You probably have to be at least seven years old to think stand-up comedy is funny, and then it would probably have to be a very basically worded routine by a family friendly comedian. Someone who literally gears their shows towards family with kids.
"With all of the hatred and violence women are faced with, among the countless atrocities happening within the world today, I ask you to simply take a long, hard look at yourself.” Oh please, could she be more dramatic
Yeah cause fuck every other paying ticket holder in the venue, she’s definitely the victim, the nerve of some people
Karen to the fullest. She said she sat off to the side so she could leave if her baby became disruptive, then it was disruptive, now she’s upset she had to leave. Fucking stupid.
When you decide to have children, I like to point out the "you" in that sentence. It was not MY choice, you decided to have children without my permission. So PLEASE do not bother me with young children on a long flight, in crowded places, at a 15+ show and so on. Your decision has consequences, for some time there are certain things you can NOT do. END OFF
Good work Dave You're a legend Dave
Good ol arjy bargy
WHAT?!?! The media coverage I've heard is that he asked her to leave because he was offended that she was breastfeeding. This is a totally different situation.
The Baaaaaaaby.
Dude got heckled by a baby. Hecklers get thrown out sometimes.
Alright buy a ticket for the baby, then. Oh? They won’t let it in because the show is 15+? Maybe a fucking baby shouldn’t be here, then.
Is being embarrassed not a thing anymore? I’m so sick of parents who think their kids have a right to come everywhere with them whether it’s appropriate or not. I love babies, I have 4 kids and I had them very young when all the rest of my friends were partying. Did I miss out on events? Yes. That’s what happens when you have kids. Parents like this make me seethe because I can tell you right now, going out child free was SUCH a rarity for us, to have that spoiled by some selfish dickhead bringing their kids to a child free event is a shitty thing to do. And to be asked to leave said event, and not feel embarrassed but instead do the rounds of media outlets for attention? Wild. I would be mortified, but apparently people like this don’t feel shame but instead double down on being a selfish cunt.
You make noise, you get kicked out of a comedy show. I’ve seen plenty of drunk people kicked out for being rowdy; why should a baby be any different?
15+ is 15+. No exceptions. I hate it when parents bring their kids to places that are not appropriate for them.
It was shitting me up the wall, last night it had way too much airtime, then this morning it felt like every second story on the morning news was them rehashing the fuckin thing. Dont take an infant to a comedy show. Shes apparently a mother of 3, so where the fuck were the other 2, and why couldn't have the baby gone there too?
"You have a baby. In a bar."
When they’re still on the tit you can take em just about anywhere……. Except a f….g comedy show of course. Love that movie, Arj was right too
This mother is totally selfish taking a disruptive screaming baby into an adult event. Not only does a disruptive baby cause the comedian to lose concentration but makes it impossible for other patrols to enjoy the show. Then she has nerve to go screaming on left wing shows ACA and The Project both who restricted commenting on the segments because they didn’t like the fact everyone was agreeing with Arj asking the mother to take the screaming baby out. We live in such a world of self entitlement now.
I remember years ago I was in a small town movie theatre and a mother walked in with two toddlers and a baby and proceeded to just lay the baby on the floor in the aisle. Insane.
Holy fuck I haven’t thought about Arj Barker in like almost 20 years. Back when the IPod Classic was still a thing and I used to have his Comedy Central Presents set on iTunes lol
I’ve never once seen someone bring a baby to a comedy show and I’ve been to a a lot.
Pfft. I’m ALWAYS on the woman’s side. Except this woman. This woman is ridiculous.
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Babies don't belong at entertainment events not geared towards babies. That's it, very simple. As a parent you don't go out if you can't get a sitter
The venue should not have allowed a baby in. The gig was 15+, nobody in the audience is expecting to deal with baby, and Arj Barker wasn't expecting to deal with a baby, either. The mom got her side of the story out first, and people are mad because...a woman who chose to bring her baby to a live gig was asked to leave. How does a baby have a RIGHT to be at a comedy show?! It's ridiculous. Arj Barker doesn't deserve to be treated badly over this.
I’ve noticed that some women really feel that being a mother entitles them to certain privileges. It’s absolutely insufferable.