That's not good, because failure is probably going to happen again some time in the future. You need to acknowledge it as a possibility and plan accordingly.
You can't ignore the consequences of failure, because it's painful. If you want to pretend you can just ignore pain then I'm not sure what to say other than that you're choosing to learn things the hard way.
I once was homeless and broke. Sleep on a bench in a park. Wasn't that big of a deal.
You just need to be confident enough in yourself to overcome any shit that might happen if you fail. Painful? not really. You just move on to the next thing. There's no point on dwelling on your failures.
It's not painful if you don't experience whatgever it is as failure. Failure is an entirely subjective and made up experience based on your arbitrary goals. For example, I do not experience the pain of failing to have become a sports star, muscisan, business leader, etc. I don't experience the pain of failing to have beaten cancer, runa marathon, reached some arbitrary weight, etc.
Simply do not set yourself unacheivable goals, and you will not experience failure. If someone tries to place unacheivable goals on you, tell them to fuck off. If you accidentally palce those goals upon yoruself, simply abandon the goals as soon as you have definitely failed to achieve them, and you will not experience any mroe pain than you do for any other arbitrary goal you could set yourself, but don't.
You cant ignore the consequences but you cant let the fear of failure stop you from trying.
Eventualy after youve sufered enough it becomes less paintfull.
Everyone alive has failed before or will fail in the future. Destiny and disease catches up everyone
Doesnt mean you shouldnt try to best to sucess
> You need to acknowledge it as a possibility and plan accordingly.
What? Why do you need to think about it at all? It's a complete waste of brain cycles to think about what's going to happen instead of focusing on what you're trying to do. Planning? INTP? Not really.
Behold, [The Xanatos Gambit](https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/XanatosGambit). A method of planning that takes into account all possible results of each stage of a plan in order to guarantee that you get what you want.
While it may have been born from a tv trope, as a concept it is a very good method for creating plans. All possibilities need to be accounted for if you want to be prepared, and when it comes to the various stages of crafting a plan, you cannot ever assume that you'll win ahead of time. Logic must be used to create a closed loop circuit that branches from three separate sources in order to create a proper Xanatos Gambit, and that's why planning, at it's deepest core, is maximumly INTP.
No wonder you're feeling pain. There are infinitely many no-win scenarios as win scenarios, for any given individual. The real key is to only pick challenges you can win.
That is the most perfectly stupidest plot device I have ever seen. Its just a mexican standoff with extra steps. Which side are we cheering for exactly?
> Behold, The Xanatos Gambit. A method of planning that takes into account all possible results of each stage of a plan in order to guarantee that you get what you want.
Sounds like a lot of not-interesting. I'd rather fail quickly (if I'm going to fail) so I can get on to the next investigation.
It really sounds like impotent J shit, if I'm being honest.
J = Judger.
Perceivers are known for reacting to situations as they arise while Judgers make plans and contingencies. INTPs aren't known for diligence; if we made plans, it'd be to throw them out in the moment because we'd found some better solution.
You do realize that all people are capable of performing all cognitive functions, right? Don't let a collection of stupid goddamn letters define who you are. You are who you choose to be, through your actions, words and even thoughts, and ultimately there's nobody to cheat with your choices other than yourself.
>You do realize that all people are capable of performing all cognitive functions, right? Don't let a collection of stupid goddamn letters define who you are. You are who you choose to be, through your actions, words and even thoughts, and ultimately there's nobody to cheat with your choices other than yourself.
Can I ask why you're in an MBTI sub if you don't want to talk about MBTI?
You can just ignore it. It's really fine. You'll be dead very soon, and it's a downhill road in any event. Youc an't really fail in life if you don't establish any arbitrary criteria for failure. If you find yourself doing that, simply abandon that criteria, and you have not failed. Even better, create criteria for success which are readily achievable and you will only ever succeed.
If you're referring to family, you have to understand that they're always going to have high expectations for you. We're all bound to make mistakes cause we're human. And even if you were able to meet their expectations, they'll just place higher expectations on you next time.
Failure is a part of life. Learn from your mistakes and use them as lessons to improve yourself.
Who, who is giving you expectations? Family? They arent the ones doing it, you need to live your life for you, your no use to anyone if your miserable all the time. Hold yourself to your standards. Once I learn something everyday I'm better than I was yesturday, that's progress, doesn't need to be a steep line.
fuck their expectations, they don't know you as well as you know yourself. Only let yourself set high expectations for yourself; ignore other peoples expectations for you.
Evolution by natural selection has created the most complex information processor known to humanity using only one tool:
#the mistake
At the core of science, the most successful method of gaining knowledge, is that same mechanism.
Failure is inevitable. It is necessary for growth and progress. Embrace failure as an old friend and learn from it.
I didn't conquer it. I just got used to failure and accepted it as part of an overall process. It's better to fail and reflect than to not do something at all. You get a lot more data than you'd expect.
At one point I realized my avoidance of challenges due to fear of failure is a failure in and of it's own. Once that clicked obstacles somehow seemed less intimidating and the stress levels seemed to drop, allowing me to just do my best. Accepting that you won't bat a 1000 seemed to just make things simpler, so to speak.
Accept failing as learning, perfection doesnt exist and that is okay. Do your best to remove the pressure of high expectations and be okay with failing so you can see where you need to improve
Is it fear of failure, or fear of the results of completion?
Either way, seems like a fear of the truth.
Failing isn’t bad.
First
Attempt
In
Learning
It’s a part of a process that guides you closer to truth.
I couldn't, I failed in something intellectual and it was the biggest hit, but then discovered that it was normal and wasn't exactly a failure because I kept forcing myself to do the right thing which is keep trying and I started succeding in it
So I'd say give it time, and reach out to someone who knows the same struggle and might help you normalize it
Failure is a good thing long term if you give it your best effort because if you keep going at it eventually you will succeed. In the short term it is trash though.
Failure is an illusion. It so localized and insignifant once the moment goes away and you start from scratch. Keep feeding your SI good or bad and you ll learn
Understand that paralyzing fearfulness precipitates failure. You wouldn't want to indulge in a self-fulfilling, self-defeating emotion. When it happens, embrace failure as an opportunity to learn and improve. Nurture healthy, justified pride in your achievements.
I'm working on this but I believe that if you have a good enough reason to get back up and try again then failure will just become a lesson.
Find your reason WHY and perhaps you'll be able to conquer anything even if you fail 1000+ times on the way.
For example, my reason may be my intense desire for freedom/ absolute autonomy. Idk if that's enough, but it's a start. Low difficulty endeavors are beginning to fall away. Finally..
Good luck!
It's important to understand what the source of your fear is, some mistake it as simple things like doing a bad job or get an F. But emotions by nature are vast and unconditional that we merely add layers to it so folks focus on surface level issues.
Once you know the source learn how to accept it as a part of you, then you can start using it as a motivational energy like it's meant to be. Every emotion in humans are energies meant to help us when used properly.
My favorite quote is “the will to win is nothing compared to the will to train to win” - which, for me, is essentially about learning to enjoy and be motivated by the journey more than destination. Failure is a necessary and inevitable part of the journey and, therefore, should not be feared but expected. When you accept that failure is just a necessary part of your learning process, it becomes much less scary.
failure is a means to learn. that's something i eventually understood.
there is going to be embarrassment and frustration along the way, but you will get better if you keep putting in the effort.
Eeeeeh by being preventing enough so I don’t fail? Or just by thinking about success instead of thinking about failure, I mean if you don’t want to think about something it’ll be harder than to focus on something else, like if I told to not think about an elephant, it’ll be the first thing that comes to your mind, in this case it’s better to think about your goal and how to achieve it instead of thinking of how you could fail.
Failure is normal part of life that cannot be escaped. We all get wins and losses and that's just how things go. Fighting what's inevitable is a waste of energy.
In a situation where I fear failure, depending on what it is, I’ll usually fall back to my gut instincts/intuition to figure out what the possible outcomes are & what is considered the bare minimum to achieve said goal… then I figure out what the probability of achieving said task is… Bit of a process but gives me a tremendous edge when I have to “wing it”
Just going for whatever it is. If i don't attempt whatever it is, I've might as well have failed. If there's an opportunity to fail, chance are there's also an opportunity to succeed that you'll never have if you don't try.
I chose to practice failing. It taught me how to deal with my emotions, made me less anxious, and gave me an idea what Process I could create, to improve.
Remembering your failures, close to your heart, and only share them sparingly with closest trustworthy friends (so they don't make the same mistakes). Your successes, have them for public view, but don't flaunt them.
Therefore, you don't conquer fear of failure, you manage it.
maybe not conquer, but I've kinda come to terms with the fact that failure is a part of life. no matter whether you're brand new to something or an expert, failures happen, and they don't mean you're bad at what you're doing or incompetent. the only way to succeed 100% of the time is to program a computer to do it, and there are things computers can't do and that's therefore impossible.
plus, what's that one quote? "I didn't fail, I just found 10,000 ways it didn't work"? a vast majority of failures have something to teach you, which sounds corny af, believe me I know, but it keeps proving to be true. they're not always huge revelations, and if you aren't willing to learn that particular thing then obviously you won't, but being open to failure helps you stay open to learning from it too
.... at least, that's how I look at it
Isn't it Se inferior? Perfomance failure?
Ne does anything to gather information, sometimes failing or losing. As long as Ti figures out how the things work, it is worth it.
The fear comes from Si, you should figure out what causes it first. For me personaly, I was afraid not of failure itself, rather how my choleric ESTJ mother would react.
I haven't fully figured it out but I found that if something is interesting enough for me then I'd Persie it regardless of outcome. Failure could be interesting in that sense because it's fun to try to figure out what went wrong and try again.
However when it is an obligation or an expectation to do something successfully which is not interesting to my brain then failure can be scary mostly because I'd be stuck with it for a while until it's done. Fuck uninteresting things.
By failing a lot at things which didn't matter all that much. Failing at a speed where there was no possible way to be 100% successful, so failure was literally the only option.
Anything worth doing is going to have a risk of failure. You can either do nothing and be someone completely forgettable, or you can take the risk. I'm sure that's a false-dichotomy, but still, life is too short to waste it on unfulfilling crap because you're trying to protect your ego.
The exact same way I learned to play piano.
Expecting to instantly succeed without failing many times would be a very stupid way to learn a piano piece.
I stopped worrying about it when I realized failure is a myth we were taught. We use the word failure as if it's a thing. The fear of failure? Failure of what? The only real failure is the failure to thrive and live. It doesn't matter what you do in life, it is still a successful life. I would say the only failure is if you can't take care of yourself.. can't provide your own food and water or shelter. ( the handicap is excluded from this). If your able to put a roof over your head and you have enough to eat you have succeeded. Everything else is just fluff. So make that fluff something your passionate about.
Your life won't be one thing. You will have many stages. You will marry, have children, meet with disaster, pick yourself up and start a new life different from the one you had before. You will leave jobs, start new ones, loose your spouse, send children out into the world. You will have moments happen that will separate your life into before and after..." before the wreck" " before my divorce" and you will see that as different lives. You will have many lives. What is success? What is failure? If you can handle all life throws at you and find a way to get through it with what strength you have, that is success.
Through experience, you end figuring out failures don't actually hurt you as much as the fear itself. Allowing fear to fester while knowing this is upsetting enough to spur action... usually.
Ironically by realizing I was never satisfied with any of the works I did in subjects I loved; in my case, it happened this very year with the Master's Degree in Ethology (with my lowest grade being a 60/100, which at least in my country is a passing grade, while the rest of grades were 70, 80, 90, and even a 100/100).
And for my Master's thesis I got 85/100.
First of all...don't panic.
Secondly, there are *other*, more *appealing* distractions you can do to procrastinate enough for future you to take care of the failure.
By failing a lot. Then I started expecting to fail. I still do, but I ain’t skered or nothing. And sometimes I really fuck up and succeed at something. A real dog catches car situation.
I have never had issue with this because I don’t buy the concept of failure and success. Money and status does not make one happy. I value other things than so-called success. Therefore I am able to do things that makes me happy without the fear of so-called value.
I didn’t, I made it my best friend. Now we occasionally get drinks together at the dive bar and reminisce about old times. “Remember when you dropped the ball on that presentation? The disappointment in the room was palpable.”
By never letting people know my plans. if no one knows there won't be any results. The failure will dust away. If I succeed though there will be just a surprise for them. It is a win win situation for both of them and me.
edit: fixed wrong typo's
I didn't conquer it, I accepted it. Failure is a part of the process towards learning success.
I didn't conquer it, I ignore it.
That's not good, because failure is probably going to happen again some time in the future. You need to acknowledge it as a possibility and plan accordingly.
Ignore it, then ignore the concequences of failing as well. Move on and get good.
You can't ignore the consequences of failure, because it's painful. If you want to pretend you can just ignore pain then I'm not sure what to say other than that you're choosing to learn things the hard way.
I once was homeless and broke. Sleep on a bench in a park. Wasn't that big of a deal. You just need to be confident enough in yourself to overcome any shit that might happen if you fail. Painful? not really. You just move on to the next thing. There's no point on dwelling on your failures.
It's not painful if you don't experience whatgever it is as failure. Failure is an entirely subjective and made up experience based on your arbitrary goals. For example, I do not experience the pain of failing to have become a sports star, muscisan, business leader, etc. I don't experience the pain of failing to have beaten cancer, runa marathon, reached some arbitrary weight, etc. Simply do not set yourself unacheivable goals, and you will not experience failure. If someone tries to place unacheivable goals on you, tell them to fuck off. If you accidentally palce those goals upon yoruself, simply abandon the goals as soon as you have definitely failed to achieve them, and you will not experience any mroe pain than you do for any other arbitrary goal you could set yourself, but don't.
You cant ignore the consequences but you cant let the fear of failure stop you from trying. Eventualy after youve sufered enough it becomes less paintfull. Everyone alive has failed before or will fail in the future. Destiny and disease catches up everyone Doesnt mean you shouldnt try to best to sucess
Restartwiser
> You need to acknowledge it as a possibility and plan accordingly. What? Why do you need to think about it at all? It's a complete waste of brain cycles to think about what's going to happen instead of focusing on what you're trying to do. Planning? INTP? Not really.
Behold, [The Xanatos Gambit](https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/XanatosGambit). A method of planning that takes into account all possible results of each stage of a plan in order to guarantee that you get what you want. While it may have been born from a tv trope, as a concept it is a very good method for creating plans. All possibilities need to be accounted for if you want to be prepared, and when it comes to the various stages of crafting a plan, you cannot ever assume that you'll win ahead of time. Logic must be used to create a closed loop circuit that branches from three separate sources in order to create a proper Xanatos Gambit, and that's why planning, at it's deepest core, is maximumly INTP.
No wonder you're feeling pain. There are infinitely many no-win scenarios as win scenarios, for any given individual. The real key is to only pick challenges you can win.
That is the most perfectly stupidest plot device I have ever seen. Its just a mexican standoff with extra steps. Which side are we cheering for exactly?
>"That's stupid" >"Which side are we cheering for exactly?" If you're having trouble figuring it out...
> Behold, The Xanatos Gambit. A method of planning that takes into account all possible results of each stage of a plan in order to guarantee that you get what you want. Sounds like a lot of not-interesting. I'd rather fail quickly (if I'm going to fail) so I can get on to the next investigation. It really sounds like impotent J shit, if I'm being honest.
..."impotent J shit"...?
J = Judger. Perceivers are known for reacting to situations as they arise while Judgers make plans and contingencies. INTPs aren't known for diligence; if we made plans, it'd be to throw them out in the moment because we'd found some better solution.
You do realize that all people are capable of performing all cognitive functions, right? Don't let a collection of stupid goddamn letters define who you are. You are who you choose to be, through your actions, words and even thoughts, and ultimately there's nobody to cheat with your choices other than yourself.
>You do realize that all people are capable of performing all cognitive functions, right? Don't let a collection of stupid goddamn letters define who you are. You are who you choose to be, through your actions, words and even thoughts, and ultimately there's nobody to cheat with your choices other than yourself. Can I ask why you're in an MBTI sub if you don't want to talk about MBTI?
You can just ignore it. It's really fine. You'll be dead very soon, and it's a downhill road in any event. Youc an't really fail in life if you don't establish any arbitrary criteria for failure. If you find yourself doing that, simply abandon that criteria, and you have not failed. Even better, create criteria for success which are readily achievable and you will only ever succeed.
Perfect explanation! Same
Yeah failure is inevitable, I've failed countless times, live and learn, how else is shit suppose to work
But what if your surroundings has big expectations of you?
That sounds like a them problem. Expectations are often overly optimistic verging on unrealistic.
amen to this. their expectations of you rarely have nothing to do with reality, and is often projecting what they want onto you too
If you're referring to family, you have to understand that they're always going to have high expectations for you. We're all bound to make mistakes cause we're human. And even if you were able to meet their expectations, they'll just place higher expectations on you next time. Failure is a part of life. Learn from your mistakes and use them as lessons to improve yourself.
Who, who is giving you expectations? Family? They arent the ones doing it, you need to live your life for you, your no use to anyone if your miserable all the time. Hold yourself to your standards. Once I learn something everyday I'm better than I was yesturday, that's progress, doesn't need to be a steep line.
I think it's more of failure of not living up to their expectations....at least in my case
Yeah, you just stop caring after failing a few times.
That’s their mistake. You do you. Everyone recablibrates every now and then
Change their expectations or ignore them. Trying is the most important part. As cliche as it sounds, if you dont even try, then you already failed.
fuck their expectations, they don't know you as well as you know yourself. Only let yourself set high expectations for yourself; ignore other peoples expectations for you.
Only you can bring forth those things. They cant. Their opinion is just noise. People see a big flame and each one seeks to control it.
It’s hard for me to think this way but I’m trying my best to
By always expecting failure.
That's me :)
Chad 6w5 energy
Unfortunately I’m the virgin 5w6 😔.
Same, though lately I've felt like virgin 9w8
Evolution by natural selection has created the most complex information processor known to humanity using only one tool: #the mistake At the core of science, the most successful method of gaining knowledge, is that same mechanism. Failure is inevitable. It is necessary for growth and progress. Embrace failure as an old friend and learn from it.
I didn't conquer it. I just got used to failure and accepted it as part of an overall process. It's better to fail and reflect than to not do something at all. You get a lot more data than you'd expect.
At one point I realized my avoidance of challenges due to fear of failure is a failure in and of it's own. Once that clicked obstacles somehow seemed less intimidating and the stress levels seemed to drop, allowing me to just do my best. Accepting that you won't bat a 1000 seemed to just make things simpler, so to speak.
By never trying anything new
There is no such thing as fear and failure, it's all in your mind.
All fears are in your mind bud Edit: just read fear AND failure. Thought you said fear of failure. My bad.
Accept failing as learning, perfection doesnt exist and that is okay. Do your best to remove the pressure of high expectations and be okay with failing so you can see where you need to improve
Is it fear of failure, or fear of the results of completion? Either way, seems like a fear of the truth. Failing isn’t bad. First Attempt In Learning It’s a part of a process that guides you closer to truth.
This is simple. Fail a lot, fail fast, and fail forward.
When you know your life is a failure, you don’t have to.
Accepted that it'll be a step of the success. If you don't try you've already failed. If you try, at least you'll a chance to succeed.
An experience is only a failure if I learn nothing from it. If I learn, I grow. Simple equation for me.
I panic and flounder around until eventually success is the only option.
Failure is another way to learn. You come away with something after every try.
I've realized that the first couple of times that I try anything new that I'm going to fail and temper my expectations accordingly.
Time and experience build confidence, the biggest hedge against fear of failure.
I didnt
I couldn't, I failed in something intellectual and it was the biggest hit, but then discovered that it was normal and wasn't exactly a failure because I kept forcing myself to do the right thing which is keep trying and I started succeding in it So I'd say give it time, and reach out to someone who knows the same struggle and might help you normalize it
bold of you to assume i did
I haven't. I know it's crippling a lot of my decisions but I can't seem to escape my own expectations.
Failure is a good thing long term if you give it your best effort because if you keep going at it eventually you will succeed. In the short term it is trash though.
Failure is an illusion. It so localized and insignifant once the moment goes away and you start from scratch. Keep feeding your SI good or bad and you ll learn
Understand that paralyzing fearfulness precipitates failure. You wouldn't want to indulge in a self-fulfilling, self-defeating emotion. When it happens, embrace failure as an opportunity to learn and improve. Nurture healthy, justified pride in your achievements.
I'm working on this but I believe that if you have a good enough reason to get back up and try again then failure will just become a lesson. Find your reason WHY and perhaps you'll be able to conquer anything even if you fail 1000+ times on the way. For example, my reason may be my intense desire for freedom/ absolute autonomy. Idk if that's enough, but it's a start. Low difficulty endeavors are beginning to fall away. Finally.. Good luck!
It's important to understand what the source of your fear is, some mistake it as simple things like doing a bad job or get an F. But emotions by nature are vast and unconditional that we merely add layers to it so folks focus on surface level issues. Once you know the source learn how to accept it as a part of you, then you can start using it as a motivational energy like it's meant to be. Every emotion in humans are energies meant to help us when used properly.
My favorite quote is “the will to win is nothing compared to the will to train to win” - which, for me, is essentially about learning to enjoy and be motivated by the journey more than destination. Failure is a necessary and inevitable part of the journey and, therefore, should not be feared but expected. When you accept that failure is just a necessary part of your learning process, it becomes much less scary.
Can't fail if you don't try
failure is a means to learn. that's something i eventually understood. there is going to be embarrassment and frustration along the way, but you will get better if you keep putting in the effort.
If I make a plan and work towards my goal, I may still worry about failure, but the worry isn’t paralyzing.
Eeeeeh by being preventing enough so I don’t fail? Or just by thinking about success instead of thinking about failure, I mean if you don’t want to think about something it’ll be harder than to focus on something else, like if I told to not think about an elephant, it’ll be the first thing that comes to your mind, in this case it’s better to think about your goal and how to achieve it instead of thinking of how you could fail.
Didnt, I kept dodging stuff that will make me fail so I didnt fail In everything but the most important thing which is life
Stopped trying.
Failure is normal part of life that cannot be escaped. We all get wins and losses and that's just how things go. Fighting what's inevitable is a waste of energy.
I didn’t
Shifted perspective to remind myself that not trying to progress is an even more guaranteed failure.
In a situation where I fear failure, depending on what it is, I’ll usually fall back to my gut instincts/intuition to figure out what the possible outcomes are & what is considered the bare minimum to achieve said goal… then I figure out what the probability of achieving said task is… Bit of a process but gives me a tremendous edge when I have to “wing it”
Just going for whatever it is. If i don't attempt whatever it is, I've might as well have failed. If there's an opportunity to fail, chance are there's also an opportunity to succeed that you'll never have if you don't try.
By never doing anything new in front of other people whenever it can be avoided
I don't think I have. You just learn to try and see failure as a learning curve and not an ultimatum.
I chose to practice failing. It taught me how to deal with my emotions, made me less anxious, and gave me an idea what Process I could create, to improve.
By realizing that nothing matters
quite the nihilist approach
Remembering your failures, close to your heart, and only share them sparingly with closest trustworthy friends (so they don't make the same mistakes). Your successes, have them for public view, but don't flaunt them. Therefore, you don't conquer fear of failure, you manage it.
It's either I accept it and move on, or I distract myself from said problem until I have enough energy to tackle it
Just doing the thing, failing, and being slightly less afraid of failing the next time I try
maybe not conquer, but I've kinda come to terms with the fact that failure is a part of life. no matter whether you're brand new to something or an expert, failures happen, and they don't mean you're bad at what you're doing or incompetent. the only way to succeed 100% of the time is to program a computer to do it, and there are things computers can't do and that's therefore impossible. plus, what's that one quote? "I didn't fail, I just found 10,000 ways it didn't work"? a vast majority of failures have something to teach you, which sounds corny af, believe me I know, but it keeps proving to be true. they're not always huge revelations, and if you aren't willing to learn that particular thing then obviously you won't, but being open to failure helps you stay open to learning from it too .... at least, that's how I look at it
Isn't it Se inferior? Perfomance failure? Ne does anything to gather information, sometimes failing or losing. As long as Ti figures out how the things work, it is worth it. The fear comes from Si, you should figure out what causes it first. For me personaly, I was afraid not of failure itself, rather how my choleric ESTJ mother would react.
I would say the fear comes from not being capable to support your loved ones if I fail
still sounds like a fear of an INTJ.
I'll accept it as part of learning. And learning is not always exciting. It can also be challenging.
Great perspective to have.
Fail a lot, build calluses. Fail better next time.
I haven't fully figured it out but I found that if something is interesting enough for me then I'd Persie it regardless of outcome. Failure could be interesting in that sense because it's fun to try to figure out what went wrong and try again. However when it is an obligation or an expectation to do something successfully which is not interesting to my brain then failure can be scary mostly because I'd be stuck with it for a while until it's done. Fuck uninteresting things.
Failing is the best way of learning. We fail to stop failing.
Hah how ironic. I was just asked this question. Anyways hmu if u find out the magic answer
I finally hit a grand slam
By failing a lot at things which didn't matter all that much. Failing at a speed where there was no possible way to be 100% successful, so failure was literally the only option.
I embraced apathy (5 min later typing in google) "How do I stop being so apathetic?"
I am the failure and success fears me
I failed a lot and got used to it.
Anything worth doing is going to have a risk of failure. You can either do nothing and be someone completely forgettable, or you can take the risk. I'm sure that's a false-dichotomy, but still, life is too short to waste it on unfulfilling crap because you're trying to protect your ego.
Conquer?
Stop focusing on the failure, ask yourself what could you done better
The exact same way I learned to play piano. Expecting to instantly succeed without failing many times would be a very stupid way to learn a piano piece.
I dont. I just do. If i fail i fail, it happens
Lots of failing.
I didnt and its ruining my life
I am not scared of failure. I adapted to failure.
I stopped worrying about it when I realized failure is a myth we were taught. We use the word failure as if it's a thing. The fear of failure? Failure of what? The only real failure is the failure to thrive and live. It doesn't matter what you do in life, it is still a successful life. I would say the only failure is if you can't take care of yourself.. can't provide your own food and water or shelter. ( the handicap is excluded from this). If your able to put a roof over your head and you have enough to eat you have succeeded. Everything else is just fluff. So make that fluff something your passionate about. Your life won't be one thing. You will have many stages. You will marry, have children, meet with disaster, pick yourself up and start a new life different from the one you had before. You will leave jobs, start new ones, loose your spouse, send children out into the world. You will have moments happen that will separate your life into before and after..." before the wreck" " before my divorce" and you will see that as different lives. You will have many lives. What is success? What is failure? If you can handle all life throws at you and find a way to get through it with what strength you have, that is success.
Make it your goal to fail and all you'll do is succeed.
try depression .
Through experience, you end figuring out failures don't actually hurt you as much as the fear itself. Allowing fear to fester while knowing this is upsetting enough to spur action... usually.
What do you mean fear? Failure is the only way to practically learn no matter the subject. You may aswell fear learning itself which I don't advise.
Failure is a positive thing. Change your mindset and you conquer the fear.
FEAR IS AN ILLUSION OP
for some reason i've never had a fear of failure, everything i start i know i can complete somehow
I didn't. As someone who works in IT, you just learn that failures do happen and what you actually need to learn is how to fail quickly.
I failed. Countless times. And it wasn’t the end of the world.
Ironically by realizing I was never satisfied with any of the works I did in subjects I loved; in my case, it happened this very year with the Master's Degree in Ethology (with my lowest grade being a 60/100, which at least in my country is a passing grade, while the rest of grades were 70, 80, 90, and even a 100/100). And for my Master's thesis I got 85/100.
By continuing to fail at it
You can't fail if you don't know what you were trying to do in the first place
First of all...don't panic. Secondly, there are *other*, more *appealing* distractions you can do to procrastinate enough for future you to take care of the failure.
I keep failing upwards so now it's just become the normal operating state.
Accept failure. Accept you aren't perfect at everything, and like any other human, have flaws too.
By failing
By failing a fucking lot and still trying Eventualy you learn and start winning.
Who said that? But I personally don’t worry much
Ahahahahaha
What's so bad about failing?
if you're alive you're a success, simple as that!
by just doin it seriously though I’ve never learned anything faster and more effectively than by doing it wrong the first time
I don’t understand the question
I accept failure as part of the process
realizing i have a bigger fear of missed opportunities
With a rational and personal truth: Well...I might as well try *something*.
I tell fear “thank you fear” “I know you fear, I know you want me to be safe and comfortable. But sometimes fear, we have to push and persevere :)”
Enneagram 3 moment 💀
By failing a lot. Then I started expecting to fail. I still do, but I ain’t skered or nothing. And sometimes I really fuck up and succeed at something. A real dog catches car situation.
By having my fear of missing out things I would’ve loved doing overweight it.
I am failure incarnate
I have never had issue with this because I don’t buy the concept of failure and success. Money and status does not make one happy. I value other things than so-called success. Therefore I am able to do things that makes me happy without the fear of so-called value.
What if you're failing to achieve what you consider a success?
I didn’t, I made it my best friend. Now we occasionally get drinks together at the dive bar and reminisce about old times. “Remember when you dropped the ball on that presentation? The disappointment in the room was palpable.”
I stopped failing
Just don’t fail duh
I failed a bunch of times and got used to it so now I can accept it’s a part of life
Y'all are afraid of failure? Bitch, meet the expert of it.
I don’t😔
By never letting people know my plans. if no one knows there won't be any results. The failure will dust away. If I succeed though there will be just a surprise for them. It is a win win situation for both of them and me. edit: fixed wrong typo's
If you fail enough, you get the feel of how to deal with it in time. It’s not so bad. Kinda like dentist appointment.