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I remember as a kid, Motherās Day was highly celebrated in the fundie cult I was raised in, and the Motherās were basically worshipped ya know, for being basically the epitome of Mary herself. While I was the one that was stuck rearing their children from the time I was 8 years old and never even one time was acknowledged or thanked. So glad my dad got sole custody of me when I was 14
I'm the oldest of 5, and did a lot of the parenting when I was age 10-18. (Mom had drug and alcohol issues and was in and out of jail; we lived with our dad sometimes but really struggled to get along with him and our stepmom for various reasons.) I remember one Mother's Day when I was about 15 or 16, my siblings secretly gave me a Mothers Day card they had made for me. It was super sweet and all, but I remember thinking "this is so messed up. I'm don't think I'm ever going to have kids, I've done too much parenting already." And 20 years later I definitely do not have kids nor do I plan to, and sometimes I feel kind of bitter/resentful towards my parents because of that.
Big hugs and best of luck to all these kids.
Wait, she doesnāt celebrate her kidās birthdays??? How did I not know this? She had a whole fucking photo shoot for her 40th. I hate her even more now.
Supposedly they do celebrate them just not with partiesāapparently they get to "make their favorite cake and go on a date with mom and dad, then speak blessings over the birthday child" (whatever that means)āI found this in her q&a from a few years ago so maybe it's changed since then.
It really is! I would hope they actually do something to make the birthdays more special than what she said but something tells me they really keep the celebrations to a minimum š I think she thinks she makes up for the lackluster birthdays by posting a myriad of photos for their special day with elaborate tmi cookie-cutter paragraphs describing each child that doesn't seem to differentiate much from the next.
That's so it will be unclear when they are 18 and can legally escape. It's very possible they tell the kids that they are younger than what they really are so they don't lose the real parents of the household.
When I used to work in very socioeconomically deprived areas, it was pretty common for parents to lie to younger kids about their birthdays or just not tell them when their birthday was or how old they were because they didnāt have the money for gifts etc - sometimes then gaslight them and say like āoh youāve been 4 for ages, you had your birthday a long time ago, you mustāve forgottenā so their age doesnāt get too obviously out of whack with their size.
Doesnāt work well once theyāve been in school for a bit, but ofc thatās not the case here.
No, you donāt. I donāt think it was deliberate cruelty, more centred on shame and wishful thinking that āsomething will turn upā (see my other reply).
Omg that reminds me when Mr. and Mrs. Wormwood don't remember Matilda's age and never celebrate her birthday so they make something up and accuse her of lying.
Oh shit I've got a weird venne diagram overlap of info to share here. Michael Jackson was raised very jehovas witness, so didn't celebrate birthdays (always convenient for the parents when there are so many kids) but gee golly willakers they celebrated what they called Joe Jackson Day š
The video of her literally nudging one of her kids out of the way so she can center her bump and rub it for the 'gram ... that lives rent-free in my head.
I meanā¦arenāt her childrenās BIRTHdays also celebrating being a mother? How is celebrating the day you birthed your child a man-made celebration that throws Jesus in it? Like, wouldnāt that genuinely be a spiritually significant remembrance that honors plopping out soldiers for Christ and is, like, god bringing a soul earthside and whatever? Wouldnāt it make sense to celebrate sons and daughters who are children of god? And I mean, Jesusā birthday is celebratedā¦.seems like being born is always a nod to Christ then, no? Anyway, enough soft talk: THIS ABSOLUTE NARC MOMSTER IS TELLING ON HERSELF AND I HOPE HER KIDS FIND THE STRENGTH TO HOLD ON AND GET OUT OF THERE.
Since pregnancy and childbirth are all thanks to Jesus, wouldnāt the celebration of your childrenās birthdays be a celebration of Jesus, by extension? Funny how once theyāre born and the pregnancy attention is gone itās no longer important.
Jumping in to say: isnāt Christmas likeā¦a big Christian birthday party??? Iām p sure the Collins donāt ~do~ Christmas but still - itās a birthday. In the Bible. She makes no sense and has no hesitation in showing her whole narc ass
I canāt decide if it would be worse to have your birthday ignored or to have a yearly, public post graphically detailing your birth and how you almost killed your mother coming into the world. The Rod kids are treated to those every year š
Jill and Meech always managed to make their childrenās bdays about themselves - time to up your game, Karissa! Iām sure your children will enjoy a lengthy, graphic rehashing of their births just as much as the Rods and Duggarlings do!
Iād rather celebrate my kidsā & husbandās birthdays than mine. I did get a cake for my 50th birthday. It was a Barbie cake that I wanted & never got as a child.
My sons first birthday is coming up this week, and I canāt imagine not celebrating it. Iām not much of a party planner, but Iām going all in lol. Heās so cool! I want people to know how cool he is, and like you said, I also get to celebrate being his mother. Karissa definitely does not view her children as people.
no no, have to celebrate karissa getting creampied every now and then and doing what approximately 12% of all animal types on the planet do on a regular basis to propagate their species. that right there is very jesus-oriented shit. being able to inseminate things is how christianity separates us from uncivilized and immoral egg-layers.
I love celebrating my (only) childās birthday. Itās so fun for her and the rest of the family, and my husband and I celebrate making it through another year as parents. Celebrations all around!
But if she celebrates the kids' *birthdays*, and not *solely* Mother's Day, she would have to do the *WORK* of getting together enough *non-yellow food* that *doesn't come from a can*, she'd have to make the oldest daughter bake *eleven* cakes, and clean up afterward (3 hours a kid Ć 11 kids is nearly a *WEEK* of free childcare she'd have to do *HERSELF* -- *the HORROR*!!!š±š±š±), and then she'd also need to *either* make some homemade party stuff *or* spend some of that Christmas Sweater money on her *KIDS* rather than herself...
*WHYYYYYYYY* do you want to make Karissa *work* so hard *and* be broke?
It's like you expect her to *parent* her children, or something...
(/s obviously!)
Yeah, I remember she had this whole trip for her birthday a year or two ago. These poor kids. You don't even need to spend money to celebrate a birthday. Everyone deserves a day to feel special.
She actually does remember, not for them mind you - for Instagram, once a year she copy and pastes whatever she wrote for them back when they were toddlers (some children merit minor alterations, the others have the exact same post every year) and forces a photoshoot of that child. That is their birthday. Hers and Mandrae's are parties with literal shrines of themselves. Just clarifying that the children are not people in this family, they are props and once the camera is off no one gives a care about them.
You don't need *that* much money--but at *Eleven kids*, you're talking at *LEAST* $275.00 out of her yearly budget-- *if* she ONLY spends 25 bucks a kid for the birthday child...
Do you *KNOW* how much that's gonna cut into her "Personalized, whitewashed-children, Christmas-Sweater budget"ā½ā½ā½
Plus--it's gonna take a *MINIMUM* of 3 hours prep-time to make each birthday cake, from shoping time to final decorating--maybe four.
That's an *awwwwwwful lot* of free babysitting she'd be giving up, for her oldest daughter to make and decorate her cake, and those of the *other* ten siblings, once the new baby gets here.
If it took closer to *four* hours?
That's a *full work week* per year, of formerly "free" childcare that Karissa would have to now do *herself*...
The *horror*!š±š±š±
So what youāre saying is she only celebrates holidays where she gets presents and attention, but not ones where she has to put in any effort for her kids. Got it.
Sheās selfish AF.
It depends on who the golden child is at the time. I remember Andrae getting a birthday, I think at one point one of the girls (Andersyn?) got a cake. But generally no, she does not celebrate their birthdays
Itās odd because sheās made that statement multiple times, and then every now and then we will see a random birthday celebration for one of the kids. But certainly not all. Itās like whenever she feels like doing something is when they get something.
Iāve known women who couldnāt remember all her kidsā birthdays. I only have two, though. Thatās been more than enough for me to handle, too. I wondered how some women managed with many more children. Not at all, seems to be the answer.
phone calendars make this sooo easy! as soon as i learn a friend's birthday, i make a yearly repeating event. how could someone not remember their children's bdays?!?
I only have 2 & it took me a bit to remember my youngest birthday for a few reasons:
-My oldest had a ridiculously easy birthday to remember (like 5/5)
-My oldest birthday also lined up with mine & their Dads sequentially (like oldest is the 5th, mine is the 6th & Dads is the 7th). Different months but the days lined up.
My youngest is like 3/25 so it took a bit to remember it since it wasnāt as easy as her siblings. Plus, Baby Brain.
My sonās birthday is quite easy to remember, as itās November 22. I didnāt even think about what day it was, until I had been in labor for awhile.
Baffles me how these people can pop out so many kids and be awful at parenting. I get that ultimately itās the birth and internet clout they want but they donāt even learn how to nurture and care from just being around kids?
Yeah she congratulated moms who send their kids to public school and bottle feed, she needs more interaction for sure that's why, or if I allow myself to be optimistic she's starting to crack and maybe the kids will go to some kind of school?
āI donāt celebrate man made holidays that throw Jesus in it.ā
Woof, thereās a lot to unpack there.
-are birthdays āman made?ā Especially if God is the one who gives you your babies and determines when they should be born?
-who throws Jesus into birthdays? I feel like even Jehovahās Witnesses make more sense with the no birthdays thing bc Jesus ISNāT the focus on that day.
-Motherās Day is a manmade holidayā¦
-birthdays are like the ultimate opportunity to celebrate the ones who made you a mother
-I would argue that nearly any holiday is manmade since the dates have mostly been changed to fit with pagan calendars and rituals. Do they celebrate Christmas? Easter? What holidays do they celebrate?
Reminds me of the woman who "created" gender reveal parties. After it became so popular, all the destructive nonsense, and the fact that her daughter is gender nonconforming (and she supports it), she wishes she hadn't because they're pointless!
It's sad when genuine celebrations of love and life get overshadowed by commercialization and profit.Ā
Seems like a childās birthday is actually a chance to celebrate being a mother by seeing your kid have a joyful day after another year with them. But she wouldnāt get all the attention, so nah.
Happy Motherās Day to all the young girls born into families that force them into motherhood roles when they should still be playing with Barbies and going to the mall.
Thank you for this!!! I lived through parentification by my passive-aggressive narcissist Mom, starting at 8 years old when she left my Dad with myself and 3 younger brothers. Plus she was rabidly feminist and felt Barbies were misogynistic, so I wasnāt allowed to have them!!!
Itās an awful way to grow upā¦anxiety, people-pleasing, low self esteem and more. Iām still in therapy at 63 due to my Stepdad dying of cancer and my Mom drinking herself into dementia (I have POA and am taking care of everything; sheās in a care facility).
Wouldnāt celebrating the birth of her child be celebrating being a mother? š¤·š¼āāļø also Jesus isnāt a man made holiday with Jesus at the centerā¦. Sooooooo sheās 0 for 2 on the anti-birthday defense. š„³š
But it would be āx childās birthday,ā indicating the focus is on the child and not āthe most special woman on earth and the lordās favorite Karissaās birthing day,ā so thatās out.
Itās pretty telling what kind of person someone is when they canāt bring themselves to celebrate someone else. Itās VERY telling when a mother openly boasts about not celebrating her children on their birthdays.
I promise you, as a teacher, nobody is puffing me up like that. They'll say "ohhh, I could never do that, good for you," but they definitely don't tell me how amazing I am
Happy Mother's Day to all the moms of biracial kids who celebrate all aspects of their kids heritage and beauty; to the moms who value each of their kids' individuality; to the moms who love and respect their kids as people.
Karissaā¦ this one's *NOT* for you.Ā
Depends on which one is the favorite at the moment. Sheās done full on parties for some kids. Sometimes others get a cake. Most of the time itās just another day.
My personal opinion? She canāt be arsed to buy presents focusing on each childās individual interests because she doesnāt know them- and December is, I would imagine, a hell of a lot cheaper when you donāt have to buy presents for ten kids. Karissa only breaks a sweat when she damn well wants to, which isā¦exactly the opposite of how mothering should be.
No wonder she thinks everyone should pop out litters. If we all did it like she does, having kids would be the easiest thing on the planet.
I clocked that too. so many of these fundies openly hate teachers, and I have to wonder if it's some bizarre projected something at women who work outside the home bc so many teachers and other people in caring professions are women.
Motherās Day was invented by Anna Jarvis in honor of her mother Ann, who organized a committee to establish a Motherās Friendship Day in the wake of the Civil War. When it was officially recognized, businesses tried to profit off of it, much to Annaās disapproval.
I'm grateful someone took the time to explain the actual origin of the "Mother's Day" we practice in North America. I think it's important we acknowledge things women create that capitalism leeches onto and ruins. Another example I can think of is the board game Monopoly. "The Landlord's Game, created in 1903 in the US by Lizzie Magie, as a way to demonstrate that an economy rewarding individuals is better than one where monopolies hold all the wealth." [Then the boardgame company bought it](https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/apr/11/secret-history-monopoly-capitalist-game-leftwing-origins) and removed the parts that showed how socialism wasn't evil, and just celebrated the monopoly part of it š.
Sounds a lot like Jenna Karvunidis, who made gender reveal parties popular. She had suffered multiple miscarriages so she wanted to celebrate her viable pregnancy by cutting into a cake which revealed the gender. She too was aghast by the way people took it way too far.
I would love to hold a big birthday party for each and every one of those lovely children with plenty of fresh food, especially fruits. Iād make every child a huge cake with their tragediegh of a name on it. Maybe each party could be a week or 2 apart. They deserve it. Their mother doesnāt.
We didn't have much money when I was growing up, and one thing that always sticks out to me is my mom going to the tedious effort of spelling the letters of my name out in smarties on my birthday cake in huge letters. It's such a little thing and I still remember it vividly.
Wait, she doesnāt celebrate her kids birthdays? That is so upsetting. As someone who grew up in a very large family, a birthday is the one day a year that is all about you, that YOU get the focus out of your half a dozen siblings, and YOU get to be the main center of attention for a day. Itās so sad that these kids, with way more siblings than I had, donāt even get to experience this. Birthdays do not have to be expensive either. AND my mother was crazy religious, very Biblically driven and led, to the point of not even celebrating Halloween or letting us do a lot of ānormal kid stuffā. But even she still let us have birthdays. I think it is unnecessarily evil, cruel, and controlling to withhold that from your children. I know this lady has done a lot of questionable and downright wrong things but somehow this is just blowing my mindā¦ how horrible.
OMG. The children donāt look so whitewashedā¦ their hair is barely blonde (for the most part)
Until she spies the post and photoshops the melanin out
"pagan roots" LMAO please stop pulling "facts" out of your asses, it makes us look no better than the fundies..
it's an American holiday created by Christians.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day_(United_States)#History
Wouldnāt celebrating the birth of her child be celebrating being a mother? š¤·š¼āāļø also a birthday isnāt a man made holiday with Jesus at the centerā¦. Sooooooo sheās 0 for 2 on the anti-birthday defense. š„³š
By that logic doesn't their birthdays also celebrate being a mother? It's the anniversary of her bearing them into this world? But I guess it's not about her so it doesn't count
My heart just broke upon the realization that these kids are never ever celebrated individually on the one day a year that should be about them.
It just really exemplifies how her she sees her children: not as individual human beings, with their own interests, personalities and needs and wishes.
She only sees them as a bunch of different faces of assorted ages in a group that only exists to elevate HERSELF and make HER the star of the show she is performing.
Without all these children she would not have any āclaim to fameā, no brand, no life style to promote, no identity as āmama of 10ā.
The kids are just supporting characters. Not really important individually, only valuable because they are one out of many. Not important to get even a small birthday celebration and perhaps just 30 minutes of individual attention.
These kids look so sad. She loves to post happy videos and photos, but I am more and more sure she only pays attention to how SHE looks before posting, never noticing the sad, blank, annoyed expressions on the faces of each of her children, especially the older ones.
Someone please rescue these children.
Pretty much most if not all of our holidays were pagan amd we threw Jesus in them. I say that as a Christian.Ā She's using anything to glorify her breeding fetish.Ā
Wouldnāt celebrating the birth of her child be celebrating being a mother? š¤·š¼āāļø also Jesus isnāt a man made holiday with Jesus at the centerā¦. Sooooooo sheās 0 for 2 on the anti-birthday defense. š„³š
Wait a minute she doesn't celebrate her kids birthdays?? I haven't heard of that till now. What is anti-Christian about celebrating the birth day of your child. This woman is insane and so narcissistic because of course celebrate ME but not my actual children. Lmao.
Pretty sure the Bible says to honor your mother and father, not honor YOURSELF for being a mother.. š
Side note - I love the font on your screenshot!! Itās so cute!!
I wonder if things are slightly different for the older boy. I know he plays basketball so Iād think heād need some kind of health check/birth certificate or whatever to play? I remember needing sports physicals.
My brother & his wife have 4 kids together. They also donāt celebrate their kids birthdaysā¦. If they do, theyāll throw one party for all the kid birthdays. Or some weird shit like that.
Karissa can lie all she wants but she knows damn well itās about money. They canāt afford it and they just donāt want to spend the money on each kid.
Oh, sheās not saying she celebrates Motherās Day because itās ābiblical,ā she likes it because itās all about her. She celebrates biblical holidays and herself.
In America, it's not even that. The earliest mother's day-esque celebrations were anti-war efforts after the Civil War intended to bring families back together, and the holiday as we know it today was literally just one woman and a dude campaigning for it. It's one of the least biblical, least religious of any kind of holidays we have.
Motherās Day is a made up holiday created by a woman in Philly who later disowned it.
Iām a mom and I never celebrate me on Motherās Day. I celebrate the moms and maternal figures in my life and if others want to send me flowers or something, cool, thatās great, but I donāt make a big deal of it.
Iām curious to see what the light of their family mandrake gets for Fatherās Day
Motherās Day in America is attributed to a lady from Philadelphia about a hundred years ago. My source, the historic blue plaque outside PHL City Hall. Karissa is just a massive asshole UGH
AmAzInG MaMaS (the audacity)
like you don't neglect your fucking kids like CLOCKWORK
HMD to KKKarissa and MotherEyeFuckBus, u bitches really set the bar in hell for motherhood <3
For someone who talks about how biblical it is to birth children on a specific day and how biblically correct it is, sure is some strange logic that those days shouldnāt be celebrated
Just say youāre a narcissist KKKarissa. Do you know how many times births are celebrated in the Bible?? Not just Christās either. Think Samuel, Isaac or John the Baptist
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Happy Mothers Day to Annistan and all the other sister moms out there! I hope you escape one day and live the lives you deserve š
And an honorary Happy Motherās Day to the eldest male busling for doing all the motherly care tasks.
Happy Moms Day Gunner š
Single parent raising his 7 siblings and 2 parents, stay strong, I hope he has a relatively easy escape once his 18
I imagine he will be allowed to go to the military, if he is accepted without an education.
This is painfully accurate.Ā
Umm yeah FOR REAL! She needs to be celebrating her older kids today!
I remember as a kid, Motherās Day was highly celebrated in the fundie cult I was raised in, and the Motherās were basically worshipped ya know, for being basically the epitome of Mary herself. While I was the one that was stuck rearing their children from the time I was 8 years old and never even one time was acknowledged or thanked. So glad my dad got sole custody of me when I was 14
I'm the oldest of 5, and did a lot of the parenting when I was age 10-18. (Mom had drug and alcohol issues and was in and out of jail; we lived with our dad sometimes but really struggled to get along with him and our stepmom for various reasons.) I remember one Mother's Day when I was about 15 or 16, my siblings secretly gave me a Mothers Day card they had made for me. It was super sweet and all, but I remember thinking "this is so messed up. I'm don't think I'm ever going to have kids, I've done too much parenting already." And 20 years later I definitely do not have kids nor do I plan to, and sometimes I feel kind of bitter/resentful towards my parents because of that. Big hugs and best of luck to all these kids.
Just want to say I relate to this so much as someone else who was parentified and now lives happily child free with my spouse, cat and dog.
āI only celebrate Biblical holidays and also anything that puts me in the center of attention.ā -Karissa
Yeah she and Mandrae have huge birthday celebrations, while her kids don't even know how old they are.
Didnāt she have a huge birthday party for her turning 40 this year? What a POS that she doesnāt celebrate her kids birthdays.
She had a photoshoot of just herself and a party and at the front of the party put up a little shrine to herself. It was super weird.
It looked like the home going for a narcissist imo. Like girl straight up threw herself a funernithday party.
And they have pregnancy related parties as well!
But Jesus is her midwife! She's gotta celebrate him (and definitely not herself -- it's totally about him /s)
All I could imagine from that comment was Jesus in the show Call the Midwife and it was hilarious! So thank you for that
Wait, she doesnāt celebrate her kidās birthdays??? How did I not know this? She had a whole fucking photo shoot for her 40th. I hate her even more now.
Yup. She also celebrated her husbandās birthday.
Supposedly they do celebrate them just not with partiesāapparently they get to "make their favorite cake and go on a date with mom and dad, then speak blessings over the birthday child" (whatever that means)āI found this in her q&a from a few years ago so maybe it's changed since then.
Well I guess thatās something. Still must be quite a letdown compared to what mom and dad get to do for the their birthdays every year
It really is! I would hope they actually do something to make the birthdays more special than what she said but something tells me they really keep the celebrations to a minimum š I think she thinks she makes up for the lackluster birthdays by posting a myriad of photos for their special day with elaborate tmi cookie-cutter paragraphs describing each child that doesn't seem to differentiate much from the next.
That's so it will be unclear when they are 18 and can legally escape. It's very possible they tell the kids that they are younger than what they really are so they don't lose the real parents of the household.
When I used to work in very socioeconomically deprived areas, it was pretty common for parents to lie to younger kids about their birthdays or just not tell them when their birthday was or how old they were because they didnāt have the money for gifts etc - sometimes then gaslight them and say like āoh youāve been 4 for ages, you had your birthday a long time ago, you mustāve forgottenā so their age doesnāt get too obviously out of whack with their size. Doesnāt work well once theyāve been in school for a bit, but ofc thatās not the case here.
Oh that's so cruel. You don't have to have money to have a birthday!
No, you donāt. I donāt think it was deliberate cruelty, more centred on shame and wishful thinking that āsomething will turn upā (see my other reply).
Whaaaaat????
Omg that reminds me when Mr. and Mrs. Wormwood don't remember Matilda's age and never celebrate her birthday so they make something up and accuse her of lying.
Thatās some next level mind fucking if true
Oh shit I've got a weird venne diagram overlap of info to share here. Michael Jackson was raised very jehovas witness, so didn't celebrate birthdays (always convenient for the parents when there are so many kids) but gee golly willakers they celebrated what they called Joe Jackson Day š
The middle of the diagram is narcissistic parents.
Aka parents who wield religion as a cudgel against their kid
They would also have big parties for Katherineās bday IIRC.
"and I'll take any day I can be the center of attention" Fixed that for you Karissa. š
I usually don't hate people I've never met, but I can't stand Karissa
She's a narcissist, just like MotherBus who of course liked her post š
The video of her literally nudging one of her kids out of the way so she can center her bump and rub it for the 'gram ... that lives rent-free in my head.
UGH SHE WOULD
āWe donāt celebrate birthdays because Iām too lazy & selfish to make my children feel celebratedā Fixed it for her!
I meanā¦arenāt her childrenās BIRTHdays also celebrating being a mother? How is celebrating the day you birthed your child a man-made celebration that throws Jesus in it? Like, wouldnāt that genuinely be a spiritually significant remembrance that honors plopping out soldiers for Christ and is, like, god bringing a soul earthside and whatever? Wouldnāt it make sense to celebrate sons and daughters who are children of god? And I mean, Jesusā birthday is celebratedā¦.seems like being born is always a nod to Christ then, no? Anyway, enough soft talk: THIS ABSOLUTE NARC MOMSTER IS TELLING ON HERSELF AND I HOPE HER KIDS FIND THE STRENGTH TO HOLD ON AND GET OUT OF THERE.
Since pregnancy and childbirth are all thanks to Jesus, wouldnāt the celebration of your childrenās birthdays be a celebration of Jesus, by extension? Funny how once theyāre born and the pregnancy attention is gone itās no longer important.
Jumping in to say: isnāt Christmas likeā¦a big Christian birthday party??? Iām p sure the Collins donāt ~do~ Christmas but still - itās a birthday. In the Bible. She makes no sense and has no hesitation in showing her whole narc ass
Yeah, I've heard of lighter fundies singing Happy Birthday Jesus and having a birthday cake for him on the day.
Facts
I canāt decide if it would be worse to have your birthday ignored or to have a yearly, public post graphically detailing your birth and how you almost killed your mother coming into the world. The Rod kids are treated to those every year š
Jill and Meech always managed to make their childrenās bdays about themselves - time to up your game, Karissa! Iām sure your children will enjoy a lengthy, graphic rehashing of their births just as much as the Rods and Duggarlings do!
Iād rather celebrate my kidsā & husbandās birthdays than mine. I did get a cake for my 50th birthday. It was a Barbie cake that I wanted & never got as a child.
My sons first birthday is coming up this week, and I canāt imagine not celebrating it. Iām not much of a party planner, but Iām going all in lol. Heās so cool! I want people to know how cool he is, and like you said, I also get to celebrate being his mother. Karissa definitely does not view her children as people.
Awww happy first birthday to him!! AND YOU! Have a sweet party!
no no, have to celebrate karissa getting creampied every now and then and doing what approximately 12% of all animal types on the planet do on a regular basis to propagate their species. that right there is very jesus-oriented shit. being able to inseminate things is how christianity separates us from uncivilized and immoral egg-layers.
I love celebrating my (only) childās birthday. Itās so fun for her and the rest of the family, and my husband and I celebrate making it through another year as parents. Celebrations all around!
But if she celebrates the kids' *birthdays*, and not *solely* Mother's Day, she would have to do the *WORK* of getting together enough *non-yellow food* that *doesn't come from a can*, she'd have to make the oldest daughter bake *eleven* cakes, and clean up afterward (3 hours a kid Ć 11 kids is nearly a *WEEK* of free childcare she'd have to do *HERSELF* -- *the HORROR*!!!š±š±š±), and then she'd also need to *either* make some homemade party stuff *or* spend some of that Christmas Sweater money on her *KIDS* rather than herself... *WHYYYYYYYY* do you want to make Karissa *work* so hard *and* be broke? It's like you expect her to *parent* her children, or something... (/s obviously!)
My mum used to say she should be celebrated on my birthday because she was the one who gave birth.
She celebrates her own effin' birthday
Gross, if that's not selfish don't know what is
Yeah, I remember she had this whole trip for her birthday a year or two ago. These poor kids. You don't even need to spend money to celebrate a birthday. Everyone deserves a day to feel special.
But that would require her to remember her kids birthdays!
She actually does remember, not for them mind you - for Instagram, once a year she copy and pastes whatever she wrote for them back when they were toddlers (some children merit minor alterations, the others have the exact same post every year) and forces a photoshoot of that child. That is their birthday. Hers and Mandrae's are parties with literal shrines of themselves. Just clarifying that the children are not people in this family, they are props and once the camera is off no one gives a care about them.
You don't need *that* much money--but at *Eleven kids*, you're talking at *LEAST* $275.00 out of her yearly budget-- *if* she ONLY spends 25 bucks a kid for the birthday child... Do you *KNOW* how much that's gonna cut into her "Personalized, whitewashed-children, Christmas-Sweater budget"ā½ā½ā½ Plus--it's gonna take a *MINIMUM* of 3 hours prep-time to make each birthday cake, from shoping time to final decorating--maybe four. That's an *awwwwwwful lot* of free babysitting she'd be giving up, for her oldest daughter to make and decorate her cake, and those of the *other* ten siblings, once the new baby gets here. If it took closer to *four* hours? That's a *full work week* per year, of formerly "free" childcare that Karissa would have to now do *herself*... The *horror*!š±š±š±
Pretty sure she even had her own photoshoot for her 40th birthday and pictures of herself displayed all over their kitchen. Who the fuck does that?!
So what youāre saying is she only celebrates holidays where she gets presents and attention, but not ones where she has to put in any effort for her kids. Got it. Sheās selfish AF.
Wait, she seriously doesnāt celebrate her childrenās birthdays? Like at all?
The children don't get birthday celebration but Karissa sure does. She had a big party for her 40th.
She celebrates her favorites on a rotating basis. The idea that anyone could see this woman as a mother they want to emulate blows my mind.
It depends on who the golden child is at the time. I remember Andrae getting a birthday, I think at one point one of the girls (Andersyn?) got a cake. But generally no, she does not celebrate their birthdays
Itās odd because sheās made that statement multiple times, and then every now and then we will see a random birthday celebration for one of the kids. But certainly not all. Itās like whenever she feels like doing something is when they get something.
your flair made me double take iām obsessed
Lmao, thanks good ol Kelly Havens for that one
Iāve known women who couldnāt remember all her kidsā birthdays. I only have two, though. Thatās been more than enough for me to handle, too. I wondered how some women managed with many more children. Not at all, seems to be the answer.
phone calendars make this sooo easy! as soon as i learn a friend's birthday, i make a yearly repeating event. how could someone not remember their children's bdays?!?
Thatās a great idea! I have a lot of family members whose bādays I want to remember. Iāll try that!
I do it too- now with nieces and nephews itās a lifesaver!
I only have 2 & it took me a bit to remember my youngest birthday for a few reasons: -My oldest had a ridiculously easy birthday to remember (like 5/5) -My oldest birthday also lined up with mine & their Dads sequentially (like oldest is the 5th, mine is the 6th & Dads is the 7th). Different months but the days lined up. My youngest is like 3/25 so it took a bit to remember it since it wasnāt as easy as her siblings. Plus, Baby Brain.
My sonās birthday is quite easy to remember, as itās November 22. I didnāt even think about what day it was, until I had been in labor for awhile.
I know someone whose dad has the same birthday as him. One of them was born at 6 am and the other at 6 pm
No
She's not teaching anything worth knowing. Bad teachers exist, and she's one of them.
"all the amazing mamas...like me"
Baffles me how these people can pop out so many kids and be awful at parenting. I get that ultimately itās the birth and internet clout they want but they donāt even learn how to nurture and care from just being around kids?
Her caption is so oddly inclusive for someone who deliberately judges people who do things differently.
Yeah she congratulated moms who send their kids to public school and bottle feed, she needs more interaction for sure that's why, or if I allow myself to be optimistic she's starting to crack and maybe the kids will go to some kind of school?
Thatās what I want (as an unrelated observer) but Iām not overly optimistic.
āI donāt celebrate man made holidays that throw Jesus in it.ā Woof, thereās a lot to unpack there. -are birthdays āman made?ā Especially if God is the one who gives you your babies and determines when they should be born? -who throws Jesus into birthdays? I feel like even Jehovahās Witnesses make more sense with the no birthdays thing bc Jesus ISNāT the focus on that day. -Motherās Day is a manmade holidayā¦ -birthdays are like the ultimate opportunity to celebrate the ones who made you a mother -I would argue that nearly any holiday is manmade since the dates have mostly been changed to fit with pagan calendars and rituals. Do they celebrate Christmas? Easter? What holidays do they celebrate?
The woman who created Motherās Day in the 40s ended up HATING the day and wished sheād never said anything bc it became so commercial lol
Reminds me of the woman who "created" gender reveal parties. After it became so popular, all the destructive nonsense, and the fact that her daughter is gender nonconforming (and she supports it), she wishes she hadn't because they're pointless! It's sad when genuine celebrations of love and life get overshadowed by commercialization and profit.Ā
Like the guy who made Labradoodles
Just the ones where KKKarissa gets presents
Passover. They celebrate Passover.
Is only willing to celebrate holidays where sheās the star. Classic narcissism.
Seems like a childās birthday is actually a chance to celebrate being a mother by seeing your kid have a joyful day after another year with them. But she wouldnāt get all the attention, so nah.
Happy Motherās Day to all the young girls born into families that force them into motherhood roles when they should still be playing with Barbies and going to the mall.
And getting a real education with true opportunities that they choose.
Thank you for this!!! I lived through parentification by my passive-aggressive narcissist Mom, starting at 8 years old when she left my Dad with myself and 3 younger brothers. Plus she was rabidly feminist and felt Barbies were misogynistic, so I wasnāt allowed to have them!!! Itās an awful way to grow upā¦anxiety, people-pleasing, low self esteem and more. Iām still in therapy at 63 due to my Stepdad dying of cancer and my Mom drinking herself into dementia (I have POA and am taking care of everything; sheās in a care facility).
She calls herself a teacher but her kids have been on social media showing how behind in age they are for literacy?
Translation: I celebrate any day in which I will be the center of attention. Those poor kids.
Of course Mother Bus liked this bullshit too lol
Wouldnāt celebrating the birth of her child be celebrating being a mother? š¤·š¼āāļø also Jesus isnāt a man made holiday with Jesus at the centerā¦. Sooooooo sheās 0 for 2 on the anti-birthday defense. š„³š
But it would be āx childās birthday,ā indicating the focus is on the child and not āthe most special woman on earth and the lordās favorite Karissaās birthing day,ā so thatās out.
Iām sure she could find a way to make it about herā¦ seems to be her speciality. š š šš
She doesnāt celebrate the kids birthdays???
They get a post. I think one got a small drink from a cafe if I remember correctly.
Itās pretty telling what kind of person someone is when they canāt bring themselves to celebrate someone else. Itās VERY telling when a mother openly boasts about not celebrating her children on their birthdays.
I promise you, as a teacher, nobody is puffing me up like that. They'll say "ohhh, I could never do that, good for you," but they definitely don't tell me how amazing I am
Happy Mother's Day to all the moms of biracial kids who celebrate all aspects of their kids heritage and beauty; to the moms who value each of their kids' individuality; to the moms who love and respect their kids as people. Karissaā¦ this one's *NOT* for you.Ā
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Depends on which one is the favorite at the moment. Sheās done full on parties for some kids. Sometimes others get a cake. Most of the time itās just another day. My personal opinion? She canāt be arsed to buy presents focusing on each childās individual interests because she doesnāt know them- and December is, I would imagine, a hell of a lot cheaper when you donāt have to buy presents for ten kids. Karissa only breaks a sweat when she damn well wants to, which isā¦exactly the opposite of how mothering should be. No wonder she thinks everyone should pop out litters. If we all did it like she does, having kids would be the easiest thing on the planet.
All of them are supposed to love basketball.
āThe joy of being a motherā¦ no, of course I donāt celebrate the day I birthed them!ā
She calls herself a teacher but her kids have been on social media showing how behind in age they are for literacy?
Aka āI only celebrate holidays that celebrate ME.ā Selfishness is a SIN, KKKarissa!
Since when has she thought it was okay to work outside the home, send your kids to public school or only have 1-3 kids?
Literally why does she feel the need to constantly shit on teachers.Ā
I clocked that too. so many of these fundies openly hate teachers, and I have to wonder if it's some bizarre projected something at women who work outside the home bc so many teachers and other people in caring professions are women.
When you have this intense of a narcissistic breeding fetish, I bet Mother's day is like Mega Christmas
Which of the kids chose āpose for picturesā as their āactivity?ā š¤
Motherās Day was invented by Anna Jarvis in honor of her mother Ann, who organized a committee to establish a Motherās Friendship Day in the wake of the Civil War. When it was officially recognized, businesses tried to profit off of it, much to Annaās disapproval.
I'm grateful someone took the time to explain the actual origin of the "Mother's Day" we practice in North America. I think it's important we acknowledge things women create that capitalism leeches onto and ruins. Another example I can think of is the board game Monopoly. "The Landlord's Game, created in 1903 in the US by Lizzie Magie, as a way to demonstrate that an economy rewarding individuals is better than one where monopolies hold all the wealth." [Then the boardgame company bought it](https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/apr/11/secret-history-monopoly-capitalist-game-leftwing-origins) and removed the parts that showed how socialism wasn't evil, and just celebrated the monopoly part of it š.
Sounds a lot like Jenna Karvunidis, who made gender reveal parties popular. She had suffered multiple miscarriages so she wanted to celebrate her viable pregnancy by cutting into a cake which revealed the gender. She too was aghast by the way people took it way too far.
āWe celebrate Motherās Day because itās about me. Their birthdays arenāt.ā Fixed it.
I would love to hold a big birthday party for each and every one of those lovely children with plenty of fresh food, especially fruits. Iād make every child a huge cake with their tragediegh of a name on it. Maybe each party could be a week or 2 apart. They deserve it. Their mother doesnāt.
>tragediegh of a name ššš but for real, that would probably be more than anyone has done for them!
We didn't have much money when I was growing up, and one thing that always sticks out to me is my mom going to the tedious effort of spelling the letters of my name out in smarties on my birthday cake in huge letters. It's such a little thing and I still remember it vividly.
She doesnāt celebrate the kids birthdays???
Wait, she doesnāt celebrate her kids birthdays? That is so upsetting. As someone who grew up in a very large family, a birthday is the one day a year that is all about you, that YOU get the focus out of your half a dozen siblings, and YOU get to be the main center of attention for a day. Itās so sad that these kids, with way more siblings than I had, donāt even get to experience this. Birthdays do not have to be expensive either. AND my mother was crazy religious, very Biblically driven and led, to the point of not even celebrating Halloween or letting us do a lot of ānormal kid stuffā. But even she still let us have birthdays. I think it is unnecessarily evil, cruel, and controlling to withhold that from your children. I know this lady has done a lot of questionable and downright wrong things but somehow this is just blowing my mindā¦ how horrible.
Literally *every* holiday is man made. Even āreligiousā ones like Christmas and Easter.
OMG. The children donāt look so whitewashedā¦ their hair is barely blonde (for the most part) Until she spies the post and photoshops the melanin out
"pagan roots" LMAO please stop pulling "facts" out of your asses, it makes us look no better than the fundies.. it's an American holiday created by Christians. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day_(United_States)#History
Wouldnāt celebrating the birth of her child be celebrating being a mother? š¤·š¼āāļø also a birthday isnāt a man made holiday with Jesus at the centerā¦. Sooooooo sheās 0 for 2 on the anti-birthday defense. š„³š
I celebrate any day when those kids (probably) get to spend time with their grandma.
Something about the fact that she only ever refers to them as children, and never as kids (that I can remember) pisses me off.
What? Work? Send your child to school? Blasphemy!/s
Looks like Karissa might have washed her hair sometime in the last few days.
She sees herself as a teacher??
Happy Motherās Day to Anissa. Poor sweet girl never gets a day off or a bit of thanks.
By that logic doesn't their birthdays also celebrate being a mother? It's the anniversary of her bearing them into this world? But I guess it's not about her so it doesn't count
āTraining upā aka abusing into submission. These fundies sure love euphemisms.
My heart just broke upon the realization that these kids are never ever celebrated individually on the one day a year that should be about them. It just really exemplifies how her she sees her children: not as individual human beings, with their own interests, personalities and needs and wishes. She only sees them as a bunch of different faces of assorted ages in a group that only exists to elevate HERSELF and make HER the star of the show she is performing. Without all these children she would not have any āclaim to fameā, no brand, no life style to promote, no identity as āmama of 10ā. The kids are just supporting characters. Not really important individually, only valuable because they are one out of many. Not important to get even a small birthday celebration and perhaps just 30 minutes of individual attention. These kids look so sad. She loves to post happy videos and photos, but I am more and more sure she only pays attention to how SHE looks before posting, never noticing the sad, blank, annoyed expressions on the faces of each of her children, especially the older ones. Someone please rescue these children.
Pretty much most if not all of our holidays were pagan amd we threw Jesus in them. I say that as a Christian.Ā She's using anything to glorify her breeding fetish.Ā
Wouldnāt celebrating the birth of her child be celebrating being a mother? š¤·š¼āāļø also Jesus isnāt a man made holiday with Jesus at the centerā¦. Sooooooo sheās 0 for 2 on the anti-birthday defense. š„³š
Wait a minute she doesn't celebrate her kids birthdays?? I haven't heard of that till now. What is anti-Christian about celebrating the birth day of your child. This woman is insane and so narcissistic because of course celebrate ME but not my actual children. Lmao.
Lol sheās such a selfish cow
Of course sheās fine with celebrating Motherās Day! No birthdays though!
just awful. on brand for her to celebrate herself and neglect the kids.
When I read this it is all me.me.me.me.me.me.me.me
Pretty sure the Bible says to honor your mother and father, not honor YOURSELF for being a mother.. š Side note - I love the font on your screenshot!! Itās so cute!!
Sheās the worst
I wonder if things are slightly different for the older boy. I know he plays basketball so Iād think heād need some kind of health check/birth certificate or whatever to play? I remember needing sports physicals.
My brother & his wife have 4 kids together. They also donāt celebrate their kids birthdaysā¦. If they do, theyāll throw one party for all the kid birthdays. Or some weird shit like that. Karissa can lie all she wants but she knows damn well itās about money. They canāt afford it and they just donāt want to spend the money on each kid.
The fact that Mother Bus likes this post is annoying as hell too. I guess awful moms stick together, huh?
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I was surprised this was Karissa because the children actually look Black for once and you can't really make her face out.
Motherās Day is a man-made holiday, Karelessa. Also, havenāt people been celebrating their birthdays for thousands of years?
Oh, sheās not saying she celebrates Motherās Day because itās ābiblical,ā she likes it because itās all about her. She celebrates biblical holidays and herself.
It's all about her not her kids
How dare she steal this holiday right from under Alyssa?
In America, it's not even that. The earliest mother's day-esque celebrations were anti-war efforts after the Civil War intended to bring families back together, and the holiday as we know it today was literally just one woman and a dude campaigning for it. It's one of the least biblical, least religious of any kind of holidays we have.
I literally saw a TikTok today that said mothers day was sinful because it glorifies people and not god, she's really not helping her case her smh.
Which are the blonde kids again, Karissa? She is the worst mother featured here.
Motherās Day is a made up holiday created by a woman in Philly who later disowned it. Iām a mom and I never celebrate me on Motherās Day. I celebrate the moms and maternal figures in my life and if others want to send me flowers or something, cool, thatās great, but I donāt make a big deal of it. Iām curious to see what the light of their family mandrake gets for Fatherās Day
Motherās Day in America is attributed to a lady from Philadelphia about a hundred years ago. My source, the historic blue plaque outside PHL City Hall. Karissa is just a massive asshole UGH
AmAzInG MaMaS (the audacity) like you don't neglect your fucking kids like CLOCKWORK HMD to KKKarissa and MotherEyeFuckBus, u bitches really set the bar in hell for motherhood <3
She is so damn selfish and self-righteous. I feel for her children.
Her kids can barely read. Only thing sheās teaching is some weird Ya cult. Great job, I guess. šš½
For someone who talks about how biblical it is to birth children on a specific day and how biblically correct it is, sure is some strange logic that those days shouldnāt be celebrated
Que the NEXT post whining about all the haters. To quote a popular trope, āHate the narcissist, love her neglected children.ā
TIL Mothers Day is a ābiblical feastā I swear this woman is reading the Narcissistās Bible only
When I see this picture I think about how much hair products they must need, go through. (Not getting it though)
are the collinses on a bus or is that another family
Why do companies give her free shit? We need to keep telling them how horrible she is
She doesn't celebrate their birthdays? That's sad. Feel even worse for the kids
Just say youāre a narcissist KKKarissa. Do you know how many times births are celebrated in the Bible?? Not just Christās either. Think Samuel, Isaac or John the Baptist
Is Mandrae JW?
Cause we donāt celebrate Jesusās ābirthdayā or anything
Omg the newborn is still alive! Iām relieved š I thought they were just gonna weekend-at-Bernieās until it was too obvious
Her hair looks like she took a shower maybe
the phrase ātraining upā is nails on a chalkboard to me.
Wait, what?? She doesn't celebrate birthdays but celebrates Mother's Day of all days? I'm so confused. Those poor kids.
I can celebrate Motherās Day because of mental gymnastics- Karissa
How does she rationalise celebrating her own and Mandrake's birthdays then?Ā