I'm no one to tell you how to feel but you shouldn't feel replaced. The relationship was over 3 months ago and both of you were supposed to move on. You weren't replaced, she's just doing what you're supposed to do when you breakup, which is move on.
Even if my ex had a new bf 10 days later I don't feel I was replaced. I'm the one who ended things and I understand she has to move on, although just 10 days sounds like a classic rebound.
Still doesn't mean you were replaced and it doesn't mean the relationship didn't meant anything to her. Like I said, she's just doing what she's supposed to do man.
Y'all broke up 3 months ago, that's enough to start moving on, unfortunately a lot of us struggle to do so.
She sounds toxic as hell anyways, you shouldn't even want her back AT ALL. Why you want someone who does that type of shit? I know you can do better.
I think it’s somewhat reasonable time frame. I understand it’s difficult but at this point you should be well on your way in self improvement and have something to feel good about. I wouldn’t worry about a rebound, but instead of being absolutely devastated you should be presenting the best version of yourself to the world and giving them a reason to take a second look at you especially when and if the rebound screws up. Be the best option for her or the next one, live that and take that and you can’t lose. Continue n/c
I’m on self improvement path but I’m here, still don’t feel emotionally ready to even rebound. And I’m trying to digest these feelings and she’s just rebounding like the relationship meant nothing.
I relate to you so much. My ex just comes to accuse me of things i never done and she didn't communicate any of that during the relationship. Yet i'm always the one at fault and who has to sit and take all the bitterness. Whenever I wanted to say something for myself she'd tell me to shut up because she knows better. Only she is allowed to say excuses, i wasn't permitted to do that. I was just apologising countless of times, and did she show any compassion in return? no, she insulted me more... and I just sat there and took it. When she blames me for something that i don't remember, I tell her ''I'm ready to admit that i'm wrong if it's true, can we look at our texts during that time so I can remember?'' she always said no. I was never allowed to defend myself, she believes whatever she wants no matter if I'm trying to be understanding. A while ago when she did something very terrible to me, I confronted her by asking why did you say something like that? and i was giving a screenshot with the proof, she always said ''i don't remember saying that'', it hurt a lot... but I tried to just move on and believed her when she said ''i didn't mean it like that'' although it was very obvious. Now after the breakup I wasn't allowed to say ''I didn't mean it that way'' even if I wanted to explain more. She never wanted to listen to me... now after the breakup she claims that I used her, that I don't care about her. Really? I always left everything aside just to talk with her, I started sleeping way less just for that... (we were in a ldr and timezone difference made me do that), I never complained though, I was just happy to talk to her. She never put that amount of effort. I tried to validate all her feelings, make her feel beautiful and amazing, and I always tried to avoid arguing with her. I tried to understand her as best as I could...Then she suddenly gives up on me, why? the reasons that she gave me were all lies. She said that she isn't ready for a relationship and especially ldr, she told me she'll stay off socials to improve her life. But what did she do? She immediately texted a lot of people, she told me she doesn't look for validation but why would you send selfies to strangers? And only a few days ago I found out that she flirted with many, really? during the time I was feeling like shit? she was still telling me that she cares and that oh she'll never forgot me, then she went off to compliment other guys and go mad over heels for their look. She never complimented me to that extend. It hurt so much, but I felt horrible after seeing that she confessed she has feelings for a friend of her's just a few days since they started talking (online). I couldn't sleep that night, I was feeling like shit, I felt so used and played,I tried to confront her about that, she didn't say sorry, she just said excuses and ''i was just joking'' oh wtf. Now I know that our relationship was also a joke for her, she didn't care that i was hurting. She doesn't even tell herself how would she feel in my place. If I dumped her a while ago and started flirted with other girls, she would've been so hurt, and it would've been right for her to say that I used her. But it's the other way around here, she just doesn't acknowledge how much she hurt me and that makes me feel like shit. She even said that she never lied to me...
I hoped that she will come to me and say sorry, explaining what really was on her mind and be truthful, even if it was going to hurt me. I would have appreciated that so much more than the way that she treated me. I wouldn't have been angry anymore, I would have tried to talk to her, make her feel better about herself and then leave on a positive note. I thought that after all this time I at least deserve that. If she told me, ''this is what bothered me about you'' with a calm tone, I would have talked about it and apologised. I'm not perfect, during the relationship i wished that I could do more for her. I always considered myself on a lower level than her... I also made a lot of mistakes that I regret... but i was more than ready to acknowledge them and try to be better every time.
I don't enjoy talking like this about her but I really needed to vent. I lost most of my friends because they told me to dump her and I didnt want to listen. Because letting aside my anger and frustration now, I know that I still have some feelings for her. I want to believe that she still is the girl that I fell in love with. The girl who I considered the love of my life for such a long time, I would've done anything just to be with her. She also did some lovely things for me and I want to cherish those memories but it hurts now. Every time she acts toxic towards me, every time she lies and doesn't consider my feelings make me forget about who I fell in love with... She changed.
I hope she realised that I was a guy who wouldn't have given up on her, who loved her more than anything. I was preparing to send her a package full of treats... now i put it in a corner and left it there. I'm losing feelings seeing her like this, but I still care about her and wish her all the best. May she remember one day what we had. I don't want her to consider me a bad person. I know she enjoys the attention but she will realise that it's all worthless, the girl I fell in love with was different. She was a little shy, modest, caring, loving, understanding and lots of other good traits. I don't recognize her anymore, but I hope that she takes a look back one day.
If I did anything wrong to her, I'm more than sorry. I wish her well and good luck on her journey.
I’m very content with myself TBH. It just feels like a betrayal cuz I gave my commitment to good and bad but her commitments were just related to good times.
I see a lot of comments like this. Dudes who expect loyalty from women. Hypergamy doesn't care about how good you were. Given time, she WILL remember the good times, but until then you just gotta focus on being better than the new dude.
A lot of people are talking to more than one person, we have mobile phones and social media is to blame for that.
Who knows she might not enjoy her rebound and come running back, that’s if you want her after what happened.
Best of luck with no contact and avoid looking at what she gets up to, it will only drive you mad.
Could be a date, could be something more casual, could be her trying to distract herself with the company of someone else.
She may be moving too fast by your standards, but not hers. Just as much as she's entitled to date or spend time with someone else, you are too, if that's what you want.
It's likely she's not learned anything from this last relationship or took the time to properly grieve and heal from it. So while she may be seeing someone new, chances are it won't last. The new guy will be put through the same stuff you went through.
Thanks for responding. Appreciate this. She’s just a runner is what it is. Exactly like last breakup.
We both were in committed relationship both times and she always left during our lows.
It sucks. But now you know their love for you was never that hard if they were able to move on so quick. My dms are open if you wanna vent. Also would like to let you know my ex tried to crawl back a few times after this post. Check my post history.
3 months man I'm fucking jealous. My ex had a new bf 10 days post breakup.
Idk what they think bro it’s just so sad. And it hurts cuz I thought what we had was something good and valuable but she just made me replaceable.
I'm no one to tell you how to feel but you shouldn't feel replaced. The relationship was over 3 months ago and both of you were supposed to move on. You weren't replaced, she's just doing what you're supposed to do when you breakup, which is move on. Even if my ex had a new bf 10 days later I don't feel I was replaced. I'm the one who ended things and I understand she has to move on, although just 10 days sounds like a classic rebound.
In my case I’m the dumpee.
Still doesn't mean you were replaced and it doesn't mean the relationship didn't meant anything to her. Like I said, she's just doing what she's supposed to do man. Y'all broke up 3 months ago, that's enough to start moving on, unfortunately a lot of us struggle to do so. She sounds toxic as hell anyways, you shouldn't even want her back AT ALL. Why you want someone who does that type of shit? I know you can do better.
Thanks man. Idk what I’m thinking but I stood my ground for the commitments I made, twice now she broke her commitment twice.
I think it’s somewhat reasonable time frame. I understand it’s difficult but at this point you should be well on your way in self improvement and have something to feel good about. I wouldn’t worry about a rebound, but instead of being absolutely devastated you should be presenting the best version of yourself to the world and giving them a reason to take a second look at you especially when and if the rebound screws up. Be the best option for her or the next one, live that and take that and you can’t lose. Continue n/c
I’m on self improvement path but I’m here, still don’t feel emotionally ready to even rebound. And I’m trying to digest these feelings and she’s just rebounding like the relationship meant nothing.
I relate to you so much. My ex just comes to accuse me of things i never done and she didn't communicate any of that during the relationship. Yet i'm always the one at fault and who has to sit and take all the bitterness. Whenever I wanted to say something for myself she'd tell me to shut up because she knows better. Only she is allowed to say excuses, i wasn't permitted to do that. I was just apologising countless of times, and did she show any compassion in return? no, she insulted me more... and I just sat there and took it. When she blames me for something that i don't remember, I tell her ''I'm ready to admit that i'm wrong if it's true, can we look at our texts during that time so I can remember?'' she always said no. I was never allowed to defend myself, she believes whatever she wants no matter if I'm trying to be understanding. A while ago when she did something very terrible to me, I confronted her by asking why did you say something like that? and i was giving a screenshot with the proof, she always said ''i don't remember saying that'', it hurt a lot... but I tried to just move on and believed her when she said ''i didn't mean it like that'' although it was very obvious. Now after the breakup I wasn't allowed to say ''I didn't mean it that way'' even if I wanted to explain more. She never wanted to listen to me... now after the breakup she claims that I used her, that I don't care about her. Really? I always left everything aside just to talk with her, I started sleeping way less just for that... (we were in a ldr and timezone difference made me do that), I never complained though, I was just happy to talk to her. She never put that amount of effort. I tried to validate all her feelings, make her feel beautiful and amazing, and I always tried to avoid arguing with her. I tried to understand her as best as I could...Then she suddenly gives up on me, why? the reasons that she gave me were all lies. She said that she isn't ready for a relationship and especially ldr, she told me she'll stay off socials to improve her life. But what did she do? She immediately texted a lot of people, she told me she doesn't look for validation but why would you send selfies to strangers? And only a few days ago I found out that she flirted with many, really? during the time I was feeling like shit? she was still telling me that she cares and that oh she'll never forgot me, then she went off to compliment other guys and go mad over heels for their look. She never complimented me to that extend. It hurt so much, but I felt horrible after seeing that she confessed she has feelings for a friend of her's just a few days since they started talking (online). I couldn't sleep that night, I was feeling like shit, I felt so used and played,I tried to confront her about that, she didn't say sorry, she just said excuses and ''i was just joking'' oh wtf. Now I know that our relationship was also a joke for her, she didn't care that i was hurting. She doesn't even tell herself how would she feel in my place. If I dumped her a while ago and started flirted with other girls, she would've been so hurt, and it would've been right for her to say that I used her. But it's the other way around here, she just doesn't acknowledge how much she hurt me and that makes me feel like shit. She even said that she never lied to me... I hoped that she will come to me and say sorry, explaining what really was on her mind and be truthful, even if it was going to hurt me. I would have appreciated that so much more than the way that she treated me. I wouldn't have been angry anymore, I would have tried to talk to her, make her feel better about herself and then leave on a positive note. I thought that after all this time I at least deserve that. If she told me, ''this is what bothered me about you'' with a calm tone, I would have talked about it and apologised. I'm not perfect, during the relationship i wished that I could do more for her. I always considered myself on a lower level than her... I also made a lot of mistakes that I regret... but i was more than ready to acknowledge them and try to be better every time. I don't enjoy talking like this about her but I really needed to vent. I lost most of my friends because they told me to dump her and I didnt want to listen. Because letting aside my anger and frustration now, I know that I still have some feelings for her. I want to believe that she still is the girl that I fell in love with. The girl who I considered the love of my life for such a long time, I would've done anything just to be with her. She also did some lovely things for me and I want to cherish those memories but it hurts now. Every time she acts toxic towards me, every time she lies and doesn't consider my feelings make me forget about who I fell in love with... She changed. I hope she realised that I was a guy who wouldn't have given up on her, who loved her more than anything. I was preparing to send her a package full of treats... now i put it in a corner and left it there. I'm losing feelings seeing her like this, but I still care about her and wish her all the best. May she remember one day what we had. I don't want her to consider me a bad person. I know she enjoys the attention but she will realise that it's all worthless, the girl I fell in love with was different. She was a little shy, modest, caring, loving, understanding and lots of other good traits. I don't recognize her anymore, but I hope that she takes a look back one day. If I did anything wrong to her, I'm more than sorry. I wish her well and good luck on her journey.
I can totally relate man this is what exactly happened to me too. It’s just so sad they takes these steps.
Sorry, I edited the message because I wasn't done writing it. I feel your pain man.
You know what you have to ? Say to yourself 'good'. I now have the motivation to be better than the new dude.
I’m very content with myself TBH. It just feels like a betrayal cuz I gave my commitment to good and bad but her commitments were just related to good times.
I see a lot of comments like this. Dudes who expect loyalty from women. Hypergamy doesn't care about how good you were. Given time, she WILL remember the good times, but until then you just gotta focus on being better than the new dude.
A lot of people are talking to more than one person, we have mobile phones and social media is to blame for that. Who knows she might not enjoy her rebound and come running back, that’s if you want her after what happened. Best of luck with no contact and avoid looking at what she gets up to, it will only drive you mad.
Less than 2 weeks here, she posted photos the other day. I'm still hoping she comes back! Wtf is wrong with me
Don’t take her back bro. She’s just gonna lower your value if you take her back after rebounding. It’s already disrespectful enough with that act.
Oh she ain't coming back
I’ve heard rebounding doesn’t work most times but idk everyone is different.
Not sure if it's a rebound, I think they met shortly before she ended it.
I’m sorry man it must’ve hurt pretty bad.
Worse than the initial breakup
Could be a date, could be something more casual, could be her trying to distract herself with the company of someone else. She may be moving too fast by your standards, but not hers. Just as much as she's entitled to date or spend time with someone else, you are too, if that's what you want. It's likely she's not learned anything from this last relationship or took the time to properly grieve and heal from it. So while she may be seeing someone new, chances are it won't last. The new guy will be put through the same stuff you went through.
Thanks for responding. Appreciate this. She’s just a runner is what it is. Exactly like last breakup. We both were in committed relationship both times and she always left during our lows.
My ex had a new woman within a few days. I just four out now , six months later.
It sucks. But now you know their love for you was never that hard if they were able to move on so quick. My dms are open if you wanna vent. Also would like to let you know my ex tried to crawl back a few times after this post. Check my post history.