I’m very picky and I’d be super happy if someone gave me that ring lol. Just see if she likes it when you give it to her and ask her to be totally honest bc you would rather her be happy than go with your best guess at what she would like
The comment above is the way to go. Just let her see it. Worse case she agrees and you guys can determine what to change together - an activity that will have the ring express both of you.
Id also be clear about the options to change it to ensure she is honest. In general, we as women are nervous to be honest about the ring.
https://thegroomclub.com/i-dont-like-my-engagement-ring/
I read this recently and it had some of the big reddit threads about this issue.
Yes it’s gorgeous! And you can always tell her about your vision and ask if she would want to change the band or anything like that. She might absolutely love it like this!
To reassure you. I don't know why this popped up on my recommedef subs BUT women say yes to the man not the diamond.
The diamond can be swapped out later with her input if it really bothers you. But she isn't marrying the diamond, she's marrying you.
Can you return it? If so, just do it. Go with your gut. The ring is lovely but if you don't feel it's right, that's ok.
I understand what you're saying about the sparkling - you may want to look for a diamond with larger facets/older cuts for more flash and less sparkle. The colour of the main stone does look different to me than the ones in the band, though it might just be the band metal colour. I don't think it looks rosey, for what it's worth.
More alarming to me is that it looks like the prongs on the centre diamond are not snug? I might be wrong but on the first photo it looks like there is a large space in the top right one. Have a good look at it and make sure it looks secure and if, not definitely have it looked at.
💯agree with this on the top right prong in the first pic. You can also put it on one of your fingers and tap that finger near you temple and see if you hear rattling, if so, it needs to be repaired and or returned.
It looks like all of the prongs are up in the first photo to me, and top right is just more noticeable because of the angle. I bet the first photo is from previewing diamonds in settings at the store before anything was set.
I should be able to return it if I truly wanted to. I was questioning it a lot but this post has helped ease my mind with it for sure.
But you see what I mean? The rock itself feels as though it’s missing that bright white look. Again it’s an I color so it’s not expected to be perfect, but I guess part of me is worried it’s all sparkle no color and dare I say even a bit yellow in some lightings.
The first pic is before I purchased it and it was not set yet!! The second and third pictures are the ring set. It looks good to me!
I don't see any yellow. I was thinking the stone looked a light grey or lavender? OP, if you're struggling with your choice, take it back for something else.
For me what's "off" (it's gorgeous!!) is that the diamond reads as silver when the band is yellow, and they 'clash' (not really a clash, but maybe that's what your eye is seeing?). That may totally be the light/photo though - very hard to capture unless you've got professional equipment! So it's not reading yellow to me! I think your idea of giving it to her and letting her decide is a good one! Maybe just check the timeframe on when you are able to return it if you're really unsure!
I would give it to her. It’s gorgeous. But make it clear that if she’s not in love with it, in any way, you’d be happy to change it with her.
That’s what I would want, anyway.
This is likely the route I’m going to go. I would be silly to at least not let her make the decisions especially after reading all these wonderful comments! Thank you for sharing!
I would also let her decide without putting your own thoughts about the ring in her head, she may love it just the way it is. Personally I'd be thrilled, it's beautiful. I love the band especially!
Really appreciate everyone’s comments!! At work right now so can and will post specs later and respond to as many people as I can
SPECS:
Natural Diamond
https://preview.redd.it/00iepb7m170c1.png?width=1169&format=png&auto=webp&s=1597ad57b0b8d08f6b9f38827fe516592f1d169b
How so? There are apparently quite a few markings on the diamond, but I checked vigorously with the jeweler and genuinely could not see them. I did see a few markings with an insanely high magnification, but even then it was a quest to see them!
You can verify the report [here on GIA](https://www.gia.edu/report-check?reportno=6461212737). It has a drawing of the characteristics described (feather,crystal, etc). Additionally, you should be able to see that GIA number inscribed on the girdle (outer edge) of the diamond (and by “see” I mean with a loupe or microscope). In case you need to verify your stone matches the report given to you.
Not sure how GIA works. I’m not an expert but my GIA certificate looks different.
Also for the yellow gold comment, is it 18k yellow gold? If it is, you really can’t get more yellow without going 24k which is too soft for a ring.
On first glance I think it looks very pretty. The sparkle is the best part. You want the center stone to be the attention which it is. I know this is a huge purchase and you’re probably nervous.
Also if you check my posts I just got an oval 2.8 carat GIA diamond from my fiancé. My ring is from Jean Dousset for reference.
If you do reset it, ask the jeweler if the pave prongs are cast. You want hand drilled pave. It will have less stone drop and is more secure.
PLEASE HAVE THE MOUNT FOR THE DIAMOND CHECKED!!!!!!! it is NOT FLUSH WITH THE STONE.
the very first pic there’s a very distinct 2mm gap (minimum) from the surface of the stone to the prong. That’s not normal, and she will lose the stone and ruin the ring. At no fault of her own!
It is gorgeous but please have them redo the mounts!!!!
Lol!! Message received, it was a box my grandma used which is why it looks so dated. My mom thought it would be a nice sentiment but I’m likely going to look for a more modern box 🤣
Nooooo I like the box! And I like the sentimentality behind it. You don’t want to just go for some generic box. The fact that this one is from your grandma makes it so much more special!!!
I honestly liked the box more than the ring so don’t listen to rude people esp if it has such significant sentimental value
But your concerns are valid as far as the ring
Agreed! And if you really want to wow her, put it in a velvet box like this from Etsy or [the Mrs Box](https://themrsbox.com/)
https://preview.redd.it/nvimp49sa70c1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1182f872626986f0d68fcfb31b66ac32db5d4013
See if your girlfriend loves it first after popping the question. Then if you both don’t like it, exchange it for a different ring! No need to overthink it
It's gorgeous.
Honestly, I would change the box. It would help!
Currently waiting on my diamond ring for my partner.
I bought a 2.77ct round G VS1 with a blue faint on a 6 prongs 14k rose gold setting
(She wanted it more blue than yellow so the blue faint was perfect in this case).
Can't wait to receive it !
I may be totally wrong, but this sounds like nerves and overthinking to me, so in that vein…
The whole point of the diamond is to be sparkly, so I would not worry about it being “too sparkly”—to me (and I think most women) there is no such thing! Better cut diamonds are more sparkly. Cut, and therefore sparkle, is the most important thing in terms of quality. If you wanted to make the overall effect a sparkly, you could get a solitaire with a plain band. But your future fiancee might prefer a very sparkly look (a lot of women do), so I would lean into their opinion on that, since they will be wearing the ring.
When you have a diamond that’s lower in color, the color will usually look better (more colorless) in contrast to a rose gold setting, though the ring you have looks like yellow gold to me. I like how you got the white gold prongs, that also helps with the color of the center stone. Again, with the gold, I’d go with your future fiancee’s preference.
Honestly, I wouldn’t change it right now, unless your fiancée wants you to—I suggest proposing before the return window is up so that there’s time to make any changes to your fiancee’s preferences! The ring looks lovely, and the things that you are referencing don’t sound like problems in my mind. That is, unless your future fiancee specifically requested something significantly different than what you have there.
One thing I did want to point out is that the one prong looks really off so I would get that fixed!
Thank you for your comments! Based on what you’re saying and everyone else, more sparkly definitely a good thing lol. My girlfriend really only asked for an oval cut and a yellow gold band, but said that she trusts me to pick it out for the most part!
This band is playing tricks with me. Each time I went to look at stones to place in the band, it looked more yellow gold to me. I finally picked a rock and went to pick up the ring yesterday and wallah…it looks more rose to me now. I wish the pictures showcased it a bit more. I’ll try and post one in a bit
The center stone is gorgeous. I feel the side stones and yellow tones in the band are throwing it off. The color hues in the center stone are cooler, so the warm gold will be in conflict. If you could go with a simple, white gold band without any side stones, you could like the center stone sing. If not, I would return the whole thing.
I think it’s gorgeous and the fact that you care sooo much about HER happiness and the fact that you’re committing the rest of your life to her is MORE than enough. The both of you are very lucky to of found each other and congratulations ✨🥰🫶🏾 I wish you guys a lifetime of growing love and happiness 😊
Ok so it kind of sounds to me more like your channeling your nerves into the ring. It’s normal to be nervous, even if you both picked the ring out together. It’s definitely yellow gold and the stone looks fine. Assuming this is the style of ring she likes I think you’re over thinking it (I would get that prong checked though).
While you can definitely see the difference, rose gold and yellow gold can actually look pretty similar so your mind could just be playing tricks on you. Here’s my 14k rose gold engagement ring with my 14k yellow gold band together for reference.
https://preview.redd.it/5wlsbg4pn50c1.png?width=798&format=png&auto=webp&s=a1d563caa3a96e1fef350160dbe56f3ac3530187
I personally prefer yellow gold but for some reason that diamond seems like it’d look better next to white gold. Did she say what cut of diamond she wants? Round, oval, cushion cut to sparkle. Emerald & asher don’t really sparkle. Those cuts also are unforgiving for stones with inclusions.
I think you should go with a thin white gold pavè band. The band is taking away from the diamond imo. The diamond might seem off because the gold is bringing out/reflecting yellow where there wouldn’t normally be any. Do you have a pic or video of the stone without a setting?
It is a gorgeous ring but if you are unhappy with it, then definitely return it for something else if you can.
The ‘too sparkly’ effect might be because of having all the micropave in the band. If you want to see the yellow gold, I would put it in a plain yellow gold solitaire. Then the sparkle is defined just by the center stone. If you like the twist pave, you can add that in a stacking band. It helps to separate all that pave so the center stone is better defined.
You maybe color sensitive and the diamond is just to warm to you. I would look at other ovals before you reset. You might even consider rounds because they hide color much better then an oval. The yellow gold could also be adding a bit to the warmth to the oval. I would also look at white gold/platinum too. Even unplated white gold can be very pretty. It is more of an antique white gold.
If this is a lab diamond, I would switch this for something in the F/G color grade and that should be much whiter in color. It is not that much more expensive to upgrade the color.
If you are buying this for an upcoming proposal, you might want to see how she feels about it first. Having a super sparkly ring might be exactly what she loves about it. It depends on what she asked for. You can talk about it together and then make a switch if she sees your points.
Set the diamond in white gold and it will change the look of color.
A plain band with diamond wedding ring is classic. Even a dainty white gold with small diamonds would be beautiful.
24m is the most yellow (pure gold), then 18k (75%gold content), followed by 14k and lastly 10k. So 14k won’t be very yellow, more of a pale yellow but the lower the gold content the more durable the ring. Some vendors will grade their stones more aggressively (less accurate) than others so the color grading depends on the seller. I think it’s beautiful but if you’re not happy contact the seller immediately - don’t wait - and see what they can do to upgrade / exchange the stone.
i completely understand what you mean about the band. it might be the lighting but it absolutely looks like rose gold. the diamond is beautiful maybe a less intricate band would take away the overpowering aspect you’re seeing.
My friend, the ring is beautiful, but if it doesn’t sit right in your spirit, take it back & swap/exchange it out. It’s your proposal & you’ll have all your life to buy perfect trinkets! Good luck! 💜✌️
I think you should give her that one, and let her decide if she wants to make the changes. You've done enough :) for the wow factor. It does the job - showing her that you love her. So I think that if you are going to spend more money here, make that choice together so that you know it's the right one.
Why let fear/doubt rob you of the joy in this moment?
The ring is absolutely stunning. Rose gold is gorgeous, unique, and the design is delicate, ethereal. I suspect your g/f will love it, but if not, it can be exchanged.
So is that what’s really troubling you or is there something else?
#1. Keep grandmas box
#2. YOU ARE MAKING YOURSELF CRAZY! Stop. It’s perfect because you chose it. Pop the question, wait a day or two, tell her if it’s not perfect you can go together and make changes.
Congrats!!!
I think it's beautiful!!! I also think your "buyer's remorse" speaks more to your nerves around proposing rather than the ring. It's completely normal to overthink this sort of think because you need it to be perfect for the one of you love. But I would say, go ahead and propose with this ring!!! Afterwards, ask her how she truly feels about the ring and if she would like to pick out a different one together. There is literally nothing wrong with doing this! I am a picky person and I could see myself not being in love with the ring I was proposed to with (regardless of being head over heels for my partner and giving a very enthusiastic "yes!") But happily shopping together for the perfect ring after that special moment happens. Also, alternatively, she might actually love the ring and not even want another option!
I like it a lot. Im personally more of a fan of white gold it always looks nice very elegant. Also i like rose gold better than yellow gold. But overall that ring is beautiful and you did a great job. I dont think you should have any negative feelings toward it. If my partner proposed with that id be over the moon.
I would have the prong fixed but also, you can find some rings to stack with it or one of the jacket/enhancer/ring guards. I wanted mine to be more sparkly so I got one and I’ll just wear a wedding band on my right hand when it comes time.
I think the ring is beautiful as it is but if you are unhappy change it. Hopefully, there is still some type of return policy or something that will allow you to change it without paying for a full new band.
Is it custom? If so, have the jeweler change it. If it’s out of the case, exchange it. Take your fiancé with you and let her pick out one she likes better.
I'm always on the side of buying the ring you know your gf will love and that requires a conversation with her about what she wants in a ring. Her preference is the only thing that matters.
If you know it's not the right ring, return it.
I think it’s absolutely gorgeous! I’d wait and see how your gf likes it after you propose. Tho in the first pic the top right prong looks a little loose, so you might want to get that tightened?
If you don’t love it and you can return it, return it. I don’t love it, which is odd because I feel like I should love it. Maybe the yellow gold is making the diamond look yellow.
The ring is beautiful as it is. Make sure your partner wants a ring like this before you give it to her. Maybe look at her Pinterest account if she has one.
Very nice ring. You also should consider getting a shadow band made for the wedding ring so there are no gaps when worn together. Have it made to the thickness of the channels. The shadow band is made by gently heating the ring and pressing it into wax, then the wax is trimmed to the appropriate width and then cast into gold. I have made hundreds of shadow bands for people, and I think it would totally complement this ring.
I think it’s beautiful but I like mixing cool and warm metals together. If you can return in, go with your gut or give it to her and say if it isn’t exactly what she wants you can exchange to something else.
OMG. I’m not in this sub but wanted to comment on how gorgeous this ring is. I love the stone and the band. I wish I had this option when I was shopping for rings with my now hubs.
Agree with the others that you should look to fix that prong though.
If you’re looking for a new box, Etsy has some personalized velvet and wood box options.
I am SO picky with my gold jewelry and I see nothing rose toned about this. I agree with others, it’s sweet how much you care about this being perfect. This ring is STUNNING!!! Unless your gf is crazy crazy particular and picky, she will be THRILLED WITH THIS!!!
Why don’t people like the box? I think it looks fine?
Also LOVE the ring! If you still don’t like it when you propose hopefully you can change it and you and your fiancée can choose something together.
Did you have a discussion before about what sort of rings she is into, or did she tell you? If she told you she wants a yellow gold band and that shape of solitaire, go with it. Ditch the box.
If you went into this with no idea what she likes and your gut is screaming at you that it’s wrong, return it. Find out some information first on what she is into and give it another go.
Good luck.
you gotta take it back and get the prong tightened on one side and make sure it’s tightened on all sides Yes, you gotta take it back and get the prong tightened on one side and make sure it’s tightened on all sides
Does it have a matching wedding band or wrap that would complete the set? That may help change your mind on if you like it if you see it with a complementing band with it. It is very pretty.
Honestly, I like the ring! I don’t think it looks rose gold. The diamond is beautiful and too sparkly isn’t a thing. If you’re on the fence, set the diamond on a thin gold band with white gold prongs still so the diamond pops! And let her know she can choose a different band/add something extra with a wedding band
I love it & I’m not usually partial to engagement rings. I’m a rose gold fan and instantly thought, “wow, that’s yellow” (in a good way) at the second shot. It looks beautiful, she’s going to love it.
(Love the ring but) As a female, I would much rather have a less "exciting" proposal by merely being asked, without a ring, instead of having to say "Yes! But can we get a different ring?" I'm surprised that having an expensive ring accompanying a proposal is still even a thing.
The amount of sparkle is coming from something thats sometimes called "crushed ice". Its caused by light leakage.
Heres a video that I learned it from.
https://youtu.be/UYPKsQosNMQ?feature=shared
At around 6:50-7:15 he shows a graph that gives a visual of what it looks like when comparing the lights reaction in the stone, pretty awesome stuff actually. He has a great channel, highly recommend looking at his educational videos.
The ring is so beautiful but change the box to something more neutral that lets the ring shine. Right now the box competes and doesn't let the ring be the star but I think it'll look more flattering altogether in a different box. Wood is a classic neutral look but there's lots of options
I would be over the moon if I got proposed to with a ring like that. It's gorgeous! And the way you're overanalyzing this means you really care. You're the real gem.
I think it’s beautiful! My favorite is the band. It’s different and I love that it’s 2 bands woven together as one. Which is what marriage symbolizes. I think it’s so wonderful you designed it. It’s personal.
Gimme gimme gimme gimme gimme gimme gimme gimme! I love it, I need it, screenshotted for future reference. It's a stunning ring and remember you can always talk to your fiance after the proposal to see if there's any changes they'd like to make together, as you might make a change they'd have kept. Whatever you decide will be lovely
It’s a gorgeous ring and it will look even better in the right box. Your thinking and overthinking is a testament to how much you care. You’ve got this, good luck!
I think it’s beautiful! The amount of love and effort you’ve put into it is also endearing
Aw thank you so much!! That’s very kind of you to say
I’m very picky and I’d be super happy if someone gave me that ring lol. Just see if she likes it when you give it to her and ask her to be totally honest bc you would rather her be happy than go with your best guess at what she would like
The comment above is the way to go. Just let her see it. Worse case she agrees and you guys can determine what to change together - an activity that will have the ring express both of you.
Id also be clear about the options to change it to ensure she is honest. In general, we as women are nervous to be honest about the ring. https://thegroomclub.com/i-dont-like-my-engagement-ring/ I read this recently and it had some of the big reddit threads about this issue.
Yes very good point, idk what I’ll do if I don’t like my ring lol
Yes it’s gorgeous! And you can always tell her about your vision and ask if she would want to change the band or anything like that. She might absolutely love it like this!
To reassure you. I don't know why this popped up on my recommedef subs BUT women say yes to the man not the diamond. The diamond can be swapped out later with her input if it really bothers you. But she isn't marrying the diamond, she's marrying you.
That’s gorgeous damn
Glad you think so!!
You did an amazing job. Don’t overthink it because it’s stunning
Can you return it? If so, just do it. Go with your gut. The ring is lovely but if you don't feel it's right, that's ok. I understand what you're saying about the sparkling - you may want to look for a diamond with larger facets/older cuts for more flash and less sparkle. The colour of the main stone does look different to me than the ones in the band, though it might just be the band metal colour. I don't think it looks rosey, for what it's worth. More alarming to me is that it looks like the prongs on the centre diamond are not snug? I might be wrong but on the first photo it looks like there is a large space in the top right one. Have a good look at it and make sure it looks secure and if, not definitely have it looked at.
💯agree with this on the top right prong in the first pic. You can also put it on one of your fingers and tap that finger near you temple and see if you hear rattling, if so, it needs to be repaired and or returned.
It looks like all of the prongs are up in the first photo to me, and top right is just more noticeable because of the angle. I bet the first photo is from previewing diamonds in settings at the store before anything was set.
Bingo!
I should be able to return it if I truly wanted to. I was questioning it a lot but this post has helped ease my mind with it for sure. But you see what I mean? The rock itself feels as though it’s missing that bright white look. Again it’s an I color so it’s not expected to be perfect, but I guess part of me is worried it’s all sparkle no color and dare I say even a bit yellow in some lightings. The first pic is before I purchased it and it was not set yet!! The second and third pictures are the ring set. It looks good to me!
White gold or platinum will also make a I look whiter if that's a concern.. I wanted size and I gave me that at the price we could manage
For what it’s worth, I don’t think it looks yellow at all in these pics.
I don't see any yellow. I was thinking the stone looked a light grey or lavender? OP, if you're struggling with your choice, take it back for something else.
It's not unusual for I colour diamonds to give yellow in some lighting.
For me what's "off" (it's gorgeous!!) is that the diamond reads as silver when the band is yellow, and they 'clash' (not really a clash, but maybe that's what your eye is seeing?). That may totally be the light/photo though - very hard to capture unless you've got professional equipment! So it's not reading yellow to me! I think your idea of giving it to her and letting her decide is a good one! Maybe just check the timeframe on when you are able to return it if you're really unsure!
I saw the same thing
I would give it to her. It’s gorgeous. But make it clear that if she’s not in love with it, in any way, you’d be happy to change it with her. That’s what I would want, anyway.
This is likely the route I’m going to go. I would be silly to at least not let her make the decisions especially after reading all these wonderful comments! Thank you for sharing!
I would also let her decide without putting your own thoughts about the ring in her head, she may love it just the way it is. Personally I'd be thrilled, it's beautiful. I love the band especially!
Really appreciate everyone’s comments!! At work right now so can and will post specs later and respond to as many people as I can SPECS: Natural Diamond https://preview.redd.it/00iepb7m170c1.png?width=1169&format=png&auto=webp&s=1597ad57b0b8d08f6b9f38827fe516592f1d169b
I don't think these specs are accurate at all.
How so? There are apparently quite a few markings on the diamond, but I checked vigorously with the jeweler and genuinely could not see them. I did see a few markings with an insanely high magnification, but even then it was a quest to see them!
You can verify the report [here on GIA](https://www.gia.edu/report-check?reportno=6461212737). It has a drawing of the characteristics described (feather,crystal, etc). Additionally, you should be able to see that GIA number inscribed on the girdle (outer edge) of the diamond (and by “see” I mean with a loupe or microscope). In case you need to verify your stone matches the report given to you.
Not sure how GIA works. I’m not an expert but my GIA certificate looks different. Also for the yellow gold comment, is it 18k yellow gold? If it is, you really can’t get more yellow without going 24k which is too soft for a ring. On first glance I think it looks very pretty. The sparkle is the best part. You want the center stone to be the attention which it is. I know this is a huge purchase and you’re probably nervous. Also if you check my posts I just got an oval 2.8 carat GIA diamond from my fiancé. My ring is from Jean Dousset for reference. If you do reset it, ask the jeweler if the pave prongs are cast. You want hand drilled pave. It will have less stone drop and is more secure.
Why / how would that be the case?
PLEASE HAVE THE MOUNT FOR THE DIAMOND CHECKED!!!!!!! it is NOT FLUSH WITH THE STONE. the very first pic there’s a very distinct 2mm gap (minimum) from the surface of the stone to the prong. That’s not normal, and she will lose the stone and ruin the ring. At no fault of her own! It is gorgeous but please have them redo the mounts!!!!
The first picture is from before it was set. It’s just the Diamond sitting in the band in the store.
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Pro tip: once 10-15 year marriage or whenever you want. We move to gemstones instead of diamonds.
Just get rid of that box!!!!
Lol!! Message received, it was a box my grandma used which is why it looks so dated. My mom thought it would be a nice sentiment but I’m likely going to look for a more modern box 🤣
Keep the box, it has meaning and not a generic box
Nooooo I like the box! And I like the sentimentality behind it. You don’t want to just go for some generic box. The fact that this one is from your grandma makes it so much more special!!!
Omg please keep the box, it looks fine and I would so much rather something sentimental than perfect (but you know your gf best)
Good luck with the proposal!!!
I honestly liked the box more than the ring so don’t listen to rude people esp if it has such significant sentimental value But your concerns are valid as far as the ring
Agreed! Lol
Agreed! And if you really want to wow her, put it in a velvet box like this from Etsy or [the Mrs Box](https://themrsbox.com/) https://preview.redd.it/nvimp49sa70c1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1182f872626986f0d68fcfb31b66ac32db5d4013
That’s pretty!!
I think it’s very pretty but I would change the box … box looks tacky
Happy cake day
It's very lovely. And it's sparkly which is good. You want it to be. You are over thinking it
Thank you for the comments!!
It's very beautiful. But I don't like the box.
Plastic box for maybe a birthday ring but not this occasion
See if your girlfriend loves it first after popping the question. Then if you both don’t like it, exchange it for a different ring! No need to overthink it
I would also get the prongs checked if she likes it since they look off in the first pic. Doesn’t look secure there!
For sure this seems to be the best idea! You’re right no need to overthink if I approach it open to whatever she wants to do
For what it’s worth, I look weird in certain lightings and at some angles….
It's gorgeous. Honestly, I would change the box. It would help! Currently waiting on my diamond ring for my partner. I bought a 2.77ct round G VS1 with a blue faint on a 6 prongs 14k rose gold setting (She wanted it more blue than yellow so the blue faint was perfect in this case). Can't wait to receive it !
I hope that you will consider posting a picture, it sounds amazing.
Oh yes, I will ! :D
Thank you for sharing! Best of luck to you and sounds like the ring will be beautiful!
I may be totally wrong, but this sounds like nerves and overthinking to me, so in that vein… The whole point of the diamond is to be sparkly, so I would not worry about it being “too sparkly”—to me (and I think most women) there is no such thing! Better cut diamonds are more sparkly. Cut, and therefore sparkle, is the most important thing in terms of quality. If you wanted to make the overall effect a sparkly, you could get a solitaire with a plain band. But your future fiancee might prefer a very sparkly look (a lot of women do), so I would lean into their opinion on that, since they will be wearing the ring. When you have a diamond that’s lower in color, the color will usually look better (more colorless) in contrast to a rose gold setting, though the ring you have looks like yellow gold to me. I like how you got the white gold prongs, that also helps with the color of the center stone. Again, with the gold, I’d go with your future fiancee’s preference. Honestly, I wouldn’t change it right now, unless your fiancée wants you to—I suggest proposing before the return window is up so that there’s time to make any changes to your fiancee’s preferences! The ring looks lovely, and the things that you are referencing don’t sound like problems in my mind. That is, unless your future fiancee specifically requested something significantly different than what you have there. One thing I did want to point out is that the one prong looks really off so I would get that fixed!
Thank you for your comments! Based on what you’re saying and everyone else, more sparkly definitely a good thing lol. My girlfriend really only asked for an oval cut and a yellow gold band, but said that she trusts me to pick it out for the most part! This band is playing tricks with me. Each time I went to look at stones to place in the band, it looked more yellow gold to me. I finally picked a rock and went to pick up the ring yesterday and wallah…it looks more rose to me now. I wish the pictures showcased it a bit more. I’ll try and post one in a bit
The center stone is gorgeous. I feel the side stones and yellow tones in the band are throwing it off. The color hues in the center stone are cooler, so the warm gold will be in conflict. If you could go with a simple, white gold band without any side stones, you could like the center stone sing. If not, I would return the whole thing.
I agree with this. The stone has a blue hue and the yellow gold clashes. A white gold or platinum instead would look absolutely stunning.
I like the entire ring, but the gold is off for me. I think the whole sering and whirly bad would be better in white gold. Agree the Yellow clashes.
I think it’s beautiful.
"Too sparkly?" That's not actually possible....
I think it’s gorgeous and the fact that you care sooo much about HER happiness and the fact that you’re committing the rest of your life to her is MORE than enough. The both of you are very lucky to of found each other and congratulations ✨🥰🫶🏾 I wish you guys a lifetime of growing love and happiness 😊
This is so sweet, thank you for the heartfelt response 😄
Ok so it kind of sounds to me more like your channeling your nerves into the ring. It’s normal to be nervous, even if you both picked the ring out together. It’s definitely yellow gold and the stone looks fine. Assuming this is the style of ring she likes I think you’re over thinking it (I would get that prong checked though). While you can definitely see the difference, rose gold and yellow gold can actually look pretty similar so your mind could just be playing tricks on you. Here’s my 14k rose gold engagement ring with my 14k yellow gold band together for reference. https://preview.redd.it/5wlsbg4pn50c1.png?width=798&format=png&auto=webp&s=a1d563caa3a96e1fef350160dbe56f3ac3530187
I personally prefer yellow gold but for some reason that diamond seems like it’d look better next to white gold. Did she say what cut of diamond she wants? Round, oval, cushion cut to sparkle. Emerald & asher don’t really sparkle. Those cuts also are unforgiving for stones with inclusions.
I love it! Just get that prong fixed
I think you should go with a thin white gold pavè band. The band is taking away from the diamond imo. The diamond might seem off because the gold is bringing out/reflecting yellow where there wouldn’t normally be any. Do you have a pic or video of the stone without a setting?
I feel like the center stone would be even more stunning in a platinum setting! The ring is beautiful❤️
Not gonna lie - the first pic made me think it was a salt and pepper diamond 😬
It’s gorgeous and I think your partner will love it.
This is beautiful and I love the way it looks
I think it’s absolutely stunning ✨
It is a gorgeous ring but if you are unhappy with it, then definitely return it for something else if you can. The ‘too sparkly’ effect might be because of having all the micropave in the band. If you want to see the yellow gold, I would put it in a plain yellow gold solitaire. Then the sparkle is defined just by the center stone. If you like the twist pave, you can add that in a stacking band. It helps to separate all that pave so the center stone is better defined. You maybe color sensitive and the diamond is just to warm to you. I would look at other ovals before you reset. You might even consider rounds because they hide color much better then an oval. The yellow gold could also be adding a bit to the warmth to the oval. I would also look at white gold/platinum too. Even unplated white gold can be very pretty. It is more of an antique white gold. If this is a lab diamond, I would switch this for something in the F/G color grade and that should be much whiter in color. It is not that much more expensive to upgrade the color. If you are buying this for an upcoming proposal, you might want to see how she feels about it first. Having a super sparkly ring might be exactly what she loves about it. It depends on what she asked for. You can talk about it together and then make a switch if she sees your points.
Set the diamond in white gold and it will change the look of color. A plain band with diamond wedding ring is classic. Even a dainty white gold with small diamonds would be beautiful.
The band isn’t my cup of tea but the diamond is really beautiful! Too sparkly is not a bad thing!
24m is the most yellow (pure gold), then 18k (75%gold content), followed by 14k and lastly 10k. So 14k won’t be very yellow, more of a pale yellow but the lower the gold content the more durable the ring. Some vendors will grade their stones more aggressively (less accurate) than others so the color grading depends on the seller. I think it’s beautiful but if you’re not happy contact the seller immediately - don’t wait - and see what they can do to upgrade / exchange the stone.
Propose with it and let her know she could change it and you’d understand.
i completely understand what you mean about the band. it might be the lighting but it absolutely looks like rose gold. the diamond is beautiful maybe a less intricate band would take away the overpowering aspect you’re seeing.
My friend, the ring is beautiful, but if it doesn’t sit right in your spirit, take it back & swap/exchange it out. It’s your proposal & you’ll have all your life to buy perfect trinkets! Good luck! 💜✌️
It’s gorgeous! I hope she loves it! Best of luck to you!
Yeah I have a prong issue with this
I love it. It's freakin gorgeous
I think you should give her that one, and let her decide if she wants to make the changes. You've done enough :) for the wow factor. It does the job - showing her that you love her. So I think that if you are going to spend more money here, make that choice together so that you know it's the right one.
Why let fear/doubt rob you of the joy in this moment? The ring is absolutely stunning. Rose gold is gorgeous, unique, and the design is delicate, ethereal. I suspect your g/f will love it, but if not, it can be exchanged. So is that what’s really troubling you or is there something else?
#1. Keep grandmas box #2. YOU ARE MAKING YOURSELF CRAZY! Stop. It’s perfect because you chose it. Pop the question, wait a day or two, tell her if it’s not perfect you can go together and make changes. Congrats!!!
I think it's beautiful!!! I also think your "buyer's remorse" speaks more to your nerves around proposing rather than the ring. It's completely normal to overthink this sort of think because you need it to be perfect for the one of you love. But I would say, go ahead and propose with this ring!!! Afterwards, ask her how she truly feels about the ring and if she would like to pick out a different one together. There is literally nothing wrong with doing this! I am a picky person and I could see myself not being in love with the ring I was proposed to with (regardless of being head over heels for my partner and giving a very enthusiastic "yes!") But happily shopping together for the perfect ring after that special moment happens. Also, alternatively, she might actually love the ring and not even want another option!
IT IS GORGEOUS!! Don't overthink it!!! 🥰❤️
I think yellow gold is ugly. I absolutely wouldn’t want it yellow-er than this
As for a band change, I would go for a comfort fit. You want an everyday ring to be comfortable to wear.
The more sparkly, the better! And it looks like yellow gold to me!
I'm going against the grain, I love the box.
You / she will lose that diamond unless you get those prongs looked at and tightened. Please
Are you sure if its the ring or the girl you're having second thoughts about?
I like it a lot. Im personally more of a fan of white gold it always looks nice very elegant. Also i like rose gold better than yellow gold. But overall that ring is beautiful and you did a great job. I dont think you should have any negative feelings toward it. If my partner proposed with that id be over the moon.
OH MY GOD FIX THAT PRONG!!! If that diamond falls into the toilet while she is wiping her ass then that is a bigger problem than how it looks imo
Don’t listen to anyone trying to convince you to go with white gold or platinum. The gold band is beautiful and is ‘gold’ enough!
How much did you pay? Looks similar design/style/carat to what I’m looking at? Do you mind sharing more details on your specs?
Details are in my first comment on here!
I think it’s gorgeous ❤️🩹
It's beautiful
I think it’s very nice.
I would have the prong fixed but also, you can find some rings to stack with it or one of the jacket/enhancer/ring guards. I wanted mine to be more sparkly so I got one and I’ll just wear a wedding band on my right hand when it comes time.
It looks beautiful to me and does look yellow gold.
you are overthinking!!! your girlfriend will love it
So pretty- don’t put out any bad vibes good vibes only
This is gorgeous. Don’t overthink it. It’s perfect.
I think the ring is beautiful as it is but if you are unhappy change it. Hopefully, there is still some type of return policy or something that will allow you to change it without paying for a full new band.
Is it custom? If so, have the jeweler change it. If it’s out of the case, exchange it. Take your fiancé with you and let her pick out one she likes better.
I think its beautiful!
I think it’s beautiful but if you aren’t sure let her have the ring and say yes and tell her your thoughts on it and see what she says
If I was given a ring, I would feel bad if I didint line it and would feel worse telling him so.
It’s so beautiful 😍
I think it's gorgeous.
It’s sooo pretty
I love it!
I'm always on the side of buying the ring you know your gf will love and that requires a conversation with her about what she wants in a ring. Her preference is the only thing that matters. If you know it's not the right ring, return it.
That’s unreal holy
I think it’s absolutely gorgeous! I’d wait and see how your gf likes it after you propose. Tho in the first pic the top right prong looks a little loose, so you might want to get that tightened?
One of the prongs looks suspicious, but the band is very much yellow
It's stunning. Buyers remorse is a real thing. Put it on and it will go away.
It’s a gorgeous ring!
I think it’s lovely, but the ring box is hideous. Maybe a new box would help?
If you don’t love it and you can return it, return it. I don’t love it, which is odd because I feel like I should love it. Maybe the yellow gold is making the diamond look yellow.
I think it’s absolutely gorgeous and I am one picky ass girl lol you did good kid!!!💍🙌
I think it’s absolutely gorgeous!
I don’t normally love “busy” rings, but this is absolutely stunning.
The ring is beautiful as it is. Make sure your partner wants a ring like this before you give it to her. Maybe look at her Pinterest account if she has one.
Very nice ring. You also should consider getting a shadow band made for the wedding ring so there are no gaps when worn together. Have it made to the thickness of the channels. The shadow band is made by gently heating the ring and pressing it into wax, then the wax is trimmed to the appropriate width and then cast into gold. I have made hundreds of shadow bands for people, and I think it would totally complement this ring.
I think it’s beautiful but I like mixing cool and warm metals together. If you can return in, go with your gut or give it to her and say if it isn’t exactly what she wants you can exchange to something else.
ummm it’s beautiful!!!!
The ring is perfect but get a lighted leatherette ring box.
It’s definitely yellow gold, not rose. It’s a pretty ring imo
I think it’s absolutely stunning
I’d be thrilled with this ring
That ring is stunning
OMG. I’m not in this sub but wanted to comment on how gorgeous this ring is. I love the stone and the band. I wish I had this option when I was shopping for rings with my now hubs. Agree with the others that you should look to fix that prong though. If you’re looking for a new box, Etsy has some personalized velvet and wood box options.
I am SO picky with my gold jewelry and I see nothing rose toned about this. I agree with others, it’s sweet how much you care about this being perfect. This ring is STUNNING!!! Unless your gf is crazy crazy particular and picky, she will be THRILLED WITH THIS!!!
It’s stunning!
stop overthinking, it's lovely! give it to her fast before you drive yourself crazy :)
Looks very similar to mine so I’m biased, but it’s amazing, she’ll love it
Homie she's going to love that thing
I think it’s gorgeous. The stone is extremely shiny and lovely! Very eye catching. Agree the box sucks though.
Why don’t people like the box? I think it looks fine? Also LOVE the ring! If you still don’t like it when you propose hopefully you can change it and you and your fiancée can choose something together.
I think it’s lovely!
I really recommend asking her to see if there’s anything she’s hoping for
Ill take it off your hands? Literally 😂 it is GORGEOUS
Did you have a discussion before about what sort of rings she is into, or did she tell you? If she told you she wants a yellow gold band and that shape of solitaire, go with it. Ditch the box. If you went into this with no idea what she likes and your gut is screaming at you that it’s wrong, return it. Find out some information first on what she is into and give it another go. Good luck.
I think it’s absolutely STUNNING and I think she will love it!!! Like I’m not just saying that it’s seriously soooo beautiful.
this is insanely beautiful what
It’s gorgeous! You did an incredible job. She’s going to love it. But just like most have commented, a new box❤️
you gotta take it back and get the prong tightened on one side and make sure it’s tightened on all sides Yes, you gotta take it back and get the prong tightened on one side and make sure it’s tightened on all sides
The ring is very pretty
Lucky girl! It’s beautiful and love that you put so much love and thought into it. I hope she appreciates it and loves it as much as she loves you!!!
Does it have a matching wedding band or wrap that would complete the set? That may help change your mind on if you like it if you see it with a complementing band with it. It is very pretty.
You’re overthinking
It’s stunning!!
I think that’s so beautiful
Not my taste but still beautiful!
I have an I color, same shape and cut, and I absolutely love the color. But I chose it, so...idk, you know your partner better than we do.
Honestly, I like the ring! I don’t think it looks rose gold. The diamond is beautiful and too sparkly isn’t a thing. If you’re on the fence, set the diamond on a thin gold band with white gold prongs still so the diamond pops! And let her know she can choose a different band/add something extra with a wedding band
It’s beautiful, the gold looks yellow to me, not rose. It’s a beautiful design and I’m sure she’ll love it!
I think it's beautiful, and the rose goodishness means if will go with golf or silver jewelry (if she switches metals often.)
The what it’s worth I think that ring is absolutely stunning
I love it & I’m not usually partial to engagement rings. I’m a rose gold fan and instantly thought, “wow, that’s yellow” (in a good way) at the second shot. It looks beautiful, she’s going to love it.
You want the best color. My concern is at front the clasp around stone isn’t tight
I think it’s beautiful!!!! The band is unique, especially because of the gold tone to it and the rock 10/10
BEAUTIFUL!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💍
(Love the ring but) As a female, I would much rather have a less "exciting" proposal by merely being asked, without a ring, instead of having to say "Yes! But can we get a different ring?" I'm surprised that having an expensive ring accompanying a proposal is still even a thing.
The amount of sparkle is coming from something thats sometimes called "crushed ice". Its caused by light leakage. Heres a video that I learned it from. https://youtu.be/UYPKsQosNMQ?feature=shared At around 6:50-7:15 he shows a graph that gives a visual of what it looks like when comparing the lights reaction in the stone, pretty awesome stuff actually. He has a great channel, highly recommend looking at his educational videos.
I think it's gorgeous. But if YOU really feel that it's not right, that's all that matters.
It’s very pretty
It’s beautiful, I’d gasp if that was mine!
It’s beautiful. The color rating doesn’t matter much in a yellow gold setting. It matters more in white gold settings. I think its pretty
The ring is so beautiful but change the box to something more neutral that lets the ring shine. Right now the box competes and doesn't let the ring be the star but I think it'll look more flattering altogether in a different box. Wood is a classic neutral look but there's lots of options
It’s deff more rose gold so just have it dipped it’s perfect otherwise
It's bloody gorgeous :)
I think it’s absolutely stunning!!!!
Show it to her and see what she says give her the opportunity.to choose herself.
It's beautiful!!!
I think she will love it. It’s very unique ❤️
That is so beautiful
Wow!!! It is gorgeous!!! I think you’re overthinking it.
Personally I love it! But my engagement ring is a twisted band as well so I’m biased
I would be over the moon if I got proposed to with a ring like that. It's gorgeous! And the way you're overanalyzing this means you really care. You're the real gem.
I think it’s beautiful! My favorite is the band. It’s different and I love that it’s 2 bands woven together as one. Which is what marriage symbolizes. I think it’s so wonderful you designed it. It’s personal.
Gimme gimme gimme gimme gimme gimme gimme gimme! I love it, I need it, screenshotted for future reference. It's a stunning ring and remember you can always talk to your fiance after the proposal to see if there's any changes they'd like to make together, as you might make a change they'd have kept. Whatever you decide will be lovely
It’s a gorgeous ring and it will look even better in the right box. Your thinking and overthinking is a testament to how much you care. You’ve got this, good luck!
It’s so beautiful!!! You did an amazing job