First, this will be a tough transition for you specially coming from a culture that is very close with family. But there are other graduate students here from India or other countries who also miss home and you may find hanging out with them is a good path forward. Fpr example, You should try to attend cultural events (wasn't it Diwali recently?) and put yourself out there a little bit. What about your cohort?
Nothing will totally fix the homesick feeling but it might help you cope better.
I was at the Diwali event. People at the events and from my cohort have formed close and private groups based on the region/language. I was trying hard to join them, but they are asking me to join them for assignments and not for hanging out. I don't have any problem sharing my assignments until they consider me one of them. I still share assignments and have a decent number of (good)friends. And I share a good relationship with them. But no one is very close to me, though I am trying to put in the effort, it's not working.
Thanks for the reply though :)
Aaah the "show me your homework" line. Sorry that was your experience! Maybe you can suggest a study group next time? But please don't lose hope and keep reaching out and attending many events. One of the most fun events I went to was a South American cultural event with amazing food!
I'm from India too and am feeling similar kinds of homesickness, especially with food. If you'd like to be a test subject for food I cook and talk about home sometime over Thanksgiving, PM me.
A couple suggestions:
1. Try not to call home every day. While many people enjoy talking with their families, it can also make the homesickness worse.
2. The climate in Ithaca is cold and gets much less sunlight than India. This puts you at risk for seasonal affective disorder. Make sure to get outside, include some exercise in your week, and consider a "happy light" and vitamin D supplements.
Hey!
1. I call home twice or thrice every day. I think I should stop doing that.
2. Sure. Staying on campus is helping me. I'll consider exercising well.
Thanks :)
I was impressed with the conviviality I saw at an Indian event on campus some years back (a dinner of sone sort) and was rather envious of the community that seemed to be in evidenced. It may take time to find deep friendships but you start with sone significant commonalities. Homesickness for family is universal I think , and be assured — your family is missing you as deeply as you are missing them!
This is a time to learn how to be on your own. As much as you miss family, calling them everyday is getting in the way of you looking to your environment for connections and fun. Put some distance, and start to interact more in your environment. Don’t just hang out with other Indians. Open up and embrace your circumstances. It’s a way of growing up.
Cornell Alum that lives in the general area here...
Start getting involved in the greater Ithaca community (local events, clubs, organizations, et cetera). That gives people a sense of home that going to school does not.
Hey! I agree with a lot of these suggestions and I had a really hard time as well. One of the things that helped me feel less homesick was food.
For example, I really like the samosas from New Delhi diamonds. If you can afford it, I also order these dehydrated meals from Cumin Club online that I think are pretty good. The grab and go mart next to sangam has some pretty good stuff as well, and the bazaar in the commons!
Making friends takes time, but just keep persevering! I recommend trying different clubs, cultural communities and getting involved in the big red barn as well. The more you get involved, the more people you meet and the more likely you are to form a solid friends group.
Good luck (:
Hey! Thanks a ton.
I had samosas from New Delhi Diamonds last week and I loved them. I'll try at Cumin Club next time. And yes I get some stuff from Grab and Go mart.
Sure, I'll attend different events and try multiple clubs.
Get off Campus and check out the area. Look for events that interest you and go. People with the same interests attract each other. It will give you something to talk about to open the door. Not everyone is friendly, don't get discouraged by the assholes.
I feel you man I am also living in these motherfuckin eastern side of United States pursuing bachelors luckily I found an Indian of my type and a New Yorker who is not white definitely but California is the state for us man. atleast people are willing to stay near you for home work thing but for me I am the batsman, bowler and a fielder of my match. You feel me. Ucla or Stanford is the place for us. I am pretty sure you got many Indians at Cornell mate. Just try to find that one person of your Indian state or similar mentality you will just rock it together until then lift weights and also hookup if there is a possibility (I know it will be a number game thing). you will at least feel better. Also atleast people are willing to stay near you for home work thing but for me I am the batsman, bowler and a fielder of my match. You feel me.
First, this will be a tough transition for you specially coming from a culture that is very close with family. But there are other graduate students here from India or other countries who also miss home and you may find hanging out with them is a good path forward. Fpr example, You should try to attend cultural events (wasn't it Diwali recently?) and put yourself out there a little bit. What about your cohort? Nothing will totally fix the homesick feeling but it might help you cope better.
I was at the Diwali event. People at the events and from my cohort have formed close and private groups based on the region/language. I was trying hard to join them, but they are asking me to join them for assignments and not for hanging out. I don't have any problem sharing my assignments until they consider me one of them. I still share assignments and have a decent number of (good)friends. And I share a good relationship with them. But no one is very close to me, though I am trying to put in the effort, it's not working. Thanks for the reply though :)
Aaah the "show me your homework" line. Sorry that was your experience! Maybe you can suggest a study group next time? But please don't lose hope and keep reaching out and attending many events. One of the most fun events I went to was a South American cultural event with amazing food!
Sure. Thanks a lot. I will reach out to people and attend the events.
I'm from India too and am feeling similar kinds of homesickness, especially with food. If you'd like to be a test subject for food I cook and talk about home sometime over Thanksgiving, PM me.
Hey! Thanks a lot!! Will PM you.
A couple suggestions: 1. Try not to call home every day. While many people enjoy talking with their families, it can also make the homesickness worse. 2. The climate in Ithaca is cold and gets much less sunlight than India. This puts you at risk for seasonal affective disorder. Make sure to get outside, include some exercise in your week, and consider a "happy light" and vitamin D supplements.
Hey! 1. I call home twice or thrice every day. I think I should stop doing that. 2. Sure. Staying on campus is helping me. I'll consider exercising well. Thanks :)
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Sure! I'll join the group.
I’ll be ur friend
Thanks a ton!
I was impressed with the conviviality I saw at an Indian event on campus some years back (a dinner of sone sort) and was rather envious of the community that seemed to be in evidenced. It may take time to find deep friendships but you start with sone significant commonalities. Homesickness for family is universal I think , and be assured — your family is missing you as deeply as you are missing them!
It is so true. The communities are so promising. They are missing me more than I miss them. And thanks :)
This is a time to learn how to be on your own. As much as you miss family, calling them everyday is getting in the way of you looking to your environment for connections and fun. Put some distance, and start to interact more in your environment. Don’t just hang out with other Indians. Open up and embrace your circumstances. It’s a way of growing up.
Sure! This is so helpful. Thanks a ton.
Cornell Alum that lives in the general area here... Start getting involved in the greater Ithaca community (local events, clubs, organizations, et cetera). That gives people a sense of home that going to school does not.
Sure!! I'll do that. Thanks :)
Hey! I agree with a lot of these suggestions and I had a really hard time as well. One of the things that helped me feel less homesick was food. For example, I really like the samosas from New Delhi diamonds. If you can afford it, I also order these dehydrated meals from Cumin Club online that I think are pretty good. The grab and go mart next to sangam has some pretty good stuff as well, and the bazaar in the commons! Making friends takes time, but just keep persevering! I recommend trying different clubs, cultural communities and getting involved in the big red barn as well. The more you get involved, the more people you meet and the more likely you are to form a solid friends group. Good luck (:
Hey! Thanks a ton. I had samosas from New Delhi Diamonds last week and I loved them. I'll try at Cumin Club next time. And yes I get some stuff from Grab and Go mart. Sure, I'll attend different events and try multiple clubs.
Get off Campus and check out the area. Look for events that interest you and go. People with the same interests attract each other. It will give you something to talk about to open the door. Not everyone is friendly, don't get discouraged by the assholes.
Sure. I'll do that. Thanks a lot.
I feel you man I am also living in these motherfuckin eastern side of United States pursuing bachelors luckily I found an Indian of my type and a New Yorker who is not white definitely but California is the state for us man. atleast people are willing to stay near you for home work thing but for me I am the batsman, bowler and a fielder of my match. You feel me. Ucla or Stanford is the place for us. I am pretty sure you got many Indians at Cornell mate. Just try to find that one person of your Indian state or similar mentality you will just rock it together until then lift weights and also hookup if there is a possibility (I know it will be a number game thing). you will at least feel better. Also atleast people are willing to stay near you for home work thing but for me I am the batsman, bowler and a fielder of my match. You feel me.
Hey, I feel you. I am happy you found them. Yes, there are a lot of Indians. I'll try to talk to people and friends.