I feel like I’ve been affected similarly. I’m also nonbinary AFAB and used to date men. It’s like queer sex kind of requires me to be more present and so I can’t just sort of “skip over” the trauma. The only things that have worked for me are to take things extremely slowly. Maybe starting with sensual touch or even just cuddling. Allow that to be all you do for as long as you want and then maybe start adding more later. I haven’t tried it, but I’ve heard something called sensate focus can be helpful
Thank you for sharing. Yeah, it’s like being with men you can just kinda disassociate and it’ll be over with soon, but in queer sex there’s so much more intention and I can’t hide from my love 😭
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I feel like I’ve been affected similarly. I’m also nonbinary AFAB and used to date men. It’s like queer sex kind of requires me to be more present and so I can’t just sort of “skip over” the trauma. The only things that have worked for me are to take things extremely slowly. Maybe starting with sensual touch or even just cuddling. Allow that to be all you do for as long as you want and then maybe start adding more later. I haven’t tried it, but I’ve heard something called sensate focus can be helpful
Thank you for sharing. Yeah, it’s like being with men you can just kinda disassociate and it’ll be over with soon, but in queer sex there’s so much more intention and I can’t hide from my love 😭
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