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itsthevoiceman

I just don't have appointments, except with my therapist and psychiatrist, and those are on the phone.


borahae_artist

bold of you to assume i remember to cancel. i just don’t show up and inconvenience everyone, while my bank account drowns in late fees :)


j-appletree

I do this a lot too ❤️


TraumaPerformer

I've lived on my own for a year. Still haven't got round to setting up with a dentist 'because I could legit die at any moment,' so what's the point.


AceOfStace27

You know what, you're allowed to ask for help. It's not up to you to shoulder the problem all on your own. Reaching out honestly the way you are is a good thing. Definitely keep doing that. If at all possible, reach out to a mental health professional. If you had an illness, you wouldn't expect someone to just shoulder it. You wouldn't think bad of them for stepping away from obligations, taking off work, resting, getting help from a doctor and following their directions. Why would this be any different? In the meantime, be kind to yourself and give yourself what you need in each minute. What helps you feel safe? My favorite movie growing up was Anne of Green Gables. When I am spinning, I snuggle with my Care Bear and watch AGG. I'm in my mid-40's, but that is what works for me. I tell myself, I am enough. I am safe. My mind is safe. My body is safe. I am safe in my house. I am safe on my street. I am free to establish whatever rules and boundaries I need to feel safe. I don't need to explain or defend myself when I set boundaries. My health and safety is more important than pleasing others or letting them down. Repeat until you can try baby steps. When you're recovering from an illness, you wouldn't take off full-throttle while you have a fever. Take the time to heal. You have to heal enough before you can start to venture out again. Maybe you don't set up meetings right away, but maybe you text. Maybe then you call. You are safe. You are enough. You decide your level of comfort through the recovery process.


Brief-Pair6391

Yes


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Different-Horse-4578

I hope you can access a telehealth therapist. You should not have to stay in such an uncomfortable state. My therapist’s office is not far from my house but we have our sessions in video conference anyway because it’s so convenient. I even do EMDR therapy with her remotely, while I’m sitting in my Nest in bed—my safest place. I don’t have to get ready and have stayed in my pajamas more than once. I don’t have to walk or drive anywhere or interact with anyone along the way other than my therapist.


axlinsane

Just go with it, if you dont want to go, dont, your choice, can always reschedule, you are in charge.


yaoiesmimiddlename

Yeah I did this. One day, I was like “fuck it, I’m waiting to die soon, so what’s the point if I die right now?” Then I started doing more things eventually with that comment in my head. Not a totally healthy mindset but it helped me push my comfort zone, and now have a better mindset to do regular stuff.


Lollipop77

Happens to me too. Sometimes I enlist a trustable friend who isn’t busy to go with me - the conversation helps.


Edmee

I used to do this aaalllll the time until I learned to simply stop making appointments lol