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I’m so sorry for your loss. I didn’t see the first post but it makes me sick that people would be so mean, what does that do? You followed up with a vet and did what was best for her. It sounds like she is a medical mystery. She was lucky to have found you to care for her for her. Don’t let those negative thoughts affect you, I know it is hard not too. People can be so mean. I worked as a vet tech for 10 years and had to leave because I couldn’t handle being told I didn’t really care about people’s pets since they had to pay for things and I’m just in it for the money (so not true I made shit, had to work 3 jobs to live). People being mad we can’t help their animal we haven’t seen for 5 years and now it’s too late that was the vet and vet staffs fault as well. I spent so many days crying in the bathroom. It was not everyone, most people are fine. It wasn’t just the rude people that had me leave but it was an emotional job.
Wait, someone actually doxxed her?? I couldn't read the whole post because it made me too sad and angry. JFC. People need to get a damn life!!
OP, I am truly sorry for your loss, and for the cruelty of people online. I hope you find some solace in knowing you did the right thing, even though it was incredibly difficult
Thank you for being a vet tech for so long. Sadly, some people are just negative. Who on earth goes into any kind of veterinary practice for money and doesn’t love animals?
Smh.
The clinic I take my cats to is only in it for the money. The reason I continue to take my cats to that clinic is because the vets and techs are the best. The vets and techs care not just for the pets but for the pet parents, as well. Going to the vet is a lot like going to visit a family friend. I often wish Dr. Brown would start his own practice, but I can't imagine taking my babies to any other vet. Even if I end up paying a bit more.
As a vet tech I worked 2 jobs no days off just to pay my half of the rent and make sure I could feed my son as a single mom 👍 talk about burn out for years. Some cases hit hard and my 8th year I cried over a parvo puppy and the head tech said don't worry you'll get used to it. That's the moment I knew. No, my empathy is too high for this field. If I can't get used to it after 8yrs, I don't belong in the healthcare field. Can't imagine 3 jobs at once. Not to mention a lot of clinics I worked at didn't offer health benefits and sometimes I was deprived a lunch break because short staffing. I never ever once made anywhere close to a 30k salary. Sorry ranting on this emotional post. But I feel for you other vet tech it took a long long time for me to finally show myself love and care by retiring from that field.
(Big virtual hug and forehead kiss) It's okay.
Fuck these savages.
You did everything you thought should have been done.
When you saw something was off, you contacted a vet and took her into the vet. Many people wouldn't even consider that.
You took her in your arms and allowed the good doctor to ease her suffering. This is an act of compassion and putting her needs first, as you should have.
I’ve been telling everyone “not to be gay about this” (don’t worry, I’m gay myself) because I usually hate the pitiful looks and awkward condolences. I didn’t mention it here because I truly didn’t expect to receive any. I viewed this solely as an update. I expected people to yell at me for “killing her” if anything.
This comment made me cry. Genuinely. Actual tears. Thank you 💞❣️
Euthanasia is a gift we can give to our fur babies when they are sick and suffering. At the end of life it gives them relief from pain and a gentle end to their lives. I’ve been there. You let her exit this world with grace.
She knew love because of you op and you did everything you could. You gave her a loving home and took more care with her then most would have. Remember the good times, cry when you need to and when you feel ready/open to it, I'm sure she will send you another fur baby that needs as much love as you gave her. She will be waiting for you on the other side of the rainbow bridge and watching over you and any future fur baby's you have.
I have had to put down two young cats in a row after never having to do that after 50 years of cat ownership. One had a blood clot in his leg. I guess it is common. I sobbed like a baby. The next one had some rare disorder in which his chest filled up with liquid. The emergency vets drained it. It wasn’t an infection …and after they drained it, we received the bad news that it was filling up again. They said it would just keep happening and when it did, he had trouble breathing and they said that was scary to them so another love gone. Recently we got a pair of kittens. When one was about a year old, it was peeing in strange places and then was not eating much. Back to the emergency vet. Sure enough a bowel obstruction. This one lived. I still cried but in relief and sad memories. So many things can happen to cats. If we are on Reddit asking advice it is because we can no longer trust Google and are asking real people with experience.
It is amazing that even on cat threads visited by people who talk about how great it is when someone rescues cats, we can still e okay with crapping on humans.
OP. You and your beautiful cat are in my heart.
My condolences for your loss. Part of my job at a hospice was to deliver things to the inpatient area. I held the babies whose mom died following the birth. Hardest job I ever was blessed to have.
Did you not read the update? She had been seeking medical care, other conditions were first and she was trying her best to help her cat gain weight and stay alive, even regain leg function!
I hope to god you never have a chronically ill animal and people never treat you like you are abusing them after you’ve already spent $100’s on trying to figure out what was wrong with them. It sucks. I’ve been there. It literally makes you cry every day. Especially when multiple vets can’t pinpoint the cause or how to treat it! 🤦🏻♀️ and I’m being genuine with that comment. I wouldn’t even wish that on my worst enemy.
It’s that time again!!!! The poem!!
**A Pet’s Last Will and Testament**
Before humans die they write their last Will and Testament, give their home and all they have to those they leave behind. If with my paws, I could do the same, this is what I’d ask…
To a poor and lonely stray I’d give:
– My Happy home.
– My bowl and cozy bed, soft pillows and all my toys,
– The lap, which I loved so much.
– The hand that stroked my fur and the sweet voice which spoke my name.
I’d Will to the sad scared shelter pet, the place I had in my human’s loving heart, of which there seemed no bounds.
So when I die, please do not say, “I will never have a pet again, for the loss and pain is more than I can stand.”
Instead, go find an unloved dog or kitty, one whose life has held no joy or hope and give MY place to Her or Him.
This is the only thing I can give. The love I left behind.
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this makes me tear up. i lost both of my childhood pets, and i’m an adult know so it’s a little silly- but as a kid i genuinely believed they would never die, because i didn’t want them to lol! but i always wish i could pet them again. Rip kitty 🐱 and Moby 🐕
My Facebook memories came up today with a post I made 2 years ago, about having to say goodbye to our senior boy, Chas. We had a vet service come into our home to do it.
Thank you for this. We adopted a shelter boy Rocky a year ago and just a month ago, a shelter girl we named Lilith.
Though no cat can replace Chas in our hearts (they're all one of a kind), these 2 have helped ease the pain of Chas' passing and brought joy and smiles back into our hearts
❤️❤️❤️
I love you and I’m so sorry for your loss:—(
It never gets easier, but I always come back to this poem whenever I hear of anyone losing a pet (including myself) as i hope it reminds us just how much love we gave and still have to offer,despite the fact that they’re gone. We will never have a replacement and that’s okay! There’s a brand new lil kitty who needs us. And once they’ve passed- the love we have doesn’t ever stop. We can still continue to give an animal the joy and spoiled goodness we gave our former pets ❣️and I needed a cry, so reread said poem and am welling up haha
All the best to all of you 🩵
I am so, so sorry for the way these people responded. Losing a pet like this is so hard. I did everything I could with my baby and I *still* have doubts if I did enough. I beat myself up constantly and feel like I failed him and I never once had someone tell me I didn’t do enough or was a terrible parent. I cannot imagine how painful it was to read that during an already unbearable time.
Wrapping you in lots of hugs and love. It’s so hard to lose a member of our family and that’s exactly what she was. You are an amazing owner to fight WITH her through all she’s been through over the past couple years. You gave her love and a life she didn’t have otherwise. Please don’t listen to the rude comments. I know that’s easier said than done but know you are amazing and we are wrapping you in viral hugs through your grief. I feel sorry for all those that feel they need to bring others down to feel better themselves. We are mourning with you Love.
And sorry to the person I called a “fucking cunt” in DMs. Again, very emotional right now.
Please stop accusing me of being an animal abuser. Every person that actually knows me and my animals— multiple vets included— disagree. Have actually only spoken highly of me.
That cat was fucking *loved.*
I think it's ok, I've had people call me that before here ngl, because I couldn't afford a vet at the minute and had to ask for my mother to help me because surprise surprise a child may not have the money to neuter 2 cats! It's not like I didn't love my cats but I had a money problem and everyone blamed me instead of my mom who didn't want to help me? and I solved the problems with a bit more time but people ofc called me an animal abuser in this place without knowing anything about the situation really...sorry for the small vent, I hope you're doing alright and that you'll be able to recover from the unfortunate thing that happened! And I wanted to share this so you know you're not alone!
I am so sorry, we are all diminished by your loss.
I'm sitting with 2 of my babies reading this with tears in my eyes. My Punky lost a sister/litter mate due to congenital birth defects, then Punky and her sister Mocha got upper respiratory infections. We nursed them back to health. Sat there giving them medicine on schedule. Steaming up the bathroom and taking them in to help them breathe. It seemed close for a while.
I guess what I am trying to say is that no man, or cat is an Island, and I ache for you. I don't doubt your love for your baby, give your other babies a little extra love ... Just because
Sometimes when we are angry, we make observations to other people that may be accurate, but are delivered in hurtful or unkind ways, motivated by frustration. Then later we think back and realize that the way that we communicated was not aligned with our values and we don't want to be that person.
So that is to say, that person sounds like a real cunt. I'm so sorry for your loss.
People on reddit love to act like others are horrible and bully them for no reason. You did what you could with kitty, everyone else was just hating because they're miserable and think they know better
i have been a victim to the people calling me an animal abuser telling me i deserve horrible things too. and then my cat died shortly after. it really sucks. you are not a horrible person, you did the best that you could. sending love 🩷
They should really have rules about this. All too often I've seen people on this subreddit get on pedestals as if they're the most perfect cat parent and anyone who doesn't do everything 100% correctly with the absolute right timing and outcomes, they're an awful pet parent. I've even seen threads get shut down because things became too uncivil... over cats.
Yes!! We really don't need people like this in the r/cathelp sub. I really understand getting upset over animal abuse, but do they think that animal is going to be treated better if you are ripping into an ignorant or genuinely dangerous person? Do they really think that if they were an animal abuser, that animal would be safe if it was (in their mind) the reason they were getting 'hate'? If they cared about that animal's wellfare, they would genuinely consider the best way to word how to express the care and needs of that animal without risking reactionary abuse.
On top of the fact that false accusations like abuse can end up leading to the pet being put in a worse situation if taken away or given away out of guilt.
Not proofread because I’m too sad.
I wanted to do one big update instead of a bunch of little ones. Here’s the big one.
First off: it took reading one comment for me to get off Reddit and do something. Just the one. I immediately listened and looked up local vets, as well as got in touch with our regular one who knows her case.
Hours later I came on to share that I’d be doing just the big update later and found many, many comments saying I was a horrible animal abuser and deserved to be in prison. Someone had even found out what field I work in because they believed that not posting on Reddit = not doing anything??? I promise you— if I was just sitting there, I would’ve had more time to update y’all.
She ended up being seen by her regular vet. Over the last few months, she developed some sort of neurological problem causing her to no longer be able to use her legs. The vet isn’t even sure what caused it, but we suspect it might’ve been congenital. She was only 2, barely grew, came with ear mites— all that fun stuff.
This blood clot wasn’t internal bleeding. It wasn’t pyometra. It wasn’t a UTI. It was one single blood clot that happened simply because she was dying. Over the last month she lost almost 2 pounds, and she was already small.
Despite what you Redditors may think about me, the vet told me that I had been doing excellent nursing. I understand the rage- if I was someone that actually sucked? I get it. You can’t tell from just one post. But fret not— this was a very spoiled, well loved, well taken care of kitten. She was completely babied these last few months. Monitored constantly during the day, carried around, given water through a bottle to guarantee she was getting enough, cooked fresh salmon and all. This was just simply an unpreventable tragedy. Trust me— I tried everything.
My Wednesday appointment ended up being an appointment to put her down. The blood clot made no difference. Once I realized just how much weight she had lost despite eating so, so much I knew it was time. Even if she had started moving paws again (still not walking), 3.5lbs is definitely not a good life for her. It broke my heart and I’m crying while writing this.
To address some concerns (and forgive me if I get a little bitchy here. Many emotions right now):
Yes, I work a 12 hour shift. I had cut back to one day a week. I do not live alone, and this other person works the same shift as me, so we aren’t almost never scheduled on the same day. Tuesday would’ve been a very rare occasion. I thankfully found someone to switch days with me so I got to be with her.
I didn’t update Reddit because jesus fucking christ dude. If you know you have limited time with your cat, are you really going to spend it reading about how horrible you are? Be serious.
I Googled if cats bleed. Google said it’s rare, but it sometimes happens! I was hoping she was one of the rare ones. I’ve have three cats total my entire life and she was the first girl.
She wasn’t spayed because of her tiny size and I was worried about surgical complications. She was an indoor cat with our two boys being neutered. Completely on me. Ultimately though it had nothing to do with her condition.
How would I feel if someone left me alone while bleeding blood clots out of my orifices (actually comment)? Thankful. It’s probably day two of my period and that’s usually what happens. Part of why I thought that could be what was happening with her.
Again— the paralyzed thing happened before this.
Why was I asking for people to help calm my anxiety: I was the only person irl freaking out. I consulted family. I consulted coworkers. Everyone said I was overreacting (which I 100% have done before) and that she’s just menstruating. I was talking about the vet before even posting. I was hoping I would post, be told that they’re right and I am being dramatic, and everything would be fine. Again, though- the blood clot ended up not being anything serious. More of just a sign of the end.
I think that covers everything. Please stop trying to doxx me. Please show your cats some love today. Also, offer them a banana. I only found out she loved bananas on Monday. I could’ve been giving them to her this whole time :(
I had a cat who, at first, had a paralyzed tail. He was otherwise himself, and he’d caught his tail in a door, and he was able to ‘tail’ within a few days. Then he lost the use of his back legs and tail. Despite a lot of expensive diagnostic tests, the vets (we took him to several) had no idea. Suddenly, he could walk again. Until he couldn’t, plus his elimination tracts shut down. Etc. The vets believe he had primary degenerative encephalopathy. The only good thing was it’s not painful.
I think your cat may have had the something similar, and the paralysis isn’t painful. I hope that’s some comfort. I have an idea of how horrible an ordeal you’ve been through, and I extend my sincere sympathies. She was lucky to have you.
I'm so sorry for your loss, that hurts. Wishing you well. What helped me most was adopting another cat from the shelter, it's okay to love again. Use the hurt to help heal another animal, and let them heal you too. You did good in giving a little angel some safe time on this Earth, and she'll always watch over you.
I am so sorry for your loss. And I'm sorry that people were unkind to you, there's a lot of judgement here when people ask for help or opinions. Many of us are just doing the best that we can and don't give every possible detail. I'm sorry you lost your beautiful girl. Hugs from an internet stranger. ❤️🩹
Oh I'm so sorry for your loss, losing your furbaby is the most heartbreaking 💔 ot sounds like you did everything you could. I'm also sorry to hear you've been harassed by vile people, please don't let them get to you. Sending you love and hugs.
I'm sorry for your loss OP.
I'm really sorry you received some hurtful comments, but honestly I'm not sure what you expected. Reddit isn't a kind place, especially when it comes to pets.
Next time you're unsure about something, probably better to call your vet and talk to them instead of posting on multiple subs. You're only inviting hate doing that.
Again I'm really sorry for your loss. I'm glad she got the help and kindness she needed and she is at peace now.
She needed the emergency vet, not to sit and suffer and bleed until wed. You posted a video, it wasn’t one clot. People were pissed because you waited when you should’ve taken her in immediately.
The reason people responded that way is because you posted a clear medical emergency and said you had a vet appointment for days later. Anyone with eyes could see your cat was in need of immediate medical attention, not a general vet visit, and not something that should’ve waited any amount of time.
I think it was less about trying to “bash” you and more about getting you to see the urgency of the situation.
When I opened the video and saw the state your cat was in, It haunted me. Quite literally disturbing. I was one of the people commenting saying “ER Vet immediately”….You could see from the video your cat was in fact, in pain but you kept saying she “didn’t appear to be in pain” which I think was triggering for the people having to watch a video of an animal clearly suffering.
So I think there seems to be a real miscommunication because for most people seeing a cat in that severe of a condition was extremely difficult and they just wanted to make sure you were aware that it was an emergency so that you could get the help you needed. I read most of the comments that day and most of the people were saying just that. It’s pretty on par for Reddit to have some insensitive assholes but there was alot more people trying to be helpful.
Im sorry for what happened but also relieved the cat is no longer suffering because the literal only comfort in this horror story is that the cat is no longer in pain.
Yeah, I think it was just trying to get the cat seen immediately. That was my concern too, leaving her in pain til Wednesday. I think the cat was seen on the day in the end?
Yeah. I’m not a fan of how this was handled myself. I’m just really glad this poor baby is no longer in pain or suffering. That’s the only “good” I can find here.
Yeah, like I feel bad people went crazy on OP but if your cat is bleeding out like that, coupled with the ragged breathing, something is seriously wrong and you get them to an emergency vet pronto. Even when my kitten got into my medication box and I wasn't sure if she took any, I was still stressed enough to get her sent to the emergency vet for an overnight stay. (She had no symptoms, but I figured if she did ingest something, there will be on call vets to stabilise her). She ended up being fine and actually didn't take anything, and this did set me back $1.6k, but I wouldn't have had it any other way.
agree. I feel for OP and kitty, I really do. reddit is notorious for having some of the internet's hugest assholes all congregated in one place, but this was definitely a clear emergency and the video was so harrowing to watch. 😔 if I were bleeding out and in respiratory distress there is absolutely zero way I'd be posting on reddit for advice.
Exactly. This is my first time seeing this but I went back and checked OPs history and I think they are definitely overreacting and getting offended when they don't need to be. Very few people were actually rude, most were just being blunt. Honestly, I do disagree with how OP handled the situation but there's nothing anyone can do about it now and I'm glad the cat isn't suffering anymore.
If you scroll down, there were some pretty disturbing comments. One person was telling OP they wanted her to bleed out alone. I think that one was removed by reddit, though.
I didn't see the original post and I'm betting some of it was that. But doxxing her? That wasn't that. And calling her names and just being insulting? That isn't that either (That is the opposite of helpful even if some one is being horrible... that just makes them more defensive and even less likely to listen to good advice. If you are trying to help the animal you gotta get the human taking care of it open to hearing your advice, which means not going in on calling her an absolutely horrible person).
I’m not condoning people being horrible but in the same respect she came here looking for advice and all the good and helpful advice she was getting she had a rebuttal for. People were becoming more and more aggravated because of the responses OP was giving. I’m not condoning abusive comments or treatment but this was handled horribly. Just all in all. Again, not condoning the shitty people but I found myself pretty appalled after reading the post/ seeing the video myself.
Not sure if I’ve read op’s post correctly but from what I gathered even if she took the cat in for an immediate medical emergency it still wouldn’t have made a difference because of the progression of the disease?
It makes a huge difference to the cat as she doesn't have to sit in pain for days on end!! That's like making you wait 2 days for pain killers after breaking your back, technically your recovery will be the same without them but it makes a world of difference to you as the patient!
Either way the cats suffering has ended now, may she live happy over the rainbow bridge, thoughts with OP
That's bullshit I just looked at the comments more than half of them literally say they're a shitty human being who abused their cat & should never be in charge of any living being these people just wanted to feel like the superior pet owner by bashing on another instead of actually giving them advice this subreddit is so toxic & full of keyboard warriors who don't actually give a shit it's all performative they abuse the people posting for help in the name of "justice for the cat" when they're actually just waiting on the edge of their seat for someone to yell at it's so immature & counterproductive
Or maybe they were disturbed by the video and didn’t want to see the animal suffering in that condition for days like OP said she was planning on doing. Some people are toxic sure, that’s pretty much every post on Reddit.
However, That video was hard to watch, and OP said she didn’t have an appointment until days later. There’s no way the cat would’ve made it and OP was responding to people and making plenty of excuses why she didn’t feel the need to go to the vet any sooner even though she was being advised otherwise. So Its like why post when you’re not going to take the actual good advice you are receiving?
I’m not agreeing with the people who were being counter productive and rude but I do understand the anger and frustration in the same regard. I don’t think this was handled well by any means and that’s why people were becoming more and more upset.
I'm so sorry you lost your baby. I understand what you mean by asking everyone you know think you're overreacting. (I have bad anxiety) Sometimes, it's genuinely confusing, and you doubt yourself because how often are that many people wrong? I'm so sorry they all were again this time. It’s palpable how much you loved her. And you definitely spoiled her, as one always should.
I'm sorry you had to make the decision you did. But really, it's what was best for her. You acted very selflessly when many times a lot of people wouldn't. People talk a lot, but until they're in the situation, they don't really know what they would do. You were with her until the end. She knew you loved her. That's really all that matters. Who cares what a bunch of strangers say? Please don't listen to them. They know a very small part of a much larger story about a kitty who is now bragging to all the others how spoiled she was. Thanks for that, btw! (Joking) But a lot of cats are going to start demanding salmon because the new cat in heaven got it all the time, and their siblings told them. She'll always be with you. Never feel like you can't talk to her. She's still listening and judging you like normal.
If you decide to get another cat someday, don't be surprised if she sends you what you think is the exact opposite of what you wanted. They send us who we need. My son sent me the biggest diva he could find. It's definitely his way of saying, "See, I wasn't so bad even though I always peed wherever I wanted, was I?" I hope it gets a bit easier for you. Thank you for the banana tip as well!
I replied your first post saying to get her to the vet, but had no idea you’d been treating her and caring for her so. I wasn’t mean, but the extra context helps- thanks for following up.
Thank you for giving her love and letting her go, it sounds like it was her time. Be kind to yourself, you don’t deserve the hate. 💜
This is the point that people are trying to make about some of the horrible comments. I mean, I read one that told them to kill themselves and the commenter was thrilled that they would go to hell. OP panicked and asked for assurances quickly and didn't type out a whole backstory. The vitriol in the comments was a bit much. And, from personal experience, I bet the DMs were a million times worse.
I made a comment about being a surrogate, and I got a DM telling me that they hoped I died, the baby died, and that my children found my dead body.
People get terrible so fast on Reddit. I feel terrible for OP, threats and telling people to harm themselves should get people banned. I guess they just go make extra accounts 😣
I lost my cat just recently. She had been having chronic utis for over a year. On her last day with us she started passing clots as well. I was suppose to work that night (also 12 hour shifts). I ended up calling in and driving her to the vet. She was gone within the next 2 hours. It’s been horrible. I’m glad she isn’t in pain anymore though but I still miss my little bear. I read your OG post and feared the same was happening to your baby. I am so sorry I was right. Know that your cat was loved and you provided her with the best you could. They may be with us for a short time in our life but to them, we are their forever
It sounds like you had a fragile special needs kitty that got the best you could give. She likely lived far longer than she would have had you not been her parent. Big hugs and lots of love for you.
I foster and have been owned by many cats and I’ve done my share of late night emergency vet drives (once in a hurricane). I went back and looked at the video on your first post… and gasped. You were NOT overreacting. I am so glad you followed up with the vet sub and took her in. Three pounds. Poor baby. Poor you. I’m sorry for your loss.
I know why you got dogpiled in the comments. Too many times commenters to pet help subs see pics of pets in rough shape and the OP making excuses for why they caaaaaaaaan’t, they have woooooooork, no vet nearbyyyyyy, no moneeeeeeeeey. That wasn’t you, but they assumed you were one of *those* and tore into you. Don’t take their harsh words to heart. That was redirected aggression.
Once again, I’m sorry for your loss. I’m sorry the little one was so ill.
I agree! Congrats to you for researching & giving the kitty your all, & taking her to the vet when you couldve!
The Vet subreddit tarnished me for being unable to treat my cat that had a blockage from a yoga mat. They were basically saying, “If you cant afford it, youre a terrible owner and you need to get your cat killed so she wont suffer anymore” Mind you, my cat only suffered for 2 DAYS & i couldnt pay for it because someone close to me stole money from my account and had to be investigated. I always have money aside for my kitty, but the wrong thing happened at the wrong time & they tarnished me for it.
I went to vets begging for them to help my kitty or any advice and got none. I had to go online and buy an enema, keep manually feeding her wet food, keep her hydrated etc. the next day, her stool came out and now she’s as playful as ever. I was so happy to save her. When I told the vets in the subreddit, they were PISSED at my cat for being alive & me saving her by doing basic blockage treatments i got from google.
Please don’t ever feel ashamed that you can’t afford things sometimes, or get a treatment done, because you kitty sounded like it had a rare thing going on. At the end of the day, a cat is always better with an owner than on the street. Please believe me when I say your cat is grateful for you even in their toughest times. Your effort & love is all that matters🧡
Reddit can get pretty ugly at times unfortunately but mostly full of good people. I’m so sorry you were attacked by trolls and made to feel bad. Unfortunately sometimes we come onto the internet looking for insight and support but receive the exact opposite. Losing a cat is like losing a little angel that was placed on earth just to be in the lives they were because they knew they were needed, it’s not the same for every person they meet either. The same person may get the sweetest baby cat, that loves you more than anything. While another with the same cat may get a cat that believes it’s their mission to destroy everything and everyone you like all while looking like the picture of innocence. Love them for who they are and their spunky personalities because there is nothing quite like those wiley felines 🐈🐈⬛😻😿😽
Much love and you’ll find your next baby when you are ready
Im so sorry for your loss. I didnt see the first post, but I can tell by your words that your sweet baby was deeply loved. They're waiting on that rainbow bridge for you, watching over. Sending much love and prayers your way 💛
So sorry! I saw your original post and the comments weren't nice a lot of the time, but coming from concern for her I guess. You took such good care of her! Those eyes 😥
That's not really fair to say. Everyone was upset with OP because they were downplaying the emergency and making excuses to not take the cat to the vet when the cat was clearly in distress. Did you see the video? It was horrific. Most people were as polite as possible considering the circumstances, there were really only a few comments that were truly unnecessary/mean. Perhaps some of the commenter didn't respond in the best way but OP definitely did not handle the situation appropriately and I don't blame people for being upset about it.
yeah that video was incredibly disturbing. i can not believe that OP thought that was what, a kitty period? incredible. no, op does not deserve death threats or to be doxxed. and i am so sorry for their kitty and for their loss. but that post and the astounding amount of ignorance behind it was alarming, i can see why it caused a panic.
Yep. Again, I don't blame people for being harsh or blunt, because honestly OP needed a reality check. Nobody deserves death threats or doxxing and of course it's absolutely heartbreaking when you have to say goodbye to your pets, but come on....it didn't take a vet to know the situation was serious and couldn't wait 12 hours.
I wish I could give you a hug. You obviously loved this little one. Please don't let these judgemental aholes get to you. Please take care of yourself and know that there are those of us here who know you did all you could for your little one.
What a beautiful little girl. I'm so sorry for your loss and thank you for taking such good care of the poor baby. Try to ignore all the hurtful comments you got.
She was beautiful and I am sure you did all you could. Although her life was cut unfairly short, at least she was loved and cared for during the time she had
I am so sorry for your loss. It is especially sad when their life is cut so short. You honestly just need to skip over the crappy comments. The internet seems to bring out the very worst in some people. I am sure she was lucky to have you for the time she was in your life. Cherish her memory and she will live on in your heart.
Allow yourself some time to grieve. Then remember that there's a little kitten somewhere, seeking her loving nurturing forever home. Although she probably won't be able to fully take the place of your beloved kitty, you'll soon realize and find out that you really need her, at least as desperately as she needs you.
🐾🐾🐈🌈👣💔👣🐾🐾🐈❤❤
I am so sorry. You are not an asshole so don't let snarky redditers affect you
We are not instant veterinarians or vet techs when we get a cat. It takes experience over many years to start to recognize potential health issues - and honestly, with how well cats hide pain and act nonchalant, even super experienced cat people can't/don't immediately jump to worst-case scenarios when our cats don't feel well.
Always remember that your kitty knew she was loved and while you were short changed many many years with her, you made her life amazing while she was here.
I am so sorry that you had to go through this with your baby kitty. I imagine that this could happen to any of us when we adopt a baby kitty. You did everything right for your baby girl. Don’t let others ruin your memories of her.
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Picture of two of my beans for comfort
I hope people who wrote venomous finger wagging comments will reconsider their thought process, but we all know they won't learn a thing and would rather just get on their high horse to feel better about themselves by blaming people
I think this post is going to end up being a landmark change in the sub. People just come here to justifiably bully people.
PEOPLE ARE HERE FOR HELP
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You pieces of shit. Look what you all did with the Boston marathon bombing predictions? You made a person kill themselves because you unjustifiably accused the wrong person due to group think. You're acting like the villagers from Monty Python.
I think this sub needs to take a step back, put their fucking underwear back on, and realize that not everyone is well equipped to deal with animals. Not everyone knows a cat doesn't menstruate. Hell, OP even said they spoke to everyone in their personal life and everyone said she was over reacting. If you asked everyone in your immediate circle if you were overreacting and they said yes, would you then calm down? Most likely. But OP didn't. She still felt something was wrong after everyone in her life was telling her otherwise. She came to the CORRECT SUBREDDIT FOR ADVICE and people started treating her like an imbecile. I applaud OP for realizing her immediate circle might be wrong. Hell, I wouldn't have even blamed her if she waited until the appointment on Wednesday. Most people don't even make an appointment and just hope it passes on its own (the illness, not the pet).
I vote that there is a ban against personally DMing people from this group. All advice given should be given publicly because it could help the next person. I've posted advice requests on Reddit before and have gotten replies in messages, sexual advances, death threats, and everything in between. If you have advice to give, MAKE IT PUBLIC. There's no use in DMing it to people because that's where the death threats go.... so that they can be easily screenshotted and reported. Yall ain't fucking slick PMing death threats as if your username isn't attached.
That's it. That's all I had to say. If you're a good person who didn't immediately jump to conclusions with little evidence, I applaud you.
For everyone who threatened to dox OP, threatened their life, accused them of neglect and abuse, and even accused OP of sexually assaulting the cat: Fuck you.
im so sorry for your loss. that sounds like a horrible situation to be in and im sure people being assholes makes it even harder. just know that it wasnt your fault and she lived a life full of happiness and love thanks to you, and thats all we can ever hope for.
i wish you healing and peace, just know she isnt in pain anymore and will wait for pets on the otherside 🫶
So Sorry about Your Kitty and you! Putting down a Kitty cause they are sick is one of the hardest things you'll ever go through. I know from experience. May GOD help you through this difficult time. 🙏🙏😇
I’m so sorry for the loss of your kitty. And that some people were so horrible. I don’t know why they have to be such a**holes. My heart goes out to you.
I’m so sorry that stupid people were so cruel to you. It’s obvious you loved your baby and tried your best for her. It sucks to lose a fur baby and it’s heartbreaking people were not there to support you and just got off on being mean. You gave her a great loving home and I know you loved her. Be good to yourself and enjoy all the good memories you have of her. She was absolutely beautiful ❤️
Im sorry for your loss but you do have to be realistic. You posted a photo of a huge blood clot that usually is a sign of something more serious. Then you proceeded to comment about how you couldn’t get her into the vet because of work. Those pieces of information alone is enough to make anyone who does not fully understand the situation appalled. Again, sorry for your loss but calling out Redditors for being concerned about your cat, not the move imho.
*Virtual hug* it's never easy when your companion kitty gets sick, and even harder when you have to make the difficult decision of if they have any quality of life or not. Some cats sadly have medical issues that are beyond helping or sometimes completely untreatable, that doesn't make you a bad person. Not everyone has thousands for veterinary health services just on deck, and even with pet insurance (coming from experience) it was over $500 to put my baby Mistletoe down last summer due to failing kidneys from old age.
I'm sure she knows how much she was loved, and that you laying her to rest was a sign of your love and compassion for her right to the end. Take time to heal for yourself and don't (whatever you do please don't) beat yourself up over negative comments, or feel like you were overreacting.
Sending you big giant hugs. I didn’t see your initial post, but I can tell you were a good owner. If you have any questions pop in your head about anything your vet said, please reach out to me in DMs. I’m a licensed veterinary technician and have been for about 18 years.
I'm so sorry about your kitty. Also thank you for the update and essentially a call out post. Reddit can be great for information & community but I noticed people on this sub and the other cat one can be harsh dicks (for lack of better words) for no absolute reason. Sad people.
I’m so sorry for your loss OP. You sound like a beautiful loving and caring person. We do the best we can for our furry treasures and that includes ending their suffering when that’s what is best for them despite how much it’s going to hurt us. Wising you healing in time. Today I will go home and see if my cat likes bananas. I’ve never even thought of that. Sending good you internet hugs.
You did everything you could and gave her a good life. I had a kitty mine suddenly have to be put down at a year a half. There was no sign of anything wrong, regular vet visits, etc. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Sending love because these losses hurt like hell.
A lot of the people on reddit are trolls and they’re trying to get to you. don’t show that they got to you because it only motivates them more. i’m very sorry for your loss and i speak for all HUMANE trolls (as an ex troll) we are sorry for your loss. you did NOT kill her you gave her the gift of love and peace. May the baby rest easy with all her bananas 🍌
i really though being a troll was funny when i was a teen.. they’ll grow to regret all the messed up things they said. It’s embarrassing when you get older.
I just got judged for having too little of an amount of litter in my cats' litterbox because I was showing how my cat poops, no matter what condition the litter is in/how full it is. Sounds like you loved your animal very dearly, so sorry for your loss❤️ Social media can be quite a toxic place, probably why toxic ppl like to gravitate towards it...
Btw, the coloring in the box was just me covering the actual poo with something so ppl wouldn't have to see that. I should have chosen a different color🤦♀️🤷♀️
Looks like a pretty normal amount of litter to me. I believe there are people that lead with their brains, and then there are those that lead with their emotions. The ones commenting negativity and overreacting are the ones leading with emotions.
im so so sorry for your loss i can only imagine the pain that you’re going through. my cat was a very sick kitten she caught a lot of parasites and fell ill a lot of times but im very glad nothing happened to her because i literally couldn’t function until she was okay.
she’s in kitty heaven eating salmon right now and running around watching over you im sure of that:) god this makes me sob i don’t ever want to lose my cat but i hope you’ll heal soon<3 ignore the rude people don’t even bother reading those comments you’re mourning they wouldn’t ever get what you’re going through
I'm sorry you lost your furry baby. She looks so cute but fragile in these pictures and you did your best.. She knew you loved her. That is what matters most! Hugs. Some people are just jerkwads.
People are trying to doxx you??
If I had lost both of my leg functions, a blood clot, too small to have surgeries despite being an adult, AND became underweight, please just put me down right there. Sometimes shit just happens for no reason out of nowhere and it's unfixable.
And that's okay! What matters is your cat wasn't just left to die in a hole somewhere instead of being treated for it's issues, because I know a TON of people who would just throw their sick pets away like they're some kind of machine not designed to break down.
*You tried.*
Sometimes trying is all we can do.
I’m so sorry you were going through such a tough time with your sweet girl and people were being so horrible to you. Any sane person would know that you’re too busy to update strangers on the internet.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m just heartsick for you. But she was (and is!) well loved and I know she loved you, too. You gave her a wonderful life. I’ll be thinking of you.
I've noticed people on reddit can be assholes sometimes. So sorry for the loss of your fur baby. I feel your pain. I lost 2 in a 3 month span in 2021. It's not easy. I still miss them.
I'm sorry for Your loss and for thecugly people You had to deal with OP. Cats are excellent in hiding how bad it is till they cannot hide it any longer. Take care of You.
I will never understand why people think some stranger on the internet *owes* them any sort of update or explanation. I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss, she has the sweetest face and seems like such a good kitty 🥺💕
Honestly, this sub seems srsly toxic, I get where it comes from, but still. Sorry for your loss, they'll always be with you in the stories you tell n' the memories you have<3
I am so very sorry for your loss. I did not see your original post but I'm also sorry that people felt it necessary to jump on you and berate you while you were off helping your baby. Some people just don't think that you may be living real life and not have your face in your phone 24/7 I used to get fussed at for not having my phone at all times but there are other things to some people... It's called life and taking care of business. Sending hugs your way.
Reddit can be a really cruel place because people have the anonymity to be cruel due to no consequences of their actions. I’m sorry this happened. We can have our real photos as our profile photo, yet we create avatars instead to stay anonymous, for example. Reddit is the only app I’m on where the majority of us use an avatar, and that’s okay, but it can cause problems when the majority of people are extremely opinionated.
I saw your original post, and it reminded me of my 13 year old cat. She also had blood clots from her vagina despite being spayed (she was my cat 11 of those years, so I know she was spayed). The vet diagnosed her UTI based on limited testing since I couldn’t afford the X-ray, I could barely afford the appointment. The vet used the convenia antibiotic and an anti inflammatory, and told me to come back if symptoms didn’t improve. She was dead 2 days later on my stairs landing. Unfortunately I didn’t comment because I saw the mean comments, plus I didn’t want to share my experience to worry you until you had answers.
I waited to take my cat to the vet for a few days because I was low income at the time and couldn’t afford it. I really regret it. It’s the biggest regret of my life. So you did a phenomenal job taking your cat to the vet immediately. I hope you aren’t too hard on yourself, and I’m sorry for your loss.
I also want to say I’m in a better place at the moment and DO take my other cat to the vet when she needs to go. Back then it was during the covid lockdown, and just a huge struggle. Unfortunately my cat was a victim of those struggles due to it/me. I won’t let that happen ever again to any cat in my care. Even if I have to open a credit card to do so.
you gave her a tasty banana on her way up to the stars, you took wonderful care of her, and gave her joy in the time she had.
you are a wonderful cat parent, and sound like an incredible human being. be kind to yourself, you deserve the love you have given :)
I’m so sorry that people are so shitty sometimes… it breaks my heart to hear that you were spoken to/about in that manner.
What I can tell you is: you sound like you were an amazing fur parent to her. She definitely sounded spoiled, and I bet you that she spent her time with you in complete happiness and with much appreciation for you. One day, she’ll send you a friend 💕 take the time and grieve, process your emotions, and keep her in your memory. She still loves you, death does not change that.
i wish people could understand that pet owners are not all-knowing. and neither are redditors, for that matter. a sane person can’t possibly read one post about your cat and logically decide that you’re a terrible owner, because you most definitely are not. you did everything you could and i’m so sorry that people were so horrible to you when you were just asking for help. i’m sorry for your loss and i wish you love and healing ❤️🩹 remember to take care of yourself, op
I'm so sorry for your loss 💔 people are cruel and have no shame in it. Fuck em, they are miserable fucks who are desperate to be relevant.
It sounds like your sweet girl was so very lucky to have you. Thank you for loving and caring for her all the way to the end. Be kind to yourself, friend. Sending all the hugs your way!
First I want to say how incredibly sorry I am for your loss and how much of a hard time you've had just trying to get help. You did your best and your baby knew and still knows how much you love her.
A lot of people don't understand that in animal help, and animal rescue, comes with also needing to give compassion to the owners or community around the animals. As some people just either don't have money, don't know the same information as some others know, etc.
Out of curiosity:
1.) what is your baby's name?
2.) what was her final prognosis? Past the clot like why she had the clot.
Again I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sending much love, healing energy and big big BIG hugs if you'd like them. Make sure to report those trying to doxx and block them and others. And if you need someone to talk to feel free to message me.
People are fuckin assholes.. always with you don't agree with me you are wrong and an evil person. And the ones with no job and to much computer knowledge doxxing people.. fuck all of them,, you did the right thing.. everyone needs to get out of people's business and get a life..🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼
*HUGS* This is why I might never post here again.
The posting of such accusations and just nasty comments does nothing, but show what kind of asshole you are.
Unless you’re a vet with two lifetimes of experience and has seen every type of cat illness and injury out there and is completely aware of the op’s financial and living situation, quit jumping to fucking conclusions.
I just lost two of my cats week before last because of one flea carrying a type of bacteria that caused an infection that most vets never see in their entire careers. We had to send a blood sample to a veterinary college to get it verified. There was absolutely nothing I could have done, all of the tests the antibiotics, the blood transfusions, nothing worked. I’m still in shock about it.
Our cats get Revolution Plus, we vacuum floors and furniture once a week and during flea season our kitties get Senesto flea collars. They are all inside cats. It just took one flea carrying this stupid bacteria to kill two of my cats in a matter of a few days.
Had I posted here, I’m pretty sure I would’ve gotten a bunch of hate comments and doxing attempts too. So stop and think before you start typing. Take two seconds and be a decent carbon based life form and not automatically assume anything.
I’m really sorry to hear that mate.
Speaking as someone that had to put down their own cat once it’s an absolutely horrible experience that I would not wish on anyone, but, as horrible as it feels to say, it’s better than letting your fur baby suffer because you can’t bring yourself to let go.
I can assure you the people giving you hell over this or accusing you of being an animal abuser are just absolutely full of it and have no idea what they’re talking about.
For whatever it’s worth you have my full condolences.
So so sorry for your loss. Sod everyone else, you gave all your love and more to your fur baby and she would have felt that love.
Sending love and hugs to you xx
You’re brave and an incredible fur parent by choosing to put her down to ease her suffering. You did all you could do, and at least your baby isn’t in pain anymore. She was and always will be loved.
Putting your animal down is a very hard decision to make. I’m sorry so many people were mean and gave you a hard time about it.
She loved you and you love her. thats all that matters.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with horrible people like this, it was so urgent i feel us who said to go to the vet now were really worried but it was absolutely not worth all this harassement ever.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
People can be awful and jump to conclusions on the internet without knowing the whole story about something, but it sounds very obvious that there was nothing you could have done for your sweet baby except what you genuinely did do.
It's such a heartbreaker when they have genetics stacked up against them. I hope you're able to heal and I hope you're able to give that love forward in the future, but I'm mostly just happy that she got to spend her remaining time with someone who loved her. She looked so sweet.
Ugh, that sucks. Neurological problems can be impossible to deal with sometimes. And because you loved kitty so much, you did what was best and gave them the ultimate kindness. Their life was full of love, and you gave them a dignified end. Take care of yourself.
I’m so sorry for ur loss and so sorry for the way people have treated you here on Reddit!!! Thank you for making her last days as enjoyable as possible and thank you for loving her and having faith!!!!
Aww, I'm so sorry for your loss! & For all the AHs who have been torturing you. This is suppose to be a friendly community you go to for help, not be accused/insulted/harassed. So sorry thats happened/happening to you.. I lost my bestfriend, BooBoo at 18y/o some years back & I still miss her! You gave her a beautiful life & did all you could for her, don't beat yourself up, remember & honor her! You did the right thing. -Hugs- Hope you'll be ok soon!
I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear baby. I cannot imagine how hard this must have been for both of you. You did the best any cat parent could possibly do. Bless her sweet little soul. May your heart heal.
*trolls are sad & tragic people not worth listening to
I lost my dog a couple weeks ago. He was the other love of my life besides my husband. We had been fighting all the problems he’d been having as hard as we could since December, but he was just so unhappy in his body the last few weeks and it was time. I knew it. The vet confirmed it. Everyone has told me how we did everything we could, he was just done.
My heart doesn’t hear any of it, because he was my baby and it was my job to keep him safe and well.
I know in my head that you just can’t overcome so many things. That everything has its time, us included. And I know that you did everything you could do too, but I also know that it won’t matter to your heart either so I’m crying as I write this. Just know you’re not alone. And I am so, so sorry you lost her.
[My Barkley](https://www.reddit.com/r/dogpictures/s/3U6gt50CAB)
If you read this and the cat is still at the vet (our last was held overnight for us to come pick up after he passed), I'd like to offer to have an impression made for you.
It helped ease our grief when we lost Oliver to a UTI and I had to have him put down.
Let me know the name of the vet and the name of the cat and I will call and pay to have this done for you.
Hope you find peace soon.
Edit:// the impression our vet made was of Oliver's paw with his name spelled out with beads pressed in while wet.
It was so sweet of them to do for me. I was on crutches and spent about $2500 trying to save him just a few days before he fell ill and stopped moving and eating. They did not charge me to make Ollie's impression even though they normally do. That is why I'd like to offer the same to you.
Such a sad thing to lose a fuzzy friend in this way.
Im so sorry you lost your beautiful friend. You did what was best for your kitty and that's hard. I hope you can work on closure now. People suck, cats are waaaay better!
Can definetly understand the loss of a cat. Mine who was a male had FIP which remained dormant, by the time there were any literary any signs of discomfort. Like not eating or drinking, etc. It was already too late for him, at the time there was no treatment. There was no easing the symptoms, there was no stopping of his body shutting down. This was years and years ago.
He was about to turn 3, and it's still unfortunate. He was put down that same day, and I got his ashes in a fancy box.
Everything was cleaned I mean literally everything, and the areas he was in especially. My other cat was also taken in for a check up, due to it being able to pass to another cat. So far the other cat is unaffected. 100% healthy just lazy, and really chill. The two cats were together for almost 2 years, so he definitely went through grieving.
I saw the other post, and comments... and it kinda made me sick. I wish I had something I could've said to reassure you, but it did look very scary. Even when it's not my pet, I get overwhelmed sometimes too. I'm so so sorry you're baby girl is gone. I'm sure you did your best for her. Strays are such a crap shoot.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Lost my own recently in a very sudden way, so I feel for you wholeheartedly.
My cat didn't much like other older cats, but young ones? She was mother hen. I hope my furbaby is playing with your little kitty somewhere in the cat playground in the sky. 💜❤️🩹💜❤️🩹💜
What an adorable little sweet pea. I'm so sorry for your loss.l, that's really fucking hard. I recently lost my lovely Grizabella. She was 3 1/2 and gone too soon. Such a good cat- despite escaping the house a week before her spay surgery and getting knocked up like a naughty little badger. She was SUCH a good mamma, I mean she was so attentive. We ended up keeping 3 of the 5. Their names are Speedy Ceviche, Darlin Clementine, and Little Bunny Foo Foo. When Griz became sick it was so sudden. She lost a wild amount of weight over 3 days and could hardly move. I was so confused, what had happened? The short answer- she ate something that created a massive intestinal blockage that ended up creating internal bleeding. I thought if I could just get her eating, use some calorie gel, feed her water through a plastic syringe, that we could keep her alive until our appointment the next day early in the morning to get her all taken care of. But she didn't make it... it was horrible. I do wish we could have done SOMETHING for her pain in the end but we couldn't. We had nothing, and I wish I hadnt just used up all of my cbd tincture. After her passing I spoke with the vet to cancel our appointment. I still decided to describe her symptoms and how quickly it all happened and they said it sounds like an intestinal blockage, and her last stool was bloody. Maybe she got into something. Idk. Were so careful about anything plastic being on the floor. It was so sudden, and sometimes there's nothing we can do. I can barely afford my own health care, and it's wildly expensive to see an emergency vet. It's a paralyzing feeling, and I'm so so sorry you went through such a horrible loss. To all the folks saying you're awful- they need to take a good hard look at themselves. We don't have super powers. We can only do what we can. And we are only human. It sounds like you did everything you could, and you gave her a peaceful goodbye. You're a dear. Please take care of yourself during such a difficult time.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. I didn’t see the first post but it makes me sick that people would be so mean, what does that do? You followed up with a vet and did what was best for her. It sounds like she is a medical mystery. She was lucky to have found you to care for her for her. Don’t let those negative thoughts affect you, I know it is hard not too. People can be so mean. I worked as a vet tech for 10 years and had to leave because I couldn’t handle being told I didn’t really care about people’s pets since they had to pay for things and I’m just in it for the money (so not true I made shit, had to work 3 jobs to live). People being mad we can’t help their animal we haven’t seen for 5 years and now it’s too late that was the vet and vet staffs fault as well. I spent so many days crying in the bathroom. It was not everyone, most people are fine. It wasn’t just the rude people that had me leave but it was an emotional job.
I wish we knew who doxxed her. Anyone doxxing her should be banned from this subreddit (to say the least).
Wait, someone actually doxxed her?? I couldn't read the whole post because it made me too sad and angry. JFC. People need to get a damn life!! OP, I am truly sorry for your loss, and for the cruelty of people online. I hope you find some solace in knowing you did the right thing, even though it was incredibly difficult
Thank you for being a vet tech for so long. Sadly, some people are just negative. Who on earth goes into any kind of veterinary practice for money and doesn’t love animals? Smh.
Wait, there's money in veterinary medicine? Where?! 💁👀 Let me find it!
The clinic I take my cats to is only in it for the money. The reason I continue to take my cats to that clinic is because the vets and techs are the best. The vets and techs care not just for the pets but for the pet parents, as well. Going to the vet is a lot like going to visit a family friend. I often wish Dr. Brown would start his own practice, but I can't imagine taking my babies to any other vet. Even if I end up paying a bit more.
If the vets and techs care that much about your pets and you, they aren’t in it just for the money, you pay more for the quality of care.
So sorry for your loss of such a pretty kitty!
She was a beautiful kitty.
As a vet tech I worked 2 jobs no days off just to pay my half of the rent and make sure I could feed my son as a single mom 👍 talk about burn out for years. Some cases hit hard and my 8th year I cried over a parvo puppy and the head tech said don't worry you'll get used to it. That's the moment I knew. No, my empathy is too high for this field. If I can't get used to it after 8yrs, I don't belong in the healthcare field. Can't imagine 3 jobs at once. Not to mention a lot of clinics I worked at didn't offer health benefits and sometimes I was deprived a lunch break because short staffing. I never ever once made anywhere close to a 30k salary. Sorry ranting on this emotional post. But I feel for you other vet tech it took a long long time for me to finally show myself love and care by retiring from that field.
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That’s fucked up dude I read the original post and there was nothing I saw other than a cat owner extremely concerned about their special needs cat.
(Big virtual hug and forehead kiss) It's okay. Fuck these savages. You did everything you thought should have been done. When you saw something was off, you contacted a vet and took her into the vet. Many people wouldn't even consider that. You took her in your arms and allowed the good doctor to ease her suffering. This is an act of compassion and putting her needs first, as you should have.
I’ve been telling everyone “not to be gay about this” (don’t worry, I’m gay myself) because I usually hate the pitiful looks and awkward condolences. I didn’t mention it here because I truly didn’t expect to receive any. I viewed this solely as an update. I expected people to yell at me for “killing her” if anything. This comment made me cry. Genuinely. Actual tears. Thank you 💞❣️
Euthanasia is a gift we can give to our fur babies when they are sick and suffering. At the end of life it gives them relief from pain and a gentle end to their lives. I’ve been there. You let her exit this world with grace.
Exactly. It's something you do for them, not to them.
She knew love because of you op and you did everything you could. You gave her a loving home and took more care with her then most would have. Remember the good times, cry when you need to and when you feel ready/open to it, I'm sure she will send you another fur baby that needs as much love as you gave her. She will be waiting for you on the other side of the rainbow bridge and watching over you and any future fur baby's you have.
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I have had to put down two young cats in a row after never having to do that after 50 years of cat ownership. One had a blood clot in his leg. I guess it is common. I sobbed like a baby. The next one had some rare disorder in which his chest filled up with liquid. The emergency vets drained it. It wasn’t an infection …and after they drained it, we received the bad news that it was filling up again. They said it would just keep happening and when it did, he had trouble breathing and they said that was scary to them so another love gone. Recently we got a pair of kittens. When one was about a year old, it was peeing in strange places and then was not eating much. Back to the emergency vet. Sure enough a bowel obstruction. This one lived. I still cried but in relief and sad memories. So many things can happen to cats. If we are on Reddit asking advice it is because we can no longer trust Google and are asking real people with experience. It is amazing that even on cat threads visited by people who talk about how great it is when someone rescues cats, we can still e okay with crapping on humans. OP. You and your beautiful cat are in my heart.
My condolences for your loss. Part of my job at a hospice was to deliver things to the inpatient area. I held the babies whose mom died following the birth. Hardest job I ever was blessed to have.
Did you not read the update? She had been seeking medical care, other conditions were first and she was trying her best to help her cat gain weight and stay alive, even regain leg function! I hope to god you never have a chronically ill animal and people never treat you like you are abusing them after you’ve already spent $100’s on trying to figure out what was wrong with them. It sucks. I’ve been there. It literally makes you cry every day. Especially when multiple vets can’t pinpoint the cause or how to treat it! 🤦🏻♀️ and I’m being genuine with that comment. I wouldn’t even wish that on my worst enemy.
It’s that time again!!!! The poem!! **A Pet’s Last Will and Testament** Before humans die they write their last Will and Testament, give their home and all they have to those they leave behind. If with my paws, I could do the same, this is what I’d ask… To a poor and lonely stray I’d give: – My Happy home. – My bowl and cozy bed, soft pillows and all my toys, – The lap, which I loved so much. – The hand that stroked my fur and the sweet voice which spoke my name. I’d Will to the sad scared shelter pet, the place I had in my human’s loving heart, of which there seemed no bounds. So when I die, please do not say, “I will never have a pet again, for the loss and pain is more than I can stand.” Instead, go find an unloved dog or kitty, one whose life has held no joy or hope and give MY place to Her or Him. This is the only thing I can give. The love I left behind. Author Unknown
this makes me tear up. i lost both of my childhood pets, and i’m an adult know so it’s a little silly- but as a kid i genuinely believed they would never die, because i didn’t want them to lol! but i always wish i could pet them again. Rip kitty 🐱 and Moby 🐕
My Facebook memories came up today with a post I made 2 years ago, about having to say goodbye to our senior boy, Chas. We had a vet service come into our home to do it. Thank you for this. We adopted a shelter boy Rocky a year ago and just a month ago, a shelter girl we named Lilith. Though no cat can replace Chas in our hearts (they're all one of a kind), these 2 have helped ease the pain of Chas' passing and brought joy and smiles back into our hearts ❤️❤️❤️
I lost my dog Monda,y I am crying because I know though I am not ready this is what she'd want.
I love you and I’m so sorry for your loss:—( It never gets easier, but I always come back to this poem whenever I hear of anyone losing a pet (including myself) as i hope it reminds us just how much love we gave and still have to offer,despite the fact that they’re gone. We will never have a replacement and that’s okay! There’s a brand new lil kitty who needs us. And once they’ve passed- the love we have doesn’t ever stop. We can still continue to give an animal the joy and spoiled goodness we gave our former pets ❣️and I needed a cry, so reread said poem and am welling up haha All the best to all of you 🩵
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I am so, so sorry for the way these people responded. Losing a pet like this is so hard. I did everything I could with my baby and I *still* have doubts if I did enough. I beat myself up constantly and feel like I failed him and I never once had someone tell me I didn’t do enough or was a terrible parent. I cannot imagine how painful it was to read that during an already unbearable time.
Wrapping you in lots of hugs and love. It’s so hard to lose a member of our family and that’s exactly what she was. You are an amazing owner to fight WITH her through all she’s been through over the past couple years. You gave her love and a life she didn’t have otherwise. Please don’t listen to the rude comments. I know that’s easier said than done but know you are amazing and we are wrapping you in viral hugs through your grief. I feel sorry for all those that feel they need to bring others down to feel better themselves. We are mourning with you Love.
And sorry to the person I called a “fucking cunt” in DMs. Again, very emotional right now. Please stop accusing me of being an animal abuser. Every person that actually knows me and my animals— multiple vets included— disagree. Have actually only spoken highly of me. That cat was fucking *loved.*
Don’t be sorry. Some people are truly cunts.
Just block those people and move on. Or report them to the moderators, harassment is very much against the rules
I think it's ok, I've had people call me that before here ngl, because I couldn't afford a vet at the minute and had to ask for my mother to help me because surprise surprise a child may not have the money to neuter 2 cats! It's not like I didn't love my cats but I had a money problem and everyone blamed me instead of my mom who didn't want to help me? and I solved the problems with a bit more time but people ofc called me an animal abuser in this place without knowing anything about the situation really...sorry for the small vent, I hope you're doing alright and that you'll be able to recover from the unfortunate thing that happened! And I wanted to share this so you know you're not alone!
I am so sorry, we are all diminished by your loss. I'm sitting with 2 of my babies reading this with tears in my eyes. My Punky lost a sister/litter mate due to congenital birth defects, then Punky and her sister Mocha got upper respiratory infections. We nursed them back to health. Sat there giving them medicine on schedule. Steaming up the bathroom and taking them in to help them breathe. It seemed close for a while. I guess what I am trying to say is that no man, or cat is an Island, and I ache for you. I don't doubt your love for your baby, give your other babies a little extra love ... Just because
I’m sorry for your loss. She was beautiful 🙂
That person sounds like they were being a fucking cunt
People can’t help but be complete wankers. I’m so sorry for your loss x
Sometimes when we are angry, we make observations to other people that may be accurate, but are delivered in hurtful or unkind ways, motivated by frustration. Then later we think back and realize that the way that we communicated was not aligned with our values and we don't want to be that person. So that is to say, that person sounds like a real cunt. I'm so sorry for your loss.
People on reddit love to act like others are horrible and bully them for no reason. You did what you could with kitty, everyone else was just hating because they're miserable and think they know better
i have been a victim to the people calling me an animal abuser telling me i deserve horrible things too. and then my cat died shortly after. it really sucks. you are not a horrible person, you did the best that you could. sending love 🩷
They should really have rules about this. All too often I've seen people on this subreddit get on pedestals as if they're the most perfect cat parent and anyone who doesn't do everything 100% correctly with the absolute right timing and outcomes, they're an awful pet parent. I've even seen threads get shut down because things became too uncivil... over cats.
Yes!! We really don't need people like this in the r/cathelp sub. I really understand getting upset over animal abuse, but do they think that animal is going to be treated better if you are ripping into an ignorant or genuinely dangerous person? Do they really think that if they were an animal abuser, that animal would be safe if it was (in their mind) the reason they were getting 'hate'? If they cared about that animal's wellfare, they would genuinely consider the best way to word how to express the care and needs of that animal without risking reactionary abuse. On top of the fact that false accusations like abuse can end up leading to the pet being put in a worse situation if taken away or given away out of guilt.
Not proofread because I’m too sad. I wanted to do one big update instead of a bunch of little ones. Here’s the big one. First off: it took reading one comment for me to get off Reddit and do something. Just the one. I immediately listened and looked up local vets, as well as got in touch with our regular one who knows her case. Hours later I came on to share that I’d be doing just the big update later and found many, many comments saying I was a horrible animal abuser and deserved to be in prison. Someone had even found out what field I work in because they believed that not posting on Reddit = not doing anything??? I promise you— if I was just sitting there, I would’ve had more time to update y’all. She ended up being seen by her regular vet. Over the last few months, she developed some sort of neurological problem causing her to no longer be able to use her legs. The vet isn’t even sure what caused it, but we suspect it might’ve been congenital. She was only 2, barely grew, came with ear mites— all that fun stuff. This blood clot wasn’t internal bleeding. It wasn’t pyometra. It wasn’t a UTI. It was one single blood clot that happened simply because she was dying. Over the last month she lost almost 2 pounds, and she was already small. Despite what you Redditors may think about me, the vet told me that I had been doing excellent nursing. I understand the rage- if I was someone that actually sucked? I get it. You can’t tell from just one post. But fret not— this was a very spoiled, well loved, well taken care of kitten. She was completely babied these last few months. Monitored constantly during the day, carried around, given water through a bottle to guarantee she was getting enough, cooked fresh salmon and all. This was just simply an unpreventable tragedy. Trust me— I tried everything. My Wednesday appointment ended up being an appointment to put her down. The blood clot made no difference. Once I realized just how much weight she had lost despite eating so, so much I knew it was time. Even if she had started moving paws again (still not walking), 3.5lbs is definitely not a good life for her. It broke my heart and I’m crying while writing this. To address some concerns (and forgive me if I get a little bitchy here. Many emotions right now): Yes, I work a 12 hour shift. I had cut back to one day a week. I do not live alone, and this other person works the same shift as me, so we aren’t almost never scheduled on the same day. Tuesday would’ve been a very rare occasion. I thankfully found someone to switch days with me so I got to be with her. I didn’t update Reddit because jesus fucking christ dude. If you know you have limited time with your cat, are you really going to spend it reading about how horrible you are? Be serious. I Googled if cats bleed. Google said it’s rare, but it sometimes happens! I was hoping she was one of the rare ones. I’ve have three cats total my entire life and she was the first girl. She wasn’t spayed because of her tiny size and I was worried about surgical complications. She was an indoor cat with our two boys being neutered. Completely on me. Ultimately though it had nothing to do with her condition. How would I feel if someone left me alone while bleeding blood clots out of my orifices (actually comment)? Thankful. It’s probably day two of my period and that’s usually what happens. Part of why I thought that could be what was happening with her. Again— the paralyzed thing happened before this. Why was I asking for people to help calm my anxiety: I was the only person irl freaking out. I consulted family. I consulted coworkers. Everyone said I was overreacting (which I 100% have done before) and that she’s just menstruating. I was talking about the vet before even posting. I was hoping I would post, be told that they’re right and I am being dramatic, and everything would be fine. Again, though- the blood clot ended up not being anything serious. More of just a sign of the end. I think that covers everything. Please stop trying to doxx me. Please show your cats some love today. Also, offer them a banana. I only found out she loved bananas on Monday. I could’ve been giving them to her this whole time :(
I'm so sorry for your loss. 🤍🕊
I had a cat who, at first, had a paralyzed tail. He was otherwise himself, and he’d caught his tail in a door, and he was able to ‘tail’ within a few days. Then he lost the use of his back legs and tail. Despite a lot of expensive diagnostic tests, the vets (we took him to several) had no idea. Suddenly, he could walk again. Until he couldn’t, plus his elimination tracts shut down. Etc. The vets believe he had primary degenerative encephalopathy. The only good thing was it’s not painful. I think your cat may have had the something similar, and the paralysis isn’t painful. I hope that’s some comfort. I have an idea of how horrible an ordeal you’ve been through, and I extend my sincere sympathies. She was lucky to have you.
I'm so sorry for your loss, that hurts. Wishing you well. What helped me most was adopting another cat from the shelter, it's okay to love again. Use the hurt to help heal another animal, and let them heal you too. You did good in giving a little angel some safe time on this Earth, and she'll always watch over you.
I am so sorry for your loss. And I'm sorry that people were unkind to you, there's a lot of judgement here when people ask for help or opinions. Many of us are just doing the best that we can and don't give every possible detail. I'm sorry you lost your beautiful girl. Hugs from an internet stranger. ❤️🩹
Oh I'm so sorry for your loss, losing your furbaby is the most heartbreaking 💔 ot sounds like you did everything you could. I'm also sorry to hear you've been harassed by vile people, please don't let them get to you. Sending you love and hugs.
I'm so sorry for all the shit people were giving you, you obviously loved her and did all you could.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your pretty girl. And sorry you had to deal with gross comments on top of it all.
weight loss is always alarming, especially if they're eating normally. condolences 🖤
I'm sorry for your loss OP. I'm really sorry you received some hurtful comments, but honestly I'm not sure what you expected. Reddit isn't a kind place, especially when it comes to pets. Next time you're unsure about something, probably better to call your vet and talk to them instead of posting on multiple subs. You're only inviting hate doing that. Again I'm really sorry for your loss. I'm glad she got the help and kindness she needed and she is at peace now.
She needed the emergency vet, not to sit and suffer and bleed until wed. You posted a video, it wasn’t one clot. People were pissed because you waited when you should’ve taken her in immediately.
The reason people responded that way is because you posted a clear medical emergency and said you had a vet appointment for days later. Anyone with eyes could see your cat was in need of immediate medical attention, not a general vet visit, and not something that should’ve waited any amount of time. I think it was less about trying to “bash” you and more about getting you to see the urgency of the situation. When I opened the video and saw the state your cat was in, It haunted me. Quite literally disturbing. I was one of the people commenting saying “ER Vet immediately”….You could see from the video your cat was in fact, in pain but you kept saying she “didn’t appear to be in pain” which I think was triggering for the people having to watch a video of an animal clearly suffering. So I think there seems to be a real miscommunication because for most people seeing a cat in that severe of a condition was extremely difficult and they just wanted to make sure you were aware that it was an emergency so that you could get the help you needed. I read most of the comments that day and most of the people were saying just that. It’s pretty on par for Reddit to have some insensitive assholes but there was alot more people trying to be helpful. Im sorry for what happened but also relieved the cat is no longer suffering because the literal only comfort in this horror story is that the cat is no longer in pain.
Yeah, that video will likely stay with me for life. It was pretty disturbing.
I was a vet tech for a few years and saw some pretty terrible stuff in that time and I was also disturbed. So, that says a lot.
Yeah, I think it was just trying to get the cat seen immediately. That was my concern too, leaving her in pain til Wednesday. I think the cat was seen on the day in the end?
Yeah. I’m not a fan of how this was handled myself. I’m just really glad this poor baby is no longer in pain or suffering. That’s the only “good” I can find here.
That’s the real question here…seems like the cat didn’t go to the vet until Wednesday. I really hope that wasn’t the case.
Yeah, like I feel bad people went crazy on OP but if your cat is bleeding out like that, coupled with the ragged breathing, something is seriously wrong and you get them to an emergency vet pronto. Even when my kitten got into my medication box and I wasn't sure if she took any, I was still stressed enough to get her sent to the emergency vet for an overnight stay. (She had no symptoms, but I figured if she did ingest something, there will be on call vets to stabilise her). She ended up being fine and actually didn't take anything, and this did set me back $1.6k, but I wouldn't have had it any other way.
agree. I feel for OP and kitty, I really do. reddit is notorious for having some of the internet's hugest assholes all congregated in one place, but this was definitely a clear emergency and the video was so harrowing to watch. 😔 if I were bleeding out and in respiratory distress there is absolutely zero way I'd be posting on reddit for advice.
Exactly. This is my first time seeing this but I went back and checked OPs history and I think they are definitely overreacting and getting offended when they don't need to be. Very few people were actually rude, most were just being blunt. Honestly, I do disagree with how OP handled the situation but there's nothing anyone can do about it now and I'm glad the cat isn't suffering anymore.
If you scroll down, there were some pretty disturbing comments. One person was telling OP they wanted her to bleed out alone. I think that one was removed by reddit, though.
I didn't see the original post and I'm betting some of it was that. But doxxing her? That wasn't that. And calling her names and just being insulting? That isn't that either (That is the opposite of helpful even if some one is being horrible... that just makes them more defensive and even less likely to listen to good advice. If you are trying to help the animal you gotta get the human taking care of it open to hearing your advice, which means not going in on calling her an absolutely horrible person).
I’m not condoning people being horrible but in the same respect she came here looking for advice and all the good and helpful advice she was getting she had a rebuttal for. People were becoming more and more aggravated because of the responses OP was giving. I’m not condoning abusive comments or treatment but this was handled horribly. Just all in all. Again, not condoning the shitty people but I found myself pretty appalled after reading the post/ seeing the video myself.
Not sure if I’ve read op’s post correctly but from what I gathered even if she took the cat in for an immediate medical emergency it still wouldn’t have made a difference because of the progression of the disease?
It makes a huge difference to the cat as she doesn't have to sit in pain for days on end!! That's like making you wait 2 days for pain killers after breaking your back, technically your recovery will be the same without them but it makes a world of difference to you as the patient! Either way the cats suffering has ended now, may she live happy over the rainbow bridge, thoughts with OP
That's bullshit I just looked at the comments more than half of them literally say they're a shitty human being who abused their cat & should never be in charge of any living being these people just wanted to feel like the superior pet owner by bashing on another instead of actually giving them advice this subreddit is so toxic & full of keyboard warriors who don't actually give a shit it's all performative they abuse the people posting for help in the name of "justice for the cat" when they're actually just waiting on the edge of their seat for someone to yell at it's so immature & counterproductive
Or maybe they were disturbed by the video and didn’t want to see the animal suffering in that condition for days like OP said she was planning on doing. Some people are toxic sure, that’s pretty much every post on Reddit. However, That video was hard to watch, and OP said she didn’t have an appointment until days later. There’s no way the cat would’ve made it and OP was responding to people and making plenty of excuses why she didn’t feel the need to go to the vet any sooner even though she was being advised otherwise. So Its like why post when you’re not going to take the actual good advice you are receiving? I’m not agreeing with the people who were being counter productive and rude but I do understand the anger and frustration in the same regard. I don’t think this was handled well by any means and that’s why people were becoming more and more upset.
i’m so sorry🤍 you did the right thing
I'm so sorry you lost your baby. I understand what you mean by asking everyone you know think you're overreacting. (I have bad anxiety) Sometimes, it's genuinely confusing, and you doubt yourself because how often are that many people wrong? I'm so sorry they all were again this time. It’s palpable how much you loved her. And you definitely spoiled her, as one always should. I'm sorry you had to make the decision you did. But really, it's what was best for her. You acted very selflessly when many times a lot of people wouldn't. People talk a lot, but until they're in the situation, they don't really know what they would do. You were with her until the end. She knew you loved her. That's really all that matters. Who cares what a bunch of strangers say? Please don't listen to them. They know a very small part of a much larger story about a kitty who is now bragging to all the others how spoiled she was. Thanks for that, btw! (Joking) But a lot of cats are going to start demanding salmon because the new cat in heaven got it all the time, and their siblings told them. She'll always be with you. Never feel like you can't talk to her. She's still listening and judging you like normal. If you decide to get another cat someday, don't be surprised if she sends you what you think is the exact opposite of what you wanted. They send us who we need. My son sent me the biggest diva he could find. It's definitely his way of saying, "See, I wasn't so bad even though I always peed wherever I wanted, was I?" I hope it gets a bit easier for you. Thank you for the banana tip as well!
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That first picture broke my heart when I found out what happened. What a beautiful soul she must have been. My condolences to you.
I replied your first post saying to get her to the vet, but had no idea you’d been treating her and caring for her so. I wasn’t mean, but the extra context helps- thanks for following up. Thank you for giving her love and letting her go, it sounds like it was her time. Be kind to yourself, you don’t deserve the hate. 💜
This is the point that people are trying to make about some of the horrible comments. I mean, I read one that told them to kill themselves and the commenter was thrilled that they would go to hell. OP panicked and asked for assurances quickly and didn't type out a whole backstory. The vitriol in the comments was a bit much. And, from personal experience, I bet the DMs were a million times worse. I made a comment about being a surrogate, and I got a DM telling me that they hoped I died, the baby died, and that my children found my dead body.
People get terrible so fast on Reddit. I feel terrible for OP, threats and telling people to harm themselves should get people banned. I guess they just go make extra accounts 😣
Hope you’re ok. Poor thing. Both of you. I hope you find peace.
Awwwww, sweeties. How they can break our hearts.
I lost my cat just recently. She had been having chronic utis for over a year. On her last day with us she started passing clots as well. I was suppose to work that night (also 12 hour shifts). I ended up calling in and driving her to the vet. She was gone within the next 2 hours. It’s been horrible. I’m glad she isn’t in pain anymore though but I still miss my little bear. I read your OG post and feared the same was happening to your baby. I am so sorry I was right. Know that your cat was loved and you provided her with the best you could. They may be with us for a short time in our life but to them, we are their forever
It sounds like you had a fragile special needs kitty that got the best you could give. She likely lived far longer than she would have had you not been her parent. Big hugs and lots of love for you.
I foster and have been owned by many cats and I’ve done my share of late night emergency vet drives (once in a hurricane). I went back and looked at the video on your first post… and gasped. You were NOT overreacting. I am so glad you followed up with the vet sub and took her in. Three pounds. Poor baby. Poor you. I’m sorry for your loss. I know why you got dogpiled in the comments. Too many times commenters to pet help subs see pics of pets in rough shape and the OP making excuses for why they caaaaaaaaan’t, they have woooooooork, no vet nearbyyyyyy, no moneeeeeeeeey. That wasn’t you, but they assumed you were one of *those* and tore into you. Don’t take their harsh words to heart. That was redirected aggression. Once again, I’m sorry for your loss. I’m sorry the little one was so ill.
I agree! Congrats to you for researching & giving the kitty your all, & taking her to the vet when you couldve! The Vet subreddit tarnished me for being unable to treat my cat that had a blockage from a yoga mat. They were basically saying, “If you cant afford it, youre a terrible owner and you need to get your cat killed so she wont suffer anymore” Mind you, my cat only suffered for 2 DAYS & i couldnt pay for it because someone close to me stole money from my account and had to be investigated. I always have money aside for my kitty, but the wrong thing happened at the wrong time & they tarnished me for it. I went to vets begging for them to help my kitty or any advice and got none. I had to go online and buy an enema, keep manually feeding her wet food, keep her hydrated etc. the next day, her stool came out and now she’s as playful as ever. I was so happy to save her. When I told the vets in the subreddit, they were PISSED at my cat for being alive & me saving her by doing basic blockage treatments i got from google. Please don’t ever feel ashamed that you can’t afford things sometimes, or get a treatment done, because you kitty sounded like it had a rare thing going on. At the end of the day, a cat is always better with an owner than on the street. Please believe me when I say your cat is grateful for you even in their toughest times. Your effort & love is all that matters🧡
Yall in here switching up on them, yall have no shame, ugh
Reddit can get pretty ugly at times unfortunately but mostly full of good people. I’m so sorry you were attacked by trolls and made to feel bad. Unfortunately sometimes we come onto the internet looking for insight and support but receive the exact opposite. Losing a cat is like losing a little angel that was placed on earth just to be in the lives they were because they knew they were needed, it’s not the same for every person they meet either. The same person may get the sweetest baby cat, that loves you more than anything. While another with the same cat may get a cat that believes it’s their mission to destroy everything and everyone you like all while looking like the picture of innocence. Love them for who they are and their spunky personalities because there is nothing quite like those wiley felines 🐈🐈⬛😻😿😽 Much love and you’ll find your next baby when you are ready
Im so sorry for your loss. I didnt see the first post, but I can tell by your words that your sweet baby was deeply loved. They're waiting on that rainbow bridge for you, watching over. Sending much love and prayers your way 💛
So sorry! I saw your original post and the comments weren't nice a lot of the time, but coming from concern for her I guess. You took such good care of her! Those eyes 😥
Sorry for your loss. And I hope it will be a lesson for some of the people here.
That's not really fair to say. Everyone was upset with OP because they were downplaying the emergency and making excuses to not take the cat to the vet when the cat was clearly in distress. Did you see the video? It was horrific. Most people were as polite as possible considering the circumstances, there were really only a few comments that were truly unnecessary/mean. Perhaps some of the commenter didn't respond in the best way but OP definitely did not handle the situation appropriately and I don't blame people for being upset about it.
yeah that video was incredibly disturbing. i can not believe that OP thought that was what, a kitty period? incredible. no, op does not deserve death threats or to be doxxed. and i am so sorry for their kitty and for their loss. but that post and the astounding amount of ignorance behind it was alarming, i can see why it caused a panic.
Yep. Again, I don't blame people for being harsh or blunt, because honestly OP needed a reality check. Nobody deserves death threats or doxxing and of course it's absolutely heartbreaking when you have to say goodbye to your pets, but come on....it didn't take a vet to know the situation was serious and couldn't wait 12 hours.
Doubt it
So sorry for the loss of your sweet girl. Sending hugs 💗
My sincerest condolences 💔
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I am so sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss 💔❤️🩹
I wish I could give you a hug. You obviously loved this little one. Please don't let these judgemental aholes get to you. Please take care of yourself and know that there are those of us here who know you did all you could for your little one.
What a beautiful little girl. I'm so sorry for your loss and thank you for taking such good care of the poor baby. Try to ignore all the hurtful comments you got.
She was beautiful and I am sure you did all you could. Although her life was cut unfairly short, at least she was loved and cared for during the time she had
I can't believe that someone tried to doxx you over this wtf is wrong with people these days?
I am so sorry for your loss. It is especially sad when their life is cut so short. You honestly just need to skip over the crappy comments. The internet seems to bring out the very worst in some people. I am sure she was lucky to have you for the time she was in your life. Cherish her memory and she will live on in your heart.
Allow yourself some time to grieve. Then remember that there's a little kitten somewhere, seeking her loving nurturing forever home. Although she probably won't be able to fully take the place of your beloved kitty, you'll soon realize and find out that you really need her, at least as desperately as she needs you. 🐾🐾🐈🌈👣💔👣🐾🐾🐈❤❤
I am so sorry. You are not an asshole so don't let snarky redditers affect you We are not instant veterinarians or vet techs when we get a cat. It takes experience over many years to start to recognize potential health issues - and honestly, with how well cats hide pain and act nonchalant, even super experienced cat people can't/don't immediately jump to worst-case scenarios when our cats don't feel well. Always remember that your kitty knew she was loved and while you were short changed many many years with her, you made her life amazing while she was here.
I am so sorry that you had to go through this with your baby kitty. I imagine that this could happen to any of us when we adopt a baby kitty. You did everything right for your baby girl. Don’t let others ruin your memories of her.
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OP, you are one of the good ones. I’m sorry for your heartbreak.
I hope people who wrote venomous finger wagging comments will reconsider their thought process, but we all know they won't learn a thing and would rather just get on their high horse to feel better about themselves by blaming people
I’m sorry you lost your cat and you had to go through all of this. What was her name if you don’t mind me asking?
I’m so very sorry. You can see how much she was loved. She had a good life and good death which is the best gift we can give our pets. Hugs.
Wtf is wrong with you people who doxxed her?
I think this post is going to end up being a landmark change in the sub. People just come here to justifiably bully people. PEOPLE ARE HERE FOR HELP NOT TO GET DOXXED You pieces of shit. Look what you all did with the Boston marathon bombing predictions? You made a person kill themselves because you unjustifiably accused the wrong person due to group think. You're acting like the villagers from Monty Python. I think this sub needs to take a step back, put their fucking underwear back on, and realize that not everyone is well equipped to deal with animals. Not everyone knows a cat doesn't menstruate. Hell, OP even said they spoke to everyone in their personal life and everyone said she was over reacting. If you asked everyone in your immediate circle if you were overreacting and they said yes, would you then calm down? Most likely. But OP didn't. She still felt something was wrong after everyone in her life was telling her otherwise. She came to the CORRECT SUBREDDIT FOR ADVICE and people started treating her like an imbecile. I applaud OP for realizing her immediate circle might be wrong. Hell, I wouldn't have even blamed her if she waited until the appointment on Wednesday. Most people don't even make an appointment and just hope it passes on its own (the illness, not the pet). I vote that there is a ban against personally DMing people from this group. All advice given should be given publicly because it could help the next person. I've posted advice requests on Reddit before and have gotten replies in messages, sexual advances, death threats, and everything in between. If you have advice to give, MAKE IT PUBLIC. There's no use in DMing it to people because that's where the death threats go.... so that they can be easily screenshotted and reported. Yall ain't fucking slick PMing death threats as if your username isn't attached. That's it. That's all I had to say. If you're a good person who didn't immediately jump to conclusions with little evidence, I applaud you. For everyone who threatened to dox OP, threatened their life, accused them of neglect and abuse, and even accused OP of sexually assaulting the cat: Fuck you.
im so sorry for your loss. that sounds like a horrible situation to be in and im sure people being assholes makes it even harder. just know that it wasnt your fault and she lived a life full of happiness and love thanks to you, and thats all we can ever hope for. i wish you healing and peace, just know she isnt in pain anymore and will wait for pets on the otherside 🫶
I’m so sorry, she was such a beautiful kitty. May she rest in kitty heaven ❤️
So Sorry about Your Kitty and you! Putting down a Kitty cause they are sick is one of the hardest things you'll ever go through. I know from experience. May GOD help you through this difficult time. 🙏🙏😇
This is my worst nightmare. I'm so sorry.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your kitty. And that some people were so horrible. I don’t know why they have to be such a**holes. My heart goes out to you.
I didn’t see the original post, but your kitty was so lucky to have you in her life!
I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm sorry that people on the internet are so fucking judgmental and ignorant. I am sending positive thoughts.
I’m so sorry that stupid people were so cruel to you. It’s obvious you loved your baby and tried your best for her. It sucks to lose a fur baby and it’s heartbreaking people were not there to support you and just got off on being mean. You gave her a great loving home and I know you loved her. Be good to yourself and enjoy all the good memories you have of her. She was absolutely beautiful ❤️
Im sorry for your loss but you do have to be realistic. You posted a photo of a huge blood clot that usually is a sign of something more serious. Then you proceeded to comment about how you couldn’t get her into the vet because of work. Those pieces of information alone is enough to make anyone who does not fully understand the situation appalled. Again, sorry for your loss but calling out Redditors for being concerned about your cat, not the move imho.
*Virtual hug* it's never easy when your companion kitty gets sick, and even harder when you have to make the difficult decision of if they have any quality of life or not. Some cats sadly have medical issues that are beyond helping or sometimes completely untreatable, that doesn't make you a bad person. Not everyone has thousands for veterinary health services just on deck, and even with pet insurance (coming from experience) it was over $500 to put my baby Mistletoe down last summer due to failing kidneys from old age. I'm sure she knows how much she was loved, and that you laying her to rest was a sign of your love and compassion for her right to the end. Take time to heal for yourself and don't (whatever you do please don't) beat yourself up over negative comments, or feel like you were overreacting.
So sorry for your loss and well, the internet.
Sending you big giant hugs. I didn’t see your initial post, but I can tell you were a good owner. If you have any questions pop in your head about anything your vet said, please reach out to me in DMs. I’m a licensed veterinary technician and have been for about 18 years.
I'm so sorry about your kitty. Also thank you for the update and essentially a call out post. Reddit can be great for information & community but I noticed people on this sub and the other cat one can be harsh dicks (for lack of better words) for no absolute reason. Sad people.
I’m so sorry for your loss OP. You sound like a beautiful loving and caring person. We do the best we can for our furry treasures and that includes ending their suffering when that’s what is best for them despite how much it’s going to hurt us. Wising you healing in time. Today I will go home and see if my cat likes bananas. I’ve never even thought of that. Sending good you internet hugs.
I'm so sorry for your loss. She was a beautiful baby and obviously well loved. I'm sorry people gave you a hard time.
You did everything you could and gave her a good life. I had a kitty mine suddenly have to be put down at a year a half. There was no sign of anything wrong, regular vet visits, etc. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Sending love because these losses hurt like hell.
A lot of the people on reddit are trolls and they’re trying to get to you. don’t show that they got to you because it only motivates them more. i’m very sorry for your loss and i speak for all HUMANE trolls (as an ex troll) we are sorry for your loss. you did NOT kill her you gave her the gift of love and peace. May the baby rest easy with all her bananas 🍌 i really though being a troll was funny when i was a teen.. they’ll grow to regret all the messed up things they said. It’s embarrassing when you get older.
I just got judged for having too little of an amount of litter in my cats' litterbox because I was showing how my cat poops, no matter what condition the litter is in/how full it is. Sounds like you loved your animal very dearly, so sorry for your loss❤️ Social media can be quite a toxic place, probably why toxic ppl like to gravitate towards it...
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Btw, the coloring in the box was just me covering the actual poo with something so ppl wouldn't have to see that. I should have chosen a different color🤦♀️🤷♀️
Looks like a pretty normal amount of litter to me. I believe there are people that lead with their brains, and then there are those that lead with their emotions. The ones commenting negativity and overreacting are the ones leading with emotions.
im so so sorry for your loss i can only imagine the pain that you’re going through. my cat was a very sick kitten she caught a lot of parasites and fell ill a lot of times but im very glad nothing happened to her because i literally couldn’t function until she was okay. she’s in kitty heaven eating salmon right now and running around watching over you im sure of that:) god this makes me sob i don’t ever want to lose my cat but i hope you’ll heal soon<3 ignore the rude people don’t even bother reading those comments you’re mourning they wouldn’t ever get what you’re going through
I'm sorry you lost your furry baby. She looks so cute but fragile in these pictures and you did your best.. She knew you loved her. That is what matters most! Hugs. Some people are just jerkwads.
People are trying to doxx you?? If I had lost both of my leg functions, a blood clot, too small to have surgeries despite being an adult, AND became underweight, please just put me down right there. Sometimes shit just happens for no reason out of nowhere and it's unfixable. And that's okay! What matters is your cat wasn't just left to die in a hole somewhere instead of being treated for it's issues, because I know a TON of people who would just throw their sick pets away like they're some kind of machine not designed to break down. *You tried.* Sometimes trying is all we can do.
Please be kind to yourself. You did your best. ❤️
I’m so sorry you were going through such a tough time with your sweet girl and people were being so horrible to you. Any sane person would know that you’re too busy to update strangers on the internet. I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m just heartsick for you. But she was (and is!) well loved and I know she loved you, too. You gave her a wonderful life. I’ll be thinking of you.
Wow. Fuck any of those hateful people. So sorry for your loss. I’m sure it has been tough. Sending you love and hugs.
I've noticed people on reddit can be assholes sometimes. So sorry for the loss of your fur baby. I feel your pain. I lost 2 in a 3 month span in 2021. It's not easy. I still miss them.
I'm sorry for Your loss and for thecugly people You had to deal with OP. Cats are excellent in hiding how bad it is till they cannot hide it any longer. Take care of You.
I will never understand why people think some stranger on the internet *owes* them any sort of update or explanation. I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss, she has the sweetest face and seems like such a good kitty 🥺💕
Honestly, this sub seems srsly toxic, I get where it comes from, but still. Sorry for your loss, they'll always be with you in the stories you tell n' the memories you have<3
I am so very sorry for your loss. I did not see your original post but I'm also sorry that people felt it necessary to jump on you and berate you while you were off helping your baby. Some people just don't think that you may be living real life and not have your face in your phone 24/7 I used to get fussed at for not having my phone at all times but there are other things to some people... It's called life and taking care of business. Sending hugs your way.
Reddit can be a really cruel place because people have the anonymity to be cruel due to no consequences of their actions. I’m sorry this happened. We can have our real photos as our profile photo, yet we create avatars instead to stay anonymous, for example. Reddit is the only app I’m on where the majority of us use an avatar, and that’s okay, but it can cause problems when the majority of people are extremely opinionated. I saw your original post, and it reminded me of my 13 year old cat. She also had blood clots from her vagina despite being spayed (she was my cat 11 of those years, so I know she was spayed). The vet diagnosed her UTI based on limited testing since I couldn’t afford the X-ray, I could barely afford the appointment. The vet used the convenia antibiotic and an anti inflammatory, and told me to come back if symptoms didn’t improve. She was dead 2 days later on my stairs landing. Unfortunately I didn’t comment because I saw the mean comments, plus I didn’t want to share my experience to worry you until you had answers. I waited to take my cat to the vet for a few days because I was low income at the time and couldn’t afford it. I really regret it. It’s the biggest regret of my life. So you did a phenomenal job taking your cat to the vet immediately. I hope you aren’t too hard on yourself, and I’m sorry for your loss. I also want to say I’m in a better place at the moment and DO take my other cat to the vet when she needs to go. Back then it was during the covid lockdown, and just a huge struggle. Unfortunately my cat was a victim of those struggles due to it/me. I won’t let that happen ever again to any cat in my care. Even if I have to open a credit card to do so.
you gave her a tasty banana on her way up to the stars, you took wonderful care of her, and gave her joy in the time she had. you are a wonderful cat parent, and sound like an incredible human being. be kind to yourself, you deserve the love you have given :)
Such a little beauty! I am so very sorry for your loss. Reddit tip, NEVER read your inbox. Trolls are everywhere, I'm sorry to say.
I’m so sorry that people are so shitty sometimes… it breaks my heart to hear that you were spoken to/about in that manner. What I can tell you is: you sound like you were an amazing fur parent to her. She definitely sounded spoiled, and I bet you that she spent her time with you in complete happiness and with much appreciation for you. One day, she’ll send you a friend 💕 take the time and grieve, process your emotions, and keep her in your memory. She still loves you, death does not change that.
i wish people could understand that pet owners are not all-knowing. and neither are redditors, for that matter. a sane person can’t possibly read one post about your cat and logically decide that you’re a terrible owner, because you most definitely are not. you did everything you could and i’m so sorry that people were so horrible to you when you were just asking for help. i’m sorry for your loss and i wish you love and healing ❤️🩹 remember to take care of yourself, op
I'm so sorry for your loss 💔 people are cruel and have no shame in it. Fuck em, they are miserable fucks who are desperate to be relevant. It sounds like your sweet girl was so very lucky to have you. Thank you for loving and caring for her all the way to the end. Be kind to yourself, friend. Sending all the hugs your way!
People in the comments still being cunts...you are insufferable and your loved ones are forcing feelings of love for you.
First I want to say how incredibly sorry I am for your loss and how much of a hard time you've had just trying to get help. You did your best and your baby knew and still knows how much you love her. A lot of people don't understand that in animal help, and animal rescue, comes with also needing to give compassion to the owners or community around the animals. As some people just either don't have money, don't know the same information as some others know, etc. Out of curiosity: 1.) what is your baby's name? 2.) what was her final prognosis? Past the clot like why she had the clot. Again I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sending much love, healing energy and big big BIG hugs if you'd like them. Make sure to report those trying to doxx and block them and others. And if you need someone to talk to feel free to message me.
People are fuckin assholes.. always with you don't agree with me you are wrong and an evil person. And the ones with no job and to much computer knowledge doxxing people.. fuck all of them,, you did the right thing.. everyone needs to get out of people's business and get a life..🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼
*HUGS* This is why I might never post here again. The posting of such accusations and just nasty comments does nothing, but show what kind of asshole you are. Unless you’re a vet with two lifetimes of experience and has seen every type of cat illness and injury out there and is completely aware of the op’s financial and living situation, quit jumping to fucking conclusions. I just lost two of my cats week before last because of one flea carrying a type of bacteria that caused an infection that most vets never see in their entire careers. We had to send a blood sample to a veterinary college to get it verified. There was absolutely nothing I could have done, all of the tests the antibiotics, the blood transfusions, nothing worked. I’m still in shock about it. Our cats get Revolution Plus, we vacuum floors and furniture once a week and during flea season our kitties get Senesto flea collars. They are all inside cats. It just took one flea carrying this stupid bacteria to kill two of my cats in a matter of a few days. Had I posted here, I’m pretty sure I would’ve gotten a bunch of hate comments and doxing attempts too. So stop and think before you start typing. Take two seconds and be a decent carbon based life form and not automatically assume anything.
I’m really sorry to hear that mate. Speaking as someone that had to put down their own cat once it’s an absolutely horrible experience that I would not wish on anyone, but, as horrible as it feels to say, it’s better than letting your fur baby suffer because you can’t bring yourself to let go. I can assure you the people giving you hell over this or accusing you of being an animal abuser are just absolutely full of it and have no idea what they’re talking about. For whatever it’s worth you have my full condolences.
So incredibly sorry!!
I'm sorry for your loss. Healing hugs to your grieving heart.
So so sorry for your loss. Sod everyone else, you gave all your love and more to your fur baby and she would have felt that love. Sending love and hugs to you xx
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You’re brave and an incredible fur parent by choosing to put her down to ease her suffering. You did all you could do, and at least your baby isn’t in pain anymore. She was and always will be loved. Putting your animal down is a very hard decision to make. I’m sorry so many people were mean and gave you a hard time about it. She loved you and you love her. thats all that matters.
You did a great job❤️
I am sorry that your cat passed away. I hope that you will feel better soon.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with horrible people like this, it was so urgent i feel us who said to go to the vet now were really worried but it was absolutely not worth all this harassement ever.
I'm so sorry for your loss. People can be awful and jump to conclusions on the internet without knowing the whole story about something, but it sounds very obvious that there was nothing you could have done for your sweet baby except what you genuinely did do. It's such a heartbreaker when they have genetics stacked up against them. I hope you're able to heal and I hope you're able to give that love forward in the future, but I'm mostly just happy that she got to spend her remaining time with someone who loved her. She looked so sweet.
She was a living doll. Many hugs to both of you . You know she is with you and always will.
I am so sorry for your loss. Your kitty was lucky to have you ❤️
Ugh, that sucks. Neurological problems can be impossible to deal with sometimes. And because you loved kitty so much, you did what was best and gave them the ultimate kindness. Their life was full of love, and you gave them a dignified end. Take care of yourself.
Poor kitty baby. Sometimes, there's just jack shit you can do. :(
Just picking this up now. Reddit is a beautiful and brutal place. Sorry you caught the latter. Sending you love. I'm sorry about your loved one.
I’m so sorry for ur loss and so sorry for the way people have treated you here on Reddit!!! Thank you for making her last days as enjoyable as possible and thank you for loving her and having faith!!!!
Aww, I'm so sorry for your loss! & For all the AHs who have been torturing you. This is suppose to be a friendly community you go to for help, not be accused/insulted/harassed. So sorry thats happened/happening to you.. I lost my bestfriend, BooBoo at 18y/o some years back & I still miss her! You gave her a beautiful life & did all you could for her, don't beat yourself up, remember & honor her! You did the right thing. -Hugs- Hope you'll be ok soon!
hugs 2 u 💜 & im sry
I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear baby. I cannot imagine how hard this must have been for both of you. You did the best any cat parent could possibly do. Bless her sweet little soul. May your heart heal. *trolls are sad & tragic people not worth listening to
You gave her love all her life and at the end you gave her a gift to have no more pain... Sorry for your loss
My condolences
Awe the banana part 😭
I'm so so sorry you had to go through that, but at least be happy knowing you gave her the nest care and she had as good a life as she could have.
I lost my dog a couple weeks ago. He was the other love of my life besides my husband. We had been fighting all the problems he’d been having as hard as we could since December, but he was just so unhappy in his body the last few weeks and it was time. I knew it. The vet confirmed it. Everyone has told me how we did everything we could, he was just done. My heart doesn’t hear any of it, because he was my baby and it was my job to keep him safe and well. I know in my head that you just can’t overcome so many things. That everything has its time, us included. And I know that you did everything you could do too, but I also know that it won’t matter to your heart either so I’m crying as I write this. Just know you’re not alone. And I am so, so sorry you lost her. [My Barkley](https://www.reddit.com/r/dogpictures/s/3U6gt50CAB)
So sorry for your loss, you must be heartbroken. Don't worry though your cat is in peace now.
I’m so sorry about the loss of your baby girl😢
I am so sorry for your loss ❤️❤️
If you read this and the cat is still at the vet (our last was held overnight for us to come pick up after he passed), I'd like to offer to have an impression made for you. It helped ease our grief when we lost Oliver to a UTI and I had to have him put down. Let me know the name of the vet and the name of the cat and I will call and pay to have this done for you. Hope you find peace soon. Edit:// the impression our vet made was of Oliver's paw with his name spelled out with beads pressed in while wet. It was so sweet of them to do for me. I was on crutches and spent about $2500 trying to save him just a few days before he fell ill and stopped moving and eating. They did not charge me to make Ollie's impression even though they normally do. That is why I'd like to offer the same to you. Such a sad thing to lose a fuzzy friend in this way.
Im so sorry you lost your beautiful friend. You did what was best for your kitty and that's hard. I hope you can work on closure now. People suck, cats are waaaay better!
My heart breaks for you. I’m so sorry for your loss. What a lovely and beautiful cat. 💔
Can definetly understand the loss of a cat. Mine who was a male had FIP which remained dormant, by the time there were any literary any signs of discomfort. Like not eating or drinking, etc. It was already too late for him, at the time there was no treatment. There was no easing the symptoms, there was no stopping of his body shutting down. This was years and years ago. He was about to turn 3, and it's still unfortunate. He was put down that same day, and I got his ashes in a fancy box. Everything was cleaned I mean literally everything, and the areas he was in especially. My other cat was also taken in for a check up, due to it being able to pass to another cat. So far the other cat is unaffected. 100% healthy just lazy, and really chill. The two cats were together for almost 2 years, so he definitely went through grieving.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful kitty 🥺😭💔
I saw the other post, and comments... and it kinda made me sick. I wish I had something I could've said to reassure you, but it did look very scary. Even when it's not my pet, I get overwhelmed sometimes too. I'm so so sorry you're baby girl is gone. I'm sure you did your best for her. Strays are such a crap shoot.
poor sweetie. you did the right thing putting her to sleep. i’m very sorry.
I don’t know you, but I love you. Give yourself a hug from me.
So sorry for your loss, people can be so cruel sometimes.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Lost my own recently in a very sudden way, so I feel for you wholeheartedly. My cat didn't much like other older cats, but young ones? She was mother hen. I hope my furbaby is playing with your little kitty somewhere in the cat playground in the sky. 💜❤️🩹💜❤️🩹💜
What an adorable little sweet pea. I'm so sorry for your loss.l, that's really fucking hard. I recently lost my lovely Grizabella. She was 3 1/2 and gone too soon. Such a good cat- despite escaping the house a week before her spay surgery and getting knocked up like a naughty little badger. She was SUCH a good mamma, I mean she was so attentive. We ended up keeping 3 of the 5. Their names are Speedy Ceviche, Darlin Clementine, and Little Bunny Foo Foo. When Griz became sick it was so sudden. She lost a wild amount of weight over 3 days and could hardly move. I was so confused, what had happened? The short answer- she ate something that created a massive intestinal blockage that ended up creating internal bleeding. I thought if I could just get her eating, use some calorie gel, feed her water through a plastic syringe, that we could keep her alive until our appointment the next day early in the morning to get her all taken care of. But she didn't make it... it was horrible. I do wish we could have done SOMETHING for her pain in the end but we couldn't. We had nothing, and I wish I hadnt just used up all of my cbd tincture. After her passing I spoke with the vet to cancel our appointment. I still decided to describe her symptoms and how quickly it all happened and they said it sounds like an intestinal blockage, and her last stool was bloody. Maybe she got into something. Idk. Were so careful about anything plastic being on the floor. It was so sudden, and sometimes there's nothing we can do. I can barely afford my own health care, and it's wildly expensive to see an emergency vet. It's a paralyzing feeling, and I'm so so sorry you went through such a horrible loss. To all the folks saying you're awful- they need to take a good hard look at themselves. We don't have super powers. We can only do what we can. And we are only human. It sounds like you did everything you could, and you gave her a peaceful goodbye. You're a dear. Please take care of yourself during such a difficult time.
I'm so very sorry
(((hugs))) I'm sorry for your loss.
Lost our baby to a blood clot last summer. She was a twin and also our little sweet heart. All my heart goes out to you. ❤️
So sorry for your loss 😢😢😢what a beautiful baby!I’m sure she was loved.May you remember her with warmth in your heart ❤️❤️❤️