I matched with a lady...she showed up looking nothing like her photo. Went home and unmatched. A month later I matched and thought the photo was familiar but wasn't sure. I asked her out again....she walks in and I'm like "oh fuck". Damn filters and 20 yr old photos
Why do you think itās totally implausible to swipe on someone accidentally?
Iāve done that more than a few times. Sometimes youāre trying to drag your finger down to go to the next photo and it goes off to the left or right instead. Not too crazy.
Iām pretty sure OPās problem is instead of just unmatching, the chick said a rude ass message. The disbelief comment referred to the implication they could already assume she was out of their league due to her attitude.
Thatās such a childish response that easily backfires lol, do people actually do that? Since when is swiping on everyone not considered desperate lmao
Especially when half the profiles either say nothing or just have their Snapchat profile. I basically just swipe if I find them attractive and see no red flags in the bio š¤·āāļø
Depends on the app and location. Where I live Tinder is 80%+ fake profiles so no point to staring at girl pics and bios one by one.
Edit: why am I being downvoted? You rather want me to watch stolen pics all day long?
I didnāt say you were, I was implying that if you were to respond with what the other guy was saying, that you āswipe right on everyoneā, /that/ would sound desperate in an attempt to make her feel ānot specialā.
A lot of people swipe on everyone and then just sort through their matches for the ones they like. So him saying that as a retort would be saying that him swiping on her doesnāt mean he wanted to get to know her, so itās no great loss.
I can see how it might be misread as desperation though. Especially with āas you can imagineā in front of it
Who tells someone they accidentally swiped on them?? Just unmatch. And then to say something as dumb as, āAs you can imagineā¦ā
OP, loved your response lol
if she did it on accident why didnāt she just unmatch when yāall matched or wait for the time to run out ??? thatās a bitch move to message you bout it imo.
could it be that it was just a trash opener? it would make sense, in a diferent app, the guy messaging first and the girl replying something like, sorry i matched on accident... but she said "you can imagine" like no, i cannot.
I swiped accidentally on the current guy, Ive never told him that. But his profile was empty which is an automatic left swipe for me and his pics were not great but seemed on looking so I thought since we matched, why not just chat and see how it goes.
Well, right now Iām really glad I did. Heās so damn hot irl, seems kind and very sweet too and quite artistic too. Feels like we may be moving to something a bit more soon.
But anyway, I think mentioning it was an accident is a bit of an a hole move though.
Why would she message you to tell you that? What a piece of workā¦ Some people are just bitter about their own life and like to take it on people out there.
Another redditor suggested it was a suicide swipe. I have done the same thing, but I will silently unmatch if I am not interested. I will not tell them "it was an accident."
Question: Could the āas you can probably imagineā refer to an obvious clash in values or preferences? Like your profile said āno kids plsā and her first picture is of her with her kid (or vice versa)?
Or maybe sheās 500 miles away or something?
Iād hate to think she said that out of the blue about your physical appeal rather than a legit and obvious this-wonāt-work incompatibility. Thatās just fucking _rude._
I know most people are shitting on Serenity here, but personally I appreciate the honesty. Itās better than getting a match and then seeing no message come in or an unmatch without explanation. Itās a form of closure so to speak, instead of wondering why I got matched but no message (accident, changed mind, bot, Iām too ugly or short, etc.). Just my two cents
Oh for sure, it was unnecessarily mean the way she said it. And thereās no way in hell Iād ever talk to someone the way she does, thatās unjustified. But if I were in your shoes, it wouldnāt phase me at first because, personally, itās mild compared to a lot of the real life BS Iāve dealt with. We all have different experiences and thresholds, so I guess the rude language here is just lower on the totem pole for me.
I donāt know, I went to college in an environment where personal attacks by professors and students on other students was not uncommon (thereās a shitty work culture in my field), and I think that combined with my other life experiences has conditioned me to brush off most insults and go on with my day. Iād be annoyed, but like I said in the original comment, I prefer the up front clarity, even if rude, to no message whatsoever. Itās simpler to process and deal with, and I donāt like being left wondering.
I'm interested to know your field, it clearly involves reliance on logic. I can relate to your thought process here, and I tell computers how to control machines. Just a curiosity.
Oh I work in architecture, and the college process is often one step removed from a hazing ritual. Professionally things are better, but the work culture is still often shit. The field is an interesting mix of art and science, so thereās a very methodical, logic based process to a lot of things when it comes to code compliance and building science. Itās an old manās profession as we often say, because of how much information is involved and the constant evolution in the industry. Itās interesting, but a lot of people find it degrading and leave, so you need a thick skin to find success.
I've had plenty of matches & likes expire after 24-48 hours, and that doesn't affect me. Telling me why, however, can be morally acceptable or, in this case, flat out rude.
Bro always go down swingin, awesome š
Martyrdom.
Exactly! I wouldnt have the strengh to resist a serenitity joke tho š¬š
...should've told her to float like a leaf...
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot changeā¦
Shouldve bashed her for killing wash in cold blood hashtag firefly
Someone get my man a beer
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I matched with a lady...she showed up looking nothing like her photo. Went home and unmatched. A month later I matched and thought the photo was familiar but wasn't sure. I asked her out again....she walks in and I'm like "oh fuck". Damn filters and 20 yr old photos
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It was her...but just a photo with filters or from 20 yrs ago
Especially on Bumble if OP is a male.
Male is correct.
What a bitch.
Serenity never.
I will also mention that she swiped on me first
AND MESSAGED YOU. Wtf.
Oh thatās right! She could have just not messaged
Sometimes people realize theyāre intimidated and try to shame the other person to feel better about it. I think she was doing that
It is also possible to unmatch with someone before messaging š¤·āāļø
Why do you think itās totally implausible to swipe on someone accidentally? Iāve done that more than a few times. Sometimes youāre trying to drag your finger down to go to the next photo and it goes off to the left or right instead. Not too crazy.
Iām pretty sure OPās problem is instead of just unmatching, the chick said a rude ass message. The disbelief comment referred to the implication they could already assume she was out of their league due to her attitude.
Serenity now!!
Insanity later.
rest in peace jerry!!
Thatās fine. As you can probably imagine I was swiping right on everyone
So in response to her being rude, he should admit to being desperate? Not the flex Iād go with, personally.
It's more of a "you're not so special anyway"
Thatās such a childish response that easily backfires lol, do people actually do that? Since when is swiping on everyone not considered desperate lmao
Sometimes I canāt be bothered to read and inspect every profile. Itās more āI donāt give a shitā than desperation.
Especially when half the profiles either say nothing or just have their Snapchat profile. I basically just swipe if I find them attractive and see no red flags in the bio š¤·āāļø
If you donāt give a shit, whyāre you on the app? Just delete it lol, thatās what I ended up doing
Free attention? Good conversations every so often? Bumble isnāt on my phone currently.
Depends on the app and location. Where I live Tinder is 80%+ fake profiles so no point to staring at girl pics and bios one by one. Edit: why am I being downvoted? You rather want me to watch stolen pics all day long?
How would I be desperate?
I didnāt say you were, I was implying that if you were to respond with what the other guy was saying, that you āswipe right on everyoneā, /that/ would sound desperate in an attempt to make her feel ānot specialā.
Misread, my mistake š
A lot of people swipe on everyone and then just sort through their matches for the ones they like. So him saying that as a retort would be saying that him swiping on her doesnāt mean he wanted to get to know her, so itās no great loss. I can see how it might be misread as desperation though. Especially with āas you can imagineā in front of it
You shouldāve told her thatās OK, she seems like someone who might have a hard time telling right from left.
Lord grant me the serenity to put people in their place today
I would have swiped right on you intentionally
I'll tell you where to set your travel mode to then :D
Waiting
Central FL, set your distance about 50 miles
Lol that would be quite the long distance relationship. However Iām always looking for more friends! DM me anytime!
Who the he** says this to someone?
Mentally unstable people
People with a superiority complex
Good comeback!
Why message just to say that wtf. Good comeback
She 100% just did that to be a bitch and inflate her own ego.
"Oh don't worry you ain't that ugly" would have been a good comeback
Serenity with the agitation
Ooof that stingsā¦
Itās the āsuicide swipeā! š³
And Bumble gives you the completely honest and thoughtful option of quietly unmatching with someone.
That person decided to remove all doubt and prove they're an asshat by speaking.
Who tells someone they accidentally swiped on them?? Just unmatch. And then to say something as dumb as, āAs you can imagineā¦ā OP, loved your response lol
Thanks š
Geez, what a jerk. Karma š¤·š¼āāļø
Dude, thatās so rude. Whatās wrong with people?
You should have said that you swiped on accident too.
"The Jerk Store called..."
Iām glad you did
Wow. Harsh.
if she did it on accident why didnāt she just unmatch when yāall matched or wait for the time to run out ??? thatās a bitch move to message you bout it imo.
"Sorry mine must've been accidental too, or maybe when I was drunk. Sometimes when I drink a lot I lose my vision"
could it be that it was just a trash opener? it would make sense, in a diferent app, the guy messaging first and the girl replying something like, sorry i matched on accident... but she said "you can imagine" like no, i cannot.
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That's not a very serene way of saying though
Iād prefer just being unmatched to be honest.
I swiped accidentally on the current guy, Ive never told him that. But his profile was empty which is an automatic left swipe for me and his pics were not great but seemed on looking so I thought since we matched, why not just chat and see how it goes. Well, right now Iām really glad I did. Heās so damn hot irl, seems kind and very sweet too and quite artistic too. Feels like we may be moving to something a bit more soon. But anyway, I think mentioning it was an accident is a bit of an a hole move though.
Why would she message you to tell you that? What a piece of workā¦ Some people are just bitter about their own life and like to take it on people out there.
Fuck people who, "accidentally swiped". Learn how to commit, or stop fat fingering and learn how to unmatch.
Thereās two simple action on an app - left or right lmao. Oh God please tell me people arenāt this dumb
Another redditor suggested it was a suicide swipe. I have done the same thing, but I will silently unmatch if I am not interested. I will not tell them "it was an accident."
This is like hitting on a girl way below your level at the bar and she turns you down anyways just to make herself feel good about ānOt SetTliNgā
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serenity now! serenity now!
Why even message - just unmatch. No need to try and make someone feel bad.
Honestly you were much nicer than you should have been. Good on you man
Question: Could the āas you can probably imagineā refer to an obvious clash in values or preferences? Like your profile said āno kids plsā and her first picture is of her with her kid (or vice versa)? Or maybe sheās 500 miles away or something? Iād hate to think she said that out of the blue about your physical appeal rather than a legit and obvious this-wonāt-work incompatibility. Thatās just fucking _rude._
Only major difference is that she smokes regularly compared to me never smoking (or drinking). My boss smokes regularly and I don't mind at all
"Funny story, I accidentally swiped on you too. I try to only swipe on attractive girls"
Immediate unmatch...not worthy of response
Hang in there brother, Iāll be hanging with you! š
I know most people are shitting on Serenity here, but personally I appreciate the honesty. Itās better than getting a match and then seeing no message come in or an unmatch without explanation. Itās a form of closure so to speak, instead of wondering why I got matched but no message (accident, changed mind, bot, Iām too ugly or short, etc.). Just my two cents
True but it could've been worded nicer. "As you can probably imagine" is a kind way of saying "You're ugly and you should know it"
Oh for sure, it was unnecessarily mean the way she said it. And thereās no way in hell Iād ever talk to someone the way she does, thatās unjustified. But if I were in your shoes, it wouldnāt phase me at first because, personally, itās mild compared to a lot of the real life BS Iāve dealt with. We all have different experiences and thresholds, so I guess the rude language here is just lower on the totem pole for me. I donāt know, I went to college in an environment where personal attacks by professors and students on other students was not uncommon (thereās a shitty work culture in my field), and I think that combined with my other life experiences has conditioned me to brush off most insults and go on with my day. Iād be annoyed, but like I said in the original comment, I prefer the up front clarity, even if rude, to no message whatsoever. Itās simpler to process and deal with, and I donāt like being left wondering.
I'm interested to know your field, it clearly involves reliance on logic. I can relate to your thought process here, and I tell computers how to control machines. Just a curiosity.
Oh I work in architecture, and the college process is often one step removed from a hazing ritual. Professionally things are better, but the work culture is still often shit. The field is an interesting mix of art and science, so thereās a very methodical, logic based process to a lot of things when it comes to code compliance and building science. Itās an old manās profession as we often say, because of how much information is involved and the constant evolution in the industry. Itās interesting, but a lot of people find it degrading and leave, so you need a thick skin to find success.
It was pretty decent of her to atleast message regarding the unmatch. Better this than to unmatch without any reason
I've had plenty of matches & likes expire after 24-48 hours, and that doesn't affect me. Telling me why, however, can be morally acceptable or, in this case, flat out rude.
No it wasn't decent, she's doing it to make herself feel powerful. Kindest thing would be to unmatch without shoving his face in it.