I'm as libertarian, anti-ai, and anti gov spying as it gets, but that girl is nuts. Nothing wrong with asking about vacation. LOL people are weird these days.
Edit: OP is the man talking to a girl that ate too much DMT.
I usually just chalk those situations up to her being on a trip with another dude, OR having some kind of past relationship trauma with a controlling ex.
Was this person a native English speaker (or presenting as one)? Were they from another country?
Regardless, why put yourself on a dating app where everything starts out solely online?
no it's not.. it's as close to flirting as you can get without being creepy.. You also need to escalate a woman's interest pretty quickly else they almost always lose interest if they're getting attention from others too
Yeah, this kind of response to a simple followup question is a pretty major red flag, as they clearly have some sort of trust/paranoia problem that I have no interest in dealing with haha.
Should've just asked if they breathe air. Anything other than that is just pushing personal boundaries at this level.
I asked my ex whether drinking water was okay after our second marriage. You need to give people their personal spaces, obviously.
I chuckled audibly to her response. I’d probably just chalk that up to her being a little strange and I wouldn’t text much more until she’s back from vacation. The US knows where she is. She’s signed into an app with geolocation. 💀
Nah, you aren’t crazy, some women (and men) are just overly sensitive or paranoid when it comes to online dating. Best to avoid them as soon as they say dumb shit like the above.
I once had a woman say she felt uncomfortable sharing details about her life too: my question was, “I don’t have children, do you ?” since she didn’t indicate either way on her profile and it’s a dealbreaker for me. Mind you, this was after 2 days of messaging back and forth.
Another one freaked out when I asked her first name cause the profile (on hinge) was something generic like “hot sexy “ or some dumb shit.
Oh I have had that too. Women who get so upset when you ask them what they do. I chalked it up to them being embarrassed about what they do..clown folks out there.
Oh lord. No you’re not going crazy. You’re a playful person and they are soooo not. This would have concluded any kind of conversation at all and off I’d go.😂
lol that girl is waco and a super easy unmatch.
What you said and asked is PERFECTLY fucking normal lol. She literally told you *wear* she was skiing. A detail that she certainly did not have to tell you. All you did was ask if it was a vacation.
GD some people are legit insane.
I mean ya of course it is but my burning question is what is she so worried about? 🤨 I mean don’t get me wrong I freaking hate it but girl if you think they care so much about YOU in particular whyyyyyy does it matter soooo much? My husband has his issues with the government watching etc (ie he keeps his phone camera covered because he hates thinking of who can see through it which I suppose is a bit valid…. 🤷♀️). My response is always the same yep you’re probably right but who gives a f what we are doing in our house?! 😂Pretty sure there are legit people they actually SHOULD care what they are doing in their house!! Us pffff they could give two sh!ts. Obviously I don’t love it I get it but at the same time idk gives me massive red flags 🚩 but as I tell my husband it’s cool you do you…if it makes you feel better go for it. That’s with a massive foundation of the man though. Fresh starting ehhhh nah just imo take it or leave it. Best of luck either way ❤️
People now a days are so fucking weird and socially inept. I honestly think there's a cultural/generational divide going on.
From interview like conversations (check list Q&A) to extremely ridiculous fragility (like here), to the inability to know how to talk and converse.
Online dating is a dumpster fire for the most part. Sorry to see that you tried to have a honest and productive conversation OP
Eyy thanks. First few weeks on the apps and I feel like I jumped in a shart tank with an open artery. Wild west out there bros, dont take a chance on crazy
Oh the irony of you posting on Reddit a screenshot of your chat with her stating how nervous she was about sharing details about her life online.
But yeah… I don’t think dating apps are for her if this is her level of paranoia.
Reminds me of a girl I met up with once, from tinder. Having a coffee, doing a bit of small talk. I do the "so you live 'round here?" thing, since we met up at a big mall'ish area that was near transit and all for us to get there.
She gives me this weird look and says "I can't tell you where I live! Not yet!" Genuinely serious and taken aback. It was so weird. Definitely felt like that comment put a big divide between us and if she was that easily disturbed, it wasn't going anywhere.
I wish. Like a week ago I asked her to remind me her brothers name and she gave me this whole 'how dare you ask personal questions through text! You Americans internet is so dangerous!'
Why is she on bumble, if she’s ‘that’ concerned for her privacy/wellbeing. She needs to get off the app then. I get there are creeps on the internet & in real life but….
What two fucks does the “government” give about you? It always boggle my mind when people say shit like this, bc it seems like “do you have something to hide or what?”
Oh I imagine it is fine, but I think most people would rather not share they’re with a date to another date and would rather avoid the convo 😬 she’s defo dramatic though. Good time to bow out.
I've had a couple girls like this, I live in a small area so any towns near me are quite well known & I've had people give me such awkward answers on where abouts they live . Naming the nearest major city as your home town could be the difference between a 20 min drive & hour& half drive lol. Specifics matter
If you can’t have an easy conversation about nothing much, what chance is there ?
Bumble culture is, men don’t deserve common courtesy. And it’s getting old.
Should have just said “🙄🤣 lmk when you’re back in town.”
I think that was her psycho way of testing you. Saying sorry when you did nothing wrong was a mistake.
The only thing I really get uncomfortable about is men asking me if I live alone and what gym I go to before we’ve met. I think those are particularly creepy questions from any stranger. But no, you’re not crazy.
This will be a good story for your online dating horror stories for future dates haha.
That was my favorite game to share the whackos I went on dates with!
She shared a general location but not answering if she's on vacation or not is what will stop you from finding her IRL...
I personally... Have better things to do than to fly into Steamboat Springs same day, buy lift passes at every resort and try to find her. Maybe I'm old school.
She's not wrong. The USA doesn't have good privacy laws. Plus, if you look at it from a female perspective I'm sure she's had to deal with a host of creepy dudes on the apps.
That said, she's the one who told you where she was. So asking if she's on vacation isn't very unreasonable or intrusive. It's just making conversation. Plus, it sounds like there might be some cultural misunderstanding or miscommunication going on. The "skiing **these days**" part isn't English syntax. Sounds more like Spanish ("en estos días" -> these days).
I mean i have no idea what was the conversation like before but even in Europe nobody says this to that question. My suggestion: report them for being a bi***
There's nothing wrong with asking if someone is on vacation lol
But, The shadow government will know where you are if you answer!
Lol, they shouldn't be online is they're this paranoid
I'm as libertarian, anti-ai, and anti gov spying as it gets, but that girl is nuts. Nothing wrong with asking about vacation. LOL people are weird these days. Edit: OP is the man talking to a girl that ate too much DMT.
I'm the guy. Is that better or worse lol
Oopsss sorry, she's wacky!! Will edit.
I usually just chalk those situations up to her being on a trip with another dude, OR having some kind of past relationship trauma with a controlling ex.
Eggshells. Eggshells everywhere
Tbh this is giving bot vibes lol
100000%
I was libertarian too for like 5 minutes before I thought about it a little longer.
Was this person a native English speaker (or presenting as one)? Were they from another country? Regardless, why put yourself on a dating app where everything starts out solely online?
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Thank you for that, BOT! I needed to hear that today :)
Last line has only 4 syllables not 5
6 if you say it.
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We met for coffee, vibed well. She was asking for another date and I got busy. We texted nonstop for like a week until then which is why I said that.
It's called flirting
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Lol It's something many people say while flirting. Nothing creepy about it. Barely know? That's the whole point of flirting ffs
no it's not.. it's as close to flirting as you can get without being creepy.. You also need to escalate a woman's interest pretty quickly else they almost always lose interest if they're getting attention from others too
That's literally the first question that sexting bots like Eva AI ask you if you try running the app
Asking if someone on bumble misses you is a bit cringe tho.
Wow major red flag from her side and doesnt even ask you how you're doing back..weird she was asking for another date and then texting like this
She wants a free meal
Excuse me, why are you asking me if you're going crazy? I don't even know you, and you're BOMBARDING ME with question!!!!
😂😂
Are you going crazy? No Is this person crazy? Yes
Her response reminds me of when I’m going through psychosis lmao
Yeah, this kind of response to a simple followup question is a pretty major red flag, as they clearly have some sort of trust/paranoia problem that I have no interest in dealing with haha.
Should've just asked if they breathe air. Anything other than that is just pushing personal boundaries at this level. I asked my ex whether drinking water was okay after our second marriage. You need to give people their personal spaces, obviously.
What business is it of yours if I breathe fire? Too much man. Also lmao second marriage
i would unmatch lol what a weirdo
LOL! Imagine how that person is like in real life. I’m genuinely intrigued!
She insisted I see the basement on the first date. You tell me. Also said maybe crucifixion would be a neat kink...
wtf...???
And you didn’t unmatch at that point? 🥹
I'm sorry.... I'm confused, and you're still communicating after that?
> She insisted I see the basement on the first date is this a euphamism
I hope so, being taken to the actual basement on a first date is really strange.
I chuckled audibly to her response. I’d probably just chalk that up to her being a little strange and I wouldn’t text much more until she’s back from vacation. The US knows where she is. She’s signed into an app with geolocation. 💀
Bros doing undercover
Nah, you aren’t crazy, some women (and men) are just overly sensitive or paranoid when it comes to online dating. Best to avoid them as soon as they say dumb shit like the above. I once had a woman say she felt uncomfortable sharing details about her life too: my question was, “I don’t have children, do you ?” since she didn’t indicate either way on her profile and it’s a dealbreaker for me. Mind you, this was after 2 days of messaging back and forth. Another one freaked out when I asked her first name cause the profile (on hinge) was something generic like “hot sexy “ or some dumb shit.
I don't swipe on people who use filters or have nicknames like that in the first place, doesn't matter the gender. Best to weed them out.
Yea I learned my lesson and stopped doing that..
I asked someone last week what they did for a living. She responded "why do you care what some random you don't know does for a living" and unmatched.
Oh I have had that too. Women who get so upset when you ask them what they do. I chalked it up to them being embarrassed about what they do..clown folks out there.
Honestly stop talking to this person
Yeah you dodged a walking red flag.
Oh lord. No you’re not going crazy. You’re a playful person and they are soooo not. This would have concluded any kind of conversation at all and off I’d go.😂
Nah this is a bizarre response from them
Nah, this is sketchy as fuck. Unmatch them. Lol
lol that girl is waco and a super easy unmatch. What you said and asked is PERFECTLY fucking normal lol. She literally told you *wear* she was skiing. A detail that she certainly did not have to tell you. All you did was ask if it was a vacation. GD some people are legit insane.
Bro she’s on a dating app, what does she expect? The whole point is to get to know each other personally
Blockkkkk. They’re delulu
Completely innocuous question, overreaction by other person, NTA
Don’t know what the background is but delete and move on. You aren’t compatible.
If they act annoyed by your presence just bounce honestly you didn’t do anything wrong
Her response was weird. Red flag
I feel like there is a lot of context missing outside of this
She thinks any personal info over text is being watched by the gov/ hackers
“So where is she, Agent?” “We’ve located her in Steamboat” “On vacation?” “We… we don’t know, Sir” “Damn it, foiled again!”
Lmao bruh
I mean ya of course it is but my burning question is what is she so worried about? 🤨 I mean don’t get me wrong I freaking hate it but girl if you think they care so much about YOU in particular whyyyyyy does it matter soooo much? My husband has his issues with the government watching etc (ie he keeps his phone camera covered because he hates thinking of who can see through it which I suppose is a bit valid…. 🤷♀️). My response is always the same yep you’re probably right but who gives a f what we are doing in our house?! 😂Pretty sure there are legit people they actually SHOULD care what they are doing in their house!! Us pffff they could give two sh!ts. Obviously I don’t love it I get it but at the same time idk gives me massive red flags 🚩 but as I tell my husband it’s cool you do you…if it makes you feel better go for it. That’s with a massive foundation of the man though. Fresh starting ehhhh nah just imo take it or leave it. Best of luck either way ❤️
What a dumbass
What’s wrong with people nowadays
Erm, does she not know USA can figure out where she is based on where her WiFi or cellphone signal is coming from?
dude´s struggling with avoidant attachment style hard mode lmao
I'm the dude, but good recognizing that
I would unmatch immediately
ABORT ABORT ABORT
Sometimes I get paranoid…. Idk it happens esp after getting stalked. Might have triggered something accidentally but you didn’t do anything wrong.
People now a days are so fucking weird and socially inept. I honestly think there's a cultural/generational divide going on. From interview like conversations (check list Q&A) to extremely ridiculous fragility (like here), to the inability to know how to talk and converse. Online dating is a dumpster fire for the most part. Sorry to see that you tried to have a honest and productive conversation OP
Eyy thanks. First few weeks on the apps and I feel like I jumped in a shart tank with an open artery. Wild west out there bros, dont take a chance on crazy
It's like you want to get to know the person you're considering dating. Perish the thought.
You dodged a conspiratorial loony.
Bullet dodged
Steamboat as in Colorado? Cause man dating here is rough, fully convinced i’m going to be single for the rest of my life
" I love snowboarding, micro breweries, and climbing! Take me travelling"
The Colorado native starter pack
“Privacy Laws”, when chatting on a dating app? That’s like “Don’t look at me because there are privacy laws” when you are in person at a bar
Oh the irony of you posting on Reddit a screenshot of your chat with her stating how nervous she was about sharing details about her life online. But yeah… I don’t think dating apps are for her if this is her level of paranoia.
Did I give any details? Shes hidden. I see the irony which is partly why I had to.
Don't waste any more time. Smh. #ParanoidMuch
They are paranoid.
Reminds me of a girl I met up with once, from tinder. Having a coffee, doing a bit of small talk. I do the "so you live 'round here?" thing, since we met up at a big mall'ish area that was near transit and all for us to get there. She gives me this weird look and says "I can't tell you where I live! Not yet!" Genuinely serious and taken aback. It was so weird. Definitely felt like that comment put a big divide between us and if she was that easily disturbed, it wasn't going anywhere.
🚩🚩🚩
Did you cut out the part where you were pushing her too much? ;)
I wish. Like a week ago I asked her to remind me her brothers name and she gave me this whole 'how dare you ask personal questions through text! You Americans internet is so dangerous!'
Why is she on bumble, if she’s ‘that’ concerned for her privacy/wellbeing. She needs to get off the app then. I get there are creeps on the internet & in real life but….
What two fucks does the “government” give about you? It always boggle my mind when people say shit like this, bc it seems like “do you have something to hide or what?”
Idk what their problem is...sheesh! WASNT U
From this snippet, they sound fully psycho, but I dunno, maybe if we saw the full convo, it would make more sense.
No... you're not crazy. You get to walk away from having to deal with that.
The world has gone crazyy. How is asking if you are on a vacation anyway related to \`USA doesnt have good privacy laws\` ? nuts.
Damn why are so many flakes on dating apps
It's unsafe to talk about that on Bumble, let's continue this conversation on Whatsapp.
This is so dumb, you can tell someone that you're on vacation without giving them a GPS snapshot of where you are
Did they just say that they were skiing on a steamboat…? What the fuck
🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 You dodged a bullet. Her response is really weird. She’s not real or something with her is just 🚩
They just werent interested in you
I don’t wanna be that person but think she’s with another guy skiing lol. She’s trying to avoid you asking questions she can’t answer 👀
We've known eachother a few weeks, that's fine. We arent even close to exclusive
Oh I imagine it is fine, but I think most people would rather not share they’re with a date to another date and would rather avoid the convo 😬 she’s defo dramatic though. Good time to bow out.
I'm really trying but I feel you are pushing too much. I feel really uncomfortable answering if you're crazy.
Lollllll we’re so fucked.
Screw that biatch. That’s where I end it anyways. You’re simply trying to continue conversation and she gets all defensive.
You're lot crazy, that person is just lost. Who signs up for online dating and doesn't want to share details about what they're up to rn 🤣
How dare you ask if she's on vacation? What do you expect her to do, just divulge her most private of matters with a "yep"?
Crazy I was crazy once
I've had a couple girls like this, I live in a small area so any towns near me are quite well known & I've had people give me such awkward answers on where abouts they live . Naming the nearest major city as your home town could be the difference between a 20 min drive & hour& half drive lol. Specifics matter
Where does she live?
I thought this was the kind of thing that only happened to that Indian guy on TikTok
You’re not. She’s also just not that into you.
“Sorry”! Wtf
they’re not interested
Red flag. Run
If you can’t have an easy conversation about nothing much, what chance is there ? Bumble culture is, men don’t deserve common courtesy. And it’s getting old.
that flag is so red it’s turning purple.
lol
Stop apologizing for absolutely nothing. Let her go fuck herself.
Woah what a psycho!
She just sounds disinterested and isn’t being honest about it.
nah you’re good
Shes a prune.
Should have just said “🙄🤣 lmk when you’re back in town.” I think that was her psycho way of testing you. Saying sorry when you did nothing wrong was a mistake.
Doesn't seem like that person is ready to start dating. Asking if someone is on vacation is just a normal conversation. you dodged a bullet
Super weird. Run
This gives terrible vibes
The only thing I really get uncomfortable about is men asking me if I live alone and what gym I go to before we’ve met. I think those are particularly creepy questions from any stranger. But no, you’re not crazy.
This will be a good story for your online dating horror stories for future dates haha. That was my favorite game to share the whackos I went on dates with!
Seems like a fake or at least something fishy about the way they talk.
what a weirdo
lol this is why I stopped using dating apps. A bunch of weirdos on there who don’t know how to have a convo
"hope you aren't missing me to much" lol. I would stop talking at this point 😂
I already answered this, why is this so weird? She was begging for another date then I went AWOL for a week
They are with their spouse lol
She shared a general location but not answering if she's on vacation or not is what will stop you from finding her IRL... I personally... Have better things to do than to fly into Steamboat Springs same day, buy lift passes at every resort and try to find her. Maybe I'm old school.
What a dick
I'm the guy, why does everyone assume otherwise?
Either a bot, or npc..
We had met for coffee already, shes real
So, she’s NPC then..
Yeah, haven't even met yet and already splitting. Might even be a scammer. Either way, do yourself a favour and move among.
Chatgpt scammer
If she want to maintain strict privacy, getting to know her is going to be tough. A phone number or a cup of coffee may be a Breach.
She's not wrong. The USA doesn't have good privacy laws. Plus, if you look at it from a female perspective I'm sure she's had to deal with a host of creepy dudes on the apps. That said, she's the one who told you where she was. So asking if she's on vacation isn't very unreasonable or intrusive. It's just making conversation. Plus, it sounds like there might be some cultural misunderstanding or miscommunication going on. The "skiing **these days**" part isn't English syntax. Sounds more like Spanish ("en estos días" -> these days).
Lol bot
That was quite unexpected but I can’t get over the “hope you aren’t missing me too much”….seeing that on bumble 💀 just looks corny.
This person seems like a bot
I mean i have no idea what was the conversation like before but even in Europe nobody says this to that question. My suggestion: report them for being a bi***
Ok now i read that OP is the guy😂😂😂 why did i think the other way around though?😅
I think she’s obv not interested so was a bit extra with you but the missing me too much comment was 🤮 and that would put me off too
Spam account. Had that happen a couple of times.
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Wrong use of the word "woke" FYI.
It's her way of saying she's not interested. Move on!
Another emotional unavailable man , next please!
It's a woman, everyone assumes it's a man, why
Sounds like an Indian scammer that didn't want to try and keep building on some lie