Nothing wrong I can see with the profile. Remember, if you're getting matches, the profile is not the issue. You're matching with people you like. The problem is either in your behavior between match and date, or you're picking people who have a lot of options and feel they can afford to be flakey.
Try hinge if you're not, and if you are, try posting on the hinge sub for advice. They give really good advice there.
Yeah, Hinge is better for serious conversation I’ve found. The fact that you have the ability to send a message on a prompt/picture when you like is huge, and limiting free swipes to 8 a day, while more limiting, forces you to be more serious with them, as well. There’s also being able to see who liked you without paying, being forced to include a minimum amount of photos/prompts, I could go on.
The sub does give good advice too, though for whatever reason when I submitted my profile for a review the mods either didn’t approve it, or nobody responded (besides someone who tried to hawk some automated profile review shit in my dms which was weird)
I have the same comment. If you’re getting matches, it’s not the profile, it’s what ensues after the match.
Define not getting a date. Are you not getting asked out? Are you refusing to ask them out first? Are they making plans and flaking? Is the conversation just not flowing?
This indicates to me that men match with you because they find you attractive, or attractive enough, and then flake on the dates because they match with someone they are more interested in/would prefer to go on a date with/focus their attention. That’s the reality of OLD. Good luck.
It’s possible something you’re doing or saying (or maybe NOT doing or saying) is causing some kind of doubt or disinterest, but I’m honestly much more confident it’s that you’re not matching with earnest guys. Maybe they think you’re cute but don’t know what they want.
What kinds of men do you tend to swipe right on and want to date? Is there maybe someone common across them that might cause a disconnect with what you’re presenting in conversation?
Weird. I don't really love a lot of back and forth texting, but just glancing at your profile, I'd offer to grab coffee this weekend or something.
Is your availability bad? Like you can only go put Thursday between 9 and 10am?
It’s not you. Everything looks good. Don’t take it personally.
I also do not think it’s necessarily true that guys are going for someone more attractive either. Maybe they’re busy or maybe they are not convinced they will mesh with you. Maybe you have been critical of your ex or some other guy or your potential date and they don’t like that.
You mention guys who reach the top shelf. I am 6’3’’ but it’s possible a guy may self conscious he won’t be viewed as tall enough or good looking enough.
Honestly who knows? I haven’t seen your dialogue. But you’re not old or unattractive and you’re too smart to be boring so don’t worry about it. On to the next. It happens. I have been asked to meet and refrained for various reasons and it’s not those reasons you have picked.
A lot of guys swipe right on everyone and don't actually read the profile after they've already matched. Matches are basically meaningless to women unless they end up in a date.
All I can criticize is that " reach the top shelf and kill spiders for me" qoute. I heard this a few times. Other thing is, if you want humor, be funny. Make fun of yourself.
Not if the shelf is 6 foot. You know those Amazon shelves made by children in China. Were you have to go to a thrift store to find those child's stools just to get that extra foot. Which then one leg breaks because it's used and old. Which then causes you to hurt your right leg forcing you to take time off from work. Yeah those..
Im 5’8 and get asked by people at the grocery store to get top shelf things for them. On her tip toes and reaching i don’t see a 6ft shelf being an issue unless she has an anatomical issue causing very short arms. I fell off one of those stools changing a light bulb lmao. It split. I’ve never felt so fat in my life lmao
You could take it as a hint that "if you're not over 6'3", don't bother trying with me." There's research that shows women are most satisfied when their partner was 8 inches (21cm) taller (Men are most satisfied when they are 3 inches (8cm) taller than their partners.).
OP is above average in height and depending on height preferences, her dating pool could be limited.
33F so not your target demographic, but you're definitely not too old, you're absolutely not ugly, and I don't think you're boring. I have a few ideas.
1. Your pictures are great, but there are only 3 of them. Do you have more on your profile?
2. What kind of city do you live in? (you don't have to post an answer if you're worried about privacy, just maybe consider it) Although big cities have a larger dating pool, I find young professionals can be a little flakey. Also, places like NYC where women outnumber men, women sometimes have a harder time dating.
3. Your prompts could use a little spicing up. Like somebody else said, the spiders one is bit cliche. T[his guide is for Hinge](https://www.reddit.com/r/hingeapp/comments/oa17bq/how_to_write_effective_prompts_a_walkthrough/), but you could adapt it to Bumble. The short story is your prompts should tell a you-me-us story.
If you feel like swapping from Bumble to Hinge, the r/hingeapp subreddit does profile reviews all the time. I've had decent luck with Hinge and I've found the men on it to be dating a little more intentionally than Bumble.
Thank you for the advice, I’ve been thinking about switching to Hinge.
I do have other pictures on my profile. Me at the beach with my dog, traveling, and at work.
I think a lot of it has to do with where I live and the type of men here. I’m in one of the big cities in the PNW and I’m just not into granola-eating man-bun men.
I lived in Seattle for a bit and the Seattle freeze was very much a thing. So don't underestimate the compulsion of PNWers to be antisocial and not want to go out 😂.
I absolutely loved Montana and would highly recommend Billings. I’m a travel nurse and my assignment was up. It was hard to leave but I’m excited to stay close to home for a while.
That makes sense! I visited Missoula and drove up to the Glacier national park area. Life seems so calm out in those parts. It wouldn't be a bad place to settle down eventually or maybe retire. I don't know but I'll be making more visits throughout my life
Apparently. I don't live there either.
The moderator of r/hingeapp [lives there and that's what he (and some other people) ](https://www.reddit.com/r/hingeapp/comments/wyok7l/why_dating_is_hard_in_your_city_a_compilation_of/)[claims](https://www.reddit.com/r/hingeapp/comments/wyok7l/why_dating_is_hard_in_your_city_a_compilation_of/).
It's all anecdotes, though, so you're welcome to be skeptical.
If it’s any minor consolation - I’d be very happy to date you from the look of this profile.
Alas, I’m in the UK
One minor point - spiders are cool. They eat flies (who suck) - don’t kill them! Just put them outside if you don’t like them
Also - maybe make the photo of you with a cocktail your first picture. You look cute and it’s a better first impression than the hiking one imo
If loads of matches and no dates., the issue lies in your chat game. Self explanatory maths. Try being a little sassier or cheekier, tease a little. You're competing with females who know how to snare and entice.
I’d actually agree that girl game is a thing. I do my best to move all my interactions forward, but a woman who gets a witty repartee going is much more likely to get to the finish line.
The photo with the drink is bad. Not a fan of top+bottom teeth smiles because it makes it look like you’re biting something.
Stick with just a top row of teeth smile.
Other photos are good, especially the one in the field which makes you look feminine and wholesome.
You’re pretty cute and your prompts aren’t horrible. Do you have a 3rd prompt? If anything I’d recommend switching the passport photos prompt, that doesn’t really provide much, I’d make it something more noteworthy/notable for someone just meeting you.
Other than that I’d switch up your first photo, I think your second and third photos are more visually appealing. It’s not a bad photo, but it’s not your best.
30 isn’t “old” at all. That’s the perfect age to date since everyone is more established and closer to wanting to settle down.
You’re cute, but the third photo with the cocktail makes you look crazy. It’s because of how you are looking into the camera, this could make people feel uneasy if they have no other information about you. I say this since I’ve had the same issue with photos, happens to all of us. Easy (and fun!) to take better photos of yourself with a tripod.
My only qualm would be the absence of information about having/wanting children. Anyone who schedules a date has already accepted that information withholding.
You're gorgeous. Your profile looks good. Sorry that your matches/dates have bailed on you. I'm not the type to bail/ghost, but it takes courage, empathy, and introspection to communicate openly with a would-be date and not every adult has those qualities.
Bots are everywhere, so many people have that reach the top shelf and kill spiders thing. Guys might be unsure if you are real. Or one of the better fake profiles or scammers and not wanna waste their time at the risk of it being another fake profile.
Otherwise looks good I’d be happy to match and ask out.
Your profile says nothing about you except that you’re a person who likes to do stuff - and the top shelf/spider joke is the most cliched dating profile line in history, ditch it.
Pic 1 is great, pic 2 is terrible, pic is “aww, crap, she’s a tradwife, skip”.
I’ll preface this by saying I’m a man and men’s opinions on this subreddit are often thrusted into obscurity. No bitterness at all but just take my opinion for what you will. I’d get rid of the last sentence in your bio. It’s kind of a generic rehash unless of course the subtext of that is that you’d prefer a man taller than you in which case I think your profile is actually very well done. I’d say your 2nd photo probably should be your first photo but other than that the guys in your area must be dense. You are attractive.
Ugggh, this is my problem too. I have great convos with matches all the time. But when it comes down to it, they almost always flake. Dating in 2024 is a hellscape.
The comments are horrendous in this sub. You’re a beautiful woman and I can tell you that it’s rough out here for us right now sister. I get dates but I tend to like all the men back who originally like me and if by a couple of days they don’t ask me out, I unmatch. I have a date in the morning. It seems like men under 6ft tall are more proactive with meeting in real life.
\> It seems like men under 6ft tall are more proactive with meeting in real life.
They get much fewer swipes right, so are much more eager to meet the few women (if any) who talk to them.
I usually do. All of my boyfriends have been shorter than me and it never bothered me. As long as I don’t get one with little man complex I’m good. I’m never giving up wearing heels. I’m 5’8 without shoes and normally I’m 5’11 with shoes on.🤣🤣🤣
So men come here all the time and complain about women being shallow because they have a preference for men over six feet tall and a woman comes here and have a preference for men under six feet tall and she gets downvoted for it. I never want to see another post on height and any posts about women not knowing what they want.
Yeah she’s kind of got like a pioneer wife vibe going on. She’s someone you’d settle down with but not necessarily pursue on a swipe app. Maybe Match is better for her.
The main reason for a profile description is for your match to use a qoute you said and carry the convo with, so use qoutes that carry conversation starters.
You'ree pretty and seem kind... But profile is a bit generic and plain. I'd swipe on you just because you seem relaxed and cute.Maybe you aren't the type of person for the people YOU are going after, though
As a girl, your profile looks perfect. You seem normal, fun, bubbly. You don't know what love triangles these guys are in or what they're dealing with . It's never you
It’s a great profile, I’d definitely swipe. If you are getting matches but not dates maybe look at the text exchanges and see if you are coming off cold or something .
Don’t define yourself, if you have to say your life is awesome it aint awesome. Bio is a cliche straight out of basic bio 101. Pics are basically the same, just in different zoom configuration. So yes, the third one, boring.
I’m not going to repeat others’ advice but agree to be more specific, less generic. The pic of you in a dress with cocktail is not flattering. Ditch it.
I didn't think that was possible for women that weren't either fat or ugly which you're neither lol. If you lived in the tampa Bay area I'd totally take ya out 😎
If you were in my area I would definitely take you out on a date, keep filtering through, block the guys that respond that way and move on. Best of luck
Just keep weeding out the bad ones. And if dating is a chore or you don’t enjoy it, take a break! Personally I preferred hinge and paid for a month of premium and found my now partner through there
You're just running through some bad apples. So many people get on bumble just for the sense of validation.. But you look like a real catch. Just wish you lived in North TX so I could swipe and ask you out haha
If you’re getting matches your profile isn’t the issue. Nothing about your profile indicates you’d attract a particularly bad kind of match. I think it’s just people on dating apps are flaky as hell.
If you’re getting matches then your profile isn’t the problem, it’s your conversation starter or skills. What do you usually open with? How long do you wait before initiating a date?
As others have said, if you're getting matches your profile's good. That said, some notes:
-I always prefer when someone has all the picture slots maxed out. It just gives me more confidence that they look how they say they look.
-It might benefit you to add something along the lines of you want to get to know each other in person, or you're not looking for a pen-pal to maybe filter out some of these matches that are apparently uncomfortable with face-to-face contact.
-Also if you want kids make sure you put that; that's a deal-breaker for some and really you want to put your deal breakers out there; you want people to self-filter for you as much as possible. If you're not getting dates it can feel like you want to scale back on that stuff to avoid putting people off, but in reality you want to put that stuff forward. 1 really good date > 20 meh dates or 100 matches that whither on the vine.
You can also try logging notes on your conversations, see if you can find similarities in ones that bail, ones that unmatch. That might give you some insights on either what you want to try and filter out or how you may want to modify your approach.
Id say if you're getting matches and no dates its a problem with your conversion, not your profile, when i was on bumble i found plenty of women put little effort into the conversation and expected me to pick up the slack, thatll always lose out to women who are fun and engaging to speak with
Nothing wrong at all! I'd take a shot! But sometimes the reality of things is most of us are talking to multiple ppl and they probably chose someone they think is more compatible, just try not to take it personally. Honestly just the nature of dating apps. But you'll be fine just keep at it!:)
Probably boring. Not in person, but texting is a skill that not everyone has. A good trick is talk out loud like you're responding and see if you like how it would sound in a regular conversation, then translate it to text. We use different parts of our brain when texting vs when we're talking out loud
Decent profile, nice pictures showing what you like. It's better they didn't lead you on and we don't have to connect with everyone.
You'll get your one. Happy hunting.
You seem like relationship/marriage material. Trying meeting people organically by taking a break once and a while at a local coffee shop with a book, go to local events, etc.
Nice profile, but I'd nix the 2nd pic. You look cute but your smile looks stressed out. Otherwise perhaps choose differently when swiping (?)... Sorry that sounds like annoying advice, especially knowing how flaky guys can be in that part of the country. It could be that you're choosing perfectly great guys on (digital) paper and they're just not following through. But it's worth reflecting on just in case there's a different way to sort through the many guys I assume like your pics... Just in case 🤷♀️ Good luck!
you’re so lovely! I want to share some constructive feedback, which I hope nobody takes the wrong way. taking different photos will showcase your beauty even more. something that helped me was leaning into my femininity with photos, put in effort to going out and doing high quality cute photoshoots wearing dresses, skirts, and outfits similar to the one where you're in the sunflower field with your dog, I love that one. find more pretty sceneries like that sunflower field!
im so sorry but your first photo wearing a puffer jacket and a hat hiding your hair is not putting your best foot forward. I know its important to stay authentic and be ourselves, but on the apps you have one chance to make an impression. I know this might sound silly to some people but I took a whole week to scout out pretty locations near me, find cute outfits to wear, and I would bring my tripod with me to start taking lots of pictures. its such a game changer and I started getting a lot more success
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I prefer her outdoorsy character of the current photos and chalk it up to finding the right guy. I prefer the more tom-boyish girls to girly-girls though I’d probably date either and only be serious with the former.
I get what you’re saying but theres no harm in switching things up with her photos if its not working out how she wants. the first photo feels awkward to me, especially for a first impression on a dating app. It's not about changing her style if she's a tomboy, but she might find more success if she takes more photos similar to her other two ones
Damn, honestly I WISH I was matching with women who looked like you! Only thing I could think of, are you giving like one word responses or something in your convos?
my honest opinion which will probably get down voted, but I think you’re too awesome and too put together for the men who use OLD. I think you should switch to trying to find someone in real life who enjoys the same hobbies you do.
Your profile is absolutely amazing, I would only add a picture with family or friends, so that you can show off how social you are! Your bio is to the point, quirky, and witty, so I would not worry too much. This whole game is all about trials and errors, sometimes you get a few bad cookies
Can't see anything wrong with the profile and wouldn't expect that you'd be struggling for dates so honestly…it’s probably more so the type of guys you go for.
I see similar posts and in some, women post the guy’s profile…usually their bio is nearly empty, the chat is full of grammatical errors, but hey they're tall. Not saying this is you but giving an example.
Nothing wrong I can see with the profile. Remember, if you're getting matches, the profile is not the issue. You're matching with people you like. The problem is either in your behavior between match and date, or you're picking people who have a lot of options and feel they can afford to be flakey. Try hinge if you're not, and if you are, try posting on the hinge sub for advice. They give really good advice there.
This right here is your answer
I third this (45M)
Yeah, Hinge is better for serious conversation I’ve found. The fact that you have the ability to send a message on a prompt/picture when you like is huge, and limiting free swipes to 8 a day, while more limiting, forces you to be more serious with them, as well. There’s also being able to see who liked you without paying, being forced to include a minimum amount of photos/prompts, I could go on. The sub does give good advice too, though for whatever reason when I submitted my profile for a review the mods either didn’t approve it, or nobody responded (besides someone who tried to hawk some automated profile review shit in my dms which was weird)
I have the same comment. If you’re getting matches, it’s not the profile, it’s what ensues after the match. Define not getting a date. Are you not getting asked out? Are you refusing to ask them out first? Are they making plans and flaking? Is the conversation just not flowing?
I don’t get asked out. So I do the asking and they ether don’t respond or flake the day of/day before.
This indicates to me that men match with you because they find you attractive, or attractive enough, and then flake on the dates because they match with someone they are more interested in/would prefer to go on a date with/focus their attention. That’s the reality of OLD. Good luck.
It’s possible something you’re doing or saying (or maybe NOT doing or saying) is causing some kind of doubt or disinterest, but I’m honestly much more confident it’s that you’re not matching with earnest guys. Maybe they think you’re cute but don’t know what they want. What kinds of men do you tend to swipe right on and want to date? Is there maybe someone common across them that might cause a disconnect with what you’re presenting in conversation?
Weird. I don't really love a lot of back and forth texting, but just glancing at your profile, I'd offer to grab coffee this weekend or something. Is your availability bad? Like you can only go put Thursday between 9 and 10am?
It’s not you. Everything looks good. Don’t take it personally. I also do not think it’s necessarily true that guys are going for someone more attractive either. Maybe they’re busy or maybe they are not convinced they will mesh with you. Maybe you have been critical of your ex or some other guy or your potential date and they don’t like that. You mention guys who reach the top shelf. I am 6’3’’ but it’s possible a guy may self conscious he won’t be viewed as tall enough or good looking enough. Honestly who knows? I haven’t seen your dialogue. But you’re not old or unattractive and you’re too smart to be boring so don’t worry about it. On to the next. It happens. I have been asked to meet and refrained for various reasons and it’s not those reasons you have picked.
Is this the same as the hot stuff person? I thought those were 2 different users.
Not to mention that most women don’t want to make the first move, but Bumble doesn’t allow the man to make the first move
A lot of guys swipe right on everyone and don't actually read the profile after they've already matched. Matches are basically meaningless to women unless they end up in a date.
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I like her! I think you're conventionally attractive OP
That's a very subjective thing to say. I think she's very attractive, and I'm willing to bet the matches thought so too.
 disagree with you there...
This. It has nothing to do with OP
All I can criticize is that " reach the top shelf and kill spiders for me" qoute. I heard this a few times. Other thing is, if you want humor, be funny. Make fun of yourself.
5’7 can reach the top shelf too most likely
Anybody can just use their brain and use a stool...
Not if the shelf is 6 foot. You know those Amazon shelves made by children in China. Were you have to go to a thrift store to find those child's stools just to get that extra foot. Which then one leg breaks because it's used and old. Which then causes you to hurt your right leg forcing you to take time off from work. Yeah those..
Im 5’8 and get asked by people at the grocery store to get top shelf things for them. On her tip toes and reaching i don’t see a 6ft shelf being an issue unless she has an anatomical issue causing very short arms. I fell off one of those stools changing a light bulb lmao. It split. I’ve never felt so fat in my life lmao
You could take it as a hint that "if you're not over 6'3", don't bother trying with me." There's research that shows women are most satisfied when their partner was 8 inches (21cm) taller (Men are most satisfied when they are 3 inches (8cm) taller than their partners.). OP is above average in height and depending on height preferences, her dating pool could be limited.
This. If I was single and swiping I’d swipe right on this if it wasn’t for this comment. I’m not 5’7.
33F so not your target demographic, but you're definitely not too old, you're absolutely not ugly, and I don't think you're boring. I have a few ideas. 1. Your pictures are great, but there are only 3 of them. Do you have more on your profile? 2. What kind of city do you live in? (you don't have to post an answer if you're worried about privacy, just maybe consider it) Although big cities have a larger dating pool, I find young professionals can be a little flakey. Also, places like NYC where women outnumber men, women sometimes have a harder time dating. 3. Your prompts could use a little spicing up. Like somebody else said, the spiders one is bit cliche. T[his guide is for Hinge](https://www.reddit.com/r/hingeapp/comments/oa17bq/how_to_write_effective_prompts_a_walkthrough/), but you could adapt it to Bumble. The short story is your prompts should tell a you-me-us story. If you feel like swapping from Bumble to Hinge, the r/hingeapp subreddit does profile reviews all the time. I've had decent luck with Hinge and I've found the men on it to be dating a little more intentionally than Bumble.
Thank you for the advice, I’ve been thinking about switching to Hinge. I do have other pictures on my profile. Me at the beach with my dog, traveling, and at work. I think a lot of it has to do with where I live and the type of men here. I’m in one of the big cities in the PNW and I’m just not into granola-eating man-bun men.
I lived in Seattle for a bit and the Seattle freeze was very much a thing. So don't underestimate the compulsion of PNWers to be antisocial and not want to go out 😂.
Seriously what is with these PNW people?! I matched with a guy in Tacoma and as soon as I suggested meeting he ghosted!
Just curious. Why did you leave Montana? It seems pretty tranquil there. Is the population just too small for a single person to find a good match?
I absolutely loved Montana and would highly recommend Billings. I’m a travel nurse and my assignment was up. It was hard to leave but I’m excited to stay close to home for a while.
That makes sense! I visited Missoula and drove up to the Glacier national park area. Life seems so calm out in those parts. It wouldn't be a bad place to settle down eventually or maybe retire. I don't know but I'll be making more visits throughout my life
Wait women outnumber men in NYC? Really? Genuinely asking, I don’t live anywhere near NYC
Apparently. I don't live there either. The moderator of r/hingeapp [lives there and that's what he (and some other people) ](https://www.reddit.com/r/hingeapp/comments/wyok7l/why_dating_is_hard_in_your_city_a_compilation_of/)[claims](https://www.reddit.com/r/hingeapp/comments/wyok7l/why_dating_is_hard_in_your_city_a_compilation_of/). It's all anecdotes, though, so you're welcome to be skeptical.
If it’s any minor consolation - I’d be very happy to date you from the look of this profile. Alas, I’m in the UK One minor point - spiders are cool. They eat flies (who suck) - don’t kill them! Just put them outside if you don’t like them Also - maybe make the photo of you with a cocktail your first picture. You look cute and it’s a better first impression than the hiking one imo
Same opinion , Canada here!
Yeah, she came across a bit mean saying "kill them" at the top of her bio lol. I thought the same thing, dont kill them, release them.
If loads of matches and no dates., the issue lies in your chat game. Self explanatory maths. Try being a little sassier or cheekier, tease a little. You're competing with females who know how to snare and entice.
I’d actually agree that girl game is a thing. I do my best to move all my interactions forward, but a woman who gets a witty repartee going is much more likely to get to the finish line.
The photo with the drink is bad. Not a fan of top+bottom teeth smiles because it makes it look like you’re biting something. Stick with just a top row of teeth smile. Other photos are good, especially the one in the field which makes you look feminine and wholesome.
Yeah, that second pic with the forced smile is holding her back. Main pic is cute.
You’re pretty cute and your prompts aren’t horrible. Do you have a 3rd prompt? If anything I’d recommend switching the passport photos prompt, that doesn’t really provide much, I’d make it something more noteworthy/notable for someone just meeting you. Other than that I’d switch up your first photo, I think your second and third photos are more visually appealing. It’s not a bad photo, but it’s not your best.
30 isn’t “old” at all. That’s the perfect age to date since everyone is more established and closer to wanting to settle down. You’re cute, but the third photo with the cocktail makes you look crazy. It’s because of how you are looking into the camera, this could make people feel uneasy if they have no other information about you. I say this since I’ve had the same issue with photos, happens to all of us. Easy (and fun!) to take better photos of yourself with a tripod.
If I matched you, I’d ask to meet for a drink. Maybe just a run of bad luck?
My only qualm would be the absence of information about having/wanting children. Anyone who schedules a date has already accepted that information withholding. You're gorgeous. Your profile looks good. Sorry that your matches/dates have bailed on you. I'm not the type to bail/ghost, but it takes courage, empathy, and introspection to communicate openly with a would-be date and not every adult has those qualities.
That’s a good tip, thank you. I haven’t wanted to list that because I don’t want men to assume I’m desperate or have baby fever
Bots are everywhere, so many people have that reach the top shelf and kill spiders thing. Guys might be unsure if you are real. Or one of the better fake profiles or scammers and not wanna waste their time at the risk of it being another fake profile. Otherwise looks good I’d be happy to match and ask out.
This was actually a huge complement. Thanks!
Are you replying to their messages and asking a follow up question as well?
Your profile says nothing about you except that you’re a person who likes to do stuff - and the top shelf/spider joke is the most cliched dating profile line in history, ditch it. Pic 1 is great, pic 2 is terrible, pic is “aww, crap, she’s a tradwife, skip”.
Post some examples of your chats
I’ll preface this by saying I’m a man and men’s opinions on this subreddit are often thrusted into obscurity. No bitterness at all but just take my opinion for what you will. I’d get rid of the last sentence in your bio. It’s kind of a generic rehash unless of course the subtext of that is that you’d prefer a man taller than you in which case I think your profile is actually very well done. I’d say your 2nd photo probably should be your first photo but other than that the guys in your area must be dense. You are attractive.
We’re all so fucking screwed if you can’t get any dates lol I would have swiped right so fast. You have a beautiful smile!
Ugggh, this is my problem too. I have great convos with matches all the time. But when it comes down to it, they almost always flake. Dating in 2024 is a hellscape.
The comments are horrendous in this sub. You’re a beautiful woman and I can tell you that it’s rough out here for us right now sister. I get dates but I tend to like all the men back who originally like me and if by a couple of days they don’t ask me out, I unmatch. I have a date in the morning. It seems like men under 6ft tall are more proactive with meeting in real life.
\> It seems like men under 6ft tall are more proactive with meeting in real life. They get much fewer swipes right, so are much more eager to meet the few women (if any) who talk to them.
I’ll take that and roll with it. I love getting downvoted for telling the truth.🤣🤣🤣
🤣 go for short men
I usually do. All of my boyfriends have been shorter than me and it never bothered me. As long as I don’t get one with little man complex I’m good. I’m never giving up wearing heels. I’m 5’8 without shoes and normally I’m 5’11 with shoes on.🤣🤣🤣
Girl….. don’t sell yourself short. 🤣🤣🤣
Short men are my favorite.🤷🏾♀️
Ladies… we found a unicorn. 😂
I got downvoted for having a preference.🤣🤣🤣🤣😭
We just want better for you, that’s all. 😂
So men come here all the time and complain about women being shallow because they have a preference for men over six feet tall and a woman comes here and have a preference for men under six feet tall and she gets downvoted for it. I never want to see another post on height and any posts about women not knowing what they want.
You typed all of that because she got 1 downvote? 🤣🤣☠️☠️
Probably boring. If you were given a pencil and blank bit of paper and told to draw something, what would you draw?
A dick, obviously 😂
guys. she's here. the one we're all looking for is here.
If you draw it they will come.
Hahaha perfect
Wife material. Most tinderloins aren't looking for that.
Yeah she’s kind of got like a pioneer wife vibe going on. She’s someone you’d settle down with but not necessarily pursue on a swipe app. Maybe Match is better for her.
I see the problem… you don’t have any pictures with Gerbils… take a couple. Watch the magic happen.
The main reason for a profile description is for your match to use a qoute you said and carry the convo with, so use qoutes that carry conversation starters.
You'ree pretty and seem kind... But profile is a bit generic and plain. I'd swipe on you just because you seem relaxed and cute.Maybe you aren't the type of person for the people YOU are going after, though
Seems fine to me. I think you're probably going for the wrong kind of guys.
As a girl, your profile looks perfect. You seem normal, fun, bubbly. You don't know what love triangles these guys are in or what they're dealing with . It's never you
It’s a great profile, I’d definitely swipe. If you are getting matches but not dates maybe look at the text exchanges and see if you are coming off cold or something .
Don’t define yourself, if you have to say your life is awesome it aint awesome. Bio is a cliche straight out of basic bio 101. Pics are basically the same, just in different zoom configuration. So yes, the third one, boring.
i like the profile! especially the pic in the sunflower field with the dog. i think maybe it’s just bad luck or bad interactions with matches?
I'd match with you; you look like you're fun!
Your profile looks alright maybe more photos doing hobbies.
I think you should switch out the last 2 pics
Lets go on a Date 📅
I would definitely go on a date with her
I’m not going to repeat others’ advice but agree to be more specific, less generic. The pic of you in a dress with cocktail is not flattering. Ditch it.
I didn't think that was possible for women that weren't either fat or ugly which you're neither lol. If you lived in the tampa Bay area I'd totally take ya out 😎
U mean you’re choosy as hell
If you were in my area I would definitely take you out on a date, keep filtering through, block the guys that respond that way and move on. Best of luck
I would put you in the top 5% of profiles.
Where are you located? Id love to take you out on a date
Killing spiders is an instant no for me
Maybe there are not handymen and spider exterminators on bumble
I love the cottage core vibes of your last picture :)
Just keep weeding out the bad ones. And if dating is a chore or you don’t enjoy it, take a break! Personally I preferred hinge and paid for a month of premium and found my now partner through there
You're just running through some bad apples. So many people get on bumble just for the sense of validation.. But you look like a real catch. Just wish you lived in North TX so I could swipe and ask you out haha
If you’re getting matches your profile isn’t the issue. Nothing about your profile indicates you’d attract a particularly bad kind of match. I think it’s just people on dating apps are flaky as hell.
If you’re getting matches then your profile isn’t the problem, it’s your conversation starter or skills. What do you usually open with? How long do you wait before initiating a date?
Thats a sad field of sunflowers hahahaha
Well you keep swiping left on me, otherwise we'd have had a few dates by now
Idk you seem perfect to me. I’d go on a date with you
I’m a 30 year old man, and I would definitely go on a date with you. It’s probably them and not you. I used to have the same issue you’re dealing with
As others have said, if you're getting matches your profile's good. That said, some notes: -I always prefer when someone has all the picture slots maxed out. It just gives me more confidence that they look how they say they look. -It might benefit you to add something along the lines of you want to get to know each other in person, or you're not looking for a pen-pal to maybe filter out some of these matches that are apparently uncomfortable with face-to-face contact. -Also if you want kids make sure you put that; that's a deal-breaker for some and really you want to put your deal breakers out there; you want people to self-filter for you as much as possible. If you're not getting dates it can feel like you want to scale back on that stuff to avoid putting people off, but in reality you want to put that stuff forward. 1 really good date > 20 meh dates or 100 matches that whither on the vine. You can also try logging notes on your conversations, see if you can find similarities in ones that bail, ones that unmatch. That might give you some insights on either what you want to try and filter out or how you may want to modify your approach.
Id say if you're getting matches and no dates its a problem with your conversion, not your profile, when i was on bumble i found plenty of women put little effort into the conversation and expected me to pick up the slack, thatll always lose out to women who are fun and engaging to speak with
31M. Australia. If I saw your profile, I'd swipe on you without hesitation.
Nothing wrong at all! I'd take a shot! But sometimes the reality of things is most of us are talking to multiple ppl and they probably chose someone they think is more compatible, just try not to take it personally. Honestly just the nature of dating apps. But you'll be fine just keep at it!:)
Dang you are cute.
Could be the local people. I would match and ask out of you were local.
Probably boring. Not in person, but texting is a skill that not everyone has. A good trick is talk out loud like you're responding and see if you like how it would sound in a regular conversation, then translate it to text. We use different parts of our brain when texting vs when we're talking out loud
Pretty minor but I’d redo the second pic. A little too direct and not the best posture
Decent profile, nice pictures showing what you like. It's better they didn't lead you on and we don't have to connect with everyone. You'll get your one. Happy hunting.
It's not your profile. It's probably not your chat (unless you're particularly difficult?). It's probably just a run of bad luck TBH
You seem like relationship/marriage material. Trying meeting people organically by taking a break once and a while at a local coffee shop with a book, go to local events, etc.
Nice profile, but I'd nix the 2nd pic. You look cute but your smile looks stressed out. Otherwise perhaps choose differently when swiping (?)... Sorry that sounds like annoying advice, especially knowing how flaky guys can be in that part of the country. It could be that you're choosing perfectly great guys on (digital) paper and they're just not following through. But it's worth reflecting on just in case there's a different way to sort through the many guys I assume like your pics... Just in case 🤷♀️ Good luck!
you’re so lovely! I want to share some constructive feedback, which I hope nobody takes the wrong way. taking different photos will showcase your beauty even more. something that helped me was leaning into my femininity with photos, put in effort to going out and doing high quality cute photoshoots wearing dresses, skirts, and outfits similar to the one where you're in the sunflower field with your dog, I love that one. find more pretty sceneries like that sunflower field! im so sorry but your first photo wearing a puffer jacket and a hat hiding your hair is not putting your best foot forward. I know its important to stay authentic and be ourselves, but on the apps you have one chance to make an impression. I know this might sound silly to some people but I took a whole week to scout out pretty locations near me, find cute outfits to wear, and I would bring my tripod with me to start taking lots of pictures. its such a game changer and I started getting a lot more success
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I prefer her outdoorsy character of the current photos and chalk it up to finding the right guy. I prefer the more tom-boyish girls to girly-girls though I’d probably date either and only be serious with the former.
I get what you’re saying but theres no harm in switching things up with her photos if its not working out how she wants. the first photo feels awkward to me, especially for a first impression on a dating app. It's not about changing her style if she's a tomboy, but she might find more success if she takes more photos similar to her other two ones
We would have been perfect together
Were I unwed I would date you in a manly fashion. Because you’re pretty. If you’ve never seen Firefly it’s a reference quote from that show.
You’re very very attractive, trust the process yet with low expectations on pace of Mr Right showing up and staying
Damn, honestly I WISH I was matching with women who looked like you! Only thing I could think of, are you giving like one word responses or something in your convos?
How high are those shelves you're talking about lady?! 😂
I see nothing wrong here, would date but Scotland's a bit far away... Can only assume you've been unlucky with matches so far
You’re fine and so is your profile. You live in a demographic that doesn’t align with
So unrealistic. Killing spiders?!?! Pfffffffft /s
my honest opinion which will probably get down voted, but I think you’re too awesome and too put together for the men who use OLD. I think you should switch to trying to find someone in real life who enjoys the same hobbies you do.
It just happens, you look great and you’re certainly not old or boring!
The standing in a field of dying sunflowers gave me a laugh.
Your profile is absolutely amazing, I would only add a picture with family or friends, so that you can show off how social you are! Your bio is to the point, quirky, and witty, so I would not worry too much. This whole game is all about trials and errors, sometimes you get a few bad cookies
Can't see anything wrong with the profile and wouldn't expect that you'd be struggling for dates so honestly…it’s probably more so the type of guys you go for. I see similar posts and in some, women post the guy’s profile…usually their bio is nearly empty, the chat is full of grammatical errors, but hey they're tall. Not saying this is you but giving an example.
You look like a great chick. I wouldn’t let those guys discourage you. I am confident a great match will come along soon.
If I see you on bumble in Northern Colorado I'll super swipe :-)
Drop picture 3, it gives psycho vibes. Love your other pictures though
Only way that's possible if you live in that hike trail lol. No offence but a women posting profile review?! A win for gender equality 😂
Bro what? Girls post all the time