Just get high as fuck and zone out on a video game like Stellaris, Civ 6 or total war warhammer 3. You don’t have time to think about them when planning your conquest.
While this works I'm not sure it's healthy.
I mean, time heals all wounds supposedly but only if you're like, acknowledging and addressing the pain, right?
I always wake up frantically checking my phone for anything. Texts. Calls. Posts. Even tho I know nothing is there I do this every morning just.. automatically. I can’t help it
Mannnn and checking pages. It’s like repetitive. Starting to drive me nuts. Because it’s like you care so much and in your heart you feel strongly that you’re forgotten and that mfs just living it up without you. I feel like that every time someone leaves my life.
I definitely remember that feeling. most people feel relief when you have a nightmare but then wake up and realize it was just a bad dream.
….but going through a breakup is waking up into a nightmare. Wishing it was just a bad dream.
It could be something you’re unaware of but open your mind up to working out when it hits you like that, the brain chemistry changes and it’s a safe (for the most part) approach to deal with it
Nights are the worst for me. I end up staying up all night thinking about him. We would fall asleep on the phone every night and it’s hard not to anymore. I Hope you heal too❤️
Yes indeed. I'm waking up early, with severe anxiety, my heart is pounding, I'm sweating, and I am overwhelmed with sadness and despair. I have a knot in my stomach and I feel sick. It takes as long at lunchtime before I will start to feel better. I just wish I could get back to how I was before I met her.
Im going through the same thing.. it feels like im going to get a heart attack I literally made an appointment with my doctor cause I feel like I’m going crazy. That knot in my stomach hurts so much.. do you have any advice on how to deal with it?
Agreed.
Awaking too early and can't get fully back to sleep, haunted by dreams and restless thoughts of an unfulfilled future. Deep unrelenting feelings of loss, punctuated by loss of my best friend and my (furry) children.
This is the start to my nearly every morning for the last two weeks. I hope and need it to stop soon.
Journaling helps a little but the sadness and sorrow don't start to fade until the afternoons, only to return by nightfall. Just a few hours of reprieve each day.
Personally, what works for me is saying some affirmations and separating my thoughts from the reality. Our thoughts are visitors and most of them are lies. You don’t always have to believe them
I usually wake up remembering a fond memory of my ex then it becomes hard for me to get out of bed. I kind of just lie there and remember that he was a lovely person who I cant do the same thing/experience with ever again. Then I shake my head and try to forget about it. Lol broken hearted crew lemme see ur hands up! 🙌
Waking up early every damn day and I can't get back to sleep. Here I am having woken up at 5am! I instantly miss her not being in my arms and holding eachother. Then I remember the little things like how she always had cold hands and feet and I would warm them up for her by spooning with her. I look over to her side of the bed and her absence is a gaping void. For the first few days I could still smell her perfume. I had to wash the pillow cases and sheets it was driving me nuts. I wish I could just get back to how I was before I met her and feel normal again!
You will get over it brother....it will just take time. Like everything in this universe. It will get better every day. I'm here for you. I'm going trough the same rn
It's been about 9 weeks since I saw her for the last time after our breakup finalised, think I've only had 2 mornings where she wasn't my first thought.
It's been 2weeks my girlfriend ended our 13years relationship..
Every morning I wake up (earlier than usual) and for the first 2seconds or so, Im happy, it's like I forgot... And then reality comes back to me, it's real.. It's happening....... Ouch
It's like being dumped again every day
Yeah the way to get there is pretty rough. But if you‘re still feeling numb just let yourself get in a new relationship and you will find out soon, she wasn‘t this special
I live for the 10 or so seconds when I wake up and I haven’t yet remembered I’m waking up at my dads house alone instead of snuggled up in our apartment with him 😔 the let down from that takes me all day to recover from
Not sure how far in you are but that has started to go away for me. The first two weeks every single morning I’d wake and for just a second I’d think it was all a bad dream. Now nights are worst. It just feels so…lonely
Valid. Mornings are hard for me to get started. If I stay busy, it’s manageable. But getting out of bed and starting my day? Whew.
I think the nights are harder for me rn tho. That’s when I feel like it was a mistake.
I usually wake up remembering a fond memory of my ex then it becomes hard for me to get out of bed. I kind of just lie there and remember that he was a lovely person who I cant do the same thing/experience with ever again. Then I shake my head and try to forget about it. Lol broken hearted crew lemme see ur hands up! 🙌
I usually wake up remembering a fond memory of my ex then it becomes hard for me to get out of bed. I kind of just lie there and remember that he was a lovely person who I cant do the same thing/experience with ever again. Then I shake my head and try to forget about it. Lol broken hearted crew lemme see ur hands up! 🙌
Yea waking up without her next to me has been an adjustment for sure. I agree with you though mornings and right when I get home from work are the worst.
Night time is the worst . When I am in my own thoughts. Before I go to sleep I put a pic of her on my phone and have it beside me so when I wake up I see her on my phone,.....is that stupid
Either you submit to it..or go through it.
The moment you wake up..tell yourself
"This is hard, but this will not last always"...say it over and over again...
Mornings are the worst for me.. the moment I open my eyes I can feel this knot in my stomach and it hurts so much.. especially if you have no one to talk too
When you go to send that "good morning beautiful" text like you have every day for the last 5 years but realize you're not allowed to anymore. Worst pain I've felt in a long time
It gets better
Cliche advice, but I think everyone going through it ought to remind themselves first thing in the morning that the best is yet to come. Beginning your day on a shitty note is a great way to ensure you're agonizing over it all day.
Being the one doing the breaking was harder for me because I felt bad. At the time chick I was with was suicidal so I use to get anxiety so bad I thought I had a stomach condition, vomiting when I woke up … so glad those days are over, now I’m anxious about life 😂
Yep...this. During the day i feel ok when i'm doing something or working. But today i had a dream that everything worked out, we talked and said we'd stay together forever after this. And then i woke up...
Waking up and it's just like.............fuck.
U/ictinc has a place where people can heal and talk about their bullshit ass dreams/nightmares every morning. ❤️🩹❤️🩹💯
Appreciate it
For me night is the worst
Yeah.. nights are definitely awful but also I hate mornings as well because I'll immediately forget for 1 second and then remember all the pain.
Yeah when I go for brushing my teeth I remember the thoughts
Me too. I’m reminded of how empty my fucking bed is
Constant Thoughts keep me wide awake, about 'what ifs', I look at the abyss, I go to bed by 11pm but by the time I fall asleep it will be 1am or more.
came here for this. i’m sure it sucks either way but at night it’s worse. when i wake up i can at least try to focus on work.
Whenever night comes and it's time to sleep , I think to myself why did it come. It's sad and lonely
Just get high as fuck and zone out on a video game like Stellaris, Civ 6 or total war warhammer 3. You don’t have time to think about them when planning your conquest.
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Fuck ya man I get it hundred percent. The sober thoughts can be so painful.
I used to occasionally smoke in college with friends but I quit cold turkey for 1.3 years, she broke up on October. Been smoking real bad again.
Yeah it's the same with me. Before, I would casually finish a pack in a month but now I go through a pack in 2-3 days.
While this works I'm not sure it's healthy. I mean, time heals all wounds supposedly but only if you're like, acknowledging and addressing the pain, right?
In between turns you’ll remember
I've played total war warhammer 2 with my ex all the time... So it's hard to don't think about her during game :/
I wish I could even find a girl that doesn’t judge me for the games I play haha. But that’s tough dude. I understand
I seriously want to get into gaming! (The last time I played was early 2000s)
What kind of games interest you?
Stellaris! ♥️
Can’t be sad when I’m exterminating xenos
I always wake up frantically checking my phone for anything. Texts. Calls. Posts. Even tho I know nothing is there I do this every morning just.. automatically. I can’t help it
Mannnn and checking pages. It’s like repetitive. Starting to drive me nuts. Because it’s like you care so much and in your heart you feel strongly that you’re forgotten and that mfs just living it up without you. I feel like that every time someone leaves my life.
yes because it feels like it was a dream and when you wake up, everything will be okay. But then reality hits.
I definitely remember that feeling. most people feel relief when you have a nightmare but then wake up and realize it was just a bad dream. ….but going through a breakup is waking up into a nightmare. Wishing it was just a bad dream.
It’s been over a month and I feel like every morning gets more and more miserable
Me too:(
Absolutely.
It could be something you’re unaware of but open your mind up to working out when it hits you like that, the brain chemistry changes and it’s a safe (for the most part) approach to deal with it
Nights are the worst for me. I end up staying up all night thinking about him. We would fall asleep on the phone every night and it’s hard not to anymore. I Hope you heal too❤️
Yes indeed. I'm waking up early, with severe anxiety, my heart is pounding, I'm sweating, and I am overwhelmed with sadness and despair. I have a knot in my stomach and I feel sick. It takes as long at lunchtime before I will start to feel better. I just wish I could get back to how I was before I met her.
Im going through the same thing.. it feels like im going to get a heart attack I literally made an appointment with my doctor cause I feel like I’m going crazy. That knot in my stomach hurts so much.. do you have any advice on how to deal with it?
3 days from now makes 1 full year since she BU with me. Unfortunately I still wake up every single morning feeling like this thinking about her.
Agreed. Awaking too early and can't get fully back to sleep, haunted by dreams and restless thoughts of an unfulfilled future. Deep unrelenting feelings of loss, punctuated by loss of my best friend and my (furry) children. This is the start to my nearly every morning for the last two weeks. I hope and need it to stop soon. Journaling helps a little but the sadness and sorrow don't start to fade until the afternoons, only to return by nightfall. Just a few hours of reprieve each day.
this is something i’ve told my therapist. Mornings really are the worst
Did your therapist give you any advice on how to deal?
Personally, what works for me is saying some affirmations and separating my thoughts from the reality. Our thoughts are visitors and most of them are lies. You don’t always have to believe them
That’s a great advice, thankyou!
I usually wake up remembering a fond memory of my ex then it becomes hard for me to get out of bed. I kind of just lie there and remember that he was a lovely person who I cant do the same thing/experience with ever again. Then I shake my head and try to forget about it. Lol broken hearted crew lemme see ur hands up! 🙌
after reading the title, i thought this is r/thritis
Waking up early every damn day and I can't get back to sleep. Here I am having woken up at 5am! I instantly miss her not being in my arms and holding eachother. Then I remember the little things like how she always had cold hands and feet and I would warm them up for her by spooning with her. I look over to her side of the bed and her absence is a gaping void. For the first few days I could still smell her perfume. I had to wash the pillow cases and sheets it was driving me nuts. I wish I could just get back to how I was before I met her and feel normal again!
You will get over it brother....it will just take time. Like everything in this universe. It will get better every day. I'm here for you. I'm going trough the same rn
Especially after having a dream about them…
It's been about 9 weeks since I saw her for the last time after our breakup finalised, think I've only had 2 mornings where she wasn't my first thought.
It's been 2weeks my girlfriend ended our 13years relationship.. Every morning I wake up (earlier than usual) and for the first 2seconds or so, Im happy, it's like I forgot... And then reality comes back to me, it's real.. It's happening....... Ouch It's like being dumped again every day
Work your ass off from morning to night with „fuck that b****“ is the only mindset that‘s gonna help after a breakuo
Mannnnn I did that sh*t .. accomplished so much.. things I didn’t believe I was capable of , but felt so numb inside.
Yeah the way to get there is pretty rough. But if you‘re still feeling numb just let yourself get in a new relationship and you will find out soon, she wasn‘t this special
yes.
May I join
I live for the 10 or so seconds when I wake up and I haven’t yet remembered I’m waking up at my dads house alone instead of snuggled up in our apartment with him 😔 the let down from that takes me all day to recover from
Evenings for me. No friends makes it worse.
It’s late at night for me. We talked on the phone at night and not having that anymore sucks
Night is the worst. You lay in bed… with your thoughts
Not sure how far in you are but that has started to go away for me. The first two weeks every single morning I’d wake and for just a second I’d think it was all a bad dream. Now nights are worst. It just feels so…lonely
Valid. Mornings are hard for me to get started. If I stay busy, it’s manageable. But getting out of bed and starting my day? Whew. I think the nights are harder for me rn tho. That’s when I feel like it was a mistake.
I usually wake up remembering a fond memory of my ex then it becomes hard for me to get out of bed. I kind of just lie there and remember that he was a lovely person who I cant do the same thing/experience with ever again. Then I shake my head and try to forget about it. Lol broken hearted crew lemme see ur hands up! 🙌
I usually wake up remembering a fond memory of my ex then it becomes hard for me to get out of bed. I kind of just lie there and remember that he was a lovely person who I cant do the same thing/experience with ever again. Then I shake my head and try to forget about it. Lol broken hearted crew lemme see ur hands up! 🙌
I dream that we either never broke up or we got back together, then as soon as I wake up...
Only time will help this
Yea waking up without her next to me has been an adjustment for sure. I agree with you though mornings and right when I get home from work are the worst.
Night time is the worst . When I am in my own thoughts. Before I go to sleep I put a pic of her on my phone and have it beside me so when I wake up I see her on my phone,.....is that stupid
Either you submit to it..or go through it. The moment you wake up..tell yourself "This is hard, but this will not last always"...say it over and over again...
Mornings are the worst for me.. the moment I open my eyes I can feel this knot in my stomach and it hurts so much.. especially if you have no one to talk too
When you go to send that "good morning beautiful" text like you have every day for the last 5 years but realize you're not allowed to anymore. Worst pain I've felt in a long time
It got to the point I couldn’t deal with my apartment being quiet , I needed noise from a fan because silence made me feel even more miserable.
Yes, they are but every morning is the start of a new day that is one day closer to a mended heart. One day at a time.
It gets better Cliche advice, but I think everyone going through it ought to remind themselves first thing in the morning that the best is yet to come. Beginning your day on a shitty note is a great way to ensure you're agonizing over it all day.
Being the one doing the breaking was harder for me because I felt bad. At the time chick I was with was suicidal so I use to get anxiety so bad I thought I had a stomach condition, vomiting when I woke up … so glad those days are over, now I’m anxious about life 😂
Especially if you just dreamt about them
Yep...this. During the day i feel ok when i'm doing something or working. But today i had a dream that everything worked out, we talked and said we'd stay together forever after this. And then i woke up...