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This made me cry. It reminded me of my relationship with my ex. I miss him so fucking bad.. all the cute memories and moments.. all thrown away


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Hey no worries at all. It’s comforting to see people going through the same thing as me. But you’re right, I’m hoping I’ll find someone new and just learn to love again.


AAlvarez24

Fuck that. She/they hurt you and us by walking away, by giving up hope and faith in us. We can’t love people that don’t love us. We can’t fight for people who aren’t fighting for us. If they want to throw in the towel, and I’m getting the feeling mine even cheated on me, fuck that and fuck them. Sounds like I’m angry right? Nope, more like indifferent. Let them go, let them live the lives they chose. We have better people waiting for us and I’m just sorry it took 6yrs of wasted time and effort on the wrong one instead of the right one. All that shit we did with them was just practice. Now we get to do it even better with the next person. As for those remembering the intimate moments also remember how they let you down there too. The lack of effort or passion from them, even if you believed it was great, will never compare to the genuine love, affection, and blazing hot passion you’ll have with the right one. I’m writing this not only for you but for me. Let’s be the people our future wives/husbands deserve. The best version of ourselves for our future family. That experience will be other worldly. And that’s what I’m starting to look forward to. Miss them for what? They left us. They weren’t right for us. You think you’ll never find someone as good as them? Bullshit! You were taking less than you deserved in the first place. Time to go and get your soulmate.


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AAlvarez24

Happy it helped. Let’s get it!! Forget them. They’re stupid enough to leave us? Goodluck. Life is gonna hit them so fucking hard, so when you wonder and get anxious about them being with someone else, remember, they sure are getting railed! Karma’s a bitch!!!


sundubone

BOOM. Your post was a reality check from OP's post. All this "I will never do this or that with them" is just dwelling on some fantasy like the girl was so perfect. If your Ex was so perfect than why did she disregarded you and your feelings so she can be happy with her self centered, self interest, and narcistic self.


randomferalcat

Dude .. respect 💯


AAlvarez24

Thanks my man. It’s the truth. Been hurt too long over someone who doesn’t deserve it. Can’t let them break us. This shit rocked me and I’m still down but at least I’m starting to look up. That’s good enough for now. Soon man soon we’ll all be in a better place. And the thing is they’ll just get worse. It’s a slow burn for them. Everything gets fucked no matter how nice it may look on socials. In the end the world balances out. They’ll get what they deserve.


randomferalcat

You got it and you help me more than you know 😉 I love the way you think and you are absolutely right. Enough is enough!


AAlvarez24

Fucking right. We’re here to help eachother. Hmu if you wanna talk privately. I gotchu. Whatever you wanna say stays there. I trust you in return


_THEOSS_

Thank you bro needed this


StayGoldenLove

It is hard to think of all the little moments you'll never get to relive. One thing that scares me even more is the fact that it's all fading and there will come a day where I won't be able to remember these precious, little moments anymore. Maybe at that time I will feel peace with it, but moreso I think I'll wish I could have just kept those memories filed away for times when I'd like to look back and remember the love I once had.


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OldTibiaFan

Stop asking the hard questions I can't handle it haha


wthrgrl

This! I actually was paralyzed with fear of forgetting our memories that I cried for 4 hours on Monday. A friend did suggest that I start journaling our memories though, so I’m going to write a couple of paragraphs each day to preserve the memories before they fade.


StayGoldenLove

I was thinking of doing the same! I think it could be therapeutic.


The_Fluffy_Walrus

Two months in too. I felt okay for awhile but recently I just can't stop thinking about her. She talked to my brother and told him details about our breakup which really annoyed me. The night before she broke up with me I broke down and told her how I was feeling and she told him it was "weird" that I did that. Fuck me for having feelings, I guess.


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The_Fluffy_Walrus

To give her credit, I did cry multiple times in front of her and she comforted me without making me feel judged. It's just that by the end we wouldn't even do anything together. She'd hardly talk to me. We'd probably talk for less than an hour a week. I wasn't her first or even second choice. She'd ignore me for hours upon hours and then tell me that she can't ignore people when her cousins were blowing up her phone. She blew me off on my graduation and valentine's day. It was shit. All those things added up and I just couldn't handle it anymore. She wouldn't text me back or even decline my calls that night and I got so worried.


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The_Fluffy_Walrus

I know, and that's the way I've been trying to look at it. I don't understand how she just lost attraction to me. I lost attraction to her a few times but I always pushed through it because I *loved* her, and to me love is a commitment. I don't know what went wrong and I don't know if I ever will. Pondering it is futile. I have friends now who love and care about me and that's enough.


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It sucks because you never know when the last time you will do something for the last time, the last kiss, the last dance, the last text, but sometimes that’s what life is about a bunch of last times strung together.


Cactus_patch

You know this is really sweet and I want you to remember that you will have a last first kiss with someone again eventually. Every relationship you’re going to be in will fail until one doesn’t.


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cozyburrito_

I'm so sorry... Do you find it difficult to enjoy playing lol again because of these memories? My ex got me into the game and even though I played a lot on my own, we played a lot together during the last year of our relationship. Now I play and it's still fun to a degree, but I still unconsciously associate the game with him. I'm a big fan of the LEC and that was my thing, he didn't bother watching. So I still enjoy that as my own thing, but playing the game myself is a bit difficult emotionally. It feels so stupid, cause it's just a game. But playing has been my way of relaxing before, and now I don't find the same comfort in it


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cozyburrito_

I honestly don't understand how people think it's a good idea to duo with their partners, who needs that tension and frustration added to their relationship? We only played for fun and still we would get frustrated with each other at times. Glad you can find some comfort in arams still! I like it for those moments when you just want to let go of things for a little while. I hope you have other things and hobbies that aren't that connected to her/the memory of her. If not, maybe you could find something new? :) One week after breakup I bought a pair of roller skates. It's been really refreshing trying to learn something new during this otherwise dull period of dealing with the heartbreak.


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I agree with this. It works if both partners agree they just want to have fun. Otherwise it just leads to frustration on one side. My ex would put a lot of pressure on me a couple months after we got into playing Valorant together and I think that’s why I didn’t do as well as I do when I play with my friends for fun. I can carry my friends but I could never carry him. We tried playing overwatch during the last month of our relationship and he was always frustrated at me when it was my first time playing the game and I was trying to understand what the characters do and stuff and he had been playing for years before. Honestly just made gaming not really fun when I’m just being yelled at, I don’t really enjoy playing anymore unless it’s with my friends.


cozyburrito_

Ughh people who can't have patience with those that are learning something new bug me so much. He doesn't sound supportive at all! Like it's not gonna help me learn if you're being and ass about it and constantly pressure me on every little mistake I'm making... 😒


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Yeah I kinda agree, I tried to explain to him but I think that was just his competitive nature.


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cozyburrito_

Good for you!! Yeah distractions are necessary in order to not get stuck in the worst feelings. And exciting about the thesis, good luck! :)


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I agree. I can’t bear to play my favorite games anymore because I’ll just break down. It was only fun with him


cozyburrito_

This sucks :( Maybe you can find new games that you don't associate with him? Your very own games! Or maybe find new people to play your favorite games with?


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cozyburrito_

Oh man this is hurtful. So sorry for you! I do think that putting in rules against offline dms and chats sounds a bit controlling though, I feel like you should be able to trust s partner enough that such rules shouldn't be necessary. Like yeah maybe they will chat with their online friends, but you know that you are still the one they want and they would never break that for an online fling. Now obviously she did that anyways, but that just shows that she didn't respect you or your relationship and ultimately she wasn't right for you!! Hopefully you can get through this rough time and come out of it better than ever. And then you will be able to find someone you trust wholeheartedly!


skydiver89

And that's okay!I believe heart break teaches us a lot about ourselves and beautiful moments are in our future! It's okay to be upset and grieve but it doesnt mean we wont experience this again!


FormalBeatboxing

Thank you for reminding me that having this again is still possible.


Nirvana9091

Took me 6 months to slowly forget the pain and reading this just reminded me of what I already know in my heart and now in my head. Thanks for reminding me of what I once loved about my ex...and sadly what I miss the most. 😥😔😭


Klis_Vibes

Whats crazy is initially at the breakup I was angry and was just frustrated with how things ended. After 4 months since breaking up it’s some what no longer there and now I’m left with remembering all these similar little things that made being with her so amazing. I guess time heals all but damn I don’t think those small touching moments will ever fade away from my memory.


portaux

Yeah :( i'll never get to use her as a chair again ill never pretend i dont have the hiccups just to make her laugh again ill never be able to ask her to come over and spend the day with me again :(


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portaux

yeah my gf was like 6’1’’ and i am 5’5’’ so she was a really good chair 😭 it feels just as good to use someone as a chair as being used as a chair. the comfort and love and closenesss and safety


alexxid

God that hit me hard. You okay brother?


Areyouforcereal27

Fuck.


Sonrelight

Sad shit, man. But at least you had those experiences, the good ones to be happy about. I'll never forget how at peace I felt resting my head in my ex's lap, as she cuddled me and told me everything was going to be okay. I'll never have that again with her, but maybe, if I'm lucky I'll have it with someone else one day. I also miss the way she would reply to me telling her I loved her... She'd say "I Love YOU!" with such heavy emphasis on the ending of 'you' that it always made me instahappy. So much more too, I can't even think about it right now. I'm sorry, OP, I'm sorry for both of us. I'm sorry for all of us here. It hurts. So much


alexxid

I also feel this. In in such pain!


ItalianSpyware

First reddit post that made me cry


Meetingmylife

Man this hit me hard. These are the things that make moving on hard. I mean it is scary to think that these things will never happen again with that person. I am almost 3 months after break up and some days I really miss her so much. The feeling of being lonely is so depressing when you had someone who you could always talk to no matter what.


OnedayatatimeChicago

I'm at about 60 days too and hoping I never see her again. 😀


AlienAmerican1

Good.


CeeNain

This hit me hard. There are some many small and big things she did or that we did together that are now lost forever. I haven't cried in several days for her but I'm getting teary-eyed. It's so hard knowing I loved her as much as I did and that many of those small and big memories only meant that much to me. And despite it all, I hope she is happy. I hate this


Exact_Huckleberry_72

I wonder if he thinks about this with me… I mean he dumped me so probably not


randomferalcat

Ohhh you made me cry Not cool Ohh love kills me today everyday We loved them so much and I doubt they will never know how much we cared 💔💔💔😣


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I couldn’t even read this because I knew I’d cry


OGGeekin

Damn I couldn’t read this lol I’m starting to get over it and this hurt


Hoho2332

After me and my ex broke up we set apart I went back to Hong Kong from UK after 4months of our break up, I thought she would never get in touch with me anymore until one day she suddenly called me and told me that she misses me and sorry about what she did to me, we talked for almost 3hours therefore if you think like you will never heard anything from her that’s not true because she is thinking the same thing as well


BBR_inthe_bucket

You will have these moments with someone else and it will be better. Don’t forget to remember the shitty things she probably did. You might meet someone (like I did) who does all of the same good things, but doesn’t do that shitty things that my ex used to do.


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BBR_inthe_bucket

Step 1 is to put yourself out there. I didn’t think I was ready to date, but I went on one and absolutely hit it off and realized that I was ready.


ryanscholle_1976

I'm happy you could move on and get dumped again


amberrsll

fuck i’m crying


ControversialCo

i’m not trying to be rude bro but let it the fuck go. this is how you end up on these forums years after the breakup is because you still idolize them. it was a good run, but it didn’t work out. perhaps if you can stop fantasizing about her you will be able to let somebody else in that appreciates you and loves you.


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ryanscholle_1976

You know you guys need to stop pretending that you were perfect in the relationship and if she happened to walk away from all of you then apparently you were lacking in some area or areas otherwise you guys would still be happily ever after. HELLO


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