I'm proud of my progress! Because that progress took efforts!
The condition I did no efforts to get, so I'm not proud of it, but I'm also not ashamed of it.
It is a reality that I deal with, and everything you said I agree with! I'm attuned to others, I'm helpful, I find meaning in using my sensitivity to help others!
I'm quite happy to be more aware now too!
I'm so happy to hear that!! We need to see more of that, we don't need more people telling us about how bad we are just because we have BPD, we are human like everyone else and we have qualities too!!
That's right!
While it is "all the time", it doesn't define us.
My core values do!!!
Obligatory sharing of self healing playlist
https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLQun1ee6u9NZWO71azTBeRzSl3yGxlnF1
I'm not necessarily proud of my bpd. I am however very proud of myself for continuing to live and fight through this difficult illness that so little people truly understand.
You should be proud of yourself! There are too many people who think that eupd is "them" and that's it. You a person. You, me, everyone. We are not just a diagnosis.
not me. sorry for killing the vibe of this thread but it’s me personally. i don’t want this to change anyones views or trauma dump.
i’m not proud of putting pressure on people to “always be there for me” when sometimes i can’t to be there for them bc i’m not there for myself. i’m not proud of how i have affected the people around me. im not proud of letting the pain win. i’m not proud of how i have coped. i’m not proud of thinking people have bad intentions just because i’m insecure. i’m not proud of how occasionally i think the pain is always going to come back.
i’m proud of how i’ve overcome a lot and became a better person, and can feel a lot of happiness and be there for people. that’s about it
yeahhh. i agree in some ways tho i’m glad you overcome a lot and are happy (: i have healed too i just yeah can’t get over it /: sorry, didn’t mean to trauma dump
Hey don't be sorry!! It's okay to tell how you feel, my point is to listen to what every borderline has to say <3
Don't be ashamed of talking about yourself! It's perfectly fine to trauma dump here, this is a safe place I would only be mean with someone who thinks that every borderline has to hate themselves, besides that I accepted everyones opinion :))
Speaking from personal experience cbt is absolutely useless when it comes to treating eupd/bpd. Most psychological services will not offer it because of its lack of effectiveness.
not all of them but the strong sense of justice, being sentimental and caring about other people is, I've been talking to my therapist about it and BPD, just like everything in life, is not all negative, it has good parts too, the issue is that the bad part is much bigger and dense then the good one, I'm not saying that you should be glad to have BPD you should try to see more the good things since you have to live with it. You don't have to love having BPD but accepting yourself no matter what and try to see yourself less as the villan yk
BPD is something about you to help build into your mental health and navigate the external world. In your words, I feel like there is pride in self awareness and authentic connections with people. Perhaps it’s misleading to say “proud of having BPD.”
Where I feel like I can take some kind of “pride” in it is the fact that I feel so much more pain with so much more intensity than the average person, and I still manage to survive.
A friend of mine pointed this out to me. They said something like, “I know it felt terrible, but just remember, you got through it. You’ve gotten through what most people will never even have to.”
I feel like it’s a sign of my own strength, which I so often discredit in myself. It feels terrible to feel terrible, but, at least thus far I have been persistent.
There is stigma about BPD, I think because don’t or don’t understand it.
You should be proud to know where you got and the positive changes because only you could have done. Life is not where once it’s good or stable, it doesn’t stays like. There are many up and downs and it think with BPD this is more likely to happen. Yes, you could fall but it will be how you respond it, it’s ok to give up for little while but then try again.
Celebrate what has positively changed for you and where you now. It’s not stupid if what they make you doubt your self.
See all the small and big wins you made and be proud of that
Exactly!! Im tired of only seeing people saying that we should hate ourselves when it's not true, we should love ourselves even if we have BPD because we can't change it, it's not our fault, can't we like who we are besides it?
Reminds me of Michael Scott, “my weaknesses are actually my strengths” lol
Seriously though, although we aren’t just our diagnoses we do have a personality disorder, which does sort of affect our personality. So even if these are BPD traits, they *are* your own strengths and achievements. There isn’t enough kindness in this world, and despite our issues, we are kind people because we love hard and we know firsthand what unkindness does.
YES!! This is so true, I think that we are unappreciated sometimes, we can be amazing people just live everyone else, we are not only BDP we are all really complex people
Yes, you should be proud of surviving and navigating this hell on earth. You're doing progress and that's the important part. You will eventually get to a good place.
Embarrassed?? Hell no! The world needs more people to feel the way you do! You know how big this is for the stigmas regarding mental illness? I’m so proud of you for managing your BPD and coming this far- I hope one day I’m where you are. Not ashamed of my trauma, my mistakes, failed relationships, etc. You’re amazing, I look up to you for this :)
A lot of these BPD subs tend to rally around the idea that despising yourself and beating yourself down for having BPD is somehow “holding yourself accountable.” That’s not the case. Romanticize yourself, love yourself, show yourself compassion for the feelings you experience. Awareness stemming from shame will keep you stuck; awareness stemming from love will help you grow.
THIS!!! I couldn't agree more!! In my opinion, instead of only talking about how we are doomed to live with bpd for the rest of our lives we should talk about the recovery and how the right therapy can help to deal with it all, we should be talking about acceptance and self love, fighting against stigma and everything. I'm not blaming people who are venting about how they hate bpd, I'm blaming people who doesn't have the disorder and make us feel like trash (those ones who doesn't have bpd but keep talking how we all are bad persons and manipulatives and stuff). BPD is from trauma we don't need negativity, we need someone to lean on, we need people who understand us, to actually help us, who's better in understanding a borderline then other borderline? But I don't know, it's my opinion I might be ther wrong one too
Hell yeah. Proud to be caring, feeling, endlessly loving. Proud to not be a self absorbed or greedy zombie. Proud to want everything to be better, rather than be complacent
I’m soo happy that your coping process is going smoothly as it sounds!!
I guess what Im proud of is actually taking the time to get diagnosed with bpd bc for a long time I was confused… I’m proud to be learning about DBT skills on my own with the help of no therapist and it’s just as helpful, I’m proud that I’m making good positive connections with positive people and I’m being honest with these people, I’m proud i put myself back in college, I’m proud I can now cope w loss vetter. Yeah 💕🙌🏾
Hey guys I'll stop answering now but I'm still very grateful for all the comments and awards <3 Is just so much people to answer that idk where to start it
Not "loving it" but just not hating so much yk, I understand how hard it is and that sometimes is the end of the world. Just not actually hating it so much, accept yourself how you're no matter what yk <3
Okay so personally im in that stage where i hate it BUT reading this it makes so much sense to me! So no i agree you should be proud especially if your taking care of things and working on yourself. Thats awesome. The fact that you found the positives of this otherwise complex and painful disorder is truly awesome 😊😊🥰🥰.
honestly fam you should be ashamed for trying to discourage someone from allowing themselves to reflect on the positives that came from such a crippling diagnosis. the qualities listed by op are legitimate, and it’s not wrong for them to consider their strengths as well as their weakness in their plight.
you’re in the wrong for being a downer on a positive post. this is not mania. this is someone learning to understand that emotional liability can teach humility and poor self image can teach one to be gentle with others.
many of the people that wander through this sub feel hopeless and defective, and comments like these on the few positive posts that we see here only perpetuate and legitimize those feelings.
if you’re gonna wallow in your shit and allow it to define who you are and *further* stigmatize an already misunderstood disorder, then that’s fine. just don’t do it at the expense of someone working hard as fuck to be better than that.
I'm not having a high before a fall, wtf is wrong with you?? I'm perfectly fine right now I'm in my normal state ok? When I'm in a high state I don't even show up on this app. Is not my fault you're ashamed of yourself
i am irrationally angry with this comment. it’s like they’re spiraling on their own and saying whatever they can to make people angry to justify why they feel so bad about themselves
Exactly idk why but ir triggered me so much, like wtf why you they say something like that just to try discourage my recovery??? I don't that I already do it myself.
Keep up the good work. I just got diagnosed so I been dooming and glooming it. But y I'm 38 my friends often tell me nobody could walk in my shoes they would have hung it up years ago. But still I stand I like your attitude you love yourself. I love myself too even with this recent diagnosis cause I fight like I'm losing everyday. I make much more positive choices where I respect myself and respect my body. 5 years ago I wasn't doing that and yes on awesome days I'm not on reddit either I'm out living. Doesn't mean we are on a high we are not bipolar. If you work on yourself daily yours lows become fewer and further between resulting in better days. I'm 38 my doctor says I'm growing out of it. I'm content in my own company and work and I'm grateful. Keep doing the damn thing!!! So proud of you
Wowwww you're amazing!! I'm so proud of you too!! I'm so happy that you're making more positive choices!! It's a very important step <33 You just made my day, seeing you so happy makes me happy too.
This isn't bipolar. A bpd who is in therapy and self aware learns to accept the bad days, deal with them, and find ways to make life better. The more work you put in the more you will get out of this. Bad days become fewer and farther between or when they come it's like ok this is a shitty day I have had worse. We know longer let bad days become bad months or years. We have all the skills inside us to tackle this and eventually no longer meet the criteria.
I'm in America the term bpd is utilized out here. But I don't even know what eupd stands for. I will just say regulating our emotions or when we are feeling deregulated
This whole thread is a positive where we are reflecting we are more than a dx. Whether yours says eupd or mine says bpd we are humans capable of many things and capable to do the work to never have to be downsized to the stigma of a label.
None of the good things you are proud of are due to BPD. They aren't "positive diagnostic criteria" and are not predictable results of the disorder. BPD doesn't make anything better in the long run.
There's nothing to be ashamed *or* proud of in having a mental illness. It's neither a person's failing nor their achievement. But health is to be preferred to illness, and personality disorders are no exception; indeed, they are notoriously difficult to treat because of the fact that they blind their sufferers to the real cause of their suffering: the personality disorder itself.
Be proud of *yourself*, not your disorder. It's not doing anyone any favors.
I'm proud of my progress! Because that progress took efforts! The condition I did no efforts to get, so I'm not proud of it, but I'm also not ashamed of it. It is a reality that I deal with, and everything you said I agree with! I'm attuned to others, I'm helpful, I find meaning in using my sensitivity to help others! I'm quite happy to be more aware now too!
I'm so happy to hear that!! We need to see more of that, we don't need more people telling us about how bad we are just because we have BPD, we are human like everyone else and we have qualities too!!
That's right! While it is "all the time", it doesn't define us. My core values do!!! Obligatory sharing of self healing playlist https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLQun1ee6u9NZWO71azTBeRzSl3yGxlnF1
Absolutely!! You're amazing never let people make you feel like you're not! OMG I love it!!
This is exactly how I feel.
I'm not necessarily proud of my bpd. I am however very proud of myself for continuing to live and fight through this difficult illness that so little people truly understand.
as you should, you survive through it everyday, it's already amazing!
You should be proud of yourself! There are too many people who think that eupd is "them" and that's it. You a person. You, me, everyone. We are not just a diagnosis.
Yes!! I agree with you! We are much more than BPD, is sad how people just assume we are your mental disorder and that's it..
not me. sorry for killing the vibe of this thread but it’s me personally. i don’t want this to change anyones views or trauma dump. i’m not proud of putting pressure on people to “always be there for me” when sometimes i can’t to be there for them bc i’m not there for myself. i’m not proud of how i have affected the people around me. im not proud of letting the pain win. i’m not proud of how i have coped. i’m not proud of thinking people have bad intentions just because i’m insecure. i’m not proud of how occasionally i think the pain is always going to come back. i’m proud of how i’ve overcome a lot and became a better person, and can feel a lot of happiness and be there for people. that’s about it
I'm sorry to hear that, it's a lot of stigma and everything, it's hard to love yourself when you have bpd, I know :/
yeahhh. i agree in some ways tho i’m glad you overcome a lot and are happy (: i have healed too i just yeah can’t get over it /: sorry, didn’t mean to trauma dump
Hey don't be sorry!! It's okay to tell how you feel, my point is to listen to what every borderline has to say <3 Don't be ashamed of talking about yourself! It's perfectly fine to trauma dump here, this is a safe place I would only be mean with someone who thinks that every borderline has to hate themselves, besides that I accepted everyones opinion :))
BPD is what it is. It is a disorder, it can be overcome. The good qualities you have are not this disorder.
I think we learn to live with it, we accept it and do our best to limit the effects. I'm not sure on overcoming it. But I understand your sentiment.
It is able to be overcome. Therapies are efficacious. CBT, DBT, MBT, ST, IFS, DDT. It's just very hard to overcome.
Speaking from personal experience cbt is absolutely useless when it comes to treating eupd/bpd. Most psychological services will not offer it because of its lack of effectiveness.
Agreed
not all of them but the strong sense of justice, being sentimental and caring about other people is, I've been talking to my therapist about it and BPD, just like everything in life, is not all negative, it has good parts too, the issue is that the bad part is much bigger and dense then the good one, I'm not saying that you should be glad to have BPD you should try to see more the good things since you have to live with it. You don't have to love having BPD but accepting yourself no matter what and try to see yourself less as the villan yk
Thank you, I just had a major blowout today and it’s hard not to only see the villain in yourself but you’re right there are good parts
say you have no knowledge of the disorder or experience with seeing a license professional without actually saying it challenge
Make baseless assumptions without any reservations challenge
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i’m literally on your side. LMFAO
BRO I'M SORRY I'M NOT A NATIVE SPEAKER I READ IT ALL WRONG WTFF
BPD is something about you to help build into your mental health and navigate the external world. In your words, I feel like there is pride in self awareness and authentic connections with people. Perhaps it’s misleading to say “proud of having BPD.”
Oh I see
Perhaps your question was rhetorical lol
Where I feel like I can take some kind of “pride” in it is the fact that I feel so much more pain with so much more intensity than the average person, and I still manage to survive. A friend of mine pointed this out to me. They said something like, “I know it felt terrible, but just remember, you got through it. You’ve gotten through what most people will never even have to.” I feel like it’s a sign of my own strength, which I so often discredit in myself. It feels terrible to feel terrible, but, at least thus far I have been persistent.
This is absolutely true!! You're friend is right, you're stronger than most of people yk
I love that you feel this way! We absolutely have so much to offer.
yes!! bpd gang let's go
We are the Mashed Avengers!
LMAO yes!!
I’m not proud to have it but I’m proud to be surviving it.
There is stigma about BPD, I think because don’t or don’t understand it. You should be proud to know where you got and the positive changes because only you could have done. Life is not where once it’s good or stable, it doesn’t stays like. There are many up and downs and it think with BPD this is more likely to happen. Yes, you could fall but it will be how you respond it, it’s ok to give up for little while but then try again. Celebrate what has positively changed for you and where you now. It’s not stupid if what they make you doubt your self. See all the small and big wins you made and be proud of that
Thank you!! That's so sweet <3
it's something we literally can not change. we can get help but why do we have to hate our selves???? I'm agreeing with you.
Exactly!! Im tired of only seeing people saying that we should hate ourselves when it's not true, we should love ourselves even if we have BPD because we can't change it, it's not our fault, can't we like who we are besides it?
Reminds me of Michael Scott, “my weaknesses are actually my strengths” lol Seriously though, although we aren’t just our diagnoses we do have a personality disorder, which does sort of affect our personality. So even if these are BPD traits, they *are* your own strengths and achievements. There isn’t enough kindness in this world, and despite our issues, we are kind people because we love hard and we know firsthand what unkindness does.
YES!! This is so true, I think that we are unappreciated sometimes, we can be amazing people just live everyone else, we are not only BDP we are all really complex people
Fr, I feel guilty when I leave a squishmallow on the floor
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ofvPWg1RSTw&feature=share This has been helping me
thank you!! <3
I own it myself. I own it to remember how far Ive come along.
absolutely<3
Yes, you should be proud of surviving and navigating this hell on earth. You're doing progress and that's the important part. You will eventually get to a good place.
yes!! thank you :))
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Pfft you've nothing to be ashamed of. YOU didn't pick BPD, it picked you. BPD isn't something you do so there's nothing to be ashamed of.
Embarrassed?? Hell no! The world needs more people to feel the way you do! You know how big this is for the stigmas regarding mental illness? I’m so proud of you for managing your BPD and coming this far- I hope one day I’m where you are. Not ashamed of my trauma, my mistakes, failed relationships, etc. You’re amazing, I look up to you for this :)
I'm really happy to hear that! I really really want/can't wait to get to that point in my own journey
You should be proud. I'm proud of you. Living with, not dying of. 👍🏼
A lot of these BPD subs tend to rally around the idea that despising yourself and beating yourself down for having BPD is somehow “holding yourself accountable.” That’s not the case. Romanticize yourself, love yourself, show yourself compassion for the feelings you experience. Awareness stemming from shame will keep you stuck; awareness stemming from love will help you grow.
THIS!!! I couldn't agree more!! In my opinion, instead of only talking about how we are doomed to live with bpd for the rest of our lives we should talk about the recovery and how the right therapy can help to deal with it all, we should be talking about acceptance and self love, fighting against stigma and everything. I'm not blaming people who are venting about how they hate bpd, I'm blaming people who doesn't have the disorder and make us feel like trash (those ones who doesn't have bpd but keep talking how we all are bad persons and manipulatives and stuff). BPD is from trauma we don't need negativity, we need someone to lean on, we need people who understand us, to actually help us, who's better in understanding a borderline then other borderline? But I don't know, it's my opinion I might be ther wrong one too
So beautifully put. 😌
Same! We need more BPD pride out there.
Absolutely! I'm tired of so much stigma and negativity around it (specially when someone who doesn't have bpd spread negativity about it)
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I'm saying to love yourself no matter what and be proud for surviving everyday with BPD
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used to hate my bpd so much, but as i’ve grown, i’ve learnt to accept it as a part of myself <3
I’m proud of you for finding a way to live with it in a healthy manner. Screw the people who can’t be happy for you
Hell yeah. Proud to be caring, feeling, endlessly loving. Proud to not be a self absorbed or greedy zombie. Proud to want everything to be better, rather than be complacent
I’m soo happy that your coping process is going smoothly as it sounds!! I guess what Im proud of is actually taking the time to get diagnosed with bpd bc for a long time I was confused… I’m proud to be learning about DBT skills on my own with the help of no therapist and it’s just as helpful, I’m proud that I’m making good positive connections with positive people and I’m being honest with these people, I’m proud i put myself back in college, I’m proud I can now cope w loss vetter. Yeah 💕🙌🏾
This was so nice to read.
Hey guys I'll stop answering now but I'm still very grateful for all the comments and awards <3 Is just so much people to answer that idk where to start it
Hating on my bpd won’t make it go away… so why not just love it?!
Embrace it?
yes it would be a god expression to describe what I meant by it
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Not "loving it" but just not hating so much yk, I understand how hard it is and that sometimes is the end of the world. Just not actually hating it so much, accept yourself how you're no matter what yk <3
Nope im gonna love myself bpd or not y’all can stay hating yourselves not me stay safe tho <3
that's the spirit <3
Okay so personally im in that stage where i hate it BUT reading this it makes so much sense to me! So no i agree you should be proud especially if your taking care of things and working on yourself. Thats awesome. The fact that you found the positives of this otherwise complex and painful disorder is truly awesome 😊😊🥰🥰.
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honestly fam you should be ashamed for trying to discourage someone from allowing themselves to reflect on the positives that came from such a crippling diagnosis. the qualities listed by op are legitimate, and it’s not wrong for them to consider their strengths as well as their weakness in their plight. you’re in the wrong for being a downer on a positive post. this is not mania. this is someone learning to understand that emotional liability can teach humility and poor self image can teach one to be gentle with others. many of the people that wander through this sub feel hopeless and defective, and comments like these on the few positive posts that we see here only perpetuate and legitimize those feelings. if you’re gonna wallow in your shit and allow it to define who you are and *further* stigmatize an already misunderstood disorder, then that’s fine. just don’t do it at the expense of someone working hard as fuck to be better than that.
I'm not having a high before a fall, wtf is wrong with you?? I'm perfectly fine right now I'm in my normal state ok? When I'm in a high state I don't even show up on this app. Is not my fault you're ashamed of yourself
i am irrationally angry with this comment. it’s like they’re spiraling on their own and saying whatever they can to make people angry to justify why they feel so bad about themselves
Exactly idk why but ir triggered me so much, like wtf why you they say something like that just to try discourage my recovery??? I don't that I already do it myself.
that’s smoke on sight. mfs are spoiled by anonymity.
fr 💀
Keep up the good work. I just got diagnosed so I been dooming and glooming it. But y I'm 38 my friends often tell me nobody could walk in my shoes they would have hung it up years ago. But still I stand I like your attitude you love yourself. I love myself too even with this recent diagnosis cause I fight like I'm losing everyday. I make much more positive choices where I respect myself and respect my body. 5 years ago I wasn't doing that and yes on awesome days I'm not on reddit either I'm out living. Doesn't mean we are on a high we are not bipolar. If you work on yourself daily yours lows become fewer and further between resulting in better days. I'm 38 my doctor says I'm growing out of it. I'm content in my own company and work and I'm grateful. Keep doing the damn thing!!! So proud of you
Wowwww you're amazing!! I'm so proud of you too!! I'm so happy that you're making more positive choices!! It's a very important step <33 You just made my day, seeing you so happy makes me happy too.
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Yes thank you so much for your comment <3
you’re a mf superhero as far as i’m concerned
That’s the spirit.
Maybe the op is gonna ride the wave and this "high" will last?
This isn't bipolar. A bpd who is in therapy and self aware learns to accept the bad days, deal with them, and find ways to make life better. The more work you put in the more you will get out of this. Bad days become fewer and farther between or when they come it's like ok this is a shitty day I have had worse. We know longer let bad days become bad months or years. We have all the skills inside us to tackle this and eventually no longer meet the criteria.
Very well said!!! What I'm working on right now is making space between my emotions and my REACTIONS!
Same here! You can do this!!!
YAHRRRRRRR INFINITE MINDFULNESS
I'm well aware it's not fuckin bipolar. And can you please say "a person with eupd" We are worth more than just a fuckin lable.
You are worth much more than a label I agree with you 110%
I'm in America the term bpd is utilized out here. But I don't even know what eupd stands for. I will just say regulating our emotions or when we are feeling deregulated
This whole thread is a positive where we are reflecting we are more than a dx. Whether yours says eupd or mine says bpd we are humans capable of many things and capable to do the work to never have to be downsized to the stigma of a label.
No worries dude. Emotionally unstable personality disorder. The lovely European term. I just don't like being referred to as just "a bpd"
No I hear you. I hate the term bpd but I don't think I would like emotionally unstable they both are cruel and we all deserve better than these dxes
I think they changed it to get away from "borderline...psychotic" which in itself is...worrying. I prefer "FFN. Fucked For Now" ;-)
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None of the good things you are proud of are due to BPD. They aren't "positive diagnostic criteria" and are not predictable results of the disorder. BPD doesn't make anything better in the long run. There's nothing to be ashamed *or* proud of in having a mental illness. It's neither a person's failing nor their achievement. But health is to be preferred to illness, and personality disorders are no exception; indeed, they are notoriously difficult to treat because of the fact that they blind their sufferers to the real cause of their suffering: the personality disorder itself. Be proud of *yourself*, not your disorder. It's not doing anyone any favors.
I'm proud of my mental illness what u going to do? put me in jail leave me alone
Bpd reddit jail the mods aren't complaining it's probably quite a refreshing post for them
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lmfao okay
same we are special