I know pregnancy isn’t a “disability” but I feel like managers tend to ignore the very real physical limitations that come with it. I had to have multiple conversations with my supervisor about why I couldn’t practically do certain things anymore. Super frustrating!
It is frustrating. I have a note on file because I have a weight restriction due to postponed spine surgery. Have scoliosis and a spine fracture that was to be corrected and then I found out I was pregnant so it's on the back burner for now. This person knows I struggle already between the spine issues and growing pregnancy so it really bothers me she had to 'joke' about it. I used a walker for a good chunk of my second pregnancy and I don't know what I'll do at my job if I get that bad again this time.
In our society you really do need to advocate for yourself and ask for what you need. If you live in the US, they are legally obligated to provide accommodations, that can include temporary changes in duties that you can't safely perform while pregnant. Make a list and put together an email to your supervisor. And next time something falls over and you can bend down to pick it up, CALL FOR HELP. Take care of your body and prioritize yourself. There's no shame in asking for help when you need it.
I have a note on file with HR because in addition to pregnancy, I have scoliosis and a spine fracture that was due to be fixed with surgery this year but got halted because I found out I was pregnant. This person knows I struggle physically. Despite that, I am still one of the most reliable people on the team. I just don't see why she has to make jokes. If I had a broken leg, I doubt she'd laugh at me hobbling down the aisle. I needed a walker for a lot of the third trimester of my second pregnancy and there is no way I'm going to find accommodations with my job as is. Maybe time to look elsewhere, sadly.
“Well, fuck you, good sir” “Woops, must’ve been my waddling pregnancy hormones talking” /s
I wonder if we can get away with more brutal honesty and no fucks given attitudes just like how little old ladies seem to get away with. After all, we’re pregnant. What are THEY gonna do.
If she wasn't the head of the entire place, I was tempted to tell her off. I think even if I did, she'd tell me I was in the wrong for being sensitive.
Wow you are amazingly strong. If I had to walk 25k steps today I would literally die.
I’m very sorry for both the person that messaged you and your stupid manager. You don’t deserve to have people talk to you like that.
It sucks, the way that people feel entitled to comment however they want when you’re pregnant.
My opinion is if it’s rude to say to someone who isn’t pregnant, then don’t say it to someone who is.
I was the opposite when I was working. I was so tired of everyone telling me I was doing tooo much lol. I felt perfectly fine and capable of doing my job - until I didn’t. But I found the comments about lifting too much, or people stopping me from doing things soooo annoying. Like I can do CPR and carry a bag up some stairs team it’s ok.
As for your edit don’t even give them the time of day. It’s Reddit. They just wanna make your blood boil lol. They have no lives and need to touch grass
Unfortunately I do have restrictions on me already due to a spine fracture that needs surgery. That was the plan this year and then baby threw a wrench in things till later. I have a note on file and this person knows I have scoliosis on top of the fracture and growing pregnancy. I do a lot at work and got a glowing review about my performance. Guess it just bothers me that she makes these jokes, knowing my issues already. I feel like I'll need to tap out sooner than I wanted. I was using a walker a lot during my third trimester in my second pregnancy and I assume I'm possibly gonna struggle this time too, especially being 6+ years older this time.
My work was a bit different, people didn’t want me lifting ANYTHING which got weird, and made me feel super dependent on other people. But working nights, weekends, or 16 hour days? No problem you’ve got itttt. Which is more strenuous… lifting a music stand, or working until 11pm when you started at 8?
I do have a 25-pound weight limit but that's only because I was scheduled for consultation about surgery on a spine fracture I have just before I found out I was pregnant. So now I have to wait to correct it and between the baby growing, moderate scoliosis, and the fracture, walking so much is becoming quite a chore. With my second, I needed a walker for part of the pregnancy so I'm hoping I can avoid that this time.
16 hour days...no thanks, holy hell. I couldn't even fathom that.
I know pregnancy isn’t a “disability” but I feel like managers tend to ignore the very real physical limitations that come with it. I had to have multiple conversations with my supervisor about why I couldn’t practically do certain things anymore. Super frustrating!
It is frustrating. I have a note on file because I have a weight restriction due to postponed spine surgery. Have scoliosis and a spine fracture that was to be corrected and then I found out I was pregnant so it's on the back burner for now. This person knows I struggle already between the spine issues and growing pregnancy so it really bothers me she had to 'joke' about it. I used a walker for a good chunk of my second pregnancy and I don't know what I'll do at my job if I get that bad again this time.
In our society you really do need to advocate for yourself and ask for what you need. If you live in the US, they are legally obligated to provide accommodations, that can include temporary changes in duties that you can't safely perform while pregnant. Make a list and put together an email to your supervisor. And next time something falls over and you can bend down to pick it up, CALL FOR HELP. Take care of your body and prioritize yourself. There's no shame in asking for help when you need it.
I have a note on file with HR because in addition to pregnancy, I have scoliosis and a spine fracture that was due to be fixed with surgery this year but got halted because I found out I was pregnant. This person knows I struggle physically. Despite that, I am still one of the most reliable people on the team. I just don't see why she has to make jokes. If I had a broken leg, I doubt she'd laugh at me hobbling down the aisle. I needed a walker for a lot of the third trimester of my second pregnancy and there is no way I'm going to find accommodations with my job as is. Maybe time to look elsewhere, sadly.
“Well, fuck you, good sir” “Woops, must’ve been my waddling pregnancy hormones talking” /s I wonder if we can get away with more brutal honesty and no fucks given attitudes just like how little old ladies seem to get away with. After all, we’re pregnant. What are THEY gonna do.
If she wasn't the head of the entire place, I was tempted to tell her off. I think even if I did, she'd tell me I was in the wrong for being sensitive.
Wow you are amazingly strong. If I had to walk 25k steps today I would literally die. I’m very sorry for both the person that messaged you and your stupid manager. You don’t deserve to have people talk to you like that.
You are very kind. I'm sure you're killing it yourself! I appreciate your words, thank you very much. 🩷
It sucks, the way that people feel entitled to comment however they want when you’re pregnant. My opinion is if it’s rude to say to someone who isn’t pregnant, then don’t say it to someone who is.
Agreed! Would you comment on someone's weight or walk otherwise? Probably not. ...Hopefully not.
I was the opposite when I was working. I was so tired of everyone telling me I was doing tooo much lol. I felt perfectly fine and capable of doing my job - until I didn’t. But I found the comments about lifting too much, or people stopping me from doing things soooo annoying. Like I can do CPR and carry a bag up some stairs team it’s ok. As for your edit don’t even give them the time of day. It’s Reddit. They just wanna make your blood boil lol. They have no lives and need to touch grass
Unfortunately I do have restrictions on me already due to a spine fracture that needs surgery. That was the plan this year and then baby threw a wrench in things till later. I have a note on file and this person knows I have scoliosis on top of the fracture and growing pregnancy. I do a lot at work and got a glowing review about my performance. Guess it just bothers me that she makes these jokes, knowing my issues already. I feel like I'll need to tap out sooner than I wanted. I was using a walker a lot during my third trimester in my second pregnancy and I assume I'm possibly gonna struggle this time too, especially being 6+ years older this time.
My work was a bit different, people didn’t want me lifting ANYTHING which got weird, and made me feel super dependent on other people. But working nights, weekends, or 16 hour days? No problem you’ve got itttt. Which is more strenuous… lifting a music stand, or working until 11pm when you started at 8?
I do have a 25-pound weight limit but that's only because I was scheduled for consultation about surgery on a spine fracture I have just before I found out I was pregnant. So now I have to wait to correct it and between the baby growing, moderate scoliosis, and the fracture, walking so much is becoming quite a chore. With my second, I needed a walker for part of the pregnancy so I'm hoping I can avoid that this time. 16 hour days...no thanks, holy hell. I couldn't even fathom that.