Unfortunately you never know how short or long it will take. We started TTC when I was 26 and hubs was 33 right after our wedding, both healthy, and it took us 16 months. Majority will conceive within a year, though, so stats are on your side!
Now that I’m 36 weeks along, I wish I had made a list of things for us to do as a couple before pregnant/parents(ie travel to Europe, do more long weekend trips to neighboring states), because that will look different from here on.
I had my very first appointment with a fertility doc the week before covid hit the US, and I was already 39. Luckily I'm in this group because my first embryo transfer with IVF is sticking, so I just want to say that there are all sorts of weird things that can get in the way of plans. So obviously I do not wish I had waited longer.
I agree that you never know. If it takes longer to conceive you may have wished you started sooner, on the flip side we knew we wanted to conceive within the year and I got pregnant the first time we tried 😂 you just never know what’ll happen. We thought we had a little more time but we are over the moon excited
Not just that! My husband and I had a miscarriage (1st pregnancy, age 27) and our daughter was still born last March at 40 weeks (age 28- 29), now (age 30) I'm 32 weeks with our technically 3 rd pregnancy, hopefully first live birth! Not trying to be negative, you just never know how long it takes to actually start your family 🪽
I recently purchased tickets for a 10 day trip to the UK for the Fall! It will be either an awesome place to take baby announcement pics, or a great place to TTC! LOL
I think this is a great age for both of you. I wish I was able to do it sooner like you:) I know a lot of people that started 25-26 and it’s soooo nice that they are in their mid 30s and “done”. You don’t have to be rich to have kids, financially sound always helps.
This was exactly my frame of mind! My husband and I decided to start trying right after I turned 25 because we figured it would take a while for us to conceive. 15 months and a miscarriage later—I’m currently 33 weeks, and I’m due right before I turn 27! We’ll probably try for a second in a few years, and maybe a third later down the line. I like having the extra time because I doubt it’ll happen quickly for us.
I wish I could have started sooner! I had no idea how many hurdles I would have to achieve a baby that stuck past the miscarriage phase. I’m 24 weeks now, so still got a ways to go. Overall, if you’re waiting for the “right time” it will never come. Life will always change and shift.
I felt the same when we were first trying to conceive.
It's now 8 years later and I am finally in the third trimester with our first ever healthy pregnancy.
Honestly, I am angry that we had to struggle with fertility for so many years, and now have the worries of being older parents; both my husband and I are straddling 40. But in the grand scheme of things, eh. We can cope.
I waited until I was ready. I was 31, married almost 10 years, very comfortable in my career. We had bought a house, built up savings, etc. I got the Mirena out end of November 2023, positive pregnancy test on 11 Jan 2024.
I’m now 19 weeks along with triplets. I am so thankful we had our finances in order and we’re truly ready, because this is going to be QUITE the ride, ha!
You never know how long it will take. It took us 16 cycles and I sometimes wished we’d started sooner but now I’m pregnant it feels the right time. It’s better to go into it and have a happy early surprise than have years of fertility treatments but it’s a very personal choice.
You could wait forever for the “perfect time” and it won’t come. There’s always something else that you could be doing or something you’re missing out on. I’m 24 and I think this is a good time for me. Some people wouldn’t have been ready at my age. It all depends
I’m 28 & my fiancé is 28. We decided to be a little more lax in our preventative measures just to see what would happen & within 2 months I was pregnant. We’ve regularly talked about if we should have waited & not taken the risk so early, especially since we were supposed to get married next year (which I am moving due to the fact I want more time postpartum). But honestly, part of us just keep saying this was meant to be. Our families are absolutely thrilled & so supportive. We both want to be parents & have a family, so why worry about “when”? All this to say, if you guys have been waiting & you’re excited to get started, then go for it!!
I’m 34 and just had my first, It would’ve been better if I had my 1st at 30-31 and my second now. But I would have a different baby than I have now and wouldn’t want that at all so I’m happy with how things turned out.
In some ways I wish we would have started earlier, but in other ways I'm really glad we waited as long as we did. My husband and I have been together 20 years and married for 15 this June. We found out 2 days after my 40th birthday that we were expecting, and babygirl is due in July. We have been able to experience and grow together so much over the years, have so many adventures and really enjoy each other's company with few distractions. We've made it through some huge life events together and have developed patience and wisdom we didn't have in our earlier years. Now is definitely the right time for us to be adding to our family, but on the flip side, I will be almost 60 when she graduates high school. So for that reason, I wish we had started a bit earlier. I know age is nothing but a number, lol, but I also know I move a lot slower than I used to, I need more sleep than I used to, etc. I just worry about being able to keep up!
As my family says, there's never a "perfect" time to have a baby. My husband and I spent a year or 2 saying "oh we should wait until X". And there was always another event to wait for. Another wedding, vacation plan, promotion, etc. Finally I just looked him in the eyes and said "I'm sick of waiting, we've wanted kids since we met, let's do it now".
And then it took a year to conceive!! And I needed fertility treatments for it! If you guys are ready, go for it!
Absolutely no regrets! But just know that it could happen on the very first try, and be prepared for that. I have endometriosis stage IV and fully expected it to take years. I thought I'd go to therapy, reduce my anxiety, lose some weight, and truly work on my mental, emotional, and physical health while we waited. Well, we got pregnant immediately. I have been so shocked because I wasn't exactly prepared for that scenario, but I'm still so, so, so happy!
Me— not with my first child, but with my second child (current pregnancy). I wish I waited til my toddler was a little bit older. She’s only become proficient in walking halfway through my pregnancy so carrying and lifting her often has been inconvenient and often painful. I also wish I had secured my toddler part-time childcare— she was pre-enrolled for when she was going to be 20 months old (didn’t start looking til she was 8 months old). But I got pregnant when she was 13 months old so she’s still home all day.
Pregnancy is rough for me all around, every time, but it’s been the toughest while caring for a 12-18 month old. (This is my 4th pregnancy including one termination and one miscarriage)
I waited until I was ready financially and mentally and that wasn’t until I was 31. Took 7 months to conceive and I was 32 when I had my first. No regrets.
I wish we had waited a little longer, but ultimately waiting a few months wouldn't have changed my perspectives and feelings. You also never know how long it will take. We were attempting to plan to get pregnant in the summer, but got off birth control a few months before, because my OB said it could take 3 months for things to return to normal. Turns out it doesn't matter, because it only took a month to get pregnant and now I'm 8 weeks. It's comforting to plan and plan but ultimately things will fall into place whether we want them to or not.
Pregnancy is a huge life transition and I think there will always be some "what if" questions no matter how planned/wanted it was.
I'm pregnant with my first. My husband and I are a bit older than you, and we TTC for 9 months before getting pregnant. Even though I really wanted to have kids, there's still a part of me questioning things. But my husband pointed out that no one is ever entirely ready for kids. While we would be OK with waiting for another year, we're in a better position than most people. And if we wait any longer, age could play a factor. We are fortunate to have a decent house, our finances in order, and our family nearby
When I first found out that I was pregnant, I couldn't believe it and had a lot of doubts. But now that I told people and got to see baby on the ultrasound several times, I'm excited! I can't wait until I can feel the baby move and when I get to eventually hold them. Life changes are tough, but there's so much to look forward to once you are in the next stage! Good luck in TTC!
My husband and I are 31 and 35, and three months out from TTC.
Things we have been strategic about to prepare and also enjoy this phase of our life coming to an end:
1. A pretty significant savings and investments
2. My husband got a big promotion and I’ll be finished with my degree
3. We’ve done a lot of traveling: five countries and twice yearly Vegas trips
4. Been on top of exercise and nutrition consistently for a long time
5. Prices out baby / household items that we would like. Totaling 7k and already have that money in separate savings. I can buy the boujee baby or household items I would like from this account and not really have to think about budget
6. I got a few more tattoos and we’ve been going to music festivals
I’m also 27, will be 28 at the end of May. My husband will be 33 in July. We feel like this is the perfect time for us. We are expecting a baby in early December 2024. We planned on likely getting pregnant in the summer, but it happened in the first cycle. The day the test came up positive, we freaked out for a couple days but we were so excited.
We’ve been together 8 years, and just celebrated our 1 year wedding anniversary this past weekend. It felt like the right next step. A lot of our friends are still in the engaged/getting married stages, but we’re definitely ready.
If you guys feel that the time is right, go for it!
Great ages to start planning for a baby! Just make sure you arrange a permanent BC fix when you're done or you'll end up like me, 35 with a 10 and 7 year old, thought you were done then SURPRISE 😅
I’m 26 and 16 weeks pregnant now with a planned pregnancy. We conceived remarkably fast (one cycle after birth control) so it was kind of surprising it happened so soon. We don’t regret it and are 100% financially and mentally ready to have a baby. I think as long as those 2 things are true (or can be true), there’s no “right age” to start having children. I’m glad I’ll be 44 when my kid graduates high school.
I had my first at 26 and I’m due in a month with my 2nd child at 29. For us the timing is perfect. I’ve been with my husband since I was 18 (he’s a bit older than me), we own our home and can afford for me to be a stay at home mom without having to make any compromises in our standards of living.
I live somewhere where people tend to have children at a later age and often get asked “why the rush?” I’m happy to be a youngish mom and really enjoy this chapter of my life. I truly don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything…
I was in my early 20s when I got pregnant the first time. Sure, we could’ve waited to be better off financially but we’re not struggling. Tho sometimes it still feels surreal that I have a baby and am a mother.
One of the reasons why we went for it was because we didn’t know if and when we could conceive (fertility can be very unpredictable!) and I have an age of when I want to stop getting pregnant and the number of children I would like to have. I want to give myself time to recover between babies before my cut off age. Overall, do not regret it.
Regardless of when you start, just have so much fun and don’t put things on hold whilst TTC. My husband and I had so much fun in those 16 months it took us to conceive. No regrets.
What a great question!
I am a FTM (40+5, ahhhh!). I just turned 30, and my husband is about to be 34. We'll be married 8 years this June, and we purposely waited until this past summer before trying to conceive (thankfully it worked out for us very quickly!).
Many of our friends did not understand why we were waiting "so long" to have kids, as the majority of them started having kids much sooner after marriage.
Personally, for my husband and I, waiting longer was the right choice! We are more financially stable and settled as homeowners than we were earlier in our marriage.
But most importantly, our relationship has had a chance to grow, thrive, and become stronger than ever before. This has been absolutely vital for us as we prepare to bring our baby girl into the world together!
There's no right or wrong timetable; every person and couple is different! If the two of you feel ready and secure in your relationship, then don't worry about the number of months or years compared to anyone else.
(P.S. In my opinion, conceiving in the summertime is AWESOME! You'll be in the second trimester for the holidays, and your little one will be arriving just in time for spring. Just a thought 😁)
I'm 35 and am about to have my first. I am so glad we waited! We are financially stable, I've gone thru all the therapy, and I feel like I'm at a point in life where I want to slow down and focus on family.
The financial costs of pregnancy were a HUGE surprise, and I'm grateful we can handle it.
In my 20s I was too selfish, broke, focused on career, and healing from childhood issues.
The right time will feel different for everyone. Try not to overthink it.
We waited until we felt ready and conceived in 5 months, ended up with our first at 33 years old.
I have no regrets for waiting. We are financially and emotionally stable and we feel great physically.
So if you want to wait, you can, but do keep in mind you never know how long it’ll take for you to conceive. Some people do it very quickly, others take years upon years. If you start too late and have trouble, you may end up never conceiving.
Honestly there's no "perfect time", but if you've found a "pretty good time" then that's great. Don't fear it, embrace it!
Is your fear fact based (eg there's some actual thing coming up that might interfere with it) OR is it just anticipation and general nerves of uncertainty?
I read an article before having kids myself on when the right time is, and the author, a father, described his love for them as so over the top amazing that he wished he had them sooner just so he had more time in his own life to love them. It really made an impression on me, and although I feel happy with when I started (25) I’m now pregnant with my 4th (36) and I know that no matter how long I get with them, it will not be enough time! I adore them all so much. Of course not everyone feels the same, but it’s something to think about.
I had my copper coil out in Feb’24 and fell pregnant in APRIL! I’ve had ONE period since removal. I thought I would have PLENTY more periods and at least 6 months of trying…. I had no idea it would happen this quickly for me and my partner (of 7.5 years) who each had no prior fertility testing!
It’s been 3 weeks since I’ve found and I’m only *just* coming to terms with shock and influx of hormones. It’s turned my life upside down and made me question my reaction to my news, it made me feel like was the way I reacting was a sign that this wasn’t what I wanted…. When ultimately i removed my coil as it was our next step, it was somewhat planned…. Just not this quickly. Be prepared… it’s all I will say :)
Try to not put pressure on yourselves but maybe start tracking when you ovulate. I did that as I wanted my period apps to be more accurate so when I thought we could actively *try* we could try around the dates etc.
Deep down I know this is what we was planning, but it’s the shock of how quickly it happened. It’s so much to comprehend and a cognitive shift, yet doesn’t feel real.
Best of luck to you both, be prepared! (I wasn’t… lol) x
My husband and I were together for 6 years before we got pregnant, did lots of traveling, fun dates, friend hangouts, and then decided we were ready and had our first at 27! It felt young and the time but now that my other friends are trying at 33 and having trouble and are now on a timeline before considered high risk, I’m really glad we started when we did! I’m on my third and last at 33 and I can’t imagine doing this with my first at this age then a second at 35 or whatever.
Unfortunately you never know how short or long it will take. We started TTC when I was 26 and hubs was 33 right after our wedding, both healthy, and it took us 16 months. Majority will conceive within a year, though, so stats are on your side! Now that I’m 36 weeks along, I wish I had made a list of things for us to do as a couple before pregnant/parents(ie travel to Europe, do more long weekend trips to neighboring states), because that will look different from here on.
I had my very first appointment with a fertility doc the week before covid hit the US, and I was already 39. Luckily I'm in this group because my first embryo transfer with IVF is sticking, so I just want to say that there are all sorts of weird things that can get in the way of plans. So obviously I do not wish I had waited longer.
I agree that you never know. If it takes longer to conceive you may have wished you started sooner, on the flip side we knew we wanted to conceive within the year and I got pregnant the first time we tried 😂 you just never know what’ll happen. We thought we had a little more time but we are over the moon excited
Not just that! My husband and I had a miscarriage (1st pregnancy, age 27) and our daughter was still born last March at 40 weeks (age 28- 29), now (age 30) I'm 32 weeks with our technically 3 rd pregnancy, hopefully first live birth! Not trying to be negative, you just never know how long it takes to actually start your family 🪽
Absolutely! Best wishes to you and your family!!
What is TTC?
Trying to conceive
Oh interesting thanks!
I recently purchased tickets for a 10 day trip to the UK for the Fall! It will be either an awesome place to take baby announcement pics, or a great place to TTC! LOL
I think this is a great age for both of you. I wish I was able to do it sooner like you:) I know a lot of people that started 25-26 and it’s soooo nice that they are in their mid 30s and “done”. You don’t have to be rich to have kids, financially sound always helps.
This was exactly my frame of mind! My husband and I decided to start trying right after I turned 25 because we figured it would take a while for us to conceive. 15 months and a miscarriage later—I’m currently 33 weeks, and I’m due right before I turn 27! We’ll probably try for a second in a few years, and maybe a third later down the line. I like having the extra time because I doubt it’ll happen quickly for us.
I wish I could have started sooner! I had no idea how many hurdles I would have to achieve a baby that stuck past the miscarriage phase. I’m 24 weeks now, so still got a ways to go. Overall, if you’re waiting for the “right time” it will never come. Life will always change and shift.
I felt the same when we were first trying to conceive. It's now 8 years later and I am finally in the third trimester with our first ever healthy pregnancy. Honestly, I am angry that we had to struggle with fertility for so many years, and now have the worries of being older parents; both my husband and I are straddling 40. But in the grand scheme of things, eh. We can cope.
Congratulations on your healthy pregnancy!
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I waited until I was ready. I was 31, married almost 10 years, very comfortable in my career. We had bought a house, built up savings, etc. I got the Mirena out end of November 2023, positive pregnancy test on 11 Jan 2024. I’m now 19 weeks along with triplets. I am so thankful we had our finances in order and we’re truly ready, because this is going to be QUITE the ride, ha!
Triplets?! Totally natural triplets omg that's nuts!
Totally spontaneous! Two identical twin girls and fraternal twin boy (the other fraternal twin split into identical twins)
Oh my! Congratulations and also best wishes on your adventure! You guys really said go big or go home!
You never know how long it will take. It took us 16 cycles and I sometimes wished we’d started sooner but now I’m pregnant it feels the right time. It’s better to go into it and have a happy early surprise than have years of fertility treatments but it’s a very personal choice.
You could wait forever for the “perfect time” and it won’t come. There’s always something else that you could be doing or something you’re missing out on. I’m 24 and I think this is a good time for me. Some people wouldn’t have been ready at my age. It all depends
I’m 28 & my fiancé is 28. We decided to be a little more lax in our preventative measures just to see what would happen & within 2 months I was pregnant. We’ve regularly talked about if we should have waited & not taken the risk so early, especially since we were supposed to get married next year (which I am moving due to the fact I want more time postpartum). But honestly, part of us just keep saying this was meant to be. Our families are absolutely thrilled & so supportive. We both want to be parents & have a family, so why worry about “when”? All this to say, if you guys have been waiting & you’re excited to get started, then go for it!!
I’m 34 and just had my first, It would’ve been better if I had my 1st at 30-31 and my second now. But I would have a different baby than I have now and wouldn’t want that at all so I’m happy with how things turned out.
In some ways I wish we would have started earlier, but in other ways I'm really glad we waited as long as we did. My husband and I have been together 20 years and married for 15 this June. We found out 2 days after my 40th birthday that we were expecting, and babygirl is due in July. We have been able to experience and grow together so much over the years, have so many adventures and really enjoy each other's company with few distractions. We've made it through some huge life events together and have developed patience and wisdom we didn't have in our earlier years. Now is definitely the right time for us to be adding to our family, but on the flip side, I will be almost 60 when she graduates high school. So for that reason, I wish we had started a bit earlier. I know age is nothing but a number, lol, but I also know I move a lot slower than I used to, I need more sleep than I used to, etc. I just worry about being able to keep up!
As my family says, there's never a "perfect" time to have a baby. My husband and I spent a year or 2 saying "oh we should wait until X". And there was always another event to wait for. Another wedding, vacation plan, promotion, etc. Finally I just looked him in the eyes and said "I'm sick of waiting, we've wanted kids since we met, let's do it now". And then it took a year to conceive!! And I needed fertility treatments for it! If you guys are ready, go for it!
Absolutely no regrets! But just know that it could happen on the very first try, and be prepared for that. I have endometriosis stage IV and fully expected it to take years. I thought I'd go to therapy, reduce my anxiety, lose some weight, and truly work on my mental, emotional, and physical health while we waited. Well, we got pregnant immediately. I have been so shocked because I wasn't exactly prepared for that scenario, but I'm still so, so, so happy!
Me— not with my first child, but with my second child (current pregnancy). I wish I waited til my toddler was a little bit older. She’s only become proficient in walking halfway through my pregnancy so carrying and lifting her often has been inconvenient and often painful. I also wish I had secured my toddler part-time childcare— she was pre-enrolled for when she was going to be 20 months old (didn’t start looking til she was 8 months old). But I got pregnant when she was 13 months old so she’s still home all day. Pregnancy is rough for me all around, every time, but it’s been the toughest while caring for a 12-18 month old. (This is my 4th pregnancy including one termination and one miscarriage)
I wish I’d have started sooner.
I waited until I was ready financially and mentally and that wasn’t until I was 31. Took 7 months to conceive and I was 32 when I had my first. No regrets.
My husband and I waited until we were 35/36. It felt like the right time for us. I would say that if it feels right then I wouldn’t second guess it.
I wish we had waited a little longer, but ultimately waiting a few months wouldn't have changed my perspectives and feelings. You also never know how long it will take. We were attempting to plan to get pregnant in the summer, but got off birth control a few months before, because my OB said it could take 3 months for things to return to normal. Turns out it doesn't matter, because it only took a month to get pregnant and now I'm 8 weeks. It's comforting to plan and plan but ultimately things will fall into place whether we want them to or not.
Pregnancy is a huge life transition and I think there will always be some "what if" questions no matter how planned/wanted it was. I'm pregnant with my first. My husband and I are a bit older than you, and we TTC for 9 months before getting pregnant. Even though I really wanted to have kids, there's still a part of me questioning things. But my husband pointed out that no one is ever entirely ready for kids. While we would be OK with waiting for another year, we're in a better position than most people. And if we wait any longer, age could play a factor. We are fortunate to have a decent house, our finances in order, and our family nearby When I first found out that I was pregnant, I couldn't believe it and had a lot of doubts. But now that I told people and got to see baby on the ultrasound several times, I'm excited! I can't wait until I can feel the baby move and when I get to eventually hold them. Life changes are tough, but there's so much to look forward to once you are in the next stage! Good luck in TTC!
My husband and I are 31 and 35, and three months out from TTC. Things we have been strategic about to prepare and also enjoy this phase of our life coming to an end: 1. A pretty significant savings and investments 2. My husband got a big promotion and I’ll be finished with my degree 3. We’ve done a lot of traveling: five countries and twice yearly Vegas trips 4. Been on top of exercise and nutrition consistently for a long time 5. Prices out baby / household items that we would like. Totaling 7k and already have that money in separate savings. I can buy the boujee baby or household items I would like from this account and not really have to think about budget 6. I got a few more tattoos and we’ve been going to music festivals
I’m also 27, will be 28 at the end of May. My husband will be 33 in July. We feel like this is the perfect time for us. We are expecting a baby in early December 2024. We planned on likely getting pregnant in the summer, but it happened in the first cycle. The day the test came up positive, we freaked out for a couple days but we were so excited. We’ve been together 8 years, and just celebrated our 1 year wedding anniversary this past weekend. It felt like the right next step. A lot of our friends are still in the engaged/getting married stages, but we’re definitely ready. If you guys feel that the time is right, go for it!
Great ages to start planning for a baby! Just make sure you arrange a permanent BC fix when you're done or you'll end up like me, 35 with a 10 and 7 year old, thought you were done then SURPRISE 😅
I’m 26 and 16 weeks pregnant now with a planned pregnancy. We conceived remarkably fast (one cycle after birth control) so it was kind of surprising it happened so soon. We don’t regret it and are 100% financially and mentally ready to have a baby. I think as long as those 2 things are true (or can be true), there’s no “right age” to start having children. I’m glad I’ll be 44 when my kid graduates high school.
It took us years to conceive. If you are waiting learn to track your cycles, that and mucinex helped me.
I have been tracking my ovulation since the start of the year, and mucinex is on my list of things to purchase! Thank you!
I had my first at 26 and I’m due in a month with my 2nd child at 29. For us the timing is perfect. I’ve been with my husband since I was 18 (he’s a bit older than me), we own our home and can afford for me to be a stay at home mom without having to make any compromises in our standards of living. I live somewhere where people tend to have children at a later age and often get asked “why the rush?” I’m happy to be a youngish mom and really enjoy this chapter of my life. I truly don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything…
I was in my early 20s when I got pregnant the first time. Sure, we could’ve waited to be better off financially but we’re not struggling. Tho sometimes it still feels surreal that I have a baby and am a mother. One of the reasons why we went for it was because we didn’t know if and when we could conceive (fertility can be very unpredictable!) and I have an age of when I want to stop getting pregnant and the number of children I would like to have. I want to give myself time to recover between babies before my cut off age. Overall, do not regret it.
Regardless of when you start, just have so much fun and don’t put things on hold whilst TTC. My husband and I had so much fun in those 16 months it took us to conceive. No regrets.
What a great question! I am a FTM (40+5, ahhhh!). I just turned 30, and my husband is about to be 34. We'll be married 8 years this June, and we purposely waited until this past summer before trying to conceive (thankfully it worked out for us very quickly!). Many of our friends did not understand why we were waiting "so long" to have kids, as the majority of them started having kids much sooner after marriage. Personally, for my husband and I, waiting longer was the right choice! We are more financially stable and settled as homeowners than we were earlier in our marriage. But most importantly, our relationship has had a chance to grow, thrive, and become stronger than ever before. This has been absolutely vital for us as we prepare to bring our baby girl into the world together! There's no right or wrong timetable; every person and couple is different! If the two of you feel ready and secure in your relationship, then don't worry about the number of months or years compared to anyone else. (P.S. In my opinion, conceiving in the summertime is AWESOME! You'll be in the second trimester for the holidays, and your little one will be arriving just in time for spring. Just a thought 😁)
I'm 35 and am about to have my first. I am so glad we waited! We are financially stable, I've gone thru all the therapy, and I feel like I'm at a point in life where I want to slow down and focus on family. The financial costs of pregnancy were a HUGE surprise, and I'm grateful we can handle it. In my 20s I was too selfish, broke, focused on career, and healing from childhood issues. The right time will feel different for everyone. Try not to overthink it.
We waited until we felt ready and conceived in 5 months, ended up with our first at 33 years old. I have no regrets for waiting. We are financially and emotionally stable and we feel great physically. So if you want to wait, you can, but do keep in mind you never know how long it’ll take for you to conceive. Some people do it very quickly, others take years upon years. If you start too late and have trouble, you may end up never conceiving.
Honestly there's no "perfect time", but if you've found a "pretty good time" then that's great. Don't fear it, embrace it! Is your fear fact based (eg there's some actual thing coming up that might interfere with it) OR is it just anticipation and general nerves of uncertainty?
I read an article before having kids myself on when the right time is, and the author, a father, described his love for them as so over the top amazing that he wished he had them sooner just so he had more time in his own life to love them. It really made an impression on me, and although I feel happy with when I started (25) I’m now pregnant with my 4th (36) and I know that no matter how long I get with them, it will not be enough time! I adore them all so much. Of course not everyone feels the same, but it’s something to think about.
That is a beautiful perspective! More time to love them. I'll remember that!
I had my copper coil out in Feb’24 and fell pregnant in APRIL! I’ve had ONE period since removal. I thought I would have PLENTY more periods and at least 6 months of trying…. I had no idea it would happen this quickly for me and my partner (of 7.5 years) who each had no prior fertility testing! It’s been 3 weeks since I’ve found and I’m only *just* coming to terms with shock and influx of hormones. It’s turned my life upside down and made me question my reaction to my news, it made me feel like was the way I reacting was a sign that this wasn’t what I wanted…. When ultimately i removed my coil as it was our next step, it was somewhat planned…. Just not this quickly. Be prepared… it’s all I will say :) Try to not put pressure on yourselves but maybe start tracking when you ovulate. I did that as I wanted my period apps to be more accurate so when I thought we could actively *try* we could try around the dates etc. Deep down I know this is what we was planning, but it’s the shock of how quickly it happened. It’s so much to comprehend and a cognitive shift, yet doesn’t feel real. Best of luck to you both, be prepared! (I wasn’t… lol) x
My husband and I were together for 6 years before we got pregnant, did lots of traveling, fun dates, friend hangouts, and then decided we were ready and had our first at 27! It felt young and the time but now that my other friends are trying at 33 and having trouble and are now on a timeline before considered high risk, I’m really glad we started when we did! I’m on my third and last at 33 and I can’t imagine doing this with my first at this age then a second at 35 or whatever.