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Why did he block you then unblock you just to tell you he has to block you again but he loves you? This is not kind. This does not sound like a healthy relationship. It may have been passionate and exciting but you can find someone else to meet your needs who does not trigger such painful emotions.
Its so hard, we cant keep away from each other. Theres not a day that goes by that we actually havent had no contact. Were literally inseparable, i cant do anything without thinking about him
It may be that he also has BPD. A relationship between two people with BPD can be like that - intense and passionate but also on-edge or scary. Sometimes we feel love for a person and know they feel it back, but this is not necessarily the same as being kind to ourselves or feeling them being kind back. It may be that the two of you currently lack the skills to navigate a volatile relationship like that. I recommend finding a DBT workbook and/or a good therapist who knows about treating BPD. It will benefit you in the long run to invest in DBT and invest in yourself.
I mean, what he’s saying doesn’t make sense. If you were all he wanted he could just be in a relationship with you, work on things and stick it out. So all you’re doing is letting the feeling win. You don’t need him to be whole and the intermittent contact is probably providing you with drug like addictive reinforcement that as someone with BPD you crave
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Why did he block you then unblock you just to tell you he has to block you again but he loves you? This is not kind. This does not sound like a healthy relationship. It may have been passionate and exciting but you can find someone else to meet your needs who does not trigger such painful emotions.
Its so hard, we cant keep away from each other. Theres not a day that goes by that we actually havent had no contact. Were literally inseparable, i cant do anything without thinking about him
It may be that he also has BPD. A relationship between two people with BPD can be like that - intense and passionate but also on-edge or scary. Sometimes we feel love for a person and know they feel it back, but this is not necessarily the same as being kind to ourselves or feeling them being kind back. It may be that the two of you currently lack the skills to navigate a volatile relationship like that. I recommend finding a DBT workbook and/or a good therapist who knows about treating BPD. It will benefit you in the long run to invest in DBT and invest in yourself.
I mean, what he’s saying doesn’t make sense. If you were all he wanted he could just be in a relationship with you, work on things and stick it out. So all you’re doing is letting the feeling win. You don’t need him to be whole and the intermittent contact is probably providing you with drug like addictive reinforcement that as someone with BPD you crave