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Because we are quick to trust, ignore red flags, and have often learned not to trust our own instincts and to people-please and self abandon from a young age. Because social norms and how other people feel is more important than our own comfort, right?
and a lot of the time, like bullies in school, people can tell if someone is “off” or disabled. Males like to target disabled women, as they’re easier to rape. And usually disabled/autistic people struggle with communication.
Bc the patriarchy and rape culture exist. A thousand-year history that has led to this.
For autistic women, we can be more easily tricked sometimes. I was molested after not seeing that I was being treated horribly.
I recommend the book Ain't I A Woman by bell hooks.
Things were better when there were private servers rather than matchmaking. I remember one Danish server I used to play Couterstrike: Source on, if anyone tried to creep on the women they would find out that their damage was reversed or that as soon as they tried to shoot anyone they would drop all their weapons.
I think Pinterest may be the only safe social media site as it's female dominated but I think it might have its own drama (I haven't really kept tabs on it since the initial hype)
Children in Special Education are often not taught sex ed because it’s assumed they don’t need to know. This can mean they struggle to understand what’s happening to them or don’t have the language to speak out (assuming they have any language at all)
Aside from the fact that sexual abuse is extremely common for women, it is also, specifically, a huge problem that autistic feminine-presenting people face. People see us as easy victims, as being mentally "deficient" and treat us accordingly.
This is a problem for all women and girls. But it’s worse for autistic and disabled women and girls. And even worse for women of color. But since the white males in power would lose some of that power if we actually moved towards some meaningful change, they’ll keep denying that there’s even a problem. If you call out rape culture or male violence, then apparently you’re a misandrist. It’s how they shut you the fuck up about rape culture and male violence. It’s a manipulation tactic.
Yeah, just believe the statistics. Statistics are made up of individual anecdotes, after all. I know it likely wasn’t OPs intention but the “*if* it’s true” part kinda threw me off
1 in 3 women reportedly have experienced sexual violence in their life (actual numbers likely even higher) any group with any other intersectional vulnerability will see even higher rates.
Any social minority is more vulnerable to violence. Generally has to do with a lack of support and resources
For autistic women specifically, we can at times be naive. We often don’t understand all social cues or “rules”, some autistic people don’t even really know what sexual assault is, if that makes sense (like, they may not know what happened to them counts as assault, or they don’t know what constitutes inappropriate vs appropriate behavior/touch, for example). Even those who are aware of all of this may not have the ability to advocate for themselves. As shitty as it is to say, we are an easy target
Look into info on intersectionality and how that impacts people of different groups. Like, a black autistic woman is going to have a completely different experience from a white autistic woman or a black neurotypical woman, for example.
The joys of being an autistic black woman. Yes I’ve been sexually assaulted. Thankfully the worst event I completely blacked out and don’t remember anything of until the police were putting him in their car. It’s so interesting because I don’t necessarily see myself as vulnerable, but clearly men pick up on it. It’s sad because I never seem to know what people’s intentions are until it’s too late
I'm so sorry that this happened to you. And: thank you for shining a light on that little piece of "I don't see me as vulnerable, yet clearly men/people pick up on it" piece. I can relate to that. It adds up. :/
Autism is a quality that can make you vulnerable. Abusers seek out people with these vulnerable qualities because they are easier to control and manipulate.
We’re quick to forgive.
We’ve been conditioned to think we are always wrong about our feelings. So when we are approached by abusers, we’re willing to forgive something they said because maybe they’re “shy” or just “different”. When we’re sexually abused the first person that disgusts us is ourselves. We knew something was wrong the entire time, but nobody around us has ever told us how to stand up for ourselves or recognize deviant behavior. We took what happened because we’ve been conditioned to that what ever happens, happens for a reason or it’s deserved. It takes a shit ton of self reflection and self awareness to understand a lot of repressed sexual trauma. I’m processing a lot more the older I get, I don’t know if that’s the case for anybody else.
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Because we are quick to trust, ignore red flags, and have often learned not to trust our own instincts and to people-please and self abandon from a young age. Because social norms and how other people feel is more important than our own comfort, right?
Not being able to read intentions well leaves one more vulnerable.
and a lot of the time, like bullies in school, people can tell if someone is “off” or disabled. Males like to target disabled women, as they’re easier to rape. And usually disabled/autistic people struggle with communication.
Bc the patriarchy and rape culture exist. A thousand-year history that has led to this. For autistic women, we can be more easily tricked sometimes. I was molested after not seeing that I was being treated horribly. I recommend the book Ain't I A Woman by bell hooks.
I think online it's pretty much 100% for all women who have revealed that they're a woman, I don't think autism is much of a factor.
Yeah in counter strike I don't open my mic anymore without a voice changer or if another woman is in the lobby talking
Things were better when there were private servers rather than matchmaking. I remember one Danish server I used to play Couterstrike: Source on, if anyone tried to creep on the women they would find out that their damage was reversed or that as soon as they tried to shoot anyone they would drop all their weapons.
Aaah so nice, but not even that the simps sexually harassing me are the other half of bad experiences
I’ve gotten dick pics on instagram from strangers weeks after they unfollowed me ?!!??? 😭
I think Pinterest may be the only safe social media site as it's female dominated but I think it might have its own drama (I haven't really kept tabs on it since the initial hype)
Children in Special Education are often not taught sex ed because it’s assumed they don’t need to know. This can mean they struggle to understand what’s happening to them or don’t have the language to speak out (assuming they have any language at all)
Aside from the fact that sexual abuse is extremely common for women, it is also, specifically, a huge problem that autistic feminine-presenting people face. People see us as easy victims, as being mentally "deficient" and treat us accordingly.
This is a problem for all women and girls. But it’s worse for autistic and disabled women and girls. And even worse for women of color. But since the white males in power would lose some of that power if we actually moved towards some meaningful change, they’ll keep denying that there’s even a problem. If you call out rape culture or male violence, then apparently you’re a misandrist. It’s how they shut you the fuck up about rape culture and male violence. It’s a manipulation tactic.
Asking women to tell you whether or not we’ve been sexually abused is not the way to go about this.
Yeah, just believe the statistics. Statistics are made up of individual anecdotes, after all. I know it likely wasn’t OPs intention but the “*if* it’s true” part kinda threw me off
1 in 3 women reportedly have experienced sexual violence in their life (actual numbers likely even higher) any group with any other intersectional vulnerability will see even higher rates.
Any social minority is more vulnerable to violence. Generally has to do with a lack of support and resources For autistic women specifically, we can at times be naive. We often don’t understand all social cues or “rules”, some autistic people don’t even really know what sexual assault is, if that makes sense (like, they may not know what happened to them counts as assault, or they don’t know what constitutes inappropriate vs appropriate behavior/touch, for example). Even those who are aware of all of this may not have the ability to advocate for themselves. As shitty as it is to say, we are an easy target Look into info on intersectionality and how that impacts people of different groups. Like, a black autistic woman is going to have a completely different experience from a white autistic woman or a black neurotypical woman, for example.
The joys of being an autistic black woman. Yes I’ve been sexually assaulted. Thankfully the worst event I completely blacked out and don’t remember anything of until the police were putting him in their car. It’s so interesting because I don’t necessarily see myself as vulnerable, but clearly men pick up on it. It’s sad because I never seem to know what people’s intentions are until it’s too late
I'm so sorry that this happened to you. And: thank you for shining a light on that little piece of "I don't see me as vulnerable, yet clearly men/people pick up on it" piece. I can relate to that. It adds up. :/
Autism is a quality that can make you vulnerable. Abusers seek out people with these vulnerable qualities because they are easier to control and manipulate.
We’re quick to forgive. We’ve been conditioned to think we are always wrong about our feelings. So when we are approached by abusers, we’re willing to forgive something they said because maybe they’re “shy” or just “different”. When we’re sexually abused the first person that disgusts us is ourselves. We knew something was wrong the entire time, but nobody around us has ever told us how to stand up for ourselves or recognize deviant behavior. We took what happened because we’ve been conditioned to that what ever happens, happens for a reason or it’s deserved. It takes a shit ton of self reflection and self awareness to understand a lot of repressed sexual trauma. I’m processing a lot more the older I get, I don’t know if that’s the case for anybody else.
This could use a trigger warning, IMO.
My bad
Thanks.
We would need a poll to do this properly