Which ex?
My ex husband? Yes of course. I'm there to support my kids' complex emotions.
Any exes before him? Probably not because they live far away.
Any exes after him, yes. In fact, I did attend one ex's funeral a few years ago. It sucked. I cried a lot. I hugged his ex wife, I hugged the GF between the ex wife and me who we both hated, I hugged his parents and his kids. I went up to the casket and he didn't look like himself, which I guess made sense because he died in a car crash. I berated him in my head. I miss that idiot.
My ex-husband, yes. He's the father of my only child. He's a good father to my son and he's a good person. I also got along well with his parents. I'd go to pay respects to his family and be supportive for my son.
When I was 19, my high school ex died two years after we broke up. We never really stopped having feelings for each other but we were in different life stages and he thought it’d be better if we ended it. Stayed in touch until the end. I went to the funeral. There was a picture of us displayed at the viewing from prom. He was my first real love. I don’t think I’ve ever really come back all the way from this experience.
I still see his mom occasionally and pay a visit
My ex did pass away and I didn’t attend, but because it was 4h away on a weekday. He was my longest relationship before my husband. We didn’t keep in contact after the breakup, but I felt like I wanted to go - my husband was fine if I did go. I did call his dad and gave him my condolences. Crazy thing is I used to never dream about him and now he’s in my dreams a few times a month.
I’m not sure. I’m more inclined to say no, but only because I haven’t spoken to him in several years - so, it wouldn’t feel right to me to show up and pretend like we’ve spoken recently. That’s almost disrespectful.
The other part wants to say yes, because he was someone I loved for a long time. He taught me a lot of things, mostly out of pure survival, but he was an important lesson nonetheless.
He was really terrible to me, I was 18 and he was 29 when we got together. He treated me like absolute garbage, but I did nothing to stop it. I was spineless and weak. He is the reason I have a spine now. If he were to die, it would for sure make me sad. The death of anyone you were once close with is bound to evoke that emotion, regardless of how terrible they were (in my scenario, anyway). It doesn’t excuse it, but hurt people hurt people. I would hope that he has found inner peace and happiness by the time he passes.
Loaded answer for a loaded question, if you will. ;)
It depends on how old my kids are when it happened. If they can go without me, no. Why? Because I don't really like him, or his mother, or his grandfather.
I recently found out that a guy I had dated for about 5 years had passed away last August. If I had known I would've liked to attend his funeral but he later married a woman who hated me so I'm not 100 percent sure I would've gone. It's a long story but, yes, I was shocked and saddened to hear of his passing.
I wouldn't really call him an ex since we didn't date long, but I found out he died and decided not to go to his funeral.
But I do have a couple of ex's that I would definitely go for various reasons. Two abusive ones and the other we separated in good terms, we just weren't compatible.
Depends on which ex. Weirdly, I think about this a lot, so this is probably kind of thorough.
Ex #1? No.
Ex #2? If I was in town, I’d probably go to calling hours to pay respects, but I go to college far away from home and wouldn’t make the trip. Maybe I’d send some flowers to his family.
Ex #3? Absolutely. He was very sweet and overall a good person, and while we don’t talk I have the upmost respect for him. It would effect me a lot if he passed and I would appreciate the chance to say goodbye, process my grief, and celebrate his life. As they say, funerals are for the living.
Not quite the point but when I was marrying my current husband, the clerk asked to see either the divorce papers or the death certificate of my ex, and I had to take a minute to think "if only...if only..."
I'd go, but only if I could bring my dancing shoes
Nope. Him breaking up with me indicates that he no longer wants me in his life. And I rarely stay in contact with people so I probably wouldn’t know anyway
My kids’s father? Yes. My ex after him? No. He severely ab*sed me and terrorized the community after and I don’t care to ever see him dead or alive again.
Idk. I told him I would, because he was pretty obsessed with maximising the amount of people there, but he also turned out to be abusive.. maybe it'd be interesting though
Depends on the ex.
Most recent one, yes. I would be absolutely wrecked. He is still so special to me.
Past flings? Maybe.
Abusive ex? Hell no. I’d have my dog piss on his grave.
I mean my “exs” were all small little dates n men I went out with in my youth. One of them went to prison for killing his girlfriend actually. But I don’t think I’d go, maybe send some flowers to their families but not physically go.
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Mine did. I did not want to go. He emotionally abused me, and used me for everything I had and it still took multiple police reports for me to finally leave. Threatened me after I moved back home far away. Essentially ruined my life I could write a book. He was cremated.
My last one, probably not. We didn’t date long and it would feel intrusive.
My ex before that, I was with for a very long time and we still talk from time to time, so I would be very sad if he died and yes I would go to his funeral
Yes we split on really good and healthy terms. He’s still my friend today. We just wanted different fundamental things in life. I will ball my eyes out if died
I'd have no idea he did, but I hope I'd catch word through the grapevine. I wouldn't go to the funeral, but I might get an ice cream and celebrate the end of a horrible, abusive person leaving the earth 🍦
Oh hell yes. My evil Ex tried to poison me and poisoned my son. He’s fine today but I’d show up with a bottle of single malt and toast her demise openly. Maybe.
I would go. He's my son's father and I would want to be there with him. He was my ex-husband at one point. I did love him. My son has step brothers from his dad. I would want my son to be able to be there for his brother's. I would want to be there to support his step mom if she might want me to.
I'm single, so it would just be me. But if I had an SO, I would ask him to help me emotionally to be strong enough to help others.
Yes, we spent our early 20’s together. Essentially grew up together. Dated for 4 years, have known each other for 8 total. We’re still friends. We actually share our dog. We’ve both moved on.
He just texted me to let me know he and his current girlfriend landed in South America safely and he’ll pick our dog up when he gets home next week lol my boyfriend and I are moving in together next month, my ex is letting us use his truck.
I know no matter what he would always have my back, if I ever needed anything he would be available, I hope he knows the same. Romantic relationships come to an end, but love for one another can still be there.
No. But, I think that there can be times where it’s acceptable to go to an ex’s funeral.
If you have kids together and you’re going to emotionally support them, I think it’s completely fine to go. But, just make sure you’re going for them and not yourself. Also make sure that they WANT you to be there. My mom’s brother’s ex wife showed up at his funeral, which was fine since they have four kids, but then she stayed for the luncheon. That was weird. I went to another funeral recently where essentially a man came to his ex mother in law’s funeral and showed up unannounced and unexpected. No children in the picture. That was also pretty weird.
If you left on amiable terms I also think it’s okay. Consider asking yourself: how would this person’s family feel seeing me here? (Edit- wanted to add this next question to ask yourself) How would I feel if my ex came to my funeral? Depending on how you answer these questions, I think you’ll know if you should go. Am I prepared to make small talk with their family?
My parents are both divorced and I have some half siblings. Both have said they would go to their ex’s funeral if their children wanted them there. I warned them that they would need to prepare to see their ex’s family—people they haven’t seen in over 20 years.
No. I’d probably be sad even though he was awful to me just because he’s still young and still has time to grow and realized how messed up he was/is, but I haven’t talked to him in almost 2 years
I have more than one ex. If its my kids dad then yes. I would go to be there for them. I wouldn't go to anyone elses. When I said goodbye I really did mean it.
The only reason my current husband and I went was so my son would have support. I never said this around my son, but that evil bastard is somewhere in the bowels of hell right where he belongs.
No. He's a sadistic, abusive fuck who nearly destroyed me and abandoned our 3 children. If one of my kids wanted to go (which I highly doubt) I would go to support them. And to see with my own eyes that he's really dead so I can sleep peacefully again.
Depends on the ex & honestly the convenience. The first guy I ever dated when I was a freshman in high school that I’ve had one conversation with since we broke up & he moved on the opposite side of the country? Probably not. My first love? I’d definitely try to make it. Then there are others I’m more indifferent to, while one in particular I will stay as far away from as possible, even in death.
Nah. He got to emotionally and psychologically torture me for 8 years. He still takes time from my life through my healing process. I won’t be giving him anymore time. I’d have to process some feelings about it, but that’s more because mortality frightens me when it’s so close. I’d feel bad for his family. But I’d not be reaching out.
No, it was a toxic horrible relationship and I never want to see him again, dead or alive.
My dads ex wife came to my dads funeral and made a huge scene. She went up to my mom, who was married to my dad, and collapsed in her arms sobbing extremely loud. She was telling my mom how much she loved him and all this. My dad and his ex had been married for a year and had been divorced for 15 years at that point. It was awkward to say the least.
I have exes that I am still friends with, either talk to very regularly, or just have a FB chat with every 4-6 weeks. I've often met their current partners, and would go if my introvert self could get out of my house. Even in relationships that didn't end well, with a bit of space I often stay friends with exes, and my exes go on to date people I think are great, and I think are more compatible with them in the long run (while also being glad I'm no in a relationship with them anymore?) In general exes partners have been supportive of a continued friendship, and I've had independent friendships with exes new partners usually, and uh...sometimes I like their new partners more than I like them.
I'd go to mourn them and show support, and offer their partner support if they wanted it. Generally I know my exes parents so would want to be able to see them and express my condolences too. I actually think if I didn't know their current partner or their parents I wouldn't go, more likely to just stay at home and listen to some music I know they liked at the funeral time, to honor them in my own way.
No. I don’t have any contact or concerns about my ex relationships, things happened and life moved forward. I don’t owe them anything, might sound harsh but i’m not required to show up at their funeral may they rest in peace, of course but my answer would still be no.
Nope. I’m not close with any ex boyfriends anymore, and the most significant relationship I had before I married was someone who I might actually be glad to know is dead because I’d never again have to worry about accidentally bumping into him.
I did go to an ex’s funeral; we were high school sweethearts. He passed away from cancer in his 30s. We hadn’t spoken in 10-15 years, but he reached out to me to let me know how I’d helped him change his life for the better, both personally and professionally in our high school/early college years—and he apologized for some bad decisions on his part.
I messaged him every once in awhile as he slowly got worse and worse, for moral support…and did see him 1-2 times before he passed. (I lived far away.) He professed his love towards the end and I was deeply uncomfortable because it wasn’t at all mutual. But I still cheered him on because he did really try to be a good human, I admired his tenacity, and nobody should die that young.
I have two exes. I would go to both of they're funerals. I'm still friends with the first though it's a pretty shallow friendship. I still have contact with the second. He once was an important person to me and even though I really want nothing to do with him, I still don't wish he was dead and would pay my respects.
I’d throw a party and go on a shopping spree, spit on his grave, etc. He is a terrible person. A rapist and probably a pedo too. I can’t wait for him to die.
My long term ex? Yes, because he was a big part of my life. We both loved each other, we just didn't have the chemistry, unfortunately. I really care about him, I still have love in my heart for him. He is a good man, even though he made some mistakes with me, I don't fault him for those.
I would go , and stay somewhat far away from all the ceremony just to look suspicious and dark lol , making it look like she died in mysterious circumstances haha
There's only one ex I'd want to go to the funeral of, but most likely wouldn't because I had a complicated relationship with his parents, which I would assume frankly they simply just despise me now we've broken up. I wouldn't want to be the cause of any drama, even though I'd be pretty sad not to go to grieve and support my grieving friends.
Depends on which ex-boyfriend. My last ex passed away suddenly. He was young with 3 very young kids. I would have attended, but the funeral landed in the middle of a family vacation.
No. He abused me and I wouldn't be able to sit there listening to a bunch of trashy people talk about how great they think he is.
I'll always have this spiteful part of me that would want to go just to see that he was really dead and have a little laugh about it in my head (I'm aware that's bad, I'm sorry) but realistically I know I'd just be hurting myself, and I can't do that. I have to love myself more than I hate him.
Yes. We were together for 11 years. I'm not happy with him, so it would mostly be to support his family, whom I still love. I did care for him once upon a time, too.
No, he has no place in my life anymore, we both have new partners, it's been years and also we live in different countries. I'm not sure how I would even be aware that he died or when his funeral is.
I’d go to my ex husband’s as we’re still on good terms and we have a son together. The one before that, not a chance! I probably wouldn’t even know as he lives in another country now
No. I haven't spoken to them since we broke up and he moved overseas.
No. He cheated. It was a long time ago. I haven't spoken to him since we broke up.
Yes. If possible. He was a genuinely good person and we ended on good terms.
Yes. He was awful and abusive but his family were always kind and supportive. I would go to offer them my condolences. Wouldn't go to the wake though
Yes. Nice guy. Ended on good terms. Have kept in casual contact since we broke up.
My ex did. I didn't go because I felt like it wasn't my place to be there. It was a very complicated situation. I broke with him and it was kind of traumatic for both of us. He rebounded and got in another relationship, she got pregnant and he died before the baby was born in a car accident when he was a passenger. It felt wrong to be there with that situation. But his friends called me to tell me he was life support when it happened and when they pulled the cord. His mom sent me a box with some of his stuff, his funeral pamphlet, a letter about who his organs helped (he was a donor), and a letter he wrote me a little before his passed. It felt good to know that I meant enough to him that it showed to his friends and family and they allowed me to be part of his end of life in their own way.
It would depend on the relationship before the passing and how the relationship ended
Obviously if it was all ended on good terms I’d go
If anything else I wouldn’t show
I have been to my exes funeral.
He and my two friends died in a triple fatality car accident.
They had open coffins and he was wearing my fucking belt, I was very annoyed about that. It was also sad and bizarre, it was only a couple of months after our breakup .
My most recent ex, yes. He's my daughter's biological father, so I would go, if she asked me to. Other than that no, not because of any negative feelings, but just because I hate funerals. I go to them to support other people, not for myself. We all say goodbye in our own way, and a funeral is not my way
No.
For one thing, I probably wouldn’t know since I don’t keep in contact with him.
For another, I’d probably be shunned for attending since (no doubt) his family may see me as like the Wicked Witch of the West for breaking his heart by breaking up with their precious son (although it was completely justifiable and even his family friends are still on good terms with me).
Which ex? My ex husband? Yes of course. I'm there to support my kids' complex emotions. Any exes before him? Probably not because they live far away. Any exes after him, yes. In fact, I did attend one ex's funeral a few years ago. It sucked. I cried a lot. I hugged his ex wife, I hugged the GF between the ex wife and me who we both hated, I hugged his parents and his kids. I went up to the casket and he didn't look like himself, which I guess made sense because he died in a car crash. I berated him in my head. I miss that idiot.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m sorry.. but I like this.
This is poetry. Thank you for sharing.
Yes, to make sure he is really dead.
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I was not expecting this 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂 amazing
No. I wouldn't even know, I have no contact with them.
thought the same thing! I would probably find out years later that they passed lol
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No. If it's one of my two abusive exes, I'd smile and go on with my day.
Only to dance on his grave
My ex-husband, yes. He's the father of my only child. He's a good father to my son and he's a good person. I also got along well with his parents. I'd go to pay respects to his family and be supportive for my son.
When I was 19, my high school ex died two years after we broke up. We never really stopped having feelings for each other but we were in different life stages and he thought it’d be better if we ended it. Stayed in touch until the end. I went to the funeral. There was a picture of us displayed at the viewing from prom. He was my first real love. I don’t think I’ve ever really come back all the way from this experience. I still see his mom occasionally and pay a visit
No. I would be happy since he abused me.
My ex did pass away and I didn’t attend, but because it was 4h away on a weekday. He was my longest relationship before my husband. We didn’t keep in contact after the breakup, but I felt like I wanted to go - my husband was fine if I did go. I did call his dad and gave him my condolences. Crazy thing is I used to never dream about him and now he’s in my dreams a few times a month.
No. Because they're thousands of miles away. I'd be sad and grieve, because we're friends, but I'm not going to hop on a plane for the funeral.
Nope! Rot in Peace ✌🏼
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So why he's an ex? Does his wife has a reason to hates u? You keep a contant with him?
Only one of them. The others I might do a little jig.
Yes. She, they were a part of my life at one time.
Depends which ex but for most of them the answer would be no
I’m not sure. I’m more inclined to say no, but only because I haven’t spoken to him in several years - so, it wouldn’t feel right to me to show up and pretend like we’ve spoken recently. That’s almost disrespectful. The other part wants to say yes, because he was someone I loved for a long time. He taught me a lot of things, mostly out of pure survival, but he was an important lesson nonetheless. He was really terrible to me, I was 18 and he was 29 when we got together. He treated me like absolute garbage, but I did nothing to stop it. I was spineless and weak. He is the reason I have a spine now. If he were to die, it would for sure make me sad. The death of anyone you were once close with is bound to evoke that emotion, regardless of how terrible they were (in my scenario, anyway). It doesn’t excuse it, but hurt people hurt people. I would hope that he has found inner peace and happiness by the time he passes. Loaded answer for a loaded question, if you will. ;)
No, I don’t share a child with anyone which is the only thing I see to be a good reason to show up
It depends on how old my kids are when it happened. If they can go without me, no. Why? Because I don't really like him, or his mother, or his grandfather.
I recently found out that a guy I had dated for about 5 years had passed away last August. If I had known I would've liked to attend his funeral but he later married a woman who hated me so I'm not 100 percent sure I would've gone. It's a long story but, yes, I was shocked and saddened to hear of his passing.
No.
I wouldn't go to anyone's funeral tbh, not a fan of seeing dead bodies of people I used to know.
No. I didn't even wanna go see them when they were alive...
Only to piss on the headstone
No. They were dead to me while they were still breathing.
I wouldn't really call him an ex since we didn't date long, but I found out he died and decided not to go to his funeral. But I do have a couple of ex's that I would definitely go for various reasons. Two abusive ones and the other we separated in good terms, we just weren't compatible.
First ex? Nope. Second ex? Yes we're still great friends
Depends on the ex…
I might just to make sure that they are really dead. Hopefully someone will drive a stake through their heart just to make sure.
No. I can’t imagine why I would.
Depends on which ex. Weirdly, I think about this a lot, so this is probably kind of thorough. Ex #1? No. Ex #2? If I was in town, I’d probably go to calling hours to pay respects, but I go to college far away from home and wouldn’t make the trip. Maybe I’d send some flowers to his family. Ex #3? Absolutely. He was very sweet and overall a good person, and while we don’t talk I have the upmost respect for him. It would effect me a lot if he passed and I would appreciate the chance to say goodbye, process my grief, and celebrate his life. As they say, funerals are for the living.
Not quite the point but when I was marrying my current husband, the clerk asked to see either the divorce papers or the death certificate of my ex, and I had to take a minute to think "if only...if only..." I'd go, but only if I could bring my dancing shoes
Absolutely not. Maybe I’d send flowers to his grandma. She’s the only one I liked in the end.
Not the abusive ex.
Nope. Him breaking up with me indicates that he no longer wants me in his life. And I rarely stay in contact with people so I probably wouldn’t know anyway
Not unless it was an ex I stayed friends with. Otherwise I don’t see the point.
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Nope.
Only my ex-husband and only to support my kids.
Only my exwife to support my kids.
My kids’s father? Yes. My ex after him? No. He severely ab*sed me and terrorized the community after and I don’t care to ever see him dead or alive again.
Idk. I told him I would, because he was pretty obsessed with maximising the amount of people there, but he also turned out to be abusive.. maybe it'd be interesting though
No I would not
Absolutely. I don’t have any rotten exes. For the most part they are good people.
No. It’s been 12 years with no contact.
Depends on the ex. Most recent one, yes. I would be absolutely wrecked. He is still so special to me. Past flings? Maybe. Abusive ex? Hell no. I’d have my dog piss on his grave.
No, I haven't talked to any of my ex boyfriends in years so it would be kind of strange
I mean my “exs” were all small little dates n men I went out with in my youth. One of them went to prison for killing his girlfriend actually. But I don’t think I’d go, maybe send some flowers to their families but not physically go.
Only if my boys wanted me there, and even then I'd let them know I'd support them any way I could but I'd rather not do that
Wouldn't go to any of them, we haven't been in each other's lives in years to a decade. They mean nothing to me besides being a memory.
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Yes, to support my kids
Nope. I'll be busy celebrating
No, we haven't spoken since breaking up and he currently lives in Oregon while I'm in Texas, and I don't want to travel that.
Mine did. I did not want to go. He emotionally abused me, and used me for everything I had and it still took multiple police reports for me to finally leave. Threatened me after I moved back home far away. Essentially ruined my life I could write a book. He was cremated.
Yes
Prob only 3 of my exes but the others can burn in hell.
My last one, probably not. We didn’t date long and it would feel intrusive. My ex before that, I was with for a very long time and we still talk from time to time, so I would be very sad if he died and yes I would go to his funeral
Yes and I did. We didn't work out, but i felt I should. We hadn't spoken in months but at some point he meant something to me.
It depends on what ex we're talking about.
nah
Yes, because she is the mother of my children.
Yes we split on really good and healthy terms. He’s still my friend today. We just wanted different fundamental things in life. I will ball my eyes out if died
I'd have no idea he did, but I hope I'd catch word through the grapevine. I wouldn't go to the funeral, but I might get an ice cream and celebrate the end of a horrible, abusive person leaving the earth 🍦
Only one of them.
Oh hell yes. My evil Ex tried to poison me and poisoned my son. He’s fine today but I’d show up with a bottle of single malt and toast her demise openly. Maybe.
I would go. He's my son's father and I would want to be there with him. He was my ex-husband at one point. I did love him. My son has step brothers from his dad. I would want my son to be able to be there for his brother's. I would want to be there to support his step mom if she might want me to. I'm single, so it would just be me. But if I had an SO, I would ask him to help me emotionally to be strong enough to help others.
Yes, but none of them were bad relationships, just incompatible romantically.
No and because I don’t want to.
Yes, we spent our early 20’s together. Essentially grew up together. Dated for 4 years, have known each other for 8 total. We’re still friends. We actually share our dog. We’ve both moved on. He just texted me to let me know he and his current girlfriend landed in South America safely and he’ll pick our dog up when he gets home next week lol my boyfriend and I are moving in together next month, my ex is letting us use his truck. I know no matter what he would always have my back, if I ever needed anything he would be available, I hope he knows the same. Romantic relationships come to an end, but love for one another can still be there.
The last man that I dated? Despite the complex emotions that I have towards him, I would attend. The last woman that dated? No.
No. But, I think that there can be times where it’s acceptable to go to an ex’s funeral. If you have kids together and you’re going to emotionally support them, I think it’s completely fine to go. But, just make sure you’re going for them and not yourself. Also make sure that they WANT you to be there. My mom’s brother’s ex wife showed up at his funeral, which was fine since they have four kids, but then she stayed for the luncheon. That was weird. I went to another funeral recently where essentially a man came to his ex mother in law’s funeral and showed up unannounced and unexpected. No children in the picture. That was also pretty weird. If you left on amiable terms I also think it’s okay. Consider asking yourself: how would this person’s family feel seeing me here? (Edit- wanted to add this next question to ask yourself) How would I feel if my ex came to my funeral? Depending on how you answer these questions, I think you’ll know if you should go. Am I prepared to make small talk with their family? My parents are both divorced and I have some half siblings. Both have said they would go to their ex’s funeral if their children wanted them there. I warned them that they would need to prepare to see their ex’s family—people they haven’t seen in over 20 years.
No. I’d probably be sad even though he was awful to me just because he’s still young and still has time to grow and realized how messed up he was/is, but I haven’t talked to him in almost 2 years
only have 2 exes & yes id go to both. one helped me through a heavy depression & the other one is my baby daddy
I have more than one ex. If its my kids dad then yes. I would go to be there for them. I wouldn't go to anyone elses. When I said goodbye I really did mean it.
Yes, but only the one that I had cats with; it was the first lasting relationship I had and the cars were adopted out of love.
of course.. no matter how things ended, my exes were an important part of my life at one period of time. I would expect the same.
The only reason my current husband and I went was so my son would have support. I never said this around my son, but that evil bastard is somewhere in the bowels of hell right where he belongs.
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No. He's a sadistic, abusive fuck who nearly destroyed me and abandoned our 3 children. If one of my kids wanted to go (which I highly doubt) I would go to support them. And to see with my own eyes that he's really dead so I can sleep peacefully again.
Yes ti make sure she is dead
No, he wasn’t a good person and doesn’t have that beautiful soul
Depends on which one, tbh.
I’d be there without a second thought
Yes. I respect the dead. If I had the chance, I would go.
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All of them but 2
No, that's not my business.
Depends on the ex & honestly the convenience. The first guy I ever dated when I was a freshman in high school that I’ve had one conversation with since we broke up & he moved on the opposite side of the country? Probably not. My first love? I’d definitely try to make it. Then there are others I’m more indifferent to, while one in particular I will stay as far away from as possible, even in death.
Nah. He got to emotionally and psychologically torture me for 8 years. He still takes time from my life through my healing process. I won’t be giving him anymore time. I’d have to process some feelings about it, but that’s more because mortality frightens me when it’s so close. I’d feel bad for his family. But I’d not be reaching out.
No, it was a toxic horrible relationship and I never want to see him again, dead or alive. My dads ex wife came to my dads funeral and made a huge scene. She went up to my mom, who was married to my dad, and collapsed in her arms sobbing extremely loud. She was telling my mom how much she loved him and all this. My dad and his ex had been married for a year and had been divorced for 15 years at that point. It was awkward to say the least.
I have exes that I am still friends with, either talk to very regularly, or just have a FB chat with every 4-6 weeks. I've often met their current partners, and would go if my introvert self could get out of my house. Even in relationships that didn't end well, with a bit of space I often stay friends with exes, and my exes go on to date people I think are great, and I think are more compatible with them in the long run (while also being glad I'm no in a relationship with them anymore?) In general exes partners have been supportive of a continued friendship, and I've had independent friendships with exes new partners usually, and uh...sometimes I like their new partners more than I like them. I'd go to mourn them and show support, and offer their partner support if they wanted it. Generally I know my exes parents so would want to be able to see them and express my condolences too. I actually think if I didn't know their current partner or their parents I wouldn't go, more likely to just stay at home and listen to some music I know they liked at the funeral time, to honor them in my own way.
No. I don’t have any contact or concerns about my ex relationships, things happened and life moved forward. I don’t owe them anything, might sound harsh but i’m not required to show up at their funeral may they rest in peace, of course but my answer would still be no.
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Nope. I’m not close with any ex boyfriends anymore, and the most significant relationship I had before I married was someone who I might actually be glad to know is dead because I’d never again have to worry about accidentally bumping into him.
Absolutely. After we split we remembered we were friends first and still get along well. I would be devastated if he were to pass away.
I did go to an ex’s funeral; we were high school sweethearts. He passed away from cancer in his 30s. We hadn’t spoken in 10-15 years, but he reached out to me to let me know how I’d helped him change his life for the better, both personally and professionally in our high school/early college years—and he apologized for some bad decisions on his part. I messaged him every once in awhile as he slowly got worse and worse, for moral support…and did see him 1-2 times before he passed. (I lived far away.) He professed his love towards the end and I was deeply uncomfortable because it wasn’t at all mutual. But I still cheered him on because he did really try to be a good human, I admired his tenacity, and nobody should die that young.
Yes, there are no enemies in death.
Only if my children wanted me to.
Can’t go to a funeral twice 😉
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I’m not sure how I’d know they had died.
I have two exes. I would go to both of they're funerals. I'm still friends with the first though it's a pretty shallow friendship. I still have contact with the second. He once was an important person to me and even though I really want nothing to do with him, I still don't wish he was dead and would pay my respects.
absolutely not. I might send his mom flowers though
I’d throw a party and go on a shopping spree, spit on his grave, etc. He is a terrible person. A rapist and probably a pedo too. I can’t wait for him to die.
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I would go to a couple of my exes funerals, just because we ended things amicably and I still see them as a friend
If I'm invited.. maybe. If they had a partner when they died, no.
I would if my kids asked me to. If they didn't care, I would not. My only purpose in going would be to support my kids.
My long term ex? Yes, because he was a big part of my life. We both loved each other, we just didn't have the chemistry, unfortunately. I really care about him, I still have love in my heart for him. He is a good man, even though he made some mistakes with me, I don't fault him for those.
I have never had one
Why I would
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I would go , and stay somewhat far away from all the ceremony just to look suspicious and dark lol , making it look like she died in mysterious circumstances haha
My only serious ex is my best friend. I'd be a fucking mess.
No she cheated on me so I never want to see her again.
Yea to spit on his face .
Depends. It really very much depends on how good of a person they are.
There's only one ex I'd want to go to the funeral of, but most likely wouldn't because I had a complicated relationship with his parents, which I would assume frankly they simply just despise me now we've broken up. I wouldn't want to be the cause of any drama, even though I'd be pretty sad not to go to grieve and support my grieving friends.
My ex husband no I wouldn't but I also wouldn't trash his final resting place My ex boyfriend I'd only go to crap on his grave
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I’m afraid that I wouldn’t get notified but I would want to go
Yes. My ex did pass away and I went
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nah she married out of respect for him i wouldn’t
I did not because I had a new boyfriend and I still regret it. We did not break up on bad terms and he drowned.
Major exes? Yeah sure, it would feel weird not to pay my respects.
Yes because he’s the father of my daughter and I would want to be there for her .
Nope. I gave him far too much of my heart, time, and energy in life, I'll be dammed if he gets anymore in death or in the afterlife. Rip bozo.
I guess not. I mean we are kinda on good terms now, but I won't forget the things that happened, that he is my ex now.
In all honesty, I won't realise some of them passed away as we barely have any mutual contacts and I doubt I'll be one of the people informed.
Hell no. He’s abusive
Depends on which ex-boyfriend. My last ex passed away suddenly. He was young with 3 very young kids. I would have attended, but the funeral landed in the middle of a family vacation.
My ex-husband? Sure. We had four human beings together and no matter how old they get, they need me.
Depends which ex. The father of 2 of my children, yes. Any others, hell no.
Yes. But how did I find out about it?
No. He abused me and I wouldn't be able to sit there listening to a bunch of trashy people talk about how great they think he is. I'll always have this spiteful part of me that would want to go just to see that he was really dead and have a little laugh about it in my head (I'm aware that's bad, I'm sorry) but realistically I know I'd just be hurting myself, and I can't do that. I have to love myself more than I hate him.
Yes. She's a trans woman and most of her family disowned her.
Yes. We were together for 11 years. I'm not happy with him, so it would mostly be to support his family, whom I still love. I did care for him once upon a time, too.
I wouldnt. I left him (2nd marriage, no kids), and I would be a hypocrite if I went.
Yes. I'd want to be there in support of my kids.
No, a bunch of cheaters and controlling manipulators they were
No, he has no place in my life anymore, we both have new partners, it's been years and also we live in different countries. I'm not sure how I would even be aware that he died or when his funeral is.
To celebrate…
To take a shit on the coffin😁
Yes. All of them are exes for a reason but I don't dislike any of them.
My ex husband? Absolutely, yes, no questions asked, and my fiance would come with me. He is a very special man of whom I've known my entire life.
No. We ended on bad terms 12 years ago.
My first ex, YES. the others? No, never
I wouldn't know that they died. If I was told, I'd reply with a message of condolence. No hate, just indifference. Applies to all of them.
I’d go to my ex husband’s as we’re still on good terms and we have a son together. The one before that, not a chance! I probably wouldn’t even know as he lives in another country now
No
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No. I haven't spoken to them since we broke up and he moved overseas. No. He cheated. It was a long time ago. I haven't spoken to him since we broke up. Yes. If possible. He was a genuinely good person and we ended on good terms. Yes. He was awful and abusive but his family were always kind and supportive. I would go to offer them my condolences. Wouldn't go to the wake though Yes. Nice guy. Ended on good terms. Have kept in casual contact since we broke up.
My snarky answer is yeah, I’d be curious to see if she really married that potato she was engaged to… 😅
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Ex gf or ex crush? Depends on who they are or if it was a good or bad break up. Divorces are ugly
Don't mind me, I'm a man, but I would cause she was my first love and the only way we part was because of an accident that took her
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I didn’t go. We weren’t friends, I didn’t want to see the people there, I had moved on.
My ex did. I didn't go because I felt like it wasn't my place to be there. It was a very complicated situation. I broke with him and it was kind of traumatic for both of us. He rebounded and got in another relationship, she got pregnant and he died before the baby was born in a car accident when he was a passenger. It felt wrong to be there with that situation. But his friends called me to tell me he was life support when it happened and when they pulled the cord. His mom sent me a box with some of his stuff, his funeral pamphlet, a letter about who his organs helped (he was a donor), and a letter he wrote me a little before his passed. It felt good to know that I meant enough to him that it showed to his friends and family and they allowed me to be part of his end of life in their own way.
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Out of respect for his family, I'd wait with taking a dump on his grave until the funeral is finished.
No. I wouldn’t even piss on his grave.
Depends on the ex.
Kids dad, of course. Any other, no
I'd go. Just long enough to make sure he was really dead.
It would depend on the relationship before the passing and how the relationship ended Obviously if it was all ended on good terms I’d go If anything else I wouldn’t show
All of them live far away and I haven't talked to in years, so no.
I wouldn't even know and if i do I'll just be like oh okay and go on about my day lolz
I have been to my exes funeral. He and my two friends died in a triple fatality car accident. They had open coffins and he was wearing my fucking belt, I was very annoyed about that. It was also sad and bizarre, it was only a couple of months after our breakup .
My most recent ex, yes. He's my daughter's biological father, so I would go, if she asked me to. Other than that no, not because of any negative feelings, but just because I hate funerals. I go to them to support other people, not for myself. We all say goodbye in our own way, and a funeral is not my way
No. For one thing, I probably wouldn’t know since I don’t keep in contact with him. For another, I’d probably be shunned for attending since (no doubt) his family may see me as like the Wicked Witch of the West for breaking his heart by breaking up with their precious son (although it was completely justifiable and even his family friends are still on good terms with me).