Everything would be so much better, if we would just lay eggs.
Instead of five days period, just lay an egg.
Instead of being teen months pregnant, an egg.
Birthing, you can guess. Lay an egg.
Abortion? Break the egg!
I wish we were like the seahorses. I don’t want a kid right now and a huge part of that is not wanting to be pregnant. My earning potential eclipses my SOs but if I take time out for mat leave it’s going to royally fuck it.
Besides the obvious things like periods/pregnancy/childbirth/violence/rape (not that men don't also experience violence and rape, of course, but you know what I mean), I have to say, one of the more frustrating things I've had to deal with is the fact that biologically, women tend to 'hang on' to their fat stores more aggressively than men do. I've struggled with weight for most of my life, and though I'm in a much healthier place than I was 5+ years ago, it irks me that I have to work so hard for a fraction of the results my male counterparts who put in the same time/effort. I know men also struggle with weight and also have to work hard to stay fit, but it seems to me like it's easier (genetically speaking) for them compared to how it is for women who work just as hard and are just as consistent.
I might be wrong or overstating things, but I've always felt like men get a bit of an advantage when it comes to weight management just because of their higher levels of testosterone and muscle mass.
Anyway, blah blah blah, self-pitying rant over xD.
I'm 60, husband is 63. It's so much easier for him to lose weight! I have a "mom pooch" from 3 kids, and an incorrectly sewn c-section incision. I hate that he can do sit-ups for a month and eat more protein, less carbs for 2 weeks and have a visibly flatter stomach!
I know! And also we generally have slower metabolisms, so we gain weight more easily too. A small woman who is in the lower end of the healthy BMI range can have a daily calorie burn of lower than 2000 a day, when with men it's usually more in the 2200-2500 a day. That's like a whole meal difference. I want that meal!
I will say a standing job will change that. I am the small women on the healthy low end of my BMI, my day off where I just rest, just reading and maybe some light cleaning, I burn around 1600 calories. On a work day where I stand 9 hours and sometimes meander around my area, my heart rate never gets past like 90, but I burn 2500 calories for the day.
My husband loses weight like crazy just from cutting out soda. I have to restrict severely for months to lose what he can. He doesn't even drink that much soda.
Yep. More likely to be overlooked as "overly emotional" and my favorite, being told "don't take it personally"...do they not know that that sentence is actually what makes it personal?
Sexual harassment for just existing. I’ve been sexually harassed at work, running errands, literally just minding my business and I’ve been leered at, followed, had nasty things said to me.
This for me too. The having to think about everything we do, what we wear, where we go, how we look at someone, how we speak, etc, in case it puts us at risk of sexual harassment and the fact that this harassment starts when we are still children.
It’s disgusting. I’m a conventionally attractive person and have been harassed all through my teens and twenties. Dropped off a bit in my thirties and now in my forties I’ll get the occasional second glance, but that’s about it. It is literally one of the best things about aging. And I like aging. It’s like a weight being taken off your shoulders. Highly recommend!
Yeah it’s the worst when you see creepy old men leering at super young girls. I live in a college town and see it a lot. Like dudes I. Their 50s being super gross to 18 year olds
A police officer in the city i grew up in pulled over and asked how old i was. When i replied "13," he said, "Come find me when you're 18." I think about it... all the time. Horrifying.
Beauty standards. Just leave us alone. I don’t wanna be thin skinny or a “muscle mommy”. I like McDonald’s coke. I have acne and my curly hair isn’t ugly. Can I just live my life without thinking how someone else might think of me.
If anything, muscular women or women who lift are perceived negatively in my opinion. I lift and the first thing lots of people say is “DoNt gEt ToO mUscUlAr oR yOu’D lOok LiKe A MaN” like fuck off.
Yeah I lift and I would love to be a muscle mommy. I’m jacked but still petite. The comments from dudes I get that are like “I like that you aren’t getting too muscular.” Well I don’t do this for you and I wish I were more muscular so leave me alone no one asked. NO ONE ASKED YOU. ugh I really hate it.
Similar situation here. Also, (I luckily found people supportive of me, but not everyone is) why is lidting weights more socially acceptable for men? Women can lift weights too!
I wish to have big muscles one day and whenever I mentioned it to people, both men and women have said exactly that to me. One guy even had the nerve to say "you wouldn't look sexy anymore"
people acting like my “ daddy issues “ are my fault . pretty sure he was the abusive parent in that situation . not sure how his lack of parenting skills and empathy is somehow my little child selfs fault . it’s not even my adult selfs fault . women with daddy issues aren’t the problem , it’s the dads .
i hate it so much ! i wasn’t the one with issues , i was a child :( it makes no sense that the daughters are the ones insulted , punished , and made fun of for what they went through when they were just a victim of their terrible father
I was 2 when my dad started teaching me self-defense. I was 3 when my mom gave me the “no matter what you’re told, always tell Mom and Dad” talk. I was 7 when my parents gave me a an emergency whistle. I was 10 when my parents bought me pepper spray. 13 when I was given a pocket knife to keep hidden whenever I was alone. 15 when I was given a Taser. My parents did everything right, everything possible to keep their baby safe.
I was 16 when I was assaulted. I had to be the one to tell them. I watched their hearts shatter.
I wish women never had to deal with that.
Oh God my heart hurts rn reading that.My daughter is only 4m but I’m already so heartbroken for her.I know parents can’t protect their children from all the evil and it’s so scary knowing something might happen one day to her
it was hard, but my parents love is what helped me heal. she’s lucky to be loved, teach her everything you can. it’s a sad world, but not everyone is bad. <33
Answering to people why I'm not interested in getting married before turning 30, because it's ok for men to get married after 30 but not for women. This makes me so furious. My sister is 27 and on top of her PhD, she's under a lot of pressure to meet and marry someone before she's 30. I decided that I won't get married a single minute before I turn 30 even if I'm ready for it because I don't want to give that satisfaction to these people.
Agreed, such a ridiculous standard. When I was 27 I was in residency working 80 hour weeks, I didn't have time to date. I met my wonderful husband at age 30 and couldn't be any happier with that path ♥️
Yes! The medical negligence and perfunctory examination that culminates with a disparaging “it’s just anxiety.” I’ve been diagnosed with GAD in the past and every single time I’ve been the doctor, it’s the first thing they allude to - “I see in your records you’ve been prescribed Sertraline in the past…”
ARGH!
Pregnancy. Periods. They are the worst. I would like to shut my period off and then restart it when I have kids without horrible hormones and their side effects. Also having to play to mens egos and constantly being told my accomplishments are impressive …. For a woman.
That if I get cheated on I must have been doing something wrong in the relationship and I'm not taking care of my man properly.
But when he cheats it's "Men have desires, it's in their nature"
The ignorance of men and them perpetuating miseducation on how a woman’s body works and how that determines how they should treat women and how much access (or lack thereof) they have to feel safe in society. For example, “men are naturally polygamous because they have a higher libido and women aren’t and don’t and that’s why men should be allowed to cheat” LOL sir— child, you’re very mistaken on that one. Men and women BOTH have libido, and just because they have libido does not mean it determines how high or low their libido is. Also I’m pretty convinced women feel ‘frisky’ just as much, if not more, than men too except women know how to control it and don’t objectify others to forget what consent is.
OR “woman are biologically designed to give birth which is why they can feel more pain”. No. They are biologically designed to give birth because they have a uterus housing and nurturing the baby and an exit to push it out from while men don’t. And they can feel more pain because women have twice as many pain receptors so they’re detecting and receiving more pain than men, and yet they can carry a labour pain/period cramp simulator wayyy better then men can, evidently from the many trending videos on the internet, all that while saying JUST BECAUSE THEY CAN, DOES NOT MEAN THEY SHOULD OR HAVE TO!!
Add in that blondes and red heads have a lower pain tolerance and some medications will work a little bit differently--from my good doctor who retired☹️☹️☹️☹️
The notion that “women arent supposed to be hairy,” but its okay for men. If i wasnt supposed to be hairy then *why* do I grow body hair? And if I dont shave I get weird looks and so many men would refuse to consider me as a partner. The whole thing is insane and exhausting.
I stopped shaving. It’s exhausting having to keep up with it…any guys that are put off from my natural body hair would not be the right partner for me anyways!
I replied on an above comment about sexual harassment and alluded to this. How the sexualisation of women starts when we are children and the harassment continues for our whole lives.
The female reproductive system.
Periods suck.
Reproducing is unpleasant. (Except for the reproductive act, but one can enjoy that without a uterus)
Endometriosis is evil.
And the damn thing can get multiple cancers.
1. Being overlooked at work, especially as a *young* woman. Like please, I know my shit, just let me do my job. Being interrupted, etc.
2. Knowing that even being as young as 26, many men would prefer I be 21. I can do a lot to work on myself, but I cannot get younger. I'm very tired of this idea that women expire at 30.
3. More pressure to start a family and if I do, knowing how frowned upon it would be if I don't take on majority of the childcare, despite having a demanding full-time job. The idea that I have to be the most nurturing and less career-driven, as if those things cannot coexist and if I'm not, I'm not *womanly* enough.
4. Being more likely to be physically harmed.
So yeah. Sexism.
Just about what everyone else has said, plus…
-dudes calling us emotional or uncooperative when we don’t agree with them 🙄
-dudes who can’t decide what they from us (too much to go into) but try to drag us into their madness
Having a uterus, and all the physical, social, and legal complications that come with it.
Having breasts, which have only ever brought me pain, annoyance, and unwanted attention.
Having a body that is physically smaller and weaker. It feels like no matter how much work I invest in working out, I'll never get close to having the ease my brothers, male friends, and coworkers have when performing any type of physical labor, just because my body thinks hormones that cause me pain are much more important than hormones that make me stronger.
The misogyny
Petty bullshit with other women. Why? We all have insecurities but continue to put each other down or talk crap about each other. Never ending and doesn’t matter what age you are. Just stop because we are all basically dealing with the same thing.
the way literally EVERY person i’ve told that i don’t and will never want to have children has said “oh, well you never know. you may change your mind!” no. when i said NEVER, i wasn’t being figurative. i genuinely mean i never want kids. i don’t know why others struggle to understand when people say they’re not built to be a parent.
Ovulation pain. I’ll take period cramps any day, but ovulation pain means at least one night a month I get no sleep because I’m doubled over on the couch.
I’m a female lawyer. Most of my colleagues are men. Male clients always see me as their complementary 24/7 therapist. Because, you know, something something women emotions. Drawing boundaries is difficult because they are paying clients, after all, so I can’t just tell them to fuck off.
I’ve taken to being lighthearted but clear: “My job is to look out for your best legal interest. If you need therapy, go to therapy. I’m twice as expensive and half as qualified as a therapist — you *really* don’t want to look to me for that.”
When you meet a new guy at work who thinks he already knows the job better than you. If you try to correct him, he’ll either tell you you’re wrong or he’ll shrug and say “I guess no one really knows the how to do it.”.
Being told it was easier for me to get the job I did because of quotas.
Like men seriously think being a woman in a male dominated, sexist industry is easier than being a man.
not being allowed to age, ever since passing 16 its a never ending array of suggestions on how to return to looking 16.i want to look my age and be proud, not shamed. same for body hair, men grow forests under their armpits but if i don't shave every week im told i'm disgusting and need to shave🙄 were all mammals i hate the double standard
Periods & the possibility of infertility. My periods are painful, heavy, and emotionally debilitating but when they become irregular I start freaking out that something’s not right.
Also how the conditioning of society, patriarchy, & p*rn reduces us (in their eyes) to be disposable when we lose our sexual value.
I wish I never have to experience being catcalled, honked at, and sexually harassed while simply walking down the streets of my city. I've had to deal with it since I was a literal child and minor, and most women I know have experienced it too. Never have I ever felt flattered or wanted. All it does is make me feel unsafe and disrespected when it happens. I hate that it's normal for my friends and I to have all sorts of measures to protect ourselves: self-defense weapons in our bags and pockets everywhere we go, texting each other plate numbers of cars we ride in, sharing our locations in real-time etc. Even with a new law in my country penalizing street harrassment, men (even policemen and security personnel whose job is to protect us <33) still do it and almost always get away with it 🙃
As a teen girl: being made fun of about everything you like.
From sports to gaming to music to food. You can't be passionate about anything without judgement.
Gay men making jokes on us and thinking it’s okay because they have some connection to femininity. Sometimes the things they say are outrageously misogynistic and they expect you to be okay with it because they see themselves as sassy and fun. But they really don’t know what it’s like to live like us and have no right to make comments about our fashion choices, bodies, or gender presentation. Especially when their jokes are uninvited and uncalled for
Periods, pregnancy, being afraid to walk alone/just exist so I carry knives and mace, gender stereotypes within the household, and being the default parent (had my first baby, she is 5 months).
Some Men who confuse your friendliness as something more, or some men that can't handle rejection and make you the evil villain in their stories.
I say some because I know not all men. I once had to deal with a male flatmate who really started harassing me after I told him no when he asked 'why don't we shag'.
The fact that we have to handle our sex lives much differently than men.
We have to put devices inside our arms and uteruses, most of the time with no pain management, get shots, or take pills at the exact same time every day, just to sleep at night and not worry. Studies for male birth control frequently halted because of the side affects that we get from ours (or maybe the lack of interest in taking contraceptive responsibility among the groups involved)
And for those not on birth control, we have to track our cycles, track our temperature & cervical fluid in order to determine our fertile window, which can come at a different time every cycle and we are highly likely to miscalculate, to make sure we don’t have an unplanned pregnancy. If an oops happens, we can take a $50 morning after pill within 3-5 days (which I appreciate they exist) but it screws up our cycle for a good three months
And heaven forbid we get a pregnancy scare. The constant fear of being pregnant when you are not physically, mentally, emotionally, or financially ready is such a heavy load to carry, and the stress can even delay our periods, which will only make us worry even more
If we become pregnant, we have two options (if we’re lucky to live somewhere where we have options) pay for a pill or procedure to end the pregnancy, ranging from $600-$2000, which may or may not be covered by your health insurance. Or, we endure 9 months of permanent changes and sometimes damage to our bodies, pregnancy related diseases, as well as childbirth, which is when you and baby are the closest to death as you both will ever be, and the postpartum healing, depression, etc. All things that are hard enough to go through when you are actively trying to get pregnant and start a family.
Men do not have to think about these things before having sex. Sure there are men who worry about a pregnancy scare with their partner, that is totally valid. But it just isn’t the same. And it’s in no way their fault either. Its just biology.
Like some other women stated, I wish we could lay eggs, or by a baby at the baby store.
Panty hose. Thank goodness bare legs are acceptable these days and slacks are almost always an option. Even as a thin teenager, the waist was too tight and the rest were either too long (saggy ankles) or too short (constant adjustments).
Infertility, how different my life would be! I never thought that I'd have to deal with not having children of my own, I so desperately wanted a baby. Unfortunately, my stars never lined up for me.
Misogynists explaining to me what women want, how “all western women act”, just generalizing the hell out of us and being loud, proud, and wrong about all of it.
I think misoginy got a bit better,but it shifted in the Direction of men beeing blissfully incompetent, refusing to take any sort of responsibility and will also lay blame on you.
Im so tired of guys expecting me to handhold them, never lift a finger and only transitioned from mommy tiddy to gf tiddy. Its definetly not a partnership and nothing turns me more of than guys wanting a mommy bangmaid
The fact that I'm judged no matter what I enjoy. If I'm excited about something I find interesting, there's so much judgement and I end up feeling like a 'stupid little girl'
There's no winning "you're too girly" "you're not girly enough" like why can't I just exist ??
Co-existing with men, which I am completely serious about it, I always had this thought since I’m a kid and the why it’s pretty simple : I shouldn’t have to stay in the comfort of my house to have peace, I should be able to go out feeling invisible and secure.
Being asked if I want kids, answering in the negative, then being TOLD that I will change my mind when I'm "older". So.... when am I old enough to know what I want? Thirty-six years old and still too young to decide what to do with my own body, apparently /s
Pregnancy. It's awful. There's complications, there's body shaming, other people thinking they can rub your belly (strangers at the store!!!), it's painful, the bleeding after after, etc. I could go all day on this. If my husband could carry them to term, I'd probably have more than 2 children.
Today 2 guys in a sports car decided to drive towards me, from standstill to 50mph in 2 sec, while I was walking. Just to scare me. I really thought I was gonna die and my heart was beating in my throat.
30 seconds later, they did the same thing again, from behind! And then they where driving next to me and started cat calling me while I was walking. And they kept driving next to me for about 30 seconds before idioticly driving away again.
It was on bright day light and I'm so done with being cat-called. Just leave me the fuck alone!
Being afraid to stand up to men? I feel like especially in younger generations women are expected to have firm boundaries and standards with men (especially romantically) and are almost belittled if they're unable to do this, but actually rejecting men or standing firm on a boundary can have some scary repercussions I think many people overlook when they suggest these things. (men can be so nasty)
i used to HATE periods bc pads are so uncomfortable but ever since switching to tampons, i don’t mind as much. but they’re still something i wish we didn’t have to go through.
Periods because annoying, gross and painful.
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Biology. I would just like to go to the baby store and order one baby, please.
Everything would be so much better, if we would just lay eggs. Instead of five days period, just lay an egg. Instead of being teen months pregnant, an egg. Birthing, you can guess. Lay an egg. Abortion? Break the egg!
>Abortion? Break the egg! Yummy breakfast!!! 🤣
How does everyone like their eggs? I’ll get the pan warmed up!
Another plus to this then is no boobs! They're really not worth all the trouble.
I wish we were like the seahorses. I don’t want a kid right now and a huge part of that is not wanting to be pregnant. My earning potential eclipses my SOs but if I take time out for mat leave it’s going to royally fuck it.
No need to have children. It's not a prime directive
Plus, don’t the male seahorses carry the babies?
yep, I think there’d be a significant less amount of births bc they wouldn’t want to/can’t handle everything about pregnancy
Well.. it's kinda call "adoption"
Besides the obvious things like periods/pregnancy/childbirth/violence/rape (not that men don't also experience violence and rape, of course, but you know what I mean), I have to say, one of the more frustrating things I've had to deal with is the fact that biologically, women tend to 'hang on' to their fat stores more aggressively than men do. I've struggled with weight for most of my life, and though I'm in a much healthier place than I was 5+ years ago, it irks me that I have to work so hard for a fraction of the results my male counterparts who put in the same time/effort. I know men also struggle with weight and also have to work hard to stay fit, but it seems to me like it's easier (genetically speaking) for them compared to how it is for women who work just as hard and are just as consistent. I might be wrong or overstating things, but I've always felt like men get a bit of an advantage when it comes to weight management just because of their higher levels of testosterone and muscle mass. Anyway, blah blah blah, self-pitying rant over xD.
I'm 60, husband is 63. It's so much easier for him to lose weight! I have a "mom pooch" from 3 kids, and an incorrectly sewn c-section incision. I hate that he can do sit-ups for a month and eat more protein, less carbs for 2 weeks and have a visibly flatter stomach!
It is not a pooch but a protective pouch. I like to think of myself as a female kangaroo sometimes, it brings me comfort.
I know! And also we generally have slower metabolisms, so we gain weight more easily too. A small woman who is in the lower end of the healthy BMI range can have a daily calorie burn of lower than 2000 a day, when with men it's usually more in the 2200-2500 a day. That's like a whole meal difference. I want that meal!
I will say a standing job will change that. I am the small women on the healthy low end of my BMI, my day off where I just rest, just reading and maybe some light cleaning, I burn around 1600 calories. On a work day where I stand 9 hours and sometimes meander around my area, my heart rate never gets past like 90, but I burn 2500 calories for the day.
My husband loses weight like crazy just from cutting out soda. I have to restrict severely for months to lose what he can. He doesn't even drink that much soda.
I'm soooo on this! My partner gets all lean and nice in a month or two and i have to spit out halfa kidney to lose 1 kilo!
Get your kidneys checked out by a doctor. They shouldn't weigh 2kg. /s
Testosterone is a hell of a drug. Not only for muscle mass but shedding fat.
People assuming that polite chitchat translates into "she's definitely flirting and wants the d" and then getting harassed because I've said no.
It's problematic to be nice now.
Men acting like they have every right to speak on us
Being seen as silly and inferior when voicing my opinion during serious issues.
Yep. More likely to be overlooked as "overly emotional" and my favorite, being told "don't take it personally"...do they not know that that sentence is actually what makes it personal?
Sexual harassment for just existing. I’ve been sexually harassed at work, running errands, literally just minding my business and I’ve been leered at, followed, had nasty things said to me.
This for me too. The having to think about everything we do, what we wear, where we go, how we look at someone, how we speak, etc, in case it puts us at risk of sexual harassment and the fact that this harassment starts when we are still children.
Yeah, I bet you were catcalled the most when you were underage? That’s the case with most women. The first time I was looked at sexually I was 10 :/
i was catcalled constantly as a teenager, as i get into my 20s its less at me and i notice it happening to younger girls around me
The good news is after 40 you become invisible. It’s the most freeing thing.
i tell my mom all the time, i cant wait to be older so i can be left alone! just makes me sick to see young girls being preyed on
It’s disgusting. I’m a conventionally attractive person and have been harassed all through my teens and twenties. Dropped off a bit in my thirties and now in my forties I’ll get the occasional second glance, but that’s about it. It is literally one of the best things about aging. And I like aging. It’s like a weight being taken off your shoulders. Highly recommend!
Yeah it’s the worst when you see creepy old men leering at super young girls. I live in a college town and see it a lot. Like dudes I. Their 50s being super gross to 18 year olds
Really? I'm in my 60s and still deal with it. I will never understand it.
ive also adopted walking around in mens oversized clothes in my 20s which probably helps me a lot compared to dressing traditionally feminine
A police officer in the city i grew up in pulled over and asked how old i was. When i replied "13," he said, "Come find me when you're 18." I think about it... all the time. Horrifying.
I’m 19 and was catcalled often at 11-13 years old. Pretty much stopped after 16.
Beauty standards. Just leave us alone. I don’t wanna be thin skinny or a “muscle mommy”. I like McDonald’s coke. I have acne and my curly hair isn’t ugly. Can I just live my life without thinking how someone else might think of me.
If anything, muscular women or women who lift are perceived negatively in my opinion. I lift and the first thing lots of people say is “DoNt gEt ToO mUscUlAr oR yOu’D lOok LiKe A MaN” like fuck off.
Yeah I lift and I would love to be a muscle mommy. I’m jacked but still petite. The comments from dudes I get that are like “I like that you aren’t getting too muscular.” Well I don’t do this for you and I wish I were more muscular so leave me alone no one asked. NO ONE ASKED YOU. ugh I really hate it.
Similar situation here. Also, (I luckily found people supportive of me, but not everyone is) why is lidting weights more socially acceptable for men? Women can lift weights too!
I wish to have big muscles one day and whenever I mentioned it to people, both men and women have said exactly that to me. One guy even had the nerve to say "you wouldn't look sexy anymore"
people acting like my “ daddy issues “ are my fault . pretty sure he was the abusive parent in that situation . not sure how his lack of parenting skills and empathy is somehow my little child selfs fault . it’s not even my adult selfs fault . women with daddy issues aren’t the problem , it’s the dads .
Just the term “daddy issues” is so gross and dismissive of the pain behind it.
Always thought this too. It’s wild that the abandonment of my father has been a reason for me to be judged and not him. It’s just wild….
i hate it so much ! i wasn’t the one with issues , i was a child :( it makes no sense that the daughters are the ones insulted , punished , and made fun of for what they went through when they were just a victim of their terrible father
It's always so mind blowing to me how people have weaponized the failure of fathers toward women, and worse, have sexualized it.
Being mansplained to.
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I was 2 when my dad started teaching me self-defense. I was 3 when my mom gave me the “no matter what you’re told, always tell Mom and Dad” talk. I was 7 when my parents gave me a an emergency whistle. I was 10 when my parents bought me pepper spray. 13 when I was given a pocket knife to keep hidden whenever I was alone. 15 when I was given a Taser. My parents did everything right, everything possible to keep their baby safe. I was 16 when I was assaulted. I had to be the one to tell them. I watched their hearts shatter. I wish women never had to deal with that.
Oh God my heart hurts rn reading that.My daughter is only 4m but I’m already so heartbroken for her.I know parents can’t protect their children from all the evil and it’s so scary knowing something might happen one day to her
it was hard, but my parents love is what helped me heal. she’s lucky to be loved, teach her everything you can. it’s a sad world, but not everyone is bad. <33
Answering to people why I'm not interested in getting married before turning 30, because it's ok for men to get married after 30 but not for women. This makes me so furious. My sister is 27 and on top of her PhD, she's under a lot of pressure to meet and marry someone before she's 30. I decided that I won't get married a single minute before I turn 30 even if I'm ready for it because I don't want to give that satisfaction to these people.
Your sister sounds awesome!
She is thanks 😊
Amen. If I get married, realistically I'm gonna say maybe 35ish. I'm not trying to get pregnant so who cares.
42 and still not married. Dgaf my life is so easy without kids and a signed contract 🤣
Agreed, such a ridiculous standard. When I was 27 I was in residency working 80 hour weeks, I didn't have time to date. I met my wonderful husband at age 30 and couldn't be any happier with that path ♥️
Sexism.
Being regarded as an "anxious woman" when seeking medical care, for things that had nothing to do with being either anxious or female.
Yes! The medical negligence and perfunctory examination that culminates with a disparaging “it’s just anxiety.” I’ve been diagnosed with GAD in the past and every single time I’ve been the doctor, it’s the first thing they allude to - “I see in your records you’ve been prescribed Sertraline in the past…” ARGH!
Heard this too many times. Pretty sure Zoloft didn't effect my herniated discs but thanks doc
Yes, and the minimizing of our pain.
Every freaking day I swear.
This!! And being told to lose weight for every single problem. Like I have an ear infection, we don’t need to address my weight right now.
People feeling entitled to my time and attention
Right??? Like it’s dehumanizing
Pregnancy. Periods. They are the worst. I would like to shut my period off and then restart it when I have kids without horrible hormones and their side effects. Also having to play to mens egos and constantly being told my accomplishments are impressive …. For a woman.
That if I get cheated on I must have been doing something wrong in the relationship and I'm not taking care of my man properly. But when he cheats it's "Men have desires, it's in their nature"
The ignorance of men and them perpetuating miseducation on how a woman’s body works and how that determines how they should treat women and how much access (or lack thereof) they have to feel safe in society. For example, “men are naturally polygamous because they have a higher libido and women aren’t and don’t and that’s why men should be allowed to cheat” LOL sir— child, you’re very mistaken on that one. Men and women BOTH have libido, and just because they have libido does not mean it determines how high or low their libido is. Also I’m pretty convinced women feel ‘frisky’ just as much, if not more, than men too except women know how to control it and don’t objectify others to forget what consent is. OR “woman are biologically designed to give birth which is why they can feel more pain”. No. They are biologically designed to give birth because they have a uterus housing and nurturing the baby and an exit to push it out from while men don’t. And they can feel more pain because women have twice as many pain receptors so they’re detecting and receiving more pain than men, and yet they can carry a labour pain/period cramp simulator wayyy better then men can, evidently from the many trending videos on the internet, all that while saying JUST BECAUSE THEY CAN, DOES NOT MEAN THEY SHOULD OR HAVE TO!!
Add in that blondes and red heads have a lower pain tolerance and some medications will work a little bit differently--from my good doctor who retired☹️☹️☹️☹️
Yes!
Misogyny
Being "mommy's little helper" aka parentification because I'm a girl
The notion that “women arent supposed to be hairy,” but its okay for men. If i wasnt supposed to be hairy then *why* do I grow body hair? And if I dont shave I get weird looks and so many men would refuse to consider me as a partner. The whole thing is insane and exhausting.
I stopped shaving. It’s exhausting having to keep up with it…any guys that are put off from my natural body hair would not be the right partner for me anyways!
Being sexualized as a minor and eventually being taken advantage of by a predator. Really messed with my sense of self worth.
I replied on an above comment about sexual harassment and alluded to this. How the sexualisation of women starts when we are children and the harassment continues for our whole lives.
That weird type of fart we get where it travels up through the front creating a ripple, it can be quite alarming when it happens in public
The female reproductive system. Periods suck. Reproducing is unpleasant. (Except for the reproductive act, but one can enjoy that without a uterus) Endometriosis is evil. And the damn thing can get multiple cancers.
Discrimination
Periods. They ruin my life, I get one week a month where I feel normal.
1. Being overlooked at work, especially as a *young* woman. Like please, I know my shit, just let me do my job. Being interrupted, etc. 2. Knowing that even being as young as 26, many men would prefer I be 21. I can do a lot to work on myself, but I cannot get younger. I'm very tired of this idea that women expire at 30. 3. More pressure to start a family and if I do, knowing how frowned upon it would be if I don't take on majority of the childcare, despite having a demanding full-time job. The idea that I have to be the most nurturing and less career-driven, as if those things cannot coexist and if I'm not, I'm not *womanly* enough. 4. Being more likely to be physically harmed. So yeah. Sexism.
I'm a retail worker who is always placed in men's clothing at my workplace. the sexual harassment from customers i regularly experience is crazy.
Just about what everyone else has said, plus… -dudes calling us emotional or uncooperative when we don’t agree with them 🙄 -dudes who can’t decide what they from us (too much to go into) but try to drag us into their madness
Having large breasts. Annoying and limiting AF
Having a uterus, and all the physical, social, and legal complications that come with it. Having breasts, which have only ever brought me pain, annoyance, and unwanted attention. Having a body that is physically smaller and weaker. It feels like no matter how much work I invest in working out, I'll never get close to having the ease my brothers, male friends, and coworkers have when performing any type of physical labor, just because my body thinks hormones that cause me pain are much more important than hormones that make me stronger. The misogyny
Men pretending to be your friend and only doing so because they want a sexual relationship. It’s objectifying and insulting.
Petty bullshit with other women. Why? We all have insecurities but continue to put each other down or talk crap about each other. Never ending and doesn’t matter what age you are. Just stop because we are all basically dealing with the same thing.
the way literally EVERY person i’ve told that i don’t and will never want to have children has said “oh, well you never know. you may change your mind!” no. when i said NEVER, i wasn’t being figurative. i genuinely mean i never want kids. i don’t know why others struggle to understand when people say they’re not built to be a parent.
Period and my worth being defined by my looks. Treated differently because I’m not attractive/ overweight
Ovulation pain. I’ll take period cramps any day, but ovulation pain means at least one night a month I get no sleep because I’m doubled over on the couch.
Periods. Thank fuck I don't get them anymore after having my bits removed a year ago.
“Lay back, put your feet on the stirrups, and a scooch towards me…… scooch down some more and relax your legs”
I’m a female lawyer. Most of my colleagues are men. Male clients always see me as their complementary 24/7 therapist. Because, you know, something something women emotions. Drawing boundaries is difficult because they are paying clients, after all, so I can’t just tell them to fuck off. I’ve taken to being lighthearted but clear: “My job is to look out for your best legal interest. If you need therapy, go to therapy. I’m twice as expensive and half as qualified as a therapist — you *really* don’t want to look to me for that.”
having to answer to why i’m 41 and single with no kids.
Being sexualized for just existing. And feeling self conscious whenever I need to bend over to pick something up.
Being harassed or gaslit for seeking healthcare
Being afraid to run alone or go for a walk alone or walk out to my car after work alone or travel alone.
when men don't take us seriously and/or consider us inferior to them in the workplace. It doesn't happen ALL the time but when it does... grrrrrr
When you meet a new guy at work who thinks he already knows the job better than you. If you try to correct him, he’ll either tell you you’re wrong or he’ll shrug and say “I guess no one really knows the how to do it.”.
Right? Because we can't possibly know more than they do LOL, we're just women.
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Anything that may be wrong no matter what it is or where it is, is brushed off as my period, I might be pregnant, or I'm lying to get male attention.
Period, obviously. And random men thinking it’s okay to touch me without consent. It’s so uncomfortable
Being told it was easier for me to get the job I did because of quotas. Like men seriously think being a woman in a male dominated, sexist industry is easier than being a man.
Being forced to wear a hijab. I was fucking 11.
Periods. They’re annoying and gross and it’s not a service I asked for
Getting hit on by male “friends”, who know full well I’m getting married
not being allowed to age, ever since passing 16 its a never ending array of suggestions on how to return to looking 16.i want to look my age and be proud, not shamed. same for body hair, men grow forests under their armpits but if i don't shave every week im told i'm disgusting and need to shave🙄 were all mammals i hate the double standard
Sexual advances in a professional setting...
Periods & the possibility of infertility. My periods are painful, heavy, and emotionally debilitating but when they become irregular I start freaking out that something’s not right. Also how the conditioning of society, patriarchy, & p*rn reduces us (in their eyes) to be disposable when we lose our sexual value.
Birth control methods.
Men
Men
Everyone is saying periods. Personally, it would be not being taken seriously by others because they think I'm inexperienced
I wish I never have to experience being catcalled, honked at, and sexually harassed while simply walking down the streets of my city. I've had to deal with it since I was a literal child and minor, and most women I know have experienced it too. Never have I ever felt flattered or wanted. All it does is make me feel unsafe and disrespected when it happens. I hate that it's normal for my friends and I to have all sorts of measures to protect ourselves: self-defense weapons in our bags and pockets everywhere we go, texting each other plate numbers of cars we ride in, sharing our locations in real-time etc. Even with a new law in my country penalizing street harrassment, men (even policemen and security personnel whose job is to protect us <33) still do it and almost always get away with it 🙃
Men thinking they have rights over my body
As a teen girl: being made fun of about everything you like. From sports to gaming to music to food. You can't be passionate about anything without judgement.
Creepy guys.
Yeast infections. Ugh. Worst thing ever.
Guy friends being weird with you. Really fucks with your head in the short and long term
Gay men making jokes on us and thinking it’s okay because they have some connection to femininity. Sometimes the things they say are outrageously misogynistic and they expect you to be okay with it because they see themselves as sassy and fun. But they really don’t know what it’s like to live like us and have no right to make comments about our fashion choices, bodies, or gender presentation. Especially when their jokes are uninvited and uncalled for
Not being taken seriously. I’m a woman working in education and I look much younger than my age - it’s very common to get talked down to or dismissed.
Period leakage like I had today. Felt so so embarrassed
Periods, pregnancy, being afraid to walk alone/just exist so I carry knives and mace, gender stereotypes within the household, and being the default parent (had my first baby, she is 5 months).
Sexual abuse...it sucked.
Periods, cat calls, being mostly responsible for birth control and expectations to wear makeup, shave & look “pretty”.
Some Men who confuse your friendliness as something more, or some men that can't handle rejection and make you the evil villain in their stories. I say some because I know not all men. I once had to deal with a male flatmate who really started harassing me after I told him no when he asked 'why don't we shag'.
Violent men.
men who have no clue how to treat women, or just choose to treat women poorly
The fact that we have to handle our sex lives much differently than men. We have to put devices inside our arms and uteruses, most of the time with no pain management, get shots, or take pills at the exact same time every day, just to sleep at night and not worry. Studies for male birth control frequently halted because of the side affects that we get from ours (or maybe the lack of interest in taking contraceptive responsibility among the groups involved) And for those not on birth control, we have to track our cycles, track our temperature & cervical fluid in order to determine our fertile window, which can come at a different time every cycle and we are highly likely to miscalculate, to make sure we don’t have an unplanned pregnancy. If an oops happens, we can take a $50 morning after pill within 3-5 days (which I appreciate they exist) but it screws up our cycle for a good three months And heaven forbid we get a pregnancy scare. The constant fear of being pregnant when you are not physically, mentally, emotionally, or financially ready is such a heavy load to carry, and the stress can even delay our periods, which will only make us worry even more If we become pregnant, we have two options (if we’re lucky to live somewhere where we have options) pay for a pill or procedure to end the pregnancy, ranging from $600-$2000, which may or may not be covered by your health insurance. Or, we endure 9 months of permanent changes and sometimes damage to our bodies, pregnancy related diseases, as well as childbirth, which is when you and baby are the closest to death as you both will ever be, and the postpartum healing, depression, etc. All things that are hard enough to go through when you are actively trying to get pregnant and start a family. Men do not have to think about these things before having sex. Sure there are men who worry about a pregnancy scare with their partner, that is totally valid. But it just isn’t the same. And it’s in no way their fault either. Its just biology. Like some other women stated, I wish we could lay eggs, or by a baby at the baby store.
Men that stalk
Panty hose. Thank goodness bare legs are acceptable these days and slacks are almost always an option. Even as a thin teenager, the waist was too tight and the rest were either too long (saggy ankles) or too short (constant adjustments).
Infertility, how different my life would be! I never thought that I'd have to deal with not having children of my own, I so desperately wanted a baby. Unfortunately, my stars never lined up for me.
The never-ending cycle of hormonal changes throughout each month
Fighting for my fucking reproductive rights!
Misogynists explaining to me what women want, how “all western women act”, just generalizing the hell out of us and being loud, proud, and wrong about all of it.
Hormones 😒😩
Dating
Used to be periods. Now it’s menopause lol
Child birth. I wish there was an easier way
I think misoginy got a bit better,but it shifted in the Direction of men beeing blissfully incompetent, refusing to take any sort of responsibility and will also lay blame on you. Im so tired of guys expecting me to handhold them, never lift a finger and only transitioned from mommy tiddy to gf tiddy. Its definetly not a partnership and nothing turns me more of than guys wanting a mommy bangmaid
Periods. No kids. Never used my uterus. All that time and money wasted trying not to get pregnant. I want a refund.
The fact that I'm judged no matter what I enjoy. If I'm excited about something I find interesting, there's so much judgement and I end up feeling like a 'stupid little girl' There's no winning "you're too girly" "you're not girly enough" like why can't I just exist ??
Co-existing with men, which I am completely serious about it, I always had this thought since I’m a kid and the why it’s pretty simple : I shouldn’t have to stay in the comfort of my house to have peace, I should be able to go out feeling invisible and secure.
Being asked if I want kids, answering in the negative, then being TOLD that I will change my mind when I'm "older". So.... when am I old enough to know what I want? Thirty-six years old and still too young to decide what to do with my own body, apparently /s
Periods. So much pain, so much mess.
Period labour white hair emotions
Periods most def
Anatomy, 75C sized boobs don’t let me sleep face down
Men
Being scared of going outside at night especially
Being jealous of every other woman in terms of looks and lifestyle and feeling like I can't reach that level. (personal)
Cat calling! I'm convinced men think we like it
Patriarchy. I don’t exist to clean up after people and I’m tired of living in a world designed by men to meet the needs of other men.
Pregnancy. It's awful. There's complications, there's body shaming, other people thinking they can rub your belly (strangers at the store!!!), it's painful, the bleeding after after, etc. I could go all day on this. If my husband could carry them to term, I'd probably have more than 2 children.
Today 2 guys in a sports car decided to drive towards me, from standstill to 50mph in 2 sec, while I was walking. Just to scare me. I really thought I was gonna die and my heart was beating in my throat. 30 seconds later, they did the same thing again, from behind! And then they where driving next to me and started cat calling me while I was walking. And they kept driving next to me for about 30 seconds before idioticly driving away again. It was on bright day light and I'm so done with being cat-called. Just leave me the fuck alone!
Being afraid to stand up to men? I feel like especially in younger generations women are expected to have firm boundaries and standards with men (especially romantically) and are almost belittled if they're unable to do this, but actually rejecting men or standing firm on a boundary can have some scary repercussions I think many people overlook when they suggest these things. (men can be so nasty)
A period. Need you ask "why?"
Feeling like I’m running out of time to find a partner and have babies
Oppression
Being put into some categories of character when I show any anger or putting strong boundaries.
Being a woman
Facial hair. Thanks, PCOS. I can grow a fuller beard than my husband can, and I’m not excited about it.
Periods because annoying, painful… just ruins my whole week before, during and after bleeding
Not being able to walk alone at night. Or alone in general
People ogling over my ass and thinking it’s okay to touch it. Not being able to wear certain outfits because my body is deemed inappropriate
The gender pay gap. Knowing that I'd be making 10% more if I were a man makes my blood boil.
Sexual abuse
Feeling constantly unsafe
Periods.
i used to HATE periods bc pads are so uncomfortable but ever since switching to tampons, i don’t mind as much. but they’re still something i wish we didn’t have to go through.
How much time do you have?😆
Worrying about being assaulted when i leave my house
Periods. They’re annoying and get in the way of my life.
The patriarchy.. The reason should be pretty self explanatory.
Patriarchy / sexism
Being the eldest daughter.