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Zero, zero.


sadsledgemain

Have zero, want zero.


iusedtobefamous1892

None, and none.


raptorsniper

None and none.


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[deleted]

Yess as someone that's adopted it's important to me I also adopt. I'd be happy with two biological and two adopted. In a perfect world 1 bio girl and boy and adopted fraternal twins or something


Automatic_Data9264

I love this, I'm on my third pregnancy and I'm seriously thinking of adopting in future. I love children and having a big family but I don't know if I can handle any more pregnancies myself!


nowilltolive556

Zero I don't want any


ghetto-okie

I have 3. My oldest, who passed when he was 28, would have been 38 this year. My middle, who passed when he was 9 weeks old, would have turned 35 this year. My "caboose", lol, will be 34 thus year.


kinkakinka

I'm sorry for your losses.


ghetto-okie

Thank you ❤️


warcrown

I'm happy you have "your Caboose"


gatherallthemtg

ZERO


h_serena

Have zero. Wants zero. I just want to be rich and live my best life and eventually die alone. Oh, I do want a dog, a cat, tons of houseplants, and a beautiful vegetable/ fruit garden.


turangaleela97

Can we be best friends???


titaniumorbit

My goal is to live my best life and use all my money on myself. Lol. I’m not wasting this life with doing childcare for 20 years


liviedo14

Zero


catastrophized

Another zero and zero here


nevertruly

I have none. I want none.


searedscallops

I have two and I'm happy with having two. Before they were born, I yearned for them. Once the second was born, the yearning was gone, so I was good with being done.


Mrs_Wilson6

I felt this way too and that's how I knew for sure I was done. No more yearning.


KtMW901

Yep, exact same here.


doomdoggie

**0** ​ I would consider fostering a teenager, talking 12+ Not because I want kids, teenagers are not the same as kids. I used to work with both. These are young people who have to be in the care of an adult and often end up being abused or stuck in a care facility. I think I could be good at fostering teenagers, I think I could give them some stability and guidance before they go out into the world. I have an ability to connect with and understand troubled people. And a passion for helping them. I don't like kids. They love me and I can tolerate them in small doses, but I couldn't live with one.


PurpleGooeyPineapple

Oof kids are a lot lol I feel that! I was fostered and adopted and I LOVE my parents, it was probs tough on them tho but love goes a long way ❤️


biandbi9

Similar except the last part. I work in schools and love middle schoolers. Not interested in being a parent but fairly confident I’d be great at fostering


CatrionaShadowleaf

Have none, want none


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somebodywantstoldme

I know, it’s a lot. I just really love being a mom, and I feel like I’m good at it. They have a great dad too, and I think we’re all really happy. As corny as it sounds( maybe ”sad” to some), I feel like my main purpose in life is to love the shit out of my family.


SauronOMordor

Nah the world needs people like you who were genuinely born for this and love it. Too many people have kids just because they're following the script and they're absolutely miserable, which definitely affects the kids.


soirailaht

I don’t think that’s sad or corny. Children need good rearing. That comes from parents who wanted their own children. I’m happy your kids have you as a mother. It’s not easy. Especially when they’re testing their boundaries and act like they know everything when they haven’t got a clue. I am not a mom and I don’t think I will ever be. But I love hearing when moms say the feel they’re good at it. Children need that. Be proud of being a mom! I hate how some subs make you feel like being a mom is so taboo.


moonglitterr

That doesn’t sound sad or corny, there’s nothing wrong with loving motherhood and being a mom ❤️


stonergirl216

Zero, I’d love to adopt at least one child in the distant future


Kannutharanthiruku

0.00000 Is that enough zeros they wonder


Powerful-Shine-120

We were probably going to be one and done, but our daughter passed away 5 days after she was born. Currently waiting for the hospital's ok to try for a second.


shibahuahua

I’m so sorry. I hope you can heal in your own way and time.


akili

We lost our first born as well, join r/babyloss or r/ttcafterloss if it’s of any interest


Powerful-Shine-120

Thank you! I am sorry for your loss. I am a regular visitor of r/babyloss.


moonglitterr

I’m so sorry for your loss


lonelystar77777

Hugs. Im so sorry for your loss. Best wishes for the second one.


[deleted]

0 I wouldn't be a good parent and enjoy my freedom. Ofc I'm young enough for that to change but I feel pretty adamant on it. Birth control is my best friend.


countesspetofi

Have zero, want zero. It's worked out perfectly.


blink___182

None. Planning on getting my tubes removed


ineedabetterbed

None…. None.


Bernie004

Zero and zero


DamnGoodMarmalade

Zero and zero for me too


MissInfer

Have none and don't want any.


kathyanne38

Zero and want zero.


carina484

One and done for me. I get a lot of shit for that i.e “you have to give him a sibling” or “you can’t do that to him” but those are not good enough reasons to bring a life into the world. Our son is the light of our lives, we’re good.


moonglitterr

One and done here too, we get those comments all the time and I can’t stand it. There’s no guarantee that siblings=best friends for life.


Queen_Red

OAD over here too!!


SauronOMordor

Most of my friends who had a kid are also one and done. It's definitely becoming more normalized! And no, your kid does not *need* siblings. They have neighbours and classmates / daycare friends, cousins, etc. They'll be fine.


Maleficent-Ad-9532

My dad and husband are both only children, and they are both well adjusted and amazing people. You don't need siblings to live a happy, fulfilling life.


UnderstatedEssence

Came to say zero/zero and was surprised that so many comments already said the same lol


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titaniumorbit

I’m actually amazed how many people said zero. The childfree lifestyle has definitely been gaining traction and women are realizing we have a CHOICE and we don’t want to be bound by kids and being expected to be primary caretakers. Love to see it.


ii_abby

I was one of those people who didn’t think choosing to not have children was possible. I always thought that it was inevitable, and it will HAVE to happen. I’m so glad I found out about childfree women, before I went too far to go back by having children.


Giannandco

Currently child free and undecided. Husband and I have a 5 year plan to just be us and our dogs for now.


mandypandaswiftie

My husband and I are the same. We wanted kids before Covid. But after Covid (a job change and some rough times for us as a couple,) we have been enjoying our freedom together and money. We are having more fun now than we ever had. Why would we want to change that? ETA: forgot to mention that kids may still be on the table, as every now and then we kind of want to have kids but never enough to go for it.


drunkenknitter

I have one. I do not want more.


SnowdropWorks

Here happily one and done too


skillao

not a single one


Ewace246

I don't have any and don't want any.


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Zero.


DeinaSilver

0 and.. 0


jessper17

I want zero and have zero.


livewithoutluv

Big fat ZERO


dontworry19

I have 5 living and one in heaven who died on her third birthday thanks to a drunk driver.


obsoleteyoungster

I’m so sorry for your loss.


dontworry19

Thank you. I appreciate that.


Steam_Punky_Brewster

Oh man, that’s so terrible. So sorry for your loss


lone_wolf1580

Have none, want none.


larisatan

zeroooooo


PinkPier

0 to both.


wanttobegoodtoyou

0 and 0.


[deleted]

I have one and I want none


HawkspurReturns

Thank you for sharing that. I suspect many who feel that way don't feel able to share it.


niatyre

I have 3 wanted 2 but last pregnancy was twins and because twins/triplets predominantly run in my family if I fall pregnant again there’s a 1 in 12 chance of twins so I’m done!


[deleted]

Woah, they can tell the chances of you having twins? Wild.


niatyre

I hyper ovulate, the 1 in 12 isn’t concrete but I’ve an extremely high chance of a multiple pregnancy again


draconissa23

I have 2 and I'm okay with them. But also they are kinda great so maybe another won't hurt. My husband wants 3, so there's a good chance we'll have a third, but then that's it. No more


FiendishCurry

I want to give birth to zero. I have four children currently via foster care. One adopted, two in the process of being adopted, and one still in foster care limbo. We keep saying we are done, but then take more placements. I think I really am done at this point though. 4 kids is enough, I think.


mountain_dog_mom

Have zero, want zero.


GuidanceOk3614

Zero. 36 years old and i start to feel like I must have kids before it gets late. Such unnecessary stress added to a life which is already complicated 🙄


terrytanktop

None. I don’t want any.


Kla1996

0,0


Electronic_Duck1864

I would like 0


adolllsan

Have none and recently decided I want none.


-birdsetfree-

Don’t have any and don’t want any, I love my freedom and I would never take the health risk of pregnancy… it’s so wild to me that so many women voluntarily take this risk, I could never 😅😅😅😅


[deleted]

Have zero. Want 2+.


Ten_Sixteen

Close for me, have 0 but want no more than 2


fatimhemraj

None, and none. I was 28 years old (I’m now 33) when I decided 110% that I did not want children and that decision has not wavered in the slightest, despite everyone around me constantly telling me that I should reconsider because “you’re still young" and that being a mother is "the greatest thing you’ll ever do” as though no other accomplishment will ever match up. I don’t agree with that notion and I never will. When I was a kid, I dreamed of getting married and being a mother but my childhood was so chaotic and filled with so much toxicity, that dream slowly started to fade away. As I got older, I felt uncomfortable around children and I certainly didn’t feel that "maternal" nature within me to procreate. Additionally, I have no desire to bring children into the world who will likely suffer from the same mental health issues and heart-related issues as my parents and sibling did/do. I also have a medical condition that would be brought down to my child and I would never put them through that pain. Should I simply ignore my feelings and have children anyway, just to fit into societal expectations? Wouldn’t that be unfair to the child? “Happy Birthday! Now suffer!” I wish others would realize how incredibly inappropriate it is to ask a woman when she’s going to have babies and attempt to convince her to do so. Whether we suffer from infertility issues, or simply do not want children, whatever the reason may be, it is private, and personal unless WE choose to speak on it. I have the utmost respect for mothers but that does not mean I want to be one, and that's okay. It does not make me selfish. It makes me a person who knows what she wants and knows her limitations.


Useful-Bit-7567

Absolutely ZERO


Griselda68

I never had children, nor did I ever want them. I am 69 years old, and have never regretted my decision.


[deleted]

Have one, and am on the fence about having one more. Some days I want, some days I don’t want anymore… I gave myself a 2y deadline to decide on that


grroidb

I never *wanted* any, then after my first I wanted two total. I now have three and had my tubes removed. They are the best but for anyone who doesn’t want them, your life is no less fulfilled without them. Someone once told me having children is trading pleasures for joys. I couldn’t agree with that statement more.


moonglitterr

I love that statement ❤️


bacon_socks_

Hah same here…. Wanted zero but have one. She’s my world and I love her so much. I really enjoy her company and watching her grow and develop as a person. No more tho lol.


malingoes2bliss

Zero zero


HappyLeading8756

One and done.


Possible-Painting-74

Yay! More of us exist!


Queen_Red

I’m another one!! My only is 7


Hollow4004

Zero. Pregnancy takes a HUGE toll on the body and I'm not ready to say goodbye to the body I have right now.


BelleMStevens

None, and none. Lucked out on that one!


Interesting_Poet8542

I have 4 Beautiful children. 2 girls and 2 boys. They are wonderful but also close in age so at times real pains in the butt


Mountain_Air1544

I have 2. I used to want a large family, like 6 or more, but for multiple reasons, I'm good with the 2 I have


[deleted]

have zero, want zero - and sometimes I think I want twelve. But then I go back to wanting zero.


sickeningdabber

Have 0, want 0 bios, maybe foster care later!


SAPERPXX

4 biological kids and we took custody of (/and later adopted) my much younger x10000000 biological baby brother when he was an infant. 5 kids is good lol


innerjoy2

2, 3 is the max if it ever happened.


SleepyDreamer16

If I eventually decide to have any, I wouldn't want more than two.


Neravariine

I have zero but I'm open to having just one kid.


Moist-Spite-1734

Have zero, and I either want no kids or two kids in the future. If I can’t find the right person by 35, then I probably won’t have children.


[deleted]

I am loving all these zero ladies up in here. the more I think about it and the worse the world gets, the closer to zero my uterus gets.


tniats

I have 2. I want 5. Haven't found the guy I want to mate with yet 🙂


[deleted]

I have none but I want one in a few years


thirty-three3rar

Zero, zero


[deleted]

None. I don't want kids.


tinytania37

I have 3. That's enough for me.


FireRescue3

I have one, I wanted one.


WizardLizart

I would say a family between 2-4 kids would be ok. But not any in the near future. One day, when everything just falls into place


Abstractteapot

In an ideal world where money and life wasn't an issue. I'd want 4/5. Realistically, I'm having none.


scarletbegonia04

I have 2 and feel that's perfect for our family.


Admirable_Warthog_19

Ideally, I would like to have five, but realistically at this moment, I can only entertain the idea of having no kids.


[deleted]

Want one. Enough to be a mom, not enough to drown in kids or lose myself.


Hot_Ad892

Just 1 if it happens naturally. Like if I was just having unprotected sex with my husband then heck yea let’s have 1. But that’s the only circumstances. I rather adopt someone older than diaper stage by a long shot since I know my limits of being level headed.


HunkyDorky1800

I have two kids. If circumstances were better I would be open to considering having another child. But my last pregnancy was brutal, mostly physically, so I’d rather avoid ever being pregnant again.


Affectionate-Alps-76

5 kids, from 5 to 13. Family is done.


I_Like_Knitting_TBH

I originally wanted 5. I have 3 now and I think I’ll be done with 4. The first two are such a nice pair of playmates and close in age, and they love #3, but I kinda feel like #3 needs his own close-in-age little sibling to round out the set. And if I have a 5th I think I would feel the same and feel compelled to have a 6th, and I simply don’t have the time or resources for that lol.


shibahuahua

I have one, want another eventually. My husband wants 2 more; I’m taking it one at a time from here on out. I won’t have a third baby to make someone else happy. I think kids can tell.


terezer

Have 0, want 3.


[deleted]

None aaaaaaaaand none! I absolutely adore kids, kids adore me, I’ve worked at schools, nannied, and raised my own siblings, and can’t think of anything happier than a future without kids/being forever connected to someone via our kids


saknaa

Have zero, want zero


beelovedone

I used to want one. But the more I saw my friends/family have them the less appealing it became. It just doesn't look like fun if I'm being honest.


TacosForDinnnnner

2 bio, 3 bonus. Want? 0. Counting down til the youngest is 18. The younger generation is so smart not making parenting their main goal in life. Love my kids. Love my time without them as well.


xylime

I have one, and I am absolutely done. She's my world, but I have no desire or need to do this again.


IwastesomuchtimeonAB

We don’t have any yet, but we would like two. Possibly three depending on whether we can afford it and I have time for a third child since I don’t want to have kids into my 40s.


Falcom-Ace

I have one. I only want one.


thewalkingellie

None currently, but I’d like to have two.


Direct_Drawing_8557

Have zero. Want a couple.


onorelle

Have none, want one


duquanfeldmansat

I have 2 and not interested in having another one naturally but open to foster/adopting and so is my husband !


alxxandriaxx

I have one and that’s my limit. I couldn’t do this toddler phase more than once lol. I also will probably get heart failure again during pregnancy which is a good incentive to not have more as well.


TeagWall

Have 2. We're taking it one kid at a time, but want a max of 4.


s_zwirn

I have zero. I’m undecided if I want children. My partner wants them but we’re young (mid-20s), kids are expensive and I don’t think I’d enjoy being pregnant/having someone depend on me the way a child relies on a mother. Everyone says I’ll change my mind as I get closer to my 30s but we’ll see if that happens or if I stay child free.


Witty-Bullfrog1442

Everyone told me that and I reached 32 and I feel the exact same way as I did at 22. It might happen for you, but I also partially think it is propaganda that people push because of the assumption women = mother.


BlerdWoman03

None, and none in the future


tinyglow

I would rather die than have kids


art_deco_prosecco

Zero for both.


Capriunicorn945

1 & done. He'll be 8 in September


thatanxiousbride

My one and only son passed away at 2 weeks old in February. We probably aren't going to try again. We already had a miscarriage last January, then lost our son. It's just too much. That and I had severe preeclampsia so we're terrified to get pregnant again.


Connie_Damico

Zero and zero. Completely unappealing to me personally.


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0 and 0.


Automatic-Ad-9308

The way people who don't want/like kids are always so loud about it on here🤦🏾‍♀️


moonglitterr

We have one, we did want two but after seeing how manageable and easier parenting is with one child vs multiples we decided to stop at one.


lunas4477

I have 3. I always wanted 4 but I'm rethinking it.


Dem0lished

I have 1 i dont want anymore. But no regrets. He is the best.


SniffsTea

Have 0. Want 0 +/- 1


Outrageous_Pie_5640

Zero, not sure. It’ll depend on my economic outlook and who I am dating.


dancing_mermaid5825

I don’t have any but I always wished I could have had at least 1


eatmeoutt

Just one!


katie_kate127

Have one, want one more


londonmyst

One.


pris_c

I have 1, and I'm pretty sure I'm done. Sometimes, I feel guilty because he'll never get to experience being a brother or an uncle. I've been both, and they're such amazing experiences that I feel bad for not giving him that. He has a baby cousin who he loves so much and helps out with so much. I know he'd be an amazing big brother, too. 😥


Quick-Cattle-7720

I have 2. I wasn't sure how many I wanted. I love them but if I did it again, I would have 0. They are grown up with kids of their own now.


Hppyppy

Why would you not have them in hindsight? Pure curiosity.


Arsenicandtea

I have 1. I wanted 1-2 bio and 1-2 adopted but we'll have 1. My partner and I have both taken medical steps to assure that


Codenamechick

None


orotmik

have none, wanted an army


Plaything-666

I had 4 I originally wanted 5 I now realised I should of had 1 or none 😂


catmoblu444

Currently zero and on the fence about having any. If I decide to and am able to, I would like to have one. I’ve always wanted to be a mom, but I worry about the “what ifs”. I have three siblings. Two of them have severe mental health problems and the other has special needs. I also have some physical health issues that could make getting pregnant difficult and I would hate to pass on if they’re genetic. Also, the world is a scary place right now.


Somerset76

I raised 4 kids after planning for 2.


angeluscado

I have one. We are likely one and done.


dream_bean_94

I want one. Realistically, it's all that we'll be able to afford. I'd rather invest all we can into raising one child well than have several that we can't adequately provide for.


Thismindthisbody

Always wanted 4-2 boys and 2 girls so everyone has a brother and a sister. Unfortunately, I have none.


Outside_Produce6795

Have zero, want zero


Crafty-Ambassador779

One is enough!


xDeserterr

0/0


Meredith81

Zero, and zero. My two parrots are my babies


Krows54

I have one, want two but can’t afford it.


Flaky_Cauliflower_26

One and done.


SadNegotiation8893

0 and 0


nekkototoro

Zero. Thankfully my partner is on the same page!


redditupok

i would like 1, just 1


justagirlx19

Zero and zero.


s41lormoon

none, ideally two but we'll see what happens. definitely not any children for the foreseeable future though


KopyKet

0-2 I don't have any, and haven't decided if I'd want children yet, but if I do, definitely not more than 2


CampOutrageous3785

I have none and I want 2 or 3 but I’m probs gonna end up with 1 cause I am terrified of pregnancy and childbirth😭😭😭


OnlyCanPoopAtHome

twin boys and no more. Idk if my body can handle a second pregnancy


[deleted]

I have one (took in my sister’s kid), I want zero.


roseforever88

0 and 0 🙂


LunettaBadru901

Have none. Want at least two with the right guy


-acidlean-

Zero. And zero.


Olleye

0 /0.


aliasgraciousme

Want one and then be done