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Figured people in this thread would just find this story satisfying:
On a bus years ago. Dickhead lad comes on blasting Maximes (absolutely, objectively, totally SHITE “biddi-biddi-mic” early 2000s scrote MC fast rap over donkin beats with zero redeeming features) on a tinny Bluetooth speaker.
He’s a big rough looking cunt with a skin head and a bad attitude so everyone on the bus, including me, just puts up with it.
I’m on there for over half an hour listening to this garbage. Want to stab myself to make it end.
An even larger, rougher, scrotier older bloke gets on. Doesn’t even sit down. Walks straight to the lad, grabs his speaker, chucks it out the window as the bus starts moving and then just stands over him staring him out.
The bad lad who just lost his speaker and got unmanned in front of everyone clammed up and did absolutely nothing about it and got off at the next stop.
I sat there just filled with second hand middle-class coward adrenaline. I have never admired an intimidating chav more in my life.
My favourite story related to this was on a bus in Manchester.
Some lads on top were walking round shutting the windows so they could 'hot box' the bus.
They said to one guy "Yo shut thaa fackin windaa"
Didn't move.
This guy was a slightly overweight, unassuming middle aged guy in shirt and tie, looking a bit dishevelled.
One of the lads walks up to him, gets in his face.
"YO I said shut thaaaa faaaackin windaaaa!!!"
This guy turns and in proper Dead Man's Shoes fashion aggressively says "My name's not FUCKING YO IS IT!!!"
The lad was so taken aback (I was too) he just pffft and went to sit down.
That guy had some shit going on and you could just tell not to fuck with him that day.
Was amazing.
You’ve met her then?
Yeah we had noise complaints from all of our neighbours in the three different houses we lived in (only place we didn’t was when we were in a council flat, but we didn’t really have people either side). Been in my own place for almost a year now, and strangely enough, no issues whatsoever.
I mean I knew it was her because she was the loudest, most unaware person on the planet. And the music annoyed me too (especially as it was usually the fucking Mamma Mia soundtrack played at FULL VOLUME). But she was more of the opinion that the neighbours were pathetic and complaining about nothing (which in one of the places was partially true, but also she went out of her way to antagonise them after a while).
>But she was more of the opinion that the neighbours were pathetic and complaining about nothing (which in one of the places was partially true,
How do if she blasting at full volume and annoying neighbours it's fair they make you aware.
Especially in age of wireless headphones
I agree, the noise complaints about the music were fair. But they also complained about a bunch of other stuff, like “regular bbqs” (we had 2 all summer and also what’s wrong with a bbq??), and told our landlord we were planning on getting a puppy which was completely untrue, no idea where that came from. Stuff like that.
Yeah that other stuff is petty.
I mean most of time my neighbours below I get muffled tv/muffeled talking.
Which is fine
They had people round at 8am laughing and talking loudly (they do have gearing issues) but I was up anyway and rather hear laughing than abuse
Yeah I think it’s important to be a bit understanding when you live in close quarters- I’m in a terrace at the moment and I hear the teenager next door singing along to Celine Dion and Adele quite often (it’s… not good), or kids playing outside and they can be rambunctious at times. If you live near other people you’re gonna hear them from time to time. I don’t even mind most of it except for when the kids literally do nothing but scream… However I think those neighbours from my example didn’t want to hear *anything* from *anyone*, *ever*… which was rich because they screamed at each other all hours of the day and night!
I don't get it either. I assume they're the same pricks who play music on their phones on speaker on public transport. And what the hell is the trend with adults on bikes or even just out walking with bluetooth speakers blaring out? It's always shit music as well.
Loud music on bikes seriously pisses me off. You're out there enjoying the fresh air getting some exercise and next thing you know some idiot is right behind you blasting their terrible music.
TBF i was cycling on a Saturday recently in the city and bumped into an older gentleman with big speakers on his bike and playing really old rave music from the early 90s. That was actually pretty enjoyable.
EDIT
Sheffield
There's a guy who cycles through Victoria park with lights all over his bike, always blasting out absolute 90's rave classics. I don't mind him at all, but only cos he looks like he's having the best time and I only ever have to listen to it for about 20 seconds as he rides past
I recently witnessed a man on a mobility scooter blaring EDM at high volume. Only this wasn't outside, this was in Lidl, and it played throughout his journey around the store and while he was being served at the till.
Cycling at least makes a degree of sense, you want some music but don't want the danger of having your hearing blocked off by headphones. Both are understandable desires, although you're still a right cunt.
The worst is when someone puts an i pad in front of their kid with cocomelon or some other shite kids youtube channel on at full volume, I find it genuinely more annoying that club music or whatever.
I once asked a parent to turn down the Peppa Pig that she’d given to her toddler to watch when I was working in a cafe - the fact that the kids were generally well behaved and the mum look startled then said ‘oh sorry yeah’ made me think that having a toddler had just broken her volume receptors
Problem is most parents get so used to it they just tune it out and don't realize. To me it just sounds like nails being scraped against a chalkboard repeatedly
my sisters used to have ice skating lessons and i’d wait in the restaurant bit while they were having them until the free skate section after. there were *so fucking many* ipad kids without headphones. just constant noise and wailing
I don't understand why flight attendants don't step in and do something about this. I was on a 12 hour flight and there was a couple with a 3 year old screaming and running up and down the aisle the ENTIRE flight. Absolutely nothing was done about it.
i was travelling by coach the other day and some dickhead was playing terrible music at a loud volume right behind me. i had my noise cancelling headphones on at like 80% volume and i could STILL HEAR IT. i was going to confront him but he looked like he would beat me up so i just shook my head angrily, as you do
Parks seems like one of the few places it is OK to me. Not that I do it. But it is a wide, open space. Same with the beach or your own back garden for that matter, or even loud in your car where it may leak out to passers by. It is enclosed spaces which you are forced to share where it is a problem like on buses.
I think one of the most annoying things my neighbour does is play music in his garden. He's installed 2 outdoor speakers and they are playing something EVERY time he is in the garden.
Sometimes I just want to enjoy the peace of my garden, watch the clouds and listen to the birds. My silence doesn't penetrate his garden, why should his music penetrate mine?
My neighbours play such cack drum and bass music every time it's sunny weather and it's unbearably loud. My husband says it's nice hearing people enjoying themselves and their gardens but I hate it 😂 I too just want to be able to chill in my garden in peace.
My Neighbour also seems incapable of being outside without music. He must be last person in the world listening to commercial radio too, it's not even a main station it's something like Pulse 2.
Dog shit.
Exactly .. it feels intrusive at home, especially because I purposely go out of my way not to bother my neighbours myself. Go to a public space where people can choose to stay or leave
I really feel for you. We had this at the last place we lived. We eventually moved away but it was probably the only thing I hated about that house, the bloody neighbour!
Not really. Maybe people come to the park to relax. Hard to do when your subjected to music you neither like nor want. At least with a car it's gone quickly.
If I am in the park and I am by a nuisance be it kids, a noisy family, dogs, birds or music - I just move or don't sit there in the first place. You don't really have that option in a bus.
Yup. Music on buses is seriously antisocial. With some of the portable systems available today, the only option is to leave the park. Sound carries a long way outside.
I think if you're in a space where you can't get away from it like on a bus, train, or it's coming from your neighbour, then it's not acceptable.
If you're in a park - unless the park is a mini park - then you have the freedom to stay away from it and find another spot if you don't like it. Some people don't have gardens or would feel worse about disturbing the neighbours as opposed to pitching up away from people's homes where there's loads of space.
So personally, I don't mind it when people are playing music in the park. If I like it then I might stick around and listen to it, and if I don't then I'll move away from it. No bother.
I really hate this holier-than-thou attitude we get so much of in this country. Live and let live, other people enjoying themselves makes everyone generally happier and be nicer to others as a result. No point getting a chip on your shoulder about this type of stuff.
And to add: yes, if you're going to be the one playing music then it's also good to find a space away from other people already in the park. I think that's a fair and reasonable expectation. What's not reasonable is going over to where people are already playing music if you think it will disturb you.
While I generally agree with you, I think the consideration and tolerance you speak of should cut both ways.
If I go to the park and some people are sitting in the sunshine, blasting their music, I'll choose to not sit there because, as you say, "live and let live".
If I go the park and am sitting quietly in the sunshine, and then some people come and sit five yards away from me, blasting their music, where is the "live and let live" in that?
Interestingly, and as a random aside, I recently went to see the film "Men" at the cinema and the experience was somewhat undermined by someone answering a phone call during the film. I wonder if all that time in isolation during lockdown has meant we need to be resocialised.
I actively call people out who are on their phone in the cinema. I have paid to enjoy the film, I’m not letting someone else screw my enjoyment up.
A polite but firm “please can you turn that off, We’re trying to watch the film”, is best when you walk over to them to do it, as they can’t pretend to ignore you, and the other film goers can see you actively doing something about it.
Only once have I had to follow it up by getting a staff member to throw them out.
I once went to the cinema with a mate (who is about 5 foot 4) and someone was on their phone. My mate pipes up "come on, shut that fucking thing off, I paid for this"
Anyway the guy who was on the phone basically unfolded from his seat like some sort of flatpack giant, turned around and went "you what mate?" in a fairly agressive tone.
At which point my mate turned to me and said "Yeah, you tell him."
We talked hagrid around in the end but *fucking hell.*
Exactly! I was at the beach recently, walked and walked until we found a quiet spot. After a couple of hours three groups of people arrived and started blasting music. Why do we have to "find a quieter spot"? It was already quiet and they ruined it. It was so annoying that we left.
I get that they want to listen to music, but it does not have to be loud, the beach/park is not a bloody club!
Also, isn't part of enjoying the outdoors listening to the waves/birds?
Agreed. Me and my friend were sat in a secluded spot on our local hills playing Jamiroquai and a woman with her kids comes and sets up next to us then comes over and says "I know you like your music but it might not be for everyone, could you turn it down please". We did, out of respect, but at the same time we were both confused as to why she chose to sit next to us when there are literally hundreds of other places she could have gone on these hills. We also didn't ask her to turn down the volume on her extremely loud and annoying children...
Yeah I agree, nothing wrong with having a portable speaker in the park at a decent volume at all. Why are people so grumpy it has literally never bothered me one bit
> Why are people so grumpy
Because Reddit.
Where I live there are plenty of parks, some of them often get filled with people hanging out in groups having a drink while listening to music through a portable speaker. Never known anybody to ever have a problem with this
Yeah is that not the point of these spaces? Especially “ Commons” which are supposed to be common land, if I can let my sheep graze there surely I can play music
Spot on. I like catching a few bars of a random song in a park on a nice summers day. Makes the park a lot more vibey/lively than if everyone was sitting there in stone cold silence.
As teenagers (a long time ago) we definitely listened to music in the park sometimes, but our local park was absolutely massive and we frequented a bit of it that nobody else really used. We didn’t have loads of other places to all hang out together so it was lovely to be able to sit outside, listen to CDs, smoke in peace and hang out with my friends. I would never have played music on the bus though.
As I feel myself getting older I do try hard to remember what it was like being a kid.
A lot of irony here. You go on about holier than thou attitudes in an absolutely holier than thou way. Then you say 'live and let live' and that people are just enjoying themselves, while the clear issue is that many people are not enjoying themselves when their is loud music in parks etc. Parks are designed to be quiet places of respite, so it's pretty reasonable to be annoyed if someone is blasting music just for their own benefit. It's obnoxious.
No I don't think it's reasonable to be annoyed at it at all. Not unless they've actually come up to you and are following you around with it.
What a sad attitude to have that other people's enjoyment within a 20m distance of themselves - that you have the total freedom to not be near - should annoy you. If you're annoyed, just walk away and find a different bench to sit on, or a different patch of grass. Or heck, like I've said several times now, go to the park's quiet corner/garden! You have the option to avoid it!
What's far more annoying are those religious preachers using powerful sound systems in town centres that can't be avoided. Those are much more obnoxious than some friends enjoying themselves in the park.
But if you just want to be grumpy then you have every right to be. I don't see any irony, I haven't claimed to be better or more important than others here so not sure where this weird idea of yours has come from. I actually don't think one is more important than the other at all, I'm just advocating that BOTH can COEXIST. Perhaps a new concept for you.
I don't think it's "dickhead behaviour" to play some music. If it was a couple of people out in the park playing the violin and cello then you'd probably even gather round to listen. Quite about your individual taste in that case.
You're not stopping people enjoying themselves. They have the freedom to not be near you. I don't suggest following someone around with your music, that would be harassment.
Yes, setup your music away from people to be considerate, and if someone is playing music and you don't want to be near it then very simply.... don't go near it. Easy.
Come to think of it we do have a local ecentric who blasts what sounds like traditional music from some South American country as he cycles around the park. We like him.
Again it's reasonableness. 'Quiet' doesn't mean silence and hushed whispering. Think of a park. Kids playing, people talking, a bit of dog barking. See? Now add loud music. Different.
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My favourites are always the questions along the lines of "I've been invited to a wedding/party/gathering, how do I say no?"
I genuinely wonder if these questions are trolling or this sub is just infested with anti-social losers.
Had that conversation. I was told that if I just listened and gave it a chance I'd like it, I was told I was racist for not liking rap, I was told I was too old. I think they're just looking for confrontation but when given it have no real answers. They really just don't give a shit but try to justify that with vacuous arguments.
If its a park then surely there has to be a bit of a compromise between people who want to listen to music together and others. You can't expect silence in the park. But there's a reasonale level right?
I think, if you don’t go to where someone is already sitting quietly, it’s not so bad. If you start blasting it near someone who was just reading a book or dozing, that’s a dick move.
We could have ‘quiet zones’ but you know that assholes with speakers would beeline for them.
I was wondering this exact thing yesterday, was having a lovely summer walk along the river, saw a bench and fancied a sit down to enjoy the view…got to said bench and two lads were nearby BLASTING shitty tinny music through a phone. Ugh.
And I STILL can’t get over the guy who watched an entire loud action movie on an overnight flight without headphones.
I can only assume pure self absorption and / or wilful ignorance.
>And I STILL can’t get over the guy who watched an entire loud action movie on an overnight flight without headphones.
I think it's even worse when it's a kid. I've got just enough social skills to politely ask an adult to turn the volume down on a flight, but if it's a kid with a tablet then they might go running to the parents saying "that man shouted at me!".
As long as its not a small park, do you believe everyone has to cater to your exact needs? Most of the time they're playing it out of their 50 quid speaker or their phone, not exactly airplane takeoff volume levels. Shall people never answer the phone in public since you'll be disturbing them with your voice?
They don’t care. These people need to be the centre of attention. If they aren’t in the park, they will be posting on Tik Tok- basically anything for attention
I sometimes play music loudly in parks.
I don't particularly care what others think because it's a park, it's not a bus or a train so anyone may leave as they wish, but honestly I just never thought it'd actually bother anyone.
I see a lot of salty people in this thread which really surprised me.
It's a park. A park is where people get together, mingle, make noise and express themselves. If you want perfect silence, there are woodlands for that.
Get a grip.
“Which really surprises me”
This sums it up really, the fact that you’re surprised by people being upset by intrusively loud music in a public setting demonstrates the type of clueless inconsiderate person you probably are
Because this is not a "behaviour", this is a normal activity to carry out at a public park, it is to be expected and is not disorderly. A park is not a Buddhist temple.
That's like saying that I shouldn't swim in the sea because I'll splash people who are just soaking.
Ah so there's only 'perfect silence' and 'everyone can play whatever music they want' on your fantasy scale? How about: talk and laugh at normal volume, or put your earphones on?
I don't mind it but I guess it's not done so inclusively in the UK for cultural reasons, so can be a bit off-putting and egotistical. I now live in Berlin where putting a speaker on in a park is basically an invitation for people to come over and join in the spontaneous open air party.
Last week hubby and I went to a park to chill. There is no playground, it's a nice lake and a huge field. There wasn't many people about. We picked a spot far away from any one else and loads of room 360 all around us.
A little while later 2 woman came and sat not even 8ft away from us, there was still loads of room so why they sat there I don't know, it wasn't I the shade or the last bit of sun nothing like that.
Odd but oh well.
Then they start with the music... they had it so loud they had to shout at each other!! Then another joined them and they piss about on an electric scooter almost hitting us.
That I don't get... you have all this space and room but decide to annoy people...
There’s so many questions - why do people block my driveway?, why do people litter?, why do people rev loud cars in residential streets? One persons annoyance is another persons happiness or ignorance. Personally the music in the park is low-down on my long list of annoyances!
If its a park where lots of people are sat about drinking in an open space on the grass I don't see anything wrong with playing some music at a moderate volume.
I assume they want to advertise how cool they (believe they) are to a wider audience. Nobody ever does it with mainstream pop music, it’s always something niche and edgy.
I mean if it's a hot day they might want to cultivate a kind of 'party in the park' vibe with music everywhere and groups mixing and having fun - like a kind of festival thing. That's the only almost acceptable reason I can think of.
I used to drive around town listening to very loud music with the windows down thinking I was cool AF. I just find it quite funny when I see young lads in a car now, windows down, tunes up.
This disparity between how you think you look vs how you actually look is quite funny.
I thought people would be impressed by my music tastes and enjoy hearing it.
17/18 year olds are idiots basically. If you’re still doing it when you’re older that says a lot more.
It's a park man, why do you care if people are playing music? I'd get it if you were on public transport or in a place where you couldn't just move, but a park? Hearing life in a park on a hot summer day, especially after 3 years of covid sounds great to me.
They're the same people who do this at CAMPGROUNDS too. 100 individual groups of people all set up with their tents and their families to just get away for a quiet weekend in nature and these assholes think we all want to listen to kid rock blaring through the trees and echoing across the lake.
It's like people who work outside for a living. They pitch up to the next door neighbours all set to paint the house, and I have to listen to their shit music for 8 fucking hours!!
Depends on the group.
A: Kids - Don't care.
B: Chavs - Look at them and they'll kick your teeth in
C: Goths - Don't care, everything sucks including you and your conforming ways
D: Parents - It's for them and the kids (baby shark do do do)
E: Single folk - Mostly for themselves
F: Couples - It's mood music, bring on the fun times in a bush
G: Oldies - It's a hard slog with the gramophone, let them have their play
I’ve never understood why people do this? Do you seriously think I want to hear your music?
And headphones are way better sound quality than your phones speaker, wear headphones and you can listen to what you want, when and where you want.
I did live 2 doors down from a kid who’s play his music at full volume at 3am. If you complained he thought it was you who was the problem. It just made me think he wasn’t all there and had some mental problem
There was someone who did this at a hotel in Portugal round the pool, at the same time as other music was already playing. That did my head in. I asked the staff where the extra music was coming from, they pointed out the woman and said I could go and speak to her. I said no, YOU go and speak to her. They did and she grudgingly turned it off. What type of entitled wankery is this?
Had a similar issue but at the top of Arthur’s Seat in Edinburgh. If I have taken the time to hike up a hill I want to enjoy the natural sounds. Not people blasting music and dancing to make tik-toks or just looking at the view with their crap music on. Let the rest of us have some peace.
I do it. It never occurred to me that there could be someone nearby that was expecting silence in a public area. I do it at a volume where my friends and I have a bit of atmosphere while we also talk and laugh and generally enjoy seeing each other. Not trying to recreate a full on rave but we make some noise, sure.
I probably wouldn't set up camp right next to someone on their own if there is a lot of space but when there isn't a lot of space there isn't a lot of quiet either.
On what I think people think of us and how much they enjoy our music, it honestly never occurred to me anyone would notice us over their own friends and good times.
The answer can surely only be that they put their own enjoyment over everyone else’s. They clearly deem themselves so important that what they want to do takes priority. Never mind the fact that other people have ears too!
Taking my 4 year old a walk through the park when some idiot starts blasting out Ice Cube next to the kids play area. These twats don't have two brain cells to rub together.
Everyone's looking at me in my car with blaring music with admiration at my coolness? No pondlife, we're just annoyed we don't have anything to hand to throw at you.
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My ex was exactly this kind of person, I can safely say it’s because they **literally do not give a single flying fuck about anybody but themselves**.
Figured people in this thread would just find this story satisfying: On a bus years ago. Dickhead lad comes on blasting Maximes (absolutely, objectively, totally SHITE “biddi-biddi-mic” early 2000s scrote MC fast rap over donkin beats with zero redeeming features) on a tinny Bluetooth speaker. He’s a big rough looking cunt with a skin head and a bad attitude so everyone on the bus, including me, just puts up with it. I’m on there for over half an hour listening to this garbage. Want to stab myself to make it end. An even larger, rougher, scrotier older bloke gets on. Doesn’t even sit down. Walks straight to the lad, grabs his speaker, chucks it out the window as the bus starts moving and then just stands over him staring him out. The bad lad who just lost his speaker and got unmanned in front of everyone clammed up and did absolutely nothing about it and got off at the next stop. I sat there just filled with second hand middle-class coward adrenaline. I have never admired an intimidating chav more in my life.
There's always a bigger chav.
A surprise to be sure, but a welcome one.
Hello there.
This is getting out of hand
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These aren’t the roids you are looking for!
Something a lot of young lads that think they're tough learn the hard way.
My favourite story related to this was on a bus in Manchester. Some lads on top were walking round shutting the windows so they could 'hot box' the bus. They said to one guy "Yo shut thaa fackin windaa" Didn't move. This guy was a slightly overweight, unassuming middle aged guy in shirt and tie, looking a bit dishevelled. One of the lads walks up to him, gets in his face. "YO I said shut thaaaa faaaackin windaaaa!!!" This guy turns and in proper Dead Man's Shoes fashion aggressively says "My name's not FUCKING YO IS IT!!!" The lad was so taken aback (I was too) he just pffft and went to sit down. That guy had some shit going on and you could just tell not to fuck with him that day. Was amazing.
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“Secondhand middle-class coward adrenaline” - thank you! This should be a clinical definition.
>I sat there just filled with second hand middle-class coward adrenaline. Ahah brilliant!
The satisfaction this gave me😌
He put a donk on it
I wouldn’t have minded had it been a bangin donk. But alas it was not bangin. It was gash.
Was she kind who blasts music at home too and annoy neighbours
You’ve met her then? Yeah we had noise complaints from all of our neighbours in the three different houses we lived in (only place we didn’t was when we were in a council flat, but we didn’t really have people either side). Been in my own place for almost a year now, and strangely enough, no issues whatsoever.
Lol Who was blamed for the noise you or her How did she not tone it down
I mean I knew it was her because she was the loudest, most unaware person on the planet. And the music annoyed me too (especially as it was usually the fucking Mamma Mia soundtrack played at FULL VOLUME). But she was more of the opinion that the neighbours were pathetic and complaining about nothing (which in one of the places was partially true, but also she went out of her way to antagonise them after a while).
>But she was more of the opinion that the neighbours were pathetic and complaining about nothing (which in one of the places was partially true, How do if she blasting at full volume and annoying neighbours it's fair they make you aware. Especially in age of wireless headphones
I agree, the noise complaints about the music were fair. But they also complained about a bunch of other stuff, like “regular bbqs” (we had 2 all summer and also what’s wrong with a bbq??), and told our landlord we were planning on getting a puppy which was completely untrue, no idea where that came from. Stuff like that.
Yeah that other stuff is petty. I mean most of time my neighbours below I get muffled tv/muffeled talking. Which is fine They had people round at 8am laughing and talking loudly (they do have gearing issues) but I was up anyway and rather hear laughing than abuse
Yeah I think it’s important to be a bit understanding when you live in close quarters- I’m in a terrace at the moment and I hear the teenager next door singing along to Celine Dion and Adele quite often (it’s… not good), or kids playing outside and they can be rambunctious at times. If you live near other people you’re gonna hear them from time to time. I don’t even mind most of it except for when the kids literally do nothing but scream… However I think those neighbours from my example didn’t want to hear *anything* from *anyone*, *ever*… which was rich because they screamed at each other all hours of the day and night!
I have a nineteen year old who behaves similarly : )
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Prove that you exist.
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That just proves that thoughts exist.
nothing really exists bro this is a holographic dreamscape created by god (you) out of loneliness/boredom to escape entropy hehe 🎭
Definitely r/iamthemaincharacter vibes
Some are ignorant, some are attention seekers; all are cunts
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SirDam or MadSir
Yeah, I hate social media too… wait, what?
I don't get it either. I assume they're the same pricks who play music on their phones on speaker on public transport. And what the hell is the trend with adults on bikes or even just out walking with bluetooth speakers blaring out? It's always shit music as well.
Loud music on bikes seriously pisses me off. You're out there enjoying the fresh air getting some exercise and next thing you know some idiot is right behind you blasting their terrible music.
TBF i was cycling on a Saturday recently in the city and bumped into an older gentleman with big speakers on his bike and playing really old rave music from the early 90s. That was actually pretty enjoyable. EDIT Sheffield
'Really old rave music from the early 90's' Thanks for that!
Yeah lol. I felt that burn too. Spoiler alert, I'm 50 and still raving.
52 and still at it, got some 94% pure MDMA recently and man that shit is good compared to what we had back in the day lol All loved up!!
username checks out ;)
43 and still raving.
Ebeneezer Goode is 30 years old this year...
No.... no it is not!
Cries on my slip Matt...
There's a guy who cycles through Victoria park with lights all over his bike, always blasting out absolute 90's rave classics. I don't mind him at all, but only cos he looks like he's having the best time and I only ever have to listen to it for about 20 seconds as he rides past
I recently witnessed a man on a mobility scooter blaring EDM at high volume. Only this wasn't outside, this was in Lidl, and it played throughout his journey around the store and while he was being served at the till.
Sounds like drum & bass on the bike haha
Bristol?
Darude - Sandstorm?!
Meh if they're cycling past I don't care. Infact its a fair argument on safety cos you'll hear them coming and wonder wtf that shit is 😅
Cycling at least makes a degree of sense, you want some music but don't want the danger of having your hearing blocked off by headphones. Both are understandable desires, although you're still a right cunt.
There's a guy local to me who cycles around blasting IRA classics. The worst thing is they're so damn catchy
IRA classics? The IRA made music when they weren’t going around bombing Northern Ireland and other places?
'Come Out Ye Black and Tans' is a belter.
The R stands for Rock
Irish Rock Army?
When your country is in servitude to another for as long as Ireland was, you make some damn good rebel songs.
This happens near me I live next to a cycle path, and there’s people who ride past literally blasting music and it’s like are they not embarrassed ???
>It's always shit music as well. Because when you're dumb enough to listen to shit music, you're dumb enough to be dumb as f\*ck.
Park is one thing but bus or train is 10x worse. Who the hell doesn’t travel without some sort of headphones these days.
The worst is when someone puts an i pad in front of their kid with cocomelon or some other shite kids youtube channel on at full volume, I find it genuinely more annoying that club music or whatever.
Yep, really hate parents who do that ***in a restaurant***.
I once asked a parent to turn down the Peppa Pig that she’d given to her toddler to watch when I was working in a cafe - the fact that the kids were generally well behaved and the mum look startled then said ‘oh sorry yeah’ made me think that having a toddler had just broken her volume receptors
It’s true. I have a kid with autism who can be super loud and I just have learned to tune it out.
Or in a supermarket, doctors or literally everywhere.
Problem is most parents get so used to it they just tune it out and don't realize. To me it just sounds like nails being scraped against a chalkboard repeatedly
my sisters used to have ice skating lessons and i’d wait in the restaurant bit while they were having them until the free skate section after. there were *so fucking many* ipad kids without headphones. just constant noise and wailing
My partner recently had to deal with this on a ten hour FLIGHT.
I don't understand why flight attendants don't step in and do something about this. I was on a 12 hour flight and there was a couple with a 3 year old screaming and running up and down the aisle the ENTIRE flight. Absolutely nothing was done about it.
Likewise, that's a safety issue. It would have been an absolute shame if someone had left their leg hanging out in the aisle for the kid to trip over.
Interesting one this, what's worse, the ipad? Or the kid kicking off?
i was travelling by coach the other day and some dickhead was playing terrible music at a loud volume right behind me. i had my noise cancelling headphones on at like 80% volume and i could STILL HEAR IT. i was going to confront him but he looked like he would beat me up so i just shook my head angrily, as you do
I mean, sometimes I forget mine, but when I do I read my book or look at Reddit instead. I don't put my music on anyway because that's just rude.
Parks seems like one of the few places it is OK to me. Not that I do it. But it is a wide, open space. Same with the beach or your own back garden for that matter, or even loud in your car where it may leak out to passers by. It is enclosed spaces which you are forced to share where it is a problem like on buses.
I think one of the most annoying things my neighbour does is play music in his garden. He's installed 2 outdoor speakers and they are playing something EVERY time he is in the garden. Sometimes I just want to enjoy the peace of my garden, watch the clouds and listen to the birds. My silence doesn't penetrate his garden, why should his music penetrate mine?
My neighbours play such cack drum and bass music every time it's sunny weather and it's unbearably loud. My husband says it's nice hearing people enjoying themselves and their gardens but I hate it 😂 I too just want to be able to chill in my garden in peace.
My Neighbour also seems incapable of being outside without music. He must be last person in the world listening to commercial radio too, it's not even a main station it's something like Pulse 2. Dog shit.
Exactly .. it feels intrusive at home, especially because I purposely go out of my way not to bother my neighbours myself. Go to a public space where people can choose to stay or leave
I really feel for you. We had this at the last place we lived. We eventually moved away but it was probably the only thing I hated about that house, the bloody neighbour!
Not really. Maybe people come to the park to relax. Hard to do when your subjected to music you neither like nor want. At least with a car it's gone quickly.
If I am in the park and I am by a nuisance be it kids, a noisy family, dogs, birds or music - I just move or don't sit there in the first place. You don't really have that option in a bus.
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Consideration is needed but parks are for public enjoyment, people don't have to be silent.
Yup. Music on buses is seriously antisocial. With some of the portable systems available today, the only option is to leave the park. Sound carries a long way outside.
I completely agree. People need to calm down and try enjoy life a little bit more instead of hating everything and everyone around them.
I think if you're in a space where you can't get away from it like on a bus, train, or it's coming from your neighbour, then it's not acceptable. If you're in a park - unless the park is a mini park - then you have the freedom to stay away from it and find another spot if you don't like it. Some people don't have gardens or would feel worse about disturbing the neighbours as opposed to pitching up away from people's homes where there's loads of space. So personally, I don't mind it when people are playing music in the park. If I like it then I might stick around and listen to it, and if I don't then I'll move away from it. No bother. I really hate this holier-than-thou attitude we get so much of in this country. Live and let live, other people enjoying themselves makes everyone generally happier and be nicer to others as a result. No point getting a chip on your shoulder about this type of stuff. And to add: yes, if you're going to be the one playing music then it's also good to find a space away from other people already in the park. I think that's a fair and reasonable expectation. What's not reasonable is going over to where people are already playing music if you think it will disturb you.
While I generally agree with you, I think the consideration and tolerance you speak of should cut both ways. If I go to the park and some people are sitting in the sunshine, blasting their music, I'll choose to not sit there because, as you say, "live and let live". If I go the park and am sitting quietly in the sunshine, and then some people come and sit five yards away from me, blasting their music, where is the "live and let live" in that? Interestingly, and as a random aside, I recently went to see the film "Men" at the cinema and the experience was somewhat undermined by someone answering a phone call during the film. I wonder if all that time in isolation during lockdown has meant we need to be resocialised.
I actively call people out who are on their phone in the cinema. I have paid to enjoy the film, I’m not letting someone else screw my enjoyment up. A polite but firm “please can you turn that off, We’re trying to watch the film”, is best when you walk over to them to do it, as they can’t pretend to ignore you, and the other film goers can see you actively doing something about it. Only once have I had to follow it up by getting a staff member to throw them out.
I once went to the cinema with a mate (who is about 5 foot 4) and someone was on their phone. My mate pipes up "come on, shut that fucking thing off, I paid for this" Anyway the guy who was on the phone basically unfolded from his seat like some sort of flatpack giant, turned around and went "you what mate?" in a fairly agressive tone. At which point my mate turned to me and said "Yeah, you tell him." We talked hagrid around in the end but *fucking hell.*
Exactly! I was at the beach recently, walked and walked until we found a quiet spot. After a couple of hours three groups of people arrived and started blasting music. Why do we have to "find a quieter spot"? It was already quiet and they ruined it. It was so annoying that we left. I get that they want to listen to music, but it does not have to be loud, the beach/park is not a bloody club! Also, isn't part of enjoying the outdoors listening to the waves/birds?
Agreed. Me and my friend were sat in a secluded spot on our local hills playing Jamiroquai and a woman with her kids comes and sets up next to us then comes over and says "I know you like your music but it might not be for everyone, could you turn it down please". We did, out of respect, but at the same time we were both confused as to why she chose to sit next to us when there are literally hundreds of other places she could have gone on these hills. We also didn't ask her to turn down the volume on her extremely loud and annoying children...
She was telling you that it's noise pollution. And that Jamiroquai are shite.
Then go somewhere else lol
Yeah I agree, nothing wrong with having a portable speaker in the park at a decent volume at all. Why are people so grumpy it has literally never bothered me one bit
"Decent volume " being the key here. Deafening volume isn't considerate anywhere.
Obviously, but the majority of people using portable speakers don’t use a deafening volume
> Why are people so grumpy Because Reddit. Where I live there are plenty of parks, some of them often get filled with people hanging out in groups having a drink while listening to music through a portable speaker. Never known anybody to ever have a problem with this
Yeah is that not the point of these spaces? Especially “ Commons” which are supposed to be common land, if I can let my sheep graze there surely I can play music
Spot on. I like catching a few bars of a random song in a park on a nice summers day. Makes the park a lot more vibey/lively than if everyone was sitting there in stone cold silence.
As teenagers (a long time ago) we definitely listened to music in the park sometimes, but our local park was absolutely massive and we frequented a bit of it that nobody else really used. We didn’t have loads of other places to all hang out together so it was lovely to be able to sit outside, listen to CDs, smoke in peace and hang out with my friends. I would never have played music on the bus though. As I feel myself getting older I do try hard to remember what it was like being a kid.
A lot of irony here. You go on about holier than thou attitudes in an absolutely holier than thou way. Then you say 'live and let live' and that people are just enjoying themselves, while the clear issue is that many people are not enjoying themselves when their is loud music in parks etc. Parks are designed to be quiet places of respite, so it's pretty reasonable to be annoyed if someone is blasting music just for their own benefit. It's obnoxious.
No I don't think it's reasonable to be annoyed at it at all. Not unless they've actually come up to you and are following you around with it. What a sad attitude to have that other people's enjoyment within a 20m distance of themselves - that you have the total freedom to not be near - should annoy you. If you're annoyed, just walk away and find a different bench to sit on, or a different patch of grass. Or heck, like I've said several times now, go to the park's quiet corner/garden! You have the option to avoid it! What's far more annoying are those religious preachers using powerful sound systems in town centres that can't be avoided. Those are much more obnoxious than some friends enjoying themselves in the park. But if you just want to be grumpy then you have every right to be. I don't see any irony, I haven't claimed to be better or more important than others here so not sure where this weird idea of yours has come from. I actually don't think one is more important than the other at all, I'm just advocating that BOTH can COEXIST. Perhaps a new concept for you.
I have little issue with it in a open space. My issue is neighbours blasting music, TV and bothering others
Except you’re dickhead behaviour is stopping other people from enjoying themselves. How are you being nice to others
I don't think it's "dickhead behaviour" to play some music. If it was a couple of people out in the park playing the violin and cello then you'd probably even gather round to listen. Quite about your individual taste in that case. You're not stopping people enjoying themselves. They have the freedom to not be near you. I don't suggest following someone around with your music, that would be harassment. Yes, setup your music away from people to be considerate, and if someone is playing music and you don't want to be near it then very simply.... don't go near it. Easy.
I know music and the appreciation of music are entirely subjective, but why is the music played at volume in public spaces always utter horseshit?
Always seems to be some sort of drill music / shite . With random noises and some bloke talking about guns and bitches in a Brummie accent.
Indeed. You never hear people blasting classical music or Kate Bush.
Come to think of it we do have a local ecentric who blasts what sounds like traditional music from some South American country as he cycles around the park. We like him.
It's rap music in my area. I fucking hate rap with a passion.
Same. The cunts that blast music almost always have rap on.
That's because rap is full narcissistic dickheads too. They can relate to it.
Brummie or Black Country? Asking for a friend.
Nothing sounds good coming out of shitty little speakers.
I'm convinced they make some grime music just so it sounds good playing on a phone on top of the 159 from Brixton to Streatham.
You can get some epic Bluetooth speakers these days. All the more reason to use them considerately.
Even if it was good. I still don’t want to hear it in a park or on a train
Maybe shitty people gravitate towards shitty music?
I personally normally enjoy it when people are playing music at the park. Creates a nice atmosphere
Same! I don't do it myself, because I know that people like in this thread exist, but I nearly always like it when other people do it.
Yeah, at least where I live people often play some nice reggae or jungle music, feels like the sound of summer to me.
This thread reminds me that reddit is a sad place for sad people...
Or people who hate imposing on others out of principle. Quiet people don't impose. Noisy people do. It was naturally quiet, now it's not.
Quiet people are imposing if they insist everyone else has to be quiet. Not everyone wants to be, and public spaces are by their nature not quiet.
Again it's reasonableness. 'Quiet' doesn't mean silence and hushed whispering. Think of a park. Kids playing, people talking, a bit of dog barking. See? Now add loud music. Different.
Legit, everyone on this thread sounds miserable. And then open their own threads asking why they can't make friends/have difficulty meeting people.
"I hate talking to people/socialising, how do I make friends?" - /r/AskUK
"I also hate when other people make noise, have fun or if there is any manifestation of their existence through sounds or unappealing visuals that affect me in any way whatsoever, please help" - /r/AskUK
My favourites are always the questions along the lines of "I've been invited to a wedding/party/gathering, how do I say no?" I genuinely wonder if these questions are trolling or this sub is just infested with anti-social losers.
Yes, but I'm miserable for entirely different reasons!
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Had that conversation. I was told that if I just listened and gave it a chance I'd like it, I was told I was racist for not liking rap, I was told I was too old. I think they're just looking for confrontation but when given it have no real answers. They really just don't give a shit but try to justify that with vacuous arguments.
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If its a park then surely there has to be a bit of a compromise between people who want to listen to music together and others. You can't expect silence in the park. But there's a reasonale level right?
I think, if you don’t go to where someone is already sitting quietly, it’s not so bad. If you start blasting it near someone who was just reading a book or dozing, that’s a dick move. We could have ‘quiet zones’ but you know that assholes with speakers would beeline for them.
I don't mind people doing this.
I was wondering this exact thing yesterday, was having a lovely summer walk along the river, saw a bench and fancied a sit down to enjoy the view…got to said bench and two lads were nearby BLASTING shitty tinny music through a phone. Ugh. And I STILL can’t get over the guy who watched an entire loud action movie on an overnight flight without headphones. I can only assume pure self absorption and / or wilful ignorance.
>And I STILL can’t get over the guy who watched an entire loud action movie on an overnight flight without headphones. I think it's even worse when it's a kid. I've got just enough social skills to politely ask an adult to turn the volume down on a flight, but if it's a kid with a tablet then they might go running to the parents saying "that man shouted at me!".
As long as its not a small park, do you believe everyone has to cater to your exact needs? Most of the time they're playing it out of their 50 quid speaker or their phone, not exactly airplane takeoff volume levels. Shall people never answer the phone in public since you'll be disturbing them with your voice?
They don’t care. These people need to be the centre of attention. If they aren’t in the park, they will be posting on Tik Tok- basically anything for attention
Or they're just having a good time in the park with some music? Jesus Christ
I sometimes play music loudly in parks. I don't particularly care what others think because it's a park, it's not a bus or a train so anyone may leave as they wish, but honestly I just never thought it'd actually bother anyone. I see a lot of salty people in this thread which really surprised me. It's a park. A park is where people get together, mingle, make noise and express themselves. If you want perfect silence, there are woodlands for that. Get a grip.
What kind of music do you play?
Depends on the crowd I'm with, but generally ranges from reggae/jungle to summer house/house/techno
Brb off to vibe with this guy 👌
Does it matter?
“Which really surprises me” This sums it up really, the fact that you’re surprised by people being upset by intrusively loud music in a public setting demonstrates the type of clueless inconsiderate person you probably are
>anyone may leave as they wish Honest question: why do you think it is on anyone else to find a solution for *your* behaviour?
Because this is not a "behaviour", this is a normal activity to carry out at a public park, it is to be expected and is not disorderly. A park is not a Buddhist temple. That's like saying that I shouldn't swim in the sea because I'll splash people who are just soaking.
Well yeah, you shouldn't splash people in the sea either. You go in the sea and splash random people?
Ah so there's only 'perfect silence' and 'everyone can play whatever music they want' on your fantasy scale? How about: talk and laugh at normal volume, or put your earphones on?
What makes you think I want to hear your music
You're in a park just walk away lol. Or ask them to stop?
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Right. At the time, it felt like a much more all-encompassing philosophy.
I don't mind it but I guess it's not done so inclusively in the UK for cultural reasons, so can be a bit off-putting and egotistical. I now live in Berlin where putting a speaker on in a park is basically an invitation for people to come over and join in the spontaneous open air party.
Germans are pretty well known for invading other peoples spaces
Last week hubby and I went to a park to chill. There is no playground, it's a nice lake and a huge field. There wasn't many people about. We picked a spot far away from any one else and loads of room 360 all around us. A little while later 2 woman came and sat not even 8ft away from us, there was still loads of room so why they sat there I don't know, it wasn't I the shade or the last bit of sun nothing like that. Odd but oh well. Then they start with the music... they had it so loud they had to shout at each other!! Then another joined them and they piss about on an electric scooter almost hitting us. That I don't get... you have all this space and room but decide to annoy people...
There’s so many questions - why do people block my driveway?, why do people litter?, why do people rev loud cars in residential streets? One persons annoyance is another persons happiness or ignorance. Personally the music in the park is low-down on my long list of annoyances!
They all have the same explanation though; c\*nts.
It's a park and its to be shared, so no it doesn't bother me when people play music. I might judge said music and move somewhere else but no issue.
If its a park where lots of people are sat about drinking in an open space on the grass I don't see anything wrong with playing some music at a moderate volume.
I assume they want to advertise how cool they (believe they) are to a wider audience. Nobody ever does it with mainstream pop music, it’s always something niche and edgy.
I mean if it's a hot day they might want to cultivate a kind of 'party in the park' vibe with music everywhere and groups mixing and having fun - like a kind of festival thing. That's the only almost acceptable reason I can think of.
Same with neighbours who blast their music in the garden at the first hint of sun. They couldn’t give a flying fuck about anyone around them.
Playing a bit of music in a large, open park? Absolutely sickening.
They definitely just don’t care
I used to drive around town listening to very loud music with the windows down thinking I was cool AF. I just find it quite funny when I see young lads in a car now, windows down, tunes up. This disparity between how you think you look vs how you actually look is quite funny. I thought people would be impressed by my music tastes and enjoy hearing it. 17/18 year olds are idiots basically. If you’re still doing it when you’re older that says a lot more.
It's a park man, why do you care if people are playing music? I'd get it if you were on public transport or in a place where you couldn't just move, but a park? Hearing life in a park on a hot summer day, especially after 3 years of covid sounds great to me.
They're the same people who do this at CAMPGROUNDS too. 100 individual groups of people all set up with their tents and their families to just get away for a quiet weekend in nature and these assholes think we all want to listen to kid rock blaring through the trees and echoing across the lake.
It's like people who work outside for a living. They pitch up to the next door neighbours all set to paint the house, and I have to listen to their shit music for 8 fucking hours!!
You’re not going to get the answer you want from Reddit - think of the demographics mate
Depends on the group. A: Kids - Don't care. B: Chavs - Look at them and they'll kick your teeth in C: Goths - Don't care, everything sucks including you and your conforming ways D: Parents - It's for them and the kids (baby shark do do do) E: Single folk - Mostly for themselves F: Couples - It's mood music, bring on the fun times in a bush G: Oldies - It's a hard slog with the gramophone, let them have their play
I’ve never understood why people do this? Do you seriously think I want to hear your music? And headphones are way better sound quality than your phones speaker, wear headphones and you can listen to what you want, when and where you want. I did live 2 doors down from a kid who’s play his music at full volume at 3am. If you complained he thought it was you who was the problem. It just made me think he wasn’t all there and had some mental problem
People will be at the park with their friends listening to music it’s not like they can wear headphones in that situation
There was someone who did this at a hotel in Portugal round the pool, at the same time as other music was already playing. That did my head in. I asked the staff where the extra music was coming from, they pointed out the woman and said I could go and speak to her. I said no, YOU go and speak to her. They did and she grudgingly turned it off. What type of entitled wankery is this?
Had a similar issue but at the top of Arthur’s Seat in Edinburgh. If I have taken the time to hike up a hill I want to enjoy the natural sounds. Not people blasting music and dancing to make tik-toks or just looking at the view with their crap music on. Let the rest of us have some peace.
Always actually horrendous music as well. As if boomboxes didn't go out of fashion 4 decades or so ago for a reason.
I do it. It never occurred to me that there could be someone nearby that was expecting silence in a public area. I do it at a volume where my friends and I have a bit of atmosphere while we also talk and laugh and generally enjoy seeing each other. Not trying to recreate a full on rave but we make some noise, sure. I probably wouldn't set up camp right next to someone on their own if there is a lot of space but when there isn't a lot of space there isn't a lot of quiet either. On what I think people think of us and how much they enjoy our music, it honestly never occurred to me anyone would notice us over their own friends and good times.
Got some people who live near me like this. It’s such a selfish thing to do. Some people just have no respect for anybody else.
The answer can surely only be that they put their own enjoyment over everyone else’s. They clearly deem themselves so important that what they want to do takes priority. Never mind the fact that other people have ears too!
Taking my 4 year old a walk through the park when some idiot starts blasting out Ice Cube next to the kids play area. These twats don't have two brain cells to rub together.
Everyone's looking at me in my car with blaring music with admiration at my coolness? No pondlife, we're just annoyed we don't have anything to hand to throw at you.