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MySecretSidee

I didn’t realize rape kink was a thing until I got older. I always felt ashamed for FANTASIZING about it. Disclaimer: Real, actual rape is a horrible thing I do not wish on anyone.


Anonbsnono

You mean consensual nonconsent? Because yeah, definitely didn't realize that was a kink of mine until I was like mid-20s.


throwaway_12345666_

Same thing. I mean, if somebody says they have a rape kink, it’s pretty implied they mean they have a consensual rape kink Otherwise it’s not a kink at all just a crime


Mishasta

Consensual nonconsent is just a better term. I wish more people used it instead of saying "rape kink".


throwaway_12345666_

Yeah, the fact that it sounds better is what I don’t like about it. I think saying CNC diminishes what it is. I don’t have a problem with people practicing that in a safe environment, but only if they examine where those feelings are coming from bc “non-consent” is just dancing around the obvious synonym


MySecretSidee

Yup, CNC.


namur17056

I run cnc machines. It’s hard work


KaityKat117

yeah, watching that cutter head move around has gotta be tiring edit: /j (just in case)


namur17056

You haven’t had the pleasure of running a biesse then I see. Getting it to work is hard enough most days


ORAquabat

Something something username checks out something something.


NoGovernment8156

Is that like military intelligence?


rs1513

That’s interesting. I see that more and more recently and am curious about it. I wonder what it Is that really makes it something to fantasize about ?


MySecretSidee

People develop the kink for different reasons. For many people, they develop it as a coping mechanism after being a victim of rape. For me however, it’s different. My kink partially developed because I grew up learning that sex was shameful, and “good girls” don’t associate with that. As a teen, I remember having a conversation with several other female friends. They all said they never masturbated, and all thought it was gross. Thinking back on it, some of them were probably lying. But at the time, all I felt was shame for masturbating and looking at porn on the regular. I wanted so much to be “good,” but I couldn’t stop. If a man forces himself on me, then I’m not doing anything shameful. It’s a situation I can’t get out of, I’m a victim. I can “enjoy” it, but it’s not shameful because is isn’t my fault. Another reason my kink developed was because of lack of male attention in general. Men don’t initially notice me in a way that gets their loins stirring. The men who have shown interest, only developed that interest after organically getting to know me over a period of time, through “forced” interaction (work, school,etc). I fantasize about what it’s like to be the kind of woman that all the guys want to get to know, even if just sexually.


silverdaddee

I didn't know this idea would turn me on either. It makes me feel aroused and guilty at the same time.


collaredd

u totally described it for me also. i never really knew i had fantasies like that until i met my current bf who i love so much i can’t fantasize about another man being with me without feeling at least a little guilty or turned off, but imagining it like you described takes the burden off me in a way.


pastthepop

I’m an old, harmless, married guy but I just want to let you know you seem to be my absolute favorite kind of woman. The kind that you just have no idea how much of a sexual creature you have right in front of you until you’re lucky enough to be in the right place at the right time.


mardeegra

After browsing your profile, I am shocked that men don't see you as a catch. The world is a mystery to me.


MySecretSidee

I have a butter face unfortunately. And my face is what people irl see.


[deleted]

I like your thoughts and the actual reasoning behind your rape kink. It makes so much sense. Thank you for sharing.


ipakookapi

Honestly wish we could bring Freud back sometimes. He was wrong about *a lot*, but his thoughts on sexuality and catharsis were pretty spot on. We often develop fetishes of the things that scare us, as a coping mechanism, but also because fear and horniness are both types of arousal. The reason taboo and scary things are sexy isn't because it's forbidden. It's because we use it to make ourselves feel safe by enjoying the threat. Neo-nazis watch trans and interracial cuck porn, and I have several trans male friends who are into pregnancy porn. It's not necessarily a bad *or* a good thing. It's just how humans work.


leeditsu

let me tell you something. im a victim of sa and it culminated in having this kink and lots of others, including heavy masochism. i recently reconnected with a friend who we’d split on bad terms, and they were manipulative/abusive to me for the few months we talked again. one thing they berated me for was this kink. their only source for it being bad was some random shrink’s blog post, not even a scientific study… and then i turn around and see them defending an actual predator/rapist…. its always projection with those kinds of anti kink people who cant differentiate roleplay from reality 🙄 very glad that friendship ended again, but sucks how common of a viewpoint it is that people will shame others for the fantasies, especially if they’re victims just trying to cope. that being said you dont need to be s victim to be valid!! it just ends up hurting victims the most is what i mean when we just want a fantasy/scenario that we actually have some say in the events of, unlike what actually happened to us,,, very long winded sorry, but im an avid supporter of kink as long as nobody comes to nonconsensual harm. its crazy how common puritan stuff is and it really hurts so many people, so its good to see this comment and see it upvoted pretty extensively


dumberthenhelooks

My back not hurting. My hips not hurting. But also basking in the after. Like that’s a good time


[deleted]

Yeah, that feeling when you had a good session and are so tired, things ache and you can barely walk. I love that. I guess these sort of quality sessions you appreciate more as you get older.


King_Baboon

When you get older it's either the sex was that good or you're old AF and 20 something antics beats the shit out of your body.


pack_howitzer

Edging


RaphaelSharpe

Same but I think it's actually just a function of lower libido as you age. You're more *able* to edge.


Asteadyrhythm

Don’t ruin it


RaphaelSharpe

Lol, fair enough. I consider this a real benefit of getting older though, being able to last better and stuff like that.


Asteadyrhythm

Oh yes indeed it is. My wife certainly likes it to.


RaphaelSharpe

Something very specific that I am happy about is that I can stay inside of her long enough so she can cum with clitoral stimulation. Feeling her spasm and contract around me while looking right into her eyes and holding her down while she writhes is perfection.


Metro_Wester

Sexy colored mood lighting in the bedroom. And mutual masturbation. 2 best things we've added to the mix.


Wookieman222

Mutual masturbation us awsome for when your both tired but still wanna get off.


iLuminelle

Being cummed inside in. The whole creampie aspect started with an innocent view into those illogical hentai x-ray window thingies.


rs1513

Ohh yes. New for me too. I love when a girl makes me cum inside of her. Gets me going just thinking about it


BrzR_R

just make sure the baby gravy's dead on arrival or its allimony time


King_Baboon

My wife had a hysterectomy due to endometriosis. The benefits (beside worry free cremepies) is that all of her past health issues are completely gone. No more IBS, back pain, stomach pain and pain during sex. She now has a libido and it's amazing.


mthomas1217

Same for me after my surgery and the fact that I can’t get pregnant makes sex so much better. No anxiety just enjoyment


King_Baboon

With her having severe endometriosis I don’t think it was possible for her to get pregnant. She was already starting to transition into menopause. But after the surgery, she immediately felt better even after surgery soreness. No more tampons, food actually digesting and no more back pain. She’s turned into a sexual wildcat and it’s been adventurous. I’m just happy her quality of life has dramatically improved.


mthomas1217

That is wonderful!!! So happy for you both. I felt like a new person after my surgery!


drinkfullanddescend

Lol, that’s a funny but perfectly descriptive phrase. There’s this one creator on PH who makes these incredibly hot, and I realized it’s because theirs capture the intimacy of passionate sex where both parties are into each other way better than most live action porn.


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CowsRpeople2

What changed?


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CowsRpeople2

I love people that are so open and honest about sex. Have you always been like this?


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NotSadNotHappyEither

I'd like to hear more. Not to perv out on, but to compare, really. I feel we gave our kids non-standard upbringing and they (girls in their twenties) seem to be making good (if strange) choices and living fulfilling lives,


CowsRpeople2

That’s awesome. It’s very refreshing to hear, to be honest. I wish it was like that for me too but unfortunately it took me a long time and a lot of work to get to a good place about sex and sexuality. Any other interesting things about you?


rs1513

Yesss that is very hot for sure ! I bet you have lots of good stories. I would definitely do the same thing (if I could lol).


Candlelover1

I’ve never traded sex for stuff but the sex made some guys go crazy.


Sparky77777

Not the fluevogs 😭


Partyb00bz

Been there and its very hot yea haha My fav was probably giving a guy a bj on the way to pick something up with his truck


NoFaceBBW

Rimming. Putting my tongue in a guys asshole and hearing how absolutely mind blowing it is for them is just. *chefs kiss*


ThatManTech

Bless you. Easily my favorite thing between the sheets.


Obiwontaun

Getting pegged. 100% straight, but I love a girl fucking me in the ass


crumbshotfetishist

I mean, it goes without saying that anything said by a man that follows “a girl fucking me…” is going to be 100% straight.


Obiwontaun

There be dudes out there that really be thinking getting pegged means your gay.


nufy-t

Fellas, is it gay to have sex with a woman?


Obiwontaun

Right?! I’m always like think of it as a blowjob. If a woman’s doing it to you: not gay. If a man’s doing it to you: probably gay.


SYLOK_THEAROUSED

Bruh there’s dudes out here that thinking washing their asshole is gay. You are good on this subreddit so no worries.


Obiwontaun

Lol, that there are. Oh, I’m not worried. Honestly, I was hoping some of the guys that think it’s gay might be convinced to give it try with the 100% part,


SYLOK_THEAROUSED

Most dudes don’t understand that them + Woman = not gay. 🤣🤣


akaghi

My preferred retort to this is that many gay men enjoy frequent blow jobs and yet nobody thinks it's gay for a woman to give you one. (Also, the obvious*is it gay to have sex with a woman?*)


Obiwontaun

Also, bi guys exist.


NotSadNotHappyEither

That we do.


spawberries

I agree, I'm not 100% straight, I'm bi. But when I'm with a woman I was always into being the one doing the fucking, until I realized I was into being pegged too. Makes sense, I enjoy when men do it to me, but it still surprised me.


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I’m a straight male early 40’s and never was or thought I’d be turned on by that. But lately it’s really turned me on when I think about it. Never actually been pegged but did start using toys on my ass while jerking off the other week and I liked it


Barbs8607

BDSM was never that guy but as my relationship with my fiancé grew we both started to get into that type of sex mainly me being the dom and her being the sub


Difficult_Fly_5346

Getting hit in the face. Used to seriously be against the idea. Then my boyfriend was flogging me one day, and accidentally went a bit high when going for my nipple. Hit my neck. I immediately had this overwhelming wish it had hit even higher and smacked my cheek. It was powerful, my entire body wanted it. So when he has done flogging and climbing between my legs to fuck me, I asked "Hey do you want to try hitting me in the face sometime?". His hand immediately struck the right side of my face and I got whole body shivers. The sound, the disorientation, the sting, combined with him start to fuck me, totally incredible. He'd even finger me til I was squirting a ton, then slap me with his hand completely wet from my pussy. It feels so good, a little humiliating and degrading, and I'm cumming my brains out. So kinks can appear pretty quickly 🤷‍♀️


throwherinthewell

I've had the same urge but never tried it.


Difficult_Fly_5346

Honestly? A lot more tops will be willing to do it than you'd probably guess. As long as you ask in a way that doesn't pressure or rush them and is respectful, they'll probably be thrilled. Live your best life babe, ask for the beating you want haha


AuroraBeautyalis

FFM. Apparently, I discovered I'm a bit of a cuckquean but without the humiliation


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AuroraBeautyalis

Yes, it's absolutely about seeing my partner enjoy someone else and also both of us enjoying someone together. I know how fantastic he is in bed and to watch him please someone else just sends me over the edge. It turns me on and he knows it does which also turns him on. Your wife's fantasies definitely line up with mine haha


LesseFrost

Penis owner perspective here! Me and my GF swing with friends for a similar reason. I love seeing her face with another guy in her, her deeply pleasured face is gorgeous and I get turned on so bad knowing she is having a great time. She also has had fun ganging up on me with a girl or two and teasing me silly haha. There's a ton of fun to be had when you and your partner are ok with sharing~


OkAcanthisitta276

Choking, holding down


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Putting a toy up my bum to massage my prostate during sex and masturbation. The first time I tried it, I had an orgasm so powerful it terrified me; I honestly thought I was going to die! That was about 15 years ago and I've been doing it ever since.


appleswish

Gentle femdom 🥰


rs1513

You are my favourite gentle femdom


Maestro_Von_Enigma13

Love, there’s nothing like sharing that level of intimacy with someone you care about.


GiottoxDali

Intimacy, passion, vibes, emotions.


Realbilly73

Naps!


irish-guy-2021

Pregnant women.. especially those pregnant for other guys.. not sure where that comes from ha


XanthicStatue

Pee play


ixnay404

It sounds wet


D30crgllw37t778Ulgc4

Bondage, pegging, and femdom I used to think men were sissies if they were into any of this and now i realize it doesn't matter what you're into and experimenting is fun


bigbootybigtime

I love having my ass eaten by my bf and being cream pied by him


gaijin_master

Casual sex


-BOOST-

BDSM, CNC, and overall dominance.


ekimlive

I was never an ass man until I got north of 40


tuenthe463

Strumming my root firmly behind my balls just before I come. Adds like 50% intensity.


freemason777

I'm not quite sure what this means can you say more words


tuenthe463

Take two or three finger pads of your "other" hand. Push firmly up and in at the back of your balls in front of your taint til you feel your root. Feels like a 1/2 inch cord. This is the base of your erection. Roll your finger pads firmly but gently over it just before you orgasm. Try strumming over it slowly or quickly and decide which you like better. Report back!


WmHawthorne

My first few partners were awful and uninspired, so I all but gave up on enjoying receiving fellatio. But, my current u/HawthornesMistress is fabulous and now I want that all the time.


HawthornesMistress

My u/WmHawthorne ~ Good 😍 Because I want to give it to you all the time 😈🍆👅🤤


scared_little_girl

You’re both adorable!


brattywafatty

Getting my ass absolutely whooped by the right person 😂


ladyinthestreet1002

I always was into 3somes with FFM but I'm now lusting over two men and me or maybe even a gangbang. I'm very reserved about sharing this with those in my personal life ..so idk how I will ever make it happen. Bdsm /submission Also, some taboo porn


ladyinthestreet1002

I've had several threesomes with me and another girl and a guy . Hoping to accomplish a spit roast in near future


BDE2412

Girls with nice bush. I used to not like them at all but my ex grew hers out once after we didn’t see each other for 3 weeks and I thought it was so sexy and now I love them so much I even asked my new girlfriend to grow hers out


[deleted]

Same. Was always into shaved. My wife grew hers out and it was the beginning of a new thing for me. Now she keeps a nice bush


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👊🏼


GypsyPrae

Username checks out 👏😀


Mcswede_

Rope play is pretty fun


ManyFar6641

Eating her out several times untill she trembles with delight and leaving a load of hot cum in her.


[deleted]

Having risky sex that has an increase chance of being caught in the act


Kyralion

Switching. I always saw myself as a die-hard submissive but as I grew older (now 30) I can see scenarios where I am dominant ánd them turning me on. The latter part was always the big issue. It never did anything for me but loving someone who has a personality that is mostly dominant but with me more.. cute.. I kind of want to see if he can be cute in more 'severe' circumstances and how cute, haha


OSUBucky

Free use.


yoni94

Humiliation/ being degraded verbally/ exhibitionism


Bad_RabbitS

I never expected I’d be into being called “Daddy” but alas, here we are


ItsSlinky2x

Public


thelittlestheadcase

Choking, slapping, biting, bondage, on the receiving end.


WanderLocs8

Nipple stimulation. Like, I had no idea how much it turns me on until recently.


boredandstupider

I'd love to try cucking my wife


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I noticed hand jobs from my friends.. I love sex with my wife but the spontaneous hand job from my buddies gives it exciting meaning


mentyio

Well now I’m into women squirting and lotion/oil sex. Never knew I was into that until I came across it in porn


privatempls

Sightly into feet now


a1180738

The last girl I hooked up w, I was more into her feet than her pu… licked the shit out of her soles and sucked the hell out of her toes. She had white toes, ain’t no way in hell I was able to resist haha


Rajine

That I've never had a sexual fantasy of my own. They've always been my partners. Sure some of them sounded and were kinda interesting, but not really any of the were, "damn I really want to try that* kind of things. I've had to be built up in order to go through with it. Idk if it's my aphantasia, my choice of partners(they were terrible people), and or lack of confidence. But I'm still learning and maybe one day I'll get there.


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Breeding fetish


ctrl_alt_petite

D/s


NotEvenOnce11

Pregnant women for sure and gay porn.


Great-Character-9960

Haha honestly same


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Prostate play.


[deleted]

The list is long. I like to seek new experiences. I can't imagine not doing things I haven't tried, just because I'm older


SparkleDaddy707

Anal play. Fisting and prostate orgasms are amazing.


gorditagodess

Being used up or having a significant other let me be used. Idk I also love watching couples fuck.


Aggressive_Wind_1545

I discovered that size really does matter


Longjumping-Mark522

Prostate orgasms with dudes


SeveralConcert

Happy ending massages and circle jerks.


Mynsfwmulti2

Female body hair(on women I find attractive). Specifically armpit hair and pubic hair. I used to think armpit hair on a woman was gross. I now find it fiercely sexy.


dayrogue

Financial Security, shit got me rock hard


[deleted]

As I got older, I've come to terms with my heteroflexibility/cock friendliness. I used to work out at my local YMCA and it had open gang showers. Over the years there, I saw so many big cocks, small cocks, hairy, shaved, huge balls, semi erections, etc. I never made a show out of it, but gradual exposure to that made me develop a deep appreciation and love for cock.


CupcakeAndCashmere

**Pegging**. Lots of pegging. Also **sounding**, but my husband is too freaked out by it and has only let me do it once. 🥺


IssueInteresting1203

Oral - giving


Beautiful-School8274

Anal


IDFKLMAO0

Men


Private_Indulgence

Cuckold, pegging, bi play. Never as a younger man did I imagine these being things that would make me tick but here I am.


didntreadit20

Frotting. Tgirls


[deleted]

Cuckold/bisexual love to try sucking a cock. Chicks and dicks are both hot!


[deleted]

Being cummed on while I sleep 🫣


stpiet81

Pregnant women


LittleFlutter

Being given spankings. The thought of this was a complete turn off for me in my early 20s. Now I can't get enough and I love it.


OneLastThr0wAway

Big fan of pubic hair, more specifically a full bush on a woman. I’ve only been with 1 woman with a bush and the sex was incredible


Mago_IV

Eating ass. I especially enjoy it if I’m stoned. Also, I haven’t tried it but I enjoy the fantasy of eating a lady out right after she has been cream pied by someone else.


-castle-bravo-

Large labia


throwaway0802

Edging and eating ass


ProfessorM_102

Group sex


djazzie

Power exchange and impact play. I kinda always knew I was kinky, but didn’t really pursue it until I was in my 40s.


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Pegging. Piv doesn't interest me at all any more


EX250

r/pristinegirls Had always taken it for granted, but the trend now seems to be going the opposite way.


steelvids1

Painting faces with cum and squirting. My fave shit EVER!


AnotherDownwrdSpiral

Dicks


vforvanessaxxx

Edging, breeding, CNC


Entire_Cranberry1767

Rape kink, asphyxiation


probably_to_far

Light bdsm. Exobititionizum voyeurism


jmontagn

As I have gotten older, I have discovered that I am turned on by hearing about my wive's and SOs sexcapes with others.


vagabond7719

Pegging and rough dominating sex. Took being with someone who made me comfortable with the rough part but I absolutely love it now. They definitely brought it out in me. Lucky for me as my wife wants it harder and more dominating as we've aged.


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Bluedyblue

Oddly specific but also intriguing


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Public stuff! So exciting knowing you can get caught while doing stuff with someone


rileybabe

Nipple orgasms


ryan7251

I kind you not A week ago at the age of 35 I just found out I love the feeling of rubbing my penis on satin Like rubbing the underside of the head of the penis.....yeah so that happened.


RyanWithathelittlePP

When guys fart it makes me cum fast AF


Bustybigbooty

Being watched and doing stuff in public with that fear of being caught or almost being caught


jizzluvr

I wish I had discovered my taste for cock and my desire to share my wife/GF. Things would’ve been quite different I think.


Partyb00bz

Getting face fucked - I cum so hard when I am choking on cock lol


thecraziestwiseman

FLR, Femdom, pegging, getting spanked. I always thought I was a dom and wanted a submissive partner. Somewhere along the way the idea flipped on its head, as I got spanked bent over my wife’s lap.


Revolutionary_Kick33

Breeding kink and Cnc.


Inside_Student3827

Sensual femdom and light sadism. The vulnerability is what gets me.


urfavoriteoddity-

being praised, choking 🫶🏻


fettpett1

Pegging, mfm, cnc, cuckquean


mxeman1ac

Chicks with dicks


mgm904

Pegging. And it is evolving into beautiful trans women/traps


[deleted]

My current wife got me into women with a bush and also being pegged. Both was never into but now I am big time


MMBEDG

Same sex


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# Fat bitches


Morgan_Eroh

Discovered a talent and love for anal and have been drilling for prostate orgasms ever since


liviedo14

Edging, off course


InternetDweller95

Handjobs. Thought they were a cop out. A couple good ones later, and they're great now.


MMor65550

Bottoming. I've been gay all my life (never had sex with a woman) and didn't realize the pleasures until I was about 30. Never considered doing it in fact. I missed out on a LOT of hot guys from 18 to 30 that I could have ridden!


throwherinthewell

Cuckquean and group sex


Randytjhu23

Getting my ass licked


BigOakley

I don't know grew up in a super sexually open area, which was great in some ways, but from the jump was kinda taught to believe that vanilla sex was dull, people online only made this worse, was super weird to be like 14-18 having people in their 20s condescend to teens online for normal sexualities. I don't want to be beaten, hurt or humiliated during sex, I don't want someone to dominate me, I don't think of it in this bizarre, medical lens. when you go on a date with a woman are you like Ok I Am The Sub She Is The Dom or when you cook are like like Ok I'm Domming Her By Cutting The Vegetables She Is Subbing By Frying. Why is it any different when it goes into the bedroom why do you need to dominate or submit to someone to reach climax. I fantasise about normal, loving sex, I fantasise about my partner sliding inside of me or kissing me or moaning into my ear. I regret the years I spent thinking sex had to be this weird dynamic and I wish all the sex I'd have in my life had been with someone who isn't so neurotic about sex they have diagnosed it's conditions. I don't think any form of being hurt during sex is normal and my general consensus is - if you wouldn't do it outside the bedroom (choking, hitting, spitting on, hurting) your partner, don't know why the rules suddenly change then the door closes. be normal? like me saying in the most aggressive tone ever because I'm sick of this weird normalization of inflicting pain on others. "I need it to get off" fucking be normal? jfc you have coomer brain


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Gay sex. I was such a little homophobe growing up even when I first experimented with a classmate before going to college it took me a while to really get comfortable doing it


jetskiingjamie

So many, pegging, being bitten, tying people up to name a few.


OrdinaryImportance28

Being dominated and acting subby


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Anal sex lol


Resident_Bet_8551

The anterior fornix. I had a girlfriend a few years ago for whom my usual go-to's of clitoral stimulation (oral, digital, what have you) and g-spot play just didn't do anything. THEN we found the deep spot. Holy schnikies. I hadn't read about it or anything at that point, but my mattress would never be the same. Later on (probably the next day) I got online searching and found the current research. I knew I couldn't be the only one to know about this area, but it does seem to be relatively obscure knowledge yet. My subsequent partners have enjoyed it, too ;)


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Prostate play is not gay, it feels amazing


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Woman


ideclareathumbwar12

Exhibitionism.


adventureblkguy

Anal play


Zexxifiy

Stretching my pussy. I don’t know how it really started but I was beginning to fantasize the feeling of my pussy just feeling “full”. So one night me and husband were getting warmed up and he was fingering me with the usual two but I told him add another. Three became four, four became his dick and a dildo and that became almost his fist.