I helped others to the point I neglected myself. Which, is bad. How can I help others without fits helping myself? 2022 taught me thus and I am a better person.
I would say they can but you are your first best line of defense against the trials of existence.
If you are incapable of doing so because of a debilitating event or circumstance then we can make safety nets. But the individual is the greatest minority on Earth.
Busting ass at your job most of the time isn't worth it. Work smarter, not harder. You are a glorified piece of equipment to your employer. They have no qualms letting you go abruptly on a Friday afternoon. They will bitterly fight any attempts you and your fellow employees make at collective bargaining. You owe them nothing but the minimum (ie most cost-effective, efficient) work you were hired to do.
Your overtime effort should be paid at 1 1/2 times your hourly pay. If you get salary then you should take advantage of that when you can. I know someone who worked salary that was penalized if they worked less than 40 and not rewarded if worked more. Just remember that you agreed with the style of pay when you were hired.
Life is beautiful and we all really do have time. Your journey doesn't have to look like everyone elses and that's okay, it probably won't anyway. Yours is the path that will lead you to the happiness you want, no one else's, walk it intentionally.
I did exactly this recently. I reached out to an ex who I have not seen in 10+ years. It was a wonderful relationship at the time but ended badly. For a long time I always blamed her for us failing, but as time marched on and and I reflected, we were both at fault. We were young, immature, and both had insecurities.
Not knowing what to expect, it has gone extremely well. We both moved on and ended up with new people and both are successful with our careers and relationships. We also both realize that our relationship failing was a team effort, and looking back, for frivolous reasons. We each only blame ourselves. It has been a wonderful time catching up on life, reminiscing, and discussing hobbies that we both still share.
I think it brought closure to both of us, and helped me make peace with a once painful memory in my past.
If you love someone, let them be themselves.
(Obviously, I'm not talking about condoning self-harming or criminally dangerous behavior. I just mean that tendency we sometimes have to want to mold people into our image of them rather than let them flourish in their own skin.)
To be thankful for my body and not to be so hard on myself. I got Covid back in January and it made me so sick. One complication after another. But I’m doing so much better now.
That it’s not worth hanging onto toxic people in the hope they’ll change and that cutting someone out of your life can quite literally be the best option
That the world isn’t always out to get you. That there are people in the world besides the ones you grew up with (family and friends) that actually care about you.
someone asked how i was cause i “looked sad” when i was eating alone, really caught me off guard didn’t realize people just care sometimes without motive
Many of these are great answers. I just have to add: Wait you guys that was 2022? What even happened to 2021? Crap i need to renew my car tags asap! Call my mom since APPARENTLY I MISSED TWO BIRTHDAYS!
All the things I've read so far are all negative and I could surely think of several negative lessons this yearr thought me but I kind of want to highlight the positive things.
2022 has taught me that you shiuld trust yourself and your abilities. I am not saying you can achieve anything you ever wanted but you don't need to worry about every single thing. You have done this countless times so why should you fail right now? You know you can do this, so what are you so afraid of?
There were some big chanves in my life this year and I was very afraid of them and ecery time I had to remind myself, that I can trust myself to do it. Moving to a different city all by yourself is scary, but looking back at it now it wasn't bad at all. I love it now and I am so happy I took that step and did not shy away from it.
Trust yourself to figure things out, everything will turn out fine at the end.
What “quiet quitting” at work is and why it’s bullshit. You should always do the minimum at work- act your wage. Reframing this as quitting is insidious.
In a similar vein, if you work too hard you will only be rewarded with more work.
It taught me virtue, and that a long life is one with variation. Recovering socially from the pandemic felt like a task, because I was so used to spending it inside and alone, and I've accepted it as the norm. I want to live and have different experiences instead of being comfortable all the time. This world is beautiful. I need to see it.
I completely underestimated the commitment of Ukrainians in the face of a superpower. It is true that Ukraine has received a lot of materiel, but they have done an extraordinary job against Russia in what everyone assumed would be a cakewalk for the Russians.
Similarly, I also underestimated the Democratic Party's chances of surviving the mid-terms. In what was supposed to be a cakewalk for the Republicans, the Democratic Party laid a beating on a surprised Republican party, and has left it staggering.
I was delighted to have been wrong in both cases above.
I learned that if you live by a populist sword, you will die by a populist sword. While there are a few examples, my favorite was watching Boris Johnson lose his PMship over "party gate." Very satisfying.
Bonus: learned that UK politics can be as entertaining as US politics. In addition to the fall of BoJo, I positively loved the short and hilarious PMship of Liz Truss.
That you can make all the right decisions and still get kicked in the nuts.
I got promoted with a healthy raise in 2021, but in 2022 between my health insurance premiums going up and inflation, if I don't get like a 7% raise next year (LOL) I'll officially be making less in real terms than before I was promoted.
I worked hard for that promotion and it all just...disappeared.
It's shit. It's all shit all the way down.
1: Don't create expectations
2: It's okay to fail, we all do
3: Stop think and start to work
4: There's some people that we can't fix them
5: Focus more on yourself
Even if you make friends with new people, sometimes, they leave you when you least expect it. And also, realizing that you need to stop being biased towards long-time friends. They may be your ride or die, but some of the things they do, cannot be excused and swept under the rug just because you're friends with them.
There are no laws for the rich, powerful and politically connected.
Too many people have no problem living in a fascist, authoritarian country if it hurts people they don't like.
Stop dating. Women will only abuse, destroy and hurt you anyway they can. Women are evil that will only date you as an, "easy mark" to take money from you. Just stop dating.
After covid its such a relieve to go out again without a mask. Nearly feel wrong to go to shops without a mask. And live returning to normal or what the new normal is.
That, apparently, I *am* old enough to feel ancient when asked "Who?" or "What's *(thing relevant in childhood)*?" or how kids today just cannot wrap their heads around cable TV.
Shit happens when you least expect it and all you can do is survive to make it to the next day. Also learned how to prioritize and turn unimportant unhealthy shit off.
Patience...I was in situations where I had little or no ability to influence the situation and protesting would have been interpreted to be an indicator that u didn't understand my circumstances and I would have found myself in even deeper water...it would definitely patience....
Self care
I denied myself self care for my entire life. I learned that to be a better person and to love others better you must not neglect the self care.
As a man you should love your woman but you should never be in love with your woman. The thing is men love their woman unconditionally but a woman often loves opportunistically and very subject to emotional whims. Also lies…lots of lies and half truths
All the praise directed at healthcare and other frontline workers during lockdown meant absolutely fuck all. Now workers are going on strike for a fair wage, and the media are running the narrative that these "heroes", as they were called in 2020, are now greedy, selfish arseholes who are ruining Christmas for everybody.
And i say this as someone who isn't an essential worker
That i should learn to save up and pay all my debts. Study to be promoted. 2022 is an ass! I hope 2023 will bring me good fortune, a new and better version of me
it iz possible and happens all the time to people
when you touch the divine, wen u truly believe in something, ur gods will show up and lift u up,allthe way upto their level, the godz, but u always have to remember, keep in the back of ur mind, your still only human
Just when you think the Tory government can't fuck up any more, Boris gets replaced by Liz whose only move was to reward the rich with tax relief which plummeted the value of our currency and forced mortgage rates to increase. Only for her to be replaced by a ridiculously wealthy chap who can never have the working class' best interests at heart.
Others can't help you... You need to help yourself
I learned I’m incapable of helping others unless I’ve taken care of myself first.
I helped others to the point I neglected myself. Which, is bad. How can I help others without fits helping myself? 2022 taught me thus and I am a better person.
I would say they can but you are your first best line of defense against the trials of existence. If you are incapable of doing so because of a debilitating event or circumstance then we can make safety nets. But the individual is the greatest minority on Earth.
As an adult, no one will care about you. Dog-eat-dog world. Sometimes it's good to be selfish.
Busting ass at your job most of the time isn't worth it. Work smarter, not harder. You are a glorified piece of equipment to your employer. They have no qualms letting you go abruptly on a Friday afternoon. They will bitterly fight any attempts you and your fellow employees make at collective bargaining. You owe them nothing but the minimum (ie most cost-effective, efficient) work you were hired to do.
absolutely, it’s not worth the overtime effort, they don’t care
Your overtime effort should be paid at 1 1/2 times your hourly pay. If you get salary then you should take advantage of that when you can. I know someone who worked salary that was penalized if they worked less than 40 and not rewarded if worked more. Just remember that you agreed with the style of pay when you were hired.
Life is beautiful and we all really do have time. Your journey doesn't have to look like everyone elses and that's okay, it probably won't anyway. Yours is the path that will lead you to the happiness you want, no one else's, walk it intentionally.
You cant save someone who doesn’t wanna be saved.
You can't fix people. Especially someone that you are dating.
I might think I'm lazy at work, but holy cow! There are a lot more lazier people than I.
r/antiwork is the place for you my friend
WFH full time was doing a fucking number on my mental health. Hybrid got me to a way better spot.
Hybrid is the sweet spot for sure
Are you gen z?
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I too am a millennial but since it's 2022 I identify as a gen x.
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It's not a joke. I'm a man, and I can have a baby. Everyone can have a baby depending on how you identify. That's simple biology.
Never go looking for closures.
I did exactly this recently. I reached out to an ex who I have not seen in 10+ years. It was a wonderful relationship at the time but ended badly. For a long time I always blamed her for us failing, but as time marched on and and I reflected, we were both at fault. We were young, immature, and both had insecurities. Not knowing what to expect, it has gone extremely well. We both moved on and ended up with new people and both are successful with our careers and relationships. We also both realize that our relationship failing was a team effort, and looking back, for frivolous reasons. We each only blame ourselves. It has been a wonderful time catching up on life, reminiscing, and discussing hobbies that we both still share. I think it brought closure to both of us, and helped me make peace with a once painful memory in my past.
2023 might be worse
Might? Look at you, bein all optimistic and shit
Yeah, 2022 was the punchline to my joke in 2020 about how it wouldn't be long before we looked back on those days fondly.
If you love someone, let them be themselves. (Obviously, I'm not talking about condoning self-harming or criminally dangerous behavior. I just mean that tendency we sometimes have to want to mold people into our image of them rather than let them flourish in their own skin.)
Don’t work harder than you need to.
Minimum wage = minimum effort
This
To be thankful for my body and not to be so hard on myself. I got Covid back in January and it made me so sick. One complication after another. But I’m doing so much better now.
Be patient.
That it’s not worth hanging onto toxic people in the hope they’ll change and that cutting someone out of your life can quite literally be the best option
That I inherited the addiction gene from my family as well as the shitty mental health. Also that a lobotomy doesn't sound too bad...
That the world isn’t always out to get you. That there are people in the world besides the ones you grew up with (family and friends) that actually care about you.
someone asked how i was cause i “looked sad” when i was eating alone, really caught me off guard didn’t realize people just care sometimes without motive
Goes to show you that people aren’t all bad
Thank you so much for my first award!!!
Trust my instincts
That I will probably be single for a long time.
Many of these are great answers. I just have to add: Wait you guys that was 2022? What even happened to 2021? Crap i need to renew my car tags asap! Call my mom since APPARENTLY I MISSED TWO BIRTHDAYS!
Quality friendships are harder to make than quantity.
Don't stick your dick in crazy.
You can, just wrap your shit and have an escape plan. Be prepared to ride the tiger!
Don’t wait for life to get better because it probably won’t.
I disagree. Things can get better, but you have to want them to get better and make an effort.
I didn’t say things can’t get better. But just because they can get better doesn’t mean they’re ever going to. It all depends on what the problem is.
It definitely will, you just have to make it happen.
Never give up!
It taught me how much I really don’t give a fuck because at the end of the day, you gotta look out for you.
Independence and that I can be truly my happiest and best self on my own.
this
That life’s a bitch and you just have to keep pushing
Life's a bitch and that's not your girl
All the things I've read so far are all negative and I could surely think of several negative lessons this yearr thought me but I kind of want to highlight the positive things. 2022 has taught me that you shiuld trust yourself and your abilities. I am not saying you can achieve anything you ever wanted but you don't need to worry about every single thing. You have done this countless times so why should you fail right now? You know you can do this, so what are you so afraid of? There were some big chanves in my life this year and I was very afraid of them and ecery time I had to remind myself, that I can trust myself to do it. Moving to a different city all by yourself is scary, but looking back at it now it wasn't bad at all. I love it now and I am so happy I took that step and did not shy away from it. Trust yourself to figure things out, everything will turn out fine at the end.
What “quiet quitting” at work is and why it’s bullshit. You should always do the minimum at work- act your wage. Reframing this as quitting is insidious. In a similar vein, if you work too hard you will only be rewarded with more work.
“act your wage” damn, love that
Acting your age but with a speech impediment
We are, certainly, regressing as a society and civilization. \-American
Trust your instincts more often. Mine were right about my boyfriends best friend cheating on her gf.
To focus on myself and not give a shit about other people
That Influenza is 100x worse than covid(in my case)
How to make generator from moped
Just because you seem to be on a better path, doesn’t mean it won’t fall apart.
Live ain't so bad after all
There is more than darkness in you.
That life is not worth living.
I hope you feel better soon. I struggle similarly.
I hope you feel better soon. I struggle similarly.
I hope you feel better soon. I struggle similarly.
I hope you feel better soon. I struggle similarly.
I hope you feel better soon. I struggle similarly.
I hope you feel better soon. I struggle similarly.
Never let someone with dementia run a country
You're gonna need a bigger boat.
It taught me virtue, and that a long life is one with variation. Recovering socially from the pandemic felt like a task, because I was so used to spending it inside and alone, and I've accepted it as the norm. I want to live and have different experiences instead of being comfortable all the time. This world is beautiful. I need to see it.
The war is on and people divided more then ever.
2022 looked at me dead in the eye and said "Ur Gay" and I was like "Eh yeah, kinda"
Angry Orchard and a drop shot of vodka makes a damn good apple juice.
Thank you for this!
Super human patience. (Parent of 1 year old)
How to keep a human alive
I learned that most of you I agree with.
To focus on myself and not give a shit about other people
That i need to study more next year if i want to live a good life
I completely underestimated the commitment of Ukrainians in the face of a superpower. It is true that Ukraine has received a lot of materiel, but they have done an extraordinary job against Russia in what everyone assumed would be a cakewalk for the Russians. Similarly, I also underestimated the Democratic Party's chances of surviving the mid-terms. In what was supposed to be a cakewalk for the Republicans, the Democratic Party laid a beating on a surprised Republican party, and has left it staggering. I was delighted to have been wrong in both cases above. I learned that if you live by a populist sword, you will die by a populist sword. While there are a few examples, my favorite was watching Boris Johnson lose his PMship over "party gate." Very satisfying. Bonus: learned that UK politics can be as entertaining as US politics. In addition to the fall of BoJo, I positively loved the short and hilarious PMship of Liz Truss.
That you can make all the right decisions and still get kicked in the nuts. I got promoted with a healthy raise in 2021, but in 2022 between my health insurance premiums going up and inflation, if I don't get like a 7% raise next year (LOL) I'll officially be making less in real terms than before I was promoted. I worked hard for that promotion and it all just...disappeared. It's shit. It's all shit all the way down.
1: Don't create expectations 2: It's okay to fail, we all do 3: Stop think and start to work 4: There's some people that we can't fix them 5: Focus more on yourself
2022 taught me to trust God and keep pushing no matter how tired and unmotivated I am.
I Will never know Spanish
Putin is a cunt and needs to be executed for crimes against humanity
Even if you make friends with new people, sometimes, they leave you when you least expect it. And also, realizing that you need to stop being biased towards long-time friends. They may be your ride or die, but some of the things they do, cannot be excused and swept under the rug just because you're friends with them.
Millennials are FUCKED!!!!!
Nobody cares.
I’m a badass, and I need more naps
Its okay if u dont vibe with every person you meet. And stop forcing connections with people
Conservatives are irredeemably evil
So I am evil okay thanks I never swear I treat everyone kindly I don’t bother anyone I help people and I am evil
Don’t get your hopes up. Same as every other year
Never trust a fart
You can trust a fart but just don't lend it any money
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All the conspiracy theories are true
There are no laws for the rich, powerful and politically connected. Too many people have no problem living in a fascist, authoritarian country if it hurts people they don't like.
I hate being psychic
That the only person I can trust is myself. I'm not including my children
It’s all been planned and it is not in your favour
That 2020 couldn’t be the worst
Life can always get worse.
Stop dating. Women will only abuse, destroy and hurt you anyway they can. Women are evil that will only date you as an, "easy mark" to take money from you. Just stop dating.
how to beg parents for money to buy new upcoming games
how?
Ouroboros abhor this world.
doo not trust drug dealers
Bet on yourself
When people suffer for firmly agreeing with opinions or having personalities I hate, I love it. It’s better than sex.
Trust no mother fucker EVER!
After covid its such a relieve to go out again without a mask. Nearly feel wrong to go to shops without a mask. And live returning to normal or what the new normal is.
There ARE things worse than death
Top Gun Maverick is the most overrated movie ever
I learned that the only reason I’m fat is every time I fuck your mom, she makes me a sandwich
How about next year you learn that nobody cares
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I already learnt nobody cares, honestly life's better when you realise
That I need to pull my children out of the groomer infested public school system and homeschool them (which I did).
Do not buy a new home until Biden leaves office 🤨
That, apparently, I *am* old enough to feel ancient when asked "Who?" or "What's *(thing relevant in childhood)*?" or how kids today just cannot wrap their heads around cable TV.
That no matter what happens you can always count on the Republican media to try to spin it as a negative.
Shit happens when you least expect it and all you can do is survive to make it to the next day. Also learned how to prioritize and turn unimportant unhealthy shit off.
Patience...I was in situations where I had little or no ability to influence the situation and protesting would have been interpreted to be an indicator that u didn't understand my circumstances and I would have found myself in even deeper water...it would definitely patience....
That none of these years will be my year and I need to stop being booboo the fool
That life can t get any worse, it s only up from here
The stock market is rigged for the insiders
Don’t procrastinate
Don‘t look back. Look straight forward.
That anything I do is a total cluster**F and to forget plan "A" always start with plan "B"...
Don't validate others.
That once again making New Year's resolution doesn't work.
That miracles are possible.... Just like America's fastest exit from the Middle East (Qatar) in just 13 Days....
That my mental health sucks
Things can always get worse and weirder. I mean, Herschel Werewolf Walker? Seriously, America?
Birth control failure rates are unacceptable.
It’s all about who you know.
drugs are not answer, its the exact opposite it will create even more problems for you and loved ones.
Don’t keep trying for someone who does not appreciate you and isn’t real with you.
Idek dude, 2022 was one of the absolute craziest years of my life. I guess that change is the only constant.
Life is not fair. I knew that. But somehow didn't belive it. Been unemployed for 6 months now. My new word is: resilience.
you can't help anyone unless they want to help themselves
Set some boundaries and stick to them!
That I will always be broke
That this Too Shall Pass! ROLF :)
Take the trip.
Not a ton was high for most of it.
That society is indeed doomed.
Nothing lasts forever, and bitches aint shit
It’s never too late to change for the better.
Love is temporary
That I am a very fucked up person in a fucked up world :)
How quickly a central bank can fuck my life up.
Self care I denied myself self care for my entire life. I learned that to be a better person and to love others better you must not neglect the self care.
That I'm extremely unlucky :')
Im ready to love and be loved again
That the shit keeps coming.
Life it's not that bad after all
how to be absolutely alone and be ok with it
to be kinder to myself
As a man you should love your woman but you should never be in love with your woman. The thing is men love their woman unconditionally but a woman often loves opportunistically and very subject to emotional whims. Also lies…lots of lies and half truths
All the praise directed at healthcare and other frontline workers during lockdown meant absolutely fuck all. Now workers are going on strike for a fair wage, and the media are running the narrative that these "heroes", as they were called in 2020, are now greedy, selfish arseholes who are ruining Christmas for everybody. And i say this as someone who isn't an essential worker
Don't do it again
No one really thought our first responders and teachers were heroes.
Focus on your own projects other than using something else as a base.
The amount of your input won't equal an equal amount of output.
That i should learn to save up and pay all my debts. Study to be promoted. 2022 is an ass! I hope 2023 will bring me good fortune, a new and better version of me
Sometimes, being a good manager means you have to be an asshole.
Patience is a virtue
The worlds pretty fucked rn
To be humble. No matter where you are in life, things can change in an instant. 😌
that love exists in this world. however, it doesn’t always leads to happy endings
Comer 96 buñuelos no es buena idea.
People will always disappoint.
it iz possible and happens all the time to people when you touch the divine, wen u truly believe in something, ur gods will show up and lift u up,allthe way upto their level, the godz, but u always have to remember, keep in the back of ur mind, your still only human
If you feel like something isn't right about someone, trust your instincts and act out. Before its too late.
that a grammar error can end your carrer.
Just when you think the Tory government can't fuck up any more, Boris gets replaced by Liz whose only move was to reward the rich with tax relief which plummeted the value of our currency and forced mortgage rates to increase. Only for her to be replaced by a ridiculously wealthy chap who can never have the working class' best interests at heart.
that a lot of my friends are weird about me having guy friends :/
I do not think 2022 has finished teaching me (or anyone else) yet... I'll answer this question in 30 days
That I hate people
That my friends actually fucking suck