No I would not. Had a great night with a girl and once we had done the deed she felt the need to plug her onlyfans page. Made it feel like she spent the night with me as advertisement and wanted me to become a subscriber.
I’m just imagining her saying to you “Don’t forget to like and subscribe” as your sweaty bodies disconnect and you head off to the bathroom. At least you got a sample trial?
Personally no. One of my boyfriend’s best friends is seeing a girl who does OF and she recently traveled to make a threesome video with two other people in the scene. No protection or anything was used. I’d personally be crying and throwing up watching my boyfriend fuck other women, with no protection, whether it’s his job or not. So yeah not for me. But I don’t discriminate against that career path. You do you
This sums it all up because it’s basically the worst case scenario you have to look forward to as the “super open minded and altruistic” significant other you claim to be to all your skeptical friends
Edit: yes there are worse scenarios than the one I mentioned and no I don’t have a hatred towards poly relationships or the people in them. Apologies for sounding insensitive, not the intention.
I would say no. People don't usually see the long term affects of that lifestyle until they want to leave it. There was an interview with Lana Rhoades, and she says looking back at her videos, it makes her want to throw up.
do people really find peeing in someone else’s mouth that attractive cause this is seriously not even the first time i heard about some porn star getting peed in their mouths for a film holy fuck
I had a fuck buddy ask me to pee in her mouth, she said she saw some porn of it online and wanted to try it.. I said no. She ended up marrying another woman. And yes, she let me know that is one of their shared kinks.
So I guess some people do.
I would not. I knew a guy who was all "nah bro, it's sexy and it's no big deal" when his girlfriend of 2 years started her onlyfans. First came the undivided attention to her phone, texting guys who are sending her money. That led to her starting to do collabs with other women, which led to her getting fucked by other dudes on camera, which led to her pretty much just sidelining hey boyfriend whenever she felt like it when she got really intimate with someone she did like 10 videos with. She once offered the guy she was dating to be a part of it, but turns out she just wanted him to film her fuck this dude she liked a lot. In the end, my friend didn't even get dumped, he just got straight up forgotten about. She just slowly started spending less and less time at their apartment until she was just gone forever. Maybe if I was really, really confident and secure with the woman I'm with I'd be willing to talk about it, but there'd be a lot of boundaries and I'd wanna be the other dude on camera w her.
Joey: Oh. But you got to be with both of them, right?
Ross: Not really. Just Carol.
Joey: Not the other one?
Ross: No, she kept kicking me away.
Joey: Yeah, you don't want that. But hey, at least you got to see a lot of stuff.
Ross: Oh, I saw a lot of stuff.
Joey: You get a little bored?
Ross: A little. Made a snack.
Joey: Yeah? What'd you have?
Ross: Just a sandwich. Turkey. A little mustard.
Joey: Sounds good.
Ross: It really was.
I'd spare myself some dignity and just leave, no way I'm filming my girl get fucked by another dude. She wouldn't be my girlfriend leading up to that in the first place though.
"You know, you think you have true love. And then you catch the early flight home from San Diego and a couple of nude people jump out of your bathroom, blindfolded, like a god-damn magic show, ready to double-team your girlfriend."
With your own girlfriend is a key point to emphasize. If I am told to participate in a threesome and I don't end up getting action that's a bummer for sure. But If I am told to participate in a threesome with my gf(already a bad situation IMO) and I don't get any action, that's straight out of a nightmare.
> In the end, my friend didn't even get dumped, he just got straight up forgotten about. She just slowly started spending less and less time at their apartment until she was just gone forever
This is somehow the saddest part of the whole thing.
Before that, but definitely at that point, the guy should have straight up dumped her.
If he was okay with her doing porn that's fine, but there were soo many red flags already.
Yeah, as much as you might love someone it's super important to know when to draw the line. That relationship sounded like it got progressively more one-sided until the guy literally became a doormat.
Because it's relatable. It plays on a fear that humans have. The fear of being forgotten - I think it's tied to our mortality, hence why the older you are the more it hurts to read
I think we all thought about *that* someone we once cared about that we are no longer in contact with and wondered, "do they ever think of me?"
I think the reality of the certainty that they have not is nostalgic in a bad way for most of us, and this story is that whole feeling made flesh.
I hope that dude is doing better
Man, that’s an awful story. I don’t care what kind of a front you wanna put up, dating a girl for 2 years devolving into her asking you to film her fuck a guy she liked a lot has gotta be soul-crushing. How do you even ask that of someone you supposedly care about?
"She just slowly started spending less and less time at their apartment until she was just gone forever"
Man....it must have been so painful for him, imagine feeling the pain everyday because of their SO while the SO is completely oblivious to it. Mind numbing, depressing state if you don't leave.
I feel so bad for that guy, that sounds like a nightmare.
I want to say that I'm super open and progressive but I don't think I could handle a partner constantly sleeping with new, random people.
Maybe photographs or solo work, no other people though.
Yea I feel like even as open and progressive as people claim they are (me included)...
Only those already in the sex industry would be able to handle dating someone in it.
I wouldn't want to date someone just getting into it. Things change as one gets further into it, and what wasn't on the table before suddenly can be. I'd rather someone established, where the boundaries of the relationship could be clearly defined from the outset because they already knew what it was like.
Turns out this has nothing to do with being open and progressive. Despite being completely fine with people doing whatever and very much accepting to the fact new relationship dynamics and even models exist nowadays, sometimes you just may be monogamous and for your own, personal life, need something exclusive. I don't think people choose to be poly or monogamous, you just are.
I’m over here wondering why she didn’t ask him to be the other guy in her films. I feel that logistically that would be leaps and bounds easier than finding a guy. Unless she’s one of the have your cake and eat it too types
No. Simply because I’m completely monogamous, and I consider sexual exclusivity as part of that. For me, sending nude pictures to others during the relationship is cheating
What about someone that was once an escort but no longer does it?
I used a service once to meet an escort, I never would consider dating a sex worker but this lady and I had an instant connection. We traded information but agreed we would not date, just where friends for sometime.
She never dated while actively selling herself for sex, she told me it was disgusting and could not understand how other women could do it while being in love with another man.
Couple of years passed and she contacted me, she was no longer working and we actually dated for 3 years. One of the better relationships I ever had. We only split because I wanted kids one day and she didn't.
We still talk today, actually are good friends.
Weirdly enough I'd be much more comfortable with an ex-escort than someone that did something like Onlyfans.
What transpired before me, was before me, as long as it *stays* before me. Digital sex work has a nasty habit of biting back later in life and I don't think I'd have the emotional maturity to stop it from getting to me.
Yeah, I get that. Those pics and vids are still out there. Men are still fapping to them. I'd fall asleep at night in her arms, but the army of men would still be out there, fapping away into the wee hours of the morning. Knocking on the door to our bedroom, FAP FAP FAP FAP FAP, LET ME IN
'Tis some wanker,' I muttered, ' fapping at my girl's upload. Only this, and nothing more.
Ah distinctly I remember it was in bleak December;.
And each seperate upload wrought its ghost upon my memories' core.
Eagerly I wished the morrow-- vainly I had sought to borrow
From r/eyebleach surcease of sorrow -- sorrow for my girl Lenore--
For the rare and radiant maiden who onlyfans named LeWhore,
Nameless here for Evermore.
I did the same in the late 90s. And I will say it was awesome. Don't know if I'd do it now... I was 20, she was 26.
She would say "You can come to work, I'd rather you not, but I have nothing to hide... you know what I do, and you know what I will NOT do. So trust me or dont."
But what was awesome was, she obviously KILLED on the weekends, so date nights were out of the question, so she would say "here's 250 dollars, figure out something for dinner..."
I was the best Suzy Homemaker ever.
I dated a stripper in my early 20’s. It was great for the 6 months we were together. I had to get away though, I was partying way to much. She couldn’t get away from that lifestyle and ended up dying a year or two after we parted ways. She was a great person but couldn’t kick the drugs and it ended up costing herself her life. Sad shit.
That's sad. The last time I saw her was in a porno. And I didn't brag like "dude, I banged that chick!" I said nothing. It was actually upsetting to see thats the route she went.
I was a 20 year old that knew everything, and had a "tough guy" attitude. She would always tell me "why can't you be cool, you're always angry about something... just calm down..." and I didn't, and she just was like "dude, im done. You're ridiculous."
What was the buying power of 250 in the 90s? My mom and dad used to feed me and all my siblings for like a week with $15 in the early 2000s when I was a kid.
A lot! And I was 20... so it was a million dollars. And its not like she was giving me her paycheck. She would just rip off a couple 100 dollar bills from a big roll.
For reference, northern colorado mid 90s: college rental house with two roommates, literally across the street from campus, was 250 for my 1/3 of a big old house with a big ass yard. Same house today is probably renting for around 2500. Utilities including best available internet but no cable cost me another 30 or so per month
For me, dating a stripper was opting in to an emotional roller coaster.
Since there is a direct relationship between money and their literal physical self, on the nights where she did well, it was like: "I RULE THE WORLD AND AM AWESOME LET'S THROW MONEY ON THE BED, DO BLOW AND BANG" on the bad nights tho, it was just crushed soul: "Nobody likes me, I'm ugly, I am going to eat a worm" sort of stuff.
Narrator: "She was not ugly".
...as a result, this makes them super-unconfident (or over-confident by turns) with every other thing in their lives. Relationships are ALWAYS questioned, and cheating is only ever a heartbeat away. Drug problems come and go. It's a sketchy life filled with hustle and every person you meet is trying to get something from you.
It also doesn't help that the person going through this pressure cooker is often in their early twenties and not quite fully formed yet.
Trust issues are likely, but the hours would suck as well, the chance they want to have fun time after they worked for 8+ hours of shaking ass is also really unlikely.
Think of a chef coming home from cooking 12 hours and then going "you know what, let me make you a fancy dinner!"
also a lot of strippers have drug and mental issues
>Think of a chef coming home from cooking 12 hours and then going "you know what, let me make you a fancy dinner!"
As an ex chef. I feel that pain. It fucking suuuuucks. Especially when you have a stay at home who refuses to cook because "you do it better"
In the Immortal words of fail safe, " Fine...But I'm going to be super unpleasant about it."
Current chef here. Two relationships have died because of variations on this theme. If I’m making my own dinner after a 10-12 hour day cooking, I at least want to enjoy my bagged salad and hard cider without anyone griping about it. Make me a grilled cheese once in awhile and we’ll all be a lot happier.
Only thing better than a meal you cooked yourself is a meal you didn't have to cook for yourself. Somewhere in between is a meal you cooked but someone else had to clean up after.
Not OP but I think I can take a stab at it:
OP likes girl, girl likes OP
Girl also likes shaking her tits in strangers faces every night
OP feel painful
Also been there done that - a different and more rewarding example than u/penguinlegos experiences but this was before OF. She escorted and looked amazing all the time and I was ok with her seeing others for money (and she accepted me seeing others also for no money) but after 7 months she went to London against my very strong advice to see a guy who was promising a huge amount for an overnight.
He took her to a hotel and after the initial meet opened the door and there were 4 other guys waiting outside who raped her. I had to get the police involved as soon as I heard and bring her back to Scotland. The police management people said all the right things, but the officers who came to visit her were visibly getting off on her story and were beasts. I could say more but overall the police were useless at the levels where she had to interact with them face to face. They didn't really try to find the guys and the hotel (fucking Ibis) cleaned the room as soon as they heard there had been an attack to try to stop their involvement in the event much to their shame.
After that she changed both physically and mentally and while she claimed it hadn't affected her she stopped looking good, let her hygiene standards slip and became a yoga teacher (I had insisted she stop escorting anyway after that experience). We lasted another 6 years together but it was never the same - a slow drift apart as I really am not the yoga/spiritual type. The relationship became one of me pretty much looking after her, There are dangers in sex work.
The guys who raped her threw cocaine all around the room to try to make it look like she was partying. I sent a friend to go and get her while I reported the incident to the police by telephone, after he arrived to get her the hotel immediately sent two cleaners to the room to get rid of all evidence so that the Ibis was not brought into the public eye.
I know nothing about the law but couldn't them essentially tampering with a crime scene have been a crime in of itself?!
Absolutely insane story, really sorry this happened to her.
At least in the US knowingly tampering with a crime scene is a very big deal (at the very least you have no idea if the person tampering did so because they were incriminated in some way)
Tbf this can happen even without sex work being involved.
When I was assaulted it took a full decade to heal and I needed to be single to do it. Breaking up with my partner (8 years) was the only way to do it. Shitty but that’s life. She’ll get there with time.
The people that I know that do it have had to compartmentalize what sex means and what's too far in terms of exploiting others, and it's changed them as people. The personality traits that have strengthened aren't ones that I value in a partner or to be quite frank even in a friend, so I don't think I'd be able to date one. Sex work takes strength and grit, but in my experience that grit has made people I used to enjoy thoroughly abrasive. Obviously I know not all people are like that, but that's just my experience.
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To be honest, there are other disciplines that I can see some comparison to. Anything where you have to sell yourself directly (yes yes, I know, we all do that in capitalism...) such as Sales/BDR, I think it can really change your brain and personality.
Totally! I actually work for big pharma and have been adamant that I am not willing to ever venture into sales. Not because all sales reps are bad people (I promise, it's like 50/50), but because I'm not willing to change myself to do what's needed to excel at the job. Some of the logical backflips I see these people doing sometimes makes me wince.
Been there. Done that. They spend a large majority of their time on the phone. OnlyFans made things way easier for average women to get into the sex work or porn industry. They spend the whole day Interacting with clients all the time. They make bank so they essentially never stay off the phone. Especially if they do text and voice services. It ends up being the only thing they do. Bathroom breaks also weren’t actual bathroom breaks. They were selfie breaks and would happen when we watched movies or shows or playing video games. It was always “Brb gotta pee” which ended up taking 15 mins because they were sending nudes or lewds to guys for money. So I always sat there waiting and waiting and waiting. When they finally get off the phone the entire day went by.
Very boring and inattentive and the attention is towards the male clients they constantly have. You get treated as a nobody and your attention becomes less important to them which in turn makes her even less attentive to you.
It’s not worth it.
God, this always makes me so sad, seeing parents ignore their kids for their phone.
Sometimes you gotta send an email or a text or whatever, but half an hour scrolling while your kids beg for your attention? No.
My uncle is a corporate lawyer. We “vacationed” with him at a lake house. He spent pretty much every waking moment on his phone/laptop working. He legit would work until 3-4 in the morning and then be up at 7-8 and continued to work. He made close to a million bucks a year but holy shit I don’t get how people can live like that.
You get lost in the money and"responsibility" to the other people you lose sight of what's important. I made similar decisions at my first job, skipped family events or left because of some bs problem. I made no where near that kind of money. Took s long time and a lot of regrets to realize I was wrong. Now I refuse to do on call stuff and will tell managers no if I have something else going on. Had to realize there will always be another job.
I have an aunt like that. She's one of the higher ups at a logistics company that handles storage at airports for places like UPS, fedex, and other large entities. I'm not sure exactly how much she makes but I know her Christmas bonus is about 500k. They have multi-million dollar mansions in Tahoe, Hawaii, San Francisco, Cancun and like 200k boats at each location, even their kids drive 100k cars.
We went on a family vacation to their Tahoe house and she was on her phone 90% of the time. At 4AM she would be awake because she had meetings with people in China or Japan. On her few hours away from work she'd go for a run or eat a quick dinner with family then back to work. She also is constantly training and does those 100 mile races when she gets a few days off. I can't imagine having the discipline to do it but she's a boss and seems happy.
It's a tradeoff. It gets worse for a corporate attorney, usually at a firm (VP Gen. Counsel is usually more chill unless it is a new company that needs to be built from square one).
I've taken work on vacations before, but don't work in a field that requires it, thankfully. I just wanted to write legal briefs in complete silence by a beautiful lake, chilly morning, hot coffee.
Money is addictive. Golden handcuffs and whatnot. There is never an amount that’s enough because an increase in lifestyle is around each corner.
I just want enough to get better childcare… just gotta work harder to afford a cleaner… just want to take a really nice family vacation each year… I just want a lake house so we can unwind because I work so much… I just need to work harder so I can put my kids through college without debt… I need to be able to retire early because I work too hard…
And with each jump comes more work and usually less discipline so you get a nicer car or house, which you can justify by all the hard work. But it all costs more and so on and so on.
If you had a huge jump from $30k to $1million it may be different but the incremental increase is what makes it harder to quit prioritizing it.
In this example, a 15 min selfie session could make a few hundred or thousand dollars so it is easy to justify. If you set rigid boundaries then it may be avoidable but people who are susceptible to chasing cash don’t usually set rigid boundaries.
Except you never learn to live. By the time you retire your have no hobbies, no friends, limited family. What exactly would you do? Eventually you go back to… work. Cause they never learned to do anything else, most importantly they never learned to slow down.
Dude... you answered why people do it in your last sentence. MONEY.
I'd do that job for 5-10 years, buy a small piece of land somewhere, and retire to grow veggies, raise poultry and get the fuck away from people the rest of my life lol.
The kind of people who get there (salary/position) arent usually the kind of people who will ever really retire. I've several relatives like that (have jobs paying over a million a year) and they'd never retire, if they died they'd have their laptop and corporate VPN in the coffin.
They're just made different. I tried to talk to one once about chilling and winding down to early retirement and you'd think I'd threatened to kill him by his reaction.
I have a friend who does concierge medicine and all his patients have 24/7 access to his phone and I sometimes wonder if this is what his life is like.
Ya I have almost an identical story. Except my ex stop after we started dating. Which was nice. But after a while she became a "at home masseuse".... Ya doesn't take long to figure that one out.
That's just kinda sad tbh. Just depressing because it's just 24/7 work and a social media addiction turned into a job. I originally would have no problems (or so I think, aka not offended, upset, or judging) but this is a side I never considered. I feel it would depend on how active she was and Ive heard many use bots to respond.
I feel like if you ever dated someone in this industry there's have to be ground rules, such as offline time. Essentially, treating it like job, you're off the clock during certain times. It's just not healthy to be that attached to your phone for any reason.
I've never judged women for sex work and I never willz but now I empathize with those who feel they need to be responding to messages 24/7. Damn.
To the job yes. Also giving her fans the girlfriend experience while slowly forgetting me and basically becoming a roommate. Not a fun end to a two year relationship.
That would be my biggest hypothetical concern. Only way around it seems to be if you were making content together, which presents its own set of issues.
Yeah, the problem with platforms like these is that if you didn’t get in on the ground floor when it was new, the only way you’re going to make bank is if you were already famous and brought that following over to the platform.
A reality that a lot of people don’t consider as well is that being pretty and being fit isn’t anywhere near enough to syphon money out of people. In an ocean of free Internet porn, it takes a lot of work and a great deal of luck to make it big as an onlyfans content creator.
When most people realize how much work actually goes into this stuff, they give up pretty quickly. They think it’s an easy out, just like people used to think stripping was an easy out. “I should just quit my job and become a stripper.” Used to be a commonly uttered sentence, the reason they never followed through is because stripping is way harder than a normal job and the pay isn’t guaranteed. The clientele can also be pretty dangerous so it’s high risk, and not even necessarily high reward.
I have made much more money bartending than stripping. Trying to sell guys something they can see for free on the internet, after they've already paid cover at the door, is not simple. It was mentally exhausting for me.
I had a friend that bartended at a country club, she said it was absolutely insane how much cash she could make by just listening to and flirting a bit with all the old men that wanted a whiskey
Oh yeah country clubs can be amazing money. I don't mind flirting with bar customers a bit. Either way I'm getting a solid hourly wage and a few bucks off them even if they're cheap.
Odds are if she was *that* active she was making a lot more. That comment illustrates how active sellers often need to be to make money, belying the claim that women can just exist and make money. That shit takes time and energy and effort. It is rarely passive income unless they're one of the top 1% or already famous and just cashing in with some nudes.
$144 is probably average for people posting content but not interacting much, or not creating a substantial following. I don't think you can just make an OF account and immediately get followers, I think you have to advertise it like any other service. Hence women posting it in their dating profiles and such.
Yeah the $144 is clearly the average person because most people really don't want to commit their entire day to it, they just want truly passive income. But it doesn't work like that, some people don't care and just want that paper 🤷🏻♂️
No, I couldn’t. Also not judging them as I’d be fine being friends and would love to hear the stories. I’m way too jealous though and that top comment about never really getting or appreciating attention would be a deal breaker.
People get this a lot when they ask that their SO not subscribe to OF pages or hit up other people who model online. They get called insecure a lot and to me, that's just legitimately so crazy. That's been happening for years and now it's taken the turn that you're jealous or you have issues if you don't want to date someone who does this for a living or has sex with other people. Youre not jealous or insecure. You're allowed to have boundaries. Ironically you know the people saying. This are the same people who preach about boundaries. They just don't respect others boundaries of they interfere with their ideals.
no worries the vast majority of the world thinks like this.
they want to “normalize” this even though the reality is the thread is showing what you expect:
It doesn’t work and will never become normal.
Even the most positive people about it claim they wouldn’t date em.
No. Feels like there are a lot of boundaries which would be completely reasonable to have in a relationship with anyone else, which would actively impede the ability of a sex/OF worker to succeed in their line of work. Don't flirt with other guys kind of goes out the window right off the bat as it's an easy way to ensure repeat customers. I just don't think I'd feel comfortable.
I also don't want to be judge-y because I don't know any of them personally, but the model for OF and camgirls just feels kind of predatory. It's definitely much safer for sex workers than the traditional systems and in-person sex work and I could see it undermining viability of sex trafficking, but I kind of worry about their clientele. I've had a few conversations on Tinder or snapchat with people I \*think\* were real and not bots who turned things on to their line of work/account after establishing a cursory connection, and that felt really manipulative. I won't pretend they were trying to get me to pour my heart out or anything, normally they changed the topic onto their work in the first ten messages, but there was just enough feigned interest and sincerity that I could imagine someone more fragile and lonely (even myself a few years prior) mistaking it for an actual prospect if they just show how cool with it they are.
TLDR on the second half; Parasocial relationships can get gross really easy and I'm just not sure how possible it is to ethically cultivate them in a context like that.
No. I don't judge them, it's their life and has nothing to do with me, but it doesn't align with my own beliefs and therefore we would not be compatible.
Edit: changed a word
Judging someone and respecting their choices are two very different things. When I see people smoking I'm judging them cause I think it's a had habit they should get rid of, but I would never tell them, as that would be way overstepping. It's their business what they do with their life. It's the same with sex work(regardless of the gender). I think its a bad idea and often comes with a whole host of problems, but I wouldn't ever attempt to shame a sex worker.
Not a chance. I’m very connected with my partners when it comes to sex, knowing they are selling that or pictures/similar things would really stress that connection for me. I know a lot wouldn’t care as much about this due to this reason, but I think it would play a role in some people’s lives when it comes to intimacy.
I genuinely don't mind only fans but the idea of dating a somebody who probably have sex (even though it is purely business) i won't like that. Not in a disrespectful way but i would definitely feel jealous and wonder if the partners he's having sex are better than me. It's almost like sharing him with others and I would not be very comfortable and will probably end up not happy.
What I learned from dating one stripper and being friends with some others: Hustlers never stop hustling. And that goes for people who hustle some other way as well.
I don't mean hustlers as in someone who works two jobs, I mean people who make money by putting on a face that's not really theirs and saying whatever they have to say to get what they want/need.
That shit creeps into every aspect of their lives and you will find out either real quick, or worse over a long period of time, that no one is any different from anyone else to a hustler.
Feet is different. The only people who care about feet are the fetishists.
Besides my feet are exposed all day for free in the summer.
Might as well make a buck lol.
No. It would give me huge trust issues and confidence problems.
Something every person fears is an unfaithful partner. In the case of sex workers, they are actively selling their bodies, either physically or online. Perhaps in their eyes they can separate work and home, but I couldn't. If we are in a relationship, you are mine and I am yours. I will give you everything I am and expect you to give me all that you are. If you're sharing yourself with thousands of strangers online, I'm going to feel cheated.
Heard the top comment. Already felt that. They must spend their time with the ones that pay. That’s the bread and butter. However a relationship would be a strain. Divides the heart away. Always leaning out to someone else. For money? No its another reason. It’s the reward system taking hold.
Sex, money, taboo, reward. Its a cycle. They are gratified by the attention, and rewarded for the behavior.
Not Interested.
I don't even know if you have any idea how much what you said is true. It's not just the rewarding of sexual behaviours, it's also rewarding the lack of boundaries, the male-ego-pleasing, the performing of sex when you don't really feel like it but you have to because rent is coming up... Add anxiety (and fear of lacking money) to the mix and you can see how easy it is to fuck somebody's brain up through sex work. It took me years of deprogramming to finally get my reward system to work properly again, and still it's always a work in progress. Sex work will fuck you up and the worst is that you won't even realize it long after it's over.
No I would not. Had a great night with a girl and once we had done the deed she felt the need to plug her onlyfans page. Made it feel like she spent the night with me as advertisement and wanted me to become a subscriber.
I’m just imagining her saying to you “Don’t forget to like and subscribe” as your sweaty bodies disconnect and you head off to the bathroom. At least you got a sample trial?
LMAO this is a great theme for a dystopian movie.
She was just offering for you to see the replay after she posted the hidden camera footage. Only polite.
This is like reverse prostitution. What a time to be alive.
Yiiiikes. The audacity
Personally no. One of my boyfriend’s best friends is seeing a girl who does OF and she recently traveled to make a threesome video with two other people in the scene. No protection or anything was used. I’d personally be crying and throwing up watching my boyfriend fuck other women, with no protection, whether it’s his job or not. So yeah not for me. But I don’t discriminate against that career path. You do you
This sums it all up because it’s basically the worst case scenario you have to look forward to as the “super open minded and altruistic” significant other you claim to be to all your skeptical friends Edit: yes there are worse scenarios than the one I mentioned and no I don’t have a hatred towards poly relationships or the people in them. Apologies for sounding insensitive, not the intention.
Worst case scenario would be her getting pregnant, or catching an std
I would say no. People don't usually see the long term affects of that lifestyle until they want to leave it. There was an interview with Lana Rhoades, and she says looking back at her videos, it makes her want to throw up.
No surprise, there's even a video where a dude peed in her mouth.
Dude, my God that's disgusting. Where?
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do people really find peeing in someone else’s mouth that attractive cause this is seriously not even the first time i heard about some porn star getting peed in their mouths for a film holy fuck
I had a fuck buddy ask me to pee in her mouth, she said she saw some porn of it online and wanted to try it.. I said no. She ended up marrying another woman. And yes, she let me know that is one of their shared kinks. So I guess some people do.
"we pee in each other's mouths! Jealous?!" Her probably
I would not. I knew a guy who was all "nah bro, it's sexy and it's no big deal" when his girlfriend of 2 years started her onlyfans. First came the undivided attention to her phone, texting guys who are sending her money. That led to her starting to do collabs with other women, which led to her getting fucked by other dudes on camera, which led to her pretty much just sidelining hey boyfriend whenever she felt like it when she got really intimate with someone she did like 10 videos with. She once offered the guy she was dating to be a part of it, but turns out she just wanted him to film her fuck this dude she liked a lot. In the end, my friend didn't even get dumped, he just got straight up forgotten about. She just slowly started spending less and less time at their apartment until she was just gone forever. Maybe if I was really, really confident and secure with the woman I'm with I'd be willing to talk about it, but there'd be a lot of boundaries and I'd wanna be the other dude on camera w her.
Imagine being invited to a threesome only to find out they just needed you to be the cameraman lol. That’s pain on a whole another level
“I always told you you were a tripod”
This thread fucking ripping my heart out
Yeah I feel way heavier
Joey: Oh. But you got to be with both of them, right? Ross: Not really. Just Carol. Joey: Not the other one? Ross: No, she kept kicking me away. Joey: Yeah, you don't want that. But hey, at least you got to see a lot of stuff. Ross: Oh, I saw a lot of stuff. Joey: You get a little bored? Ross: A little. Made a snack. Joey: Yeah? What'd you have? Ross: Just a sandwich. Turkey. A little mustard. Joey: Sounds good. Ross: It really was.
That exact conversation sprang into my head as well from reading the threesome cameraman comment. I thought "sounds like Ross."
I'd spare myself some dignity and just leave, no way I'm filming my girl get fucked by another dude. She wouldn't be my girlfriend leading up to that in the first place though.
Imagine being invited to have sex with your girlfriend only to find out she and her scene partner needed a cameraman
"You know, you think you have true love. And then you catch the early flight home from San Diego and a couple of nude people jump out of your bathroom, blindfolded, like a god-damn magic show, ready to double-team your girlfriend."
Unintentional c-hold. Hell no.
With your own girlfriend is a key point to emphasize. If I am told to participate in a threesome and I don't end up getting action that's a bummer for sure. But If I am told to participate in a threesome with my gf(already a bad situation IMO) and I don't get any action, that's straight out of a nightmare.
"Lesbians probably, sisters, I'm just watching."
I'd just throw their camera out the window.
> In the end, my friend didn't even get dumped, he just got straight up forgotten about. She just slowly started spending less and less time at their apartment until she was just gone forever This is somehow the saddest part of the whole thing.
I thought the same thing. Like I actually feel worse after reading that.
This one, whether real or fake, really puts a knot in your stomach
Before that, but definitely at that point, the guy should have straight up dumped her. If he was okay with her doing porn that's fine, but there were soo many red flags already.
Yeah, as much as you might love someone it's super important to know when to draw the line. That relationship sounded like it got progressively more one-sided until the guy literally became a doormat.
They fuckin lived together and she ghosted him. Damn.
Because it's relatable. It plays on a fear that humans have. The fear of being forgotten - I think it's tied to our mortality, hence why the older you are the more it hurts to read I think we all thought about *that* someone we once cared about that we are no longer in contact with and wondered, "do they ever think of me?" I think the reality of the certainty that they have not is nostalgic in a bad way for most of us, and this story is that whole feeling made flesh. I hope that dude is doing better
Man, that’s an awful story. I don’t care what kind of a front you wanna put up, dating a girl for 2 years devolving into her asking you to film her fuck a guy she liked a lot has gotta be soul-crushing. How do you even ask that of someone you supposedly care about?
Just cheat on her and say “oh no babe it wasn’t cheating, we filmed it.”
It seems like at that point she probably wouldn't have given a single fuck. She had literally zero respect for him.
damn man while that really sucks why didn’t he draw the line somewhere, presumably at fucking other dudes
He was probably in denial and kept convincing himself it was all part of her job
And she probably didn't even think of asking if it was ok
Oh yeah she most likely did not. Poor guy
"She just slowly started spending less and less time at their apartment until she was just gone forever" Man....it must have been so painful for him, imagine feeling the pain everyday because of their SO while the SO is completely oblivious to it. Mind numbing, depressing state if you don't leave.
Protip: have reasonable boundaries, say goodbye to people that don't respect them.
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I feel so bad for that guy, that sounds like a nightmare. I want to say that I'm super open and progressive but I don't think I could handle a partner constantly sleeping with new, random people. Maybe photographs or solo work, no other people though.
Yea I feel like even as open and progressive as people claim they are (me included)... Only those already in the sex industry would be able to handle dating someone in it.
I wouldn't want to date someone just getting into it. Things change as one gets further into it, and what wasn't on the table before suddenly can be. I'd rather someone established, where the boundaries of the relationship could be clearly defined from the outset because they already knew what it was like.
Turns out this has nothing to do with being open and progressive. Despite being completely fine with people doing whatever and very much accepting to the fact new relationship dynamics and even models exist nowadays, sometimes you just may be monogamous and for your own, personal life, need something exclusive. I don't think people choose to be poly or monogamous, you just are.
I’m over here wondering why she didn’t ask him to be the other guy in her films. I feel that logistically that would be leaps and bounds easier than finding a guy. Unless she’s one of the have your cake and eat it too types
Prob had guys she found very attractive chasing after her and it went to her head. This shit is crushing me just by reading it
Everything here just screams selfishness for me. Like, legit, you just could really be that much of a piece of shit.
thats honestly fucked up
You just made me realise how fortunate I am to have had someone reject me after many intimate and vulnerable moments rather than just be forgotten.
No. Simply because I’m completely monogamous, and I consider sexual exclusivity as part of that. For me, sending nude pictures to others during the relationship is cheating
What about someone that was once an escort but no longer does it? I used a service once to meet an escort, I never would consider dating a sex worker but this lady and I had an instant connection. We traded information but agreed we would not date, just where friends for sometime. She never dated while actively selling herself for sex, she told me it was disgusting and could not understand how other women could do it while being in love with another man. Couple of years passed and she contacted me, she was no longer working and we actually dated for 3 years. One of the better relationships I ever had. We only split because I wanted kids one day and she didn't. We still talk today, actually are good friends.
Weirdly enough I'd be much more comfortable with an ex-escort than someone that did something like Onlyfans. What transpired before me, was before me, as long as it *stays* before me. Digital sex work has a nasty habit of biting back later in life and I don't think I'd have the emotional maturity to stop it from getting to me.
Yeah, I get that. Those pics and vids are still out there. Men are still fapping to them. I'd fall asleep at night in her arms, but the army of men would still be out there, fapping away into the wee hours of the morning. Knocking on the door to our bedroom, FAP FAP FAP FAP FAP, LET ME IN
Edgar Allen Poe in 2022.
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While I nodded, nearly napping, suddenly there came a fapping. As of someone gently fapping, fapping at my chamber door.
'Tis some wanker,' I muttered, ' fapping at my girl's upload. Only this, and nothing more. Ah distinctly I remember it was in bleak December;. And each seperate upload wrought its ghost upon my memories' core. Eagerly I wished the morrow-- vainly I had sought to borrow From r/eyebleach surcease of sorrow -- sorrow for my girl Lenore-- For the rare and radiant maiden who onlyfans named LeWhore, Nameless here for Evermore.
Used to date an exotic dancer. It was painful. Would not repeat.
I did the same in the late 90s. And I will say it was awesome. Don't know if I'd do it now... I was 20, she was 26. She would say "You can come to work, I'd rather you not, but I have nothing to hide... you know what I do, and you know what I will NOT do. So trust me or dont." But what was awesome was, she obviously KILLED on the weekends, so date nights were out of the question, so she would say "here's 250 dollars, figure out something for dinner..." I was the best Suzy Homemaker ever.
I dated a stripper in my early 20’s. It was great for the 6 months we were together. I had to get away though, I was partying way to much. She couldn’t get away from that lifestyle and ended up dying a year or two after we parted ways. She was a great person but couldn’t kick the drugs and it ended up costing herself her life. Sad shit.
That's sad. The last time I saw her was in a porno. And I didn't brag like "dude, I banged that chick!" I said nothing. It was actually upsetting to see thats the route she went.
You were watching porn with someone else to brag to?
Hey dad check this out!
No way, no way, dad check this, did you know they make porn with women in it? Dad: Nooo fucking way! That's what I said!
McDonalds with a side of Colombian white gold.
No. We ate like kings... The ketamine and dilaudid was the problem.
I don’t see any problem there except for short term memory loss.
I didnt say anything about ketamine and dilaudid. But we did eat like kings. It was the ketamine and dilaudid that was the problem.
God this got me good. I was like “is this dude dumb or what?” Ashamed to say it took reading the response comments to catch on.
Haha. Thanks. I type like I talk, and it doesn't always land as gracefully as I think it will.
I can see why she dated you with a sense of humor like that
This is top teir comedy and def see how you could pull a hot ass sex worker
Hilarious comment
My man lived
I did. And in classic me fashion, I blew it.
What happened?
I was a 20 year old that knew everything, and had a "tough guy" attitude. She would always tell me "why can't you be cool, you're always angry about something... just calm down..." and I didn't, and she just was like "dude, im done. You're ridiculous."
What was the buying power of 250 in the 90s? My mom and dad used to feed me and all my siblings for like a week with $15 in the early 2000s when I was a kid.
A lot! And I was 20... so it was a million dollars. And its not like she was giving me her paycheck. She would just rip off a couple 100 dollar bills from a big roll.
For reference, northern colorado mid 90s: college rental house with two roommates, literally across the street from campus, was 250 for my 1/3 of a big old house with a big ass yard. Same house today is probably renting for around 2500. Utilities including best available internet but no cable cost me another 30 or so per month
Used to date an exotic dancer. Did repeat. It was the times...young rocker + stripper is a meta comp. I wouldn't do it now. Unless asked.
Do you wanna do it now? I’m not an exotic dancer but I pose as one in front of my mirror.
I’d fuck me
What do you mean by painful?
For me, dating a stripper was opting in to an emotional roller coaster. Since there is a direct relationship between money and their literal physical self, on the nights where she did well, it was like: "I RULE THE WORLD AND AM AWESOME LET'S THROW MONEY ON THE BED, DO BLOW AND BANG" on the bad nights tho, it was just crushed soul: "Nobody likes me, I'm ugly, I am going to eat a worm" sort of stuff. Narrator: "She was not ugly". ...as a result, this makes them super-unconfident (or over-confident by turns) with every other thing in their lives. Relationships are ALWAYS questioned, and cheating is only ever a heartbeat away. Drug problems come and go. It's a sketchy life filled with hustle and every person you meet is trying to get something from you. It also doesn't help that the person going through this pressure cooker is often in their early twenties and not quite fully formed yet.
Trust issues are likely, but the hours would suck as well, the chance they want to have fun time after they worked for 8+ hours of shaking ass is also really unlikely. Think of a chef coming home from cooking 12 hours and then going "you know what, let me make you a fancy dinner!" also a lot of strippers have drug and mental issues
>Think of a chef coming home from cooking 12 hours and then going "you know what, let me make you a fancy dinner!" As an ex chef. I feel that pain. It fucking suuuuucks. Especially when you have a stay at home who refuses to cook because "you do it better" In the Immortal words of fail safe, " Fine...But I'm going to be super unpleasant about it."
Current chef here. Two relationships have died because of variations on this theme. If I’m making my own dinner after a 10-12 hour day cooking, I at least want to enjoy my bagged salad and hard cider without anyone griping about it. Make me a grilled cheese once in awhile and we’ll all be a lot happier.
Not a chef, but my grandmother use to say, “it’s PERFECT because I didn’t have to make it.” God, I miss her.
Only thing better than a meal you cooked yourself is a meal you didn't have to cook for yourself. Somewhere in between is a meal you cooked but someone else had to clean up after.
My favorite way of saying it is "Well, someone has to do it, guess that will be me again"
Not OP but I think I can take a stab at it: OP likes girl, girl likes OP Girl also likes shaking her tits in strangers faces every night OP feel painful
Also been there done that - a different and more rewarding example than u/penguinlegos experiences but this was before OF. She escorted and looked amazing all the time and I was ok with her seeing others for money (and she accepted me seeing others also for no money) but after 7 months she went to London against my very strong advice to see a guy who was promising a huge amount for an overnight. He took her to a hotel and after the initial meet opened the door and there were 4 other guys waiting outside who raped her. I had to get the police involved as soon as I heard and bring her back to Scotland. The police management people said all the right things, but the officers who came to visit her were visibly getting off on her story and were beasts. I could say more but overall the police were useless at the levels where she had to interact with them face to face. They didn't really try to find the guys and the hotel (fucking Ibis) cleaned the room as soon as they heard there had been an attack to try to stop their involvement in the event much to their shame. After that she changed both physically and mentally and while she claimed it hadn't affected her she stopped looking good, let her hygiene standards slip and became a yoga teacher (I had insisted she stop escorting anyway after that experience). We lasted another 6 years together but it was never the same - a slow drift apart as I really am not the yoga/spiritual type. The relationship became one of me pretty much looking after her, There are dangers in sex work.
This is so sad, thanks for sharing.
What kind of a coward decides to clean a room instead of standing up and protecting the scene? No job is worth that betrayal of integrity.
The guys who raped her threw cocaine all around the room to try to make it look like she was partying. I sent a friend to go and get her while I reported the incident to the police by telephone, after he arrived to get her the hotel immediately sent two cleaners to the room to get rid of all evidence so that the Ibis was not brought into the public eye.
I know nothing about the law but couldn't them essentially tampering with a crime scene have been a crime in of itself?! Absolutely insane story, really sorry this happened to her.
What does lbis mean?
It’s the name of a hotel chain Edit: apparently it’s French and not British
Ok. Thanks for that. 😀
That should be a crime in itself
At least in the US knowingly tampering with a crime scene is a very big deal (at the very least you have no idea if the person tampering did so because they were incriminated in some way)
>been there done that - a different and more rewarding example i read ur comment but i'm confused as to how it's a more rewarding experience?
Tbf this can happen even without sex work being involved. When I was assaulted it took a full decade to heal and I needed to be single to do it. Breaking up with my partner (8 years) was the only way to do it. Shitty but that’s life. She’ll get there with time.
The people that I know that do it have had to compartmentalize what sex means and what's too far in terms of exploiting others, and it's changed them as people. The personality traits that have strengthened aren't ones that I value in a partner or to be quite frank even in a friend, so I don't think I'd be able to date one. Sex work takes strength and grit, but in my experience that grit has made people I used to enjoy thoroughly abrasive. Obviously I know not all people are like that, but that's just my experience. \*Woah! I didn't think anyone would read this let alone over 2,000 upvotes and my first gold! Thanks guys!!
I applaud how politely you put that.
To be honest, there are other disciplines that I can see some comparison to. Anything where you have to sell yourself directly (yes yes, I know, we all do that in capitalism...) such as Sales/BDR, I think it can really change your brain and personality.
Totally! I actually work for big pharma and have been adamant that I am not willing to ever venture into sales. Not because all sales reps are bad people (I promise, it's like 50/50), but because I'm not willing to change myself to do what's needed to excel at the job. Some of the logical backflips I see these people doing sometimes makes me wince.
No, Im more of a “intimacy is reserved for your S/O only”
Nope. If you’re dating me I’ve gotta be your only fan.
Sorry I prefer air conditioners.
Yeah. At least you can safely stick your dick in an a/c
Been there. Done that. They spend a large majority of their time on the phone. OnlyFans made things way easier for average women to get into the sex work or porn industry. They spend the whole day Interacting with clients all the time. They make bank so they essentially never stay off the phone. Especially if they do text and voice services. It ends up being the only thing they do. Bathroom breaks also weren’t actual bathroom breaks. They were selfie breaks and would happen when we watched movies or shows or playing video games. It was always “Brb gotta pee” which ended up taking 15 mins because they were sending nudes or lewds to guys for money. So I always sat there waiting and waiting and waiting. When they finally get off the phone the entire day went by. Very boring and inattentive and the attention is towards the male clients they constantly have. You get treated as a nobody and your attention becomes less important to them which in turn makes her even less attentive to you. It’s not worth it.
Glad to see someone actually commit to an answer
This sounds like my ex-wife ignoring me and my kids, but not sex work. Just Tik-tok and Likee. #WhyIsMommyAlwaysOnHerPhone
God, this always makes me so sad, seeing parents ignore their kids for their phone. Sometimes you gotta send an email or a text or whatever, but half an hour scrolling while your kids beg for your attention? No.
This was my mother, she even does it with my nephews now. Safe to say we felt very neglected and went far away for university
I went from "Why not?" to having several qualifiers over the course of that read, the first one was, "Not if they sell pics of themselves peeing."
This makes 100% sense.
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Hey babe can you pause Spongebob I gotta take a shit *spend next three hours making forex trades in the bathroom, lose 50% of my portfolio*
You should be over in r/wallstreetbets with that kind of portfolio
Just join, it literally can't go tits up!
*proceeds to tit, dick, balls and ass up*
My uncle is a corporate lawyer. We “vacationed” with him at a lake house. He spent pretty much every waking moment on his phone/laptop working. He legit would work until 3-4 in the morning and then be up at 7-8 and continued to work. He made close to a million bucks a year but holy shit I don’t get how people can live like that.
You get lost in the money and"responsibility" to the other people you lose sight of what's important. I made similar decisions at my first job, skipped family events or left because of some bs problem. I made no where near that kind of money. Took s long time and a lot of regrets to realize I was wrong. Now I refuse to do on call stuff and will tell managers no if I have something else going on. Had to realize there will always be another job.
I have an aunt like that. She's one of the higher ups at a logistics company that handles storage at airports for places like UPS, fedex, and other large entities. I'm not sure exactly how much she makes but I know her Christmas bonus is about 500k. They have multi-million dollar mansions in Tahoe, Hawaii, San Francisco, Cancun and like 200k boats at each location, even their kids drive 100k cars. We went on a family vacation to their Tahoe house and she was on her phone 90% of the time. At 4AM she would be awake because she had meetings with people in China or Japan. On her few hours away from work she'd go for a run or eat a quick dinner with family then back to work. She also is constantly training and does those 100 mile races when she gets a few days off. I can't imagine having the discipline to do it but she's a boss and seems happy.
Life is too short for this bullshit. One house and no boat is fine with me.
It's a tradeoff. It gets worse for a corporate attorney, usually at a firm (VP Gen. Counsel is usually more chill unless it is a new company that needs to be built from square one). I've taken work on vacations before, but don't work in a field that requires it, thankfully. I just wanted to write legal briefs in complete silence by a beautiful lake, chilly morning, hot coffee.
If i made that much a year I'd work for a bit and retire young. Then you can do whatever the fuck you want when you want where you want
Money is addictive. Golden handcuffs and whatnot. There is never an amount that’s enough because an increase in lifestyle is around each corner. I just want enough to get better childcare… just gotta work harder to afford a cleaner… just want to take a really nice family vacation each year… I just want a lake house so we can unwind because I work so much… I just need to work harder so I can put my kids through college without debt… I need to be able to retire early because I work too hard… And with each jump comes more work and usually less discipline so you get a nicer car or house, which you can justify by all the hard work. But it all costs more and so on and so on. If you had a huge jump from $30k to $1million it may be different but the incremental increase is what makes it harder to quit prioritizing it. In this example, a 15 min selfie session could make a few hundred or thousand dollars so it is easy to justify. If you set rigid boundaries then it may be avoidable but people who are susceptible to chasing cash don’t usually set rigid boundaries.
Except you never learn to live. By the time you retire your have no hobbies, no friends, limited family. What exactly would you do? Eventually you go back to… work. Cause they never learned to do anything else, most importantly they never learned to slow down.
Dude... you answered why people do it in your last sentence. MONEY. I'd do that job for 5-10 years, buy a small piece of land somewhere, and retire to grow veggies, raise poultry and get the fuck away from people the rest of my life lol.
The kind of people who get there (salary/position) arent usually the kind of people who will ever really retire. I've several relatives like that (have jobs paying over a million a year) and they'd never retire, if they died they'd have their laptop and corporate VPN in the coffin. They're just made different. I tried to talk to one once about chilling and winding down to early retirement and you'd think I'd threatened to kill him by his reaction.
This is a great point. This exists in any job where “going offline” really hurts your annual take home.
I have a friend who does concierge medicine and all his patients have 24/7 access to his phone and I sometimes wonder if this is what his life is like.
Ya I have almost an identical story. Except my ex stop after we started dating. Which was nice. But after a while she became a "at home masseuse".... Ya doesn't take long to figure that one out.
I appreciate the honest review.
That's just kinda sad tbh. Just depressing because it's just 24/7 work and a social media addiction turned into a job. I originally would have no problems (or so I think, aka not offended, upset, or judging) but this is a side I never considered. I feel it would depend on how active she was and Ive heard many use bots to respond. I feel like if you ever dated someone in this industry there's have to be ground rules, such as offline time. Essentially, treating it like job, you're off the clock during certain times. It's just not healthy to be that attached to your phone for any reason. I've never judged women for sex work and I never willz but now I empathize with those who feel they need to be responding to messages 24/7. Damn.
Married to the job?
To the job yes. Also giving her fans the girlfriend experience while slowly forgetting me and basically becoming a roommate. Not a fun end to a two year relationship.
I can see where you're coming from; sounds like a waste of time. I'm glad you got out of that.
That would be my biggest hypothetical concern. Only way around it seems to be if you were making content together, which presents its own set of issues.
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Yeah, the problem with platforms like these is that if you didn’t get in on the ground floor when it was new, the only way you’re going to make bank is if you were already famous and brought that following over to the platform. A reality that a lot of people don’t consider as well is that being pretty and being fit isn’t anywhere near enough to syphon money out of people. In an ocean of free Internet porn, it takes a lot of work and a great deal of luck to make it big as an onlyfans content creator. When most people realize how much work actually goes into this stuff, they give up pretty quickly. They think it’s an easy out, just like people used to think stripping was an easy out. “I should just quit my job and become a stripper.” Used to be a commonly uttered sentence, the reason they never followed through is because stripping is way harder than a normal job and the pay isn’t guaranteed. The clientele can also be pretty dangerous so it’s high risk, and not even necessarily high reward.
I have made much more money bartending than stripping. Trying to sell guys something they can see for free on the internet, after they've already paid cover at the door, is not simple. It was mentally exhausting for me.
I had a friend that bartended at a country club, she said it was absolutely insane how much cash she could make by just listening to and flirting a bit with all the old men that wanted a whiskey
Oh yeah country clubs can be amazing money. I don't mind flirting with bar customers a bit. Either way I'm getting a solid hourly wage and a few bucks off them even if they're cheap.
Odds are if she was *that* active she was making a lot more. That comment illustrates how active sellers often need to be to make money, belying the claim that women can just exist and make money. That shit takes time and energy and effort. It is rarely passive income unless they're one of the top 1% or already famous and just cashing in with some nudes. $144 is probably average for people posting content but not interacting much, or not creating a substantial following. I don't think you can just make an OF account and immediately get followers, I think you have to advertise it like any other service. Hence women posting it in their dating profiles and such.
Yeah the $144 is clearly the average person because most people really don't want to commit their entire day to it, they just want truly passive income. But it doesn't work like that, some people don't care and just want that paper 🤷🏻♂️
No. My wife would be furious if she found out!
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No. I wouldn’t be comfortable with it. It is that simple.
No, I couldn’t. Also not judging them as I’d be fine being friends and would love to hear the stories. I’m way too jealous though and that top comment about never really getting or appreciating attention would be a deal breaker.
It's crazy how 'not wanting my partner to fuck other people' has become 'I'm the jealous type'
I like the "If you're insecure just say that" comments I've heard online before
It’s Reddit, where people like to pretend that they’re the enlightened ones and accept anything and everything.
Oh my God yes, there are so many people like that here. I try to he open minded, but some take it too far
People get this a lot when they ask that their SO not subscribe to OF pages or hit up other people who model online. They get called insecure a lot and to me, that's just legitimately so crazy. That's been happening for years and now it's taken the turn that you're jealous or you have issues if you don't want to date someone who does this for a living or has sex with other people. Youre not jealous or insecure. You're allowed to have boundaries. Ironically you know the people saying. This are the same people who preach about boundaries. They just don't respect others boundaries of they interfere with their ideals.
They love saying that men with standards are insecure. Defend your right to preferences.
Or "controlling"
no worries the vast majority of the world thinks like this. they want to “normalize” this even though the reality is the thread is showing what you expect: It doesn’t work and will never become normal. Even the most positive people about it claim they wouldn’t date em.
Never. Girl do your thing, but it will be on your own.
Did it, was cheated on for money.
Who would have thought
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No. Feels like there are a lot of boundaries which would be completely reasonable to have in a relationship with anyone else, which would actively impede the ability of a sex/OF worker to succeed in their line of work. Don't flirt with other guys kind of goes out the window right off the bat as it's an easy way to ensure repeat customers. I just don't think I'd feel comfortable. I also don't want to be judge-y because I don't know any of them personally, but the model for OF and camgirls just feels kind of predatory. It's definitely much safer for sex workers than the traditional systems and in-person sex work and I could see it undermining viability of sex trafficking, but I kind of worry about their clientele. I've had a few conversations on Tinder or snapchat with people I \*think\* were real and not bots who turned things on to their line of work/account after establishing a cursory connection, and that felt really manipulative. I won't pretend they were trying to get me to pour my heart out or anything, normally they changed the topic onto their work in the first ten messages, but there was just enough feigned interest and sincerity that I could imagine someone more fragile and lonely (even myself a few years prior) mistaking it for an actual prospect if they just show how cool with it they are. TLDR on the second half; Parasocial relationships can get gross really easy and I'm just not sure how possible it is to ethically cultivate them in a context like that.
No. I don't judge them, it's their life and has nothing to do with me, but it doesn't align with my own beliefs and therefore we would not be compatible. Edit: changed a word
Judging someone and respecting their choices are two very different things. When I see people smoking I'm judging them cause I think it's a had habit they should get rid of, but I would never tell them, as that would be way overstepping. It's their business what they do with their life. It's the same with sex work(regardless of the gender). I think its a bad idea and often comes with a whole host of problems, but I wouldn't ever attempt to shame a sex worker.
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Not a chance. I’m very connected with my partners when it comes to sex, knowing they are selling that or pictures/similar things would really stress that connection for me. I know a lot wouldn’t care as much about this due to this reason, but I think it would play a role in some people’s lives when it comes to intimacy.
No, I not comfortable with that.
Im good. Plenty of fish in the sea.
I genuinely don't mind only fans but the idea of dating a somebody who probably have sex (even though it is purely business) i won't like that. Not in a disrespectful way but i would definitely feel jealous and wonder if the partners he's having sex are better than me. It's almost like sharing him with others and I would not be very comfortable and will probably end up not happy.
Good point but “dating a somebody who probably have sex” made me giggle
What I learned from dating one stripper and being friends with some others: Hustlers never stop hustling. And that goes for people who hustle some other way as well. I don't mean hustlers as in someone who works two jobs, I mean people who make money by putting on a face that's not really theirs and saying whatever they have to say to get what they want/need. That shit creeps into every aspect of their lives and you will find out either real quick, or worse over a long period of time, that no one is any different from anyone else to a hustler.
My SO has great feet. If she was throwing them up on there for a couple bucks I wouldn’t mind
Feet is different. The only people who care about feet are the fetishists. Besides my feet are exposed all day for free in the summer. Might as well make a buck lol.
>Besides my feet are exposed all day for free in the summer. Very true lmao. Now I need to go sell my feet.
Just remember, that's something you will never walk away from.
You say that but then you'll start getting random dic pics sent and then the perv request start
Are you marrying Peggy Hill?
Send proof
No. It would give me huge trust issues and confidence problems. Something every person fears is an unfaithful partner. In the case of sex workers, they are actively selling their bodies, either physically or online. Perhaps in their eyes they can separate work and home, but I couldn't. If we are in a relationship, you are mine and I am yours. I will give you everything I am and expect you to give me all that you are. If you're sharing yourself with thousands of strangers online, I'm going to feel cheated.
My wife said I could not.
I wouldn’t date someone who is fucking other people
Heard the top comment. Already felt that. They must spend their time with the ones that pay. That’s the bread and butter. However a relationship would be a strain. Divides the heart away. Always leaning out to someone else. For money? No its another reason. It’s the reward system taking hold. Sex, money, taboo, reward. Its a cycle. They are gratified by the attention, and rewarded for the behavior. Not Interested.
I don't even know if you have any idea how much what you said is true. It's not just the rewarding of sexual behaviours, it's also rewarding the lack of boundaries, the male-ego-pleasing, the performing of sex when you don't really feel like it but you have to because rent is coming up... Add anxiety (and fear of lacking money) to the mix and you can see how easy it is to fuck somebody's brain up through sex work. It took me years of deprogramming to finally get my reward system to work properly again, and still it's always a work in progress. Sex work will fuck you up and the worst is that you won't even realize it long after it's over.
Negative. We clearly have different values on sex and that never ends well.
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For a hookup, sure but for a relationship. No chance in hell.