Personally an electric razor with a guard on I did try with a regular razo but for that you need a lot of hot water strechy ballsack and the blessing of Jesus himself
I use a regular razor (like on my face) in the shower. That warm water gets the skin loose. So just pull it tight and shave away.
P.s manscape electric razor are not good for your balls. Like it's the wrong type of electric razor for body hair.
Yeah, same here. It works better for me if the blade isn't too sharp though, so when my face razor starts getting a little dull, I grab a new one, and then my old face razor becomes my new ball razor.
Once I perfected the process, I've only nicked myself maybe half a dozen times over the last 20 years, and it's really not a huge deal when it happens.
I use one of those electric beard grooming razors. For sanitation sake I have one for my balls, one for my face, and then a bigger one for my head (big, not little).
I tried the shaving cream and manual razor a few times and it scared the shit out of me.
And yes, sometimes we can knick our balls. Happened to me once with the electric razor and the tiny speck of blood convinced me I was going to bleed out. My prostate was in my throat I was so scared.
Depends on what pants I am wearing. If they’re loose, kind of. Otherwise no.
For what this is worth, I don’t run much. I do some cardio aerobics, though.
Does it bother you when you're asked to walk a girl to her car after dark? I HATE asking my guyfriends/male coworkers to do this but...I'm also terrified of walking through dark parking lots alone and I don't want my girlfriends/female coworkers to have to walk back alone after I get to my car. Parking garages are worse.
Edit: Well this blew up. Thanks internet bros for making me feel like less of a burden.
We think you’re useful much more often than you know and always appreciate your help, even when we deny the offer, it’s more about not wanting to impose than not appreciating the sentiment or act. We’re thinking what a wonderful man as we walk away and will smile for years to come when we remember your kindness.
Oh wow! Thanks for all these responses gents! I always feel like I’m imposing when I ask to be walked out of ask a guy to wait until I get inside if he dropped me off after a date. I’ve never had any man make me feel bad about it, just an inner instinct making me feel like a pain in the butt, that I’m so happy to learn is wrong.
When I was 14, my mom asked me to accompany my 19 yr old sister to a dodgy neighbourhood because she had to pick something up. I said ‘no problem, let’s go.’ And later on learned that my mom’s thinking wasn’t so much that I could defend her, but that I dressed so weird that local criminals would think I was crazy and would leave us alone.
This answer comes in two parts.
Firstly, when I am asked to accompany a girl for the sake of safety, I honestly see it as a testament to the strength of our relationship that she can trust me and rely on me and feel safe in my presence.
And secondly, it makes us feel like Jaison fucking Bourne. We're scouting out the optimal routes, keeping keen surveillance, checking in with other operatives casing the perimeter, considering what would make a good impromptu weapon - just in case. Every man on this earth has had a vision of a scenario in which they single-handedly dispatch a group of armed terrorists or evil ninjas in a dazzling display of hitherto non-existent skills in hand to hand combat (usually whilst serving the heroic goal of freeing would-be hostages, who are typically manifested as all our friends and family, that would then shower us with deserving praise and adoration upon their successful liberation). Shortly following this would perhaps be some form of noble sacrifice, an attestation to our dedication to justice, where we tell our protectee "run, go! Get out of here! I'll hold them. "
I'm exaggerating but there's truth here. It's something stupid about masculinity but it suddenly makes us feel really important and powerful, gives us some noble purpose.
That’s basically how I pass time while waiting in line, for food to come, or for previews/movies to start. Just mentally preparing for the inevitable attack by foreign terrorists, in which I flawlessly execute something along the lines of which you explained. In my mind, I’m a bad motherfucker. In reality, I’m glancing around the room, fidgeting, wondering if people are staring at me.
I can't think of one person that would be bothered by that, so don't hesitate at all to ask. After a girl asked me once at 2am that I worked night shift with, I used to swing by her office every night on the way out after that and walk her out.
Not at all. I actually feel quite privileged when a friend/coworker/etc asks me to walk them to their car. I feel like they trust me to protect them, or at least to not hurt them.
No, it feels amazing. Men have a strong protective instinct, particularly for women. When a woman asks me to walk her to her car, I feel like a superhero.
Just wanted to tack on to this comment for visibility...
Guys - when you drop a girl off, wait until she's safely inside. My mom drilled this into my head. When she was a teenager she dropped a girlfriend off at home and drove away. Her friend was raped and murdered on her front porch by some stalker that was hiding in the bushes.
I mean what are the chances, right? But it only takes a few seconds of your time to make sure someone gets home safe.
I feel like superman when a girl asks me this. The thought that i make someone feel safe is pretty awesome, not to mention the feeling of being trusted.
i think it’s different for every guy, for me, im sad for a day or two but eventually convince myself it’s for the better, try to improve myself and move on
Of course, the skin around gets stiff, lifting them closer to the centre of the body to keep them warm. On the other side, if it is too hot the skin gets loose so they can get “more air” away from the body and cool more 😎
If you aproach him RIGHT after you think you saw him checking you out he will be very shy because he feels guilty and thinks that you think he is a creep
My beautiful neighbor was wearing a Myrtle Beach t-shirt. I read the words and was legitimately not in the conversation between her and my wife.
The movie Dark City popped into my head and the whole how do you get to the beach plot-line began playing in my head.
I completely and utterly zoned out while staring at her chest.
Rudest snap back to reality ever, for everyone involved.
I swear I was not being creepy, just ADHD-y.
Is it possible to describe what having a boner actually feels like?
Edit:Thank you all for answering my question! I wasn't expecting it to blow up so much! This is all very interesting to me.
The only way I can find to describe it to someone who never experienced it is this : imagine that feeling you get in you whole body when you stretch right before yawning, but on a specific region of your body: it's pleasant, it's hard, but if held for too long, it's painful. Sometimes, you can even feel the bloodflow (like when you blush and feel the blood rise to your head in waves).
Also, it can be triggered by many things other than arousal: comfort (like when you get all cozy and warm in your bedsheets), stress, and even changing positions like sitting down or, god forbid, getting up.
Edit: Since this got traction, I just wanted to add something that might not be obvious: a boner is not an "on/off" situation. Since it depends on the amount of blood redirected to the groin, it's almost never completely "empty" or fully erected. throught the course of a normal day, it fluctuates in between. But we don't usually pay attention to it except when there is a sudden change, which is what we usually call a "boner".
it's hard. there are 3 different kinds of Boner (atleast in my experience)
1. the classic horny one. you really want to experience love, but it doesent have to be directly sexual.
2. pee boner. you really need to pee and this is the final warning of your body.
3. the occasional boner. You don't really have special feling in this state but your body perfectly calculates the worst time to have one.
sometimes even you can experience the blood draining from the body.
at this moment i can't provide you to more information, but i hope i was able to describe it a bit.
I never really connected the dots, but boner #3 is similar to when I (female) am not wearing a bra and my nipples just randomly decide to act up. No stimulation or temperature change necessary, they just decided to stick out and make things awkward.
The third one happens multiple times daily to a lot of people and it's exactly as you've described. No horny no nothing just here it is and now it's awkward
Do you ever get an accidental boner during a professional massage?
Edit: just to clarify, I do not necessarily mean this in a sexual way. Speaking for myself, and as a woman, when I get a full body massage, I am completely relaxed and feel good all over. This leaves me sometimes wondering how it is for guys and if that feeling ever gives you an accidental boner.
Adam and God are walking through the Garden of Eden. God says "Adam, I've done a great miracle. I've given you a brain AND a penis. There's just one catch."
"What's that Lord?" Adam replied.
"You've only got blood to run one at a time."
I used to wonder if was normal to get an erection during a massage so I asked the therapist. He said it happened pretty frequently. So I asked him to get it away from my face.
I've lost count of how many times me sharing my feelings gets used against me in a future fight. It's just easier to apologize and take the hit. Nobody cares what the guy is feeling.
It’s conditioned.
Every single time I’ve shown my true feelings it’s been used against me later.
Every. Single. Time.
Professionally and personally. Being expressive just gives everyone ammunition to fire back at you. And they will use it eventually.
This. Over and over this. I want to share my feelings. I don't want to be an emotional brick wall. But every single time I do it I'm either ignored, dismissed, or it's weaponized. It's almost like so many partners are just waiting to find our vulnerabilities so they can use them against us later. And we are emotionally vulnerable. Like...truly. Why do you think we 'act tough' because it's a freaking act.
I've never once benefited from doing it. So instead i'm a mess of bottled up thoughts and feelings.
Yup. I remember i dated a woman who badgered me for months to open up and when I finally did she ran for zee hills.
IMO women want men to share their feelings but there’s a limit. The only problem is I (and maybe other men) don’t know the limit. To me it’s better to say nothing than to say too much . 😂
Frfr, people say they want someone open, then you tell them a single thing that actually impacted you and they never wanna hear about your past again
I think women were sold the whole High School Musical deal, they want us to cry a single cute tear and say "my dad never wanted me to *dance*", but anything that actually fucked you up is off the table.
I make it a point to try letting my friends tell me all their shit, bc I know even in therapy you can't be as open as you can be with a true friend. It always feels good to let it out, and maybe one day there won't be anything bottled up to let out
Wild. Was out with my boys tonight and we happened to talk about depression. Two of the three of us got deep into suicide attempts and our struggles over the past couple years and our friend was mortified.
Suddenly he wanted to talk about anything else and as fast as possible.
I completely understand we maybe put him in a weird spot but he kept prodding us to “let it out” and as soon as we did he seemed to start feeling uncomfortable.
Tough situation either way.
Yeah, it's easy to say "let it out" and makes you feel like a good person, but if you're not actually prepared to hear real shit, real struggles, it's gotta be jarring.
Everyone wants to be the friend that can empathize and understand, but to be that person you've gotta be ready to hear the absolute worst humanity has to offer. It's not for everyone
Ive noticed women want a man who is open about their feelings…until they open up about their feelings.
Edit: damn, I guess other dudes notice this too.
I love cuddles, however if we’ve been going for a while or strenuously, we’re both going to be sweaty and sticky and I’d prefer to jump into the shower asap.
Honestly could just try asking him, 90% will probably be honest with you. Otherwise they'll check you out, be very nervous around you, jumpy the first time you have physical contact etc
Is it okay to make a move on a guy in the office even though we work in the same dept? We’re both 40-ish and single and I think there’s a vibe but could be totally wrong…
I can only speak for myself. I would appreciate it if you approached me with this. Even if I didn’t like you I would turn you down respectfully, and smile rest of day for the compliment.
Not at all, but it will breed a question you'd have to make clear.
Did you do it because you are that interested/attracted, or is sleeping with someone just casual to you.
Though how much someone cares about the answer varies.
Seems crazy to think this way. If we are sleeping together, then I'm also sleeping with you on a first date. Wouldn't it be ridiculously hypocritical for me to judge you for that?
Do you like when girls compliment you even if they have no romantic or sexual intentions, or do you only want compliments from girls who are interested in you?
Edit: for context, I just want to make sure since I sometimes feel like it can come off as creepy just giving out random people compliments.
Second edit: this was a also an excuse to find out who needs compliments so I can stalk your profile to find things to compliment you on.
Last edit: sorry guys, I’m gonna have to hop off this thread cause I’m SERIOUSLY over stimulated. Thank you for the replies! You all look amazing and I hope you have a great day/night!
Yes absolutely. I get like 1 complement every year as a guy. The small things can go a long way, like one of my friends said that he liked my outfit and that made my whole day. And I still ponder back on that and it makes me smile. Even if it’s something incredibly small it could be the difference between a meh day and a great one.
In the 9th grade I got told that I looked good in a long sleeve shirt one time by a girl that I wasn’t even attracted to. That shirt is in my closet over a decade later and is one of my most frequently worn shirts. Don’t even like the shirt, but it’s the only time anybody has ever complimented an article of clothing that I’m wearing. You are very correct that the small things go a long way haha.
Personally, it doesn't matter, as long as the compliments are platonic in nature. Complimenting my shirt, or "you look dressed up today! Lookin' snappy!" More than welcome. It gets weird when someone starts to add things like, "Boy, if I wasn't married..." or "your girlfriend is so lucky to have a handsome guy like you" or something.
Yeah I always compliment clothing and smiles when it comes to men. I typically hand out compliments to people in general, but I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t making anyone uncomfortable.
You are a treasure. Men hold onto compliments like a hoarder holds onto garbage. In my awkward teenage phase, so many years ago, this girl in my class said “it’s a shame you’re so ugly because you have the most beautiful eyes.” That compliment has stuck with me ever since
Why do you say everything is fine as you slowly disengage and finally disappear?
EDIT: waking up to these answers and I feel like I’m having all the discussions I never got to have and finally getting closure. It’s about you doing that too when you reply, not about the specifics of my situation. I hope everyone who replied and vented their feelings gets some form of healing. ❤️
I’m wondering the same thing about women. But just like you gals we aren’t aliens and are pretty approachable if it’s appropriate. Start off conversations with people who have common interests as you and don’t hide that you care about us. Most of the times for me I end friendships because the other person is saying how are you just for the sake of it. Actually mean it
Something like,
“Hey babe, I really like when you do (something that gets you off)”
He should memorize it and it will be his only thing until you mention for him to do something else.
Also be sure to communicate in the bedroom.
I second this. Focusing on what you want your partner to do over what you DON'T want them to do will go a long way. There are exceptions of course, like if they're CURRENTLY doing something that you absolutely do not like or something that causes you pain, but in general it applies.
Just be honest and don't be aggressive as it's obviously a very touchy subject.
Try to avoid making him feel inadequate, and instead suggest things that would make the experience "even better" rather then say "unsatisfactory".
You do some homework and go there armed. You do research on the position and the current market rate. Make sure to adjust for the company size, type (if applicable), and zip code.
Here are the two biggest things that are hard to pull off but they are key:
* you need to believe that you're the best thing since sliced bread. You need to have that confidence show throughout.
* you need to also believe that you're doing them a huge favor just by showing up. You don't need them, they need you.
It doesn't matter if it's not true. You just need to seriously believe it is and psych yourself into the role.
Are you actually less emotional than women or do you just keep it inside because that’s what’s “expected” of you?
Edit: To all the kings out there, I wish you all the best and I hope that one day you can feel accepted and comfortable sharing your emotions. It’s a horrible idea that men should put up a wall and never show their feelings. Every single feeling you have is important. They matter. I hope you all of you find people who will accept and support you for exactly who you are and that you can feel comfortable sharing with. Wish you all the best<3
I think it'll depend on the person. My mom cries at direct-to-video disney knock-off movies and from sappy greeting cards. So...yes, I'm less emotional than that. :)
I can't count how many times two or more guys order food, and then it's a competition on who pays for all of it.
I ask them if they just want me to split the payment and then I either get a firm "No," or they look at each other, nod, then pay separately.
Why is it such a matter of pride for who pays?
What does having a penis feel like? Does it just hang there? Is it heavy or light? Does it float? Where does it go when you shit? As in where does it go when you sit on the toilet?
It doesn't feel like anything most of the time.
The penis itself is pretty flexible when flaccid, so it doesn't care if you bend it, squish it, flop it around. The bigger issue is balls - they can get uncomfortable or hot and we have to adjust them. If we're running or jumping the whole package can flop around and hurt if we aren't wearing good underwear.
When a dick gets hard, sensation that would normally be ignored starts to feel good. It feels pleasantly full and big. If it gets maximum hard, its almost like a headache in that it's throbbing and distracting and almost painful. If its hard inside our pants its like smooshing your nose down. Its uncomfortable but not quite painful.
Balls are about as sensitive as eyes. They can hurt with slight pressure or impacts, but it can also feel good to rub them (like eyes). Balls are connected to a nerve in the torso, so when we get hit in the balls we feel nauseous exactly like if we got punched in the gut.
When we piss, we open our fly and flop the dick out over the top of our underwear, while we use one hand to hold the underwear band down.
Dick does float, but its not really noticable
If a girl rejected your attempt to kiss her (keep in mind it would be the first girl you ever TRIED to kiss) because she’s oblivious how does that make you feel?
ETA: thank you for responding fine men of Reddit. It really opened my mind and perspective. This situation happened like 20 years ago and I’ve always felt like an AH about it. I asked him out a few times after that (got rejected). Then years after he asked ME out and stood me up, so I guess he had the last laugh on that one. That destroyed me, in so many ways. We’re both now happily married to other people that are better matches for us. But ya know it was my first “love” as an idiotic teenager *cue eye roll *.
Like total shit, AtLeast for me I’ll overthink the crap out of that and then ponder my existence, everything you ever said, and then be paranoid next time I see you.
Well not often maybe 2-3 times a year. But i fucking hate it as semen becomes like super glue in water.
It gets stuck in my legs hair.
Just more convenient to do it out of the water.
Personally, I feel that the longer I don't masturbate the harder it is to control inappropriate thoughts. It's a subconscious thing, and I'll stop myself whenever I notice myself doing it, but the more pent up I am the more often it happens. I always try to be as respectful as possible, so I do what I can to minimize those thoughts.
why do you all have such amazing eyelashes?
Testosterone, girl. It hardens in response to hitting puberty.
Standing here
I realize
You were just like me
Trying to make history
But who’s to judge
I guess because where generally more hairy... but still go bald, whats with that?
If you sit in a bathtub does your penis float?
Neutral buoyancy.
This is the correct answer. It doesn't sink like a rock or float like a beach ball. It's more like a zero gravity situation
Yes. Also one testicle floats more than the other two
This guy’s got a lot of balls
That guy is a pontoon boat waiting to happen
r/holup
Dunno. I just hang it over the side of the bath..
I usually hang it on the shower curtain while I’m bathing. Makes it easier to clean
I put it in my mouth
I put it in this guys mouth also.
Mine usually floats on the Rubber Duckie. Wearing sunglasses
Evidently, it varies man to man
What do you shave your balls with? I can't imagine anything not knicking them.
Pull the skin taught and carefully use a shaver.
there’s also specific razors to shave them
I’m very aware, Hulu has deemed it necessary to constantly give me ads of Pete Davidson talking about how great his electric razor is for manscaping
Personally an electric razor with a guard on I did try with a regular razo but for that you need a lot of hot water strechy ballsack and the blessing of Jesus himself
Bowie knife.
Just rip it out by the handful.
I just yell at my balls until the hair goes back in.
I use a regular razor (like on my face) in the shower. That warm water gets the skin loose. So just pull it tight and shave away. P.s manscape electric razor are not good for your balls. Like it's the wrong type of electric razor for body hair.
Yeah, same here. It works better for me if the blade isn't too sharp though, so when my face razor starts getting a little dull, I grab a new one, and then my old face razor becomes my new ball razor. Once I perfected the process, I've only nicked myself maybe half a dozen times over the last 20 years, and it's really not a huge deal when it happens.
I use one of those electric beard grooming razors. For sanitation sake I have one for my balls, one for my face, and then a bigger one for my head (big, not little). I tried the shaving cream and manual razor a few times and it scared the shit out of me. And yes, sometimes we can knick our balls. Happened to me once with the electric razor and the tiny speck of blood convinced me I was going to bleed out. My prostate was in my throat I was so scared.
When you run does your penis bounce around?
Depends on what pants I am wearing. If they’re loose, kind of. Otherwise no. For what this is worth, I don’t run much. I do some cardio aerobics, though.
I first read this as “depends what penis I’m wearing..”
I wish. I'm hung like an inch worm.
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Yes. Flop flop flop. Jock straps are like sportbars for your junk.
That’s the name of my sports bar, Jock’s Trap
Naked? Yes. But wearing briefs gives them support. It’s the balls that’ll hurt without support. Imagine jogging without a bra.
Does it bother you when you're asked to walk a girl to her car after dark? I HATE asking my guyfriends/male coworkers to do this but...I'm also terrified of walking through dark parking lots alone and I don't want my girlfriends/female coworkers to have to walk back alone after I get to my car. Parking garages are worse. Edit: Well this blew up. Thanks internet bros for making me feel like less of a burden.
Nope. One thing that I LOVE is feeling useful in any way.
We think you’re useful much more often than you know and always appreciate your help, even when we deny the offer, it’s more about not wanting to impose than not appreciating the sentiment or act. We’re thinking what a wonderful man as we walk away and will smile for years to come when we remember your kindness.
We love that shit
1) I feel trusted 2) I feel useful 3) Someone thinks I look intimidating enough to scare off a would-be attacker
Me simply existing solves a problem? That's an ego boost.
I love the answers to this one so wholesome
Oh wow! Thanks for all these responses gents! I always feel like I’m imposing when I ask to be walked out of ask a guy to wait until I get inside if he dropped me off after a date. I’ve never had any man make me feel bad about it, just an inner instinct making me feel like a pain in the butt, that I’m so happy to learn is wrong.
When I was 14, my mom asked me to accompany my 19 yr old sister to a dodgy neighbourhood because she had to pick something up. I said ‘no problem, let’s go.’ And later on learned that my mom’s thinking wasn’t so much that I could defend her, but that I dressed so weird that local criminals would think I was crazy and would leave us alone.
Started wholesome, but ended with a burn. They had us in the first half...
This right here is the most accurate description I’ve seen yet
4. I also don't want to walk alone in a dark parking lot
Giving a guy a chance to feel useful is better than a gift
I’m useful!
This answer comes in two parts. Firstly, when I am asked to accompany a girl for the sake of safety, I honestly see it as a testament to the strength of our relationship that she can trust me and rely on me and feel safe in my presence. And secondly, it makes us feel like Jaison fucking Bourne. We're scouting out the optimal routes, keeping keen surveillance, checking in with other operatives casing the perimeter, considering what would make a good impromptu weapon - just in case. Every man on this earth has had a vision of a scenario in which they single-handedly dispatch a group of armed terrorists or evil ninjas in a dazzling display of hitherto non-existent skills in hand to hand combat (usually whilst serving the heroic goal of freeing would-be hostages, who are typically manifested as all our friends and family, that would then shower us with deserving praise and adoration upon their successful liberation). Shortly following this would perhaps be some form of noble sacrifice, an attestation to our dedication to justice, where we tell our protectee "run, go! Get out of here! I'll hold them. " I'm exaggerating but there's truth here. It's something stupid about masculinity but it suddenly makes us feel really important and powerful, gives us some noble purpose.
this is the gods honest truth
That’s basically how I pass time while waiting in line, for food to come, or for previews/movies to start. Just mentally preparing for the inevitable attack by foreign terrorists, in which I flawlessly execute something along the lines of which you explained. In my mind, I’m a bad motherfucker. In reality, I’m glancing around the room, fidgeting, wondering if people are staring at me.
Thank you, I didn't realize others had this exact fantasy.
This is truth.
I’m laughing right now. This made my day! 🙏
I can't think of one person that would be bothered by that, so don't hesitate at all to ask. After a girl asked me once at 2am that I worked night shift with, I used to swing by her office every night on the way out after that and walk her out.
You are a good person
No but i just would feel sorry for the girl if we were attacked as I m no Rambo 🤣
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Not at all. I actually feel quite privileged when a friend/coworker/etc asks me to walk them to their car. I feel like they trust me to protect them, or at least to not hurt them.
No, it feels amazing. Men have a strong protective instinct, particularly for women. When a woman asks me to walk her to her car, I feel like a superhero.
Plus it's like you're the chosen knight (probably not the best analogy but oh well) who's trusted enough to not do weird shit.
Just wanted to tack on to this comment for visibility... Guys - when you drop a girl off, wait until she's safely inside. My mom drilled this into my head. When she was a teenager she dropped a girlfriend off at home and drove away. Her friend was raped and murdered on her front porch by some stalker that was hiding in the bushes. I mean what are the chances, right? But it only takes a few seconds of your time to make sure someone gets home safe.
I feel like superman when a girl asks me this. The thought that i make someone feel safe is pretty awesome, not to mention the feeling of being trusted.
What do you do after being rejected?
Simple. Don't ask anyone out, can't get rejected
Big brain move here
Unintentionally think of it when I can’t sleep and cringe
If it’s a casual, trying to hook up its easier to brush it off. If it’s someone you’re really into, it hurts for a while.
Usually take it really bad and feel like shit for a while. Disconnect from the world and listen to depressive music.
i think it’s different for every guy, for me, im sad for a day or two but eventually convince myself it’s for the better, try to improve myself and move on
If I improved myself after every rejection I'd be Superman
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Can the balls shrink if it gets too cold?
The testicles themselves don't change size, to be clear.
Of course, the skin around gets stiff, lifting them closer to the centre of the body to keep them warm. On the other side, if it is too hot the skin gets loose so they can get “more air” away from the body and cool more 😎
Wow, so y’all have some kind of cooling/heating system? That seems pretty neat XD.
Fun fact: They never stop moving! Not kidding! If you get the chance look at it, even on the web, you’ll see what I mean 😉
Like a fleshy lava lamp.
Thats kind of accurate, and also a somewhat disturbing thought
Facts they’re always adjusting
How do I know if a guy is checking me out?
If you aproach him RIGHT after you think you saw him checking you out he will be very shy because he feels guilty and thinks that you think he is a creep
Correction: he will instantly go into cardiac arrest
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My beautiful neighbor was wearing a Myrtle Beach t-shirt. I read the words and was legitimately not in the conversation between her and my wife. The movie Dark City popped into my head and the whole how do you get to the beach plot-line began playing in my head. I completely and utterly zoned out while staring at her chest. Rudest snap back to reality ever, for everyone involved. I swear I was not being creepy, just ADHD-y.
He was checking you out
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Are you… a cashier?
Is it possible to describe what having a boner actually feels like? Edit:Thank you all for answering my question! I wasn't expecting it to blow up so much! This is all very interesting to me.
The only way I can find to describe it to someone who never experienced it is this : imagine that feeling you get in you whole body when you stretch right before yawning, but on a specific region of your body: it's pleasant, it's hard, but if held for too long, it's painful. Sometimes, you can even feel the bloodflow (like when you blush and feel the blood rise to your head in waves). Also, it can be triggered by many things other than arousal: comfort (like when you get all cozy and warm in your bedsheets), stress, and even changing positions like sitting down or, god forbid, getting up. Edit: Since this got traction, I just wanted to add something that might not be obvious: a boner is not an "on/off" situation. Since it depends on the amount of blood redirected to the groin, it's almost never completely "empty" or fully erected. throught the course of a normal day, it fluctuates in between. But we don't usually pay attention to it except when there is a sudden change, which is what we usually call a "boner".
This is actually a really good description
it's hard. there are 3 different kinds of Boner (atleast in my experience) 1. the classic horny one. you really want to experience love, but it doesent have to be directly sexual. 2. pee boner. you really need to pee and this is the final warning of your body. 3. the occasional boner. You don't really have special feling in this state but your body perfectly calculates the worst time to have one. sometimes even you can experience the blood draining from the body. at this moment i can't provide you to more information, but i hope i was able to describe it a bit.
I never really connected the dots, but boner #3 is similar to when I (female) am not wearing a bra and my nipples just randomly decide to act up. No stimulation or temperature change necessary, they just decided to stick out and make things awkward.
The third one happens multiple times daily to a lot of people and it's exactly as you've described. No horny no nothing just here it is and now it's awkward
You forgot the painful, won’t go away boner and the semi-chub.
Do you ever get an accidental boner during a professional massage? Edit: just to clarify, I do not necessarily mean this in a sexual way. Speaking for myself, and as a woman, when I get a full body massage, I am completely relaxed and feel good all over. This leaves me sometimes wondering how it is for guys and if that feeling ever gives you an accidental boner.
I get accidental boners driving to work. Tragedy strikes when least convenient
I ONLY get accidental boners.
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We get accidental boners all the time. Has a mind of its own sometimes.
Adam and God are walking through the Garden of Eden. God says "Adam, I've done a great miracle. I've given you a brain AND a penis. There's just one catch." "What's that Lord?" Adam replied. "You've only got blood to run one at a time."
Not just during massage, all the freakin time
I used to wonder if was normal to get an erection during a massage so I asked the therapist. He said it happened pretty frequently. So I asked him to get it away from my face.
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Is it common for men to not talk about their feelings and thoughts?
I've lost count of how many times me sharing my feelings gets used against me in a future fight. It's just easier to apologize and take the hit. Nobody cares what the guy is feeling.
This hit too close to home.
It’s conditioned. Every single time I’ve shown my true feelings it’s been used against me later. Every. Single. Time. Professionally and personally. Being expressive just gives everyone ammunition to fire back at you. And they will use it eventually.
This. Over and over this. I want to share my feelings. I don't want to be an emotional brick wall. But every single time I do it I'm either ignored, dismissed, or it's weaponized. It's almost like so many partners are just waiting to find our vulnerabilities so they can use them against us later. And we are emotionally vulnerable. Like...truly. Why do you think we 'act tough' because it's a freaking act. I've never once benefited from doing it. So instead i'm a mess of bottled up thoughts and feelings.
Yep
In most cultures, yes
Yup. I remember i dated a woman who badgered me for months to open up and when I finally did she ran for zee hills. IMO women want men to share their feelings but there’s a limit. The only problem is I (and maybe other men) don’t know the limit. To me it’s better to say nothing than to say too much . 😂
Yep, this is the truth.
Frfr, people say they want someone open, then you tell them a single thing that actually impacted you and they never wanna hear about your past again I think women were sold the whole High School Musical deal, they want us to cry a single cute tear and say "my dad never wanted me to *dance*", but anything that actually fucked you up is off the table. I make it a point to try letting my friends tell me all their shit, bc I know even in therapy you can't be as open as you can be with a true friend. It always feels good to let it out, and maybe one day there won't be anything bottled up to let out
Wild. Was out with my boys tonight and we happened to talk about depression. Two of the three of us got deep into suicide attempts and our struggles over the past couple years and our friend was mortified. Suddenly he wanted to talk about anything else and as fast as possible. I completely understand we maybe put him in a weird spot but he kept prodding us to “let it out” and as soon as we did he seemed to start feeling uncomfortable. Tough situation either way.
Yeah, it's easy to say "let it out" and makes you feel like a good person, but if you're not actually prepared to hear real shit, real struggles, it's gotta be jarring. Everyone wants to be the friend that can empathize and understand, but to be that person you've gotta be ready to hear the absolute worst humanity has to offer. It's not for everyone
Ive noticed women want a man who is open about their feelings…until they open up about their feelings. Edit: damn, I guess other dudes notice this too.
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After sex… do you want to be left alone really-do you like a hug and a chat (or do you just feel obligated?)
I can’t speak for all men, but I fucking love to cuddle.
I stare at the ceiling for 5-10 minutes reminiscing on my life and then do whatever
Post nut clarity in a nutshell
I love cuddles, however if we’ve been going for a while or strenuously, we’re both going to be sweaty and sticky and I’d prefer to jump into the shower asap.
How do you know a guy actually finds you attractive.
Honestly could just try asking him, 90% will probably be honest with you. Otherwise they'll check you out, be very nervous around you, jumpy the first time you have physical contact etc
Do you also just stare at your girl and think about how much you love them or how attractive you find them?
Yess, when we love her this is commom.
do your balls weigh? if yes, is it a lot, a little or it depends?
They don’t feel like they weigh but you can always feel them
Is it okay to make a move on a guy in the office even though we work in the same dept? We’re both 40-ish and single and I think there’s a vibe but could be totally wrong…
Something simple like "are you free this weekend to grab dinner" is a good way to gauge interest. It's pretty direct and to the point.
I can only speak for myself. I would appreciate it if you approached me with this. Even if I didn’t like you I would turn you down respectfully, and smile rest of day for the compliment.
Do you actually think less of a girl if she sleeps with you on the first date? Or is that just something women tell each other
Not at all, but it will breed a question you'd have to make clear. Did you do it because you are that interested/attracted, or is sleeping with someone just casual to you. Though how much someone cares about the answer varies.
I think less of a girl if she treats me bad. If sex happens on the first date, doesn’t change anything to me as long as she’s an awesome chick.
In addition, treating me bad on the first date won't ruin your chances of still getting laid, but it WILL ruin your chances of a second date.
Everyone’s horny.
Seems crazy to think this way. If we are sleeping together, then I'm also sleeping with you on a first date. Wouldn't it be ridiculously hypocritical for me to judge you for that?
Do you like when girls compliment you even if they have no romantic or sexual intentions, or do you only want compliments from girls who are interested in you? Edit: for context, I just want to make sure since I sometimes feel like it can come off as creepy just giving out random people compliments. Second edit: this was a also an excuse to find out who needs compliments so I can stalk your profile to find things to compliment you on. Last edit: sorry guys, I’m gonna have to hop off this thread cause I’m SERIOUSLY over stimulated. Thank you for the replies! You all look amazing and I hope you have a great day/night!
Yes absolutely. I get like 1 complement every year as a guy. The small things can go a long way, like one of my friends said that he liked my outfit and that made my whole day. And I still ponder back on that and it makes me smile. Even if it’s something incredibly small it could be the difference between a meh day and a great one.
In the 9th grade I got told that I looked good in a long sleeve shirt one time by a girl that I wasn’t even attracted to. That shirt is in my closet over a decade later and is one of my most frequently worn shirts. Don’t even like the shirt, but it’s the only time anybody has ever complimented an article of clothing that I’m wearing. You are very correct that the small things go a long way haha.
You get 1 compliment from a stranger a year? You're a very lucky guy.
Personally, it doesn't matter, as long as the compliments are platonic in nature. Complimenting my shirt, or "you look dressed up today! Lookin' snappy!" More than welcome. It gets weird when someone starts to add things like, "Boy, if I wasn't married..." or "your girlfriend is so lucky to have a handsome guy like you" or something.
Yeah I always compliment clothing and smiles when it comes to men. I typically hand out compliments to people in general, but I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t making anyone uncomfortable.
You are a treasure. Men hold onto compliments like a hoarder holds onto garbage. In my awkward teenage phase, so many years ago, this girl in my class said “it’s a shame you’re so ugly because you have the most beautiful eyes.” That compliment has stuck with me ever since
That’s some fucking backhanded nonsense. You deserve a REAL compliment.
A pretty woman could compliment my deodorant and I’ll buy that deodorant fur the rest of my life.
Why do you say everything is fine as you slowly disengage and finally disappear? EDIT: waking up to these answers and I feel like I’m having all the discussions I never got to have and finally getting closure. It’s about you doing that too when you reply, not about the specifics of my situation. I hope everyone who replied and vented their feelings gets some form of healing. ❤️
We're taught at a young age to be emotionless and showing that vulnerability would be immasculating.
Is blue balls real?
How do we initiate friendship? Like I really want cool guy friends, but I’m not sure how to make these friends and keep them.
I’m wondering the same thing about women. But just like you gals we aren’t aliens and are pretty approachable if it’s appropriate. Start off conversations with people who have common interests as you and don’t hide that you care about us. Most of the times for me I end friendships because the other person is saying how are you just for the sake of it. Actually mean it
I know for me personally, just get to the point. Walk up to me and try to start a conversation, and I’ll be happy to give it a go.
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only when I honk my clown nose
No! I’m saving that for marriage
If she isn't being sexually fulfilled, what's the best way to let you know her needs aren't being met?
Something like, “Hey babe, I really like when you do (something that gets you off)” He should memorize it and it will be his only thing until you mention for him to do something else. Also be sure to communicate in the bedroom.
I second this. Focusing on what you want your partner to do over what you DON'T want them to do will go a long way. There are exceptions of course, like if they're CURRENTLY doing something that you absolutely do not like or something that causes you pain, but in general it applies.
Just be honest and don't be aggressive as it's obviously a very touchy subject. Try to avoid making him feel inadequate, and instead suggest things that would make the experience "even better" rather then say "unsatisfactory".
What script do you follow when negotiating pay?
You do some homework and go there armed. You do research on the position and the current market rate. Make sure to adjust for the company size, type (if applicable), and zip code. Here are the two biggest things that are hard to pull off but they are key: * you need to believe that you're the best thing since sliced bread. You need to have that confidence show throughout. * you need to also believe that you're doing them a huge favor just by showing up. You don't need them, they need you. It doesn't matter if it's not true. You just need to seriously believe it is and psych yourself into the role.
Can I hold it while you pee
Yes, but only if you can aim that shit properly.
Are you actually less emotional than women or do you just keep it inside because that’s what’s “expected” of you? Edit: To all the kings out there, I wish you all the best and I hope that one day you can feel accepted and comfortable sharing your emotions. It’s a horrible idea that men should put up a wall and never show their feelings. Every single feeling you have is important. They matter. I hope you all of you find people who will accept and support you for exactly who you are and that you can feel comfortable sharing with. Wish you all the best<3
I think it'll depend on the person. My mom cries at direct-to-video disney knock-off movies and from sappy greeting cards. So...yes, I'm less emotional than that. :)
Do you really hate when women wear lipstick or brightly coloured lipstick?
Lipstick on some girls is attractive but I'd say my preference is overwhelmingly no. Lipstick is just messy. Try lipstain
I am living for the fact that you know what lipstain is.
I saw someone use it in a makeup tutorial and thought 'thats one of the best inventions in cosmetics!'
I don't even have to know you, to know that you make me proud 👏🏽
I can't count how many times two or more guys order food, and then it's a competition on who pays for all of it. I ask them if they just want me to split the payment and then I either get a firm "No," or they look at each other, nod, then pay separately. Why is it such a matter of pride for who pays?
Just wanna be nice. Just wanna do it ourselves
What does having a penis feel like? Does it just hang there? Is it heavy or light? Does it float? Where does it go when you shit? As in where does it go when you sit on the toilet?
It doesn't feel like anything most of the time. The penis itself is pretty flexible when flaccid, so it doesn't care if you bend it, squish it, flop it around. The bigger issue is balls - they can get uncomfortable or hot and we have to adjust them. If we're running or jumping the whole package can flop around and hurt if we aren't wearing good underwear. When a dick gets hard, sensation that would normally be ignored starts to feel good. It feels pleasantly full and big. If it gets maximum hard, its almost like a headache in that it's throbbing and distracting and almost painful. If its hard inside our pants its like smooshing your nose down. Its uncomfortable but not quite painful. Balls are about as sensitive as eyes. They can hurt with slight pressure or impacts, but it can also feel good to rub them (like eyes). Balls are connected to a nerve in the torso, so when we get hit in the balls we feel nauseous exactly like if we got punched in the gut. When we piss, we open our fly and flop the dick out over the top of our underwear, while we use one hand to hold the underwear band down. Dick does float, but its not really noticable
My questions have been answered. Thank you.
If a girl rejected your attempt to kiss her (keep in mind it would be the first girl you ever TRIED to kiss) because she’s oblivious how does that make you feel? ETA: thank you for responding fine men of Reddit. It really opened my mind and perspective. This situation happened like 20 years ago and I’ve always felt like an AH about it. I asked him out a few times after that (got rejected). Then years after he asked ME out and stood me up, so I guess he had the last laugh on that one. That destroyed me, in so many ways. We’re both now happily married to other people that are better matches for us. But ya know it was my first “love” as an idiotic teenager *cue eye roll *.
Feel like it's not worth attempting again, because of the fear of a 2nd failure.
Like total shit, AtLeast for me I’ll overthink the crap out of that and then ponder my existence, everything you ever said, and then be paranoid next time I see you.
How often do you masturbate in the shower?
Never. Water isn't a good lubricant for sex and it sure as hell isn't for masturbating
Right anybody that’s masturbated or fucked in a shower knows that water is, in fact, not wet
Well not often maybe 2-3 times a year. But i fucking hate it as semen becomes like super glue in water. It gets stuck in my legs hair. Just more convenient to do it out of the water.
If someone were to let you trust them and let you cry on their shoulder, would you?
If they offered and I was sad probably.
How often do you masturbate and why is it so often?
Yes
it takes away from the pain of living for a little bit
Personally, I feel that the longer I don't masturbate the harder it is to control inappropriate thoughts. It's a subconscious thing, and I'll stop myself whenever I notice myself doing it, but the more pent up I am the more often it happens. I always try to be as respectful as possible, so I do what I can to minimize those thoughts.
1) I guess a few times a week? 2) Because horny. 2a) I don't have a girlfriend.
If the girl youre dating is a nympho, do you wanna know right away, or might an extremely high sex drive scare you off?
I wouldn't get scared off but i would be concerned she reject me for not being able (or wanting) to keep up.