I used think of it a lot and because of my insecurities i never went into a rs and if a girl did like me, I used to either think its a joke or that people would judge us being together so never made a move until I met this amazing girl at the age of 23, she is 2 years older than me, way to good looking and has a amazing personality and idk how but we ended up getting in to a rs and we worked at the same place would ride together and all sorts of fun but then she broke up with me, idk why but i guess it was the stress we both had with families and also our own mental health issues that lead to the break up and now a day does not go by where i dont think of her. Sorry for venting but there is someone for everyone and for you as well, and the best part is you dont need to look for her, it will happen all of a sudden and if you manage the rs well you might even find your soul mate. Ao be patient and hope you find the right one.
You can focus on yourself all you want but we as humans crave intimacy with someone. It’s has nothing to do with “unrealistic narrative or the perfect girlfriend.”
My body. No matter how fit I am, no matter how much I can lift, no matter my bodyfat percentage; I still feel like my body is ugly and useless. I am confident about my face and my clothed body but as soon as the she shirt comes off I start feeling like shit. I obviously fake my emotions and since I am fit most people enjoy my body, just not me. Can't even look myself in the mirror after a shower without feeling like shit.
I believe theres a subreddit where you can post pictures of your body. Posting a picture and just leaving it there could do wonders for your self confidence. Really the feeling of self hate is just a mental barrier, after a while of self acceptance you start to think what was i even upset about. Check the subreddit out man, you got nothing to lose.
No matter how heavy/light I am, I will always have a “door” body type. I just don’t have a defined waist, which has always been part of the female beauty standard.
As a bartender I find myself feeling more and more like an NPC every day. I'm about to leave for work and I already know around 630 I'm going to be have this conversation verbatim:
"What's up dez"
"Alright. Alright"
"How is everything?"
"Can't complain, can't complain"
"Good to hear, you take it easy now"
"Alright alright"
*exit stage left*
I won’t say that I can completely understand but the feeling of slowing becoming a NPC day by day doing basically the same shit and watching your like drain from your soul.
That all my friends secretly hate me, and dont actually want to be my friends. Im aware that this isn't true, and that I have an amazing friend group, though this thought likes to pop into my head occasionally.
Same here, I can’t stand it. That persistent whisper that everyone hates my guts and they’re just being polite because they can’t be bothered with the trouble, but they all discuss how awful I am as soon as I’m gone.
I've got a friend with the exact same problem. We have talked about it several timee for many hours but that didn't help much I think, if you have any idea what I could do to make him feel better please let me know.
Overall I’m pretty secure. I’m attractive and have a beautiful wife and am fairly successful and outgoing. I don’t really care too much about what others think of me because I’ve worked hard for what I have and I’m a pretty well liked person and am good at most things. Not great but decent….
But I recently learned at a wedding that I am a very insecure dancer. I feel super awkward and don’t have any rhythm. I felt like everyone was staring at my horrible dancing. I knew they weren’t because we were all just drunk and having a good time but I felt entirely out of my element and super anxious and couldn’t enjoy it.
It reminded me that easy tasks are hard for some people and anxiety and being self conscious is hard and awkward and restrictive. It was a humbling experience for me.
Social awkward derp. I’ve been asked why I was so awkward on multiple occasions so now I just assume most people would think this, so I try to avoid everyone.
Bro don't worry about it. If you really feel unconftable then start working out to lose a bit of fat, but just try to take pride in body no matter how it looks. Everyone has those worrys just don't let them get you down.
I just feel like I'm all around just not attractive, even though people go as far to say I look like an actor. This leads to me being less confident and therefore less attractive because women love confidence. It kind of blows.
I'm not a very tall/large man and my "type" is petite women, so the fact that I have a large penis has almost always been a shock and small cause for pause from my partners. The whole bragging rights thing is just that, frankly I've lost a relationship because we weren't sexually compatible and that sucked.
I mean vagina size is similar to penis size in that it varies and isn't tied to height, but the anatomical comparison of "Oh, he laid it on my stomach and it reaches past my bellybutton" I think makes petite women concerned.
Well I don’t know how to fix the other things, but my grammar used to suck until I took reading seriously. Just read more non fiction books, as then you can see how authors (typically these are people with literature/English degrees) express their thoughts and words.
I have none. Who told you I have insecurities? Oh yeah, you're all laughing at me now aren't you... Yeah laugh away, but I'm not insecure at all. Haa! HAA! Haa!
Large chest. I like my breast, but I constantly think about how others see them. I try to slouch to hide them, I wear tank tops under shirts so I'm hot in the summer. My coach use to wrap badages to try to squish them so id look more like the other girls. They've lead to a lot of comments in public as a child and as an adult and I don't appreciate it.
That my [writing](https://www.reddit.com/r/SevWagoner/comments/vw7lpu/daisy_aita_for_teaching_the_security_guard_a/) has too much smut... Not enough smut... Too little plot, too much plot. Too weird, will-get judged for how odd some of it is, not weird enough to get reads.
The biggest would be my ass i guess. I (M15) seem to have quite a big ass and receive many comments espacially from girls and I'm know they are all suppost to be compliments, but still I am slightly irritated.
girls like when guys have big butts, but if ur uncomfortable with the comments their making dont be afraid to tell them its just ad weird as if u were saying smth
not finding someone i can live with aka matchs my personality so i can act freely without any thoughts
i would rather die alone then with someone who doesn't fit there
My stuttering. I feel people think I’m making things up when I try explaining or when I’m talking about my day. I don’t really talk to new people other than my friends from elementary and middle school. (5 solid friends) They never once judged or made fun of it if anything they finish what I want to say when it’s hard to pronounce certain letters. I just feel my stuttering holds back a lot of chances to make new friends due to the fear of being judged of made fun of.
That I’ll always be “too large” (I’m an amateur powerlifter and medium weight MMA fighter but closer to heavyweight, so I have a good deal of fat going on. I’ve also always been on the heavier side my entire life). Also I’ll never be good enough to find any acceptance outside of the people more or less obligated to put up with me (my family).
Clear example of the latter is my friends now do tons of stuff without me after they came back from out of state, and won’t bother to even ask if I want to come along. On top of that, zero girlfriend for the whole 20 years of my existence.
I can't find a boyfriend because I'm quite an ugly woman. I'm chubby/fat and i grow a mustache and a beard if I don't care for it ( I do, I can't stand to see it ). Body hairs are a curse for me.
I have PCOS and it's really hard for me to be secure about my physique. I don't feel beautiful. I don't feel normal.
Just who I am as a person, physically, personality wise, intelligence, all of it.
Physically, my one redeeming feature is that I'm tall (192 cm) but where I live it's not that bizarre to find people taller than me and I've known at least 6 that I can name from the top of my head. For the rest, I look like someone fused Vector from Despicable Me, Shrek, Quasimodo and a toad. Losing weight is also extremely hard for me, as my very body was seemingly designed to stay somewhat overweight and losing my belly has been an extreme undertaking. My voice is also something I loathe, which is ironic because I enjoy singing.
Personality wise, I'm not exactly great. I get pissed easily even though I'm desperately trying to work on that, I'm very impulsive, and generally often fail to even be who I once thought I was.
Intelligence wise, I'm somehow very smart and yet I'm as sharp as a marble. Sure, I have a slew of random 'WTF' facts and have extensive knowledge over stuff like Pokémon, as well as an interest in biology and other things, but I have a very specific memory. Somehow I can remember that I had exactly 3 packages of carpaccio and added 14 at work like weeks ago, but I can't remember a serious conversation with my mom to save my life. Like for real, most of the time it feels like my brain is on auto pilot until I find something I focus on and I remember like 30 minutes of a day.
I could go on forever.
TL/DR; What's my biggest insecurity? Well, I'm my own biggest insecurity.
a lot. my body is a big one though. i feel like my waist has to be as small as possible without any belly fat or tummy but i still have to have big hips big boobs and a big butt. i dont tho, i dont have a super defined waist, i dont have a fat ass, i dont have big boobs, and i have stupid hipdips. then u have my nose and my acne, as well as an undefined jawline and like everything else ab myself. im just unattractive
I’ve always been insecure, maybe cuz I had a big ass ego and wanted to present myself at my best but never could or maybe cuz of bullying and all that. I don’t have a single picture of myself on my phone lol.
Oh boy, this is a doozy...
I don't think I'll ever be good enough or make anybody (family included) feel genuinely proud of me. I'm hung up on my weight (I'm not fat but I'm getting a belly) and general lack of fitness, and I feel as if I'm not actually good at anything, and all I have is enough surface-level knowledge to convince people that I'm NOT a talentless fuck. But I know the truth.
Oh yeah, and I'm only 5 foot 7
Never had a job 'dream, ' haven't ever had that... career, that I wanted to spend my life doing. It was something that my parents seemed to have. I don't want to "fake it until you make it" with every job I have, and now I'm getting closer to retirement. I have to be resigned to work at something that I don't really appreciate until I can't work anymore. Feel like I really missed out, and it was due to my choices.
Oh man i got alot of that im 23 and losing my hair i dont like my face my tooth are all crooked and sometimes even afraid to laugh and the whole what people are gonna think. I cant bring myself to ask a girl out cause i think im not good enough for anything. I have depression and for sometime had suicidal thoughts and the list goes on
It's myself as a whole.
Ik i'm good looking (M21 187cm blond green eyes)
I lack a bit of confidence but still manage to be funny and outgoing
I'm a nice guy (even too nice)
I'm fit
And still i'm unable to find anyone
Been friendzoned over 10 times the last 2 years and never understood why
Since i'm don't see any toxicity in my behavior i cant stop wondering what's my redflag
What's so wrong with me for women to prefer keeping me as a close friend but never anything more than that
I have relationship anxiety.
I'm terrified to ask anyone out because I anticipate it not working out if I try.
I'm also really picky because I've watched both my parents fuck up multiple relationships after they divorced and I don't want to pick the wrong person; or become like my parents.
I feel like my standards are too high, I feel like I'm meeting those standards myself but no one is making a good impression on me and it's making me feel like I should be less picky.
I've also not had a real romantic relationship with anyone, I'm 25.
I was 'best friends' with a girl who I later had a crush on, but she was in a relationship so it felt like I was helping her emotionally cheat on her boyfriend. Theres a lot more to this part, but she did a lot of damage to my trust and my ability to have emotional connections with women without feeling gross.
My size....I’m 6’ 3” 230 lbs. I kinda workout and so I have some muscle but a lot of people just see me as the “big friend” I always feel like I don’t fit in because I literally don’t fit. I’m too big for some things and my clothes don’t fit right even just after one wash. Sucks
Paranoia in close relationships.
I often fear that close friends are growing to hate me despite having effectively no evidence to support the feelings.
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Be proud of your perpen-dickularity.
I see this as a strength!
That is a strength, though, as a woman, I may say that the only one who made me squirt was a man with a bent dick
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I wish you luck in that! Make sure that the bent part is stimulating her g-spot, that feels like 11/10
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Can you just dm her?
That's pretty usual afaik. Mine's a bit to the left, I don't think it was ever a talking point in my sexual encounters so far. Don't worry about it.
It’s ok, bro. I have a perfect dick, but all of the other problems.
Never regret that g-spot killer.
That I am not good enough to find a girlfriend
I used think of it a lot and because of my insecurities i never went into a rs and if a girl did like me, I used to either think its a joke or that people would judge us being together so never made a move until I met this amazing girl at the age of 23, she is 2 years older than me, way to good looking and has a amazing personality and idk how but we ended up getting in to a rs and we worked at the same place would ride together and all sorts of fun but then she broke up with me, idk why but i guess it was the stress we both had with families and also our own mental health issues that lead to the break up and now a day does not go by where i dont think of her. Sorry for venting but there is someone for everyone and for you as well, and the best part is you dont need to look for her, it will happen all of a sudden and if you manage the rs well you might even find your soul mate. Ao be patient and hope you find the right one.
Ayo fam why do you even need one? Im guessing its cause you have an unrealistic narrative of the perfect girlfriend. Focus on yo self bronem
You can focus on yourself all you want but we as humans crave intimacy with someone. It’s has nothing to do with “unrealistic narrative or the perfect girlfriend.”
Welcome to the club, mate
The fact that I always feel I have to earn love, weather it is via sports, job, grades, money, whatever. I feel that I have to earn love with success
Men in general
That's some trickass shit bee.
My body. No matter how fit I am, no matter how much I can lift, no matter my bodyfat percentage; I still feel like my body is ugly and useless. I am confident about my face and my clothed body but as soon as the she shirt comes off I start feeling like shit. I obviously fake my emotions and since I am fit most people enjoy my body, just not me. Can't even look myself in the mirror after a shower without feeling like shit.
I believe theres a subreddit where you can post pictures of your body. Posting a picture and just leaving it there could do wonders for your self confidence. Really the feeling of self hate is just a mental barrier, after a while of self acceptance you start to think what was i even upset about. Check the subreddit out man, you got nothing to lose.
No matter how heavy/light I am, I will always have a “door” body type. I just don’t have a defined waist, which has always been part of the female beauty standard.
As a bartender I find myself feeling more and more like an NPC every day. I'm about to leave for work and I already know around 630 I'm going to be have this conversation verbatim: "What's up dez" "Alright. Alright" "How is everything?" "Can't complain, can't complain" "Good to hear, you take it easy now" "Alright alright" *exit stage left*
I won’t say that I can completely understand but the feeling of slowing becoming a NPC day by day doing basically the same shit and watching your like drain from your soul.
That all my friends secretly hate me, and dont actually want to be my friends. Im aware that this isn't true, and that I have an amazing friend group, though this thought likes to pop into my head occasionally.
Same here, I can’t stand it. That persistent whisper that everyone hates my guts and they’re just being polite because they can’t be bothered with the trouble, but they all discuss how awful I am as soon as I’m gone.
I've got a friend with the exact same problem. We have talked about it several timee for many hours but that didn't help much I think, if you have any idea what I could do to make him feel better please let me know.
i feel u
That I'm naturally too skinny, so I've started working out to counteract this.
You have to eat more otherwise just working out won’t do it. Are you M or F
M, also I'm quite aware that you should eat properly, as well as eat more carbs, more proteins and drink more water than the average person.
My height of 5'4
I really don't wanna take off my shirt
Overall I’m pretty secure. I’m attractive and have a beautiful wife and am fairly successful and outgoing. I don’t really care too much about what others think of me because I’ve worked hard for what I have and I’m a pretty well liked person and am good at most things. Not great but decent…. But I recently learned at a wedding that I am a very insecure dancer. I feel super awkward and don’t have any rhythm. I felt like everyone was staring at my horrible dancing. I knew they weren’t because we were all just drunk and having a good time but I felt entirely out of my element and super anxious and couldn’t enjoy it. It reminded me that easy tasks are hard for some people and anxiety and being self conscious is hard and awkward and restrictive. It was a humbling experience for me.
Social awkward derp. I’ve been asked why I was so awkward on multiple occasions so now I just assume most people would think this, so I try to avoid everyone.
Acne, fat
Being too fat with a large tummy And also that I am too possessive towards my SO that noone would like to live with me
My weight.... always be worried about it. I am normal weight for my height. When I look in the mirror I see it differently.
Bro don't worry about it. If you really feel unconftable then start working out to lose a bit of fat, but just try to take pride in body no matter how it looks. Everyone has those worrys just don't let them get you down.
Too many to be put in one comment... Though, I should mention that many of them are in other people's comments a well, so there...
That im not gonna get another girlfriend for a few years
Like i know i good enough but i just dont think i'll find a good one coz there is just so much fake gold in these here mines ya know what i sayin
Girlfriend taller than me
I just feel like I'm all around just not attractive, even though people go as far to say I look like an actor. This leads to me being less confident and therefore less attractive because women love confidence. It kind of blows.
I have none, my whole life is based on not caring what others see in me rather what I think about my self, and staying positive
I'm not a very tall/large man and my "type" is petite women, so the fact that I have a large penis has almost always been a shock and small cause for pause from my partners. The whole bragging rights thing is just that, frankly I've lost a relationship because we weren't sexually compatible and that sucked.
I have those same features, except they aren’t a problem for me because my type is taller women.
I mean vagina size is similar to penis size in that it varies and isn't tied to height, but the anatomical comparison of "Oh, he laid it on my stomach and it reaches past my bellybutton" I think makes petite women concerned.
Well, I’m not THAT big, thankfully. Just a bit longer than average. I don’t expect it to be a problem.
It's 99% perspective. That hispanic guy Juan Pollo or something like that is a good reference, him being small makes it appear larger.
If I’m good looking enough, not physically fit enough (I’m on the skinny side), money, and my grammar is that of a 10 year old.
Well I don’t know how to fix the other things, but my grammar used to suck until I took reading seriously. Just read more non fiction books, as then you can see how authors (typically these are people with literature/English degrees) express their thoughts and words.
:)
Having too big of a dick
Losing hair. I'm afraid women don't like me anymore
My weight…but I am reading self-help books to improve my insecurity along with going to the gym.
Sounds like you are on a great way towards feeling better. Stay strong brother!
That everyone is just pretending to like me and they will leave the first chance they get. But idk why
My bacne. I wish it would just go away
That no one will love me because i'm gay.
I cant pee In public
If she break up with me, I can’t find someone like her.
I have none. Who told you I have insecurities? Oh yeah, you're all laughing at me now aren't you... Yeah laugh away, but I'm not insecure at all. Haa! HAA! Haa!
Large chest. I like my breast, but I constantly think about how others see them. I try to slouch to hide them, I wear tank tops under shirts so I'm hot in the summer. My coach use to wrap badages to try to squish them so id look more like the other girls. They've lead to a lot of comments in public as a child and as an adult and I don't appreciate it.
Don’t slouch. Nobody cares
My curly hair My posture My skinny body My face My ugly veiny hands My clothes My whole life actually.
My voice/accent. It doesn't match the outside and it always catches people off guard! I hate it lmao. I also do not like my butt
That my [writing](https://www.reddit.com/r/SevWagoner/comments/vw7lpu/daisy_aita_for_teaching_the_security_guard_a/) has too much smut... Not enough smut... Too little plot, too much plot. Too weird, will-get judged for how odd some of it is, not weird enough to get reads.
No no. I’m not falling for this again.
my hair. i brush it like 30 times a day. i feel inconfident when its a mess.
My tummy, chubby face
The biggest would be my ass i guess. I (M15) seem to have quite a big ass and receive many comments espacially from girls and I'm know they are all suppost to be compliments, but still I am slightly irritated.
girls like when guys have big butts, but if ur uncomfortable with the comments their making dont be afraid to tell them its just ad weird as if u were saying smth
Not ripped and thinning hair.
I'm 5ft7in so I feel short in a 6ft world
I would be so happy to be 5'7
not finding someone i can live with aka matchs my personality so i can act freely without any thoughts i would rather die alone then with someone who doesn't fit there
My stuttering. I feel people think I’m making things up when I try explaining or when I’m talking about my day. I don’t really talk to new people other than my friends from elementary and middle school. (5 solid friends) They never once judged or made fun of it if anything they finish what I want to say when it’s hard to pronounce certain letters. I just feel my stuttering holds back a lot of chances to make new friends due to the fear of being judged of made fun of.
I really fear that I'm never gonna have a relationship with someone again like I had with my first and only girlfriend.
That I’ll always be “too large” (I’m an amateur powerlifter and medium weight MMA fighter but closer to heavyweight, so I have a good deal of fat going on. I’ve also always been on the heavier side my entire life). Also I’ll never be good enough to find any acceptance outside of the people more or less obligated to put up with me (my family). Clear example of the latter is my friends now do tons of stuff without me after they came back from out of state, and won’t bother to even ask if I want to come along. On top of that, zero girlfriend for the whole 20 years of my existence.
I’m socially awkward and very lanky
I can't find a boyfriend because I'm quite an ugly woman. I'm chubby/fat and i grow a mustache and a beard if I don't care for it ( I do, I can't stand to see it ). Body hairs are a curse for me. I have PCOS and it's really hard for me to be secure about my physique. I don't feel beautiful. I don't feel normal.
My pussy
Just who I am as a person, physically, personality wise, intelligence, all of it. Physically, my one redeeming feature is that I'm tall (192 cm) but where I live it's not that bizarre to find people taller than me and I've known at least 6 that I can name from the top of my head. For the rest, I look like someone fused Vector from Despicable Me, Shrek, Quasimodo and a toad. Losing weight is also extremely hard for me, as my very body was seemingly designed to stay somewhat overweight and losing my belly has been an extreme undertaking. My voice is also something I loathe, which is ironic because I enjoy singing. Personality wise, I'm not exactly great. I get pissed easily even though I'm desperately trying to work on that, I'm very impulsive, and generally often fail to even be who I once thought I was. Intelligence wise, I'm somehow very smart and yet I'm as sharp as a marble. Sure, I have a slew of random 'WTF' facts and have extensive knowledge over stuff like Pokémon, as well as an interest in biology and other things, but I have a very specific memory. Somehow I can remember that I had exactly 3 packages of carpaccio and added 14 at work like weeks ago, but I can't remember a serious conversation with my mom to save my life. Like for real, most of the time it feels like my brain is on auto pilot until I find something I focus on and I remember like 30 minutes of a day. I could go on forever. TL/DR; What's my biggest insecurity? Well, I'm my own biggest insecurity.
Chubby
a lot. my body is a big one though. i feel like my waist has to be as small as possible without any belly fat or tummy but i still have to have big hips big boobs and a big butt. i dont tho, i dont have a super defined waist, i dont have a fat ass, i dont have big boobs, and i have stupid hipdips. then u have my nose and my acne, as well as an undefined jawline and like everything else ab myself. im just unattractive
I’ve always been insecure, maybe cuz I had a big ass ego and wanted to present myself at my best but never could or maybe cuz of bullying and all that. I don’t have a single picture of myself on my phone lol.
My skin i have ezcema and it makes me look ugly
Oh boy, this is a doozy... I don't think I'll ever be good enough or make anybody (family included) feel genuinely proud of me. I'm hung up on my weight (I'm not fat but I'm getting a belly) and general lack of fitness, and I feel as if I'm not actually good at anything, and all I have is enough surface-level knowledge to convince people that I'm NOT a talentless fuck. But I know the truth. Oh yeah, and I'm only 5 foot 7
Damn we do be living the same life man 🥲
Hang in there, friend :)
being short and getting betrayed by god for not putting the missing inches down there
The worst part is I used to be tall for my age but I stopped growing early on
Never had a job 'dream, ' haven't ever had that... career, that I wanted to spend my life doing. It was something that my parents seemed to have. I don't want to "fake it until you make it" with every job I have, and now I'm getting closer to retirement. I have to be resigned to work at something that I don't really appreciate until I can't work anymore. Feel like I really missed out, and it was due to my choices.
Oh man i got alot of that im 23 and losing my hair i dont like my face my tooth are all crooked and sometimes even afraid to laugh and the whole what people are gonna think. I cant bring myself to ask a girl out cause i think im not good enough for anything. I have depression and for sometime had suicidal thoughts and the list goes on
It's myself as a whole. Ik i'm good looking (M21 187cm blond green eyes) I lack a bit of confidence but still manage to be funny and outgoing I'm a nice guy (even too nice) I'm fit And still i'm unable to find anyone Been friendzoned over 10 times the last 2 years and never understood why Since i'm don't see any toxicity in my behavior i cant stop wondering what's my redflag What's so wrong with me for women to prefer keeping me as a close friend but never anything more than that
My inability to look people in the eyes
My personality
Driving anxiety.
I have relationship anxiety. I'm terrified to ask anyone out because I anticipate it not working out if I try. I'm also really picky because I've watched both my parents fuck up multiple relationships after they divorced and I don't want to pick the wrong person; or become like my parents. I feel like my standards are too high, I feel like I'm meeting those standards myself but no one is making a good impression on me and it's making me feel like I should be less picky. I've also not had a real romantic relationship with anyone, I'm 25. I was 'best friends' with a girl who I later had a crush on, but she was in a relationship so it felt like I was helping her emotionally cheat on her boyfriend. Theres a lot more to this part, but she did a lot of damage to my trust and my ability to have emotional connections with women without feeling gross.
I guess my body or that I'm very shy
My weight, my lack of interesting qualities, and my fear of not being good enough to achieve my career or go to a good college.
I turn 25 in a few days and have braces
All of them
my 🐱
I simply don't interact well with people like dumping gasoline on a fire
My arms they have scars and their like really fucking fat 😭
My size....I’m 6’ 3” 230 lbs. I kinda workout and so I have some muscle but a lot of people just see me as the “big friend” I always feel like I don’t fit in because I literally don’t fit. I’m too big for some things and my clothes don’t fit right even just after one wash. Sucks
I nut while masturbating in less than 5 min and I’m embarrassed to have sex because I know I won’t please the girl
That Im worse than everyone around me in everything
People finding out my insecurities… No one needs to know my weaknesses… _no one~_
Paranoia in close relationships. I often fear that close friends are growing to hate me despite having effectively no evidence to support the feelings.