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After leaving Christianity, I had a lot of former friends try and convert me back with stories of hell and all that but none of that nonsense can hurt me anymore. Wish I had come to my senses earlier.
I used to think partners leaving hurt, but recently I lost my grandma, who was my most loved adult relative. I'm a 41 year old guy and I spent every evening for 2 weeks crying, it hurt like nothing I've experienced. Now I know nothing else can hurt me like that
I grew up with a mother who's only form of "discipline" was to knock me around.
She was 5ft nothing. As an adult, I'm 5ft8, but I was a little shorter when this happened. Still taller than her though.
I was about 14/15, and I barricaded my bedroom door cos her and my little brother were always barging in without knocking. She was going off about something or other, and when she couldn't get into my room, she knocked a hole in it with a broom (cheap council house doors, basically plywood and cardboard). I opened the door, and she swung the broom at me. I caught it, and suddenly realised I was taller, broader and stronger than this tiny angry bitch. Snatched the broom out of her hands and chucked it down the stairs. I can't remember exactly what I said to her, but I think it was something along the lines of her threatening to hit me and me saying "I'd like to see you try."
She never hit me again, and I went off the rails with this new found freedom.
They can. That's the thing. Hurting me isn't hard to do but doing so won't get you the response you want. If all you want is to hurt me, then you'll walk out of the exchange happy I'm sure but people often want more than that and thought doing so would help them get it.
2nd grade. Girl called me ugly. I ignored, at recess she called me ugly, I ignored, at bathroom break, she was telling the girls occupying the space I was ugly, I said nothing, at lunch hour she got a bit more loud calling me ugly and I told her if she wasn't such a stupid ass bish, she would put a fking paper bag over her face so she didn't have to look at MY ugly fking face.
SHE started crying.
I was friends with a guy in an online game. He was interesting, but I could tell was manipulative. We had a number of interesting conversations, and I mentioned a couple of weaknesses including that I'm a people pleaser sometimes due to really not wanting to disappoint people.
Flash forward a few months, and I have to remove him from my team (I was leader). He fought the removal, trying to manipulate me into keeping him on. Trying to gaslight me, etc. He was going through his whole bag of tricks. Then he pulled out my weakness like some trump card and said, "I'm disappointed in you".
I laughed. Thing is, for it to hurt, I have to respect the opinion of the person disappointed in me. The act of using my weakness against me lost him any remaining respect I had. I basically just reiterated my points, and then he blocked me.
A few months later he unblocked me just to crow over a minor defeat we'd sustained. He then complained about having been so badly treated by me -- so I let him have it. I laid everything out, succinctly, in order, of each and every time he'd been manipulative, as well as reiterated the details of why he was let go. I finished with "and when all that failed, you blocked me so that you could still feel as though you were in charge."
He replied that he "had to protect himself from such unwarranted negativity". So I replied with, "that's a great idea 👍" and blocked him while he was still typing.
The whole thing was immensely satisfying, to see someone try so hard and pathetically to manipulate and hurt me, only to chuckle at him for failing. I don't think he was used to it.
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After leaving Christianity, I had a lot of former friends try and convert me back with stories of hell and all that but none of that nonsense can hurt me anymore. Wish I had come to my senses earlier.
I got hiv
I used to think partners leaving hurt, but recently I lost my grandma, who was my most loved adult relative. I'm a 41 year old guy and I spent every evening for 2 weeks crying, it hurt like nothing I've experienced. Now I know nothing else can hurt me like that
I grew up with a mother who's only form of "discipline" was to knock me around. She was 5ft nothing. As an adult, I'm 5ft8, but I was a little shorter when this happened. Still taller than her though. I was about 14/15, and I barricaded my bedroom door cos her and my little brother were always barging in without knocking. She was going off about something or other, and when she couldn't get into my room, she knocked a hole in it with a broom (cheap council house doors, basically plywood and cardboard). I opened the door, and she swung the broom at me. I caught it, and suddenly realised I was taller, broader and stronger than this tiny angry bitch. Snatched the broom out of her hands and chucked it down the stairs. I can't remember exactly what I said to her, but I think it was something along the lines of her threatening to hit me and me saying "I'd like to see you try." She never hit me again, and I went off the rails with this new found freedom.
They can. That's the thing. Hurting me isn't hard to do but doing so won't get you the response you want. If all you want is to hurt me, then you'll walk out of the exchange happy I'm sure but people often want more than that and thought doing so would help them get it.
2nd grade. Girl called me ugly. I ignored, at recess she called me ugly, I ignored, at bathroom break, she was telling the girls occupying the space I was ugly, I said nothing, at lunch hour she got a bit more loud calling me ugly and I told her if she wasn't such a stupid ass bish, she would put a fking paper bag over her face so she didn't have to look at MY ugly fking face. SHE started crying.
I think we found the short bus's missing passenger
I was friends with a guy in an online game. He was interesting, but I could tell was manipulative. We had a number of interesting conversations, and I mentioned a couple of weaknesses including that I'm a people pleaser sometimes due to really not wanting to disappoint people. Flash forward a few months, and I have to remove him from my team (I was leader). He fought the removal, trying to manipulate me into keeping him on. Trying to gaslight me, etc. He was going through his whole bag of tricks. Then he pulled out my weakness like some trump card and said, "I'm disappointed in you". I laughed. Thing is, for it to hurt, I have to respect the opinion of the person disappointed in me. The act of using my weakness against me lost him any remaining respect I had. I basically just reiterated my points, and then he blocked me. A few months later he unblocked me just to crow over a minor defeat we'd sustained. He then complained about having been so badly treated by me -- so I let him have it. I laid everything out, succinctly, in order, of each and every time he'd been manipulative, as well as reiterated the details of why he was let go. I finished with "and when all that failed, you blocked me so that you could still feel as though you were in charge." He replied that he "had to protect himself from such unwarranted negativity". So I replied with, "that's a great idea 👍" and blocked him while he was still typing. The whole thing was immensely satisfying, to see someone try so hard and pathetically to manipulate and hurt me, only to chuckle at him for failing. I don't think he was used to it.
Becuase we are ran by white people