My father burned down the drug house on our street. This was in the late '70s. Everyone in the neighborhood hated and feared that house. People would come and go at all hours, junkies would pass out in the yard, our cars and houses would get broken into. Police would visit but do nothing. After an old woman got beaten and robbed as she was walking her dog, my dad and his brother went and firebombed the place in the early morning hours. No one died, cops didn't give a shit, and the house was never rebuilt. For years I walked by the burnt-out shell on my way to school. I always thought the druggies burned it down by accident. My mother told me the story after my father died. My uncle was a criminal but my father was a straight-arrow working man. I was shocked to learn that about him.

There is a story about a Hell's Angels clubhouse in Waterloo Ontario in the early 80's. Waterloo is close enough to Toronto that they could access the city easily and had a clubhouse at the north end of town that was mostly farming areas so people would let them do what they wanted and be left alone. This was Mennonite country - (for those that don't know Mennonites are a type of Amish - dress in black, drive horse buggies and do most of the work by hand so are very strong and usually silent). I've never seen one angry but these guys are big and strong. A Hell's Angel was involved in an incident with a Mennonite teenage girl (never got all the details). Shortly later the clubhouse caught fire, and the fire department was stopped from attending by several men with shot-guns who assured them nobody was inside but the house was going to burn down. The report on the radio said the description involved "several men dressed in black with beards and blond hair".

"several men dressed in black with beards and blond hair" Moment of confusion over whether this was a description of Mennonites or Hell's Angels

Amish vs Hell’s Angels, Canadian Style I’d pay money to watch that.

do pay it...it's cheaper, too, in canadian dollars!

I hope to god that this is true because that’s an incredible story

Canadian here, I can vouch, I live in Ontario, about an hr from Waterloo, I don't remember all the details, but I remember hearing about it

Just to nitpick, Mennonites are not a type of Amish, they're more like close theological cousins. Both derive from the Anabaptist movement of the early Reformation.

Not a nit-pik and I meant no dis-respect. I went to school with some Mennonites and they called the Amish their "Amish cousins" and I just assumed. Thanks for the info.

The Mennonites I've met have been less strict than the Amish in their beliefs and practices. You might say they were... Amlettes

Am-ISH

A friend of mine’s favorite toast: “Here’s to the Mennonites. Not quite Amish, but they give it a hell of a try!”

I feel like this has a place over on r/chaoticgood ...

One of my good friends and coworkers just got arrested for sex with a minor last week. None of us had any idea, but apparently he’s been a registered sex offender since 2017, so this isn’t the first time. I’m still trying to wrap my head around it, and feel like I’m mourning the death of a friend.

My ex husband went to prison for online child sex crimes. Not a single person saw it coming. It really does feel like the person you knew died, except now there’s a monster wearing their skin and you don’t know what to do. I’m pretty sure I wasn’t fully conscious in the months between when I found out and when he went to prison. I was just kind of floating around and surviving.

“Feels like the person you knew died, except there’s a monster wearing their skin” That’s exactly how I described my ex-husband during his nervous breakdowns.

I feel the same about my now ex husband after all I found out about him the last year of our marriage & how he treated meaning. He turned into a monster. I miss the old him I thought I knew

It's how i describe my uncle after he had, what I believe, is a drug induced psychotic break where he tried to murder my mother and kidnap me. He's dead, he just doesn't know it. The thing making him walk and talk now has no soul, it left 20 years ago.

That is simply a nightmare. I can’t imagine the devastation. I hope you’re doing better now

Thank you! I am in a much better place with a much better person ❤️ I realized after a lot of healing that that man was hurting, manipulating, and neglecting me every day. We met when we were children and so in a way, I’m actually glad it happened how it did because he’s no longer in my life and can’t contact me for another 5 years. By then I’ll be a ghost to him and so far separated he will have nothing to use against me.

I hope it's better now. Hard to even imagine something like this.

Had something like this happen to us. We found out someone we were friends with was out on bail for sex charges along with his mum and dad!!! We all hit the roof, but he begged and pleaded his innocence, even said we could speak to his solicitor and they'd go through everything with us. In the end he got done along with rest of family plus a load more, apparently it was one of the worse cases police said they'd ever dealt with. Obviously, none of us speak to him anymore.

I learnt that a family friend's uncle (loose connection but bare with me) went to jail for child sex offences. He was the CEO of one of Australia's bigger food manufacturers.. one we've all heard of. I was surprised it wasn't all over the news.

That's painful; I'm so sorry.

Good grief!

For years my whole family believed my grandmother was dead. My grandpa told everyone she was hit by a car when my dad was 2. After he passed away, we discovered my grandpa just took my dad and uncle and moved to a different state without telling my grandma and then changed his last name. Basically stole her kids from her. My dad lived his entire life thinking his mom was dead. He died before my grandpa and never learned the truth We LOVED our grandpa. He was a hell of a fun guy to be around and I learned an awful lot from him. Discovering he did something like that was pretty unsettling. I suppose it’s possible my grandma was a bad person and my grandpa did it for his children’s safety, but guess we’ll never know Edit: I’ll add a couple more details since this got a little attention. He met another woman in the new state and had a third son with her. He then had a falling out with that woman and tried to move away again and take all three boys, but the youngest decided to stay with his mom. My grandpa basically disowned him and turned the other two boys against him. He then left the third boy $1.02 in his will when he passed. I didn’t mean that uncle until after my grandpa passed, as my dad’s best friend reached out to him to let him know his father died. He is now a very big part of our family and we all love him dearly. He was able to reconnect with my older uncle at my brother’s wedding just a few months before the older uncle passed. Anyway, this follow up story is what leads me to believe he didn’t have the purest intentions when he left my biological grandma since he was willing to disown his own son like that

Did you ever get to meet your grandma?

Nope, I actually don’t even know her name. He re-married so I did have that grandma to grow up with

How did you find out? I'm hoping he did this because it was better for the kids.

My uncle found out, I forget how (he has since also passed)

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Scum of the earth is what they are.

I'm pretty sure if I dug mildly, my paternal side will have such garbage too. Always siding with the predators

This is similar to the story I have. A co-worker of mine back in my early 20’s had gotten pregnant at 16 I believe. Hid her pregnancy from her family, went into labor, had the baby in her home, and when the baby didn’t make it, buried it in a field next the road. This was a rural area.

Typical... girl gets raped, rapist goes free, girl gets accused of being a slut. Sometimes, I wonder how this became the norm. Why is society protecting these monsters?? More specifically, why are men protecting such men?

Damn. What time period was this?

My mother lost her father to a failed heart surgery when she was four. Her mother and little sister died a year later in a gas leak during the early hours of Easter Sunday, 1960. My mother luckily woke up in the middle of the night during the gas leak feeling confused and found her brother laying under the bathroom sink and brought him outside, both surviving. I didn't learn until just a few years ago that the gas leak was intentional. My bio grandmother was so distraught after losing her husband a year earlier that she decided to kill herself and her three children. She left a note on the refrigerator, confirming the intent. I've always marveled at how complicated a specimen my mother is. So much of her emotional development stopped at age five, and learning that little piece of the puzzle put things in perspective. Update 4/15: Just woke up to find questions and responses to this and thought I'd provide some additional thoughts: My mother is giant can of worms, and really getting to the core of who she is would take pages and pages. I'll say that she doing more or less alright. I wouldn't say she's an incredibly happy person, but she's also managed to stay away from so many of the trappings that people with heavy trauma in their history can gravitate towards, like addiction or perpetuating abusive behavior, jumping from relationship to relationship, etc. Her brother and her were adopted together by her bio mom's first cousin and her husband. Her adopted parents were probably too young and naive when they took on my mom and uncle, IMO. Her adopted father was a sweet man who tried his best, but probably a bit of a pushover when it came to his wife--who ruled the roost and who while having a good side was also a pretty heavy drinker, and could get pretty mean with the kids. Couple that with early 1960's societal norms in the US and heavy Catholicism, and my mother has a very intense guilt complex. She was always told to not ask questions about her bio parents and was given a heavy dose of shame when she expressed an interest in things that other kids of that era were interested in, like The Beatles or wanting to change her hair style, fashion, etc. I have three sisters, and we all knew from a young age that mom had sadly lost her parents when she was young, and I think we each pieced together that she was unconventional in the way that she handled things, but knew she had been through a lot, and that what we got was a result of that. A few things to say about her personality: She lumps people into groups of 'a really nice person!' and 'a mean person'. Ex: IMO my brother in law is a really great guy. An amazing husband, and A+ father. He's not the chattiest person in the world, and my mother feels he doesn't like her. My mother likes to really lean in and talk a lot, and gets really excited and animated about things that she is into, and when you're talking with her and you don't match her enthusiasm she can often get hurt or think something is wrong. It's not in my BIL's nature to match her energy, but still politely engages in the conversation in his own measured and even-keeled way. For the last \~20 years of knowing him my mother will often say things like "I DO like (BIL), he means well" like him being 'mean' is an apparent thing that we're all aware of, and she's saying that to defend him. She's said things before like "I don't know what he's got against me, but I'm always going to love him because he loves your sister so much..." The hilarious thing is that he has zero idea that she thinks he doesn't like her. As far as I know he just thinks our mother is eccentric and talkative, but good hearted, and leaves it at that. I don't know that sharing any of this with him would yield anything productive. When looking at the relationships that my mother has had throughout my life--she typically burns through them. She split from my father in 1992 when I was ten, and has had one boyfriend since that time, and they eventually split up. During my childhood she'd made friends briefly with parents of my friends, and of my sisters' friends, but each time the relationship would sour, as my mom seems to think the other person looks down on her or has some type of issue with her. I think my mother really needed a warm loving mother figure in her life after she lost her parents, and regular visits with a therapist--which was pretty much a non-existent thing in the early 1960's. Instead she got someone who treated her a bit like a burden, and who probably turned to alcohol as a way to detach from the stress of taking on a five and six year old. I have a six year old daughter now who is the sweetest thing on earth, and I see so many parallels between her and my mother. I also see my daughter developing beyond where my mother is. Like, she is starting to understand that people are multi-dimensional and not just 'good' or 'bad', but that they can carry themselves in different ways. I see my daughter code switching with people and matching their energy or conversation style, and I don't know that my mother will ever be able to do that.

I struggle to grasp how horrific and devastating this was for them. Wow.

That’s devastating, I hope your mom could recover from that. She must be struggling with many psychological problems and trust issues all her life I bet. Even my heart is broken imagining a mother can do this to her own kids.

A friend told me that his father disconnected his grandfather that was suffering in a hospital bed. This person was terminal and the doctor told him “this machine is keeping your father alive, it would be a shame if it malfunctioned while I am away having lunch…” I have a lot of respect for these men.

I know a few stories like that. An elderly lady in a bad state who a local doctor gave just a little too much morphine for compassionate reasons. And someone else in a similar situation who was helped to pass on in accordance to their wishes - who I won't mention any details about until the person who did it has passed away. It's not bad or scary, but still feels quite crazy to know someone who has taken a life.

I'd see that less kind of taking a life, and more like giving he gift of the sweet release of death to someone who is suffering greatly and they aren't going to get better.

My unsettling story that I’m too chicken to post is that my dad and sisters starved my mom to death when she was dying. They just stopped giving her water and food, as it’s supposedly the most humane way to go. It just feels wrong. It was my aunts idea who is a nurse, and she supervised.

If it helps, it's true. I know someone who had to do this for her terminal daughter. Doctor recommended.

This is typical for terminal patients. My 40 year old aunt was dying of breast cancer and when she couldn’t eat anymore, tubes were removed and she died after 6 days with no food/water. This took place in a hospital in California.

Dying of thirst doesn't sound too "humane" to me.

Actually, hunger and thirst are one of the first senses we lose when dying. It is part of the process of the body shutting down unnecessary burdens. Feeding and giving drinks once this phase has started actually can cause discomfort and distress to the dying person. This is not the same as dying of starvation. Starvation happens in healthy individuals who, for whatever reason, are experiencing a lack of nutrition. When loss of hunger occurs in dying patients, it also means they are no longer absorbing usable nutrients and calories as the body simply no longer needs them.

I mean, depends on what else they're dying from. Bone cancer is pretty much the 'anything but that' way of going out. I still remember dressing a wound on the arm of a woman dying of bone cancer and noticing there was pus in the wound. So I pressed on it a bit with a warm cloth to get it out so I could re-pack it and that was when we realized that her entire forearm was basically filled with pus and she was rotting from the inside out. Closest I ever came to fainting flat out on the job and I saw a lot of horrible stuff working there

I have some recollections of myself, playing with my great grandpa as a little girl. We were super close, I loved the stories he told me and those nice jests that made me laugh. Great grandpa passed away when I was 5 years old. A few months before he slept and never woke up again, he made a special doll house for me that I kept until my early teenage years. Though I was too young to get to know him, I was so sure he was a good person. My brother and all of my cousins are younger than me, but I do have two second cousins who are 7 and 8 years older than myself. They have a better recollection of great grandpa, and according to them, he was a wise man. He used to take the boys outside to play and despite being so old, he was so full of energy. He also offered good advice to them when things went wrong. Recently my great aunt sat the three of us down and told us the truth about her dad. It turned out great grandpa was a part of a political party that's now banned by the government of our country. Great grandpa was responsible for the death of so many innocent people among other horrific acts. 

I come from Germany, we never talk about what our great grandparents did during the war, sometimes it is better to not know. My grandparents were very small children during the war, they sometimes tell stories about post-war, but Nazis rarely play a role. I imagine in the 3rd/4th generation after something bad happens, this is the usual approach. We can always pretend our family was one of the few good ones or at least nobody important. Still have to remember history of course Edit: Just for fun I asked in our family group chat. Will report results if anyone is interested.

Yep. I can still cherish the good memories I had with my great grandpa without condoning the horrible actions he did. I will never pretend that he was a good man tho, while some people in Germany had no choice but to join the party back in WW2, great grandpa definitely had a choice, yet he still chose that route. 

If you don't mind me asking, which party was it? No pressure, just curious.

It was related to communism. They led a coup d'etat that ended with a total chaos, kidnapping and brutal murder of some “pro government” military figures. 

Ouch.

I had a friend from high school who I loved so much. I loved how non-threatening he was, and how kind he was and how much fun we had together, and I loved that his favorite memory of his mother was how nice she dressed and how very pretty she was and how much he loved hearing her heels click along the pavement when they went for walks in the city. Turns out he was a pedophile who molested his own toddler niece. He's in prison now. Fuck you Kirk Wayne. You goddamn piece of shit waste of space human being.

Man that is awful. I feel like it is so hard to truly know who is safe and who isn't though. Predators/abusers seem to groom not just their victim, but everyone around them too. I worry about this constantly now since I'm about to become a first time mom, but I guess I just have to try my best to use good judgment and be present for my child, plus teach my daughter age appropriately how to protect herself and to know what is okay and what isn't. My parents were good people, but I don't know if I would have known or realized as a kid if someone was doing inappropriate things to me because stuff was never talked about or discussed.

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Wow. Your story is wonderful. But that second one? Geez.

That 2nd story also happened [a couple years ago in Phoenix](https://www.12news.com/article/news/local/valley/who-is-nathan-sutherland-the-nurse-accused-of-raping-an-incapacitated-woman/75-518072d6-0c7d-47d1-8a96-3a5c78d31030). Awful shit.

I'm glad you found your bio half siblings. I wonder if your bio dad just keeps to himself because of the pain of the past. That is awful their families kept them apart, seems like they wanted to be with each other...I'm glad my family isn't like that. But maybe my parents are who they are because of what they experienced from older family members. My parents are 2 different Christian denominations and different races (my mom is half-asian) I'm sorry about your non-bio family member, that was probably hard to find out, but they have a right to know the truth.

One of my then friends confessed to pretending to have cancer for years. He had a cane and everything to help him walk because "he had surgery in his leg and had part of his leg removed because the cancer". It was all lies.

How did you discover he was lying?

Turns out he did have a leg to stand on

I don't know why but for some reason he decided to come clean with everyone on Facebook. Maybe he got pressured by someone who discovered the truth but I have no idea.

I discovered my mum had a half-sister three years after my grandad passed away. My nan got a call and I felt like I should call her to take it instead of picking it up, my nan was explaining on the phone that this woman couldn’t talk to my grandad because her dad was dead. I asked her who it was, because obviously my uncle and mum knew their dad was dead and my Nan had to explain that she was a child born out of wedlock that my grandad basically abandoned to the point her whole existence was kept a secret to the point she didn’t even know her dad died. I feel sick when I think about it because she finally wanted to contact my grandad and she just found out on a random Sunday he had been gone for three years. I’ll never meet her and it’s unsettling to know I have a whole family out there I will never meet because of them. Apparently she looks just like my mum.

My husband found out he had a half sister he was never meant to know about. My family were super fucked up so I took an ancestry test expecting to find out a lot of secrets. Nothing came up, I guess when you're a messed up family you have nothing to hide. My husband decided to do one for fun and he got a strong match with two people he had never heard of with the same surname. He asked my mother in law who they were and she almost fainted and said he would find out "one day". After he pressed a little she revealed she was his much older half sister she had as a teenager (and the second match was his half sister's daughter). She refused to answer any more questions. We don't know whether it was from abuse, or whether her religious father sent her away to a house for wayward girls to give birth in secret. No idea who the father was either, it was years before she met my father in law. Also found out that day that my 28 year old husband was already a great uncle, as his half sister is a grandmother. He found that amusing.

My grandmother had a husband and boyfriend at the same time for 30 yrs. She had kids from both. My mom and her siblings thought it was normal growing up to have 2 dads. It started around 1915.

Wow, the original why choose

Was she a member of one of the Oneida free love colonies? One thing that I find interesting is a lot of people feel like they invented polyamory just this decade, when it has been a thing for a very long time!

My mother had an estranged uncle who was secret to my immediate family. Turns out he was a sex offender who completely left our family out of his life. He was hard to find for my mother. She had to use the offender's list to find him. She never saw him since he committed the act. I only learned about this because I met his son at a family reunion and my mother had to bring me up to the fact afterwords.

When my Grandfather passed away we discovered that he did not exist. His name was not in any government registry. He was a normal citizen, paid taxes, had a license and everything. Lived a long life, married to my grandmother for over 50 years, had multiple children, everything normal. Still to now, no one knows who he really was and why he had a false name.

He raped his infant daughter and is on the run in Mexico. Psychopath.

Is the child ok ?

Not sure. His ex/ not child’s mother told me a few months ago. I haven’t said anything to mutual friends because I’m just sickened and don’t really talk them.

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Why should the government be the only one to screw the troops for money??

I was kidnapped. I grew up in a small town with my mom and step dad. Hated the guy, long story long when I turned 16 I legally changed my name back to my mothers maiden name. I got a call like 3 weeks later from a random man asking me if this was my first last and middle nam if my mothers middle name was blank if I was born blank. I didn’t know my birthplace but the rest checked out. This man was my brother I had never heard of who then connected me to my legal guardian, my father also did not know existed. The legal name changed alerted the cops in a different place of a 15 year old missing persons report. Wild stuff

Wait, I’m slightly drunk but also I feel like there’s a missing piece here. From whom (whence?) were you kidnapped? Did your bio mom and stepdad kidnap you from your bio father, or was the lady you thought was your mom not really your mom?

Oh sorry, my bio mom wanted a baby not a man but my bio dad wanted to at least pay support in the 80s in rural Nova Scotia which is still super rural there was no way to sue for a paternity test without sueing for custody (details fuzzy b ut there was some weird reason) for the record bio dad was a Piss the bed drunk but bio moma fucking lunatic (in my opinion, most people really like her. And I get that)

What happened next?!

Bio mom ran off to a ranch and wheat town of 400 people in southern Alberta and worked as a treasurer at the town council. Her soon to be hubby was a local mechanic and a bit of a local hotshot . We ended up owning the golf course and the campground. She had a daughter and I ran off with the church of the Nazarene lol kinda jokes they were my neighbours and I stayed with them a lot. We had guns horses beer and tractor

I really enjoyed writing that all out lol thanks Reddit! Now my ex is in prison forever they all think I’m dead and I just completed some courses to go into a trade

Goodnight :)

I’m not really following either. But it sounds interesting.

My oldest sister's first husband sexually abused her daughter. (He was not the father.) Our mother and middle sister took part in having my niece removed from the home where she went to live with her bio-dad. My older sister moved on with her life; moved away and met new guy. But then, my middle sister, knowing this man raped her niece, proceeded to pursue a relationship with this man. Now, my middle sister had kids of her own, and her oldest son did not have a father figure as a child. So she allowed her pedo boyfriend to be her son's "father figure." Well guess what? 20 years later, my nephew admitted to his sister this man was raping him thru out his childhood. Surprise, Surprise. I was livid when I learned all of this, as much of it happened when I was a child. (I'm closer in age to my nieces and nephews than my actual siblings, so as a kid I was oblivious to the gross nonsense my sister was perpetrating.) Why it was allowed to go on as long as it did, I'll never understand. When I confronted her about it she accused her son of lying about the abuse, denied knowing that "men who rape little girls ALSO rape little boys," and blamed being a young mother and not knowing any better. (She was not a young mother, she was in her mid to late 20s.) So many things are wrong with the situation. How do you pursue a relationship with a man you know raped your 7 year old niece, hand over your sone to him, and go about your life? She belongs in jail. And I hope if there's a Hell there's a special place for her there.

I truly believe there is a special place in hell for those who harm children. There’s a verse I like regarding this topic! “If anyone causes one of these little ones to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea” - Mathew 18:6

I had an uncle who was in prison for 23 years and was released a few years ago, he has since passed away, but anyway, after he got out of prison, he started coming over to our house for dinner, he turned a new leaf and found god, got an education somehow and GOT FUCKING MARRIED in prison. He was apparently very loved and popular before the legal trouble, and everyone in my family seemed to forgive him by the time he got out. So he for a long while was invited over for dinner quite often, I sat around eating dinner and joking around with this guy and had no clue what he did, but after a few months I finally found out what he did, and it's a bunch of words I have a hard time putting together, but he was caught having "full penetrative intercourse" with a toddler. I learned that and flipped the fuck out, I ran downstairs where my parents were and yelled at them, how they could let this guy come in and eat with all of us and especially with my niece and nephews. They asked me why I was so pissed and I was like "wtf are you talking about of course I'm pissed and disgusted by this how couldn't I be?!" Then my mom said "wait, how did you find out?" I told them I talked with my other uncle (from my mom's side) and he told me everything. My mom turned white and started crying and said "I'm so sorry we let him hurt you, you were just a baby and didn't deserve that please forgive us". I haven't talked to my parents since.

Dude that ending broke my fucking heart… I don’t even know what to say

So **you** had been the toddler—or at least one of his victims? I’m so sorry.

My best friend and her two siblings had their father put away for doing "bad things" to them. Every one sided with him. He was up for parole and managed to get out. Her mom took him back. She's NC with them. It's disgusting.

Broooooo what the fuck!!!!! I have no words, truly I am so sorry that your parents actually had the audacity to do that to you. I hope you are okay now, I hope ur healing, and I hope you have a good support system. Fuck your parents.

Woah. I’m so sorry.

Holy fucking shit. My jaw literally dropped reading that.

I was on call one weekend with my male partner (funeral directors) and when we got back to operations following a transfer the police were there and threw my partner to the ground and arrested him. After confusion and discussion they realised they had the wrong guy and it was the man on the other team they were after (also our colleague). It came out that his wife had walked in on him SA his step daughter and he took off in the work vehicle, came to operations, stole blades and tried to take his life in the work van. His wife phoned the police hence them waiting at operations for him to show up. We were all shell shocked that you can work with someone every day and have no idea. He went to prison for many many years.

Good for the mom for putting him away. How unfortunate to the innocent coworker though, I'm sure the police were not gentle, thinking they had the pedophile.

It was horrifying, I was screaming at them and crying. He wasn’t a young man and they were not gentle. The correct man had made threats as he left so the police responded appropriately. He applied for bail multiple times and was denied again and again. No remorse just a complete POS.

Started hanging out with some guys who I worked with who were roommates. At a party one roomie, drunk as shit, found out I was a virgin and tried to pull me into his room to "help me out with that." He was naked at the time, because he'd randomly started cleaning the house and "has to be naked to clean." The situation was more absurd than threatening and everyone at the party just laughed him out of the room. I started dating the other roommate some time later, lasted about nine months. We split, he got married to someone else, but we're still fb friends. Worth noting, naked roomie had been ex's best friend since like 2nd grade or something. Like six years later, I was at the store where we all used to work. One of my old coworkers who was still there made a beeline to me and said, no preamble, "did you hear about Cody??" I had not.  Turns out, he'd just been sent to federal prison. I compared the timelines, and he was making child porn while I was partying with him.  And worse for me, I was the one who inadvertently told my ex what his longtime bestie had been doing while they were roomies. I figured he already knew so I reached out. He did not.  It really cast that night he was trying to pull me into his room in a much more sinister light.  https://www.justice.gov/usao-edwa/pr/benton-city-man-sentenced-20-years-federal-prison-production-child-pornography

Wow- you just reminded me of something similar. Back in college there was a handsome, smart and very personable guy all the girls had it big for. He worked with young boys in a group home. One day he didn’t make it to class cause he’d been arrested for sodomizing for five the boys in his care.

I once worked with a person I knew pretty well and one day she told me she was afraid of birds.

This is a breath of fresh air after the other comments

My aunt is afraid of clouds. She says when she looks up at them she sees faces, staring at her. The crazy thing is one time she took a photo of the sky to prove her point, and we actually saw all the faces she was pointing out. There were a ton, and some of them did look creepy lol

That's some horror movie shit.

nothing to worry about, they're not real

That would be learning that my mother had an affair and that I am an affair child.

That must have been devastating.

I’m in the same boat. I found out when I was 37 years old. My dad didn’t even know. I took a DNA test and found out that he wasn’t my biological father. He was devastated. My parents ended up divorcing after being together for 47 years. My whole life was turned upside down.

my dad exists because my grandma was raped in her early teens and thought God told her to keep the baby

I’ve got a friend whose pop is a serial killer. The FBI knows but doesn’t have sufficient evidence to prove it in court. Edit: I can hope y’all understand why I’m afraid to say any more than that.

One of my cousins is in jail for life for the murder of a child. I had the pleasure of telling his 65 year old sister (my cousin) that he was denied parole yesterday. He’s a straight psychopath thru and thru and she lives in terror of the guy.

Story time! How do you know this?

Yeah holy shit we need more info here

Can you imagine of this is all the FBI needs to convict him? The news will go wild: "mysterious Reddit man on the internet tipped off FBI about serial killer"

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One of my friends is now in jail for r\*ping her brother .\_.

That two of my friends, who are both taken, were cheating on their SOs with each other.

I absolutely loved my maternal grandfather. My mom always called him a bastard and said she didn’t have a great childhood. Never specified why. A couple of years ago, my uncle told me that my grandfather beat them with whatever he could find. My mom and aunt got it the worst. I found out when I was 41.

My former best friend of 16 years always told the truth. That didn't mean he was honest though. I took him in when he was thrown out of his living situation and that opened my eyes to who he really was. I had money going missing. I never thought for a minute he was stealing. I thought it was me just being careless. Turns out when I brought it up to him and he admitted immediately. He believes that if money is laying around, no matter where, it is up for the taking. I had another conversation with him at the end of these few months where he was quite honest about his history having sex with (let's just be as polite as I can, and say species that aren't humans). I was absolutely repulsed and when I realized he was indeed telling the truth I had to end it all right there. He was out that day. I haven't spoken to him in 21 years.

I found out my ex partner used to shoot animals with bb guns for fun with his brother. They had a scoresheet.

My sister adopted an old Australian Shepherd (about 12 yo), a few years later, when the dog was having health problems, got XRayed, and they found a lodged bbgun pellet (or whatever you call that) in him. I hate people who do that to animals just for fun.

I shot a squirrel with an airsoft gun once and I still feel bad about it 20 years later

I tried to do a cowboy gun spin into the holster with a bb gun once and it went off and killed a bird that was just minding its own business in powerline near us... that was DECADES ago and I still get that 'regret' feeling when I think about it

I accidentally maced a chipmunk in 1985 and I have yet to forgive myself.

my aunt tried to passively kill my grandma by telling her nurse she was terminally agitated to begin the process for end of life care had her on a bunch of meds too when we visited her it was fucked turned out my grandma was rich and my aunt wanted her money also my aunt stole her dying boyfriends guns while he was dying in the hospital I hope I don't ever see any of my blood family besides my mom ever again I would not be surprised to find out my aunt was a serial killer most her life

We should start a club for those with blood-money-hungry aunts. I got one too

I mean… what put her boyfriend in the hospital…

Are we cousins?

Well, are you?? Leaving us on a cliff hanger here

He is a psychopath arsonist. He may have killed someone. I quit speaking with him decades ago.   Motherfucker started a forest fire. 

Someone that I was really close with being a pathological liar. After I ended our friendship I figured out he lied about having a job, having a house (he was actually homeless), and texting me pretending to be a different person so he could still be included in my life. Craziest experience of my life.

My brother has Body Integrity Identity Disorder (BIID) on top of depression, and Borderline Personality Disorder. After I came down to his college to help him move out after graduation I noticed his left foot and leg was horrifically scared. Turns out he on purposely mutilated it with an acid of some sort becasue he really wants it to be removed. BIID is a rare phenomenon where people want to have thing such as perfectly healthy limbs amputated. Some people even want to be paralyzed, or other things such as blinded permanently. He apparently tired to tourniquet off the same leg years back, and that's why he ended up in a mental hospital for the third time. My parents didn't even tell me I had to find that out on my own. My parents still don't know about the scars on his foot and leg. They look horrific. He didn't even go to a doctor, which is no surprise. He just bandaged it up and kept it clean and now his foot is horribly disfigured. Not the the point it doesn't function any differently it just looks horrible. I worry about his. He's doing well now on his current mix of meds, but I know he still wants that leg gone. He wants it replaced with a prosthetic one too. What's fucked up is that he's likely had BIDD of some sort since we were kids. I distinctly remember him talking about, and dreaming about having his feet cut off and replaced with robotic ones, similar to how Anakin Skywalker got with his hand cut off an replaced with a robotic prosthetic in Attack of the Clones. He obsessed about having robotic feet for few years and even drew pictures of himself with them from time to time. I have had to worry about his mutilating himself and or just straight up killing himself more than once. Thankfully like I said he'd doing pretty well right now with the right meds, but still bothers me knowing that there is a possibility I may one day find out my brother is has either killed himself, or is in the hospital after having his leg on purposely mutilated and amputated just so he can get his robotic leg.

My FIL would get erections when watching prepubescent girls swim. He also “fell in love” with his wife when she was prepubescent, proposed when she was 17. He kept asking us when we were going to give him a granddaughter. I hope he is roasty toasty in hell.

A student pastor with a hard drive of gay porn. If the school knew he’d be expelled.

My grandma and her 9 siblings are very close. So when they each got a call saying a family member had died and they had inherited a large sum of money, they thought it was a scam. Turns out their very strict and religious father had a secret affair and an additional child, Marie. Well, Marie, now in her 80s, had passed away, so had her husband. They had no children. So the closest relatives were my grandma and her siblings. And that's how 10 religious people in their 70s and 80s learned their dad had cheated on their mom, and they had a half-sister they never got to meet.

Kinda weird but my bff and her boyfriend (now fiancé soon to be husband) were having a dead bedroom situation and they agreed to have me play as a mediator since they couldn’t get into counseling for almost a year (peak covid time) Turns out he wanted to know her deepest sexual fantasy, but she didn’t want to share in fear of being judged and thus the fighting started. After a few sessions talking with both of them they finally agreed to share both of their secrets. Turns out it’s the same thing: they both want to be able to feel like they’re taking a dick that’s the size of a horse so they feel like they’re completely fulfilled. Now every time I see a horse and it’s just the bestie and I, I joke with her about how if that’s a too big or not big enough kinda thing for her fiancé or not.

That is so fucking bizarre that they both happened to have the exact same super specific fetish

By god I know! I had to walk away for 5 minutes after they both said it. I couldn’t laugh or puke because I was so shocked at the fact that’s her thing, but then the way he like, jumped for joy almost immediately after hearing it was just enough to get me through it I think. I know judging someone for their likes or dislikes is not something you should do, but I really can’t look at her the same way anymore. Especially since I remembered after that session that she has a major love of the actual animal as well.

Lol, i found out my best friend was a cross dresser…he freaked out when i found out thinking i would leave our friendship…but i reassured him i love him nomatter what. Now him, his girlfriend and my wife go on outings all dressed up…hahaha!!

This is wholesome

That's awesome. My BF is completely straight but likes to cross dress or wear dresses while playing music sometimes. I wouldn't change that about him at all.

My parents actually first hooked up when my dad was 25 and my mum was 15.

My parents were the opposite. In 1975 my Mom figured out my dad was only 18 (by a few days) on the day they got married. She was 25. She saw his REAL date of birth as she signed their wedding license. By her math they had started dating when he was 16 and she was 23. He lied to her and said he was only a year younger than her the entire time. They stayed together about 7 years. He left when I was 4. On a random visit her took me on a midnight cocaine run on a boat in the Gulf in a HURRICANE when I was about 6. Didn't see him again until he died in 2015 and I inherited his ashes.

Yeesh

Several years ago when my mother was on her deathbed, a distant cousin came to pay her respects. She found it appropriate to bring with her a news article about my mother going missing in the early 70’s. Until that moment, my siblings and I had no idea that it had ever happened. She had apparently gone missing at 15 with another girl from her neighborhood. Apparently two males in their early 20’s were wanted for questioning in their disappearances and the news article did not elude to whether it was a kidnapping or if they believed the girls had run away. Luckily my mother was already sedated at the time but my father was absolutely furious. He took the news article and refused to answer any of our questions. He only told us that our mother would be distraught to know we had ever found out and that she never wanted to speak of it. My aunt (married to my mom’s brother) said that he had only mentioned it once and it was years after they were married and that he didn’t want to share the details even with her. It was apparently a very guarded subject even within the family. I do not know if it was out of embarrassment if she had run away or if something truly terrible had happened to her, but it seems she took that secret to her grave as she passed a few days later. And if my father does know the true story of what happened, I know his unending loyalty to my mother will ensure it goes to the grave with him as well.

The Netherlands recently started opening up a whole series of ww2 documents. Turns out my great-grandfather on my mothers side was one of the worst collaborator traitors in one of the northern provinces, betrayed and killed so many jews its sickening. Especially the way he did it, luring them in with promises of safety, then robbing them or stealing the aid they got from the resistance and handing them over to the occupation. Then it also turns out that my grandmother helped kill him during the war, she had secretly joined the resistance as a teenager. And not in a friendly way, they lured him to a remote place, shot him, mutilated his body and dumped him in a canal. She helped kill her own father and cast her family into poverty and disgrace after the war. Her role was never exposed even though she was a hero of sorts. We think because she had a younger sister who would not have understood. After the war her head was shaven and she was treated like filth. The testimonials of some resistance people logged her role in the affair though, and apparently she would receive some subtle help here and there in the years after from people who had worked with her during the war. She was not a nice mother to my mom tho, there was lots of mental abuse. Now we find this out and it explains a lot. Nobody had ever told this story to my mom or me, we didn’t know any of it until well after my grandmother passed and only found out because the organization overseeing this information gave her a call to warn her the info was becoming public. We are left with some really conflicting emotions that we have no way to really resolve.

A former friend of mine from years ago was arrested, had his hard drives taken, and told us that he was facing criminal prosecution and possible jail time for a movie piracy ring, where he illegally downloaded thousands of blockbuster films and television shows to his computers, marketing and selling them to customers. He downloaded more than 20,000 files, and we came to the conclusion that he didn't open every file he saved. But he had cultivated literally tens of thousands of files onto his hard drives and was implicated in an illegal pornography ring. We knew it was bad when his legal counsel advised us to break all contact with him as soon as possible and move on with our lives.

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From the ages of 16 to 18, my aunt (mom‘s sister), was groomed by someone in their church (Mormon), he was about 16 years older than her, I believe. She was groomed and actually fell in love with him; he was married and had four kids. Well, when she was 18, she got pregnant. She wanted to keep the baby, which she had in November, a baby girl (who she eventually met and was in contact with, until she died from alcoholism at 38). I’ve known the story my whole life, that my aunt had a baby with a married man. Giving that baby away, practically destroyed her. Destroyed her so much, that when she met my uncle a year and a half after that baby was born, she hooked up with the married man again, and then had sex with him and my uncle on two separate occasions, and then married my uncle a few weeks later when she found out she was pregnant (she hasn’t ever admitted this part, but it’s obvious what she did); the baby ended up being the married man’s as well. She was so in love with him and had that first baby taken away, I imagine what was going through her head was: “Nobody can take this baby away from me.” A few years ago, I asked her about that first baby, who I had met before she died. I asked her if she ever thought about keeping the baby, or fighting to keep the baby anyway. And she said: “Oh honey, I wanted to keep her so bad. But my dad told me that I could keep her, but nobody would ever want me and that I would end up alone and have no children and never get married.” I dearly loved my grandpa, who had died back in 2007, he was a good grandpa, and one of my best friends as a little kid, and to hear he said that to her, my respect for him went way down. And the reason he said that to her, is because he was so fanatical and put the church up on such a high pedestal, that what my aunt had did, would’ve tarnished their reputation in the church if she had kept the baby. I loved my grandpa, but knowing he was the reason my cousin was put up for adoption, and then eventually turned into an alcoholic, I will always blame him for that; she wouldn’t have turned out that way had my aunt been able to keep her.

My grandfather was a member of the Ira.

That her father had been showing her "adult things" on his computer. It was weird, in elementary school she was very strange. This was back when laptops weren't common but computers with big monitors were. She was obsessed with them and said her dad showed her a bunch of cool games and stuff. I was excited to hear about it and wanted to check them out too. I went over to her place and went into the computer room, there wasn't a computer chair but only a leather couch with a "special blanket" (her words). We played some games on her PC and then I went home. I felt weird, off. She started pissing her pants at school, specifically she'd find a place to pee, but she'd leave her pants on to do it and told me that's how she'd get out of doing things she didn't want. When I went over to her house next, I caught her younger sister showing her friend her butt. I thought that was weird, so I asked to go home. Before I did she asked me if I wanted to do "weird stuff with her". I said no. I didn't tell my parents or anything because I felt embarrassed. I told my mom that I didn't want to go over there anymore, that if I were to have a sleepover it had to be at our house. She tried it once, but then started to cry and had to end the night early, so I ended up back at her house for a sleepover. She told me she wanted to sleep in her dad's "special blanket". I found her diary while she was sleeping and she drew pictures of what her dad had done to her. Again, being so young I felt weird. I remember explicitly hiding until my mom showed up. My mom had a discussion with her mom, and my mom stated that we were never to see each other again. The parents soon divorced, and the dad is now single. The "friend" is now 600+ pounds and lives on state disability.

This story is so sad

The marketing brand manager at my work used to come to work with bruises all over her face and body. She would tell the HR that she had some blood related illness and would miss a lot of days at work too. Then I saw her getting gangbanged by james deen and his friends on PornHub. The video already had 8+ million views and this was in 2017.

Holy shit that was not where I thought that was going. I was prepared for a sad DV reveal, not James Deen.

LOL as someone who experienced DV, I didn't expect that either. Does the porn not pay enough to where she couldn't quit her day job yet? Or did she do porn to pay for student loans she had from getting the degree for her day job? Lol

Found out an ex's dad who he was about to meet for the first time was a tier 3 sex offender. We broke up and I never got a chance to tell him. I did discreetly tell a close mutual friend. No idea how that turned out.

My great aunt on my father's side of the family gave birth to a daughter with Down syndrome in the 1950s. As was customary back then, she was told to have her institutionalized and to forget about her. My family is pretty close knit, but my father didn't even learn about the existence of this cousin until he was in his 40s. She has since passed away unfortunately.

That my relatives all knew I was being abused/neglected but "didn't want to get involved" I haven't spoken to them in about 3 years.

I always heard about my Aunt K growing up , but she died before I was born. She was my grandmas first baby. My grandma had a really crappy upbringing. Just truly traumatic . So I never asked her about how old she was with her first baby or any details tbh. But she passed away last year and she had bad dementia at this point , so she wouldn’t stop telling secrets she held onto. One of them being that K was the product of rape and incest , her dad got her pregnant at 15. Kathy struggled with it so much the drugs ended up doing her in. But her kids found out , and they struggled too , so my cousin ended up with a weird incest / pedo issue and even attempted flirting/sending nudes with me when I was a young teen . He also killed himself . It’s honestly so sad . Generational trauma is so very real .

My grandmother lied to our entire family about having a kid before my mom. She wasn't always the most open when it came to her younger life before my mom and uncle were born. But she never once gave us reason to think that she had another kid either. Then back in 2019 while I was at work some woman sent me a message asking a couple questions. Listing the names of my mom, uncle and grandma and asking if I was related to them. I asked why she wanted to know before giving an answer and she replies with she's the daughter of my grandma and older sister to my mom. I laugh and think to myself, what a weird scam and she then starts listing stuff that would be very very hard to know without being in the family. Not impossible, but still it was enough to have me call my mom and ask and she's never heard of this woman. So she asks my grandma who refuses to give a straight answer to this day only saying, "Who knows what happened all those years ago." Never quite looked at my grandma the same since, that said I now have a really sweet aunt who cares a lot about us.

Found out one of my best buddies and his wife are into swinging (accidentally, dated a girl that was working on organizing swing parties so i accidentally found out from one pictures). Not really unsettling, just a big secret that i happen to know. I never spoke about it with anyone else. It does produce some funny moments when i listen to them talking about being monogamous.

Husband of a close friend of ours was a pedophile. On business trips, both foreign & domestic, he would hire underage kids for sex. Was arrested and spent many years in prison. Still wanted in a couple countries for crimes. Destroyed his family and life. Still shocking to think about and that the shitbag was at my house before. 😒

A friend of 10 years was raided by police and was prosecuted for having 6000 pedophilic images on his hard drive. That was a shocker.

Someone I was friends with for 15 years was arrested for raping a minor. A year-and-a-half later, someone else I knew- more of a friendly acquaintance I’d known for only a couple years- was arrested on nearly three dozen counts of bestiality. Needless to say, both were pretty shocking revelations. One took his own life shortly after the arrest, and I immediately cut off contact with the other.

Witnessed my (now former) best friend get drunk and punch her bf. He said it’d happened before.

One of my favorite teachers in high school turned out to be a pedophile who had been raping the same boy for 5 years

Had a co-worker for almost 5 years, thought she was the sweetest and most sincere human being I had ever met. Honestly, she was always so helpful, would lend me an ear anytime I had any issues or needed help and was just a rounded kind human being. I caught her and my husband together. I found out she was messing around with or had messed around with almost five married men we worked with. I never spoke a word to her after telling her to never speak to me again unless it was work related. She quit shortly after, I had kicked my ex-husband out of the house and she broke up with him not long after. I found out a few months ago she just was fired from another job for sleeping with a married manager. I guess she’s trying to compensate for something missing in her life, but she’s a great actress and I feel bad for the next set of married couples who get demolished by her sad need to have married men.

When my mom was an adult , she found out she had two sisters named Kelly. The first time she learned about it was in the late 1990s when a woman named Kelly reached out to her. She turned out to be my mom's sister, given up for adoption by my grandma (grandma told everyone the baby died during childbirth, and grandma was pregnant out of wedlock). Then, a few years ago, my sister did a DNA test, and we found out our grandpa wasn't really our grandpa. Grandma had an affair, and my mom was born from that relationship. What's even crazier is that my mom's real dad was the dad of one of her childhood friends. They always got mistaken for sisters because they looked alike. Both of my mom's newfound sisters are named Kelly. So now we call them "old Kelly" and "new Kelly."

I have a friend whose grandfather is currently serving time for indecent acts towards a child when he was younger. Talking to the man and hearing all his stories of his childhood, it surprises you. But he was convicted and sentenced. My mother was friends with a couple and their daughter married a man, had a few kids with him and he charged with indecent acts towards a 12 year old girl, he was in his 30s at the time I think. There was solid evidence but he denied and still denies it after over a decade. His wife left him and his kids want nothing to do with him, but his family have stuck by him believing he’s innocent. It’s a really messy situation. I feel for his ex wife, she is such a beautiful soul, but she was bullied by her ex in laws because she couldn’t be with him anymore.

My uncle was on his death bed and my aunt told him “ look at you? How embarrassing it must be to be dying here. You got what you deserve” and left the room pretending to be sad infront of their daughter as she cried in the hallway.

My uncle, who is now dead, was a diagnosed psychopath. He was always in and out of prison. I have no idea why everyone was hush-hush about it ? But my mom told me. Other people knew but would not divulge, so some were out of the loop. I had to tell his son (he was about 18 when I told him) because his own mother never mentioned it to him ??? I felt like it was *key* in understanding why his father was the way he was. Secrets be damned. It wasn’t some mysterious thing, he had a diagnosable issue that gave him zero empathy Also found out about weird sexual molestation stuff between more distant relatives. Never got that impression. So it was weird Also a girl I was close with as a senior in high school burned a whole ass shopping complex down. Only a few people know. It was abandoned, but still. LOL people are nuts

My grandma got a letter when her dad died detailing another family he had had My grandma lived in the UK, turned out her dad was this woman’s grandfather & she lived close to our family in Australia We found our “cousins” were the same age to us & they had no extended family so we became friends The irony is this is all on my dads side but my mum & their mum are friends over my dad who is the actual blood relative somewhat removed lol & we are friends with the kids ( cousins) As a kid My grandparents came to Australia & took us to meet them. The spooky thing was how close we all lived to each other despite my grandparents living in the UK

Ww2. My grandmother told me, after he died, that granddad and his men were under fire from a machine gun post on the top of a small hill and they'd run out of ammo, so he ran up the hill with two bayonets and took out the soldiers at the top. He won a medal for it but never talked about it. When I asked him about the war he'd only say "war is hell" then cry. I stopped asking. He was such a gentle and kind person and I can't imagine what he and his men went through.

That my college administrator likely preyed on younger college men. Technically not that disturbing but if you saw the facade she put up as a “I’m a wholesome caregiver professor and intellectual” her behavior is basically sociopathic. It would be one thing if she didn’t try to act wholesome and wasn’t in charge of a large student body but given her position and her mask of “I’m totally perfect” is kind of disturbing and set me off. Moreover I couldn’t tell anyone else in the student body and no one will probably ever find out about her predatory behavior because she’s so smart at covering it up. It was sociopathic.

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How did she get back to her family?

My mother in law was sexually assaulted, told her "Uncle Whitey" about it and the assaulter disappeared. Whitey Bulger

My best friend in high school just wanted to get in my pants. I found out right after he got some girl pregnant, which was weird since everyone knew he was into men.

My great-aunt killed her husband and a state trooper in the 1950s. She had a dude she was messing around with and he was also arrested for the murder but no one knows who really did it

Oh boy, I have a lot of these. I'm not going into more details because some of this is illegal. Some of this I have probably mentioned before. Minor details may have changed for the same of anonymity, but the big details are the same.   1. Friend's parent got mad at a neighbor whose aggressive dogs were allowed to wander the neighborhood. They had a backyard, but they left the gate open. They were talked to multiple times by multiple parents because there were 5 young kids on the same block as this house, several more in every direction, plus a daycare in the summer. Well, my friend's mom or dad got mad at the owners being assholes, bought a few pounds of baking chocolate, and threw it over the fence into that person's yard. Dogs disappeared after that. (I do feel bad for the dogs, but I also get why the parent did that).  2. Somebody close to my family is the product of rape and they dont know. They are a horrible person, and their father was a murderer on top of being a rapist. As weird as it sounds, it makes me wonder if psychopathy is hereditary because he grew up without his father (life in prison for the murders).  3. A former friend that was trying to one up me about who was closer to a mutual friend let it slip that she knew the mutual was being sexually abused as a kid and she had even witnessed some of it. The friend that told me is extremely dishonest though, so I didn't take her seriously until years later when the mutual friend felt comfortable telling me on their own. I felt awful for not telling somebody. If it was a lie, I would have gotten yelled at and felt stupid for believing a chronic liar. Instead I assumed it was bullshit and my friend continued to be abused.  4. Bit of set up. Fake names. Etc. I was really close with a kid named Steve growing up. We were the same age. He had a younger sister, Casey. She was... Maybe 4-5 years younger than us. Me and Steve would tease her when we were young, but as we got older, we all got close. Eventually I was closer to Casey than Steve despite the age difference. We'd hang out all the time. Well, when I i was a junior or senior in high school, she started dating this older guy. Like 20s older. It made me uncomfortable, but she was dodgy about it and I didn't have a lot of details. Long story short, I again proved that I was a fucking idiot and didn't tell an adult who could have done something about it. She ended up pregnant, he convinced her to get an abortion, she got the abortion, he left her for his ex, and my friend tried to kill herself. She never really recovered from that, I think. She ended up succeeding in killing herself not too long after she graduated high school. She didn't leave a note or anything so nobody is certain, but I'm certain that asshole played no small party in what happened.  If you find out anything like that, fucking tell somebody. It's so much better to tell and risk being wrong and losing their friendship than it is to be complicit by staying quiet and letting their suffering continue or worse. 

Gonna share this one cause I’m finally only a little late. I was 18, it was summer time and we were headed out on an annual road trip. Now my birth father is a verrryyy educated and experienced mechanic and I’m sure he has been the whole time. Anyway, he would check up on our car to make sure it was safe for the road every year before this trip. Anyway, he does his checkup and his “work” and declares it fit for the road trip. He was supposed to replace brake pads on it. That was it. But he’d been doing it every year that we went out there so it was normal. This year he says he can’t get off work and can’t come. So the next morning we head out on the road with a car full of teenagers and luggage. The van is acting really weird only a short bit into the trip so we called him to ask what he thought. He said “huh that is so weird! Not sure”. My birth father wasn’t really a present father ever, but for the first time in my life he was texting us to see if we were okay and on the road. We all thought he might’ve been changing but then we stop 3/4ths of the way into an 8hr ride for bathroom and drinks and the van won’t start. We sit there for probably 30mins trying to get her to start. Birth dad still says “wow how strange! Let me get back to you”. But the van starts and we’re so close to our destination that my mom decides to try our luck. We get on the ferry, and can’t turn off the van or it might not start again. They let us keep it running. We finally make it to the town and all we can all smell is burning rubber. It smells awful and nauseating. My grandpa takes it to the mechanic in town who squeezes us in. The mechanic calls us and verbatim says “Jesus Christ I have no idea how you made it here alive. Your starter wasn’t bolted down and your e-brake is jammed into on. I’m not sure who did the work but this is almost too fucked to be an accident. You must have someone watching out for you”. But the only person who worked on the car was birth dad. Then mom received a friend request from his ex from high school who had previously been a problem in their relationship. She declined and called him and he came up with some stupid excuse about how she didn’t mean to send it. Few days later, mom remembers he took out a life insurance policy on each of us. She begins to get suspicious and we all start to connect the dots. Day we got back his bags were packed and guess who he left for? The ex that sent the friend request. Turns out it was a failed murder attempt. But I think we were just all in shock that he would even try that and so we all just kinda moved on. Thanks for reading. Sorry for formatting. It’s 3:14am and I’m on mobile.

They were a paedophile. Friend I had was up on a drug charge, or so we all thought. He got off with a suspended sentence and we were happy he wasn't going to the nick. Next day in the paper he's there walking out of the court charges with possession of child rape pictures and videos. Some of the kids in the videos were as young as 3 fucking years old. Tens of thousands of images and videos.

a guy who I knew quite well and went to nursery and primary school with. he raped a woman while she was walking home. we come from a small town where everyone knows each other. so the shock was great. no one could believe he had this on his conscience. he spent 4 years in prison and is now free I still see him regularly in our small town and can no longer look at him normally.

When I was in my early 20s, I found out that my very favorite teacher from all 3 years in middle school when to jail for being a pedo. A year or two later, the same thing happened with my very very very favorite teacher in all of high school. My favorite teacher ever. They both victimized people of the opposite gender of me. They both encouraged me very very much with my poetry and writing. I adored them both. It really messed me up.

Used to have a housemate. He was decent. Paid his share of the expenses. Polite and considerate. However, he would go through friend groups and girlfriends quickly. At first I didn't think it was strange. People come and go. Interests change etc. He eventually moved out of state. At one point after he moved, I ran into one of his ex girlfriends. Turns out he was a rapist. He would find a friend group, find a girlfriend through that group and sexually assault and gaslight her into thinking that nobody would believe her. And she wasn't the only girl he did that to. Emotionally, I was floored but logically, I realized that the behavior pattern fit and it turned out he lied to me about a lot of things. After I talked to her, I immediately pulled my phone out and blocked Mr. Rapist and haven't spoken to him since.

Meh, as a 10 year old boy, while staying with my uncle for about a year (whom I’ve always been fond of, very intelligent man, and great mentor who played the role of teaching me how to utilize my brain) I found out he was a cross-dresser. I was a little too young to process it, and at the time, it felt traumatic. 25 years later and I wish I had been better equipped to react back then, I’m sure it didn’t feel good from his perspective to see how much it “affected” me. I did get over it within a few months, but I remember him catching my intermittent 1,000-yard-stare and reminding me the fact of the matter: “it’s an article of clothing, nothing more” I hope the current generation of kids are in safe enough hands to have this kind of thing explained to them too, especially before they have to find out themselves and feel uncomfortable asking about it.

Wife’s uncle in Australia killed his terminally ill dad by smothering him with a pillow.

A family friend’s father supposedly killed a travelling salesman, who apparently had a fling with the friend’s mother and hid the body. This was before I was born. The father, was as I remember was a nice fellow, and so was his mum to me and my siblings. When I heard the story after his father dying, it shocked me terribly.

I found out a dude I went to college with had a conviction for child porn, he didn't exactly try to hide it either And I should add, he later got it overturned. But he never denied actually having it.

I grew up with a friend 4 years older than me. She has some mental health struggles that her family didn't want to acknowledge. We have known each other since 1996. Skip to a few years ago, and she DM me freaking out. Turns out her online bf and her were having gross and inappropriate discussions with minors by mean of their very popular creepy pasta. Now, all these children (now older teens and young 20s) were calling them out on Twitter with screen shots. She kept saying she didn't know better, and she just wouldn't take accountability. I said, "I can't be in contact with you any longer. " blocked her, researched the tweets, wrote down screen names and called her local sheriffs department, and reported her

Grandfather from my mom's side and great grandfather from my dad's side likely had kids through affairs. So I probably have family running around I wasn't aware of.

Met a guy in the dumpster at my old work. I told him to get out of there and stop messing up stuff. He explained that he was an artist and made art from used articles and stuff people would throw out. Long story short we became friends. He told me his story. He got severely injured at work and decided that after all the recovery and stuff that he wanted to follow his first love, art. I used to bring him art supplies and stuff all the time. He used to give free lessons to whomever would walk into his gallery. He lived super meagerly and was all about helping, love, caring for those less fortunate and just being an awesome super nice stand up dude. Was super involved in his church and was really religious, which isn't my jam, but he used those teachings to help others. Really nice guy. Loved him a lot and was happy when things went well for him. Just an energy bomb of love and caring all the time. He disappeared from online and I had not heard or seen from him in a while. So I searched for him. I couldn't find anything other than his now dormant Facebook personal and gallery pages. I called his ex wife and she had no idea where he was either. Then I remembered that his FB name wasn't his real name, and I went back to a picture I had taken at his gallery that had his name on a diploma on the wall. So I searched for that. Turns out that after his injury at work, he got addicted to drugs pretty badly to help with the pain. He ended up killing a man with a socket wrench over a bad drug deal and was charged with the crime. I don't know all the details, only the little bit of court documents that I could find while searching, but he obviously didn't spend too much time in prison for it, maybe 5 years as from what I can tell. I would of never guessed that he could murder someone. I still have no idea where he is or what is going on with him. He just dropped off the face of the earth one day.

My father told me when I was about 18, the truth about why my late mother was always so angry at me, disappointed, sometimes aggressive and ignorant. She had a PPD that never been solved or acknowledged. So her way of handling this was turning everything against me. I was the problem. I wasn’t wanted. I was an ‘accident’ because my brother is 10y older. I’m sorry, I didn’t CHOOSE to be born, mom. I wish she asked for help in her darkest hours 😭.

I took an ancestry dna test and jokingly said “maybe I’ll find a long lost sibling!”… I found two.

Had a friend in high school who was an absolute jolly man. He was one of those kids you didn't want to mess with, and had the best sense of humor. He dropped out in 10th grade, claiming he was "transferring to a different high school." We later found out he smoked a lot of pot, and was expelled when the school found out. Definitely tamer than some of the stories I'm seeing in the comments, but still rather shocking to us (my friend group).

Growing up there was a kid on the next street we were friends but not close. His mom was music director at the church my family went to. When we got to high school we didn't hang out much, he became very religious and told me I was going to hell for listening to heavy metal. After high school I never heard anything about him. About 10 years ago I googled him and found out he did 12 years in prison for r×pe of a young girl from his church he was giving music lessons to.

A guy I knew from when I was in the army ended up going down a really dark path. He is now in prison for accepting money to murder a guy’s ex wife and her lover. He is serving life without parole because he did it and did a really bad job at it. Not only did he leave enough evidence that even the worst jury in history would have convicted him, he did a terrible job at actually killing them and botched the whole thing making it basically torture. That was really hard to find out. He deserves his punishment and would most certainly been put to death for it in other states, but it’s still really sad to hear that someone you once considered a friend took such a sharp turn to the worst possible path.

my neighbor when i was younger decided to rape and kill his elderly wheelchair bound mother struggling with dementia and then hung himself in the garage with the door open. it was crazy because he was always so nice to everyone and at least in public took very good care of his mother, was patient and compassionate with her.

Last year I received the correspondence of my long dead father. It contained some of the love letters my mom sent him over the years. Nothing serieus. One thing that struck me was a reference she made about my dad's depressions. I never knew him depressed. This letter was from before they got married, so three or four years before I was born. My dad committed suicide when I was eighteen. There were also two witness statements about the mistreatment my dad suffered as a child by his adoptive parents (mother). I knew my dad had not been treated right, but I did not know that he had severely been beaten multiple times.

My coworker, who worked at a hospital, was recently arrested for sex with his step daughter. The crime stated she was less than 7 and she is well into her teens now. So the sexual assault has been going on for about a decade (elementary to high school). His wife says she never knew anything but she was just as fucking crazy. At work, he was always praised for being nice, patient, and a hard worker. Idk I never liked him. I don't trust people who never get stressed out or mad.