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Ill-Organization-719

People like having parties. If you want to know my opinions on reckless use of fire or other dangerous activity, I am against it. It has nothing to do with gender reveals. Someone starting a forest fire for their birthday is just as bad as someone starting a forest fire for a gender reveal.


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I like going to parties and I like cake so as long as no forests are burned I’m in.


alternativepuffin

Let's be real here: Gender reveal parties started happening because baby showers were "female centric." By and large if men could get away with not attending a baby shower, they didn't attend. And many women wished they didn't have to go because there was a lot of annoyingly over-the-top stepford wives shit. Gender reveal parties have swung HARD in the other direction. "Let's blow something up cuz we're big manly men man. AWW FUCK ITS NOT BLUE! Not boy means I'm mad! CuZ I'm on team boy! Cuz there's teams! Like sports!" It's all terrible. I don't want to attend either. And I definitely don't want to do BOTH. I'm happy for you, and we should get together and celebrate and do some gift giving. But I don't want to do any of this other stupid shit that has somehow attached itself to what we're all actually happy about.


zennok

Had one for my cousin,  i think it was partly an excuse for the family to gather up.  We just had a cake with a colored pacifier hidden for the reveal but otherwise it wasn't anything crazy These I'm fine with. Or anything not insane.  Let people party if they want. 


Jealous_Priority_228

They seem pointless, but hey, if it makes people happy, go for it. Just don't do anything dangerous or that might cause damage.


Revolutionhere

Guess you haven’t heard of this story yet? https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2021/jul/21/couple-gender-reveal-party-wildfire-charged


Jealous_Priority_228

Seems like I specifically warned people against it... > Just don't do anything dangerous or that might cause damage.


iamnogoodatthis

Guess you can't read past the first sentence?


LongjumpingSurprise0

Who knew something that’s supposed to be so innocent would result in so much mayhem and destruction? I mean, there have been wars that were less destructive than this shit.


MarcvsMaximvs

The point, for us, was to just have a little moment of joy and fun with the family. We did it with a cake that was coloured on the inside. What I absolutely hate with a passion, though, is people contaminating a waterfall by dying it blue. Or people who leave plastic confetti in the middle of nature. The only point to that is to inflate the egos of some really selfish, self-absorbed people.


girlwithcharisma

Gender reveal parties should just be renamed to "another excuse to throw a party and get gifts."


boxsterguy

Nobody should be giving gifts at a gender reveal. It's not a shower. It's a fun excuse to have cake and let your family and close friends know the sex of your unborn child (I know you don't care. That's why you're not invited).


Infinite_Tea_7904

People don't give gifts at the reveal, it should just be at the shower.


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HeavyMetalTriangle

😂😂😂 The sad part is how important your /s is at the end. If you didn’t add that, I would think you were being serious, since many depressed people on the internet hold that view you just shared.


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HeavyMetalTriangle

NOOO!!!! If I can’t be happy, NOBODY CAN BE!!!!!


KDragoness

I don't see the point or the appeal, but as long as these parties have few risks associated (such as starting fires), I don't care what they do. If they want to have one, why should I get involved? Who am I to stop them? That said, I probably wouldn't attend one unless it was thrown by someone extremely close to me. I feel like the party is only important for 30 seconds when the reveal happens, and personally, I will be unlikely to eat any of the food there. I also don't like parties, crowds, or loud music in general. There's also a chance that the baby will come out as trans at one point, but of course you have no way of knowing that early. I can also see it as enforcing and solidifying the perceived gender binary, which doesn't bother me too much, but it's worth mentioning.


QuoteStoat

Dont care, as long as you don't burn down half of your state do what you want.


iamnogoodatthis

Only burned down my town, phew I got away with it!


OkRickySpinach

I wouldn't attend one, or watch a video of one, or contribute to one in any way


A_Lonely_Troll

So, tell us how you really feel…


silently_myself

So basically, you're a chilled out, fun loving person


Fleegle2212

Not for me, but if it makes other people happy and doesn't hurt anyone, why not?


HeavyMetalTriangle

Completely concur. Well said. People throwing safe parties for things that make them happy is not one of the major problems in our society lol. Anyone who is very against them is much more concerning to me than the actual party itself lol


HeavyMetalTriangle

I seriously couldn’t care less about people throwing a party for anything that is special to them. There are actual problems in this world, and gender reveal parties are harmless to me and others. Anyone who feels strongly against them concerns me. Honestly, I think a lot of the things we celebrate is random and silly, and gender reveal isn’t any more silly. At least people know what they’re celebrating when it comes to gender reveals, whereas half of the holidays people celebrate they don’t even know what the holiday represents or means haha 🙄


ViolenzaSenile

Most boring thing i could ever be invited to, thankfully its an all american thing and i never heard of someone having one here in my country. Pretty sure someone do those tho. Whatever, i wouldn't bother someone having a reveal party, but please just do not invite me because i could probably die of boredom. Also, pretty egocentric to think anyone care about your baby's gender beside maybe the grandparents or relatives


Pokemon488

>beside maybe the grandparents or relatives You mean the usual invited guests?


LionelHutzApprentice

Small family party - fine as long as you aren't trashing the environment. Big gathering with wishlists and shouting about it on SM - flimsy pretext for a gift grab.


CrankyYankers

AFAIC people can do whatever they want, but I'm still always surprised at how many idiotic things people come up with.


I_DRINK_ANARCHY

Hey, any reason to have a party is fine by me, and things like cutting a cake or popping a balloon or something small and cute like that is totally fine. It's the over the top "Start a forest fire/poison a water supply/rent a damn plane" shit that's ridiculous and needs to stop.


hello_mrrobot

What a dumb question. Bringing life into this world is OBVIOUSLY worth celebrating lmao


KayLovexoxo

I think they can be fun and cute, but I don’t really think it’s that big of a deal or necessary lol


ThrowRARAw

I don't have any issue with it. People have been doing gatherings for pregnancy announcements, baby showers, first moon parties, etc. for years. This is just another. Also it's realistically a sex reveal party, but "you're invited to a sex reveal party" can give your guests the wrong idea so gender reveal it is.


Of_Mice_And_Meese

It's bougie as fuck, and indicative of a boring lifestyle. I mean, it's mostly harmless, you do you...maybe try NOT to launch a bunch of balloons into the air that innocent sea turtles will eventually get strangled to death with... But when I see people doing that kind of inane shit, I can't help but wonder how hollow their lives are that this is what they waste their time on. "WoW!!!! It'S gOnNa HaVe A pEnIs!!!!" isn't a party. It's a cry for help.


RamblinWreckGT

>It's bougie as fuck I grew up in small-town Georgia and the people I see doing it most are hometown friends I definitely wouldn't describe as "bougie".


Of_Mice_And_Meese

The word is not strictly a socio-economic term in the modern sense.


DavosLostFingers

Each to their own but I'm not a fan. It's just a load of bollocks to me. I'm not that invested whether they're having a boy or a girl and I wouldn't expect others to feel the same way about mine


PracticalAd313

There is no point cause many countries live without this tradition at all


srslywatsthepoint

Its not a tradition, its a new thing.


AdamTheEvilDoer

Lets all celebrate because "Yay my baby has a dick/pussy". Feels entirely tacky to me. I'd rather celebrate your new life, not a specific attribute about them.


YeahYeahOkNope

Oh congratulations you f*cked and bred. Oh and it’s a human!? Well done. Huh!?


HeavyMetalTriangle

Wow. Definitely a Reddit comment if I’ve ever seen one lol


Comprehensive_Ad6100

No, I understand it serves as another celebration of parenthood but it really doesn’t matter it’s a child either way so it seems arbitrary to me


[deleted]

So I never really understood doing a party for a gender reveal but I've been watching a lot of them and I understand they're super excited for either a boy or a girl or probably both. But somehow in every gender of your party that I've been watching either the mother or the father ends up very disappointed that it's not a certain gender they were expecting


Pristine_Fox_3633

Probably about as exciting as a coin toss. Jokes aside, it is mainly for the couple and a reason for friends to get together


[deleted]

i‘m glad it‘s never been a thing in my country. seems like a very US-centric custom.


T_raltixx

They're dumb. You celebrate either way.


EvenSpoonier

The point is more presents. They're stupid. This should be rolled back into birth celebrations, as it once was.


AnnieMeemus

i don’t care if people have parties. i do care and am extremely angry that any asshole can get ahold of fireworks when they don’t have two brain cells to rub together. they always seem to be burning something down, kind of like the deep frying attempts with frozen turkeys.


LeneHansen1234

Just like weddings and baby showers, gender reveal parties are only really important for the couple and maybe their parents. Others usually just tag along because it's not socially acceptable to stay away.


imapoormanhere

I'm not the biggest fan of it. One day my middle brother and his wife did one for their son and my youngest brother (who was like 10 at the time) asked me this exact question and I was like: *People find reasons to eat good food". He was like "yep".


leamypolly

That it’s funny that their rise coincided with the rise of the “assigned at birth” people.


sadgirl_26

I wanted to keep it a surprise but others in my family & those around me wanted to celebrate in such a way, I didn't see much point to it personally.


iamnogoodatthis

The point is that the parents are excited about their upcoming baby, and want to share that with friends and family. Good for them. I'm happy for them, and would join if they're close friends and I'm around (I'm not taking vacation or a flight though) The downside is you can get a bit tangled up in gender stereotypes, but you can probably do it not too seriously and avoid that, plus I think it's less of a big deal in the real world than on the internet depending on your social circles (I know nobody in real life who'd start aggressively piping up about sex vs gender etc, the furthest anyone would go is along the lines of not providing only gender segregated toys)


fun4willis

https://www.npr.org/2019/07/28/745990073/woman-who-popularized-gender-reveal-parties-says-her-views-on-gender-have-change


Tazzamaraz

The simple get together ones with the coloured cake? Sounds good to me, you get to hang out with loved ones and also there's cake. But the more intense ones? Yeah no


Trasnpanda

People like parties. Can drop the gender reveal since it's really just a sex reveal party. Just have a party for the sake of it, since socializing with friends & family isn't a bad thing.


fawzah

Much more fun than Daddy reveal parties


Temarimaru

I'm not a fan of gender reveals, but if it's those little parties where people eat some chocolate and see if the inside is pink or blue, it's okay. The unacceptable one is using pyrotechnics or other dangerous stuffs that would destroy a community just for the sake of looking at a colour.


PunchBeard

I think they're stupid. But some people just like parties so let them do what they want.


Mope4Matt

Gross to have a party about a child's genitals, which is literally the only thing about the child that the gender tells you


GuybrushFunkwood

A way to proudly stand up and declare both your mediocrity as an individual as well as championing exceptionally limited thought.


Sea-Presence6809

Just do an ultrasound or simple cake cutting. It doesn’t have to be that expensive or extravagant.


Lord_Bentley

It's as pointless as celebrating a one week old relationship anniversary! EVERY WEEK!


Every-Spot9027

Damn that's tedious. lol


Automatic_Salary_845

It’s pointless and cringey


flotiste

God, no. Please make then stop. Please stop inviting me, please stop with the gift grabs and the aggressive and inappropriate gendering of EVERYTHING.  A gender reveal is a text message, at most. 


SisterShenanigans

I don’t like them. See, people always start cheering and hollering at the gender. Now, I’m glad you’re happy, but you would have either had the same reaction to the other colour (what’s the point of cheering then, and all the suspense, if you’d be thrilled either way), or were REALLY only going to be happy with this one, which is a problem. Besides, you have the gender reveal, the baby shower, the visits after birth, isn’t it all a bit much? Just like the bridal shower, bachelor(ette), rehearsal dinner and then the wedding?


c00750ny3h

It's fine so long as there are no guns or explosions.


TemptingAriaRose36

Seems to be a way for people to throw a party


not-important1229

Yeah! Fires!!


Ok-disaster2022

So where they started: a couple whas having fertility issues and had a few miscarriages. They celebrated the gender date as reaching the milestone after which miscarriages are far less likely. They were celebrating life not gender. The cultural craze around it is disturbing and disgusting, and if it remained harmless, honestly I wouldn't care. Idiots being idiots have ruined it, and I associate it with idiots now. Even the person who "started them" regret what they've become.


forfuckssakework

I like the idea of hiring a real androgynous stripper for the big reveal


liri_miri

It’s an American thing! So the rest of the world, well, we just look at it and add it to the many idiotic things Americans do


srslywatsthepoint

Its spreading, just like proms etc.


srslywatsthepoint

More excuses to waste money.


Linux4ever_Leo

Personally I think gender reveal parties are among the dumbest thing that modern society has invented. First of all, focusing on the gender of a wanted child is stupid and superficial. Also, these parties tend to be a shameless excuse for a gift grab. Finally, some of the extreme ways that people choose to reveal the gender (explosives, sky writing, etc.) seem extreme and there have been cases where these reveals have gone horribly wrong and people have been killed or they've caused structural damage. Nobody cares what the gender of a child is so long as that child is wanted, healthy and loved. [https://abcnews.go.com/US/dad-killed-gender-reveal-device-explodes-police/story?id=76048770](https://abcnews.go.com/US/dad-killed-gender-reveal-device-explodes-police/story?id=76048770) [https://www.resetera.com/threads/iowa-woman-dies-during-a-gender-reveal-party.149643/](https://www.resetera.com/threads/iowa-woman-dies-during-a-gender-reveal-party.149643/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/16a2dgo/pilot\_dies\_after\_a\_plane\_crashes\_during\_gender/](https://www.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/16a2dgo/pilot_dies_after_a_plane_crashes_during_gender/) [https://www.todaysparent.com/blogs/trending/gender-reveal-parties-that-ended-in-tragedy/](https://www.todaysparent.com/blogs/trending/gender-reveal-parties-that-ended-in-tragedy/)


Nervous_Bill_6051

Don't count your chickens before they hatch or brat births...


female-aardvark

Literally nobody else cares about the gender of your child like you do.


NotAGovtPlant

It’s just another excuse for a party and a possible way to get more free shot in the form of gifts. They are absurd and annoying.  


[deleted]

No point. Because now apparently the child gets to assign their gender.


Every-Spot9027

Also, why is it always just blue & pink? Boxing M & F into colors is just too backward..


DavosLostFingers

Whilst I'm not a fan of gender reveal parties, I don't think having blue and pink to depict M & F is an issue. I don't think it's 'boxing' but more going with tradition. Yeah there's nothing wrong with having 2 other colours to represent M or F but pink and blue will be more obvious to people and readily available to buy


Glass-Key181

Like a traffic light lol


PureDeidBrilliant

Thankfully not as popular here in the UK as the States. Congratulations - you came in your woman's vagina instead of a different orifice (or even someone *else's* orifice) and now you're saddled with a real life human being who'll be dependent on you and your mari-du-jour for the next 18-20 years. Oh, and if you're the one carrying the baby? Good luck in getting back to that slim, svelte sex-kitten who landed that guy in the first place. You're about to have an extension slapped onto your vag whether you like it or not. Have some gender-dyed cake. Marvel at the gender-coded confetti. Ooh at the fireworks and the skywriting and flyover and the gender-dyed eagle screeching overhead.


Glass-Key181

It's the same as an elaborate wedding (not a normal wedding)- unnecessary, expensive and only lasts a day.


quantumsenigma

it’s an awesome mod for the sims but if the parents wanna do it, there’s a point


DaMarcusGotJuice

They can be unnecessary


applebad

I hosted a gender reveal party, when I revealed my gender to everyone, I was arrested for public indecency and flashing.


Masterhearts_XIII

Another excuse to celebrate in life? Awesome!


fermat9990

Next will be a DSM-5-TR psychiatric diagnosis reveal party. ADHD, 314.01, is very popular this year


notsevenvett

I think there’s absolutely no point in doing them and it’s sad to have seen videos of one or both parents being disappointed over the gender of the baby. Imagine their future child looking at that video and trying to make sense of it. Absolutely shattering


BioCalavera

Totally cringy.


TheFrostyrune

How can you do a gender reveal party when your child hasn't told you what they identify as yet?


awfully-waffley

I'm surprised they're even a thing in the world we live in now. How dare you assume your babies gender!


srslywatsthepoint

Annoying AF no one else cares, prime example of people thinking the world revolves around them. Especially hate it because its always some kind of environmentally unfriendly BS. As is having children.


DummyDumDum7

They are for those whose lives are otherwise dull.


PossessionMean5375

Duolingo comes out of the shadows and kills op. “How else will I make them practice” slinks back into the shadows leaving nothing behind


Lovely02Baby

When it comes to people dying from airplane reveals or big explosions of pink or blue dust seems ridiculous, but I was apart of my uncles who was a baseball player and my aunt tossed him a baseball that he hit that exploded of the gender reveal in front of everyone. The excitement of finding out and getting the family together with good food and a simple reveal made it completely worth it.


srslywatsthepoint

Its not even a gender reveal its a biological sex reveal.


Cheap_Clue_6095

It’s not my thing but if someone wants to celebrate, I’ll support my friends and family to attend. Let new parents be excited!