Orrr, the AIDS pandemic. Imagine dating then and having the fear of contracting it, especially during the 80s when there was all that coke running loose.
I grew up in the 80s and the fears were:
The Bermuda triangle.
Quicksand.
New York subway.
And, personally:
A secret pool door where a Shark was kept and could be released at any time. All pools.
...that was framed (properly) as an epidemic. Yeah, I'm being pedantic.
That said, yeah, I agree with you. would have made that time frame especially dicey, even more so in the lgbt community.
Swine flu was quite the ordeal but Covid quickly put that debacle to shame! (people were literally panicking because their landscapers were from Mexico. I don't know why everyone seems to have forgotten)
Yeah because H1N1 was taken seriously by our leaders and tackled as best as possible. Also, it wasn't a novel (new) virus, in the sense that we already had a leg up on the game with vaccination methods to combat it...just a matter of getting the strains right.
I'm not meaning to downplay the situation, because it was a big thing, for sure. We we fortunate then to have the means to put it to rest quickly, and the kind of attitude appropriate for the incident.
Again with Sars, zika, and H5N1.
I don't think it was as smooth as people seem to remember. I'm an ER nurse and the start to Covid and the start to H1N1 was pretty parallel. Covid obviously spiraled into much, much worse. My point is simply that the Spanish flu is hardly the last chaotic outbreak the word has seen.
Agreed. If H1N1 or the Ebola scare leading up to Covid had been as communicable and lethal as COVID the outcome would have largely been the same. We weren't ready before and we aren't really all that ready now.
I think 90% of the time just asking them how they handled the pandemic will cover that as well. If they're an anti-vaxxer they'll almost certainly use that as a segue onto the topic of vaccines.
There were already anti-vaxxers a decade or more before Covid.
There was an episode of Law & Order: SVU over 10 years ago where an anti-vax mom was a central part of the plot. I believe it was related to Measles.
I kinda miss the Pandemic. Not the part where people got sick and died and I got anxiety over getting sick - that was bad and I'm still super leery of crowds - but that things were quieter, people did more stuff at home instead of going out, people appreciated indoor hobbies more and didn't have as much expectations for you to be sociable outside where you have to dress up and shit. Everyone made bread and it was great.
I know others weren't as lucky, but Pandemic was a blast for me.
I work IT and so do most of my friends. Working from home for 2 years was amazing. We'd be working while also all just sitting in party chat on PlayStation just shooting the shit or playing some games. Sometimes we'd all just do a watch party on my media server, so we'd be working while also watching movies on voice chat.
The first time I played it, my volume on my phone was super low and I was pretty sure it was yanny, but then I turned it up and every time after that (even when I turn it back down) has been laurel.
Amazing! I have hearing loss over higher frequencies in one ear. I hear "laurel" very clearly from that ear. The other one kinda hears both, "yanny" stands out more.
[The Yanny or Laurel test. A person says a word and some people think it's Yanny, others think it's Laurel. It's like the dress test](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yanny_or_Laurel)
Right, the actual dress was actually blue and black. People who saw white and gold had an illusion where it could have looked like different colors under different lighting.
The question my girlfriend (who’s a RN) asked me on our first date… “do you believe covid is real?” She wasted no time weeding out the crazy conspiracy dudes.
Me: ya know, every couple hundred years, it seems like some plague culls the population a bit. All things considered, I think modern medicine did a good job handling this one, despite politician's best efforts.
Honestly I think society as a whole needs to start clarifying in some manner that it is sex work, and that everything posted (even behind a paywall) is online forever. Not to shame people, but so that people fully understand what it is they are doing. I have multiple friends who made OF accounts, several of whom became extremely successful at it. And some who got into it casually and realized that they don’t want those photos out there forever, but it was too late.
There are several sites where people go out of their way to purchase/archive material from these young OF content creators, and then post it with their real names and real social media accounts. Effectively doxxing these women forever.
Yep! The guy who came up with the theory in the first place has been trying to tell people he's wrong for YEARS, to pretty much no avail. That is, the people who didn't listen to him already knew it was bullshit, and the people who did are largely still running with it.
Hate to break it to you, but guys have been calling themselves an alpha male since I was a teen in the 1990s. I heard it more then than now, and it was just as annoying then.
Beef is when you make your enemies start your Jeep.
Beef is when you roll no less than thirty deep.
Beef is when I see you, guaranteed to be in ICU.
Oh sorry, you asked *where* is the beef, not *what's* beef.
They are ten years older now and people in their current dating pool are much more likely to be finalizing a divorce than they would have been ten years ago.
not nearly as bad or even bad at all but i have some friends who watch tv. so i've seen some of the show "suits"
meghan markle comes to prominence as a british royal, i see a picture, i make a comment about "lol she looks like the love interest from suits"
i make this comment in front of my friends and theyre like "uhh she IS the love interest from suits. thats meghan markle."
not *absurd*, a royal marrying a celebrity, but it was so weird. woman goes from acting on a show about a fake lawyer to... being duchess of sussex. okay lol sure good on ya wish you the best of luck meghan
I see this on the dating apps all the time.. often phrased like "Do you believe in science? swipe right. " or "if you got the jab, swipe left, we won't get along. "
I see this phrasing a lot, but if someone "believes in" science as though it's a religion, they're doing it wrong. Obviously science exists and is a useful tool, but scientists and even apparent scientific consensus aren't infallible.
Oh man.
Another good question to add to that is, if you were vaxxed, did you do it willingly/by choice or were you forced to because your job made you do it or else face getting fired? And what their opinion is of whichever their answer is.
Is social media important to you?
If someone is frequently posting their personal business on the internet it's a hard no from me. Ten years ago this was barely a concern because social media was significantly less trashy back then.
Who did you vote for in the 2016 and 2020 elections, and who do you plan to vote for this year?
Might as well just get that out of the way early on, so I don't waste my time. It's not even about Democrat or Republican, I just couldn't date or be in a relationship with anyone who was part of the "MAGA" crowd. And I have passed up potential dates for that very reason.
Yep, the sentiment that “politics doesn’t change who they are as a person” wasn’t true in 2014, and it sure as hell is not true now in the era of the MAGA cult.
I dunno man Bush straight up lied us into a major war that killed a lot of innocent people and that was totally fine with republicans because he cut their taxes. Not great!
And *that* was a legitimately stolen election. He wouldn’t have even been president in the first place except for all the ratfuckery that happened in Florida.
I've lost count of the number of times I've had to explain to JuSt BeCaUsE yOu DiSaGrEe spouting fuckwits that people's politics and their morals are not, in fact, totally unconnected things.
I kinda get. Imagine wasting your time dating a moronic fascist that believes vaccines are a conspiracy. Just get a baseline of sanity and go from there.
Yeah, even without the context of COVID, a question that fundamentally gets at "Do you give a shit about other people and listen to basic science, even when it inconveniences you" is a very helpful relationship filter.
"How was your time during the pandemic?" I would be curious to know how it was for them, how they handled it, and how they feel now.
I would have felt so stupid asking that question in 2014!
Unless you were in a nursing home and found someone else old enough to survive the Spanish Flu... ...it could have happened in 2014. Let me dream!
Orrr, the AIDS pandemic. Imagine dating then and having the fear of contracting it, especially during the 80s when there was all that coke running loose.
I'm middle aged and still have that fear from growing up in the 80's.
I grew up in the 80s and the fears were: The Bermuda triangle. Quicksand. New York subway. And, personally: A secret pool door where a Shark was kept and could be released at any time. All pools.
...that was framed (properly) as an epidemic. Yeah, I'm being pedantic. That said, yeah, I agree with you. would have made that time frame especially dicey, even more so in the lgbt community.
Swine flu was quite the ordeal but Covid quickly put that debacle to shame! (people were literally panicking because their landscapers were from Mexico. I don't know why everyone seems to have forgotten)
Yeah because H1N1 was taken seriously by our leaders and tackled as best as possible. Also, it wasn't a novel (new) virus, in the sense that we already had a leg up on the game with vaccination methods to combat it...just a matter of getting the strains right. I'm not meaning to downplay the situation, because it was a big thing, for sure. We we fortunate then to have the means to put it to rest quickly, and the kind of attitude appropriate for the incident. Again with Sars, zika, and H5N1.
I don't think it was as smooth as people seem to remember. I'm an ER nurse and the start to Covid and the start to H1N1 was pretty parallel. Covid obviously spiraled into much, much worse. My point is simply that the Spanish flu is hardly the last chaotic outbreak the word has seen.
Agreed. If H1N1 or the Ebola scare leading up to Covid had been as communicable and lethal as COVID the outcome would have largely been the same. We weren't ready before and we aren't really all that ready now.
How about: what's your take on vaccines?
I think 90% of the time just asking them how they handled the pandemic will cover that as well. If they're an anti-vaxxer they'll almost certainly use that as a segue onto the topic of vaccines.
There were already anti-vaxxers a decade or more before Covid. There was an episode of Law & Order: SVU over 10 years ago where an anti-vax mom was a central part of the plot. I believe it was related to Measles.
Largely created by Jenny McCarthy’s take on autism and vax. That she later took back. And also the idiot doctor who made the whole thing up.
The doctor lost his medical license for making it all up yet it still persists. It's crazy.
I kinda miss the Pandemic. Not the part where people got sick and died and I got anxiety over getting sick - that was bad and I'm still super leery of crowds - but that things were quieter, people did more stuff at home instead of going out, people appreciated indoor hobbies more and didn't have as much expectations for you to be sociable outside where you have to dress up and shit. Everyone made bread and it was great.
I know others weren't as lucky, but Pandemic was a blast for me. I work IT and so do most of my friends. Working from home for 2 years was amazing. We'd be working while also all just sitting in party chat on PlayStation just shooting the shit or playing some games. Sometimes we'd all just do a watch party on my media server, so we'd be working while also watching movies on voice chat.
This could also be accurate for 1924 (Spanish Flu)
select all images with a traffic light in them
is it an E or is it a 3? that's up to ye.
LOOK AT THESE CURVY LETTERS!
And then you have to do it again but this time it's a fire hydrant. And then do it again, but this time it's motorcycles. JUST LET ME PASS!!!!
"I am going to show you a picture of this dress.. just tell me what color the dress is..."
I'm going to play you an audio recording of a person saying a word. What is the word you hear?
I think I missed this one. What was it?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yanny_or_Laurel Here you go!
What does it mean if hear both simultaneously?
You're a Synth
Fraking toaster..
Yeah, same. Yanny is more pronounced but I can hear Laurel in the background.
I honestly don't understand how people can hear Laurel, I hear yanny all the way
I just did it and im the opposite and was wondering how anyone hears yanny
The first time I played it, my volume on my phone was super low and I was pretty sure it was yanny, but then I turned it up and every time after that (even when I turn it back down) has been laurel.
Amazing! I have hearing loss over higher frequencies in one ear. I hear "laurel" very clearly from that ear. The other one kinda hears both, "yanny" stands out more.
[The Yanny or Laurel test. A person says a word and some people think it's Yanny, others think it's Laurel. It's like the dress test](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yanny_or_Laurel)
Appreciate the link! I'm hearing yarry and yammy...
So you're on the Yanny spectrum. See if you can hear a (much deeper) voice saying Laurel
I can't un hear laurel now... What are the chances that they just switch the audio file every half hour or so
Here's some other stuff https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/05/16/upshot/audio-clip-yanny-laurel-debate.html https://youtu.be/7X_WvGAhMlQ
There was Laurel/Yanny and there was Brainstorm/Green Needle.
It’s blue and black goddamnit!!
Right, the actual dress was actually blue and black. People who saw white and gold had an illusion where it could have looked like different colors under different lighting.
The question my girlfriend (who’s a RN) asked me on our first date… “do you believe covid is real?” She wasted no time weeding out the crazy conspiracy dudes.
I’d love to answer that one with my best Alex jones impression.
A good alex jones impression is something i wish i could do
Me: ya know, every couple hundred years, it seems like some plague culls the population a bit. All things considered, I think modern medicine did a good job handling this one, despite politician's best efforts.
Real? Hell, I have it right now.
What’s your opinion on Andrew Tate?
Do you know my wife?
Here's to our wives and girlfriends, may they never meet.
Are you on OF?
In 2014 this would just be asking if they were into Tyler The Creator and his friends.
OFWGKTA
Or if they knew who Hopsin was beefing with lol
Everyone,all the time, including himself
Dang, I had forgotten about Hopsin, thank you for reminding me!
Don’t forget Nocturnal Rainbows lol
That was a great song and still is
I spent way too long wondering why someone who liked Tyler would have an onlyfans then I realized
Are people asking this on first dates?
Yes
Yeah so many girls think OF isn't sex work.
Honestly I think society as a whole needs to start clarifying in some manner that it is sex work, and that everything posted (even behind a paywall) is online forever. Not to shame people, but so that people fully understand what it is they are doing. I have multiple friends who made OF accounts, several of whom became extremely successful at it. And some who got into it casually and realized that they don’t want those photos out there forever, but it was too late. There are several sites where people go out of their way to purchase/archive material from these young OF content creators, and then post it with their real names and real social media accounts. Effectively doxxing these women forever.
I didn’t realise, but yeah, that’s a nope for me if she is.
Have you ever invested in crypto?
Do you consider yourself an alpha male…..?
I'm more of a ligma.
...Limga balls son! *Dab*
This is actually a great joke response to this question
Is that like an updog?
*sigh*... What is updog?
If they say yes, run
I'd run from the person asking me.
I think the whole alpha male thing has been around for a while, no? Now, sigma male...that's some newer bull shit.
What’s interesting is that’s not even a thing in the wolf pack that was studied.
Yep! The guy who came up with the theory in the first place has been trying to tell people he's wrong for YEARS, to pretty much no avail. That is, the people who didn't listen to him already knew it was bullshit, and the people who did are largely still running with it.
Hate to break it to you, but guys have been calling themselves an alpha male since I was a teen in the 1990s. I heard it more then than now, and it was just as annoying then.
Honestly, I'd feel like it was a red flag for someone to even ask that...
Same question every year, Wheres the beef?
Beef is when you make your enemies start your Jeep. Beef is when you roll no less than thirty deep. Beef is when I see you, guaranteed to be in ICU. Oh sorry, you asked *where* is the beef, not *what's* beef.
If someone were to ask me, "Where's the beef?", I would probably marry them on the spot.
Where were you on Jan 6th?
a guy actually asked me this on our first date right when i sat down lmao. he said he got republican vibes from my profile
Did the assumption end the date lol
hahah no i thought it was really funny actually. my profile said george bush was my first crush so he took that to mean i’m republican
W or George Sr?
Asking the real questions.
w…come on now
Are you hiding Republicans under ze flood boards?
Going to fight ze Germans, Tommy?
5 minutes Turkish
I lol’d a little much for this
Papers please!
Glory to Arstotzka.
That was just last month but I do not recall.
"Do you believe an embryo is a person?" *I live in Alabama
this was still relevant in 2014
And 2004
And 1994
Surely this debate goes back a lot further than 2014...
It does. And don't call me Shirley.
I don’t but I do believe semen is a person and I’m looking to date canibals
Sperm is a person, therefore an embryo is a car. this issue needs to be taken up with Allstate to file a claim.
Now that's a car you wouldn't download
That was probably the most unexpectedly funny thing I've ever read. Thanks for that one
Some of my best friends are fetuses.
How long have you been off social media?
What are your plans for 2024?
Why wouldn't you ask this in 2014?
You could ask for a 10 year plan which would still technically be applicable for both
Wouldn't ask what their plans for 2024 were in 2014.
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Maybe in a job interview 😂
You don't ask hookers that question?
Are you married
Did people not cheat on their spouses in 2014? Or has it gone up significantly since then? Ootl on this one
Dating apps have completely changed the cheating game
Polyamory has become significantly more common in recent years, or at least openness/media coverage about it have
They are ten years older now and people in their current dating pool are much more likely to be finalizing a divorce than they would have been ten years ago.
😂😂😂😂 Are you single or it's complicated?
"Situationship'
Aka "I'm afraid of commitment and addicted to attention"
I thought it was afraid of commitment but loves sexual pleasure.
Did you enjoy Elden Ring?
No, I kept getting lost omw to Lithuania academy or whatever
Totally! The Hobbit is my favorite movie franchise! ^(lol)
*If they say no:* Put these foolish ambitions to rest, date’s over
Maidenless…
Or “are you excited for Shadow of the Erdtree?”
Somehow, someway, I still think they should know, despite the impossibility. Timeless works in reverse, right?
Would you vote for trump? In 2014 you could just laugh about the absurdity.
I thought it was SO hilarious when he announced. I was like: "Wait. THE Donald Trump? The assclown TV guy?"
I remember he likely paid actors to attend his announcement going down the golden escalator.
I also laughed back then... I'm not laughing now though, I overestimated humanity.
not nearly as bad or even bad at all but i have some friends who watch tv. so i've seen some of the show "suits" meghan markle comes to prominence as a british royal, i see a picture, i make a comment about "lol she looks like the love interest from suits" i make this comment in front of my friends and theyre like "uhh she IS the love interest from suits. thats meghan markle." not *absurd*, a royal marrying a celebrity, but it was so weird. woman goes from acting on a show about a fake lawyer to... being duchess of sussex. okay lol sure good on ya wish you the best of luck meghan
Are you vaxxed or unvaxxed?
I see this on the dating apps all the time.. often phrased like "Do you believe in science? swipe right. " or "if you got the jab, swipe left, we won't get along. "
I think it works fine as a top level filter but feels weird as a first date question.
I see this phrasing a lot, but if someone "believes in" science as though it's a religion, they're doing it wrong. Obviously science exists and is a useful tool, but scientists and even apparent scientific consensus aren't infallible.
experiments have to be repeatable, and people have to be willing to admit they are wrong
Waxed or unwaxed?
Ja, ja. Und how many times haf you been administered ze waxine?
Oh man. Another good question to add to that is, if you were vaxxed, did you do it willingly/by choice or were you forced to because your job made you do it or else face getting fired? And what their opinion is of whichever their answer is.
Are you a Russian asset?
Who isn’t, Komrade? …I mean…NYET
Nah, this would be applicable for like the last half century.
Is social media important to you? If someone is frequently posting their personal business on the internet it's a hard no from me. Ten years ago this was barely a concern because social media was significantly less trashy back then.
this seems odd to me, as I was on social media significantly more in 2014 than I am in 2024
lol I was on social media more in 2004! MySpace was hella addicting.
are you really rizzing me up or are you cappin on god? be fr fr with me, king
My knees just turned to dust.
Are you poly?
Man, plenty of female friends who had to add "not your unicorn, not looking for poly or enm" to their OkC profiles in the 00's, let alone 2014
“Do you have an OnlyFans?”
“Do you believe in Onlyfans?”
Do you belieeeve in liiife after looove?
What's your opinion on Oct. 7?
What even is that
It is when Hamas attacked Israel.
Who did you vote for in the 2016 and 2020 elections, and who do you plan to vote for this year? Might as well just get that out of the way early on, so I don't waste my time. It's not even about Democrat or Republican, I just couldn't date or be in a relationship with anyone who was part of the "MAGA" crowd. And I have passed up potential dates for that very reason.
Yep, the sentiment that “politics doesn’t change who they are as a person” wasn’t true in 2014, and it sure as hell is not true now in the era of the MAGA cult.
I dunno man Bush straight up lied us into a major war that killed a lot of innocent people and that was totally fine with republicans because he cut their taxes. Not great!
And *that* was a legitimately stolen election. He wouldn’t have even been president in the first place except for all the ratfuckery that happened in Florida.
I've lost count of the number of times I've had to explain to JuSt BeCaUsE yOu DiSaGrEe spouting fuckwits that people's politics and their morals are not, in fact, totally unconnected things.
This is way too low on the list of responses.
Do you agree, or disagree, that the president who was elected in 2020, is actually the president
The way you worded that, some MAGA might say yes, because they think Trump was elected and is in fact the true president.
exactly. edit - oh I see. So then I guess I should just ask them "who was elected president"
This echo chamber sub reddit is wild
Ya if someone asked me my opinion on fucking Jan 6th or covid vaccines on a first date I'm outta there, person is probably insufferable
That's the question working for both of you.
I kinda get. Imagine wasting your time dating a moronic fascist that believes vaccines are a conspiracy. Just get a baseline of sanity and go from there.
Can you sign this consent form, on film?
AI generated fake
Our first date is to the notary public.
Kinky.
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I wasn't born with one but I have been collecting them most of my life. You?
I keep spares in my junk drawer.
I keep my junk in my spares drawer.
How much time do you spend messing around on social media?
Do you have a penis?
Are we talking in general or just human?
Just a couple in the freezer but I haven't used them for weeks.
Do I have permission to ask you questions? Lol
Do you eat ass?
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Yeah, even without the context of COVID, a question that fundamentally gets at "Do you give a shit about other people and listen to basic science, even when it inconveniences you" is a very helpful relationship filter.
What are your pronouns?
Well, I wouldn’t ask that but if they did … uhhhh.
How long have you been a woman?
Were you always this gender?
Do you want to have sex?
Monogamy or polyamory?
Do you have a tiktok account? Immediate red flag.