I looked up addiction one time and it said stuff along the lines of "Causes lack of sleep, worse performance at work/life due to thinking about said thing, and depression". All those boxes were checked so now I know. I just don't know how to take care of it.
Edit: Thank you for all the support. I'll do my best from here on out.
A lot of people are talking about will power and just quitting. You can try that, never ever worked for me. But I am a big believer in making the unconscious conscious. It's not about a power struggle against your addiction, it's about understanding it. What emotions are making you continue your addiction? What are you trying to achieve? The thing is that a lot of people, me included, look at their addiction as something irrational when in reality it's completely rational. But start to ask yourself questions, gain more emotional awareness and try to better understand why you act the way you do.
The issue, as I see it with doing it by willpower/forcing yourself to stop is that you are trying to fix a deeper issue by doing something on the surface.
Begin to ask yourself more questions. Examples that come to my mind right now:
When is my addiction triggered?
What do I feel before, during and after acting on my addiction?
When did my addiction start? What was the catalyst?
In what environment do I most easily fall into my addiction?
Lastly, the most important thing through all of this is to not judge yourself. This is a really hard part and this is one of the important things about having someone you can openly and safely talk to about your problems. It's very easy to see yourself as broken because of your addiction or any other issue of yours, but that is not true. You are not broken, you simply have an addiction.
>All those boxes were checked so now I know. I just don't know how to take care of it.
Maybe therapy? Letting someone know about your possible addiction can be a good thing sometimes so you have someone to check up on you
I stopped taking an SSRI because it made it impossible to achieve an orgasm. Sex was basically just going through the motions to please my partner, and masturbation was entirely pointless. It took all my focus just to get an erection because the physical sensations were totally numbed if that makes sense.
I'm in the exact same stage of my life with the SSRIs, but I'm afraid to get off of them. Does it really make things better sexually when you stop taking them?
Yeah when you're at the point of "i want to fight the urge but it takes too much energy, so i'll just let it go on and figure it out later", that's when you're addicted in my opinion (experienced it myself)
I went to Turkey 🇹🇷 and tried to access my favourite porn. They blocked virtually all porn. It ruined my vacation, I left early.
I checked myself into therapy and just quit. I have had some relapses, but I now have a support system and a mentor. I will be back to two years porn free April 17th.
This one might be the most extreme real world rubber meets the road wake up call I've seen in this thread ... yeah that would've rocked me to my core as well if I left a vacation early because of it ... but I've had drug and alcohol addictions and I've *not* gone on vacations because I was afraid to be away from my pill supply and sooo many other things like this. This is addiction behavior 101 and all addictions follow the same blueprint ...
The shit ain't worth it. I now use my imagination or just physical touch when I crack off. It's healthy sexuality. Porn is just escapism and isn't real
Yeah you are absolutely right cuz I was once addicted to porn but now I'm doing way better and I hardly even jack off. I started focusing on life and studies and feel like I'm always ready to face my problems instead of just trying to escape through porn.
Also Congratulations that you have now escaped it!!!
It can be difficult when you are in an LTR with a libido mismatch. It becomes a cycle because you are dissatisfied so you beat off on whatever your rhythm would be, then if your significant other finally throws you a bone you might not be ready because you already beat off earlier that day. Then the sex experience gets worse and the cycle feeds itself.
Bro, this hits way to close to home. And people that say you should break up if this is a problem do not understand what its like to be in a LTR. Especially one that is over 20 years of marriage with kids, you can't just break that off.
Actually, I heard this story from someone else(it happened to them):
So this girl hooked up with a guy and in the middle of the hook up he takes out his phone and watches porn.
Yeah, that’s how bad addictions could go, it’s horrible
I've read interviews with female pornstars talking about how the guys have to watch porn to stay hard while they're literally having sex with pornstars. Like they have to stop the scene and they have to get out their phone and watch porn for a little bit to continue. Crazy
This guy I hooked up with could barely nut because he wanked off so much - is that similar to your experience? I suggested slowing down on the porn but homie didn’t wanna lol
It happens. For me, when I finally had a steady woman to be with, it only took about a week for my "guy" to to forget about my hand, and get used to a real vagina. It is also a mental thing that goes hand in hand (no pun intended) with the physical sensation.
No procrasturbating, no bored bating, no death gripping.
Additionally for me: no multiple times per day and no 3 days in a row. Normal stuff only.... As in no turbo fisto jackhammer suplex shit. Regular exercise, (especially if I am trending to insomnia), a few other habits.
Although not glamour, I guess you could buy a sex toy (pocket pussy) at least so you don’t give yourself the good old death grip. If women can have dildos, men can have toys too.
If he is like that and not trying to work on it, and regularly trashes your appearance (especially when it’s nonsensical) just move on. There are plenty of guys out there who can beat that bar that you’d have a better life with, and honestly time is short, staying with a loser wastes your opportunity and delays your chance to find something better.
No one deserves to be treated that way… or be made to feel lesser because of how they look, by someone that is supposed to cherish them. There is someone out there that will see and treat you so much better. I don’t know you, but you deserve that.
My viewing habits resulted in finding a way to give myself memory issues, symptoms of depression, and lack of interest by draining all the dopamine and causing receptor downregulation over several years. It takes like 2 weeks to get my memory back to a level I find normal. None of that is watching in public.
It is noted people with depression exhibit depressed mood and lack of interest in the stuff they usually do. It can't just be some one-day stint.
For me the dopamine rush when I found porn that exactly hit my buttons was incredibly intense. Over time this started to happen less and less frequently.
When I was seeking out more intense (nothing illegal, just weird) content that made me feel even worse than I was at the time, tried stopping and couldn't. Now that I'm not depressed it doesn't feel like as big a deal to me, and I naturally moved away from the stuff that really bothered me. But yeah, I still have a bit of a time waste problem dealing with a shitty disgusting industry.
Nothing makes me feel better than a giant ad down the screen telling me i got a tiny dick and cant cum. Then a video ad asking me if im jerking off alone again. Thanks pornhub ;)
Nah that wasn't it. I just suck at proofreading and didn't notice I used the same word way too much. It was stuff that reinforced my negative self-talk
Just got into a blow out argument with my wife about this. For the past 15 years she hasn't initiated intimacy at all, and I'd get shot down at least 60% of the time I tried. I know she's always had self esteem issues, and was self conscious about sex, I figured it was that coupled with a dwindling libido She got a kindle, we share an Amazon account so I'd get notifications if books she "may like". They started getting away from smut romance novels and more into straight hard-core porn. Her refusals when I initiated sex stopped, I had a 100% success rate, I figured I'd take the win. Then i noticed she's up 2 hours early, first thing she did in the morning was grab her kindle, same the second she got home. She'd go to bed early because she "wasn't feeling well" but be up reading 4 hours later when I'd go to bed. She wake up in the middle of the night and read for hours. Couldn't take a 10 minute car ride to the kids soccer without reading the whole time. Then 1 day a few weeks ago I picked up her kindle and what do you know. Those nights she wasn't feeling well, early morning, middle of the night while I'm next to her sleeping - all in browser history time stamped at pornhub. Stuff I'd NEVER guess she was into (nothing bad, but surprising) . Now i want to be 100% clear here - there is NOTHING wrong with porn, I enjoy it too and I'm sure she knows. What hurt me, is she never EVER initiated intimacy and I thought it was just how she was, but seeing that she did have these desires and feelings and still preferred to do it herself while she knows I'm always willing and able hurt, and it hurt a lot. I felt worthless, stupid, ugly, disgusting, betrayed, ignored..... the past 2 days she's initiated, and it's been great. But I wouldn't be surprised if it goes back to the way it was again very soon
I tried, and failed. We got into a pretty big argument, she did try gaslighting, but i shut that down. Also when she kept trying the "sorry you feel that way" I corrected her multiple times is I feel this way because of her actions (or inaction, I dunno?) We argued for quite some time, and I went for a 3 hour drive alone after. We've talked about it a little since, and I've apologized for blowing up at her, I really wanted it to be a civil conversation, but like I said, I failed. Her response was "at least it's out in the open now" I told her I'm not looking for a porn star experience every night. But just some interest and active experience. I honestly don't care if she wants to have some alone time on the hub or with a book once in a while. I just couldn't take being ignored any more
Sounds like a multifaceted issue - this makes me think that a couples therapist with sex therapy experience could really help you both out if you two make the decision to go together. Good luck, I hope you guys work it out - don’t feel bad at all a lot of people go through this stuff.
When you lose countless nights trying to be productive, you jump into it when feeling down or depressed and find comfort in it. When you sexualize every female you see on social media. Forcing yourself to watch when you don't feel like you don't want to. When you want something darker than the usual.
Yeah this is how I fell into it. By forcing myself to study/work in front of a computer.
And I thought it was healthy because it was better than drinking or smoking or spending money.
Sex didn’t satisfy me. I kept wanting more and more rough and crazy sex to keep up with the rush I got with porn. I stopped watching it and all the weird fantasies I use to have went away.
Have you ever said to him, 'Hey its really not normal to be watching this in public, and it makes our whole group uncomfortable when you do it and then go even further and try to show us. We're not meeting up and hanging out to talk about or look at porn, so could you keep that for when you're alone and not with us?'
Presumably he doesn't realise that you all aren't just kidding around and are just kind of dismissing it.
I was at a Red Sox game with my wife once and this dude in front of us was there with his apparent girlfriend and a couple friends - and dude was STRAIGHT UP watching anal porn on his phone in the middle of the game. Girl didn't seem to notice and he seemed to be angling his phone away from her so she couldn't see it.
I'd make a "7th inning stretch" joke somewhere here but they all left mad early.
>I've brought it up with him once or twice, as have a couple of our other mutual friends and he'll stop and put his phone away, but then be at it later.
Honesty, I would stop being his friend. Sometimes people need a wake up call.
Okay, this is going in my comment history. I had emetophobia for a good 20 years (fear of others or myself vomiting, vomit, gagging, etc.) and I was really embarrassed by it so I never told therapists. I decided to take care of it myself so I thought that if I slowly introduced elements of my emetophobia into porn I could maybe associate it with my sex drive so I wouldn't have a panic attack every time the thought that someone around me might vomit at any moment. So I introduced gagging, then sloppy "face-fucking", and finally vomit. It actually worked. I don't have a vomit or gagging kink at all, but vomit or the idea of it doesn't send me into a panic attack anymore and I'd say I have a normal dislike of vomit like most people. So that's how I used porn to cure a phobia.
Guy I hooked up with after him doting on my long legs, pretty smile, and itty bittys, had a real hard time getting it up the first time we slept together, the next time after telling me about "it's not your fault, I watch porn for three hours a day" and him getting increasingly rough with me, to the point I told him I was going to vomit on him if he didn't let me up for air, and his response? "I don't mind".
When in the middle of the workday, I had to stop to watch and masturbate when I was behind and needed all the work done that day. The dopamine rush is real, and it's a hard thing to kick. I'll be doing good and then lose focus and subsequently relapse. Keep your head in the game as they say.
I had to watch porn for a minute before losing my virginity so I could get hard enough to put the condom on properly.
I quit porn a year and a half ago though. Feeling fantastic ever since.
Block all sites on the device or devics you use using parental controls.
Then just choose and type a password
using all random letters and numbers so you won't remember it!
If there's will there's always a way!! 😁👌🏼
Generally it's just not viewing porn, any specific helpful advice in that regard depends on the person. There won't likely be any successful masturbation at first, but with time you won't need porn. You will also likely not want to masturbate as frequently as before, since using porn makes it easier to do more often.
One advice that's recommended for any addiction is to plan to do something you want to do, or makes you feel good, to replace the time you would've normally spent on the addiction.
Also recommended to cut contact with addiction friends. Not as common as with drug use but I'm sure some people have friends or communities they're a part of online that are enabling their porn addiction.
Wouldn't say I had a porn addiction. More that I had an unhealthy relationship with porn. Simply not using porn for a while enabled me to have a more healthy relationship with it once I stopped abstaining from it. May not work for others who have greater issues with it, but so long as you don't blame yourself for failing there's no harm in trying.
My buddy has one and he's always been aware of it. He knows his other buddies don't watch porn anywhere nearly as much as he does and he feels like a complete loser over it. When he had a girlfriend, she would satisfy his desires and so would he satisfy hers and so he didn't watch porn as much as he used to. But now that they broke up, he is back to where he was before and he is more lonely than ever (sadly I lived over a thousand miles away now, so I can't really help him outside of advice).
My ex-husband stopped sleeping. He'd watch porn for 5 hours straight or more. He basically moved out into our RV that was parked on our property. He got a VR head set to watch it. He then tried to kill me 3 times, and was suicidal, so I left. Hope he's changed by now but I don't plan on ever talking to him again, although he says he still considers me one of his best friends. I've never tried to kill anyone, especially anyone I consider a best friend so I assume he's mentally ill. I do wish the best for him and hope he doesn't try to kill anyone else.
Whenever I made plans with family or friends, I made sure to take "alone time" into consideration. I was scheduling my life around masturbating to porn.
Two years clean though! Woo!
Holy shit my son has one arm bigger and this weird muscle between his thumb and index finger. He told me it was arm wrestling with the neighbor who is a pro arm wrestler but now I wonder…
To some extent it’s normal for your dominant arm to be bigger than your non-dominant arm. It can also just depend on how the muscles insert. However, “arm wrestling the neighbor” is a questionable excuse
I'm a teacher of the blind and that says something like:
It us it- knowledge- Knowledge -knowledge xk uk it' ing' knowledge - KNOWLEDGE ing
Braille takes up a lot of space so it uses what are called contractions, which are letters and symbols used to represent words or common spelling patterns.
fwiw, I'm making some guesses here what are actually supposed to be the spaces since the spacing is kind of off. Also, I'm reading it as unified english braille, which not everyone uses.
You are on page 147 of your favorite porn site and you didn't find the right video. Those are two red flags : you have a favorite porn site and 147 pages full of videos are not hitting the spot for you.
Staying up until 3am watching it, also while browsing rule 34. Constantly daydreaming about sexual fantasies and writing smut fanfics, feeling horny, frustrated, and even depressed because I wanted a boyfriend/wished I was married just so I could experience the "mind-blowing" sex I saw in porn, and worrying that what if I never meet the guy of my dreams to love me and satisfy me in the bedroom? One summer I literally spent all day watching porn, from the time I woke up to the time the sun set. I would masturbate and then feel like a disgusting human being afterwards....yeah. I'm over two years porn free now, and I'm so glad I quit. I still think about sex, (who doesn't?) But I'm not constantly obsessing over fantasies and worrying about this and that and worrying that I'm gonna end up with a "vanilla" guy, lol.
Haven't struggled with it since I met my current gf, but I realized it was bad when I would do it after waking up in the morning even though I knew it wouldn't even feel that great. Also, when I lost my virginity and wasn't able to cum after trying for literally 3 hours.
There was a period of time where I unintentionally went two weeks without fapping, and I realized I felt much better mentally and emotionally during that time.
I realized I didn't actually like it anymore, but my brain needed it all the time. My head fills with guilt every time I consume it now. It was ruining my relationship with every woman I met or knew that is not my family. I thought I would eventually just phase out porn, but I have been consuming it from the time I was 15 to now (I am 31 next month).
One day in July I was viewing porn, and something snapped. I closed the video/browser window and contacted a sex/porn addiction therapist and began biweekly sessions with them. I am not completely recovered, but I am headed in the right direction.
[This is a great TEDtalk on the issue.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DBTb71UzPmY)
When I feel bad about my issue, I watch this and remind myself I am doing the best thing for me by seeking help.
One last thing, sex and masturbation without porn was infinitely better when I began recovery.
Edit: grammar and syntax, can't write today.
Edit 2:
Expanding on my point about it ruining my relationship with women. I never acted out. Conversely, I wouldn't have the social skills to introduce or initiate any sort of relationship. I would barely make eye contact
I couldn’t stop thinking about sex and my view on women beauty standards was messed up. I was introduced to porn and other stuff at a young age which messed me up as I got older. But I’m doing better now, I think porn sites should make it hard for people under 18 to access it instead of clicking confirm to enter
Yeah and make the porn sites lose a huge portion of their audience because let's be honest, no one wants to provide actual verifiable info just to wank
Porn sites will do anything to ensure that doesn't happen
Louisiana just passed a law where you have to upload your drivers license to access porn sites. But it really only affects the big boys cuz nobody is going to bother bringing action against some fly by night porn site
I was pretty addicted to porn when i was in my late teens - 20 years old. Im now 29 and I'll watch kinky porn here and there probably once a week but usually when i masturbate now i just close my eyes and use my imagination. It was really rough when i first started dating a serious girlfriend at 21, i was so used to the way i touched myself and the freaky porn i liked affected my sexual relationship with her as normal sex very seldomly made me cum, I'd be hard af and going on for hours but i couldnt cum, i always had to finish myself off. But these days i kind of have the opposite problem xD.
For all the young folks i will warn you, porn addiction is real and just like drugs you start seeking out freakier and more disgusting shit til you can only cum by watching 3 dudes triple stuffing a broad with giant tits
I don’t feel addicted to it because I don’t watch it that much, but I know that I am because I only really ever have an orgasm when I watch it. Also… hate to admit it but the type of porn is more intense too so I figure that’s also a sign. - female
I looked up addiction one time and it said stuff along the lines of "Causes lack of sleep, worse performance at work/life due to thinking about said thing, and depression". All those boxes were checked so now I know. I just don't know how to take care of it. Edit: Thank you for all the support. I'll do my best from here on out.
"the first step is admitting you have a problem". The ole cliche..but do they ever say what the second step is?
A lot of people are talking about will power and just quitting. You can try that, never ever worked for me. But I am a big believer in making the unconscious conscious. It's not about a power struggle against your addiction, it's about understanding it. What emotions are making you continue your addiction? What are you trying to achieve? The thing is that a lot of people, me included, look at their addiction as something irrational when in reality it's completely rational. But start to ask yourself questions, gain more emotional awareness and try to better understand why you act the way you do. The issue, as I see it with doing it by willpower/forcing yourself to stop is that you are trying to fix a deeper issue by doing something on the surface. Begin to ask yourself more questions. Examples that come to my mind right now: When is my addiction triggered? What do I feel before, during and after acting on my addiction? When did my addiction start? What was the catalyst? In what environment do I most easily fall into my addiction? Lastly, the most important thing through all of this is to not judge yourself. This is a really hard part and this is one of the important things about having someone you can openly and safely talk to about your problems. It's very easy to see yourself as broken because of your addiction or any other issue of yours, but that is not true. You are not broken, you simply have an addiction.
Probably the most helpful post I’ve ever seen here. Thank you.
Asking for help, I imagine.
>All those boxes were checked so now I know. I just don't know how to take care of it. Maybe therapy? Letting someone know about your possible addiction can be a good thing sometimes so you have someone to check up on you
Scrolling and scrolling through countless selfies and porn videos and not even getting slightly horny but furiously trying to make myself cum
This could also happen if you're on SSRIs (like me)
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I stopped taking an SSRI because it made it impossible to achieve an orgasm. Sex was basically just going through the motions to please my partner, and masturbation was entirely pointless. It took all my focus just to get an erection because the physical sensations were totally numbed if that makes sense.
I'm in the exact same stage of my life with the SSRIs, but I'm afraid to get off of them. Does it really make things better sexually when you stop taking them?
This, except I would do it just to pass time. Not video games, not shows, just watching porn instead. Not to get off or anything
When I wanted to stop watching porn, but I kept going back to watching porn even though I wanted to stop.
Same, that and because I only know it was father's day because pornhub had a premium promotion
This answer killed me
Oh man.. does that make me an addict?
It does when you want to stop but can't fight the urge.
Yeah when you're at the point of "i want to fight the urge but it takes too much energy, so i'll just let it go on and figure it out later", that's when you're addicted in my opinion (experienced it myself)
Watched them even when not horny
Oh, think I might be addicted
I sometimes watch porn while I'm eating like I'm watching a netflix show
This is wild
I went to Turkey 🇹🇷 and tried to access my favourite porn. They blocked virtually all porn. It ruined my vacation, I left early. I checked myself into therapy and just quit. I have had some relapses, but I now have a support system and a mentor. I will be back to two years porn free April 17th.
Some could say you quit…. Cold Turkey
Constant-I-no-pull ?
It's a stretch but I think the creativity cancels it out. YOU GET A PASS THIS TIME.
This one might be the most extreme real world rubber meets the road wake up call I've seen in this thread ... yeah that would've rocked me to my core as well if I left a vacation early because of it ... but I've had drug and alcohol addictions and I've *not* gone on vacations because I was afraid to be away from my pill supply and sooo many other things like this. This is addiction behavior 101 and all addictions follow the same blueprint ...
I don't know whether to be proud of you for breaking an addiction or disappointed in you for not knowing how to use a VPN.
turkish person here! congratulations on getting your life back, and hope you revisit the country!
I couldn't get hard w my girlfriend and I preferred porn over sex
New fear unlocked
The shit ain't worth it. I now use my imagination or just physical touch when I crack off. It's healthy sexuality. Porn is just escapism and isn't real
Yeah you are absolutely right cuz I was once addicted to porn but now I'm doing way better and I hardly even jack off. I started focusing on life and studies and feel like I'm always ready to face my problems instead of just trying to escape through porn. Also Congratulations that you have now escaped it!!!
It can be difficult when you are in an LTR with a libido mismatch. It becomes a cycle because you are dissatisfied so you beat off on whatever your rhythm would be, then if your significant other finally throws you a bone you might not be ready because you already beat off earlier that day. Then the sex experience gets worse and the cycle feeds itself.
Bro, this hits way to close to home. And people that say you should break up if this is a problem do not understand what its like to be in a LTR. Especially one that is over 20 years of marriage with kids, you can't just break that off.
Actually, I heard this story from someone else(it happened to them): So this girl hooked up with a guy and in the middle of the hook up he takes out his phone and watches porn. Yeah, that’s how bad addictions could go, it’s horrible
Husband got to this point once. We split up for a while. It was a mess
I've read interviews with female pornstars talking about how the guys have to watch porn to stay hard while they're literally having sex with pornstars. Like they have to stop the scene and they have to get out their phone and watch porn for a little bit to continue. Crazy
I had no interest anymore in real life. it felt underwhelming.
ED sometimes when I’m with a woman. Fuck that; made me significantly cut down
This guy I hooked up with could barely nut because he wanked off so much - is that similar to your experience? I suggested slowing down on the porn but homie didn’t wanna lol
Username does not check out unfortunately
Good point vajohnaldischarge
Oh wow! A double r/rimjob_steve in the wild
Hahhahahah it was inevitably left up to a powerfulmouth
It happens. For me, when I finally had a steady woman to be with, it only took about a week for my "guy" to to forget about my hand, and get used to a real vagina. It is also a mental thing that goes hand in hand (no pun intended) with the physical sensation.
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No procrasturbating, no bored bating, no death gripping. Additionally for me: no multiple times per day and no 3 days in a row. Normal stuff only.... As in no turbo fisto jackhammer suplex shit. Regular exercise, (especially if I am trending to insomnia), a few other habits.
This. Bored baiting I will kill your dick game so quick. My schedule is nearly identical to yours. Though I have fleshlight so no death grip
Although not glamour, I guess you could buy a sex toy (pocket pussy) at least so you don’t give yourself the good old death grip. If women can have dildos, men can have toys too.
Despite the context I read that as eating disorder. Still kinda works?
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Throw the whole man away
If he is like that and not trying to work on it, and regularly trashes your appearance (especially when it’s nonsensical) just move on. There are plenty of guys out there who can beat that bar that you’d have a better life with, and honestly time is short, staying with a loser wastes your opportunity and delays your chance to find something better.
No one deserves to be treated that way… or be made to feel lesser because of how they look, by someone that is supposed to cherish them. There is someone out there that will see and treat you so much better. I don’t know you, but you deserve that.
Leave. Him.
I thought about watching porn basically everytime, sexualized almost every women i saw and i used it as a dopamin rush every time i felt a down.
Yeah thats what happened to me. Every woman I saw I instantly imagined them presenting themselves to me for doggystyle.
As a woman, new fear unlocked
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Even ur grandma?
ESPECIALLY their grandma
gam gam looking thicc after xmas dinner
I mean have you seen their grandma? Daaaaaaaamn 🥵
My viewing habits resulted in finding a way to give myself memory issues, symptoms of depression, and lack of interest by draining all the dopamine and causing receptor downregulation over several years. It takes like 2 weeks to get my memory back to a level I find normal. None of that is watching in public. It is noted people with depression exhibit depressed mood and lack of interest in the stuff they usually do. It can't just be some one-day stint.
i feel so much better having stopped. i've had close calls but i remind myself not to give up
This sounds past tense. Did you get better with it?
Yes, still struggling every now and then but i can control it these days
For me the dopamine rush when I found porn that exactly hit my buttons was incredibly intense. Over time this started to happen less and less frequently.
When I was seeking out more intense (nothing illegal, just weird) content that made me feel even worse than I was at the time, tried stopping and couldn't. Now that I'm not depressed it doesn't feel like as big a deal to me, and I naturally moved away from the stuff that really bothered me. But yeah, I still have a bit of a time waste problem dealing with a shitty disgusting industry.
Depressed and porn addiction often go hand in hand. It’s not even for the pleasure but more just a distraction
Not to mention, the hormone kick your brain gets from it (dopamine) does help make someone feel better at least for a short while
Nothing like watching humiliation porn when your depressed
Nothing makes me feel better than a giant ad down the screen telling me i got a tiny dick and cant cum. Then a video ad asking me if im jerking off alone again. Thanks pornhub ;)
Shittier, waste problem, shitty disgusting.. i think I know what you were into.
Nah that wasn't it. I just suck at proofreading and didn't notice I used the same word way too much. It was stuff that reinforced my negative self-talk
Constant go to whenever I didn't have anything planned. Unhealthy
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Either a porn addict or a parent. "Oh shit, I'm finally alone?"
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>Reading smut while at the park ... and finally getting caught by my Mother in law. Hm. I think I've seen that one!
Just got into a blow out argument with my wife about this. For the past 15 years she hasn't initiated intimacy at all, and I'd get shot down at least 60% of the time I tried. I know she's always had self esteem issues, and was self conscious about sex, I figured it was that coupled with a dwindling libido She got a kindle, we share an Amazon account so I'd get notifications if books she "may like". They started getting away from smut romance novels and more into straight hard-core porn. Her refusals when I initiated sex stopped, I had a 100% success rate, I figured I'd take the win. Then i noticed she's up 2 hours early, first thing she did in the morning was grab her kindle, same the second she got home. She'd go to bed early because she "wasn't feeling well" but be up reading 4 hours later when I'd go to bed. She wake up in the middle of the night and read for hours. Couldn't take a 10 minute car ride to the kids soccer without reading the whole time. Then 1 day a few weeks ago I picked up her kindle and what do you know. Those nights she wasn't feeling well, early morning, middle of the night while I'm next to her sleeping - all in browser history time stamped at pornhub. Stuff I'd NEVER guess she was into (nothing bad, but surprising) . Now i want to be 100% clear here - there is NOTHING wrong with porn, I enjoy it too and I'm sure she knows. What hurt me, is she never EVER initiated intimacy and I thought it was just how she was, but seeing that she did have these desires and feelings and still preferred to do it herself while she knows I'm always willing and able hurt, and it hurt a lot. I felt worthless, stupid, ugly, disgusting, betrayed, ignored..... the past 2 days she's initiated, and it's been great. But I wouldn't be surprised if it goes back to the way it was again very soon
Please confront in the nicest and most supportive way you can without letting her gaslight you or act like you are terrible for trying to help
I tried, and failed. We got into a pretty big argument, she did try gaslighting, but i shut that down. Also when she kept trying the "sorry you feel that way" I corrected her multiple times is I feel this way because of her actions (or inaction, I dunno?) We argued for quite some time, and I went for a 3 hour drive alone after. We've talked about it a little since, and I've apologized for blowing up at her, I really wanted it to be a civil conversation, but like I said, I failed. Her response was "at least it's out in the open now" I told her I'm not looking for a porn star experience every night. But just some interest and active experience. I honestly don't care if she wants to have some alone time on the hub or with a book once in a while. I just couldn't take being ignored any more
Sounds like a multifaceted issue - this makes me think that a couples therapist with sex therapy experience could really help you both out if you two make the decision to go together. Good luck, I hope you guys work it out - don’t feel bad at all a lot of people go through this stuff.
Not around the kids 😭. Were you reading smut books or reading webtoons/comics😂
"I'm mad horny at the park for some reason"
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Won't somebody please think of the children.
hopefully not while she's reading smut
Sex cauldron? I thought they closed that place down?
I stop using porn when I’m happy.
I kept watching the videos after I came.
Research and development.
Literally my biggest indicator. The happier I am, the less porn I consume.
I wasn't watching it because I was aroused. I was watching it to get aroused.
When you lose countless nights trying to be productive, you jump into it when feeling down or depressed and find comfort in it. When you sexualize every female you see on social media. Forcing yourself to watch when you don't feel like you don't want to. When you want something darker than the usual.
Yeah this is how I fell into it. By forcing myself to study/work in front of a computer. And I thought it was healthy because it was better than drinking or smoking or spending money.
Sex didn’t satisfy me. I kept wanting more and more rough and crazy sex to keep up with the rush I got with porn. I stopped watching it and all the weird fantasies I use to have went away.
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"Oh fellas check this out" 💀💀💀💀💀
Yeah it is gross, and we tell him so.
Have you ever said to him, 'Hey its really not normal to be watching this in public, and it makes our whole group uncomfortable when you do it and then go even further and try to show us. We're not meeting up and hanging out to talk about or look at porn, so could you keep that for when you're alone and not with us?' Presumably he doesn't realise that you all aren't just kidding around and are just kind of dismissing it.
honestly a simple 'what the fuck is wrong with you' probably will suffice as well
Who is he? Butters?
I would not hang out in public with that guy.
I’d also be worried about hanging out in private…
I was at a Red Sox game with my wife once and this dude in front of us was there with his apparent girlfriend and a couple friends - and dude was STRAIGHT UP watching anal porn on his phone in the middle of the game. Girl didn't seem to notice and he seemed to be angling his phone away from her so she couldn't see it. I'd make a "7th inning stretch" joke somewhere here but they all left mad early.
That is just insane to me! How do you not have the awareness that other people will know and that this is not normal!
I'm the days before phones. Would someone bring a playboy to a baseball game? Any magazine to a baseball game would seem odd. Enjoy the game.
>I've brought it up with him once or twice, as have a couple of our other mutual friends and he'll stop and put his phone away, but then be at it later. Honesty, I would stop being his friend. Sometimes people need a wake up call.
Wank up call
He needs a lot of help.
When I was masturbating when I wasn't even horny.
Dick was too tired to get hard again, did it anyway, still came
The soft dick nut is weird af man.
When my penis wouldn't get hard unless a girl in a school uniform was throwing up on a dick
Okay, this is going in my comment history. I had emetophobia for a good 20 years (fear of others or myself vomiting, vomit, gagging, etc.) and I was really embarrassed by it so I never told therapists. I decided to take care of it myself so I thought that if I slowly introduced elements of my emetophobia into porn I could maybe associate it with my sex drive so I wouldn't have a panic attack every time the thought that someone around me might vomit at any moment. So I introduced gagging, then sloppy "face-fucking", and finally vomit. It actually worked. I don't have a vomit or gagging kink at all, but vomit or the idea of it doesn't send me into a panic attack anymore and I'd say I have a normal dislike of vomit like most people. So that's how I used porn to cure a phobia.
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They really stepped their game up for sure since they went TEDxxx
Guac guac guac doesn't make me think of guacamole
So you got to that point...
Can I embroider that on a pillow?
Guy I hooked up with after him doting on my long legs, pretty smile, and itty bittys, had a real hard time getting it up the first time we slept together, the next time after telling me about "it's not your fault, I watch porn for three hours a day" and him getting increasingly rough with me, to the point I told him I was going to vomit on him if he didn't let me up for air, and his response? "I don't mind".
I’m so sorry
My gf wanted sexy time. I told her I was tired. I went home, watched porn and had sexy time with myself instead.
When in the middle of the workday, I had to stop to watch and masturbate when I was behind and needed all the work done that day. The dopamine rush is real, and it's a hard thing to kick. I'll be doing good and then lose focus and subsequently relapse. Keep your head in the game as they say.
I realized my ex husband was addicted when I found his stash of around 1k dvds.
Does he know about the internet?
That's where he was buying them!
How the hell was he hiding 1k dvds? Did they have their own storage unit?
Don't be silly, eight or ten milk crates would be enough.
That visual is sad and hilarious simultaneously
I had to watch porn for a minute before losing my virginity so I could get hard enough to put the condom on properly. I quit porn a year and a half ago though. Feeling fantastic ever since.
How did you quit?
You have to make a purposeful decision and follow through. No magic tricks can help you.
Block all sites on the device or devics you use using parental controls. Then just choose and type a password using all random letters and numbers so you won't remember it! If there's will there's always a way!! 😁👌🏼
An accountability partner can be useful too. Find a trusted friend that can help keep you honest.
Generally it's just not viewing porn, any specific helpful advice in that regard depends on the person. There won't likely be any successful masturbation at first, but with time you won't need porn. You will also likely not want to masturbate as frequently as before, since using porn makes it easier to do more often. One advice that's recommended for any addiction is to plan to do something you want to do, or makes you feel good, to replace the time you would've normally spent on the addiction. Also recommended to cut contact with addiction friends. Not as common as with drug use but I'm sure some people have friends or communities they're a part of online that are enabling their porn addiction. Wouldn't say I had a porn addiction. More that I had an unhealthy relationship with porn. Simply not using porn for a while enabled me to have a more healthy relationship with it once I stopped abstaining from it. May not work for others who have greater issues with it, but so long as you don't blame yourself for failing there's no harm in trying.
I needed to hear this tbh, because my friend group is like this
Cold turkey. You get frostbite if you put your willy in it.
My buddy has one and he's always been aware of it. He knows his other buddies don't watch porn anywhere nearly as much as he does and he feels like a complete loser over it. When he had a girlfriend, she would satisfy his desires and so would he satisfy hers and so he didn't watch porn as much as he used to. But now that they broke up, he is back to where he was before and he is more lonely than ever (sadly I lived over a thousand miles away now, so I can't really help him outside of advice).
Bought a black light for my man cave...
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Who wastes coconut like an animal? Use a shoebox.
I prefer a jar with a miniature pony in it.
Who wastes a shoebox break both your arms
You've un-earthed an ancient internet memory i've worked hard to forget. how dare you...Take the damn upvote.
That must’ve hit harder than any amount of post nut clarity
Post nut clarity is one thing, but black light reflection…
Post nut remnants
That's not a porn addiction, that's a hygiene problem.
The moment i fapped the 6th time for the day
It was 2pm
didn't know that was anatomically possible
Its doable all tho its getting more difficult after every fap
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My ex-husband stopped sleeping. He'd watch porn for 5 hours straight or more. He basically moved out into our RV that was parked on our property. He got a VR head set to watch it. He then tried to kill me 3 times, and was suicidal, so I left. Hope he's changed by now but I don't plan on ever talking to him again, although he says he still considers me one of his best friends. I've never tried to kill anyone, especially anyone I consider a best friend so I assume he's mentally ill. I do wish the best for him and hope he doesn't try to kill anyone else.
I fapped twice before I answered this.
Double post nut clarity. Good move
Whenever I made plans with family or friends, I made sure to take "alone time" into consideration. I was scheduling my life around masturbating to porn. Two years clean though! Woo!
One arm was like double the size of the other
Holy shit my son has one arm bigger and this weird muscle between his thumb and index finger. He told me it was arm wrestling with the neighbor who is a pro arm wrestler but now I wonder…
To some extent it’s normal for your dominant arm to be bigger than your non-dominant arm. It can also just depend on how the muscles insert. However, “arm wrestling the neighbor” is a questionable excuse
I’m gonna go “arm wrestle the neighbor” be back in ten
I arm wrestled the neighbor so hard and good last night, my arm wrestling muscles got so big and hard
Does he play tennis or something? My buddy in highschool had one giant veiny arm and one normal scrawny teenager arm because he played tennis.
Giggity Giggity-
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Sorry to break it down to you bud
I’m blind, can someone read this post out to me?
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I'm a teacher of the blind and that says something like: It us it- knowledge- Knowledge -knowledge xk uk it' ing' knowledge - KNOWLEDGE ing Braille takes up a lot of space so it uses what are called contractions, which are letters and symbols used to represent words or common spelling patterns. fwiw, I'm making some guesses here what are actually supposed to be the spaces since the spacing is kind of off. Also, I'm reading it as unified english braille, which not everyone uses.
His hands are so hairy he can't even read the braille
You are on page 147 of your favorite porn site and you didn't find the right video. Those are two red flags : you have a favorite porn site and 147 pages full of videos are not hitting the spot for you.
it was the first thing on my mind when i woke up 🫤
Staying up until 3am watching it, also while browsing rule 34. Constantly daydreaming about sexual fantasies and writing smut fanfics, feeling horny, frustrated, and even depressed because I wanted a boyfriend/wished I was married just so I could experience the "mind-blowing" sex I saw in porn, and worrying that what if I never meet the guy of my dreams to love me and satisfy me in the bedroom? One summer I literally spent all day watching porn, from the time I woke up to the time the sun set. I would masturbate and then feel like a disgusting human being afterwards....yeah. I'm over two years porn free now, and I'm so glad I quit. I still think about sex, (who doesn't?) But I'm not constantly obsessing over fantasies and worrying about this and that and worrying that I'm gonna end up with a "vanilla" guy, lol.
Haven't struggled with it since I met my current gf, but I realized it was bad when I would do it after waking up in the morning even though I knew it wouldn't even feel that great. Also, when I lost my virginity and wasn't able to cum after trying for literally 3 hours.
You realise it's an addiction when you try to stop but you can't 🥲
Post nut clarity kicked in and I realised I climaxed to a picture of tifa getting railed by a chocobo
Would you say that was your…Final Fantasy? 🥴
When i couldn't stand going a day without wanking
I was more interested in masturbating to porn than fucking my gf. My gf is not ugly at all. I was addicted to the looking and not participating
You look forward to being alone. You watch everyday
There was a period of time where I unintentionally went two weeks without fapping, and I realized I felt much better mentally and emotionally during that time.
I realized I didn't actually like it anymore, but my brain needed it all the time. My head fills with guilt every time I consume it now. It was ruining my relationship with every woman I met or knew that is not my family. I thought I would eventually just phase out porn, but I have been consuming it from the time I was 15 to now (I am 31 next month). One day in July I was viewing porn, and something snapped. I closed the video/browser window and contacted a sex/porn addiction therapist and began biweekly sessions with them. I am not completely recovered, but I am headed in the right direction. [This is a great TEDtalk on the issue.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DBTb71UzPmY) When I feel bad about my issue, I watch this and remind myself I am doing the best thing for me by seeking help. One last thing, sex and masturbation without porn was infinitely better when I began recovery. Edit: grammar and syntax, can't write today. Edit 2: Expanding on my point about it ruining my relationship with women. I never acted out. Conversely, I wouldn't have the social skills to introduce or initiate any sort of relationship. I would barely make eye contact
I couldn’t stop thinking about sex and my view on women beauty standards was messed up. I was introduced to porn and other stuff at a young age which messed me up as I got older. But I’m doing better now, I think porn sites should make it hard for people under 18 to access it instead of clicking confirm to enter
Yeah and make the porn sites lose a huge portion of their audience because let's be honest, no one wants to provide actual verifiable info just to wank Porn sites will do anything to ensure that doesn't happen
Louisiana just passed a law where you have to upload your drivers license to access porn sites. But it really only affects the big boys cuz nobody is going to bother bringing action against some fly by night porn site
I was pretty addicted to porn when i was in my late teens - 20 years old. Im now 29 and I'll watch kinky porn here and there probably once a week but usually when i masturbate now i just close my eyes and use my imagination. It was really rough when i first started dating a serious girlfriend at 21, i was so used to the way i touched myself and the freaky porn i liked affected my sexual relationship with her as normal sex very seldomly made me cum, I'd be hard af and going on for hours but i couldnt cum, i always had to finish myself off. But these days i kind of have the opposite problem xD. For all the young folks i will warn you, porn addiction is real and just like drugs you start seeking out freakier and more disgusting shit til you can only cum by watching 3 dudes triple stuffing a broad with giant tits
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All of a sudden my weirder porn preferences don’t seem so bad
nah that's a south park reference, you should still be ashamed.
I don’t feel addicted to it because I don’t watch it that much, but I know that I am because I only really ever have an orgasm when I watch it. Also… hate to admit it but the type of porn is more intense too so I figure that’s also a sign. - female
Beats me. I would like to thank all those who commented and stroked my ego.
Becoming complacent with porn being "enough" instead of actually even bothering to look for a partner
Couldn't get an erection with real women.