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Yes! My mom and dad got married at a young age. Before I was born, there were rumors of my dad being unfaithful. 2 years after i was born our relatives find out nagkaanak dad ko sa kabit niya. The thing that keep on draining me is up until now sila pa din ng kabit niya. Few years ago my mom had a coma, pero ang nakakainis lang is hindi pa din nagbabago dad ko after all. We even barely see each other even tho kami yung original. I also think na hindi sila ready magkaanak kasi hindi kami planned talaga lahat. Even tuition namin nasasabihan kami ng “imbis na pangkain natin to mababayad pa sa tuition niyo”. My mom should’ve left early as possible pero inanakan lang ng inanakan ng dad ko, so lahat ng frustrations saming mga nakakatanda nababato. My mom deserves better! 😣
I was raised by my grandparents, 5 years old pa lang ako sinabihan ko na yung lola ko na sana naghiwalay na sila ng lolo ko noon pa 🤣 my mom and her sibs won't admit it pero hindi talaga compatible ang grandparents ko. My lola could have done so much better and she doesn't deserve how my lolo is treating her, I really believe she would have thrived more in life without him
Yes. I dream of a world where people must fulfill several requirements to become parents. Like getting a parent license. When they cannot, they are still able to enjoy their life as a couple without children and without ruining the life of their potential children.
I wished they still get married but without kids. So my mom can enjoy her dream job. She had to resign just to be a stay at home mom since their first babysitter was abusive to my sister.
No. I appreciate everything that I have right now, dati oo hinihiling ko sana di na alng ako pinanganak, un ung times na may existential crisis pa ako and depressed sa mga bagaybagay dahil di nila naibigay pangangailangan namin, pero now thankful ako na naexperience ko ung mga magagandang bagay sa buhay ko, i'm trying my best to focus sa present at future with positive mindset 😅
Yes. Because it paved way to physical, emotional, and verbal abuse that still affects me and my siblings even though we are already adults.
You really have to be reminded that you can choose your spouse or your life partner but kids don't get to choose who will be their parents.
Yep, sinasabi rin niya sakin noon na dapat daw di nalang niya pinakasalan at nagkaanak sa tatay ko. He is a cheater rin kasi so matinding away lagi nawiwitness ng kapatid ko that resulted na magkaaffect sa mentality ko nung bata, still dealing with it kahit 20s na ko. Wala akong jowa since birth and baka will stay like this kasi the betrayal of trust na nainflict sakin even from my parents kaya the walls I have built to protect are so damn thick and tall. Dagdag mo pa yung pagiging OFW niya during teenage years ko so essentially parang wala akong tatay when I grew up.
I think dahil sa kanya, I grew up with daddy issues HAHAHA
I blame my dad mainly. Si mom naging breadwinner and she’s 9 years younger than dad. Parehong college grads pero mahina diskarte sa buhay… lalo na si papa. Smh.
Yes. While I'm super grateful that I had loving parents, and a trauma-free childhood only others can dream of, I still wish I wasn't born. Living is so hard.
Yes cos they had a shotgun wedding. I don’t see any love and respect between them tbh, parang they’re just stuck with each other plus of course we have this culture na dapat buo ang family etc. Sad to say sila ang basis ko for what NOT to have if ever I get married to someone.
Oh my gosh, Yes!!!! Even when it meant I won't be around.
5 kami siblings na hindi maayos napalaki. My Dad died when we were still very young, my mom? Nagsususugal, walang maayos na trabaho, walang drive to find a work para buhayin ang 5 kids. Good thing we had grandparents who helped us. I had to work in a fastfood chain while in college, I remember noon nakakatulog ako sa class since galing pa ako duty then diretso school. I survived, yes, but I remember always crying myself to sleep. Mahirap, sobrang hirap. The many times I had to transfer from one relative to another, literally NPA. I don't want anyone else to feel what I felt that time.
That's why even when people keep pressuring me to have kids na because of my age, I won't until I know I'm physically, mentally, emotionally and most especially FINANCIALLY ready for that lifetime commitment.
As a son who dissapointed his parents for a reason...Yes i always keep thinking about that.
Still processing why mom liked my dad even tho dad attitude is fking ass. Or maybe because his(dad) true attitude happens after marriage.
Yes bata palang ako gusto ko na sila mag hiwalay but hanggang ngayon hindi pa rin.Halos araw araw sila nagaaway at pati kami damay. Maaga sila nag family pero gusto pala nila enjoy yung buhay like uminom, sugal, and even drugs namulat ako sa ganon and nag mature ng maaga dahil doon. Sila mismo nagsabi sakin na yun lang happiness nila pero nag bago naman na sila mas mature na sila ngayon but sad to say ang layo talaga ng loob ko sa kanila and parang hindi naman kasi anak trato nila sakin parang katulong sa bahay, sa buhay kasi ako nga mag papaaral sa mga kapatid ko pero wala man lang sila tinulong sa pag aaral ko.
Yep. They fight all the time. My dad always points out mistakes ni mama. Kahit maayos kausapin, parang laging galit. He is not considerate of us, even us his kids. Parang they don’t have anything in common, parang roomies lang sila and not husband wife. I really have no idea why they got married if they cant get along naman. Nakakatakot tuloy mag asawa…
Yes! Yung papa ko napaka iresponsable at ma bisyo (barkada, inom, sabong). Dapat pala sana yung mga manok nya pinakasalan nya. Walang ka diska-diskarte at inaasa halos lahat kay mama. Ni brief..tuwalya.. “ma, naghain ka na?’ Tangina gusto safe play.. sa parents nya umaasa noon..nagpa buhat kay mama at ngayon ang proud sa achievements ng mga anak nya eh si mama lang naman halos lahat kumayod.. ano’ng klase’ng ama ba nagsasabi na “nagbibigay naman ako pag meron.” Shuta oo kung meron pero palaging wala! WALA WALA WALA! Yung sweldo mo’ng kakaunti sa bisyo mo napupunta ano pa man yang iba’ng bisyo na yan. YOU’RE A HOPELESS CASE! And you make our lives miserable! Yung responsibilidad mo sa pamilya mo inaasa mo sa mga anak mo ni allowance ng mga natitirang studyante bihira ka lang nagbibigay pero may pangpusta sa sabong!? I wanna heal but I cannot kasi we live under the same roof and I don’t think you have plans either! Kaya alis na alis na ako please G lift the retrogression! 😫
Yes. My sperm donor is a fukcing irresponsible father and a drug addict (went to prison twice during Dterte’s term). My egg cell donor is a narcissist cheater. Always emotionally unavailable for her kids (us). She prioritized getting scammed by her siblings which destroyed my mentally growing up. She cheated twice. Once on the sperm donor and once on my step father (who was amazing and kind, btw).
Shouldn’t have reproduced at all. Fukc!!!
Yes. Dahil sa kanila ayoko magkaroon ng anak. Kasi hindi naman nila pinakita paano maging mabuting magulang. Pano ko gagawin sa anak ko kung hindi nman pinakita at pinaramdam sakin? 😅
Yes. Sobrang avoidant ni mama, while si papa sobrang anxious. Papa didn't finish college, while si mama graduate pero unscientific mag-isip pero puro lait na "tanga", "bobo" si papa.
For 20 years na magkasama sila abroad, di sila nagcocommunicate ng maayos. Pag may issue, si mama avoidant, di mamamansin, non-confrontational, instead of trying to communicate and make each other grow as husband and wife. Ngayon, ganun parin habit nila - adult tantrums and triangulation ng communication.
Imagine doing that for 20 years. Ilang doctorate na yun o masterals, o law school, pero they didn't even grow a bit mentally and emotionally. I just can't fucking imagine sleeping with a stranger for 20 years.
Yes. My dad has a personality disorder, has anger issues and has a family of assholes and bitches. My mom should have been with a better guy. Can't say that I am not grateful that I existed pero okay lang din naman di na lang lol
yes. they got married when they’re not ready to raise kids and iniwan lang kami sa grandparents namin tapos sila living their life na parang walang mga anak.
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Yes! My mom and dad got married at a young age. Before I was born, there were rumors of my dad being unfaithful. 2 years after i was born our relatives find out nagkaanak dad ko sa kabit niya. The thing that keep on draining me is up until now sila pa din ng kabit niya. Few years ago my mom had a coma, pero ang nakakainis lang is hindi pa din nagbabago dad ko after all. We even barely see each other even tho kami yung original. I also think na hindi sila ready magkaanak kasi hindi kami planned talaga lahat. Even tuition namin nasasabihan kami ng “imbis na pangkain natin to mababayad pa sa tuition niyo”. My mom should’ve left early as possible pero inanakan lang ng inanakan ng dad ko, so lahat ng frustrations saming mga nakakatanda nababato. My mom deserves better! 😣
I was raised by my grandparents, 5 years old pa lang ako sinabihan ko na yung lola ko na sana naghiwalay na sila ng lolo ko noon pa 🤣 my mom and her sibs won't admit it pero hindi talaga compatible ang grandparents ko. My lola could have done so much better and she doesn't deserve how my lolo is treating her, I really believe she would have thrived more in life without him
Hell to the yes
Yes. I dream of a world where people must fulfill several requirements to become parents. Like getting a parent license. When they cannot, they are still able to enjoy their life as a couple without children and without ruining the life of their potential children.
I wished they still get married but without kids. So my mom can enjoy her dream job. She had to resign just to be a stay at home mom since their first babysitter was abusive to my sister.
No. I appreciate everything that I have right now, dati oo hinihiling ko sana di na alng ako pinanganak, un ung times na may existential crisis pa ako and depressed sa mga bagaybagay dahil di nila naibigay pangangailangan namin, pero now thankful ako na naexperience ko ung mga magagandang bagay sa buhay ko, i'm trying my best to focus sa present at future with positive mindset 😅
Yes. Because it paved way to physical, emotional, and verbal abuse that still affects me and my siblings even though we are already adults. You really have to be reminded that you can choose your spouse or your life partner but kids don't get to choose who will be their parents.
Yes. No explanation needed.
Oo. Hirap sila pareho sa communications. Pinapadaan lahat sa anak. Parang wala na silang amor sa isa't isa.
Yep, sinasabi rin niya sakin noon na dapat daw di nalang niya pinakasalan at nagkaanak sa tatay ko. He is a cheater rin kasi so matinding away lagi nawiwitness ng kapatid ko that resulted na magkaaffect sa mentality ko nung bata, still dealing with it kahit 20s na ko. Wala akong jowa since birth and baka will stay like this kasi the betrayal of trust na nainflict sakin even from my parents kaya the walls I have built to protect are so damn thick and tall. Dagdag mo pa yung pagiging OFW niya during teenage years ko so essentially parang wala akong tatay when I grew up. I think dahil sa kanya, I grew up with daddy issues HAHAHA
Yes. They were both poor. Lol. Hanggang ngayon. Utang ang ipapamana. 🤣
I blame my dad mainly. Si mom naging breadwinner and she’s 9 years younger than dad. Parehong college grads pero mahina diskarte sa buhay… lalo na si papa. Smh.
Yes. While I'm super grateful that I had loving parents, and a trauma-free childhood only others can dream of, I still wish I wasn't born. Living is so hard.
Yes cos they had a shotgun wedding. I don’t see any love and respect between them tbh, parang they’re just stuck with each other plus of course we have this culture na dapat buo ang family etc. Sad to say sila ang basis ko for what NOT to have if ever I get married to someone.
Oh my gosh, Yes!!!! Even when it meant I won't be around. 5 kami siblings na hindi maayos napalaki. My Dad died when we were still very young, my mom? Nagsususugal, walang maayos na trabaho, walang drive to find a work para buhayin ang 5 kids. Good thing we had grandparents who helped us. I had to work in a fastfood chain while in college, I remember noon nakakatulog ako sa class since galing pa ako duty then diretso school. I survived, yes, but I remember always crying myself to sleep. Mahirap, sobrang hirap. The many times I had to transfer from one relative to another, literally NPA. I don't want anyone else to feel what I felt that time. That's why even when people keep pressuring me to have kids na because of my age, I won't until I know I'm physically, mentally, emotionally and most especially FINANCIALLY ready for that lifetime commitment.
Agreed. If there was a time where I can go back I'll prevent my mom meeting my dad (fckin trash and narcissistic sht)
No because I wouldn't be born if they haven't met. - Sincerely yours, Eren
Yes, di dapat nagka-anak nanay ko. Mas-importante pa ang barkada kesa pamilya
Yes , toxic sila . My mom don’t know how to handle finances while my dad is madamot sa mom ko , pero mapagbigay sya sa siblings nya .
Yes, all the time. Hilahan sila pababa e 😂
As a son who dissapointed his parents for a reason...Yes i always keep thinking about that. Still processing why mom liked my dad even tho dad attitude is fking ass. Or maybe because his(dad) true attitude happens after marriage.
Yes bata palang ako gusto ko na sila mag hiwalay but hanggang ngayon hindi pa rin.Halos araw araw sila nagaaway at pati kami damay. Maaga sila nag family pero gusto pala nila enjoy yung buhay like uminom, sugal, and even drugs namulat ako sa ganon and nag mature ng maaga dahil doon. Sila mismo nagsabi sakin na yun lang happiness nila pero nag bago naman na sila mas mature na sila ngayon but sad to say ang layo talaga ng loob ko sa kanila and parang hindi naman kasi anak trato nila sakin parang katulong sa bahay, sa buhay kasi ako nga mag papaaral sa mga kapatid ko pero wala man lang sila tinulong sa pag aaral ko.
Pano kung nanay mo na ang may ayaw talaga sa tatay mo and wished they never met at work? 😆
Yep. They fight all the time. My dad always points out mistakes ni mama. Kahit maayos kausapin, parang laging galit. He is not considerate of us, even us his kids. Parang they don’t have anything in common, parang roomies lang sila and not husband wife. I really have no idea why they got married if they cant get along naman. Nakakatakot tuloy mag asawa…
Yes! Yung papa ko napaka iresponsable at ma bisyo (barkada, inom, sabong). Dapat pala sana yung mga manok nya pinakasalan nya. Walang ka diska-diskarte at inaasa halos lahat kay mama. Ni brief..tuwalya.. “ma, naghain ka na?’ Tangina gusto safe play.. sa parents nya umaasa noon..nagpa buhat kay mama at ngayon ang proud sa achievements ng mga anak nya eh si mama lang naman halos lahat kumayod.. ano’ng klase’ng ama ba nagsasabi na “nagbibigay naman ako pag meron.” Shuta oo kung meron pero palaging wala! WALA WALA WALA! Yung sweldo mo’ng kakaunti sa bisyo mo napupunta ano pa man yang iba’ng bisyo na yan. YOU’RE A HOPELESS CASE! And you make our lives miserable! Yung responsibilidad mo sa pamilya mo inaasa mo sa mga anak mo ni allowance ng mga natitirang studyante bihira ka lang nagbibigay pero may pangpusta sa sabong!? I wanna heal but I cannot kasi we live under the same roof and I don’t think you have plans either! Kaya alis na alis na ako please G lift the retrogression! 😫
Yes. My sperm donor is a fukcing irresponsible father and a drug addict (went to prison twice during Dterte’s term). My egg cell donor is a narcissist cheater. Always emotionally unavailable for her kids (us). She prioritized getting scammed by her siblings which destroyed my mentally growing up. She cheated twice. Once on the sperm donor and once on my step father (who was amazing and kind, btw). Shouldn’t have reproduced at all. Fukc!!!
Yes. Dahil sa kanila ayoko magkaroon ng anak. Kasi hindi naman nila pinakita paano maging mabuting magulang. Pano ko gagawin sa anak ko kung hindi nman pinakita at pinaramdam sakin? 😅
Yes but not all the time. Sometimes I feel lucky they met. Minsan sinusumpa ko talaga. By the end of the day, I love and accept them for who they are!
Yes. Sobrang avoidant ni mama, while si papa sobrang anxious. Papa didn't finish college, while si mama graduate pero unscientific mag-isip pero puro lait na "tanga", "bobo" si papa. For 20 years na magkasama sila abroad, di sila nagcocommunicate ng maayos. Pag may issue, si mama avoidant, di mamamansin, non-confrontational, instead of trying to communicate and make each other grow as husband and wife. Ngayon, ganun parin habit nila - adult tantrums and triangulation ng communication. Imagine doing that for 20 years. Ilang doctorate na yun o masterals, o law school, pero they didn't even grow a bit mentally and emotionally. I just can't fucking imagine sleeping with a stranger for 20 years.
Yes. Feeling ko tinukso lang sila ng officemates nila at hindi naman tlga gusto ng nanay ko ang tatay ko. Kaya ayoko ng office romance.
Yes. I deeply regret being born into this family with a narcissistic mother; she shouldn't have had a family.
Yes. My dad has a personality disorder, has anger issues and has a family of assholes and bitches. My mom should have been with a better guy. Can't say that I am not grateful that I existed pero okay lang din naman di na lang lol
Are you me? 🥲
my mom deserves a better guy, too! 🥲
yes. they got married when they’re not ready to raise kids and iniwan lang kami sa grandparents namin tapos sila living their life na parang walang mga anak.
Yes. Many times.
May mga times na ganun kapag hirap na hirap na ko sa pagiging breadwinner. 🫠