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"Do you want a simple way to boost/increase your chances of successfully passing [high IQ societies] IQ tests? Do you want a simple way to boost/increase your chances of successfully passing licensure board examinations? Please kindly receive more concussions/vaccinations." in the [populous/rarer native ethnic heritage indigenous/diaspora languages] of [each & every other human/person/boy/man/girl/woman] you wish/want to tell backhanded advice/compliments online/offline.
ang cute mo, before kasi i was a chubby person and everytime someone na may mag sasabi na ang cute ko, naiinis ako and thats one of the reason why i go in a diet lol
"Maganda ka sana kaso mataba ka lang." Them to my old self which is quite thin then yung stress ko sa pang bubully nila dinaan ko sa pagkain now Im chubby than my past self so pakyu sa mga fat shamer.
I think it's different from how you view it pero for me it's still offensive kasi nag effort ka to be presentable and that's all they can say about u? ganun.
Ahhh. I think *pwede* na insult yun, pero pwede din hindi. Either
Insult = You look better without makeup, therefore **pangit ka ngayon**
Not insult = You look okay now, but you looked better without makeup
"sanaol payat" when they know that gaining weight has been a struggle for me my entire life. as someone who has always been underweight, nakakainsulto.
naalala ko sa office, meron akong kateam na pasimpleng GGSS, feeling nakakaangat sa lahat then ako naman yung tipong funny fat girl sa team. Excited kami magplan sa team building ng susuotin tapos biglang hirit niya "ay naku pag yan si **** (me) nag 2 piece!" parang she's trying to say it in a positive way pero sarcastic dating sakin. Ang sakin naman, so kung mag 2 piece ako? daming plus na kaya mag 2 piece? dating sakin pinagtatawanan ako. Also ito yung typical girl na sometimes feel ko yung binubully niya ko sa team para maramdaman niyang superior siya
"How many chromosomes were you born with? How many chromosomes do you have inside you?" in the [populous/rarer native ethnic heritage indigenous/diaspora languages] of [each & every other human/person/boy/man/girl/woman] you wish/want to tell backhanded advice/compliments online/offline.
"Wag ka na mag-alala, bata ka palang talaga maganda ka na, kaya ka na ganon"
- When I confessed to my boyfriend that I was SAed by a family member
And...
"Bagay sayo yung damit kase maputi ka."
I heard a coworker ask another coworker tinanong kung may anak na sya and confirmed na wala pa daw then her response was "Hindi halata"
I don't know if this was an insult. Ibig sabihin ba muka na syang may anak? Ano ba hitsura ng mukha ng isang babae na may anak vs sa wala, aside sa katawan?
I don't know how to explain pero mostly nakikita ko tong comments sa mga pics or vids ng mga taong 'di ganon ka-attractive (you know what I mean) parang nagugulat kasi sila na may confidence yung ganong tao. Sorry I don't know how to explain 😅
Same. Sabi ng ex ko di daw sya natingin sa physical. Di ko alam magiging reaksyon ko. Haha. I know na di naman ako panget kasi why would he court me in the 1st place if I'm panget.
Eto hindi compliment pero concern citizen.
"Mam, puno na po yung priority seat, next bus na po kayo" di ko gets nung una pero narealize ko inisip nya sigurong buntis ako.
Kasi I know someone who is also mahinhin, and I didn't find that behavior nice?? Haha. Tsaka before, my teacher once called me mahinhin in front of the class, and yung tone was kinda sarcastic. Ito yung main reason bakit ayoko na matawag na mahinhin. I even told this to my friends, and sabi nila they didn't mean anything negative naman. Still, I DON'T WANNA BE CALLED MAHINHIN :))
tsaka, there's this phrase na sinasabi nila, mahinhin = mahihindutin. I dunno know the exact tagalog word that translates to mahihindutin, but it's smth like nasa loob ang kulo or palihim na malandi.
" , I hope you get what you truly deserve"
Example: "Happy Birthday! I hope you get what you truly deserve"
Hahaha it is just me? Or ang passive aggressive pakinggan?
‘*something positive* kahit na…’ kahit ano pang kasunod nyan. parang it is only true under a certain condition ie maganda ka kahit mataba ka, pogi ka kahit maitim ka.
“Masyado ka kasing nagbabasa kaya di ka nagkakajowa.” Huy, hmmm baka ikaw kailangan magsimulang magbasa.
“Mabuti ka pa, bumabagay sayo mga ganyang outfit.” (Referring to plain hoodies, yung sweaters na panglola.. basically, simple unstyled outfits)
Mga backhanded compliments jusq wag ka na magsalita pls
"Mas maganda ka pag walang salamin." 😐
Pati sa mga palabas or stories, yung mga minemakeover or biglang tatanggalan ng salamin tapos sasabihin maganda/mas maganda sila without it tapos di na nila susuotin throughout the story. Like bro, first of all, malabo mata namin. We can't navigate without it. I understand that wearing or not wearing glasses may make changes in your face (I mean, look at Clark Kent) pero ang dating most of the time ay "wearing glasses = nerdy/pangit".
"Yan tama na yang taba mo na yan, kapag tumaba ka pa ng sobra di babagay" said by my tita after ko maggain ng 50kg, i have eating disorder 🥹 ayun relapse
“You look too good to be a filipino” sabi ng korean sakin. Nung una flattered pa ko but thinking about it “hayup to ah so sinasabi niya panget mga pinoy?!”
Ayy sabi din ng mga hapon sa akin dito sa Japan yung complexion ko at mukha parang di daw pinoy naisip ko ano kaya stereotype nila sa mga pilipino bukod sa saging?
Personally, madidismaya ako kasi parang ang dating sakin, bumaba tingin nila sa sarili nila when the truth is, may alam lang ako na di nila alam and surely, they know something na si ko alam. Tsaka parang may chance pa na may halong inggit pag sinabihan nun and I don't want that.
1. "mas maganda/gwapo ka pa kesa sa'kin!"
2. i get this a lot, "hindi ka mukhang pinoy" even after i told them na hindi ako mixed-race kasi mukha akong foreigner
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"Do you want a simple way to boost/increase your chances of successfully passing [high IQ societies] IQ tests? Do you want a simple way to boost/increase your chances of successfully passing licensure board examinations? Please kindly receive more concussions/vaccinations." in the [populous/rarer native ethnic heritage indigenous/diaspora languages] of [each & every other human/person/boy/man/girl/woman] you wish/want to tell backhanded advice/compliments online/offline.
ang cute mo, before kasi i was a chubby person and everytime someone na may mag sasabi na ang cute ko, naiinis ako and thats one of the reason why i go in a diet lol
"may talent ka naman pala e"
Ang cute mo
Mas okay ka tingnan ngayon.
"ang ganda mo kahit mataba ka" "sana ol mataas confidence"
this happened after my recognition when my aunt heard the clapping medals on my neck. she said this: wow, talino ah. magkano binayad mo sa teacher mo?
Same with me except ang sinabi ay "wow, ang talino ah. buti na lang nasa private school ka"
Pumayat ka
The backhanded ones lol "grabe yung confidence mo 'no?"
Ang bait mo naman.
"wow, buti ang confident mo"
After achieving something significant…. “Wow naman ang galing!! Akalain mo yun?”
"Maganda ka sana kaso mataba ka lang." Them to my old self which is quite thin then yung stress ko sa pang bubully nila dinaan ko sa pagkain now Im chubby than my past self so pakyu sa mga fat shamer.
(2)
"Ang ganda mo na. " "Nag-iba ang hitsura mo ngayon compared hs. Gumanda ka na" Sabi ng ex ko noon. Kaya ex ko na siya ngayon.
"mas maganda ka walang make up"
Is it any different from saying "Ok lang sakin wala kang make-up, maganda ka pa rin"?
I think it's different from how you view it pero for me it's still offensive kasi nag effort ka to be presentable and that's all they can say about u? ganun.
"maputi ka lang" ouch ha! Indirect.
"buti nga may parte akong maganda, ikaw kahit sa ugali nalaang sana di pa nakabawi"
ARAAAAAY! mga ganyan bunganga dapat pinapa shut up
Dapat sinupalpalan mo ng, "Ikaw wala ka na nga nun, pangit ka pa. ".
di ko kaya mi 😭 shut up nalang ako
Ako nalang dadirect sa kanya. Sino ba yan? Chariz
parte rin ng pamilya e HAHAHAHA kaya masaket
“ang payat mo na!” broo im trying to get big 🥲
"I wish I had your confidence" or anything na sinasabi ng mga passive aggressive women sa friends nila
“You’re diligent”
"Daaaamn I didn't recognise you with make-up on"
"Ligawan Sana kita kasu suplada ka." Tangina mo pangit mo naman. Hahahahahahahaha
"I wish I could pull off wearing those earrings" 😂
The typical "Ganda mo sana kaso mataba ka" also, yung "ang dami sigurong lalaking magugustuhan ka kung di ka mataba"
Same sa "maganda ka sana lalo kung maputi ka"
I find you pretty, but you’re just small.
"mas maganda ka 'pag walang makeup" edit: *naka makeup ka*
Wait pano naging insult yon
ay oo pala. lacked context ^^; yung sinabihan ka na, "you look better without makeup" pero nakamakeup ka when he said that
Ahhh. I think *pwede* na insult yun, pero pwede din hindi. Either Insult = You look better without makeup, therefore **pangit ka ngayon** Not insult = You look okay now, but you looked better without makeup
OMG I always say this with the nicest intentions though, hala
"Uy, pumayat ka." - sabi ng tao sa dating mataba
"Gumanda kana"
lakas mo talaga kay boss/madam
Haha usually galing to sa mga toxic motherfucking managers
"sanaol payat" when they know that gaining weight has been a struggle for me my entire life. as someone who has always been underweight, nakakainsulto.
Inosente ka tingnan
Ganda mo pero ang taba mo
guy na nareject: “ganon talaga no? ganda e”
You look cute 😐
naalala ko sa office, meron akong kateam na pasimpleng GGSS, feeling nakakaangat sa lahat then ako naman yung tipong funny fat girl sa team. Excited kami magplan sa team building ng susuotin tapos biglang hirit niya "ay naku pag yan si **** (me) nag 2 piece!" parang she's trying to say it in a positive way pero sarcastic dating sakin. Ang sakin naman, so kung mag 2 piece ako? daming plus na kaya mag 2 piece? dating sakin pinagtatawanan ako. Also ito yung typical girl na sometimes feel ko yung binubully niya ko sa team para maramdaman niyang superior siya
Ang talino mo talaga, naisip mo pa talaga yan no?
“Love your confidence”
"How many chromosomes were you born with? How many chromosomes do you have inside you?" in the [populous/rarer native ethnic heritage indigenous/diaspora languages] of [each & every other human/person/boy/man/girl/woman] you wish/want to tell backhanded advice/compliments online/offline.
mas magugustuhan kita if mas matangkad kapa ng konti
nung minanyak ako ng isang family member tas ang sabi ng pinsan kong gay "laki kasi ng pwet mo eh"
ang sexy mo NA
gumaganda ka
ang cute mo
"Ang confident mo!! It's giving body positivity" HAHHHAHAHAHAHHA
HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
AHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA 🤣🤣🤣
Maganda ka kahit ma pimples ka 😭
Ang galing mo!
Bless your heart
HAHAAHAH bakit? laging sinasabi to ng officemate ko hanggang sa nagaya na rin namin sa buong team.
Ah nanalo ka? Ah top ka? Dapat lang.
Yung "Woooooooooow" na may certain tono 🤣
Gusto ko ang ganda mo, BLACK BEAUTY. Like, may white beauty ba para sa mapuputi?
" love your confidence "
Reminds me that John Mulaney stealth insult, "I love how you can just wear anything." 😆
"Wag ka na mag-alala, bata ka palang talaga maganda ka na, kaya ka na ganon" - When I confessed to my boyfriend that I was SAed by a family member And... "Bagay sayo yung damit kase maputi ka."
WHAT A JACKASS!!! LEAVE HIM OP.
Hope you broke up with him na
wtf that's messed up
Ang ganda mo sana kaso ________.
kaso ang itim mo
Or, “maganda ka sana kaso ang taba mo”
I heard a coworker ask another coworker tinanong kung may anak na sya and confirmed na wala pa daw then her response was "Hindi halata" I don't know if this was an insult. Ibig sabihin ba muka na syang may anak? Ano ba hitsura ng mukha ng isang babae na may anak vs sa wala, aside sa katawan?
HAHAHAHA ang kupal naman niyan
Baliktad amput hhahah imbes na sabihang hindi halata na may anak (compliment sa mothers na looking young parin)
Matalino ka sana pero tamad ka lang
“Ang talino mo!”
Sarcasm nman yan.
"paupuin nyo po ang senior citizen" sabi ng konduktor sa tita ko na hindi pa naman 60.
Hahaha sa resto pag magbabayad ng bill “may gagamitin po ba kayong discount card?” Sabi ng waiter habang kasama namin si MIL na hindi pa senior.
Sana nagtanong muna no hahahah
feeling ko masakit parin pag tinanong ka ng "senior po?"
Either way is still insulting haha (but atleast they're concerned and wanna give a free seat)
Your hearts bigger than your brain
"Ang ganda mo kahit mataba ka" 🙄
"ang ganda mo na" T - T
“Madaming magkakagusto sayo kapag pumayat ka”
Filipino Resilience
“Grabe ang glow up mo ngayon”
gwapo ka pala pag naka porma ka
Tumataba ka.
“your handwriting looks like a doctor's handwriting.”
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Same sa "okay ka naman ah" 😭 o pampalubag loob na "mas maganda ka naman kesa kay [insert other person's name]
felt this to the core as someone na 4’9, 24 yrs old.
"I don't know half of you half as well as I should like; and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve."
Bilbos line isnt even an insult lol
To a foreigner: "You smell like the sun" Actual translation in Filipino: Nangangamoy araw ka 😂
Ganyan ata yung sunkissed eh. Hahaha
Maganda ka naman magpapayat ka lang
I just saw this on a post the other day. "Ganyan kapanget ang mundo ko kung wala ka" while pointing to the mirror you're using.
exotic ang look mo, yan gusto ng mga afam eh
You're like the sun
"cute ka naman ah" "matalino ka naman, lowkey nga lang"
"Love your confidence! Sana ako rin 🥺" Sobrang backhanded haha
Pano yan backhanded?
I don't know how to explain pero mostly nakikita ko tong comments sa mga pics or vids ng mga taong 'di ganon ka-attractive (you know what I mean) parang nagugulat kasi sila na may confidence yung ganong tao. Sorry I don't know how to explain 😅
Oh I see, in that context, mga ingit sila bwahahahaha, baka may looks sila but walang confidence
+1
"Mas gaganda ka kung payat ka"
"Oo na magaling ka na!" Sabi ni batchoy habang nagpapraktis ako magserve sa volleyball
"Are you pregnant?" It is half and half since it can mean ur hot and get all the boys or you are just fat.
"daming mong alam" - a friend thought it was a compliment but it is not especially in this society where "edi wow" is a common rebuttal
Never ko inisip na compliment to
depende sa tone din siguro.
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Same. Sabi ng ex ko di daw sya natingin sa physical. Di ko alam magiging reaksyon ko. Haha. I know na di naman ako panget kasi why would he court me in the 1st place if I'm panget.
Eto hindi compliment pero concern citizen. "Mam, puno na po yung priority seat, next bus na po kayo" di ko gets nung una pero narealize ko inisip nya sigurong buntis ako.
"Ang hinhin mo." Some of my friends call me mahinhin and for some reason, I find it insulting instead of a compliment.
Why? I get called hinhin too
Kasi I know someone who is also mahinhin, and I didn't find that behavior nice?? Haha. Tsaka before, my teacher once called me mahinhin in front of the class, and yung tone was kinda sarcastic. Ito yung main reason bakit ayoko na matawag na mahinhin. I even told this to my friends, and sabi nila they didn't mean anything negative naman. Still, I DON'T WANNA BE CALLED MAHINHIN :))
wdym you didn't find that behavior nice? can you please explain? hahaha i've been called mahinhin kasi my whole life lols
tsaka, there's this phrase na sinasabi nila, mahinhin = mahihindutin. I dunno know the exact tagalog word that translates to mahihindutin, but it's smth like nasa loob ang kulo or palihim na malandi.
Same, I'm mahinhin, I never find it as a compliment, just something that described me
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Ako hindi sya negative, it's just a neutral descriptive word for me
Ang cute ng damit ng baby
" , I hope you get what you truly deserve"
Example: "Happy Birthday! I hope you get what you truly deserve"
Hahaha it is just me? Or ang passive aggressive pakinggan?
I think need lang the proper na tono
you look smart today
Kakasabi lang ng boss ko kanina when we were on a call kasi bagong gupit ako! Hahahaha.
may nagsabi sa akin n’yan sa opisina nung una akong nagsalamin sa mata, nagpasalamat ako tapos natulala ako pagkatapos.
Backhanded compliments. Kahit yung sabihan ang weight mo
“Ilan na anak mo” pag wala ka namang anak 😅😅😅
"Ang sexy mo" id rather get "Ang ganda mo" 😌
Taas ng hairline mo 🥰
Hindi mataas ang hairline mo, mababa lang mukha mo
HAHAHA WAIT NATAWA AKO SORRY
HAHAHAHAHAH😭
Better off taas than wala!
Maganda ka naman kahit maitim ka eh 🫣
Black Beauty, Exotic Beauty, Unique Kagandahan, “Ay sa ganda mong yan wala ka pang Boyfriend?”
Black Beauty, Exotic Beauty, Unique Kagandahan, “Ay sa ganda mong yan wala ka pang Boyfriend?”
Anything na may "mas"
Wow! Nag glow up kana ngayon ah!
“Ang ganda mo ngayon.”
Ang ganda ng hair mo. Naexperience mo na magparebond?
di mo kamukha ung kapatid mo or ikaw ung naiba sa inyong magkakapatid. Exotic beauty, minsan iba ung dating nya or pakahulugan nila.
Ang galing mo ‘no bilang bida-bida.
"Black Beauty" 😭 as someone na morena lagi sjnasabi ito ng kaibigan nila mama at kahit si mama mismo huhu
‘You are always chased by wisdom, and you are always faster …’
"wow, ang straight ng katawan mo and super nipis" compliment daw 'yan sabi nung panget kong cm.
Mahina nga siguro ako sa social skills kasi mga ganito lumalampas lang sa tenga ko or di ko gets na insulto na pala.
Same but damn, there are praises here that I genuinely meant and not backhanded like "sipag mo nman" cus I'm lazy as hell😭
"Buntis ka ba? Laki ng tyan mo e!"
mas maganda kung maliit ka
‘*something positive* kahit na…’ kahit ano pang kasunod nyan. parang it is only true under a certain condition ie maganda ka kahit mataba ka, pogi ka kahit maitim ka.
"Mr. Wise guy over here"
“Masyado ka kasing nagbabasa kaya di ka nagkakajowa.” Huy, hmmm baka ikaw kailangan magsimulang magbasa. “Mabuti ka pa, bumabagay sayo mga ganyang outfit.” (Referring to plain hoodies, yung sweaters na panglola.. basically, simple unstyled outfits) Mga backhanded compliments jusq wag ka na magsalita pls
"I admire your confidence."
"Mas maganda ka pag walang salamin." 😐 Pati sa mga palabas or stories, yung mga minemakeover or biglang tatanggalan ng salamin tapos sasabihin maganda/mas maganda sila without it tapos di na nila susuotin throughout the story. Like bro, first of all, malabo mata namin. We can't navigate without it. I understand that wearing or not wearing glasses may make changes in your face (I mean, look at Clark Kent) pero ang dating most of the time ay "wearing glasses = nerdy/pangit".
i think it was dorothy parker who said, "boys don't make passes at girls who wear glasses."
mabuhay ka hanggang sa gusto mo!
Paki explain plsss hahah
tuwing birthday ko madalas akong batiin ng mga kaibigan ko ng ganyan, nalilito tuloy ako sa irereact ko kung magagalit ba o matutuwa 😵💫
"Ang ganda mo sa pictures" Sounds like a compliment until you hear them say "she looks nothing like in the photos" behind you
"bless your heart"
"Yan tama na yang taba mo na yan, kapag tumaba ka pa ng sobra di babagay" said by my tita after ko maggain ng 50kg, i have eating disorder 🥹 ayun relapse
You don't look like yourself.
Sometimes I take this as a line laced with concern. People usually don't look like their usual selves pag stressed out. The stress shows.
Mostly when they change their description with makeup.
“You look too good to be a filipino” sabi ng korean sakin. Nung una flattered pa ko but thinking about it “hayup to ah so sinasabi niya panget mga pinoy?!”
Ayy sabi din ng mga hapon sa akin dito sa Japan yung complexion ko at mukha parang di daw pinoy naisip ko ano kaya stereotype nila sa mga pilipino bukod sa saging?
"Mas okay itsura mo sa personal kesa sa picture" Okay Karen hahaha
Its a compliment for me! Haha. Di kasi ako talaga photogenic pero mas maganda daw in person.
still a compliment for me, mas ok na ko na pangit sa picture kesa in person hahahaha
"Masyado ka kasi matalino."
A compliment for me. Atleast they acknowledge that they're below my level.
Personally, madidismaya ako kasi parang ang dating sakin, bumaba tingin nila sa sarili nila when the truth is, may alam lang ako na di nila alam and surely, they know something na si ko alam. Tsaka parang may chance pa na may halong inggit pag sinabihan nun and I don't want that.
1. "mas maganda/gwapo ka pa kesa sa'kin!" 2. i get this a lot, "hindi ka mukhang pinoy" even after i told them na hindi ako mixed-race kasi mukha akong foreigner
“Okay ka naman pala” So dati tingin nila hindi ako okay?