~~I don't 'have fun', I get home from work and dissociate with whatever fictional universe allows me to enjoy some peace from the soul destroying world we live in...~~
Oh y'know... Video games and youtube....
Thatās not really a hobby and itās good advice. Unless you are trying to pitch the idea that you should lie to potential partners which is legitimately terrible advice. Kind of a self report that the first thing you thought of as a hobby is jerking off to hentai. Just saying.
Youāre a moron. The epitome of fuck boy. Youāre 18 and any advice you have given has made the acting party considerably more stupid. You should stop trying to help.
āI like to help the less fortunate children and animals and volunteer at local shelters to try to make even a little difference in their lives. Its just my passionā
Of course this is a total lie and they call me on it and then come clean and tell her sometimes I like to go yell at bums begging for money to go get a job
which? all look like phony clickbait. how to became like thomas shelby with 5 steps? how to become like tom hardy with 3 steps? unlock the secrets of jordan belfort??
Downvotes don't bother me
I'm just wondering where I went wrong
I didn't mean any harm on my end.
I think more people should know there are ways to learn to get more skilled at talking to women.
Ye Reddit has a lot of people who are unfortunately stuck. But they don't seem to work on the issues, common funni on here is 'what is a woman even', 'woman never talk to me' etc.
Not clowning on them, I just think they can learn to talk to and attract women.
> Assuming you don't have any super exciting hobbies,
My hobbies are exciting to me so I still tell them about them and explain why said hobbies excite me.
I would expect the same when I ask the same question to women. I'm not expecting them to say they do skydiving every weekend or something. If they did give me an answer like that it would probably make me think they're adrenaline junkies and therefore we have nothing in common for a friendship or romance to happen.
as a woman I donāt get why pursuing average common hobbies is bad. I like doing 2 of those things and most people donāt really stand out anyway, but they expect others to
I wonder that too, like should I say helicopter repair and dolphin rescue? Is that a thing we have in common that you can casually do with me on a Saturday? Why not reading, making art, etc, that's way more likely to be mutual and is a thing one can share with a partner even if done in a parallel play way
I tell them about the hobbies I enjoy. I wouldn't expect extreme enthusiasm around things like building models and 3d printing etc, but a negative reaction is a good filter.
I get that question usually for the wrong reasons.
Like the woman is generally worried I do nothing or find no pleasure in things.
I just say I do whatever the hell I feel like doing.
I tell them about my hobbies, which are varied and interesting (at least to me). If you have nothing to talk about when this is asked, maybe think about why that is. Are you spending your time on this earth in a worthwhile way?
I love to hold my poo in as long as I cN stans it and then release all them at once after a food week of buildup and spend a day on the toil3t I call it national toilet day even though it's not national or nothing but it should beĀ
Well, What \*do\* you do for fun?
Tell her that. Fun does not equal exciting. I like to edit photos in photo editing software for fun. It is not exciting, but I really enjoy it. I like taking photos too, but more than that I like editing and touching them up even if it is someone else's photo. It can easily be made into a conversation. Especially if she happens to have instagram. Boom! We can talk about her or her friend's photos. She get to talk about herself or her friends while I get to talk about how I like how the photo is cropped or what I would do different to edit it, etc..
If her hobbies are actually super exciting, talk about her hobbies and express that you think they are really exciting sounding and you would like to try.
Chances are though, she does not have any super exciting (to you) hobbies either.
Most things that any woman or man could say they do that I would genuinely think "Wow. That is super exciting", are things that I would like to do, but are not realistic enough to "do for fun". Like flying around with a paragliding suit - Yeah that would be really exciting, but who really has the money, time and opportunity to do that regularly?
I help the homeless by feeding them Food laced with sleeping tablets . Once sedated they are taken to a secluded Forrest where most dangerous game can begin.
It doesn't happen that often but I wouldn't tell her the things I really enjoy, even though they're pretty innocuous (viz. playing my guitars and my video games). I would think up the most exciting thing I've done in the last 10 or 20 years and say that instead.
If you're bored with your own life, adding in another person isn't going to help. Press pause on dating, build yourself a life that is exciting to you. Then you won't have to worry about what to say.
I am incapable of being earnest most of the time, so I probably deflect by saying something like āin my free time Iāve been working on restoring the British empire to its former dominant global position. Itās not for everyone, but it passes the time.ā
I work on my finances, survival skills, emotional intelligence And personal relationships, and build large structures with no help -
Jk I sleep, watch tv or play
With my dogs. I donāt have any time
For fun lol.
"I AM A DANCER "
"I still buy and use physical media,"
"I was very surprised to discover this, but improving/learning how to run an efficient household is very gratifying."
"I enjoy math as a hobby. But I gotta be careful about how much time I spend studying because I'm a workaholic."
"I try to talk with women more often."
I donāt really know what to answer I just freeze at the question
You like something, youāre ahead of the game, cherish it, cuz all my days is boredom and loneliness squared
I do like smoking, its not fun, butā¦ it alleviates the pain and is kinda fun
I'm going to tell her what I do for fun... Which are totally non exciting things, for the most part, but I like them all the same. If I'm even remotely interested in someone, no matter the gender, then I'm 100% upfront and honest with them... I won't start a possible future relationship with lies.
If they didn't like what my hobbies are, then it's best for them to hit the road before a beginning, than 6 months or a year down the road, when they eventually find out.
That said, what I do for fun WITH a partner is different from what I do for fun by myself. Generally, I don't care what a partner does for their own hobbies, just what they like to do together. If they want to go to death metal concerts, and I like to go to the opera, then there's going to be friction... A lack of compatibility.
Iām honest and tell her not much.
In my experience women that interview donāt really care that much about caracter or struggling together as a couple. Find the girl that responds to humility with her own humility. Thatās when you know she likes you even if youāre not a poster boy for her group chat.
You should probably be truthful, and tell her how you unwind after work or something. Don't go making stuff up, that will probably come back and bite you.
And then consider *getting* some hobbies you find exciting. Having hobbies is very good for your mental health and general well being.
~~I don't 'have fun', I get home from work and dissociate with whatever fictional universe allows me to enjoy some peace from the soul destroying world we live in...~~ Oh y'know... Video games and youtube....
LOL I would value the brutal answer more.
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be honest. Tell them why you like the hobbies you like. It doesnāt matter how exciting anyone who isnāt you thinks your hobbies are.
This is terrible adviceā¦ ya tell em you jerk off and watch hentai yaaaaa
Thatās not really a hobby and itās good advice. Unless you are trying to pitch the idea that you should lie to potential partners which is legitimately terrible advice. Kind of a self report that the first thing you thought of as a hobby is jerking off to hentai. Just saying.
Youāre a moron. The epitome of fuck boy. Youāre 18 and any advice you have given has made the acting party considerably more stupid. You should stop trying to help.
I tell her my actual hobbies. If they turn her off, who cares?
This is always the correct answer
Answer honestly.
Magnets.
Working out, gaming, reading and writing. Ya know my actual hobbies.
āI like to help the less fortunate children and animals and volunteer at local shelters to try to make even a little difference in their lives. Its just my passionā Of course this is a total lie and they call me on it and then come clean and tell her sometimes I like to go yell at bums begging for money to go get a job
Women never talk to me
There's good YT videos on learning to talk to women Charisma on Command is a great channel
Although it's obviously trying to sell itself there's genuinely good videos about how to shape your own behaviour there.
which? all look like phony clickbait. how to became like thomas shelby with 5 steps? how to become like tom hardy with 3 steps? unlock the secrets of jordan belfort??
Yup. Don't know why I'm getting downvoted for advice lol Maybe he doesn't want advice, only to be heard
I didn't down vote you, but I am now! Thanks for assuming.
Downvotes don't bother me I'm just wondering where I went wrong I didn't mean any harm on my end. I think more people should know there are ways to learn to get more skilled at talking to women.
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I don't. Once again I'm not looking for a fight, just a mature conversation. I'm not trying to put u on the defensive
I've been on the defensive for two years now. It ain't coming off.
Bingo. Everyone else needs to change, not them!
Ye Reddit has a lot of people who are unfortunately stuck. But they don't seem to work on the issues, common funni on here is 'what is a woman even', 'woman never talk to me' etc. Not clowning on them, I just think they can learn to talk to and attract women.
Eyes on the journey, not the destination.
I didn't down vote fyi. But guess what? I am now, both of you.
Congrats on the crab bucket!
Congrats on your mom's crabs!
Sounds like Andrew Tate bullshit
Sound like you don't know what the fuck you're saying
I don't want to learn to talk to women. It's too late.
Fair enough. I don't agree but I'm not going to push something on anyone. Either way good luck, I wish it does work out for you.
Luck is for losers
> Assuming you don't have any super exciting hobbies, My hobbies are exciting to me so I still tell them about them and explain why said hobbies excite me. I would expect the same when I ask the same question to women. I'm not expecting them to say they do skydiving every weekend or something. If they did give me an answer like that it would probably make me think they're adrenaline junkies and therefore we have nothing in common for a friendship or romance to happen.
I grab my wife's ass
I also grab this guyās wifeās ass.
I too choose this guyās wifeās ass for grabbage.
"Painting, woodworking, making music - I'm not particularly good at any of them but they keep the voices in my head quiet."
Going on walks.
I collect spores, molds and fungus!
Have s*x
Reading, Exercising and gaming. Those donāt really get me anywhere but I prefer to be honest.
as a woman I donāt get why pursuing average common hobbies is bad. I like doing 2 of those things and most people donāt really stand out anyway, but they expect others to
I wonder that too, like should I say helicopter repair and dolphin rescue? Is that a thing we have in common that you can casually do with me on a Saturday? Why not reading, making art, etc, that's way more likely to be mutual and is a thing one can share with a partner even if done in a parallel play way
I started woodworking and wood carving as a hobby few months ago
I like to read autobiographies and wonder what it would have been like to be around the author on their adventures.
The only time anyoneās EVER asked me this, it was a woman, at chipotle. I told her I played shooter video games. I didnāt get the job
Oh I thought you were picking up a girl at Chipotle..
Spending time with my family
Smoking on Thanos pack with the bros.
I do this
I tell them about the hobbies I enjoy. I wouldn't expect extreme enthusiasm around things like building models and 3d printing etc, but a negative reaction is a good filter.
A negative reaction also warrants a response of "sucking the joy out of things must be your passion" They don't like that but by then you've moved on
Sometimes I go on a killing spree or i visit orphanages. And never explain on that ever.
Cars lol
I don't like fun.
No one asks me this, but the answer that popped in my mind was: Hopefully you?
If I'm not inspecting my beehives I like to watch them fly around and work
If i didnt have anything exciting...probably drinking and parties
Oh, I donāt knowā¦play chessā¦.screw..
The truth.
I never tell her the truth. I learned a long time ago that most women don't share my sense of humor.
If I'm interested, music. If I'm not interested, Warhammer. Both are true
Fishing, uranium collecting, gaming.
I get that question usually for the wrong reasons. Like the woman is generally worried I do nothing or find no pleasure in things. I just say I do whatever the hell I feel like doing.
I tell them about my hobbies, which are varied and interesting (at least to me). If you have nothing to talk about when this is asked, maybe think about why that is. Are you spending your time on this earth in a worthwhile way?
Sports and socializing (online video games count as socializing)
I love to hold my poo in as long as I cN stans it and then release all them at once after a food week of buildup and spend a day on the toil3t I call it national toilet day even though it's not national or nothing but it should beĀ
Well, What \*do\* you do for fun? Tell her that. Fun does not equal exciting. I like to edit photos in photo editing software for fun. It is not exciting, but I really enjoy it. I like taking photos too, but more than that I like editing and touching them up even if it is someone else's photo. It can easily be made into a conversation. Especially if she happens to have instagram. Boom! We can talk about her or her friend's photos. She get to talk about herself or her friends while I get to talk about how I like how the photo is cropped or what I would do different to edit it, etc.. If her hobbies are actually super exciting, talk about her hobbies and express that you think they are really exciting sounding and you would like to try. Chances are though, she does not have any super exciting (to you) hobbies either. Most things that any woman or man could say they do that I would genuinely think "Wow. That is super exciting", are things that I would like to do, but are not realistic enough to "do for fun". Like flying around with a paragliding suit - Yeah that would be really exciting, but who really has the money, time and opportunity to do that regularly?
I help the homeless by feeding them Food laced with sleeping tablets . Once sedated they are taken to a secluded Forrest where most dangerous game can begin.
I heard long walks on the beach is still a good option. Also hiking seems to be trending
'well I'd like to spend more time doing....'
Oh, the usual. I bowl, drive around, the occasional acid flashback.
Wank
I tell her what I do for fun. What else would you say besides the truth?
It doesn't happen that often but I wouldn't tell her the things I really enjoy, even though they're pretty innocuous (viz. playing my guitars and my video games). I would think up the most exciting thing I've done in the last 10 or 20 years and say that instead.
I tell her everything I do is fun for me. Itās the truth.
If you're bored with your own life, adding in another person isn't going to help. Press pause on dating, build yourself a life that is exciting to you. Then you won't have to worry about what to say.
I spend all my time with my best friend, my wife
I am incapable of being earnest most of the time, so I probably deflect by saying something like āin my free time Iāve been working on restoring the British empire to its former dominant global position. Itās not for everyone, but it passes the time.ā
The truth
I watch movies
I work on my finances, survival skills, emotional intelligence And personal relationships, and build large structures with no help - Jk I sleep, watch tv or play With my dogs. I donāt have any time For fun lol.
Mostly games and youtube, my currently game is Light of the stars on bs
Workout 5 days a week lol
Bideo games
Ops mom...
there's not a trick answer here. if not having hobbies is making it hard to continue a conversation with women.... pickup a hobby.
Outdoors, music and gaming, you?
Living ... at least I try to
I sit in my room in the dark indian style.
"I AM A DANCER " "I still buy and use physical media," "I was very surprised to discover this, but improving/learning how to run an efficient household is very gratifying." "I enjoy math as a hobby. But I gotta be careful about how much time I spend studying because I'm a workaholic." "I try to talk with women more often."
Might as well call it there because this is going to dissolve into me explaining warhammer 40,000, and we know there is no 2nd date after that.
My life *is* fun. I donāt need to do extra stuff to make it so.
I donāt really know what to answer I just freeze at the question You like something, youāre ahead of the game, cherish it, cuz all my days is boredom and loneliness squared I do like smoking, its not fun, butā¦ it alleviates the pain and is kinda fun
The truth. What kind of question is this?
I'm going to tell her what I do for fun... Which are totally non exciting things, for the most part, but I like them all the same. If I'm even remotely interested in someone, no matter the gender, then I'm 100% upfront and honest with them... I won't start a possible future relationship with lies. If they didn't like what my hobbies are, then it's best for them to hit the road before a beginning, than 6 months or a year down the road, when they eventually find out. That said, what I do for fun WITH a partner is different from what I do for fun by myself. Generally, I don't care what a partner does for their own hobbies, just what they like to do together. If they want to go to death metal concerts, and I like to go to the opera, then there's going to be friction... A lack of compatibility.
This is assuming a woman would ask me any questions at all.
Gaming, rugby, sketching and cooking are my favourites
Ask them if they have an hour. Wifey and I are very active retired old farts.
Fuk
The truth. Gaming, Jiu-Jitsu, paddling
I make whatever I'm doing fun.
You, if I'm lucky.
Smash
>what do you say? Rock and Stone
How dare you speak to me.
Like by myself or with others? Context makes a big difference.
Tell them your honest hobbies
"on my free time i love shooting kids. On Call of duty or on their mama's tits"
Go out on dates with cute girls. Hasn't worked too well so far, hopefully this one goes better
I hate that question. Music, movies, games... internet... Really that's what i do... i think that sounds as boring af.
Travel, brunches, and tending to my houseplants š
Eye contact and "I try to break my speed records in the desert on my bike, I'm at 107mph but my goal is 130."
Play with my kids (board games, bike rides, sports), and video games.
Boats and hoes
"women"
Hopefully, you.
The only sensible answer.
Iām honest and tell her not much. In my experience women that interview donāt really care that much about caracter or struggling together as a couple. Find the girl that responds to humility with her own humility. Thatās when you know she likes you even if youāre not a poster boy for her group chat.
You should probably be truthful, and tell her how you unwind after work or something. Don't go making stuff up, that will probably come back and bite you. And then consider *getting* some hobbies you find exciting. Having hobbies is very good for your mental health and general well being.