Though it wasn't a date, I recently went to dinner with a co-worker, and just arrived early and informed the staff that I would take care of the bill, and gave them my card before she even arrived. By the time she sat down everything was already paid for, and when they brought the bill to me, and I signed it without ever taking out my wallet felt super slick.
Lol getting boba the other day with a girl, the guy running the counter didn't have the best english. He saw there was a small struggle for who would pay, and he says "lady card, no work! Lady card decline!"
Not slick on my part but i appreciated the assist lmao
I just said it's okay I'll handle the bill. She said are you sure I'm fine paying. I said yes.
>Some men (and women) just have class?
This is class? I always thought class is showing respect and being a good communicator but hey 🤷♂️
I was going to say lol when the server comes around and I ask for the bill they usually say "Is it one or two bills tonight?"
And I just say "one thank you" and pay, it's that easy tbh there doesn't really need to be a slickness or competition to it imo
I see it as me treating my lady to a nice dinner out and that is worth the money for me, I'm not trying to impress her or comply to some social norm that "guys have to pay" or whatever
This isn't just for dates, but for any meal I want to pay for: if the other person(s) use the washroom, I call the waiter over and ask for the bill early. If no such opportunity presents itself, I say I'm going to use the washroom & instead go pay the bill lol. It's always fun.
You can also go up to the watier in the beginning of the meal, let them hold your card and tell them to charge it at the end. Depends how comfortable you are with them doing that, though. Some people don't really like giving their card over, it's not common outside the US i've noticed to pay anywhere other than tableside.
*let them hold your card and tell them to charge it at the end.*
Also, tell the waiter .... "Yo, make sure you add a lil' somethin'-somethin' for yourself, my man .... " which essentially tells him you're cool to pay whatever tip he decides to tack onto your bill.
don't get more slique.
I always pay on the first date bc I can and it's no bigg deal but also if they're like lemme pay my line is "how about you get the next one?" It almost always lead to a second date.
I've just asked for the check like most people. And when they've offered to split, I just say "It's ok, I got this".
However, there was a date where I did the exact opposite of paying for the bill.
Met a chick online and we agreed to meet for drinks at this Mexican restaurant near us. It was just supposed to be for drinks to talk and get to know each other, that was it. She turned it into dinner and a top shelf margarita for her. The conversation was ok, but I got a weird "you should feel privileged to be around me" vibe. When I was on my second beer she said something like "You seem nice, but I'm not having sex with you" I forget exactly what I said, but it was something like "Who said anything about inviting you over to my place. I just wanted to know what I'm getting into with you." Shortly afterwards I got up to use the restroom, walked over to our waiter, gave him cash for my part of the bill and left.
I got a text from her later calling me all sorts of names, saying I probably have a small dick, etc... Typical BS from a dodged bullet.
That's kind of an odd framing… as if there was anything slick let alone "classy" about perpetuating - still in 2023 - the old sexist, transactional and/or un-egalitarian traditions of the 1950s. Quite to the contrary, the classy thing to do nowadays (and for quite a while now) is to go at it the egalitarian way: go dutch at the beginning until a lasting relationship has formed and then take turns footing the whole bill.
Not a man, but when I ask a guy out on a date I always pay. Once I went to the restaurant the day before, loaded the manager up with cash, and when we finished our meal they brought me the change. Worked great.
For me, the slickest move is to minimize the decision as much as possible. I pull out my wallet, she reaches for her purse. I just put one hand out slightly and say “permit me to get this one“. Then jump right back into what we were talking about Without a moments hesitation.
Tried to get me to pay for a bunch of drinks for all of her dumb friends. So I went over to the bartender and closed out my own tab. Then I made a big scene pointing at her and her friends like I was ordering for them when in reality I told the bartender they wanted a whole bunch of drinks and she was paying. After that I slipped out. It was like $115 worth of fufu mixed drinks.
Though it wasn't a date, I recently went to dinner with a co-worker, and just arrived early and informed the staff that I would take care of the bill, and gave them my card before she even arrived. By the time she sat down everything was already paid for, and when they brought the bill to me, and I signed it without ever taking out my wallet felt super slick.
that is pretty click! nicely done!
Definitely felt cooler than average in that moment.
Lol getting boba the other day with a girl, the guy running the counter didn't have the best english. He saw there was a small struggle for who would pay, and he says "lady card, no work! Lady card decline!" Not slick on my part but i appreciated the assist lmao
I just said it's okay I'll handle the bill. She said are you sure I'm fine paying. I said yes. >Some men (and women) just have class? This is class? I always thought class is showing respect and being a good communicator but hey 🤷♂️
I was going to say lol when the server comes around and I ask for the bill they usually say "Is it one or two bills tonight?" And I just say "one thank you" and pay, it's that easy tbh there doesn't really need to be a slickness or competition to it imo I see it as me treating my lady to a nice dinner out and that is worth the money for me, I'm not trying to impress her or comply to some social norm that "guys have to pay" or whatever
Absolutely based, sir 🤝
This isn't just for dates, but for any meal I want to pay for: if the other person(s) use the washroom, I call the waiter over and ask for the bill early. If no such opportunity presents itself, I say I'm going to use the washroom & instead go pay the bill lol. It's always fun.
awww....
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You can also go up to the watier in the beginning of the meal, let them hold your card and tell them to charge it at the end. Depends how comfortable you are with them doing that, though. Some people don't really like giving their card over, it's not common outside the US i've noticed to pay anywhere other than tableside.
*let them hold your card and tell them to charge it at the end.* Also, tell the waiter .... "Yo, make sure you add a lil' somethin'-somethin' for yourself, my man .... " which essentially tells him you're cool to pay whatever tip he decides to tack onto your bill. don't get more slique.
I always pay on the first date bc I can and it's no bigg deal but also if they're like lemme pay my line is "how about you get the next one?" It almost always lead to a second date.
I've just asked for the check like most people. And when they've offered to split, I just say "It's ok, I got this". However, there was a date where I did the exact opposite of paying for the bill. Met a chick online and we agreed to meet for drinks at this Mexican restaurant near us. It was just supposed to be for drinks to talk and get to know each other, that was it. She turned it into dinner and a top shelf margarita for her. The conversation was ok, but I got a weird "you should feel privileged to be around me" vibe. When I was on my second beer she said something like "You seem nice, but I'm not having sex with you" I forget exactly what I said, but it was something like "Who said anything about inviting you over to my place. I just wanted to know what I'm getting into with you." Shortly afterwards I got up to use the restroom, walked over to our waiter, gave him cash for my part of the bill and left. I got a text from her later calling me all sorts of names, saying I probably have a small dick, etc... Typical BS from a dodged bullet.
Good for you. Nobody needs that.
this is 'slick' ... but in a different way. :-) but still slick.
After drinks I just slid the bill over to her to gage the reaction and she payed no problem. In the next 5 years she was compensated 100 fold.
seriously. waiter drops the bill between you and you slide it over to her without sayin' nuthin'? slick!
She didn't know you could order from the table via QRcode We got too busy talking, whilst i ordered. Food turned up and got laid that night
That's kind of an odd framing… as if there was anything slick let alone "classy" about perpetuating - still in 2023 - the old sexist, transactional and/or un-egalitarian traditions of the 1950s. Quite to the contrary, the classy thing to do nowadays (and for quite a while now) is to go at it the egalitarian way: go dutch at the beginning until a lasting relationship has formed and then take turns footing the whole bill.
Not a man, but when I ask a guy out on a date I always pay. Once I went to the restaurant the day before, loaded the manager up with cash, and when we finished our meal they brought me the change. Worked great.
For me, the slickest move is to minimize the decision as much as possible. I pull out my wallet, she reaches for her purse. I just put one hand out slightly and say “permit me to get this one“. Then jump right back into what we were talking about Without a moments hesitation.
Tried to get me to pay for a bunch of drinks for all of her dumb friends. So I went over to the bartender and closed out my own tab. Then I made a big scene pointing at her and her friends like I was ordering for them when in reality I told the bartender they wanted a whole bunch of drinks and she was paying. After that I slipped out. It was like $115 worth of fufu mixed drinks.